I have tried all my life to reach others, to show myself. Its often that people criticises my answers. For being too long, for not getting to point, for not answering the question etc. But i always do, i just try to in a more meaningful way. I took ppls input and always kept my response short and straight. But today i was asked about feelings. And my answer was seen as too difficult For my depth to be dismissed just like that. am not trying again
The thing about romance is sooo true.. Like as an INFP I imagine all the romance in my head but in real life I don’t even wanna look at anyone in a romantic way..
This trait even carries over to my medical history! All my doctors call me a mystery wrapped in an enigma, there is always something wild, weird and unexpected going on with my health, just like the rest of my life. 🙄
Us INFP's aren't comfortable going against people's beliefs. If we think someone is wrong but not harming anyone then we won't say anything. But if we see somebody hurting people physically or mentally, we will be the first to step in. Even though we are introverted. Our gift is that we can walk into a room without talking to anyone and yet recognise who you are
That's a great description. I used to intervene, almost too much..in adolescence. Standing up for kids getting bullied or what not. But I went about it wrong and taught the bully nothing but their own tactics. Now I'm 40 and I have a lot of differing opinions, but I won't intervene unless it's actually potentially life threatening (work in healthcare)
Yes, or a misinterpreted statement. Something they believe to be an insult when in reality it’s the opposite. Someone remembered a comment I made months ago after their date while on vacation the woman ran off with someone else. They said so it was more of a warning. I said yes, not an insult. This person is also a Self educator, and they can find things out on their own. The funny thing is, we are still capable of confusing other people who self educate they finally figured out, I would not have made such a comment if it did not have any meaning
Finally something actually accurate! I swear most videos portray INFPs like they are highly empathetic and emotional with their head in the clouds and nothing else, this video actually takes in more aspects of INFPs.
this is great! I appreciated the point about INFPs not always being straight with other people. most ppl talking about INFPs in MBTI will say that we are all extremely honest and happy to go against the flow if we don't agree with something, to the point of standing out and voicing our own opinions, but personally, unless the issue affects me on a deeply emotional or moral level, I will tend to leave my opinions unvoiced a lot of the time to avoid conflict. it's a matter of getting to that point of trust and understanding with someone for me to open up in this way, so while I personally wouldn't lie, I would often do what this video says and keep my thoughts, opinions and beliefs a secret if it doesn't agree with someone else.
Us INFP's aren't comfortable going against people's beliefs. If we think someone is wrong but not harming anyone then we won't say anything. But if we see somebody hurting people physically or mentally, we will be the first to step in. Even though we are introverted. Our gift is that we can walk into a room without talking to anyone and yet recognise who you are
THISSS. In my mind, I know what I like and dislike and I know my own beliefs, but sometimes it’s hard to voice that in fear of conflict, rejection, and the chance of being criticized. Whether I trust you or not definitely has a say in how much I share with you. I don’t feel the need to step up unless I feel compelled to. ALSO I don’t always say something if I feel that someone doesn’t care to respect or hear my opinion.
I agree. But now that I am older, think retiree, I am less concerned about what others think of me and tend to speak up more. I do get odd looks but I tend to not care as much anymore.
This s exactly what tears me apart with frustration.. i so desperately want others to understand a part of me but oftentimes they come with attention.. when that happens, i got flustered and withdrew back into the safe confines of my imagination (and into my home)
This is really true. As an INFP i can tell that when i reveal myself to much i tend to get into my own bubble and not speak to that person for a long time. When someone is like “I fell in love!” Im like: “Ok… What am i supposed to do with this information?” I just dont care.
as an INFP, I'm the type of girlfriend that'll go on a beach date with you, and say, "love, we're here for 3 hours, let's spend the first two together then I'll be needing my soulitude so i can sit by the sea shore, listen to gentle rustling of sea, feel waves gently hit my feet as my soul cleanses and my heart harmonises with the aquatic beings, while i watch the sky turn dark.. in peace."
As an INFP, I do like my efforts to be recognized because it makes me feel like all my efforts paid off. But I don't like people overdoing their recognition of my abilities. Too much attention makes me uneasy. I am usually a reserved person. I seem aloof and indifferent to others. But with my homies, I become a different person, just like an extrovert. I also strive for the best though I procrastinate a lot. Despite contradictions, I believe that this type of personality is one of a kind. I love being an INFP, and I won't wish to change it for any other personality trait in the world. To my fellow INFPs, you are wonderful.
As a fellow INFP how do you internally accept how we procrastinate a lot? Even tho we strive to be the best we can be? As someone who’s confidence has been brought down so many times I feel like it’s a horrible habit whenever I procrastinate even tho I really *really* like to do my best in every work and task I do! Especially when I’m interested in them. And yet… I still have some annoying bouts of procrastinating…… 😔
@@fluffycorn_njstjustifying procrastination is not something i believe you can do forever, eventually the bubble we hide in will schrink to nothingness. Sometimes you just have to ignore that inner (fill in urself) and get things done now. Something that doesn’t grow or evolves becomes depressed. I would be totally fine being locked up at home alone for months doing nothing, but my mind becomes darker tho. And even tho im comfortable with this, i know it’s no good in the long run. Your comfort zone only gets smaller and it gets harder to get out of that bubble which you eventually have to do anyway. I think it’s important, especially for infp’s, to seek discomfort from time to time. Also, self pitty might be the thing we justify a lot with. Don’t like to admit this but i think it might be true.
I hate the feeling of over sharing but I love being open and honest. If something embarrassing happens to me I'm like, right im going to deny the existence of that event. Then I go straight to my sister and tell her all, let her laugh at me then ask myself why I did that, rinse repeat😂
Not everyone is worth the gift of revealing your true, authentic self to 🎁 Don't allow people's opinions of you, including labeling you as fake, to become your own limiting beliefs Find someone who understands you 💕 It makes all the difference in the world 🌍 It's rare that an individual is consistent and congruent in all of their interpersonal interactions Different people bring out different pieces or sides of you, for better or worse Find someone you can be whole with, who you feel connected to and is comfortable to be around ⚓
Ever since I was a teenager, I knew I was a walking contradiction. After checking out some videos about INFPs being contradictions, well, I feel less confused and uncertain about myself knowing that it’s probably part of my personality 😆
Ironically, I struggled toward the end of Covid. The isolation really got to me and I'm very much introverted. Having said that, I love going to the office now but rarely talk to people. Just seeing the world go by without getting involved is enough for me, 🤣😂
So true bruh. I just go by the day talking to the two friends I have while my having 1 minute talks with my other colleagues. I get along with everyone in my workplace but I just have two friends that I'm close with and hang out with😂
I’m just happy to know I’m not crazy! That this is just my personality. I mean I can work on these things, but knowing that this is how I’m wired makes it feel so much lighter.
I tell people when they get confused and suddenly can't figure out how to talk and are too self aware, that I am contagious. I walk away and 5 minutes later the person I was with is back to normal. Isn't that something amazing?? Im so socially awkward that I make others feel and act like INFP's when I am in their area, and they are better 5 minutes after I walk away. True story
Same, I used to think it was common, or I’m lying to myself about myself thinking I thought I was common, it’s confusing for me too, I thought it was common and never really felt bad when I did it. It was just words I feel like I might get better in that aspect and I might feel less inclined to lie?
I got lost going to work after a vacation. I worked there for 5 years, and in the same state I was born and raised. I also forgot my phone. All the other points resonate as well. Thank you for posting this.
That first segment about friendship is literally that meme with the girl dressed in black and the girl with rainbow hair. Opening up to people is tough and it takes a lot of time to analyse people from afar to see if they’re worth opening up to. But once you’re friends for a little while, you can talk, quip or do the absolute stupidest thing for hours. The concept of a friend group feels weird to me (especially friend groups… plural). I have three close friends of whom I know what to expect. We’re all introverted, but we can be unchained once we’re together. The third segment… Oh boy have I been procrastinating my writing more than I want to admit. That and other activities that are important to me, like lucid dreaming.
I feel like my brain is constantly in a state of 'omg you don't even know me, how could you hurt my feelings like that' but then when people ask me about my feelings it's also like 'I don't want to talk about it' >_
2:40 I feel like this described my life, I really want freedom but I also want someone who would force me to work because I think the only way I will be able to work is if someone enforces it on me, otherwise I wont listen and not pay attention at all
Can relate, being overly constrained sucks but sometimes I wish someone would just tell me what to do, make the choices for me so I stop procrastinating. If it was up to me I would probably spend most of my time alone minding my business, problem is I feel the need of going out with someone once in a while, but after that I just stop human interactions again, that's why my relationships hardly last long 😢
I once worked at a café, where all my coworkers had formed a few "tribes". They each hated each other, gossiped, backstabbed and were just generally nasty. I was never accepted into any of the tribes, nor did I want to be. I just got my work done and ignored their vitriol.
Most likely not.... it's easy to cut people out of our circle when we're indifferent from them... though if we aren't indifferent... then it becomes a pain that never goes away. (hense...why we don't let people in unless we're really convinced... and often... we're wrong in our trust, anyways)
This sounds all too common: “never accepted into any pf the tribes”, well it would be really rare to click for us to accept a tribe in the first place, INFP really do dislike surface level connections
Exactly! It makes me so cringe to do all that romantic and caring shit fr like asking your partner -have you eaten your food , where are you , I want a kiss I mean idk it makes me cringe 😬
The revealing thing is true. I found that out yesterday. Me and my husband know each other for almost 14 years and will be married for 13 years in April. Yesterday I told him for the first time that I used to watch The X Files as a teenager! I was so ashamed of myself for watching that weird show, I was too ashamed to say anything! I mean we know almost everything about each other, but for some reason I kept it a secret that I used to watch The X Files as a teenager until yesterday. Now a favorite TV show is kinda a big deal for us INFP'S. It inspires us or keeps us in our dream world. So it was part of my personality that I kept hidden, till yesterday. And now everyone knows! 🤦🏻♀️ Why do I always over share? 🤦🏻♀️
??? I think that's just u. I used to watch that show... and SG1. And now... there is practactly nothing on TV that I like. Everything is reality tv...now.
I agree mostly, but I don't lie to others, as you suggest, I can't lie as it goes against my sense of integrity! If I lie I would feel too awful about myself, so I just can't do it. I hate people who lie alot too, I use to find this more upsetting when I was younger but now I'm 68, I understand it more but I still don't like it, and don't trust people who lie. To me it's a sign of weakness. I perfer people who are genuine and rarely lie.
I can’t lie either, unless it’s over something really insignificant. Instead for me I just keep my thoughts and opinions to myself, instead of lying to redirect them, I just don’t share anything at all.
Pretty sure that's not what she meant... she means that we hide are identy, by acting the opposite of what we really are. Basically... masters of fawning. We compromise by telling others what they need to hear, and not what we feel, which in, itself, is the lie.
I'm also generally straight forward with my opinions but over the years I realized how mean I can sound sometimes withouth a filter, point is I'm not even saying it maliciously, it can be something as dumb as saying "your cookies are a bit dry", I say it thinking it will help them improve, but others would just say they are good, to be polite. Anyway it does get me in "trouble" (sort of ankward situations/experiences), so I try to tone it down or just keep for myself
Im an INFP, and this video was so true. I always want recognition, but if people around the room clap their hands and woop, it just makes me embarrassed, and i end up being rude. I dont mean to be, but i hate when people focus on me too much. The romantic thing, too, is so real. I think about romance on the daily, but i wouldn't know the first thing to do if i had a real boyfriend. I would be embarrassed easily and be distant in public places like a restaurant. We really do contradict ourselves so much. I will also be like not voicing my opinion if i dont think it matters, but if someone is talking about something i resonate with, i am jumping into that conversation. I often fall down the rabbit hole of letting these personality things define me, and i sometimes forget who i truly am in Christ. I pray that whoever is reading this will know that they are so much more than just a personality. Remember that Jesus loves you and has created you differently from anyone else in the world. He loves you so much that he died for you. Have an awesome day! ❤
This fits me… I have been wavering and after listening to several of these personality tendencies… this is explaining myself in a way that maybe I hadn’t thought of. Sometimes I forget that other people don’t necessarily process life the same way as I do.
I hide everything and completely isolate myself, it's just an internal storm made up of thoughts feelings, and actions of the divine geometric shapes of cause and effect the true beauty of chaos 🙃
1:42 and this is where my photographic memory shines. i always know where i have been and where i haven't been. im never wrong and always right. 5:03 - 5:31 stop describing me with this much details already.. you're scaring me. i've got nothing to hide, and there is nothing you should know. The fact is, i desire or almost long to positivity due to the fact that im drawn to negativity which has a greater impact on me and my life. what im trying to say is, if i suddenly expose certain parts of my life, it means that i will be putting negativity on the table. what follows is me being drawn to the negativity and which quickly changes my mood and i will stay like that for a long time period. so. for you un-knowers out there, that's your answer.
wow... 2:55. this is true. the funny thing is you used my favorite emoji. 😑 this list is the most accurate so far. symphatetic but unconcerned wants recognition but not too much attention authentic but secretive
I've come from another INFP personality video and it said mostly other things but I can say again that THIS IS ME. And congratulations, you literally started the video with answering my question. ;)
I'm INTP... But I can relate to all that! Except for empathy... No, I'm not mistyped. I've done my research. INTPs are not robots, we have just as much emotions as anyone else, we just have trouble understanding them.
4:49 it hit me so hard, I have a lot of friends including an enfj, and I want to tell him everything that happened in my life since I was born to show him how I came to be the person I am today, but at the same time I don't because I don't want my friend to think there's nothing more to know about me, or open myself to him while we may be not friends anymore in the future
this is true, as an infp i'm very secretive that i didn't even answer my book(activity) i don't care if i got low grade. And actually i have to answer it now cuz i have no choice i have to reveal my self a lil bit.
Thank you for all the effort put into this wonderful beautiful creative fantastic video :) u rock! As an INFP I affirm the accuracy of the points made!
The only friendships I've made so far at school have been with teachers. As for my classmates... I just can't make friends with them. Either because of their immaturity, the way they act that doesn't match my way, it just doesn't work. The real friends I have I made online, over 5 years of friendship, and most of them I never even met in person given how far they live from my city. Despite that, these people are the nicest people I've ever met. 16 yo Brazilian INFP here btw
Number 4 is definitely me.. It's hard sometimes how we felt unloved just because our partner doesn't give us emotional support and will detach right away because the fright of get hurt🥺
I told this guy(im a guy, albeit bi) that i hv a platonic crush on him and hid response was, "i hear you but im not gay", that after being two months of agony and emotional turnoil because of this Was a major turn off. I saw myself being cold towards him, even more than i was when i liked him. I thought he did too but well, idk. Platonic and romantic crushes are so emotionally identical in my experience, though it was like that for every 😂😢😅
