I watched this many months ago, u really inspired me and I come again now to ask u is it a hard journey? I've been trying to love myself for some long time and to enjoy my own company alone but I find it still hard for me and I'm still struggling, is it ok to take so long to achieve it? I just wanna now if there is still hope for me to reach. I can tell my level is still at the starting point.
Hi dear, there is no rush! Learning to love yourself and find joy being alone takes a different amount of time for everyone. I am blessed because I came from a loving family and have no past traumas to deal with, and so it was easier for me to arrive at this state. However, it is different for everyone, because everyone has a different background / past conditioning that can make being alone feel isolating. Also, some people are more extroverted than others and need more time with other people to feel connected! It is all a process :) be patient with yourself, and it is okay for you to take as long as you need. All the best! Let me know if there are any other videos you'd like to see that would help you :)
@@victorialim Thank u alot for your reply, I appreciate it :) ♡. You are actually true, it can take much longer time for me but I just need to be patient with myself. I love watching this type of content of how to love yourself and be true with it, your experience with it. and I like watching your routines and talks on life, thank u for inspiring me!
It takes building up your confidence..that you don't care to be seen alone by yourself. When i was younger..i was shy to be seen alone eating at a restaurant. So i would buy the food and eat in my car. But as time went..i stopped caring about what people would think. And it's so liberating. I no longer was at the mercy of other people's (friend's) time just so i have company going out. I would go anywhere anytime i like and leave when i want to. However, isolation can be depressing..so i would comfortably and confidantly go to a bar with loud noise..order my drinks ...just to be around people. But i don't make eye contact with anyone other than to the waiter/waitress or the bartender..bcos i do not want to be mistaken as looking to get laid. Nobody disturbs me that way. I do that once a week..and it feels good.
@@fuckyoutube4changingmyusername thank u so much. I needed such a reply in such time. What I'm going through now, I will be graduating next year from college, and instead of being happy for that like others, I'm sad :(. I have a friend who I love so much, she is the only person that I have deep connection with, and by graduating that means we will not be together anymore. She is a very good friend and has stick with me through thick and thin, but she doesn't mind much as I do. She is looking forward for graduation as normal students. I feel like I would be nothing without her, I really want to heal myself from this. I feel like I can't even enjoy my last year at college because all I think is when we graduate and go apart. I want to ask u question if u can answer pls. Can I have that deep connection with myself instead other people and still feel like it's enough and joyful? I feel like I'm empty inside, thinking of it I always needed someone to understand me and has deep connection with. So maybe that person could be me? :( so I feel fulfilled life and not get hurt by beloved ones having distance? :(
Thinking of it my family has always been loving for me but a lot of time they don't accept my true self. So maybe that's why I grew in need for someone to love me for who I am and understands me without judgement. I know everyone would want such person but for me I think it's another level. I feel like I would be nothing without person like that. And my freind has been that person for years. If you have solutions please tell me. And do u think that person must be me from the beginning? :(
1) make a bucket list 2) complete on your own ( without company) 3) write a journal 4) meditation 5) walk/ yoga without phone 6) learn to respect and priorotize 7) stay away from social media 8) you will feel lonely but bear with it
🌿 t i m e s t a m p s 🌿 0:46 tip #1 1:37 tip #2 → 2:33 do it alone! 3:43 tip #3 4:28 tip #4 → 5:00 it helps me too! (*my fav part of the vid!) 7:57 tip #5 9:23 tip #6 9:57 tip #7 10:34 tip #8
I don't have that many friends actually and I feel lonely sometimes. But now I'm so blessed to find your inspiring video. it changed my mindset and challenges my mind to be stronger. 😍❤
@@kimdem7255 I think it would help a lot. I have had issues with not being able to control my own thoughts, but if you really look at those thoughts, a lot of your thoughts are just repeats and different versions of thoughts you already had. Being able to get those thoughts down on paper in a way helps you understand those thoughts rather than just repeating them in your head over and over again. In journaling, you can not only identify those thoughts, but even try asking yourself why you're thinking them so you can understand them more. And if you're able to understand your thoughts, you'll be able to have a little more control on everything that goes on inside your head.
i loved your video! i used to feel bad because i don't have that many friends, but i'm starting to enjoy my own company. it's so great. i feel so much better. thank you for this. i was needing this because my thoughts in quarantine are like "i'm so lonely i don't have anyone to text" but honestly..... who cares? i love myself
I want to let you know how much I appreciate your video. I have been crying for a few days because I'm by myself. There is not anything distracting me from my negative thoughts about my life. Your suggestions about making a list saved my day, and my mind really thank you!
Right people will come into your life when they are meant to be! in mean time just ‘focus on yourself’ !what an inspiring line! Thank you so much! it really made me feel better❤️😊
Your editing is so so wonderful! I'm so grateful for how much you shared especially with your journal entry. I'm hoping to show that side in my videos as well and being more open
When I was in highschool I had a lot of people I talked to on a daily and began to depend off of human interaction. Once Covid hit and we all graduated most of my friends left to out of state colleges. Typically that would be okay, but because of Covid, I haven’t really been able to make any new friends since my classes are on zoom. I am trying to learn how to be okay with being alone. I just get bored and crave being with people. Your video helped me and I am going to try your tips 💞
Bruh I also have exact same situation. I'm now working under my professor for 7 hrs but at the end of the day I still feel lonely. I feel lost, tired less connection.
I'm completely alone, moved into a new place, a year ago. Being alone is a hardest thing for me. But I'm learning now. Thank you so much for making this video. Lots n lots of love.
Hello Vic! Thanks so much for sharing the tips ❤️❤️ I actually followed your suggestions and writer down things I wanna try/learn on page and I feel much more motivated now! I m always based in Singapore and have been working from home for 2 months now and I do feel anxious lot of times... I guess I m still coping and learning how to enjoy being alone. Just subscribed! Looking forward to more videos 😄
I’ve moved out recently away from my family and I thought that would help me grow but in fact it has made me feel very lonely but I know moving out is the best option so I’m hoping your videos will help me begin this journey of how to enjoy my own company 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hey Gabby, I know being alone at first can feel kind of lonely - it’s definitely something that takes getting used to, and everyone is different (eg more extroverted people need to be around people more to feel connected). But over time I really hope you find little routines that you enjoy and good methods for coping when you’re feeling lonely (like calling a family member)! Try to make your own home your own space and find joy in that process :) All the best and give it time :)
I was once in your shoes but after a period of time you will get use to it and it's gonna seems like it's taking forever but you are gonna get use to it and don't even realize it ,just trust the process
My lovely victoria💐❤️💕🌸i really love your voice 💐💕your b-rolls are getting better and better as well✨☀️ love your journal list! Yes to do it on your own🌷yes alone time is very important❤️❤️❤️ i love the storytelling you did using your journal✨❤️ gratitude journal is perfect, and yes to have joy and to be content🌷☀️✨re reading your entry is amazing, i am so so happy to hear how beautiful journaling can be☀️yes we are our own critics🙋🏻♀️you are loved my dear victoria. This is such beautiful content esp as young as you are❤️❤️❤️so so proud✨☀️keep on going and inspiring😘
WARNING - This is a great video with some amazing tips BUT even with all the tips in the world, nothing is going to negate our humanity. Humans are tribal people and we need each other. Introverts need less connection than extroverts but we all need some connection. Beginning in childhood, I’ve always done things alone because there was never anyone to do them with and I love that about myself AND because I grew up so independent, I didn’t know how to ask for help or invite people to do things with me. Sometimes being alone IS the same thing as loneliness when you aren’t meeting your connection quota, which is going to vary for each person. So while no one should depend on other people 24-7-365, it’s ok if you’re extroverted and like activities better when you do them with others, as long as you’re not negatively affecting you’re life waiting for others to join you.
I want you to make video on topic self love, care , being happy with company and don't just bother about others just do whatever 🙂 you want do. Pls make content on it the youth needs because we are facing break up so to enjoy with yourself and not with others 🙂 actually how to do SeLF loVe.
I've always been that kind of a person in my class who can talk and make you laugh but get close to very few, I had a trio one transferred and the other one will after a few months my classmates are very toxic and they hate me I don't even know the reason why? So I'm preparing myself to not to be depended on someone else for your happines because if you are born alone then why can't you spend you life alone?
Great content ! I have never commented on a video eventhough using youtube for more then 8 years😅 but you are starting on this path u r meant to be praised what u deserve🤗
Keep doing Mindset videos. I will always come back for more content like that. I really enjoy your tips on how to enjoy your own company. I definitely will be using a few of them. Create videos you actually love making because at the end of the day it's your channel.
Thanks for sharing!!! So helpful! I think you can be creative and combine Yale/ self care development.. ie survival tips, guides, short cuts, things you had to learn on your own to succeed there.. I’m just saying I wouldn’t think too much into it, I always say someone will find a way to be mad or disagree but do what’s in your heart the people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind because you literally have a great personality, it’s your character and presence that creates a strong following.. I’m subscribed to a lot of different channels not because I’m into gaming, cooking etc but the people share themselves and I learn all types of things from them.. Keep up the good work! ✨✨✨
Thank you for your feedback Carol! Hmm yes that’s a way to think about it huh, that personality matters more? Definitely food for thought, I’ll just go w what I’m interested in making then☺️ I’ll always try and make my content relevant for anyone so I hope you continue to watch x
Awesome video again Vic! Your self-care content is so soothing, informative, and inspirational - it's always such a joy to watch. Honestly though, in terms of your content, the best in your videos shines forth from the passion you have for what you are talking about, rather than in any specific topic. So I think you should continue talking about things you feel passionate about - I know that I, at least, will continue to enjoy this no matter how widely your topics vary ^_^
@@victorialim Also, about your channel content moving away from Yale-related topics, I think it's a good idea to focus on what you want to be making. Even if there are viewers lost from it, you may find more in the self-care/self-help community. Expanding is a generally good thing and you can reach more people.
Thank you for your take on things! Will definitely only continue to create content that I want to. i guess my concern is that doing both Yale + self-care content would be trying to cater to two completely different audiences (leaving people confused :/) well, let’s just see how things go!
Am so scared of being by myself,but I also don't like being around people,this has brought me alot of pain and discomfort. thanks for sharing this amazing tips,am going to apply them,and see were it leads me🥰
Thank you so much for all this tips!, they are really helpful now that I'm starting my self grow and mental care journey. Btw I can"t stop thinking about how beautiful you are and how sweet is your voice🤍. Nice video!
Thank you so much for this video. It’s really a pleasure to listen to you and it gives me hope. I realised I was afraid to stay alone because I was the most horrible person to myself two years ago. Since I’ve been trying to improve myself but old habits don’t change easily specially when you re afraid of doing anything. 1st thing if my bucket list : write a comment on a RU-vid video I like.
Part of learning to be by yourself is learning to accept yourself for who you are. It can be hard to sit in our thoughts if they’re mostly negative or self-deprecating. It will take time but it’s clear that you have the will to change, so I’m sure you can do it x
came here from your first video on your discoveries while being alone, i immediately subscribed! thank you for these transparent advice and for sharing your experiences with us :)
You know, theres ton of videos out there about being alone and how to be able to handle it, but you actually tell the mindset to adopt. This is KEY, and you've given me some answers others havent been able to for the past few years. You're very smart and I'm glad you were able to figure this all out. Thanks for helping me! Subscribed. :)
This is the first video I’ve seen of yours and it’s super helpful! Especially in quarantine, these tips are super practical and I can’t wait to use them! ❤️
Ahhh another enriching video. ✨I agree that being alone is is different from being lonely. And I love your journals too 💕 i am a huge fan of practicing stillness in my life because I've always been in a hurry all my life, and didn't help much in my mental health. Oh I talk too much, sorry! 🤗 thank you so much for another wonderful video, Vic. Looking forward to the next one. ♥
