8 Mistakes Women Make That Ruin Their Relationships 

I don’t end up watching your videos much anymore, but I came to say this: your videos were life changing for me last year when I went through an emotionally wrecking breakup. Well, fast forward 1 year: I am the most confident I’ve ever been in my life- my career, the way I look, the way I treat myself, everything has changed 10x for the better. And I still remember crying on the hotel bathroom floor hiding from family during vacation watching your videos on anxious attachement. Thank you so much 🙏🏽 And yes, my ex did come begging back lol and I still loved him but I finally loved myself more enough to say No, you do NOT get a second chance, bye.

1. *Trying to change him* 2. *Wanting to be his world and be on his mind all the time and not creating mystery* - men love us most when they miss us and women love men most when they are bonding, sadly. I can confirm this as my boy said to me "when we talk whole day i lose the anticipation and excitement to talk to you that's why i need space". So be ready to give space ❤ 3. *Being the unhappy girl,* always complaining. Motivate him to do good for you by complementing him. If he does nothing good for u, then why u even with him sarah? :) 4. *Making him do your hobbies and live your life with you.* "Couple hobbies"😂 If your guy likes gaming and you like to play football, do your hobbies. You don't have to do each other's hobbies to be in the ideal relationship. It would rather spoil the relationship if you force your hobbies on your man. 5. *Using intimacy as manipulation* i.e. if he does something wrong, you refuse to have physical intimacy. It's a recipe for disaster. 12:18 - if you are genuinely upset, communicate that peacefully 6. *"I can do it all myself" attitude.* - a relationship is built on mutual efforts and not one sided efforts. 13:58 - let the man do efforts as well. Make him feel like he's something useful and not a piece of trash 7. 16:15 There's a spectrum of feminine energy that ranges from total openness (like peeing in front of him😂) to total mystery (like he asks whether u love him and u r like "kind of). *And both of these extremes r disasteous to ur relationship* So what to do? Don't always be same. Don't always share routines. Don't overindulge in him (why do u want him to know the number of times you've pooped😭). Don't sacrifice ur sleep or good habits for him. Be whole in urself *but* also be with him, love him, be fairly accessible and present. 8. *Constant nagging and criticizing* 18:30

It’s hard to tell if you are dating a good man when in the beginning most of them act much better than they really are. Sometimes its just dumb luck finding the sincere one

I once dated a guy who had no patio furniture on his back deck I suggested a table and chairs set would be lovely and practical for his backyard and he freaked out and said I'm smothering him 💔 You can never say the right thing to the wrong person or the wrong thing to the right person 😢

Not only are you so wise and life changing, but you are SO FUNNY I always walk away learning something new and giggling

dear Margarita, i hope you make a video soon of how to handle those inevitable “hard times” during a long-term relationship. anything from arguing phases to serious life crisises such as illness. how do you stay in your feminine through tough times? x

“You don’t need to be two peas in a pod OK Jessica” - I died bc this is sooo me! Margarita you are my secret weapon for womanhood! Thank god you like to philosophize! 🙏🏻✨💓

Margarita you have been like a motherly figure to me when it comes to these relationship tips. As a teen with strict Indian parents I never had any trusted adult from whom I can get these tips.Then I discovered your channel and you have helped so much from then on. Thank you.

i listen to your black cat / golden retriever video every morning while i’m getting ready for work. it has absolutely changed my life. the things you have mentioned in this video goes hand in hand with that video and ever since i’ve started implementing it, i have noticed (almost instant) positive changes in my relationship. thank you ♥️

Margarita I hope eventually you make some content about how to be a healthy parent!

Just wanted to give you Love. I just read your book, and watching your videos. You have helped me so much on re inventing myself at 41 years old. I'm so greatful for all your golden nuggets of feminine wisdom. Lots of Love and Respect to you Margartia. You are changing thr world for the better! Keep on keeping On❤

Your sense of humor is really under appreciated. Girl, your humor and the way you deliver it 👌🏼

I needed to hear this today! I have violated a few of these rules lately and I’ve noticed him distancing himself. Thank you!

You’re like my bigger sister giving advice I didn’t know I need before but the best one!!!! I really appreciate you. Thank you for posting this gem.

Saw your new book on the shelf at big w and bought instantly. So happy for you and excited to read!💕💕💕

Love the marriage/long term relationship content!

They way I’m screaming my love for you through the phone rn, I literally love love love u. You are Her!

Margarita is a very intelligent woman! So much knowledge

This is my second video of yours that I watch and I LOVE your content. Also I love your sense of humor 😂 and the way you talk 😂

love this! Joined your course! So excited to learn more!

Your hair looks amazing🥰

This came at a perfect time. I pray to God that all good things find you because you are truly helping all of us

This video very well may have saved my relationship threee months ago. But I was most likely not ready to receive it. I’m grateful to receive it now and understand it to its fullest- although I wish it wasn’t too late for the previous stage of my life

Love these! And you look 🤌🏽 today! ❤️

Thank you for this. You look gorgeous

i love this womannnn. I love your energy so bad!!

Brilliant. All true!

I was taught to do a lot of these things by following the relationship of my parents! And then when I got in relationship…..these are the skills I utilized and it led to me being pretty miserable. The points you are making are important because they emphasize the balance being together and being apart. We need a bit of both in relationships for them to be healthy. Intimacy is built on togetherness as much as it is on separateness. About being different but finding shared space together. I think that’s what a lot of us might have not learned.

Thank you❤

Margarita, I have to say, I have been watching your videos for the past 8 months I think.. and honestly I this might be the best one! GIRL, the print t-shirt with my face! I did that in my last relationship, sooooo embarrassed to even remember it haahahahaah

You are amazing😊

the one with the bodily functions is so spot on bc listening to women say “why can they do all that in front of us and we can’t” like baby it’s not that you can’t but what is the reason for you to want to do that? like if there is something that men do that you so much admire and wanna have the freedom to do as well why is it exactly this thing? it’s so icky, this is not something to be “shared” it’s clear everyone does it but why is it needed for it to be obvious or talked about? absolutely ridiculous

I’m dying at the “I saw a squirrel. 🙂 I saw a flowa 🙂‍↕️😉”

You’re so cool Margara,I wish we were friends ❤

Hello Margarita . Thank u for an amazing video again . Could you make a video about marriage life after having a kid ; how do we balance things

I was just thinking how listening to you has changed my life and then you literally said my name Jessica 😂 ! Love you sis you give the best advice

Every time i click on your vedio makes me wanna pat my back for putting good info in my system .😂😂❤❤

My husband is chatty, philosophy and extremely intellectually eloquent. I’m a good listener and a sharp eye for everything psychological. As. A musician in an orchestra, it’s not uncommon to have performances during the weekend. He joined twice, which I found cool, I could proudly show what I’m about. But I’m also very glad he doesn’t join every weekend. That would feel like him putting me on a pedestal, I prefer the only way around.

love u girl!

Thank you....thank you ....😘🙏🏼✨️

Margarita and co! I love this content. I bought the New Rules book:) I’m wondering- are there any books out there that talk about the masculine and feminine principles in relationships? I’d like to read one with my partner, who is also interested.

That was fantastic 🤩! Would you mind sharing the podcast of the divorce lawyer ❤?

I LOVE IT...What she said about her husband being different and not even watching her videos. Like seriously I'm so thankful for this information. I got married two weeks ago and he's MY OPPOSITE. I'm cerebral. I'm thinky. I love psychology/personal development. He couldn't care less. He's concrete. He watches TV and plays video games and drives a big truck. 😂 I thought we'd be a recipe for disaster at one time but actually I'm so crazy about this man. And one more thing: I was anxious and he was avoidant. But we've made it work!

Margarita we would totally wear a shirt with you printed on it!! 😂❤

Love this video, as usual ❤❤❤ My husband hasn't watched any of my videos either. But that's ok because RU-vid is 'my thing' and you won't catch me playing soccer anytime soon lol

I agree with your 💯… 1000%

I love relationship topic ❤️❤️❤️

I'm in a relationship also with a man who is very different from me in the ways you cited. 😅 he's a masculine man who doesn't really get into all my self development hobbies and spiritual stuff . I sometimes have compulsion to get him into my things but I find it isn't necessary . And ya it even propels better attraction when i have my own shit going on 😊 thanks I needed to be reminded of this!!! 😊

:) you made my day everytimee love you

The bodily functions one! Omg I hate it. I am a prude honestly, I don’t want them to know I pee or poop haha. But my place is a tiny one bedroom and his place (where I stay more) is similar - one toilet. Right next to the bedroom and living room and bathroom (So I can’t even pretend I’m having a shower). I HATE it! I go to bed and wake up with tummy aches because I can’t bring myself to go in his house - after 15 months! lol. I’ve always been like this even in 5 year relationships. Angling to love to his other bigger place buy that’s at least a year away of holding all my stuff in. I can’t even escape at night or early in the morning because we have dinner together and then walk together in the mornings (that’s our real alone time together as we are so busy during the days)

After trying so hard to keep it well suppressed with everything I’ve learned from you, a little bit of my crazy slipped out in a moment and it scared him off 😓

you look so gorgeous. I love that curly hair.

This content 👏👏👏

First time watching you, and you are hilarious, but also very helpful, i love your personality, you are so cute ❤❤❤😂

I bought my bf of 4 years underwear with my face all over them and he literally couldnt stop laughing, he loved it! I think it depends on their sense of humor. Some men might find it creepy though, esp in the beginning of a relationship.

My husband is chatty, philosophy and extremely intellectually eloquent. I’m a good listener and a sharp eye for everything psychological. As. A musician in an orchestra, it’s not uncommon to have performances during the weekend. He joined twice, which I found cool, I could proudly show what I’m about. But I’m also very glad he doesn’t join every weekend. That would feel like him putting me on a pedestal, I prefer the only way around. On the other hand, he’s a composer and producer of electronical tracks, scores and songs. He works best at night and sleeps thill mid afternoon. It’s just the rhythm he feels best with. Which means I have to rely on myself for almost everything (broken down car, clogged toilets and laundromat filter cleanings among others).

Girl you are so funny I love hearing you speak

you look so pretty here ❤

100% I (44y) tried to date someone like that (32y) the immaturity was not necessarily her age but it was like adopting a child, having to do everything with & for her, what a nightmare

Not you calling me out of my name girl 😂 so true

I love when you say random names 😂❤

my aunt and uncle had the sock conflict, it almost ruined them, they recovered somehow

Great tips. What about women who love a man too much?

I have done everything she mentioned not to do 😒 now i have no doubts on why he left me💀

I don't care to share how many times I pooped unless it's my siblings or mom, bc it's TMI and it's funny to annoy them (but they do the same back). Peeing and pooping is not something I want to share with a husband, he doesn't need to know unless it's a medical concern that he can help with, or it'll effect him.

17:40 what is the name of the author/his book and podcast please?

What’s so funny is when I’m completely done with a man… I start to over share like he’s my gay best friend. Then he’s like “why are you treating me like this?”. Cuz I’m no longer sexually attracted to you sis! 😂😂😂 #SoToxic 🤦‍♀️💀

The word you are looking for is philosophical

I think you meant home goods lol, Home Depot is the “home improvement store”. But point was received

I admire the person you are, Margarita. Now i know what I'm about to say is out "of context" I want to ask you something though, please boycott whatever has to do with supporting Israel. Because you know what's right.

Yayyyyy🎉

Philosophical

The ads spoiled it for me. I read the commenter’s synopsis as soon as the ad appeared.

I dont want to change him.. i want to change him back 😅 Its not my fault that he was different first 2 years if the relationship.. go back to that, thats what i signed up for... Rigged 😃😃😃 we are married 9 years

I never try to change a man. He is a full grown human being.

I'm in hell no escape I'm 45 years old and all 45 years of my life, so far, have just been trauma and suffering

So the mystery about pooping is attractive, noted

You know, you can still drink whatever you want but not promote it on camera especially with what these companies are NOT advocating for.

“philosophical”

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i saw a squirrel!!!

I just can hear the shame in your voice saying omg omg about the printed face on the tshirt 😂

How did we get to children toys in this topic?! I feel abused

I have a cat

I've learned that my man acts more like that negative nagging wife than any person I've ever met. But he also loves me more when he misses me. Which is annoying.

A hideous hyena... I love it hahaha

Oh, no, no, i never pee in front of any of my boyfriends. That is big no no!

I really hate this type of “keep your man intrigued” content, make you design your whole personality with a single purpose of keeping your husband happy and always wanting you. It’s deeply disingenuous and sad.

A hyena 😂

Free Palestine 🇵🇸🇵🇸🍉🍉🍉🇵🇸🍉🇵🇸🇵🇸

such lovely children by the way! copy paste of their mama🥺🩷

Oh this helps me so much Mam!🥹💙😭