A bi guy explains: what I like about women.

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Have you ever wondered how bisexual men think about women? How does a bi guy feel about women compared to men? How do bisexual peoples’ attractions work?
In this video, bisexual guy Mark talks about his attractions to women, how they work and what he likes best about the feminine side of the gender spectrum.
Mark talks candidly about his attractions and what he finds beautiful about women. He talks about what types of women and what aspects of womanhood he loves best.
He also compares this to his feelings about men and other genders. The hope is that we can all understand our sexuality more by talking about it.
Bisexuality can be confusing so this is something to illuminate the mystery.
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@notdefining 3 месяца назад

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@poepoe9983 3 месяца назад

Having comfortably identified as bi for years, I recently got into really bad thought spirals regarding my sexuality. It came as a bit of a chock and I've had a really hard time dealing with it the last couple of months. Your channel is literally the ONLY thing I came across that actually calmed me down and changed my perspective and my attitude towards myself. Your way of talking about bisexuality makes me feel so incredibly seen and understood (and NORMAL?!!), so I just want to thank you sincerely for doing what you do!

@cupidok2768 2 месяца назад

How tall is he

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

You have the most poetic way of describing what you like and I aspire to that. All I do is recycle 5 adjectives

@maatdeaishvarra380 3 месяца назад

Too much emphasis on softness and seeing women as these delicate little flowers though. Not a lot of talk on the diversity of the female body or appreciation for more tomboy body types, though those are rare and maybe he hasn’t come across many. Would love his opinion on trans women too, since he didn’t mention them or any of their features at all.

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

Hey thanks. My grandfather was a poet. Mr William Cusack. He was always encouraging me in my writing and reading.

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

There might be some assumptions going on for you because the whole video was inclusive of trans women, which I made clear at the start. You will notice I used inclusive language throughout. I also had a full section on the diversity of women including their masculine and feminine aspects. I am absolutely obsessed with tomboys and women who express the range of gender expressions. I didn’t mention trans women because I don’t consider trans women to be separate from cis women. When it comes to my attractions I’m attracted to a woman so I wouldn’t want to separate them out. Does that make sense?

@maatdeaishvarra380 3 месяца назад

@@notdefiningyeah I do understand, but not mentioning just comes across as ignoring to some. The descriptors like hard on soft just seemed cis het centric and not at all what I would expect. Even the header for the video features extremely hyper feminine submissive type women, not trying to hate on you just wanna challenge the descriptors for women featured throughout most of the video, only when mentioning older dominatrix types did you kinda branch out a bit from the fem stereotype. So much about sweetness and the girl next door but not a lot about hard muscular and straight up dominant charming young women. Maybe u didn’t intend it that way and my thoughts are just my 2 cents, no shade at all. It’s cool, much love to you I just don’t agree with the way u described women. Have a wonderful evening though and I’ll continue to watch your content 🙏✨ would love if u made a video about what u like about those with fluid gender expressions, would be super entertaining to watch since u have a way with words

@Pygorable 3 месяца назад

I just wanted to say thank you for your content. It's so helpful and validating.

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

@@Pygorable thank you so much for saying. This made my day.

@RosaleeSmith Месяц назад

Funny, your description of what attracts you to women physically is the total opposite of what attracts me to men. Great video. I subscribed. Its nice to hear a man talk positively anout women on the Internet.

@notdefining Месяц назад

Hey thank you. I appreciate this comment.

@wareforcoin5780 3 месяца назад

I _love_ masculine women. Strong features, short hair, generally wearing boys clothes. I think it's so sexy when they're muscular. I also _love_ feminine women, basically for all the reasons you've stated (soft, precious in all ways, cute) and also because it's like... Easier? As a woman I think it's more the feeling you get with being with a man.

@maatdeaishvarra380 3 месяца назад

@@wareforcoin5780 hey, thanks for your perspective, I love when people appreciate tomboys. What is the feeling you get being with a man if you don’t mind my asking? I also find it interesting when people say certain genders are easier, I’ve definitely never felt this to be honest and would love more of an insight or anecdotal evidences regarding this

@wareforcoin5780 2 месяца назад

@@maatdeaishvarra380 Well, it's harder with a man just because a lot of them are _straight._ My boyfriend is totally accepting, but he has no concept of the feeling of being in the acronym. It's hard for me to imagine not being bisexual, so I get it, but if I'm with a woman, she gets it. A lot of things get considered that a man wouldn't even think about.

@maatdeaishvarra380 2 месяца назад

@@wareforcoin5780 I wonder why bi women don’t put more of an effort of being with other bi people, can’t imagine relating to a straight man especially long term. Building real community starts with the individual

@wareforcoin5780 2 месяца назад

@@maatdeaishvarra380 Because I _like_ this straight guy. Presumably he likes me, too. It's kind of insane to think of only dating bi people, I'd be missing out on lesbians, too. Ridiculous to limit love when there's so many delightful people who just need to be taught.

@JaneChristensen. 3 месяца назад

As a trans woman, I love being explored by both men and other women, especially the ones who really appreciate soft skin and are very tactile, because I'm extremely sensual, and enjoy being touched, and reciprocating as well, giving at least as much as I receive. I'm so disappointed when I get together with someone and find they are not inclined to focus on and enjoy this aspect of human interaction, which is actually preferable to sex itself. The emotional range and intensity in women is so much greater than with most men, and that is something I love about women. I tend to be attracted to men who like what they see, and are not afraid to pursue things fairly aggressively. I would have to say that I tend to become more submissive around a guy who demonstrates that and I enjoy that kind of dynamic that follows. With women, it's different, and I'm more open to a lot of other kinds of dynamics but like you really value a woman who is smart, mature and carries a little authority, although it's really amazing when sometimes things switch back and forth with respect to submission/dominance. That to me is a moment of recognition of mutual respect and when I see that I'm thinking in terms of long term relationship potential.

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

Can I just say thank you so so much for sharing this. I am so delighted that we can explore, and share things in this way together. People will read this and feel mirrored. Thank you.

@catherineg8903 3 месяца назад

As a lesbian, I thoroughly enjoyed this.

@notdefining 2 месяца назад

Hey thanks so much for tuning in. Love to my amazing lesbian family. I would actually be so interested to hear what you enjoyed and which parts connected with you. I’m just always so fascinated to hear from different peoples views.

@catherineg8903 2 месяца назад

@@notdefining Hey! I really enjoyed this video because I loved the way you spoke about women. It's relatable to me, and I find it refreshing to see a man being vulnerable and expressing this side of himself.

@matthewchlebda3181 3 месяца назад

I feel like I am more attracted to men aesthetically/physically and women more on a spiritual, romantic level. I love a woman (and female-identified people) with a warm heart and spirit, who is gentle and kind, fun, and has a nice voice (weird one, I know.) I also feel like my emotional connections are stronger with women than they are with men. That being said, I do appreciate the emotional openness and humor of men as well, as well as their aestheticism. Being bi+ helps us appreciate the diversity of all humankind; we really can fall in love with anyone (one of the perks, everybody's hot). Honestly, I do not care about the gender of my soulmate, even though there are different things about cisgendered and those outside of the gender binary that I find attractive. If I ever meet him/her/them someday (haven't yet), just want someone who is kind, warm, caring and fun. Good looks are a nice bonus, but not a deal breaker. Sorry if nothing I said in this message made sense or makes me less bi. Hope you had a nice Pride month, great video!

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

Hey thank you so so much for sharing your unique and wonderful experiences. I love so much that we can explore, learn and relate in this way. A lot of people will read this and feel mirrored.

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

Mark in this video really said: “HELLO, LADIES! This video is for you. I’m the nephew of a woman aunt.”

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

Interesting. I do have amazing aunts. However, this video was really shared for people who are struggling to understand their sexuality and helping them to hopefully relate with an openly bisexual person. That's my intention anyway.

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

@@notdefining I’m just being silly and facetious. You’re a good teacher.

@susanwright6168 3 месяца назад

As a cis woman who feels that sex is a deeply spiritual and emotional experience, I'm curious if you feel that this is a fundamental difference between men and women's view of sex or if it is a somewhat socially conditioned difference (ie that the emotional and spiritual seem to be cultivated at much greater capacity in AFABS than in men)? Depending on your answer, I'm also curious if you think men could/would want to develop an experience of sex that is more spiritual/emotional? Really sweet video! It's nice to hear men affirm women's attributes in a way that doesn't feel objectifying!

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

@@susanwright6168 this is a wonderful question and the short answer is I’m not sure. There is something called proceptive and receptive attraction which is quite complex but basically sex hormones which follow a menstrual cycle can be more focused on certain times of the month, then other times the attraction is more picked up from feelings, energy, thoughts and fantasy rather than direct hormonal arousal so women would be more likely to have both a more intense sexual attraction at times and at times a more expansive one. Without a menstrual cycle the hormones are more constant and less changing so men would be normally more likely to have a more direct and less complex experience of arousal. Dr Lisa Diamond is a good person to look up for research into this. But basically yes definitely conditioning comes into it and yes I see men learning a lot about their capacity for arousal when they break down hetero masculine limits.

@PokhrajRoy. 3 месяца назад

I have a question: Who was your first and or recent older woman crush?

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

That’s easy - Nicola Sturgeon former first minister of Scotland. People slag me off for this but she is a my dream. Also everyone from the cast of The Good Wife, Nigella Lawson obviously and Kate Blanchett as Galadriel in Lord of the Rings.

@Jess-wk5jo 3 месяца назад

I have question reasons i am not coming out as bisexual. 1 my mum isnt fans of lesbians she isn't homophobic not fan of them 2 my dad in heaven 3 i would be question by my mum i would kiss girl when i have always love men from day i was born to now 4 i have autism no girls would date if tell them i have autism. i know like both men and women i can't face coming out to my mum she isn't fan of lesbians and my dad in heaven and she would question me if i would kiss girl i have never never kiss girl before only boy on lips please can you help me what to do

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

Hey thank you for sharing. There is a huge correlation between autism and bisexuality so you're likely to meet a lot of autistic bi people. For example, I am autistic and bi. You would be very much mistaken in thinking that no girl would date you for being autistic. In fact, complete the opposite of the truth.

@matthewchlebda3181 3 месяца назад

Aww, so sorry to hear! Hug from a fellow bi person. Hopefully your situation gets better, just don't forget you are super valid and loved, regardless if you are out or not!

@wareforcoin5780 3 месяца назад

I know you said your mom isn't homophobic, but everything you've said about her is the behavior of a homophobe.

@Jess-wk5jo 3 месяца назад

I have question. Signs i know i wasn't straight. Sign number 1 i start having crushson tv soap characters on both men and women. Sign number 2 i start having crushes on men and women singers Men singer call peter andre who sings mysterious girl and girl singer call Jessie J . Sign number 3 i start kissing photo of girl on my high school musical balloons name is Vanessa Hudgens who plays gabriella montez in hsm Sign number 4 i start having fancying Lesbian call Rachel in my old work place for special needs. Sign number 5 i got crush on celebrity like Peter Andre and Zac Efron And corbin bleu and Jessie j and Vansssa Hudgens and Girl from 90 day fiance Call Erkia Owens Sign number 6 i can't stop thinking about it Please can you help me please Does this class as bisexual yes or no

@notdefining 3 месяца назад

Yes