I do all of these things but it's not cause I dislike the person I just see it as normal except the last one I'm just incredibly lazy and don't wanna do NOTHING
0:35 their body language towards you is closed and negative 1:05 they fake a smile around you despite being a close acquaintance 1:40 they keep their conversations short and impersonal 2:09 there’s a distinct lack of physical touch towards you 2:35 they don’t make any plans with you 3:10 they rarely reach out or check up on you 3:37 they tend to let you down/break their promises 4:10 they don’t listen to your opinions
There's always going to be someone that doesn't like you, good reason or not🤷🏾♂️. It's like going to the store, you may or may not see something you like and don't purchase it. It doesn't mean something is wrong with it, you just don't prefer it. Soon enough someone will like it for what it is 💯
@@Psych2go Personally, I'd consider that I could generally base myself more off of others than myself. There's a quote, "I'm not who I think I am. I'm not who you think i am. I am who I think you think I am." I'm assuming that one perspective on their identity or self worth-especially their own- isn't enough to boost their confidence. Others liking a person will increase their own self-esteem. I don't believe the majority of people consider how much others have influenced their daily choices or thoughts. They may agree with a statement they never agreed with simply to feel a connection to someone because that person inspires them enough to consider, "Hey maybe I'm just like that person. And I like that person, so maybe I'm worthy also." But even contrary to self-worthiness, social interaction seems much more genuine when you feel appreciated-especially when the world seems much greater than yourself an influencing someone or understanding them may also feel more achieving.
I'm not secretly disliked, I am disliked. No matter what I do it's never enough for people. They say "oh I don't like starting the conversation" but then they can do it fine with everyone else. They never talk to me outside of school, unless surprise surprise I message them. And finally I'm never invited to go do things with anyone. In my whole life I've never been asked to hang out with someone. Nevertheless great topic. Sorry for the sob story, if anyone sees this.
Dont feel bad if you are rejected . Jesus ,who is the creator of this world, who is God , who is kings of kings, and Lord of lords, was rejected for many when he was here living here in earth, to be rejected doesnt say anything about your value lor worth like person , look Jesus is the best friend and most faithful friend you can have, buy a bible study and start to read the bible for to know who is him , because he is real , he exists.
I wish we could have our own friendship group with comment sections from every Psych2Go vids, you all seem so cool who I'd befriend if I knew how to befriend anyone in the first place 😂 Either way, great community!
If someone dislikes you, they shouldn't be involved in your life to such a degree that you notice their presence and their dislike of you. If someone dislikes you yet you find them continually in your presence somehow, that's their issue and they need to grow up and discuss the reason for their disdain towards you in a mature way or just f * * * off and leave you alone. Don't worry about people who don't like you.
all my friends hated me And i have a one friend who i think disliked me They fake a smile everytime and Dont talk to me much.. The Hog Rider card is unlocked from the Spell Valley (Arena 5). He is a very fast building-targeting, melee troop with moderately high hitpoints and damage. He appears just like his Clash of Clans counterpart; a man with brown eyebrows, a beard, a mohawk, and a golden body piercing in his left ear who is riding a hog. A Hog Rider card costs 4 Elixir to deploy. Strategy His fast move speed can boost forward mini tanks like an Ice Golem in a push. At the same time, he can also function as a tank for lower hitpoint troops such as Goblins as he still has a fair amount of health. Most cheap swarms complement the Hog Rider well, as they are nearly as fast as him and usually force more than one card out of the opponent's hand. The Hog Rider struggles with swarms, as they can damage him down and defeat him quickly while obstructing his path. Barbarians in particular can fully counter him without very strict timing on the defender's part, though be wary of spells. A Hunter can kill the Hog Rider in 2 hits if placed right on top of it. However, if you place something in front of the Hog Rider, the Hunter's splash will damage the Hog Rider and hit the card in front of it more. The Hog Rider in conjunction with the Freeze can surprise the opponent and allow the Hog Rider to deal much more damage than anticipated, especially if the opponent's go-to counter is a swarm, or swarms are their only effective counter to him. Skeletons and Bats will immediately be defeated by the spell, while Spear Goblins, Goblins, and Minions will be at low enough health to be defeated by a follow up Zap or Giant Snowball. However, this strategy isn't very effective against buildings as the Hog Rider will take a while to destroy the building, giving the opponent ample time to articulate another counter. Against non-swarm troops, it can deal a lot of damage during the freeze time, but this can allow the opponent to set up a massive counterpush. For this reason, players should either only go for a Hog Rider + Freeze when they have other units backing it up from a counterattack, or if the match is about to end and they need to deal as much damage as possible. It is not a good idea to send in a Hog Rider simply to destroy a building, especially if it is the only building targeting unit available, as defeating Crown Towers becomes substantially more difficult. Spells or simply waiting out the lifetime of the building are more effective. The exception to this is an Elixir Collector placed in front of the King's Tower. If a Hog Rider placed at the bridge, he can destroy the Collector for a positive Elixir trade, though the damage from both Princess Towers will usually mean he does not survive to deal any damage to them. However, if the opponent sends in defending troops, it can be an opportunity to gain spell damage value. In a deck with several low-cost cards, it might be worth it to simply send the Hog Rider against one building. These decks shuffle their card rotation quick enough, that they will arrive to their next Hog Rider before the next building arrives in the opponent's card rotation. Long-ranged troops like Musketeer and Flying Machine can snipe those buildings, preserving some of the Hog Rider's health, possibly allowing it to get some Tower damage. When there are buildings placed in the middle to counter the Hog Rider, understanding the placement of the Hog Rider and the type of building placed can help the Hog Rider to bypass certain buildings. Passive buildings such as spawners and Elixir Collector have a larger hitbox than defensive buildings; which means that if a passive building was placed 3 tiles away from the river in the middle of the opponent's side, then it is impossible for the Hog Rider to bypass that placement as the Hog Rider will get pulled to that building. Defensive buildings have a smaller hitbox than a passive building, which means if that if a defensive building was placed three tiles away from the river in the middle of the opponent's side, a Hog Rider placed at the very left or right side of the Arena may be able to bypass it due to its smaller hitbox. If the player has a building already placed down in the center of the arena, and the opponent tries to bypass it with a Hog Rider at the edge of the arena, they can use certain air troops to push the Hog Rider towards the building as it jumps over the river, effectively denying the bypass attempt. They must be already hovering over the correct placement, as very quick reflexes are required to correctly perform this technique. For Bats, Skeleton Dragons, and Minion Horde, they should be placed right in front of the Hog Rider as soon as it is deployed. For Minions, Skeleton Barrel, Mega Minion, Flying Machine, Electro Dragon, Baby Dragon, Inferno Dragon, Balloon, and Lava Hound, stagger the above placement one tile to the right if the Hog Rider is placed on the left side of the arena, and vice versa. They can also use ground troops to achieve the same result. Something like an Ice Golem deployed at the Hog Rider’s landing spot will obstruct his path and force him to go around the unit, which causes him to be closer to the building instead of the Crown Tower. The Hog Rider can kite Very Fast non-building targeting troops due to his own Very Fast speed and building only targeting if he is placed on the fourth tile from the bridge, slightly into the opposite lane. He can also stall grounded units when placed right at the bridge. He will pull them towards him while deploying, and then be untargetable by them when he jumps over the bridge. After landing, he will pull them back. This can be useful when the player needs to deal damage in the same lane they are defending. It will also help separate troops behind a tank in a large push. A Tornado placed on the second tile front of the player's King's Tower and staggered two tiles towards the Princess Tower will activate it without any damage dealt to the Princess Tower, helping them in defending future pushes. This can also be a method of mitigating all damage dealt to a Princess Tower, but doing this more than three times may result in the King's Tower's health being low enough to be targeted directly, opening up the possible threat of a back door three crown. A better alternative is to pull the Hog away from the Princess Tower into the attacking range of all three Crown Towers, which will negate all damage as long as none of them are already distracted A very powerful combo is the Hog Rider, the Musketeer, and the Valkyrie, typically referred to as the Trifecta. The Musketeer will defend against most troops, while the Valkyrie can protect her and the Hog Rider from swarms or high damage units. The Hog Rider is used to deal damage to the tower. This can be effectively countered by Lightning, one-shotting the Musketeer and severely damaging both the Valkyrie and Hog Rider. The Minion Horde is also effective, but the enemy can Zap them and the Musketeer will one-shot them all. Even if the Musketeer is defeated, the Hog Rider and Valkyrie will have enough time to severely damage the Tower. The Hog Rider should be placed behind the Valkyrie to give it a boost so that it stays in front of the Hog Rider, protecting it. A Hog Rider combined with a Goblin Barrel can be awkward for the opponent to defend against. Timing it so that the Hog Rider is tanking the tower shots for the Goblins is the most effective way to deal damage. However, a Barbarian Barrel can shut this down with minimal Tower damage for a positive Elixir trade, as long as the Goblin Barrel was placed directly on the Tower. Pairing the Hog Rider with the Balloon can deal devastating damage. If executed properly, the Hog Rider will act as a tank while the Balloon threatens to deal massive damage. The Hog Rider can also destroy any buildings attempting to slow down the combo. However, this combo is very vulnerable to swarms and anti-air cards as neither of the troops target anything but buildings. Additionally, they are easy to separate, due to the disparity in move speeds. Alternatively, the Hog Rider and the Balloon can be played in different lanes to spread the opponent's defenses thin. However, a building or Tornado can bring them back together for an easier defense. The Hog Rider can be paired with the Lumberjack as both a swarm bait and damage combo. It is a very fast combo with an extremely high damage output potential, so the enemy will likely try to counter it with a swarm. If this happens, use a spell like Arrows to render the opponent defenseless. If they manage to defeat the Lumberjack, the dropped Rage will make the Hog Rider even more dangerous than it normally is. A fast and deadly combination is the Hog Rider and Mini P.E.K.K.A. combo. Both units are fast but the Mini P.E.K.K.A. does much more damage and does not attack only buildings so the Mini P.E.K.K.A. can deal with troops like the Executioner and Musketeer. However, this combo can be defeated with swarms like Skeleton Army, which will defeat both of them since neither of them can deal area damage. They are also unable to target air troops, so the Minion Horde can stop this easily.
My autistic/depressed/socially anxious ass relates to some of those (as the "others") but I swear it isn't because I'm disinterested or because I dislike you… I'm actually very loyal and caring - I just struggle to maintain eye contact, fear physical touch, fake smiles because it's become a way to conceal my pain and trauma, often zone out mid-convo, practically never make plans with anyone because I feel iffy about leaving my den, and refrain from reaching out to people first because I'm convinced that I'll only bother them. So this goes both ways…
Having been involved with the the community I know exactly where you're coming from. In fact some of the best freinds I've made are on the spectrum. I'm sure if I would have been considered to be as well if I had the testing and knowledge of today. Back then nit much was known.
making eye contact just pisses people off actually when i do it thell turn away as soon as i look at them or give me a dirty look. Or insult me or acuse me of harrasment. So i choose to stay quite so i dont get bullied. I just live in a situation where the people only argue or speak to get attention or boost their ego its horrible maybe its just where i live.
Is anyone else friends with people who treat you as a back up friend but don't wanna drop them because you don't wanna be alone. They are also very toxic and sarcastic but in a really rude way. It honestly feels like they want to say something messed up to me but disguise it as sarcasm.
As someone with social anxiety and just generally being someone who finds it hard to talk to or interact with others I do most of these things to others, not because i dislike them but because i don't know how else to be and sometimes the complete opposite..because i actually like them and i'm scared to let myself be vunerable. I really hope people don't see it as me disliking them..
this video came in at the right time. i have terrible self-esteem these past few days. i’ve been wondering. i’m so sad that i can’t do anything and i don’t have motivation for things. but i also have a lot of trouble reaching out to others because my own self won’t let me, telling myself i am a burden. i don’t know what to do anymore. i just want to give up.
dont stress yourself about the people around you!! i promise you, they dont deserve the energy you're wasting in thinking about them. there's always going to be people out there who don't like us, but its okay, because in return, there will always be someone who cares for you and genuinely likes you, even if they do it from a distance and you don't know them. im speaking from so much experience, and i can say with full confidence that it. gets. better. it gets so much better you just have to plough through. life is never going to be full of easiness or full of hardships, theres a soft balance between the two and it constantly changes between it, you just have to try your best to take advantage of the good parts and keep them around with you. i have no idea who you are, but i just want to say you're completely not a burden, youre super cool and i really hope you can get through because its going to get better
You deeply care about how others feel, which makes you a better person than a lot of people I know. Kindness like yours makes the world a better place, and even if you don't see things getting better, you're not worthless, because there is an undeniable value in someone who cares so much about how others feel.
I have a friend who displayed all these signs to me, and then I watched this video and it was a dead giveaway that she disliked me. So I confronted her and asked her why are you like this? And it turns out she likes me, but she just didn't know how to show it and was too embarrassed to admit her feelings to me. Love is a very hard feeling to convey sometimes...
After just listening to a few of the points presented I'm starting to really hope that people aren't reading too much into how I talk to them as meaning I personally dislike them. Most times I tend to just be very unsure of people especially when I first meet them, and also just don't really know where they're boundaries are and try to take care not to cross them so quickly. I also am trans and have yet to really break that to my place of work, and as a result end up keeping a lot of people I work with at a distance simply because I just don't feel so much like I can really be myself around them. I may keep things brief when asked about my going-ons outside of work because I just don't know how much I really feel safe sharing.
1. Their body language towards you is closed and negative. - 0:37 2. They fake a smile around you. - 1:06 3. They keep your conversations short and impersonal. - 1:43 4. There's a distinct lack of physical touch. 2:10 5. They don't make any plans with you. - 2:35 6. They rarely reach out or check out on you. - 3:11 7. They tend to let you down/break their promises. - 3:39 8. They don't listen to your opinions. - 4:10 I hope it helped, the video is really good, like all the other videos.
I just realized I do all these towards someone I'm supposed to be the closest... It hit me like a rock, but now that I think about it, they've hurt me too much to even care... So yeah, I guess we're not forced to like everyone we're supposed to be close to
As harsh as this might sound, but it's one of the reasons why I isolate myself from others because I know they don't really like me or care for me in the first place. It's not a healthy habit to think that everyone is out to get me or that they'll just shoot me down whenever I try to talk to people because they'll just tell me to "leave them alone" or "go away" or "why are you talking to me", but it's those reasons why I never make the first move because of past rejections. Sometimes I wished that I were invisible or a nobody than everyone hating me.
Rejects can hurt us tremendously and make us want to isolate to protect ourselves, but do you think that there are like-minded people out there who would love to befriend you?
And I thought I was all alone! It seems like I've always been the rejected for 1 reason or another, since I can remember. I wonder why some of us are rejected or not accepted? Life is so unpredictable and at times VERY CRUEL. Having a personal relationship with our creator does help fill the void when the heart is deeply wounded.
Why pretend if they know they don't like you? They might as well be straightforward so everyone can move on. That's easier said that done, but it truly works out better for everyone involved in the end.
@@marilynmeek1200 It’s not always that simple. I even want to believe it usually isn’t what people are actually feeling. I’ve also had someone I didn’t really like talking to, but I felt bad for them if I suddenly stopped hanging out with them.
A girll i really like started off super into things i said shared laughs even ... now treats me with all the stuff in this video. And i have no clue why and when i ask about it she swears theres no issue ... then proceeds to avoid me I obviously like her less now but the hurt is in that i still think when things are reciprocal we are compatible
@@marilynmeek1200 As soon as you realize what they are doing, please do your best to get out of that cycle no matter how tough it is to do it. Don't look back. You won't regret it.
I feel like the points being made in this video should be taken with a grain of salt. Everyone is multifaceted and expresses themselves differently. So, assuming that everyone hates you from this one video can be detrimental to your mental health. At the end of the day, if you really want to know someone's true feelings about you, it's always best to just ask. Please don't just assume. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. I know it's easier said than done, but it's the best way to get clarity. And, if things are still vague after talking with said person, then you may have your answer. Positive thinking is a difficult thing. It actually took quite a while for me to become a positive thinker myself. Keep pushing though. You got it!
While I don't completely disagree with the narrative conveyed in this video, the authors ascribed value judgments to behaviours that can have a multiple meanings: 0:35 People mirror each others body language. If a person is closed and negative, it might be a reflection of our physical presence, not a judgment of our value 1:05 A fake smile can mean many things. Something going on in that person's day/life that they are trying to hide, or would prefer not to burden you with 1:40 Short and impersonal conversations is a communication style. Some people are quiet, reserved, but that doesn't mean they dislike you 2:09 Physical touch is a prime example of feelings of safety. However, some people prefer not to touch others physically, or reserve touch for romantic relationships 2:35 If everyone waited for their friends to initiate plans, plans would never get made 3:10 Checking up on your friends is a good way to show you care without a doubt, but life gets busy and its not necessarily about you 3:37 If your someone lets you down or breaks promises, it may be a reflection of their character vs. how much they value you 4:10 Listening to your opinions is one thing, agreeing is another. Friend's don't always have to agree, but they should be open to listening.
This is why I find so much psycology stuff bullshit...it depends on time, place, people we all act different at different times one set of behaviour doesn't automatically mean you are X, Y or Z way.
@@misstigerbubbles This video commits what's called the fundamental attribution error, a basic concept in any social psyc 1010 class. It's basically when you incorrectly view a "friend's" behaviour as a static attribute (e.g., they dislike you), rather than something situational (e.g., they're having a bad day/week/month etc.). I'm actually surprised a psychology based youtube channel would publish such content, as it can cause real psychological harm to persons who will now misattribute harmless behaviours of their friends to them being "disliked"...
@@irefuse2stop I suppose that this video should be taken with a grain of salt, and maybe a better way to phrase this is that each of these signs that someone is exhibiting increases the likelihood that they dislike you.
Ultimately at the end of the day not everyone is going to like you. You have to make sure that you love yourself and value yourself enough to not let those little things bother you.
Refs I got in the art : 0:16 Isabella and Mirabel 0:25 Heather's ref 0:38 Hayloft Poster 0:55 Tommyinnit, Tubbo, Ranboo 1:19 I think Regina George 1:31 Gravity Falls Journal 1:51 Bruno Madrigal and maybe Wendy from GF (Credit to the person in the comments !!) 1:53 BBH and Skeppy 2:14 Heather's ref 2:22 LasNevedas poster, Lovejoy Album, Klaus Ref (Umbrella Academy) 3:51 Amethyst from Steven Universe 4:14 I think an Eret or Technoblade ref
It's the irony of life: We form our identity and self worth through our relationships with others, only to eventually learn that 80% of what others say feel and do has more to do with their own inner struggles than with us.
This one hit the mark! As in whole group of people I thought were friends--some I have known for decades. Having revealed this oversight on my part I have come to realize that I am much better off without them. With distance comes reflection and acceptance. I am in a better place now on most fronts.
I want to add an additional point to this: they will always remember/recognize you for something. I say this because a lot of people can recognize me (even if I'm in a cosplay they've never seen before) and we do live in a time where people will often remember you more for the bad things you did vs. the good things. If you look at social media, this is more fact than fiction. I always try to remember people I keep in touch with for the positive impressions they left on me in the past, but I have a gut feeling people only ever recall me because of things like "hey I remember that guy, he's associated with that particular person that has a horrible reputation!"....and no I'm not making that up.
This is very helpful information. My friends never show me those signs and I will do everything to keep my best friend relationships with friends going.
@@Psych2go Thx I appreciate it and when I get things from my friends saying that they can’t hang out because they got work they mean it because making money is important for them.
secretly no i have know that all my life. ppl that you though where you're friends but dropped you as quick as they can :( i always wondered why I had to ask everything ,send things ,or organize stuff but yet no one did the same for me. i asked my self a lot why i still try and bother to text them a try to organize things, or to meet. to keep getting the same result everytime " i will let you know when i can" and than waiting months. instead of just saying sorry i dont want to go with you. i asked myself alot, is it to much to ask to the universe that maybe one person will like me and that one person wants to have something to do with me. but than im not alowed to talk about it because if i do im a lonely crybaby that is ungradefull that im struggling with that pathetic stuff and push everyone further a way
Sometimes if I desperately (and secretly ) want to be friends with someone The intimidation makes it it hard to do any physical contact So it is not always a sign of disinterest
I already know everybody who "secretly" dislikes me, so not so secret to me. Definitely when you don't hear from them anymore, and they're short on interactions you do have. "Friends" suck.
@@davec3651 One thing that I am sure of is that there are people for everyone, since these comments show me that there are people like you who seem genuinely nice. What I'm trying to say is that you're not objectively unlikeable, but rather the people around you right now are just not a good fit for you.
@@Interestking thank you, I hope you're right because I'm still holding out hope on finding the right one(s) for me. Time wastes away quickly however, and even I'm not sure if I'm a genuinely nice person anymore. Though I used to be sure I was...
This is an interesting potentially esteem-deflating video. P2G is usually almost delusionally positive and enabling in their messaging. So it's a healthy variation on the theme, but can't help but have some mixed feelings.
hi, i’m abi. i know u don’t know me but u have changed my life. u might think that’s just a saying but u really have. u made me learn i have bad anxiety and depression. last monday i thought was the last day i was going to be on this earth. before i was going to do anything i watched one of your videos and i realized how much i mean to the world. i still think some of the things i thought but don’t feel like i have to leave this world. i bought your anxiety and depression magazine and bought the preorder of the box. i just want to thank u for changing my life and being the reason i’m still here.
8 Signs you secretly disliked by others. 1. 0:35 Their body language towards you is closed and negative. 2. 1:05 They fake a smile around you. 3. 1:40 They keep your conversation short and impersonal. 4. 2:09 There's a distinct lack of physical touch. 5. 2:35 They don't make any plans with you. 6. 3:10 They rarely reach out or check up on you. 7. 3:37 They tend to let you down/break their promises. 8. 4:10 They don't listen to your opinions.
I noticed that some family and friends don’t contact me if I didn’t contact them. Or 1 cousin, I asked her so many times to grab a bite, my treat. I understand that people are busy, but years went by and I didn’t meet up with her. That’s a major red flag for me. Offering free food and not taking me up on it.
im literally the sweetest person ever, but feel like everyone dislikes me all the time. i can think of so many people who probably dislike me and i dont deserve it. it‘s because they‘re inherently so mean :/ i just want (a) true friend(s).
Myself, being anxious and self conscious, immediately clicking Btw: Everyone is an amazing person and I bet your perfect as you are, so remember to smile :D
This... This video..... Clearly described one of my best friend. Some of my friends told me when I talk about her that our relation looks like a toxic one, but I don't really listened to them, thinking that she was just in bad days and that's why she's not kind with me. But...In fact I know now that it's not. It hurts deeply. I've trusted her. It hurts.
People in the first stage of friendship can be falling into these categories. Some people are just very awkward/uncomfortable for various reasons even far after their first meeting. People who just have a benefit-based relationship with you (like in the business field) also tend to behave like that.
I think my online best friend secretly is starting to hate me, that's why it's so difficult to find out. I watch these kinds of videos and it's always "body language" "making plans" "physical touch" or something like that, we don't don't have that at all in the friendship because it's literally impossible to
You should also know that it might just because they really don't know how to act near you, they're feeling awkward and shy but it varies all the time so follow your guts or ask them about it
A lot of these signs do not apply to people who have autism. How do I know? Because I am autistic. I exhibit a lot of these signs but it’s mainly because I’m already having a hard enough time walking around because my nervous system is almost always on overload. I found it helpful to tell people that I have autism and that the normal body language or social cues that you would expect from a normal person do not apply with me.
I've been a sucker. People only invited me to events that cost money and never invited to things that didn't. They don't make conversations with me and always back out on events I'm holding. I guess I'm despicable.
So I have mild austism and assumed ADHD, and I cannot amke eye contact with anyone while having a conversation because it's like my ears pick up everything else in the room. I always forget to answer texts, sometimes I cancel plans when the depression and anxiety sets in due to the aforementioned. I just don't talk to the people I don't like. I am 💯 not the only person who does this. This video is a little dangerous for those without awareness...
Just, hopefully there can be an awareness that people with certain social disabilities can unconsciously do some of these things.... and if there isn't an actual conversation with the person, you don't actually know how they feel.
if it makes you feel better, I think the list is meant to suggest that there needs to be a significant combination of these traits to happen for it to be considered that they dislike you. for instance, I'm never one to initiate plans with my friends or reaching out as often as they do. its a bad habit of mine that I'm getting better at now that i'm older, but i do the opposite of most of these other categories. but technically speaking, I may fall under doing at least one or two of these signs but for reasons that have nothing to do with disliking them. sometimes it does help reaching out to those friends about your concerns, since I have had friends approach about my habit of not reaching out or making plans and I've been able to clear those misconceptions and work towards reversing those habits. I hope this helps you.
I'd like to be friends with myself from an external view point to see if I would like me as a friend. I used to self reflect this way when in my 20s then life got a bit to chaotic in my late 20s early 30s and I have forgotten how to self reflect in a none judgemental way. I find it used to help me see if I was a problem among friends or family etc and not always when something had happened sometimes I'd just try and self reflect to see if I would actually like me as a person. I hope this made sense
if you offend a real friend ---- you can win them back by giving it a rest sometimes. But if they never forgive or give you mixed signals all the time -you may need counsel and be prepared to end that relationship. Speaking of friendship here now.
I had this 'friend' for about 4 years.. because of covid we always chatted through Google Chat, but now she rarely even looks at my messages anymore. She replies short or probably negative messages, "I give up to read all these" "Okay gtg" "I think it's already worthless to read your messages" We used to make plans to play video games together, but now I feel like I'm the only one trying to make plans with her, and of course she never replies. I probably think that she might hate me for typing too much messages, so I tried not to speak too much. But of course it failed. I watched your other videos and decided to ignore her from Google chat.. It's probably for the best :D
Id rather have no friends than have friends who pretend to care tbh. I had this one group of “friends” who i knew for years that I felt was everything I wanted in people to surround myself with. We did everything together. Played games, watched movies and shows, vented with each other, even met up together one time (long distance friend group). Idk what happened tho, once the pandemic hit its like everything changed on their outlook of me. They started excluding me in activities, making group chats without me. When we all met up they didnt even let me room with them in their airbnb, i had to buy my own hotel just to be able to be there. I know that sounds like it shouldve been a red flag but, i wouldve done anything to see my only real friends for once. I didnt look at everything as anything bad or something, i just gave them the benefit of the doubt because they were what i considered as my only friends. Shit like this is honestly traumatizing and mentally scarring. Makes me wonder if at any time were we friends at all, or if they were just being nice to me the entire time. 🥺
@Damon Salvatore no need to be sorry about the rant lol 😊 its honestly the worst feeling thinking that you have people around you who care when they actually dont. Im sorry you also went through something similar 🥺😞
I am also going through something similar. It was alright before the pandemic but in the pandemic I lost touch with everyone. Now that we meet again, I feel distant. They have inside jokes and whisper things to each other in front of me. I had a sort of confrontation with them and they told me it was my fault for not putting efforts into my friendships and that I am to be blamed for it. I apologized and asked to understand that I made mistakes because of my introversion and social anxiety. I thought things would be better but it's not. Idk what to do. Why can't they just be honest and cut things off with me if they don't like me anymore. It's atleast better than treating me like this.
oh, people don't secretly dislike me, they openly dislike me. I just don't know how to fix it so instead I just shut myself in bc I have a bad habit of running from my problems. I'm basically a hikikomori at this point except for my 2 on-campus classes
As an introvert and cold hearted person , I do all these things to people but that doesn't mean I dislike them . I just need personal time and less friends . I am cold hearted because I faced many things in my past so I don't wanna repeat those mistakes and get betrayed . Well, I'm not spreading hate to this video . I just wanna tell that if your friend shows these signs , doesn't mean they hate you . If you think that they dislike you and wanna end the friendship , you can discuss it with them and close the matter . 🙂
Same and it really sucks how I must come off to some people. Especially since this happened to me one time and I just felt like crap about it. I wish people would talk to me about it so I could clear it up with them like I did with my friend that I thought hated me. Turns out she was just going through something and she needed more personal space to work things out.
Thank you so much for this video. I just realize that all my life like my entire school life and including my college life I had been surrounded by those persons who don't even like me.
I feel like if a person is trying to convince you to not do something but you really want to, if it doesn't affect them and it's not illegal or extremely dangerous, then you might just agree on that point, but you can still like each other.
0:35 their body language towards you is closed and negative 1:05 they fake a smile around you 1:40 they keep their conversations short and impersonal 2:11 theres a distinct lack of physical touch 2:35 they dont make any plans with you 3:08 they rarely reach out or check out on you 3:38 they tend to let you down/break their promises 4:09 They dont listen to your opinions
I just watched this video, mainly due to my anxiety thinking that why I don’t have any friends anymore is because of this and I find out I am right. I so didn’t want to be right. I so didn’t want to be right, I wanted to be wrong! Having to come to the realization that 98% (possibly 100%) of the people who I thought and believed were friends actually weren’t. It really hurts. Finding out the majority of your life was basically being taken advantage of, lied to, made fun of behind your back and ignored when you asked for just company….hurts. A lot. I’m going to try to calm down and stop tearing up from all this knowledge I have received. May everyone have a good night and true friends. May I find one for myself, someday.
This sums up most people I know. But I just roll with it. I'm me........I can't change, and shouldn't have to. I'm friendly to everyone I have to deal with day in, day out. Beyond that, their judgement is their prerogative. I don't have time for too many friends anyway. They can be a nuisance. I say that from experience.
I used to be disliked by many people, almost all the kids in 7th grade hated me so much. I also believe that most young people in my age or younger are jerks, they smoke, drink alcohol and get drunk, they cuss and stuff
My parents moved so often that I was actually hated by thousands of people, but never liked. It's not easy but I've learned to live with it. I remember being requested to ignore the signs!
i’m currently doing this on purpose to one of my “friends” bc all they talk about are grades but i don’t think they realize it, whether they’re complaining about their grades, or asking for my grade on a certain subject. they call their grades bad even though they’re better than mine and i don’t think i can deal with them anymore. you might think that this is kind of harsh but you don’t know the extent they do it to. we barely talk about anything else but when we do talk, it’s about comparing their grade to mine. i act uninterested and try to switch the subject because i’m clearly uncomfortable but they continue to insist and i don’t know why. it doesn’t seem like they care to think of how it affects me which is worth losing a friend in the friend group in my personal opinion. ok i just needed to get this off of my shoulders thx to whoever reads this
Look, I too have a friend like this. You should communicate with them, ask them what their interests and hobbies are. MAYBE, They are not good at exploring and talking about new topics. But if you wanna get out of it , you need to know them. Suppose, in my case, my friend says the same thing to me that he doesn't get decent grades and all though he scored better than me but then I sarcastically appreciate him and I start a new topic (say how's your life going or what you have been up to or what are your future plans or have you watched the football match last night or any recent activity or interaction ,etc. ) If they like to keep the convo short, try not to gossip but talk something meaningful (which means to both of you or both of you are interested) but if he's ready for those long conversation, then just go on, start knowing them better as well as express yourself too if you want to ( if he's able to understand you or not or because he is a close friend whatever the reason may be it's your choice to open up)
Well that just answered some questions I had about why I'm so socially awkward. Growing up, a lot of these were how most people treated or talked to me, so talking and interacting like seems to have become my baseline. Think we can get a Psych2Go on what to do if you grew up with people treating you like this? I really have no idea on what to do now because at this point these interactions I learned may be a bit too ingrained to really change out.
Everyone in my life is miserable condescending people since i was a child in school my parents teachers all the way too now at 18 everyone i only ever engage in conversation with my small group of friends 3 where we rant about shit and joke around. But everyone else just doesn't fit and i cant deal with their arrogance so ive never had any relationship outside of them 3 really. And they like brothers they are so close its not good i don't think because i can only have proper conversation with them and it gets boring same applies with them.
The fact that half of these references are Dsmp is just funny to me- Whether it's the characters linking with the lore, or the Lovejoy poster in the background of one of the points-
I’m going to be honest number 5 -7 signs were the ones I noticed with my friends. Only reaching out of convenience not care & love. Because of who I am people exclude me because I’m different from them. I know what this feels like & when it came to my friends. I don’t really have it in for me to be angry with them anymore. Just mostly sadness & disappointment more than anything. The sad thing is I’m afraid I may never be at peace. I lost my light with friendships & relationships.
Just wanted to thank psych2go for having massively increased my knowledge about mental health, human nature, & just general psychological stuff. I'd been around mental health related stuff since at least the age of 5 (I'm 20 now for context) but barely got anything as broadly useful as what you guys provide. I know this isn't supposed to be a professional opinion but all the information presented has made me a more understanding, empathetic human being & has helped me deal with my own mental health & that of others around me regardless. While this channel isn't solely responsible for all the good in me, its still been immensely helpful for me. & even if it's not directly helpful, its just plain interesting to see what you guys post sometimes. So uhh thanks for making easy to digest truly helpful or just interesting content, y'all are awesome. Thanks!
Bumped into this video. And in perfect timing. Most of the people I used to hang out with are exhibiting the signs mentioned in the vid. I'm pretty much a loner anyway and alone I shall be.
Although I know as adults we all have our own individual life's more & more I'm starting to kind of feel like maybe my own little brother may not like me. Sure we love each other, we talk at times, and he'll show up at our parents for holidays or join in to help make a birthday mean something, but 9/10 times asking to just spend time together just leads to disappointment
I keep my so-called friends at arm’s length because of all the abuse I took from my father, my brothers, and dad’s side of the family (with a few exceptions.). In short, with those few exception, I went no-contact with both sides of the family since mom passed away. It’s bad enough I hate myself at the best of times: I don’t need the vitriol from everyone and their brother.
