What I hate about being INFP is bottling up all the negative stuff until it's too much. Any time something my friend/family does irritates me I just say to myself 'Nah it's not enough for an argument' but then there is like 50 situations like this in my mind, someone forgets to put milk back to the fridge and the fury begins
As an INFP, I try to NOT hate people. I may dislike some people but I certainly don't hate them, because hate is truly a powerful word. When I hate someone, I literally become the coldest person they'll ever know. I become so uncaring to the point I don't care if anything and I'll say it again, ANYTHING, happened to them. While usually it makes me feel sick when I ignore ppl, but for these people I hate, I could give zero flying fcks even when they need me.
I think the same. Like i am somehow worried how people often use that word. I personally nowadays don't have person that i hate, not even that i dislike. I had bad situations in the past, but we were kids or teenagers so today i am neutral towards those people BUT as it's said in video i didn't forgot what they've done to me, and if we'll ever meet again i will be very cautious around those people.
It might be an INFP thing but I feel like I am obligated to not hate people and I justify their actions a lot like someone would do with a character. Like someone will make me feel like absolute shit but then I'll be like 'hmmm but they did say that this one random thing in 2018 affected them similarly so maybe I should let them work it out themselves.' Maybe it's basic empathy but aren't IINFPs more empathetic? idek lol.
INFPs can be excellent organizers. Especially for other people, but they struggle to maintain that level of organization, because there are so many new interests and priorities popping up all the time.
An INFP knows how a relationship will start, develop, grow, break apart, reconvene and shatter into a million beautifully sad and melancholic pieces and already mourn this loss, before they spoke the very first word to their crush. That's why we hide who we dream about.
What I find most confusing about being an INFP is that I am both immensely accepting of other people and very much unwilling to meddle in their lives and opinions AND very judgemental of values and behaviours that don't fit in with my idealism. It's such a weird combo.
@@sophiewilde_inspirit4evuh this is very accurate. I can accept literally anyone at anytime but if I let you close to me it's only cause your values subconsciously matches with mine
It’s nice to see so many fellow INFPs writing comments… and then not having instant regret and deleting it. That’s another secret thing we tend to do isn’t it?
I wouldn’t say that I killed them in my head, but do remember playing these combat scenes in my head where I know martial arts doing crazy flips are kicking ass.
As an INFP, "I've noticed that when requests are made in a positive and respectful tone, I'm more inclined to comply. However, if instructions come across as commanding or aren't delivered in a manner I find agreeable, I tend to resist. Additionally, I find that I thrive on appreciation and encouragement. When I receive recognition for my efforts, I feel motivated to excel. Conversely, criticism can often impact my confidence negatively, making it harder for me to perform at my best. Instead, constructive feedback presented kindly helps me address areas for improvement without diminishing my self-assurance."
If my confidence is attacked like this, I tend to feel personally attacked too and can tense up a situation as a sort of defense mechanism. Which might end up in being mean to friends or family members, who just want to help me
its scary after i found out that i’m an infp my whole life started giving sense. and my behavior and thoughts were based of my personality. i’m so shock i fit in the infp box so perfectly, and i am happy to see that im not alone :,) finally
I feel the same way. Having this understanding helps a lot as I can now recognise the patterns of both good and bad behaviour and make adjustments that would otherwise been left to keep going.
For me, as an INFP, it's this thing that, if I studied a subject of conversation and someone disagree with me, there's no getting around it. I'm always right if I know what I'm talking about. But I have learned to just keep my mouth shut when people disagree.
In english class during the persuasive assignment I would just put out all the information of both sides of the argument. While avoiding trying to convince to the side I would prefer. Would fail that assignment every time, even though the grammar and citations would be correct.
Holy moly Yessssss! I will speak up with PASSION and vigor when I KNOW that I know what I am talking about and have no qualms about saying when I do not know or am unsure. So those people that snark and tell me I dont know what I'm talking about...I tend to ignore and then steam roll them in my mind several hundred times for the next few weeks.
Summary 0:38 1. INFPs ignore the person they dislike. 1:25 2. INFPs ignore the person they romantically like. 2:20 3. INFPs can be aggressive when they're angry. 3:21 4. INFPs like recognition and being credited. 3:52 5. INFPs are selective on friends. 4:24 6. INFPs don't like people who abuse their kindness. 5:17 7. INFPs easily forgive, but they don't easily forget.
Personally I don't ignore the one I romantically like, just never sure if they like me. I tend to try to play the long game. Though that only worked when I was in Jr high, and then we both moved to different states.
That last one is exactly that! I’ve had the line “i don’t forgive and I don’t forget” as like a life motto for years. I will forgive to an extent but it won’t be fully till they prove they’ve truly changed.
I actually remember ignoring one older bully for months until she took the key to girls' changing room after PE and laughingly decided to not give it back, so we'd be late for classes and stay in PE clothes. I came up to her with literal murderous intent in my eyes, stood in front of her for a few moments and she did give it back without a fight. Bullying stopped right after. I was ready to scratch her eyes out in that moment and I guess she knew it.
You reminded me! I did the most shocking thing to a girl taunting me after PE in the dressing room. I walked up and poured entire contents of a baby powder bottle onto the top of her hair. She had black hair, so it was stunning. Stopped her nastiness.
@@maureeno9382 when I was in school, I didn't react (much) when I was bullied, but heaven help you if you ever bullied someone else bc I won't. I went after a girl who was bullying this Vietnamese girl who was new at our school in badminton class. She never did it again to anyone. And I didn't get bullied anymore after that either.
I've scared grown men with "the look" I can throw. Luckily it stops them quick. Nobody wants what can happen next. Especially me. This is the part of me I dislike most. Mood stabilizers have helped immensely
INFPs and us INFJs do have some similarities. I have met an INFP before and I loved speaking with her. Her intelligence and spontaneousness intrigued me immensely and she actually understood me mostly, as I understood her completely. It felt good to have a like minded person to talk to.
@@cassettetape7643 Yes, we INFJs and you INFPs get along so well, and it is so amazing how we can be both so similar and so different at the same time, but that seems to work so well. I was so astonished at the depth of INFPs, it was so awesome having someone pretty much on the same level and a most similar wave length.
Everything is accurate omg, especially the they avoid people they hate, when angry they're aggressive, and that they never forget the bad things you did to them. I avoid people I really hate, I basically treat them as if they don't exist, to the point that the person even feels strong hatred back to me(I don't care tho, I hate them anyways). I have high tolerance from bad things that people do to me and even when I feel like I'm about to burst, I could still control it. But when I burst out, I have all things planned on how I'm gonna burst this bubble. I also never forget how a person treated me badly, those are ingrained on the back of my head and they stack. Although if a person is genuinely asking for forgiveness, I forgive them.
Yea once someone has lost my trust that's it. People take our patience and kindness for weakness, but it's a strength. Just to really evaluate if the relationship is even worth it. Once it's decided it's not, that's the end of it. There is no turning back or regrets.
It has helped me tremendously to learn that I’m not alone on being like this. I’m just so grateful for all you souls who are kind enough to share a part of yourselves on the internet like this❤
So, INFP reaction to anything remotely stressful; Avoid, walk away, ignore. Yeah, thats pretty much how ive handled things previously in my life. BUT I do believe now - knowing myself a little better - that the cost of always handling things that way is greater than actually facing the stressful situations/people/emotions when they appear.
That's what happens when you mature and know yourself better. Plus you don't really care as much with what people think about you. Just call out the BS, if they are not willing to admit their wrong or get abrasive, just end the relationship and move on.
@@nostalgicbliss5547 exactly, you find that putting up boundaries and letting people know a piece of your mind doesnt nescessarily end the world. THAT gives you freedom..
There was a time where I also needed to learn those things.. Until I learned that, most of the time, I regretted opening my mouth instead of ignoring it. And then I have to deal with it for weeks, months or sometimes years. Now I'm trying to prevent myself from doing it which is surprisingly hard once you got used to it. There is a german saying which says translated: Talk is silver, silence is golden. And it seems to hold true, for my life at least.
I was really surprised to see my flaws so accurately described and tbh I've been FIGHTING this for YEARS with little to no success. I hate it. And like you the cost is really far greater for not addressing the situation right away or really even just at SOME point. It's hellish knowing this and still letting it happen because of a combination of avoidance, internalized shame, past experiences, shame towards personal anger, the potential for the situation to escalate BECAUSE of YOU. It's a lot, but I've come to realize at the base of it is an extremely low sense of self worth to the point that I almost AUTOMATICALLY place more value on another person rather than myself. I recently left a job because of mild harassment from a coworker because I would rather be unemployed than risk this person becoming unemployed AND homeless...when I have no evidence other than her words that she was homeless...and face that myself due to unemployment. The weird thing is, even though I KNOW this person is MORE THAN LIKELY just manipulative I STILL FEEL BAD FOR TRYING TO REPORT HER?!!?!? LIKE BRAIN + EMOTIONS....CMON!?!
As an older INFP - I have no issues addressing a bully or someone not behaving in a "just" manner towards me or someone I care about. Not every person is ready or every situation is appropriate for that kind of directness, though, so I often choose to stay silent or find another direction. For the most egregious offenders I encounter - it's a lot like the quote I saw on a shirt yesterday: "I'm going to let God handle it...because if I handle it, I'm going to jail."
I’ve been confronting bullies since I was a 100 lb teenager. When I was in my 20’s my mom told me one day someone was going to pull a 🔫 on me. I am way more cautious in today’s world!
I think humour and lightheartedness is so important for infp because there’s so much darkness and heaviness that we/I hold. Even though it won’t help us escape from ourselves in present situations, maybe over time, the light will spread and take over!!🤞
It's a goal of mine to spread kindness and hope wherever I go. There's so much darkness in this world, someone needs to keep fighting against it. Sometimes a single smile or kind word can change someones day.
It's so accurate, I hate conflicts and I avoid people I don't like but that doesn't mean I can't stand up for myself. I've become a very discerning and detached person. You can be my bestest friend in the world but the moment you do me wrong I WILL act like you don't exist. I don't like getting into fights but when I do I can expose your truth to yourself that you thought you were being sneaky about. Each point is so damn accurate!!
Not sure how secret this is, but I have heard that INFPs typically have at least one thing that they keep very organized, despite being somewhat chaotic in many other areas. For me, it is my music collection and book shelves. I have music organized alphabetically, but then chronologically. So the last album by (for example) ZZ Top would be found at the bottom right corner of my CDs.
My computer desk that's now become my work bench, looks as if I have an undiagnosed hording disorder. However my 07 Camry nearly looks the same way it did when it left Toyota.
As a turbulent INFP, this is so true to me. Like, EVERY SINGLE POINT. Especially the forgiving portion. If someone did wrong me, I'd shrug it off and forgive them sincerely. But yeah... I won't easily forget what they did, which would make me a little cautious around them next time. One great thing about being an INFP is that I love growing. If there's an area in my life that needs work, I do my best to improve. Haha, even if that will result in tears for like HALF THE PROCESS.
I will not forgive, nor forget. I will act like i have forgotten it but in reality i will be damming the rage up, for a good physical fight when i get the chance. I strongly hates seeing, hearing or even being in the same room of my hater. I would walk away, very quickly, before i may loose control and start fighting and i am very short fused emotionally and sometimes i maynot be able to hold back anger. I will write this now, and i know its emotionally written and not logically thought out well, so i may delete this reply even before someone gets to read it. I do write replies on everything but i will not allow others to see them. This reply i am allowing to to be seen for others which i 90% of time will highly dislike to do for you reader. I hope you can get to see some traits we have.
I feel emotions very strongly, like i am on a party stuff. Its very hard for me to chill sometimes, so i always love resting, listening to gentle songs and avoiding haters. I hate listening to songs without any moral meanings but i may sometimes pretend to enjoy them. I sometimes pretend to myself, that I like something just to keep my mind there for a while.
As an ENFP.. I thought my morals was good until i met my wife that is an INFP! Just wow.. I've met my superior 😅😍 i married her within 1 hour .. they are unique. Mystics of the feminine of this world. They should be treated as so. They are to sensitive for this chaotic world. They need someone to help them calm down and get them into this world. Make them experience life in a different way. Alot of love ans humor. It never gets sporing... ENFP inlove with my INFP wife which is having my baby soon 🥳😍
Congratulations! I am an INFP and my husband is an ENFP! He has definitely said the same thing about it never being boring! It's an interesting and beautiful pairing since there's a lot of understanding between the two
I just had my husband take an mbti test and he's ENFP where I'm INFP and his response was - well there you go. And it does fit him to a T. It's kind of scary...
(I’m an INFP) I feel like whenever I’m upset, people around me just chock it up to me “overreacting”, or “It’s not a big deal”. But what they don’t understand is when I bottle up my feelings for months, years, just anything might cause me to explode into tears and rage. I hate how people sometimes are so short sided, that they think that I’m only upset about that singular, tiny thing, instead of recognizing that sometimes, I can be upset about a lot of different things at once.
I’m so happyyy you said conflict averse! Most sources say we’re conflict avoidant and that’s simply not true. We dislike conflict but we don’t run from it. On the contrary, we step in to fix it…it’s why we’re called mediators. But if our values are challenged in a conflict, watch out! 😅
Eeeeh... It really depends, I'd say. If the conflict is directed towards me, I'm gonna nope tf away. Especially if it's about something stupid, in that case, I'm gonna let you babble and only pretend I'm caring about what you have to say until you ran out of steam and leave me alone. If I do see conflict between other people, however, I tend to step in and see how I can help defuse the situation. In any case, I absolutely dislike conflict, it makes me very uneasy and I try to maintain the peace for everybody's well-being, not only mine.
One of the best things I've learnt as an INFP is that if I value a relationship with someone, to talk my annoyances out before I explode. Usually makes my relationship with said person stronger.
Yeah, so FYI that's like... what every person invested in a relationship does when they're emotionally overwhelmed or stressed etc.. It's called venting? Everyone already knows this. Try crying on someone's shoulder once in awhile, ( an actual person btw). You'll feel better, I promise. 🙄🤦♂
@@Nyxeline I'm actually applauding btw! The person above gets it! Part of establishing mutual trust with others is letting them know your feelings. Rather than bottling it up because.... It's some INFP thing! You shouldn't judge without understanding other's motives. Makes you look non-authentic!
I remember about 20 years ago, this bully who always bullied me at work was busy bullying another girl I kind of wanted to befriend. I used that opportunity to speak up for the girl as though I was also speaking up for myself. It was much easier to do that for her than for me. Ever since, I find it gets easier to speak up for myself and yet I am always on the lookout for that person I need to throw daggers at to screw up so I can point it out. Never immediately. It builds and builds and fills my bucket and then BLAH! The anger and rage come out. Lol
Well, I don't have any problems showing that (I have it tattooed on my left hand), and many people wouldn't understand, anyway. However, it's always interesting to observe people making assumptions about you if they have heard about the MBTI in general and INFPs in particular but don't know the background of it. It always takes them by surprise if they get a reaction out of us that they haven't even remotely expected.
I'm an INFP! I find myself willing to call almost anyone "friend", but definitely have specific closer friends that I would list out exclusive to anyone else. It's also really hard to make me genuinely dislike someone or for me to decide someone is actually toxic. I try not to be unkind to those people even then, but of the few that have gotten to that point I can't invest any of my energy into anymore no matter how I try, and I do tend to avoid and ignore them when it can be done without blatant rudeness. As for blowing up at people when reaching one's limit, I'm not sure I've ever done that, actually. I'll have breakdowns by myself, will sometimes kick a box or something, or might even turn the aggression inward out of fear of even perceived rejection in a public space, but I have had very few angry confrontations in my life. Maybe I just got lucky with the people I've known? Otherwise, this video was highly accurate. Felt kinda like it was getting into my head!
Same here!!! Every single sentence i can relate to Even i didn't have any "memorable" moments when i might have bursted out of anger, so I don't really know that about myself if i do that or am i just lucky with the people I've met haven't bullied me till the point i lose it
I'm an INFP and I think all of this describes me. I get upset very easily, if someone around me is mad or mad at me at all I want to go hide and cry. I never really make eye contact with boys unless they're talking to me because I just don't want anyone thinking I like them, then there's the other girls talking to the boys normally. I just feel weird around boys near my age. It's good to know other people can feel the same way too.
Dear INFPs, I think lack of communication is the root cause of misunderstanding. Please do not assume others will read your mind or your nonverbal signals. If you don't speak up and let others know, they will not know what you want or don't want. Also, be a little generous and don't bring up someone's mistake from over 10 years ago.
Dear frustrated person please don’t take your frustration out on all INFPs (kinda rude to decide we’re all the same) instead confront the person who you believe treated you wrongly and tell them why they upset you, I’m sure they would understand and try to do better
Lack of communication on the one hand, but assumptions on the other as well. Both make an extremely good recipe for complete disaster. As a saying goes, assumptions are the first step toward failure so if you are unsure, the best thing to do is ask. This goes both ways, though, and an INFP might not necessarily be comfortable addressing issues at hand for fear that things could derail even further (especially true for an INFP-T), and lending a helping hand in resolving them would certainly go a long way.
It’s true that INFPs will learn to communicate more directly as they mature and become more self-confident in themselves, but then they will do so with people who are worth the effort. If you want an INFP to communicate with you better then you should also do the work to make them feel safe enough to do it and not create a space that makes them just not want to bother. It’s only fair that people work on what they’re doing that is preventing other people from communicating more directly towards them…or communicate at all.
The point is, as INFPs our visible emotional reactions tend to extremes. If everything is rather balanced, you most likely are going to notice rather weak reactions - if any at all - but if our Fi-Si loop starts to spool up, we are going to react swiftly and strongly (goes for any emotion that we may be experiencing), usually without any precursors of what is coming up next. I guess that's what's taking people aback.
This whole video is extremely accurate. As for myself, when I get mad, I get MAD. And there's a lot of yelling, but I can truthfully say, I've never taken my rage out physically on anyone else. Which more than likely comes from my upbringing, where that did happen in the household. The rest of the video makes a lot of sense as to why I don't speak to my mother anymore.
I relate so much to that, I also have a problem with my mother, but I don't think I would ever stop talking to her (no judgement ofc) not that I am under her spell, it's just my religious beliefs to respect my parents. I think if I were to grow up in a western society I would have left my house a long time ago.
@@fayrouza7415 no judgment taken! Prayers for your relationship with your mom to heal. I'm not sure of your religion, but I also struggled with my final decision because of my faith as well. I'm still working through it, and praying about it
@@sunflowerblues23 Thank you so much. I wish all the best for you whatever the best may be. I am a muslim from Egypt ^^ Sometimes it's really hard for me, to control myself and not defend myself, but I remember how it would be if she died one day and I regret it all, because I had a similar experience once, and I still feel bad. But you never know what could happen in life. Sending prayer
@@fayrouza7415 yes, I agree with you, the guilt aspect also is a scary thought. I am a Christian, so I'm not sure what your Holy books say, but maybe you could comb through and search out in them to help ease your guilt in your other situation. In my Bible there there are verses peppered through that made me see that in my situation, God has said that it isn't a bad thing to turn away from evil things and people who won't repent for their wrong actions. I say this to let you know that I had no idea that that was even in there, and I did find those verses and they resonated with me, and brought me some peace. Perhaps your books also have some of that in them! Best of luck to you! ❤️
@@sunflowerblues23 Thank you for sharing that, I learned a new thing today. Well I myself while reading the Quran (our holy book) find verses that encourage a good relationship with our parents, and not just them but the whole family, especially mothers, even if it is hard, my struggles won't go unrewarded for sure, as long as my mom doesn't tell me to abandon God I should be with her and care for her, I only wish she was a practicing muslim. At the same time, It is not a must to love them if you can't since loving and hating is not really in our hands, and their actions and personalities can differ so much from yours. I guess creating my bounderies is the most important thing in our relationship. I whis you luck too and may peace be upon you. God bless you and your loved ones. Thank you for the lovely conversation Katie 💕
It's scary how accurate this is! I'd say the only one I don't fully relate to is the anger/rage, but more so in the case that I've never been pushed to the point of punching/inflicting pain on someone or damage my surroundings. That to me is a trait I never want to be associated to. If I don't deal things then after a while I do kind of blow up, but it's more venting and verbal expressions. Everything else though, spot on!
The rage thing is accurate. When my sister told me she was moving out and leaving me with my brother, I threw a bottle of foot spray at her head. During a fight at school with bullies, a teacher tried to rescue me and I thought he was one of them and punched him hard in the face. I have now reached a point where I am a pacifist by conviction, if not inclination and my rage is mostly under control, but I warn people that my anger will explode without warning if they push me too far.
@@helenwood8482 my husband knows what buttons to push and frequently does. I do my best not to blow up, but certain things, I just can't help it. (doesn't help that I had an mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive upbringing, so I can be easily triggered by some things)
I will admit the anger one is true. I am almost never angry, I am gentle by default. But it's all or nothing, if I am pushed to the limit and go absolutely nuts its because I was already out of control and now it cannot be kept down any longer.
@@PickedOff100 On the contrary, this is textbook INFP behaviour. If you push someone... and push them... and push them... and push them... and push them... then eventually, they're going to _snap_ - and when they do, the fallout will be glorious. Everyone has a breaking point, no matter how docile they appear on the surface, and how well-intentioned they try to be. Immaturity, certainly. We need to develop and learn to combat our conflict-averse tendencies so the situation never boils over to that point in the first place. But it is a natural tendency, left unchecked. I reached this extreme boiling point maybe twice or three times in my life, and to nobody's great surprise, two of them were a reaction against bullies when I was still in school.
@@PickedOff100 No. The MBTI personality type is not limited to just him, it involves a whirlwind of things at the same time. As a human being, the limit of self-control is not impossible to reach; We are talking about EXTREMES, there is no middle ground. No matter how angry he is, until he reaches 100%, at that time, as a human being with established limits, Of course we won't stand it, especially since INFP's are known for their emotional depth.
@@PickedOff100 Ive seen you in another comment somewhere... who tf are/were you to tell someone who/what they are? I have tested in a LOT of different places, multiple times, and I have always got the same damn result: INFP-T. But I used to have serious anger issues as a teenager, and even now, I am of a rather strong character, can be stubborn, argumentative, very sarcastic, and often pretty damn passive-aggressive. Its not that I seek conflict, its just that if I dont like something, chances are, I will speak up about it. I do not fit into the ''textbook INFP'' stereotype, but you do not decide whether I am or not of this particular cognitive PREDISPOSITION. Because thats what it is - a predisposition. Its not a personality, its a personality predisposition, which gets modulated by various life experiences. Some people fit into the stereotype well, others may fall into a minority of divergents in a group that is already pretty rare. Made me question my own predisposition (despite tests), and feel like I cant fully relate to anything. I gues Its my own mistake for unintentionally simplifying the complexity of human personality.
Im an INFP and all of this is true. I love to help people and give the trophy to someone who actually did more than me. I need to do have the best out come in whatever to feel rewarded its weird
I can deeply relate with getting turned off once someone gives away the fact that I like that special person. I feel like they have an unfair advantage over me. Unlike when the person doesn't know I like them and just hangs out with me because they sincerely enjoy my company too.
This deserves a lot more views. It’s probably the most accurate description of an INFP, personally speaking, that I’ve ever seen on YT. Nice presentation, as well!
Been watching videos about INFPs the moment I found out I am one. It's actually good. I can also acknowledge the little things I do that I don't think other people understand. Also realized there are other people that can relate to me. Just one thing bad about it for an INFP like me. It's sometimes too accurate that I feel being exposed. (We now know how private INFPs are and I, am particularly sensitive on that part. I mean, like, the avoiding thing... being selective on who to help... that was a secret nobody should know.) 😅 I'm exposed. I'm out of here. _ I like your voice though.😊
I feel so exposed 😂 Always thought I was too different and after figuring out about the personalities types it's funny to see that there's a lot of people like me out there, it's amazing how it can describe someone so well!
As an INFP , I can сonfirm that this video is true. My first reaction to every point was like "How the f*** do they know this?". MBTI test is truly a masterpiece
Spot on, but all these behaviors are so automatic that it's helpful for you to point them out. It crystallizes them in my mind so I can examine their fairness before engaging in them and, perhaps, find a better way of achieving the same result. Thanks.
As an INFP, I want to highlight a quirk that was briefly mentioned in the video. I have a weird habit of letting things go to waste sometimes. After noticing a trending behavior, I thought deeply about the underlying reasons I do this and found that most of the time if I didn't buy it, work for it, or had it gifted to me with almost painful obviousness- I will not touch the given object and let it go to waste because it "wasn't mine." this goes for objects but also ideas, processes, secrets, and other abstractions of Ownership. So if you know an INFP and notice a wasteful habit, you might want to make VERY clear the ownership of the things they are so allowed to own/use/have.
As a 74-year-old, male, you had my number. Friends, romance, and anger. When I get bad vibes from a person I will mentally and visually blur them out and you'll never get back in. If they don't disappear, I will.
So true. To this point in my life, I can sense when my anger bucket is getting fulled up towards somebody, and predict an "inevitable" lash out at them eventually. My parents, co-workers, friends... I'm afraid that ENFJ I hang out with is gonna taste a little bit of Ti Demon pretty soon. It wouldn't hurt to learn to be more direct about what I disagree, instead of letting the frustration just piles up
In order to defuse the situation with your ENFJ friend maybe you should attempt to interface with his Fe dominant more if you sense that something is going haywire instead of relying on his tertiary Se to drive home your point. Keep in mind that his Te Demon may be playing a prank on both of you (although he may be well-meaning, he may not notice that that may not necessarily be well-received, something that's driving me nuts with the Te Trickster of some ISFJs that I'm dealing with on a regular basis).
@@Robidu1973 probably, yes. She was repressed for most of her childhood and teen years, and now, at her twenties, her ego is starting to bloom. However, her family doesn't exactly offer a environment welcoming to different opinions. Their idea of winning am argument is yell louder than the person you are disagreeing with. So she might not see the difference between standing her ground versus taking other people's voice away (Ti Inferior insecurity - Te Demon manifestation, like you said). I just wish she wouldn't feel it necessary to raise her voice at me sometimes, and to actually take a time to get to a conclusions regarding some matters during a conversation. My Se Trickster has already been a reason for her feeling uncomfortable around me, and I took responsibility for that. But she has had the habit of exposing me in front of others with only her side of the story, when she should look into more perspectives in order to be more accurate. When is she gonna take responsibility for anything in our friendship? I have become more direct with her, you know, and agreed less. I believe that we, INFP'S, don't realize it, but, quite often, people in our lives will take for granted our kindness and agreeability... It's like we spoil them with our lack of action
I'm an INFP and most times i have to act around my friends to flow along with them because there's no friend around me with same interests as i have. But sometimes, when i think about it i just decide to be the person i am and not care what even my friends think.
Infp's like helping people but that's not their priority.If helping someone causes problems for them they won't do it unless that person really matters to them.Also they would like to help people indirectly and most of the times they don't like others to know that they helped you because they think people can be abusive sometimes. So let's say infp's like the idea of being kind but thay are not necessarily kind to everyone and 99 percent of the times they won't sacrifice themselves for anyone. (Fi function)
Interesting. So I have this INFP friend, with very obvious ulterior motives (for lack of a better word) ??? Basically the only time she says hi, is when SHE NEEDS SOMETHING! Like transportation! It's primarily that. She never returns the favor in anyway, and is basically just there to take advantage of other people's generosity, and then throw them off to the wayside. Probably time to ghost this person, thoughts?
@@Mannwhich It seems she is a very unhealthy version. A self-centered one. If she is taking advantage of your kindness and acting in that self-absorbed and selfish manner, then yeah it is time to call her out on her behaviour and let her have a piece of your mind. Depending on how she will react you will know wether to ghost her or not. Some people are just not worth the energy though. It really depends on her attitude and how much this friendship matters to you. If you deem it worthy enough to try and save it. Normally, if you tell an INFP how badly you feel because of their behaviour (if they are not aware of it) you will trigger their ever-present guilt and self-reflection/introspection. A healthy INFP doesn't wait for people to tell him/her his wrongdoings. They already know as they are in introspection mode 24h/7. And they instantly feel when they mess up with someone. If they are unhealthy though they will need that push to realize their mistakes. Some who are struggling with mental health, will numb their feelings to avoid feeling too much and it blocks that self reflection. And some are just not healthy people and struggle to question themselves. They can have narcissistic traits. Those who are less unhealthy might get defensive and try to save face but that doesn't mean that they didn't realize their mistakes and don't feel ashamed of it. If they are INFP, once you call them out on it, there are high chances they would feel like the worst person to walk this earth and will immediately do their best to make it up to you. Unless you are facing a very mentally unhealthy and stubborn individual in which case, you will waste your time and energy trying to make them see the obvious. It is strange for an INFP to act this way but not impossible to encounter. There are all sorts of individuals in a same type. My advice would be to ask her directly why she always seems to contact you when she needs something from you. And watch her reaction. Would you mind sharing your mbti ?
@silviajames I don't agree with your last statement. INFPs are very much capable and willing to sacrifice themselves for others, even more so for people they care about. And a lot of INFPs do it often. We are just so lowkey about it that it goes unnoticed. We don't like to brag or let people know what things we did for them. We keep it all inside. It takes away from its values if you tell other people what you "sacrificed" for them. We don't even like to call it a sacrifice. We do what needs to be done to ensure the well-being and hapiness of the people close to us. Even for people who are not that close. Most times, people close to the INFP won't know what things the INFP did for them as it is silently done. I know some INFPs who I would qualify of martyrs, given how selfless and generous they are, prioritizing other people over themselves ALL THE TIME and seeing how they are often taken advantage of by self-entitled people. We like to do good/right things but we are reluctant to take credit for it.
@@melimelo8334 Understood! She's been called out before by others for being self-absorbed. She definitely falls into the "my way or the high way" type of person. Pains me to say it but, limiting contact is the only option. Even more sad is, these are the only type of friends I've ever known. The kind that stick around only because you have something to offer, but your feelings mean very little to them. You'd hope they would prove you wrong, but they never do.
Nice artwork and that is really accurate. Edit: I never really raged with all my anger with anyone, and never had a fight.. And for being too kind I was manipulated, that made a bad thing happen and that made a big hit on me, that changed the way I am, I don't know if it's for good or bad...
Wow…that part about anger is so real. I hate fighting…but I’m not above it if I’m pushed too far. And I’m usually completely out of control until I gain my senses. 🤦🏾♂️
These are all really accurate for me, I really struggle making friends at school because i'm too picky. I may talk to a lot of people but I don't really consider all of them my friends, maybe just some of them.
Unless you're an INFP you won't know these specially 6 and 7. Yes we're constantly evaluating people, like yes we're open but we're always judging, you maybe my best friend today but my views might change the next day because of your action or thinking, this is the reason personally I can't stick to a person for a long time, maybe my disappointment in them or expectation is turned down, and yeah we can never forget, yes we won't make you suffer by rubbing it on you but yeah you'll lose that piece in us forever, it will never be the same, I was surprised to see how they pointed out how we evaluate before helping others, whether they deserve it or not cuz so true lmao also yeah we're definitely not selfless, honesty I think I'm one of the most selfish persons around me, you know why? Cuz we help to be satisfied, it's in our nature to look out for people, there's a sense of satisfaction by doing so, we find peace that way, so it's 50% because we enjoy doing it, 50% cuz you beed it lol, and yeah being ignored by INFP can be painful lol also I agree don't mess with INFP's, we can go out of our ways to make your life miserable
I was tricked by a friend when I was 6 years old into a sort of public humiliation. She was probably trying to help me with my insecurites. As it was in junior school I saw her everyday for 5 years but I NEVER spoke to her again. (A bit of an over reaction you might say. Still feel guilty about this one)
I can’t believe how this nailed my view of the world. I took the MB test many times but no other summation described me better than this! I got confused about my scores in the past but this made it clear what my type was. Keep doing your channel, p,ease. I need to know I’m not weird.
To quote Lisa (Marisa Tomei's character) from My Cousin Vinny "Dead on balls accurate!" It's an industry term ... You are the first video to brooch the danger of pushing an INFP to far and incurring their potentially physical violent reprisal. I made a comment in a video about it and others in the comments questioned whether I was indeed an INFP. I was bullied incessantly throughout school and chose to take action to rectify and curtail this problem, of course I became labelled a bully as well, but it had the desired effect. I am happy for them that they were never pushed to this point, but I have been on more occasions then I am able to recite. Happily those incidents occurred in my teens and early twenties and I have since learned many abilities to reign in this possible outcome. I have had knives, bats and guns pulled on me, once you lose all fear you no longer can be easily intimidated. To be fair I was hit with a bat and had stitches and was cut with knives, luckily not shot yet though. *crosses fingers* *prays* Most people who pull weapons are afraid, the few who aren't are pulling them to use them. INFP are extremely loyal to those they care for, and several occasions were due to others, and not of my own volition or due to anything I had done to illicit said response. But if your INFP cares for you they will do whatever it takes within their abilities to let you know emphatically and with great risk to themselves. Thank you and looking forward to more of your insights.
As INFP I'd loved to helping people based their ambition, for example if they really wants to learn how to draw I willingly to help them from zero, I offering myself to help them but they says they are too lazy to learn so I think it's going to waste my time. I rather make them learn how to deal with it than do everything for them tho. I prefer someone ambitious, intelligent, caring and a friend that never abandoned me. So basically I'm really selective for a friend, trust me y'all also doesn't want to trust someone that doesn't care about you and make yourself suffer, they not on time or responsible for group project.. That's the reason why I prefer working alone and get myself a good grade. Tbh if I got besties I might learn how to bake so I can pampering them by sweets, cake or any pastries and my cooking. Also pampering them with a lot physical touches, but this whole time I can't find a friend that suites my criteria so I don't have any friends or someone with further relationship.. 😔
Is it really useful to stick everyone in a label box, complete with assigned behavior? These distinctions/descriptions are ideas, mental constructs, not fact or science. And we are all naturally hypnotically impressionable, so we can mentally try all kinds of mental constructs on. Is this more inner understanding, or more societally based rubbish to distract our actual clarity of being.
@@berserker3414 No it's not similar to zodiac. Mbti is formed based on decades of studies of people's behavior. They used those observations of behaviors, along with personality theories to label one's personality, making people understand what their predominant thinking are. Yes, the behaviors said above may find similarities to some personalities, but NOT all personalities. Using cognitive functions, we can backtrack why an INFP would lean on doing such actions and why an ESTJ would react differently.
I can't speak for anyone else, but subjectively it was helpful to me in terms of framing natural tendencies I've carried and observed through much of my life until recently. And certainly people who also identify as similar types to myself, especially other NFs, feel much more like kindred spirits than those with a radically different typing. Typology never even came into it until later, but I was not at all surprised to learn the types of some people I know. It isn't assigned behaviour as much as an explanation of innate proclivities and tendencies. People are still individuals; and you're right, it's not science. How could it be? Personalities are complex beyond the realms of scientific study; the human brain is too ill-equipped to understand itself in detail. You're also not wrong about human suggestibility and mental frameworks, but it would take some serious subconscious manipulation to make me radically change my paradigm. It's like elastic; at the end of the day I am who I am, which is for the most part who I've always been. I take it with the requisite pinch of salt, but if people find helpful, at the end of the day, what's the harm?
at my work place i was thrown off my work station i was placed at for a year, then they put me at the hardest one there. I struggled and hated every moment of it. My co workers started to make an ongoing joke that "I was responsible for all the bad things that happened" on the line. Its been going on for a while now and I have improved greatly, now Im starting to get pissed off when they say its my fault that our machine malfunctions, I asked them to chill a bit and stop bringing up the joke. and slowly, I am beginning to ignore them because its not fair how they treat me.
Omg omgomg I have NEVER seen someone explain the "exolosive" side of us INFPs!! Every other thing I've read seems to say that we're just really sensitive and would rather run away and cry then face our bullies, which made my seriously doubt if my multiple quizzes were correct!! I mostly ignore people, but when pushed I can go 0 to 10000 in No time, and it's Not Pretty!!
its scary how accurately this video describes me and also the comment section is so assuring that there are many people out there like me who can relate to every emotion i feel. its really hard to live with so many pent up emotions 😞😞😞
Some people don't just understand, getting angry sometimes is just tiring, I think ignoring them is the best as long as they don't visibly get in my way we should be good🙄 I remember when my group members were shocked at my sudden out burst they said never thought I could get angry, till I had enough of them but after I dealt with it I could sleep for the first time in days but our relationship can never be how it use to be, some people are better off ignored if you want a long life☺️🍀
as an INFP one thing i hate about myself is that i become fiercely possessive of things or people i deem are mine. especially people.. like i used to have this deskie that i thought was my best friend and i treated her as my best friend and shared everything with her and well basically let her in.. i was super upset when she formed a group without me and didnt even seemed apologetic about it. after that i ignored her, i closed myself up and didnt open up to anyone anymore afterwards i still made friends, but could always feel myself feeling a pang of jealousy when someone i really liked being close to another person like im not even talking about dating, just friends.
Everything is so true, as an INFP with a sociopathic sibling it's truly infuriating when im trying to be peaceful and not disturb others and help them when they need it but not getting at least the bare minimum back. I feel the anger and disgust build up inside me to the point i think im going insane, day by day.
I didn't fully believe these personality tests. Was thinking its akin to like zodiac signs and such. This was spot on, all of it, down to details. I feel called out
As an INFP, I feel bad for my classmates when I leave them hanging around with our group activity. But I don't want them to be dependent for the rest of the school year. I want them to stand on their own when there are group or individual acitivities. My conscience are kicking but what they're doing is one of my pet peeves. They don't even cooperate. Once there was a classmate of mine where her jokes are stepping out of boundary. I used to promise myself that I must not talk horrible things about the people dear to me. But she overdid her humor. I was angry that I ignored her for days together with one of our classmates.
This video is actual representation of me. When people stepped on my values and tries to disrespect me!! I do avoid them till they are like disappeared from my life. If I hate someone seeing them,hearing their voice, even breathing same air as them is suffocating.
I'm really happy to have stumbled on your channel. I always doubted if I'm an INFP but now i strongly feel I am one. This (and many other) video(s) in this channel describe me well.
