A Father Son Conflict To Be Aware Of 

That classic saying, "The older I get, the smarter my father becomes."

“Rules without relationship lead to rebellion.” -James Dobson

My dad left me when I was 11. I’m now 50 and raised two boys of my own and every stage was challenging for me because I had no past experiences with my father to build on. So my approach was from what I aspired to as an individual. I always tell my boys to 1) treat others as they’d want to be treated, 2) live outside the box and never allow yourself to become complacent and 3) pursue your wants and not the wants of everyone else. These ideals will set them success in their personal and professional pursuits.

I still understood without having a kid myself, that my dad was hard on me for my own good

My boy turned 9 today. This kid is the real deal. Sharp as a tack, promising athlete, polite and level headed. My biggest concern in life now is me getting in his way and messing him up. My job is simply to provide, encourage and realise when to get out the way and let him go. It's some ride being a Dad!

I know this is about Fathers, but the same thing holds true for Mothers. I'm in my 60's and I lost my Dad 40 years ago. I lost my Mother 25 years ago. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of them, and how smart THEY were, and how dumb I was. I miss them both.

I never had a father and boy, did it result in a chaotic life. Even as a kid I would work hard, but I never had anyone to guide me or challenge me. I wanted to do good but never knew what that was. Fortunately, I ended up in the military and the military became the father I never had - it gave me direction, discipline, fulfilled this desire I had to contribute to something good, and totally transformed my life. After getting out, I attended the University of Texas and now work for myself. I look back now and can see how badly I was searching for a father or father figure as a kid -- couldn't see it then but can definitely see it now.

I just came out of that “blame dad, play victim” phase…. As I see all that he said was true and accurate and I immediately reached out to repair our relationship! And the shift came from having a family of my own and Pat opening my eyes to a lot of things so thanks Pat!

as a father of 3 successful gentlemen, I have been blessed with great relationships. Someone said that the best measure of success is when your adult children enjoy spending time with you. Yearly family trips since they were born have been parts of the best days of my life. You ae giving great advice as always. You are wise beyond your years.

As a father of 2 sons. We are not their friends and discipline is key. Structure, Care and teaching basic courtesy, kindness. Thanks PBD👍🏼

I always respected my dad BUT true respect didn't hit until I became a father myself. Understanding he was able to get through what I was currently going through gave me a new perspective on how good of a man he truly is because he never gave up.

I'm not looking forward to the day that my son doesn't want anything to do with me. He's getting close now. I'll just let him know I did the same thing and nomatter what happens I'll be here when you want anything.

As a father myself I have a great relationship with my son, I've seen parents argue with their teen kids claiming to be right about everything and that the kid knows nothing when in fact each party can learn from each other. Parents need to put their hand up and admit when they are wrong

Be an Encourager first. You can't challenge anyone until you encourage them first. People don't accept a challenge before they open their minds through encouragement.

You’re great for the world Patrick

40 years old and I'm still in the demonising phase. That really kicked into another gear when I had my first son and realised a dad should never treat their kids they way mine did. It's amazing what you can accept as normal.

It wasn't until my kids moved out and started paying their own bills did they realize what a great childhood they had. We didn't have a lot of money, but we did tons of stuff together that built lasting memories.

Im 33 and my dad has never told me he loves me. He was tough as nails but i learned alot from that man. I love you dad 😏

A great scentence you can implement when having a rough conversation with someone you like is " i love you anyways". When arguing with you little sister or with son or dad. Just that tiny sentence at the end makes a huge difference in how they will precess your convo afterwards

One of the Tribe Dadless here, a lot of these lessons I’ve learned the hard way with running from poverty.

As a father: thank you for this video!!

Growing up I didn't have much of a relationship with my father. He would provide etc but he wouldn't offer any guidance or advice or was there when I needed him. He would scould and be critical of everything that I did. Fast forward now after nearly two decades me and my father are like best friends. I honestly learned to appreciate my parents when I myself became a parent because it can get very difficult.

Respect to all the loving fathers out there.

I demonized my Dad till today. I’m 29 now and seeing him laying in the icu made me realize he’s just human. I haven’t been the best son but there’s soo many things I’ve learned that I’ll use with my daughter and son that I have in future.

Pat your like the wise uncle I never had.

I grew up without my father being a positive influence in my life. Often times, he let me down. So much to the point where I have completely lost trust in him, still to this day. However, I was fortunate enough to have positive role models in my life (male and female). I am now a father to a beautiful baby boy who is two years old. Although I didn't have a great father to look up to and raise me, my experience taught me of what NOT to do if I ever became a father and that inspires me today to be the version of myself that I can be and to always show unconditional love and support to my son. It is the most challenging yet rewarding role I could ever ask for.

Great content with this PBD!! Going through phase 2 right now with my 15 year old son.. definitely challenging , but more good days than not. A daily battle, but love my son like nothing else. Can't ever give up, keep supporting them no matter what

Great advice. Tough love does not work because every one wants to be fake tough. Real tough is being able to admit a wrong or fault and correct it on your own without having to be pounded physically or verbally to achieve this. Hyper physical and hyper verbal intensity brings up an invisible barrier that you cannot see and cannot understand in each individual but know that it happens 100% of the time. Deep breathes and calm words will beat spankings and yelling everyday of the week. I will bet and stand on that.

We need a podcast we’re father mother daughter and son sit and talk about there daily life and find solutions together.

Pat, my #1 favorite content is when you talk about your kids and raising kids. - Dad in DFW

The humanity phase is typically when you realize that your parents are human too. They didn’t get a tutorial on how to parent, they did the best they could and showed love in the ways they knew. Mistakes were made and accepted. If you resonate with this, then it’s typically a sign of becoming an adult.

This is one of those videos that I'll listen to as often as possible. I definitely needed to hear those reminders.

Well. As a mother...I can appreciate this as well!! Thank you Pat!😊 Peace and love always until there is no more!😊❤

My Dad is and was my best friend. I was blessed to have known such a great man.

I have the best dad in the world and he does these things. He reminds me a lot of an older version of you Pat.

Thank you for being such a positive influence on everyone! I know you’re a great dad but it means a lot that you show compassion and respect for those you don’t even know! Thank you

Im raising 6 sons. It's a challenge, but fun and rewarding. Thanks for this video. Awesome and simple perspectives. He bless you/Keep you/ Smile @ you/ give you peace.

For me, my father had a couple strokes when I was very young and it completely changed him. Everything he thinks and does is for self preservation. He was there to provide for his family, but that’s about at far as it goes. I know it is not his fault so I try to not have animosity towards him for being the way he is now because I’m lucky and it could’ve been much worse, but it really is sad seeing a parent always putting themselves before their kids in everything they say and do.

Thank you this! Similar things happen to Moms and it can really be painful.

REAL Dad's are the Ultimate Heroes on this planet. Way to GO Patrick. Lead like a father. However, plant seeds of interest and some of it is easier. I really appreciate U.

I needed this today. I've got a great relationship with my boys but I'm always looking to improve and grow with them. Love my boys and love being Dad.

My son is 5. God bless you.

This is an understanding that will benefit families greatly.

Fathers are super important in a child’s life. Thank God for dedicated dads. God bless them!

integrity, civility and human competition

That's powerful to break down the principal of a father. I've been thinking back and fourth of wanting to start a business and I see that applies to real world situations

God Bless All Families 🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🏿

Best advice I've heard someone give in a long time. It's all about talking to people and being clear about what's really going on. Everything you said, 100%, spot on.

I loved this. My son is 14 and a genius. He’s not motivated. Gets fantastic grades and scores off the charts. I want him to use his gift. Develop it. He has never studied for anything. Not even one minute. But he rebels any time I try to give him advice to prepare for college. Struggling with this.

Sadly I lost my dad to a heart attack when I was 7 and he was 40 ... I believe it was the point of my life where my dad was the hero that you had talked about and was a very difficult time for me in my life I felt scared confused worried what would happen if I lost my mom I have a 7 year older brother and an 8 year older sister and everything turned out pretty good mom lived until 86 and I still have my brother and sister with me I am 63 years old owned my own business for 16 years and worked for people like yourself Pat who pushed and demanded better from there workers ... and I would not have wanted it any other way ... I graduated highschool but did not attend college ... love watching and listening to your show and most of the guest ... take care God Bless

The hardest thing about my dad is when he left my mother brother and I homeless to be with his gay lover. He’s dead now so 🫠 it won’t ever change for me I wish I could have a mentor so I could be better for my kids. I wish I could of had someone just challenge me and show me what manner to uphold in this world.

So true Thank you for posting

Crazy how relatable being a father is to being a Business Man. It’s all about leadership. 26 years old, still no children, but from books I’ve read and messages, such as this one, I will be much more better prepared. Thanks Pat. Tony from 6 Speed Wraps

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯💯💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ That's what father's/parents do. Keep up the awesome work Patrick.

Excellent advice! God Bless!

Your content is never disappointing, and always valuable. 👍

Thank you for this vid! Made me reflect on the relationship between myself and my dad, as well as between myself and my son. This puts things in a very clear perspective I just never thought of. Funny how life really comes full circle.

I'm a father n love the extra advice u give I have a 6 yr old boy

The power of forgivenesss is unmatched....

Crazy how I'm 16 and I'm alr humanizing my dad. I'm glad I have great parents even if they weren't together

Love this type of content. It’s needed!

Your kids are so lucky to have you!

Thank you Pat

Great content, Pat. A fun, sometimes frustrating challenge navigating through different phrases w my son. We butt heads at times but he knows he is loved and the challenges upon him are only to strengthen him and prepare him for life.

In every Father there is a Leader

I love this man !!!!!!! Thank you for videos!!!!! Love from. South Texas

Thanks Pat.

We need more of this!!!!

Thank you for this, Patrick.

Definitely appreciate the perspective..It's not easy choosing to be unpopular at times when trying your best to raise and be a positive influence..Thank you.

powerful message!

GOLD! Thank you

Most important video I’ve seen from you and I’ve followed you since the super hero room. Man am I glad to have met you PBD your greatness is in every aspect of life brother and that’s what I learned from you the most. Everything is tied together

What an awesome video! Great stuff! Watched many of your interviews and always enjoyed them and this one made me a subscriber!

Thanks Pat

I honestly love you man.

Patrick is America’s father

A great parent will discipline their child, for the sake of how much you love them, how much you want them to succeed, and how much you want them to be better than you.

Most excellent. Thanks for that.

You're the man, been a fan, for a few yrs now,, Thanks Brother!

Just brilliant thank you

Great content! I also have quality time with my 3 sons. I pray with them and read the Bible with them.

Pat thanks for putting such valuable content on the internet.

Love it! Thank you Pat!

Amazing advice!💯 Totally correct! 💚🙏🏻

Thank you 🤜🤛

Great video! Dads across the country thank you

i swore I would never speak to my father, and didn't for almost 10 years. Now we talk every day and I finally got through that demonize phase. I realize he regrets a lot and I don't want to be carrying a grudge for the rest of my life. Forgive and move on. We're only human.

Fantastic message

Highly relatable and true in its entirety.

Very true...

great video ... thanks much!

Good one Pat. Thanks.

Awesome knowledge, quick and effective clip!!

What an amazing video! Thanks!

You seem like a great coach! Awesome topic!

Fantastic advice.

Thanks pat .

Brilliant!!! Thanks Pat…inspirational! 🙏❤️💯💪

This is so true