This outspoken husband was quiet and kept his head down the entire episode. Weak men do that, pretend to be strong at home with women and children but quiet as a mouse in the big scary world
He actually has good manners in public. No one has to act ratchet and ghetto out in public. Black women can learn a thing or two from him with his good manner in public.
He's in a courtroom, not at the bar trying to prove his manhood. Strength isn't seen on the exterior, it's ironically the scared guys who over-compensate with the public macho persona. With all due respect, males should never take advice on how to be a "strong man" from a woman LOL.
@@tom11zz884 I couldn’t expect him to loud disrespectful or ratchet. I would expect him to be the head of the house and to speak for his house. Being a leader isn’t just having your way, it’s taking responsibility for those under your house. The fact that he kept his head down was telling.
I lived as a Muslim for a bit and one thing that I know about Islam is that it is MANDATORY for a man to take care of his wife and family. If not, it’s haram.
@@CalmQuiet7if they can provide for all of them the exact same in terms of upkeep and finances, providing the same level or care and the same level of housing etc
Sounds like this young man don't have a clue what it is to be a husband and father he's having Tantrums and she's defending him and if he knew how to run his household they wouldn't have to have lived in the father-in-law's house😮
Reaching out to your parents for help with a full grown man in the house is insane. The parents need to cut the safety net. Baby, go rely on your king.
That part. I'm Muslim. On our religion, the husband should be providing and showing kindness to his wife. Period. He should never have his hand out. Even she works, she is not obligated to provide for the household & can do whatever she wants with her money. If she chooses to help him provide, it's considered charity on her part, and she should not be forced to do so. Him refusing to take her to work or the kids to school due to a disagreement/argument is abusive. Especially, if she is helping him with his obligation to provide using her wages. If she has to ask her Dad for money, she might as well divorce him and go back to her Dad's hse because her husband is not doing his job.
As a muslim man/muslim Husband he is suppose to financially provide for his wife. What he is doing to his wife and children is not islamic, it is abusive! Girl, run! Many God fearing men out there that will treat you the right way!
When my daughter married a fake Muslim man I found him as narcissist he was controlling he woke my daughter up at 1 am to wrap his feet he had feet surgery and to go outside 9 pm walk the dog and get him something from the store. Etc it was more. So I had a talk with him twice I step in told him how I felt my child was going through mental illness. Ii help my child to get out of that fake marriage now she doing better. He was a terrible person I almost went to the kingdom hall on him. He didn't want to tell my daughter how much money he made at work yet he wanted her money and to sign something. She doing better now she told him she not that person anymore. He wanted her to move far away from family and friends so he can isolate her and do want he wanted to do. My brothers was ready to step in on him.
Unfortunately she seems to feel that her parents should do more for her and their children than her husband does. What is wrong with this young woman?😢
Im a Christian woman , however one thing I am aware of is that a muslim man , a true muslim man is not weak , narcissistic, financially irresponsible, abusive or manipulative to his wife . Her husband is a very poor excuse
Because living expenses went up due to inflation and these businesses are robbing their workers!!!! Point blank the economy does not make sense ppl are selfish n only do what’s beneficial to them….
As a Muslim woman I can say it sounds like the husband is peddling tricknology and using the religion to shield his narcissism. She better stay close with her family bc the husbands going to increase his negligence and she’s going to drop to a very low place without the support of her family.
They both running to her dad like he’s married to them. You can get help from time to time but handle 99% of your obligations yourself. 2 grown people who are younger than him should be able to depend on each other.
If your husband got some beef with you and he decided not to care about the kids.....damn, he gotta go!!! Let that man go and don't chase him at all!!!
Mrs. Ellis has really low self-esteem and has accepted maltreatment to say she “has a man”. The husband looks abusive and dusty….she needs to leave, but she won’t. He enjoys seeing her suffer and she is seemingly okay being the long suffering wife.
She might feel she doesn't have much of a choice. She's obese, and probably thinks if she leaves him she won't find anyone else. By staying with him at least she can say she has a husband, even though he treats her horribly. Unfortunately women like her tie their self worth in with whether they have a man or not.
The defendant’s husband face is pissing me off! Over there looking like an abusive bowhead whale! She needs to wake up and put her kids first if she’s not going to put herself first!
Her husband looks crazy and abusive, I’m thinking he tried to hide it by not speaking the whole time and for her to have a whole husband but still depend on her parents to do stuff for her is insane like lady WAKE UP
Just a PSA, if small or normal fights in a relationship cause your partner to stop helping you, you are in an unhealthy relationship and need to leave. Normal, healthy relationships just don't operate like that. You can be mad at someone, but that's still your partner, so you're still going to do for them. Unless it's something major, your partner shouldn't be refusing to take the kids to school just because they're mad at you.
That poor child is so hard up for love and a husband that she excuses his possessive and erratic behavior. He married her because she a possession to him not because of love. I hope this story doesn’t end badly.
Honestly, the Father was giving them a major break on the rent. Rent in the city is $1500 - $1800 for a house (in most cases more). All he asked them to do was handle minor repairs and pay utilities. Can the husband be "headstrong" and pay his bills? Or would he rather make his wife walk to work and his kids walk to school?
I bet her husband beat the hell out of her on the way home... Swearing that she's a reason they lost the case. That smirk when the judge caught her in a lie was classic
Got a whole husband and still running to Dad for help. If it's for "better or worse" then it's also "leave and cleave" when it comes to handling business.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can not force the horse to take a drink. At the end of the day, the father and mother must absolve themselves of the assumed responsibility of ending their daughter's abuse. On the other hand, the daughter must take full responsibility for the abuse she is suffering and take steps to protect herself from the situation.
I don’t even know the rubbish she’s talking about there is no where in Islam where we are asked to forsake our parents. The husband is outright shameless and she’s so dumb to put her parents through this for him.
We MUST learn the lessons that even in religions, if something is wrong, it's wrong. God does not require compulsion in place of common sense in our religious observance or in marriage.
Exactly! But I think she’s insecure in a way which is why she allows it. Ain’t no way I’ll be calling a man my husband if he’s not doing the bare minimum
For better or for worse does not mean that you accept emotional or physical abuse by your spouse or better half. I can tell there is so form of abuse in that home. He's not the head of the household if another man steps up to take over your duties
I’m convinced he calls her wayyy out of name, and she feels as if, no other man would want her, if she leaves the Sorry arse excuse for a wanna be man!!
I know it's hard because of the children but it's time for the parents to back up and allow her to truly experience how, "head strong" her husband can be.
These husband that demand to be honored always also happen to be broke asf, ladies a man that’s really living in his purpose (which should be the only kind you want) ain’t verbally or physically demanding shit it will be done in his actions
At this point what is the point of her husband? he seemingly doesn't provide or protect for her or THEIR children. It's real a shame because if she can't depend on him now once her parents are gone who can she even turn to?
He wants to be respected as an alpha male but can't provide for his family without his wife begging her parents and what he can provide he withholds when his kewchie itch and he mad. Its giving pick and choose when to execute male dominance while using religion to do it. Poor tink tink... she will always proudly carry the load and call her parents for help as her husband cowars.🙄 she is the only one he can control that's why he's quiet in the court room because he'd get pushback from the plaintiff and definitely JM and he doesn't want those problems.
Hi guys😊 I’m the young lady in the video. So we judge from what is apparent. This whole thing was super interesting to say the least. My dad is very supportive and always has been. My husband at the time, we are no longer married, honestly did his best. We are co-parenting together now and we are doing well at it. No one knows the behind the scenes and even we were blindsided by the narrative of what was shown. I appreciate everyone’s feed back and opinions. We are were willing participants and we are very grateful for the experience which brought us all back together stronger. Btw my dad is not Muslim he is Christian
Listen sister. Yiuve been strong for so long and you found yourself in a tough spot no one is jugding you but your husband and some other husbands like that cant shield themselves behind your hard work
Let me just say sum about shahidah. She used to be my dean back in 7th grade when I first came to the school and I would cry every single day before, during and after school because I felt like I was getting bullied. When I tell you she cut all bullying that was towards me off and she would play checkers with me EVERY single day for lunch because she knew I didn’t like sitting with the kids. Man shahidah is such a smart and good person. Yall better not be talking ish about her in these comments 😂
But in her real life, she runs up bills with her out of work abusive husband with no accountability for it 🥴 that’s why they were in court lol Nonetheless, im glad she was there for ya
@@symonephillips7841 aht aht aht I know her in real life too out of school. My dad and her is friends and been friends since kids. I truly don’t even believe this video but hey whatever😂.
That is emotionally and psychological abuse. The Bible says husbands love your wives as you love yourself and do not be bitter towards them. Col 3:19. So punishing your wife by not picking up kids is definitely not showing love. Smh
@@abbiereynolds8016I agree with what you're saying but if you think about it Allah is still God and the Quran is still a Bible so I know there's something in there that in regards to a husband and wife treating each other. I think idk hahaha
@@momoni368The Quran has different teachings than the Bible so I’m going to disagree on that plus the Quran permits the husband striking their wives if they continue to be stubborn.
@@malibug9889hey hey now I said at the end idk which means I DONT KNOW I literally just made a statement no offense to no one I literally said I didn't know. And that's crazy I wouldn't expect that to be honest smh 🤦🏽♀️ that's a shame
Sad Case, I feel sorry for the woman. At the end she says her husband lovers her father and she hopes they can all get along, lies, all lies and she is doing her best to keep cover for how abusive her husband really is.
Y’all peep at the end when she’s looking at her husband to pitch in his two cents but he just stands there looking down on the floor😂😂😂 She put her hands on her hips and sighed😭
Im from South Philly myself. And I personally know that husband 😂😂🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️... And i must say, he is very over religious and most certainly uses his religion as a paradigm for EVERYTHING he approaches. I guess home depot ain't going getting the job done no mo 🤦🏿♂️
You have a husband that’s controlling and abusive and still have to call your parents to help out because he can’t financial take care of you??? Or your children?? Disgusted!!!!
I'm just wondering where are his parents seeing how she always calling her parents for help and furthermore the look on the husband face in court says it all she got low self esteem and accepts the abuse because she don't value herself smh
I feel so bad for that dad..stepdad even!!! Its unfortunate because next time someone asks him for help hed going to have second thoughts and they could actually be sincere people.
Dad should let her honor her husband and if her husband doesn’t want to take the kids to school that’s what she should follow or if he doesn’t want to take her to work. Just keep the door open if she wants to come home but let her be an adult and find a solution. Her dad picking up the slack just makes her think oh it’s not that bad.
How is the judge not understanding that once they found out he put a magnet on the meter they adjusted the charges to what he was supposed to owe so that was not her bill that was a previous bill
@@nzingaa4152hes acting like its her bill tho, and in the past judge mathis has taken into account whether the defendant contributed financially and deducts that from the final judgement
That couple is entitled af, they look as if they don’t miss no meals but can’t pay what they owe and continue to go to her step dad for help. Bless that dad’s heart for still wanting to even be associated with her cause I would be DONE.
My father has helped my husband out but if my husband refused to be a husband my dad would have spoken directly to him. My dad has passed on and I surely miss him because my Dad always had my back, told me to put my marriage first but he didn’t stand for foolishness.
He's definitely manipulative and very well be the mastermind behind her always replying on her parents for help!! That takes the pressures and responsibility off him because her parents are coming to the rescue!! He knew what judge he was going before!! Calculated move!!
