90 Day Fiancé: Bilal THREATENS Shaeeda After She HITS Him 

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Yea I agree 100% it doesn't matter, she doesn't have anyone there. Even if she play hit him that doesn't justify him abandoning her knowing she doesn't have anyone. This is how ppl bring ppl to the States and then control them.

True I was in the same situation learn my lesson never go to a foreign country with our my own money and my own plan

How else is this small man going to feel powerful

@Jessika Kaur bs stop defending this narcissist

Agreed! He tried to Lord over her!

He is supposed to choose the The Lord Allah over her. She should keep her hands to herself at that moment, bc things are to serious. Now if they were playing and they played like that then I guess it's ok. But I am a Muslim and no matter what I wouldn't put my hands on my husband. And God comes before everyone.

@@sonyahuett998 I’m muslim too and the way he demeans and disrespecting her is uncalled for and wrong.Too controlling. I would never put my hands on husband but the same applies to him vice versa.There needs to be mutual respect and partnership.

Facts!

Absolutely, I would call a car service and head to the airport. They have a parent-child relationship for sure and it's not going to get better.

Absolutely! She need fi lef him. He's going to make her life miserable. He's going to put her down to make himself feel better. Serious red flags wid dah man deh! He is going to suck the life and joy out of her.

That’s how Caribbean people “express” certain things. Like a sweet joke yuh wanna hit yuh friend and say girl and slap his/her shoulder

Don't disrespect me

Sad, but true! Smh😔❤️

Remember that is in Jamaica not the places he came from 🤨 Hands to your self is the first thing you learn in KG! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Piarco international next stop

She need that green card. She should play along and get status

Bw are the most bitter women on earth 🤣🤣🤣

Leave her on the road, she'll uber for herself, don't tolerate disrespect

@@diamonddiamond2024 agreed ppl tellibg her to go home as if life in d caribbean easy

I will just pack and leave, the man is toxic

well actually if she stays she's the one destroying her personality because she's far from a victim if she stays in this relationship and she dies in this relationship she allowed it it's best that she sees her red flags and goes back home to the people that love and respect her and then her personality will be intact!

YOU GOT IT ❗️

Agreed!

This is so true.! You have to follow rules in someone else’s home and if you don’t like it then move out!

unacceptable! Agee !!

Yes run girl run he's going to make your life hell!

She should keep her hands ✋️ off him .

He's a trashbag bandit. She needs to go home.

😂😂😂😂😂.

I watched her face and the expression. It was definitely a playful little tap. My gosh! Why is he making a mountain over a Molehill? I would run from this "full of himself " guy.

Very playful.. It's a cultural thing that he didnt get abt her. Go home 🇹🇹🇹🇹🌺

No. Tapping someone on the head is rude. There are certain areas that shouldn't be touched even when one is being playful.

He is horribly disrespectful.

Don't ever tolerate disrespect, good in him

He dont live with his mom he got his own crib he was pretending

He wouldn't have continued to touch her and been an adukt and realized she was being serious... he never crossed a physical boundary

Seriously if he wasn’t playing and she hit him he had every right to set a clear and healthy boundary such as THOUGH SHALT NOT HIT ME, had he popped her upside the head he’d be in jail

@@Wolfythecat2023 She didn't hit him. She touched him with a little tap. I'm getting huge narc vibes from him.

He's a PUNK WICKED BOY

Right .Until now he seems to be a real controlling narcistic guy

No because she wants his money😂

THIS

Yes

Exactly smh 🎯💯

She lacks respect

Lol mature?... because grown ppl commit battery against each other alk the time

Definitely disrespectful

that’s like saying she shouldn’t be wearing shorts just because her husband there ?? people should be able to wear whatever they want that is plain weird.

​@@shantoriawashingtonnot in other ppls house

Why is she so desperate? He has already divorced 2 women.

Reverse the sexes and see how men feel. now realize the MINUTE a man hits a woman he is demonized. Western woman are so solipsistic its insane.

Me too!! I feel so sorry for her!! She need to go back home!!!

@@ImWorthy4Real She has just been defending Bilal on her social media, claiming that people are unfair to successful black men. She claimed people were branding Bilal a "narcissist", and that what we see is not reality. I therefore think her tears are acting too. I doubt she is better than Bilal's 2 ex wives. My mind just changed about her and she deserves what she gets.

Technically, they’re already married. They’re marriage just isn’t recognised under laws of the U.S. so they have to get it legally recognised.

Agree!!!

Yeah mine too , talked about how fit his ex was and had a nice body while sitting at a bar despite being engaged to me and when i did a little very tiny harmless slap thingy to him n walked out, he said I embarrassed him, the fuck !!! Thankgod he is no more in life and married to some girl now who is actually fit though, but I couldn’t care less!!! (Also I was just 54 kgs, but had a little belly )

Exactly.

That's how a Narcissist behave, always try to make you feel bad about your self try to break you down for them to feel better about them self. My ex was like that

Yeah narcs want you to feel insecure. That is their goal. That’s how they start with you.

I was wondering the same thing. The below is what I wrote in a comment. Melicia you as an African American woman, consistently show favor towards black men and you're biased against black women. I think this is part of your culture for women to accept "Struggle Love"; long term stress from their relationship, for women to walk on eggshells while tolerating extremely hurtful things. In a previous clip, Bilal did something disgraceful. He broke the *ANCIENT LAWS OF HOSPITALITY*. When a guest/traveller arrives to your home, your car must be clean and tidy, your home must be clean. There can't be any structural damage to your home, the ceiling can't be mouldy or falling down in disrepair, the kitchen faucet can't be broken, the carpet can't be dirty etc etc. Shaeeda was exhausted from travelling, probably anxious and nervous as she's a foreigner in a strange country. Bilal didn't even bother to greet her with flowers just a dirty/cluttered van to test her true intentions. Melicia, you didn't consider that disrespectful or breaking boundaries. Shaeeda is to accept rude/disrespectful behaviour from Bilal in the hopes that she will be "rewarded" with love and affection once her loyalty has been tested is *"Struggle Love"*. Shaeeda is not African American and I'm not sure she will tolerate *"Struggle Love"*; unhealthy behaviour from Bilal kinda like a rite of passage that she has to endure in order for Bilal to value her. @Fluffy, I think Melicia as an African American woman was raised with the concept of "struggle love" where stress & turbulence is mistaken for love. Where loved is something that black women must scrape, fight, and suffer for. Where one partner (often the woman) must constantly bear the brunt of the other partner’s actions/inactions. This is a warped image of love that causes long term stress to the person who chooses to stay, and these relationships exist heavily in the African American community. You can see it in the music, movies, tv shows, reality tv, celebrity culture and so many more cultural references. Black women are raised to expect shitty relationships and being treated like bottom of the barrel trash and it's completely normalized.

@@sayla1996 Honeyyyyy, you totally took the words right out of my mouth!!!

@@sayla1996 She gives mammy vibes

THANK YOU!!!

There is nothing wrong with anything Bilal said. He and Shaeeda are just not on the same mental wave length.

Gotta agree 💯 🚩 🚩 🚩

You’re absolutely right, except I think Shaeeda does see it. She calls it out. I think perhaps she feels that she’s already waisted 2yrs on this guy and may not get another opportunity to have a child and family.

Exactly right!

Well if it was me I can see if he didn't like it but it's kind of like well let it go and he didn't let it go for a while making her feel bad all I know is I don't care who you are husband boyfriend whoever soon as you pulled me over to the side of the road and start talkingshit I'm truly out of there I don't care I'm not messing around playing around I'm out

Facts

True, but how should she have approached it? Seems like that would have been a difficult conversations to have no matter the approach. Some people don't have self awareness of how their actions can actually affect others. Especially in someone's home. They are young but the lack of understanding is troubling. She should honor the request of being respectful at the Mom's home.

no why can’t she wear whatever she wants ?

@@shantoriawashington she can, but that doesn't mean the mom was wrong...

And she was Bilal's second wife!

@@ilovegoodsax oh really so this new wife is his third wife 🤭

@@ilovegoodsax oh wow! I didn’t know that she was his 2nd wife!😳

@@FNJ720 me either

That’s when u know

You are so true no wonder his being single for so long

And exhausting... gotta walk on eggshells around this guy.

@@mssumerloving agreed!

I'll bet he's overly fussy about things like a silverware drawer that has a fork in the spoon department. Everything that upsets them is a major deal to them. Narcissists often have OCD because they have to create a persuasive facade. House, car, yard perfect...so he must be a special guy. Narcissists all use the same playbook. I dated one off and on spanning 20 years, not knowing what a narcissist was for the first 13 years. Once l did some research and checked the DSMR5:for symptoms, The rat scored, like 10 out of 10.

That is why the ex wife left him... He thinks he is the king and women are his servants... F*** HIM

Seriously.

That’s Islam for ya

He is a Muslim Black man. What else can be expected

@@RobsVlogs OK racist troll, that's enough RU-vid for today

Honestly, I don’t think those words are in his vocabulary 🤷‍♀️🤮

She won't because she loves the house she'll be living in and the car she'll be drivinh.

Nah, she did that to herself. The moment she acted the way she did wit the car & seeing the 1st house. She actually showed him how to treat her. She definitely wasn’t humbled. Even her mother laughed at her. Most of these couples don’t need to marry. Also we only see the parts of the show that the program wants us to see. Remb that

@MeS. God was looking at her like my child that’s how u act. 🤦‍♀️ I don’t kn what house u was looking at, clearly that house was not in that bad of a shape. New roof, new siding, landscaping, they could’ve even laid hardwood or laminate floors, went over the ceiling and smooth it out and later down the line they could’ve redid the kitchen in the bathroom(if it was his real house) but other than that, the house was still in good shape. (She praised a new build home on her knees) 🥱 Tacky. The house not GOD. It’s wood 🪵 😀 She turned her nose up an had an attitude over something materialistic that had nothing to do with the real reason she came over here ( to be happy in love & blessed), yet she complained and worried abt materialistic items she saw the man carry. That rt there is why some marriages fail. All abt crap u can’t even take to heaven or hell. That if the gov shut it down u couldn’t even access. Men & women show each other how to be treated. She was nasty periodt. Hopefully it was just all for the show ratings & check cuz if Thas truly her, then God be with her & many more materialistic, wanting to be with a mate cuz of money. Won’t hv no real love if so.

Somebody can say something to you and make you feel a type of way but that does not give anyone the right to put their hands in another person. By your logic if a woman insults a man and his “feelings gets hurt” does that give him the right to slap her? Plz make it make sence.

She did marry him unfortunately. This is 3rf marriage

Can’t agree more.

Classic narcissist

Always bw hating because a brother dated out

@@kennyking5606 dated out? The woman in the video is also a bw. And it appears she was desparate for her papers.

Then they’re suprised once the partner finally have papers, that she/he is OUT

My ex did this to me throughout our almost 10 year relationship. He killed the joy I had inside with his manipand gaslighting, it cuts deep. She's in for a whole world of hurt with that egotistical man.

Bilal is a manipulative person and is looking to get a woman he can break in

They did get married. Now time will tell how long it doesn't last

Bilal was married twice before Shaida?

A1¹

He has boundaries, good on him

This is a form of abuse.

She need to go back to her family then.

He said he would order an uber to take her back home. Why is no one remembering this? You think he'd send her back home without a key to get in too? You don't hit someone while they're driving!

Baby that's foreshadowing for what is to come. If she does not have her own he is gonna break her. He is gonna hold things over her head. He ain't no good child. He is a narcissist

As far as Miona is concerned...that is Mahalas house...her rules...got to respect...and that's her husband.. Got too respect.. Period

A daughter he's having sex with. Very creepy!

True !!!!

She should respect him, he's not a simp

@@samsimmons2831 Yes, we all should respect our parents.

Well that's what happens when you expect an entire house and benefits without lifting a finger to work for it. Probably why she did not go back to Trinidad.

That's exactly it

Does she want to be with thissm that bad she takes his crap

Yes agree

He does it right before she meets other people.

Married ??????????????????????

Another channel I watch showed their marriage cert. We have to remember this was filmed months ago.

They are! So sorry 😢

Oh God!! Why did she do it.....

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Perfectly said !!!

1000% ! Him demanding an apology from her , but offering none , for his own behaviour , tells you all you need to know about this manipulating A-hole Bilal .

TWICE divorced

Oh. I had no idea twice divorced. Red flag times two.

Period

Exactly

Yep, she needs to run for the hills! This man is trash …she would be better off with a Trini like herself.

Yes American men are terrible !

Find a nice Trini, leave this idiot!!!

Hell yea my kids are coming before any woman! Wife or not. If he was a woman with kids and treating them better than a man/husband you probably wouldn't mind that I bet.

Who Wouldn’t treat there kids better?!! My kids come before a relationship

Makes you wonder why his first wife divorced him. I'm also from Trinidad and we are a fun loving people. Shaeedah girl my advice to you is go home girl. Go home. It's never going to get better. He uses his wealth as power because he has Napoleon syndrome. Also his skin is short. When he closes his mouth his behind has to stay open and vice versa. Run 🏃‍♀️ girl. RUN 🏃‍♀️

Dumbest comment ever lol ofcourse u treat kids better than ur significant other

nah i'm sureeeee the kids will have to put up with the same crap

exactly, he is mean and selfish

Not while he's driving

@@pozitivereinforcement I get not messing with a driver and slapping. However, his behavior is cruel. She told him to stop because she didn't find his so called joke funny but he kept on. Psychological and verbal abuse is bad as well and more insidious and the effects linger a long time.

@@hpoplick1 doesn't physical abuse effects linger for a long time?

Are you telling me that a fake bugger joke is the same as putting hands on someone? If the roles were reversed and she said the bugger joke and he "tapped" her on the head, would you have thought that was OK?

Yeah and then asked HER to apologize when they got back... Yikes...

That was painful to watch. Imagine him walking in there with the camera crew, and this new woman, and introduce her to no one? I also thought it weird how they ex wife felt so hurried to make an excuse & leave.

@@stephk1970 AND is making her stay in instead of doing date night (her lil jacket was cute, too🥲).

@@byrd813 right?! The greeting was cold…her kids did a better job lol.

@@byrd813 he's trying to break her. Any woman in her shoe would hv been crying

thank YOU!!!! fr...

For some reason there’s some men in the comments who are adamant that what she was doing was violent when it was clearly a reaction of playfulness. I can’t help but feel these men defending Bilal are covering up their own abusive nature. Thank you for seeing Bilal and his narcissist behaviors for what they truly are.

I agree Kevin. Also if he didn't like when she tapped his head. He could have just told her, not to do it again. No need to threaten to put her out on the side of the road.

@@BlueOwlsFly it’s because she is a spicy Trini 🙄🙄 Annoying AF.

Thank you sir

Everybody wants a slice of the American pie come on ,she ain't going nowhere.

Aggressive? Come ON 🙄🙄🙄

Not aggressive, I meant more of a passive aggressiveness

The booger comment was aggressive and unnecessary but the constant hitting him after he asked her to stop and she continued anyway was OK!?!?! ARE YOU SERIOUS!?!?

I never said that was ok. I said that he is toxic and his booger comment was not necessary. He knew she was very uncomfortable and nervous about meeting his ex wife.

"Planet Bilal" 😂😂😂😂

he literally just called his relationship with shaeeda a catch-22

Spot on

Not the same thing... she literally commit a crime against him.

ChernoBilal ☢️🆘

That's what my ex did to me. It's difficult to find joy in things I used to love. Gaslighting and other emotional manipulation led to the downfall. Sad stuff, for sure.

Yeah. It’s hard to watch 😞

Because She's giving him that power, it's like a bully . A bully stands Tough and Strong because the victim Let's them , you have to be Fierce and unapologetic to these type of men . Equal treatment in a relationship, if not get out .

You’re an incel. She’s wrong. Period.

Truth

Shaeeda is his THIRD wife.

Trust me, Trinbagonian wo en are NOT easy! We have a mouth on us and are very stubborn. Right now our men are hooking up with Venezuelan women migrating here to escape their economic and political crises. 🙄

Yes, i notice that she can't even drink a cup of coffee comfortable. I agree, she needs to run🤔

He uses his nice possessions to be abusive to her he knows it's important to her. So he dangles it like a treat a pet has to jump threw hoops to get over & over. It's not worth being treated bad or get excited over his stuff if you're name isn't on titles. Don't wait expect s.o. to give it to you, work towards treating yourself to a home other things you want in life. A woman like that he would feel threatened by that can survive well without him.

That’s why he put her on the test because his true self was reflecting

I 100% agree with you! After she hit him on the head he should have turned the car around and drove back home. Have her pack all of her stuff, drive her to the airport and purchased a first class flight back to Trinidad where she can do better and live her best accomplished life!

All of this!

👏🏽👏🏽 This!

Thiss

Yup! That’s exactly what it is. That’s why he hasn’t entered into a another relationship with a woman from the US.

yh train her to not engage in domestic violence ? lol spastic

She was disrespectful, keep your hands to yourself, he should have love tapped her aswel

Yeah but if she had someone at her own home half naked and younger no matter what she definitely wouldn’t like it men and men they’ll look sometimes it isn’t harmful but loo

The host is bissed

Biased*

If he would have tapped her on the head multiple times and grabbed at her face while she was driving you would have thought that was OK? Furthermore suppose his argument was saying that " I didn't hit you in a serious way". Then he goes on to say "now I am going to give you a serious hit" and then does it again you would think that behavior was OK?!?!?!?!

and go where?

ahahahahahah u can't do this ! I swear. the min I thought hey is she single cuz melicia giving me I want u for me vibes and why she have someone like him and I dont and she can't see how SHITTY of a person he is . and scroll a comment down and there's urs looool it was just me overthinking but now u confirming and it might be intuition not overthinking lmaooo

No it's not abuse. Oh my god. I live in trinidad and I am married to a Trinidadian. She is clearly being playful. Abuse? A playful tap is abuse? He is clearly emotionally abusing her. Breaking her down little by little in order to control her fully. It is hurtful to see this young woman say she feels like she is being punished because she really is being punished. It's sad. She is not a pet.

​@@SLUBUG I'm from Caribbean Jamaica too and a tap is seen as playful. Americans blow things out of proportion.

That is not abuse. The way yall characterize abuse is problematic.

@@SLUBUG Proud Bahamian here and this is true Caribbean people are a jovial and happy by nature. we have close bonds with each other to the point where we play fight and to many who think like this jerk Bilal when its actually very sentimental between usually people who trust each other. So when he responded like she actually assaulted him or acted with malice what he did was actually destroy the cultural connection she was trying to have with him. I hope she runs tho.

Melicia as an African American woman, consistently show favor towards black men and she's biased against black women. I think this is part of her culture for women to accept "Struggle Love"; long term stress from their relationship, for women to walk on eggshells while tolerating extremely hurtful things. In a previous clip, Bilal did something disgraceful. He broke the *ANCIENT LAWS OF HOSPITALITY.* When a guest/traveller arrives to your home, your car must be clean and tidy, your home must be clean. There can't be any structural damage to your home, the ceiling can't be mouldy or falling down in disrepair, the kitchen faucet can't be broken, the carpet can't be dirty etc etc. Shaeeda was exhausted from travelling, probably anxious and nervous as she's a foreigner in a strange country. Bilal didn't even bother to greet her with flowers just a dirty/cluttered van to test her true intentions. Melicia, you didn't consider that disrespectful or breaking boundaries. Shaeeda is to accept rude/disrespectful behaviour from Bilal in the hopes that she will be "rewarded" with love and affection once her loyalty has been tested is the central theme of *"Struggle Love".* Shaeeda is not African American and I'm not sure she will tolerate *"Struggle Love";* this unhealthy behaviour from Bilal kinda like a rite of passage that she has to endure in order for Bilal to recognize her value. I think Melicia as an African American woman was raised to accept the concept of "struggle love" where stress & turbulence is mistaken for love. Where loved is something that black women must scrape, fight, and suffer for. Where one partner (often the woman) must constantly bear the brunt of the other partner’s actions/inactions. This is a warped image of love that causes long term stress to the person who chooses to stay, and these relationships exist heavily in the African American community. You can see it in the music, movies, tv shows, reality tv, celebrity culture and so many more cultural references. Black women are raised to expect shitty relationships and being treated like bottom of the barrel trash and it's completely normalized.

Yeah, she definitely doesn't like shaeeda n doesn't miss an opportunity to show it. I guess it's bcos Shae is a foreign black woman.

@MY YT To be honest, he comes across as the typical AA men raised without a father by a single mother. Perhaps his father died or something else happened to him but regardless his the one with "Daddy Issues". Men raised by their fathers are less likely to experience problems of feeling like a victim. Bilal is constantly the "victim", his always wronged by Shaeeda and constantly needs an apologize from her. Studies confirm that fathers block the cycle of victimhood. Boys who lived only with their fathers were less likely to experience problems of feeling like a victim and boys with no fathers are more likely to feel victimized by other children.

@@mariammandeiya47 What a good point @ "foreign black woman".

@@mariammandeiya47 She’s allowed to not agree with Shaeeda. She didn’t 100% agree with Bilal’s behavior, either. It doesn’t have to be one way or the other and quit with the ethnocentrism argument where it doesn’t even belong.

Right and she said it in the nicest way possible but it’s not enough for the host. I hate how she made it sound like Malala is a bad therapist and she’s judgements and even maybe jealous of Miona. The lady just said she doesn’t want a half naked woman in her house and that’s totally fair

@@analea6531 Exactly!