Im ashamed of literally everything, my self confidence is absolutely garbage, but this helped me realize im blaming myself for nothing and am just holding myself back, so thanks
@@Psych2go thank you! I've been dealing with some major life changes since I turned 18. It was an awesome video as usual and made me feel much better about myself and my decisions.
1.A failure - 00:59 2.A rejection - 01:39 3.Not living up to the standards - of others. - 02:26 4.Something out of your control. - 03:04 5.Stigmas And Prejudice.- 03:50 6. Your feelings. - 04:35 7.Putting Yourself first. - 05:13 8.Saying "no". - 05:59 9.Needing help. - 06:38 Thnx for such an informative vid! :) Edit- thnx for 719 likes! :)
The number 7 hits hard. I want to take a break from school by playing a little bit but parents man. "Become a doctor" and I failed 1 test because they took my tablet it was the test night and they took it the deadline was tomorrow. Next day they blamed me for not passing the online test. That's bad parenting at its finest folks.
@@r1nzu134 feeling sorry for u man. We all face that. Even when I didnt do anything my parents also blame me. But yeah one day we will show them what we are and we can do :)
I’ve got friends who tell me not to cry when I feel like crying and those who tell me to let it out. The ones that tell me to let it out are so refreshing. Everyone always says “aww don’t cry” but it’s nice to have someone just let me cry without making it feel like crying makes my feelings invalid. I feel like people always take those who are crying less seriously? Like it makes them more “emotional” so whatever they’re upset about isn’t as bad.
As someone who repressed their emotions to the point where they can’t cry, cry when you want to, it’s so much better then bottling it up and dealing with it later
The feelings one reminded me of my school. There were signs everywhere saying "Control your anger" or "Being happy is your choice" and it just made me feel like I was doing something wrong.
I am so glad you posted this because before this I was crying for 4 HOURS because of my grades because i got my first ever “f” and my friend parents just said to me “you used to be the good child.” They didn’t even apologize
I’m sorry :( that’s not fair and kind of messed up. You are more than just your grades. And an F isn’t a big deal in the long run. I failed a few tests in high school but still got into a great university
Don't be sad... Even I failed math before and during the important exam I got a B Maybe now you might have not gotten that high for your results maybe next time you'd get your high grades
"Your emotions want to be embraced. Don't feel ashamed for having them." And that's when I started crying for no immediate reason. I'll be honest, feels a little indignant being told by a voice on a video to feel and suddenly feeling. But I guess this is what I needed tonight. Thanks, Psych2Go
✨1. A failure ✨2. A rejection ✨3. Not living up to the standards of others ✨4. Something out of your control, including a conditioned response from early life ✨5. Stigmas and prejudices ✨6. Your feelings ✨7. Putting yourself first ✨8. Saying "no" ✨9. Needing help
I used to be so scared of embarrassment because of these points. I was the perfect student. And when suddenly it all crumbled I was so scared. It was like everyone is laughing and blaming me. And some were really laughing. It was not just my imagination. I am sometimes still scared of the embarrassment that follows it. But I tried to not mind stuff. Sometimes when I am very down some memories come and just make me feel so weird like everything I do is so bad. But still, I will do some things again. And it feels weird. To ignore that voice that says I will be laughed at if I do something but later It gets praised by someone else that because I was brave enough to say no or brave enough to fight against stupid rules someone wanted to put on me. Just to ask for help because I couldn't do it. Sometimes people say they sit there hoping someone see them worthy to ask for help in a certain area. But no one does. Asking help might not be just helpful to you. It can boost others confidence too. Like really. Even if voice inside my head scream that I will maybe feel embarrassment later, I will still not listen sometimes. Even that experience will teach me something. And some people are born assholes. They just want to push you down no matter what you do.
@@v1s54l8 tell that shit to my parents, they literally scream at me for cutting myself and then ground me for it , I do it because stress depression and suicide are constantly there , and they decide to fucking respond to it with more fucking emotional abuse
@@v1s54l8 meanwhile my parents straight respond to me cutting myself with grounding and insulting me , because I’m not their perfect fucking son who’s so pure and good who never would do anything against those beliefs like being gay or failing math , all they do is post anything they find out about me no matter how personal on Facebook and expect people not to dislike me and then insult me for their shortcomings, they make a mistake or the internet drops and it my fault immediately because I was in the room distracting them
@@dsyrdragon3309 well...I’ve never been in that situation before so I have no idea what to say or do but in all honesty. I’m here for you. In fact, everyone is here for you! 👩🏻💻🍵 so if you aren’t feeling as happy or maybe you’re insecure, you can always come here and read all the positive comments.
@@Mockduck2020 I mean like if you try to not care about others and ignore your empathy and shame, you will become more sociopathic, and if you do this a lot, you will start thinking like a sociopath.
I'm trying showing this to my parents but they are so close-minded and they are still stuck in the past they never listen to when I have to say and always expect me to be a lot more better because they think it's best for me when they don't understand my choice is
You are not alone I totally have the same issue with my fam. Sometimes it's their way of overprotecting us and themselves because something new always seems like a threat.
The solution to that is dont care about what ur parents say. Do what you love, and find another support system like friends for example. But still care for your parents
I feel as though my parents have one vision for me, but the truth is I don't need to prove myself to anyone, so why should I feel like I need to prove myself to anyone if some people will never change?
What brought my spirits up while watching this video is when the cat showed up. I love cats. I very often feel ashamed of myself when I go over and over in my mind the events I could have done better on. Like letting myself get taken advantage of by salesmen and talked into doing or buying something I don't want. This happens a lot and I feel ashamed for not standing up for myself.
there are few decisions i made that were against my parent's will without them knowing, but my elder sibling told them everything in a very brutal manner. Everyone turned against me, punished me in every possible way they could, said thousand of things that broke me into thousand pieces, i am living with it from last 12 months, somedays i just cant help my head to not to replay those words. its getting worse, things are normal with parents but definitely not inside me.
Blaming yourself is a major problem. I think everyone do it and I also do it. It take all my energy. I am not able to do things that I like also. It really makes me tired mentally and physically but your video helped a lot. Thanks.💓
Like some months ago, I hugged all of my shames and literally love all the things that used to make me ashamed of myself. I now I am weird because I have the weird ability to do this but I am just saying it for those people that feel like other ways are not going to work for themselves to stop carrying their own shame.
I get shamed for being very sensitive and get called weak for crying, but the thing is that if I wasn't strong I wouldn't have made it this far, at least I'm smart enough to care about others feelings and help them feel accepted the way I wanted to be helped and the way I wanted to feel understood and accepted, I rarely feel understood but I'm still strong and at least I have myself and I understand myself which is enough most of the time but I do wish more people would be considerate that way we can live a little happier
Oh, thank you so very much! There are a couple of these that have affected me quite a lot, and I have been blaming myself quite a lot for my entire life. Hearing this video has been very strengthening for me, it has made me feel great.
There is something I am scared of. If I openly appreciate someone/something or declare my fondness/love, something bad always happens to them. It has happened so many times that now I try to never show my appreciation/thoughts to people or things. I am so scared that sometimes I cry when this happens. I don’t wanna lose the people around me. :(
This is indeed re-assuring and a healing experience to hear. Yes, yes, yes. I cried a little about no. 7 "putting yourself first" because I've been feeling so lethargic and tired from life, what's been going on, and specially classes and I felt like I was being lazy so I beat myself up figuratively. I needed to hear this so much! Thank youuuu for making videos psych2go 😭💖
I’ve always felt ashamed my whole life. I truly believe it stems back from when I was a child as my mother would constantly criticise me for not being the perfect person she wanted. If I disagreed with her she’d be verbally abusive and say no one will ever love me, if I didn’t want to do something she’d be physically abusive. It was like that all through my childhood and teens.
This video is helpful. I always hide my face because I don't have enough confidence, as I think I'm not beautiful. I always hear from my classmates and from family members that I'm not too good looking. I really feel sad. So I always hide my face. I know how it feels when nobody sees u as special. So I always say anyone I meet 'u look gorgeous today'. Even though nobody repeats the same line to me back. It may be the first time someone told them they are gorgeous or not. I hate myself to look like this. So I always say all by myself 'I'm beautiful '. We can't be gifted with all.. thanks to this channel I have improved a lot ,to try and love myself. Nobody will ever say that I'm beautiful but it's okay. I have a heart and mouth I can say it myself. That's for giving me the confidence
This channel is helping me soooo much! I found you just in time - I had a HIDEOUS experience with someone this week and have been physically, emotionally and spiritually sick over it for days. Anger at myself and SO MUCH SHAME! How could I have been so stupid to ignore the warning signs, which were all there in 3,000 pt scarlet red font, bold, italicized and underscored?? How thick could I possibly be - like I haven’t been down this path ad nauseum. Anyway, I cannot afford therapy - I’m super grateful that you’re here. And a million thanks for your lovely, calm voice. I cannot and will not listen to screechy voices, vocal fries 😵💫🍟, roboticized voices or loud talkers - whatever message they’re trying to convey.
Shame is so hard to get rid of. I try so hard to not feel shame for who I am. But I constantly overanalyse my actions and feel like a horrible person. I can't seem to stop I feel like it's ingrained in me and it's a feeling that I've had my whole life
this is one of the most helpful videos i have seen in a while. there are a lot of things i really needed to hear in this video, so thank you. also, to everyone reading this, I hope you have an amazing day or night wherever you are. you are a beautiful human being and you deserve so much love
I'm in tears right now, I feel less alone, Thank you so much for making these videos 💜💜💜 I found this one at the right moment, I'm so glad I watched it!!
I absolutely love this channel and everything you are doing to bring psychology to level of understanding that everyone can digest. Your videos have helped me understand more about myself and others around me. But I have to say, I was delighted when you mentioned uncle Iroh. This man, though not real, is synonyms with words of wisdom and encouragement. Everyone should have someone like this in their life. I wanted to say thank you very much for mentioning this wonderful character.
Blaming yourself holds you back from your true potential. Things not to blame yourself: 1. A failure Even if you failed, you still got experience from it. 2. A rejection Rejection most of the time isn't your fault as it takes more parties to participate. 3. Not living to the expectation of the others. You are your own person, you decide what you want. 4. Something out of your control. As It says, it's out of your control, there's nothing you could have done. 5. Stigmas and prejudice of others. You are not alone, there's nothing to be ashamed of any mental health or issues society stigmazed. 6. Your feelings. Emotions are part of us, most of the times you have no control over it, which means it ain't your fault. You are valid. 7. Putting yourself first. It's wise to put yourself first in order to continue the life road. It's not selfish, it's important. Consider it on your routine. 8. Saying "no". Sometimes you can't do things and doing these just for approval is not healthy, you deserve a break sometimes. 9. Needing help. You, like everyone else on the world, are not perfect. It's not weak to accept and ask for help, you are just opening yourself and sometimes you don't even control when you ask in a impulse. It's okay.
I was feeling really ashamed of a phase I went through when I was a teenager and just realizing how far I’ve come from then and realizing how it wasn’t in my control and I shouldn’t be ashamed of it really made me feel a 1000 times better, Thank you Physc2go this is the best birthday gift I could ask for😭🔥
"It's their opinion vs your facts." "They need to respect your comfort levels and you as a whole." Thank you so much! I felt like that was meant for me to hear ❤
Something I'd like to add- enjoying "childish" things! When things are hard cartoons, my stuffed bear who I still sleep with, blowing bubbles, wearing a pretty dress just at home- it's such a healthier coping mechanism for me than what I would usually do in the past (don't wanna get into that, but it was not healthy) and I refuse to be ashamed of it! Really, any coping mechanism/interest/hobby as long as it doesn't harm you or others don't let anyone bring you down for it
Thank you for making this video I have a mild mental disability and anxiety disorder as much as people care sometimes they don’t understand that I can’t help not pay attention or need more rest so really feel like I have to be good at everything but this video reminds me that I am doing my best and the is enough
I always put the blame on myself for everything ranging from if people don't invite me to anything that is happening in my family's life.. Your video is so refreshing and at the same time it is making me emotional to think that there are people who thinks exactly like me.. Thanks for the video..keep making this type of video. Also a request to make a video on over thinking
I feel as though my parents expect me to become among one of the greatest scientific minds in history because my dad went back to finish college so he could "well I did it". I'm questioning if I even want to go to college because it would cost quite a bit as well. I don't feel pressured to love up to their expectations because I feel that as the parents, it is their responsibility to be there for me whether or not I live the life they envisioned for me. "Don't be a people pleaser, you can't please them all". This is no exception. Do what makes you happy and strive to become the best YOU can be.
This new animation style is soooo cute!!! I'll admit I've had my moments of failure. Creating my art has become more relaxing for me than anything else throughout the pandemic. Thank you for this video! 💞
@@Psych2go absolutely! I know past videos showed that style, oftentimes simple and other times crisp and sharp. I have a soft spot for all things animation, even anime. The figures always have the cutesy features. They give me comfort. ☺️
I just started some of your videos and I want to say that everything about this video is so calming and heartwarming, I feel so much better after watching. Thank you! Also, I subscribed!
I don't feel ashamed now when Psyche2Go mentioned about asking for help and putting myself first for the things that I shouldn't be ashamed of. By the way, the cat is cute.
I am very ashamed of my childhood! It’s really disgusting and cringe, so I try my best to hide it from others therefore no one else in this world of ours can know a thing about it. Back then when I was in 4th grade, I used to be cool with it, but when I reached 7th grade, I thought it was the main cause of my problems so I felt like trying to ignore it. I tried playing my games, drinking (not alcohol), watching funny videos, going outside, drawing, and etc. That’s all I need to say right now
There are two school in life when it comes to failure. One, that only encourage perfectionosm and favor the ones who succeed early even if they only grasps the concepts on a surface level. The other, that teach you that, for exemple, art block is simply you misusing your failures to build a wall rather than stairs toward your goal.
This is literally me right now in every aspect and has been since at least middle school...im 29 now and an Alcoholic...the only one that im not worried about is people knowing I have severe depression and is a alcoholic
This will be my very first comment I'd ever written on RU-vid even though, like most, I've been a lurker. Been watching a lot of your videos and they are both fun and informative. But the real reason I'm writing is to thank you for getting my friend, Ricket to be part of your wonderful channel! Congrats Ricket!
Every time i study the darkest and shameful memories draw back to me. That is past i know and it's been a year now but they keep on haunting me. A year ago i was depressed for months was at the lowest i have ever been. Now I'm at last in academy and my personality switch to a quiet withdrawn person. I kinda dislike the fact that I'm so weak to be still affected by thing done a year ago.
I just bumped my Chemistry exam and I feel extremely guilty and ashamed as it isn't the first time I've failed.. My parents take care of me and my education.. I kinda feel like I've failed them too.
Note with number 2 and 3; i have always wanted to get into the student council at my school. It took over 5 years to get into it and now I’m the secretary of the student council. I’m also one of the more popular people in my school dispite the fact I consider myself a loner and I have always had a small group of friends. There is also nothing wrong with persevering with something you care about
People frequently try to shame me, about my skin colour. I get told "you need a sun-bed or fake-tan", all the time. I tell these people "all I need is for you, to stop making racist comments at me." I shan't be ashamed of not matching up to their prejudices. Great video, thank you :-)
A little shame for mistakes is good. It means you know you have to do better next time if not for whomever you mistake hurts, but yourself. I know people that never feel bad when they screw up, snd they just keep msking the same error.
Thank you for uploading this. I got scammed recently and I so ashamed about it. I feel completely stupid for putting my trust in someone and being impulsive. I’ve always been depressed and anxious so I’m struggling to get over it.
@@Psych2go thank you, I’m just trying to cope with it and trying to learn from this. But I can’t stop thinking about it. When I asked for a refund and explained myself, the scammer called me a scammer and threatened to report me online, saying he didn’t have the money and he didn’t have to do anything. It was a horrible experience. How would you overcome something like this?
Thanks! I'm walking this path now. I hope it leads to healthy authenticity/self actualization. I worry it might result in isolation because everyone seems toxic/psychopathic/narcissist. 😕
I'm really grateful that your videos exist, some of them helped me a lot in times there was noone there for me, Huge thank you from me, keep it up, hugs 🤗
