the first time I heard this song I was "almost" broken-hearted, now 12 years later I'm in the same situation and this line, make thing if I'm the problem. Why "almost" because I coulnd't give my heart to my "almost Lover" :-(
Not saying anything against you personally, but why is it that people and society in general equate happiness with being in a relationship? Why can't someone be happy single? Like oh I remember listening to this back when I was single and depressed and now I'm engaged and happy. Huh!!!? So in order to be happy you need another person's validation? You can't be happy alone? Just doesn't make any sense to me.
@@jbro8934 I understand that. The way I see it, once you're happy w yourself, you realize the type of partner you want bc you now know what your inner being wants in a partner. People can choose to be alone and happy or be in a relationship and be happy. And as for society I feel like now is when people are being more aware of their own inner being and how it's important to love yourself first and that it's okay to be single and be happy with yourself. It just depends on the person I guess.
In 2021, please promise to stop feeding energy to people who don't deserve your authenticity. You deserve someone who feels wholeheartedly that you are a blessing to their life and the feeling is mutual. You are worthy. You are enough. You deserve happiness. You deserve someone who wants joy for you too.
thinking about what was and never will be again. I assure you, much worse than might have beens. I don't mean a break up. I mean the death of the person you love.
I was 17 when this came out and I still remember listening to it every morning on TV while getting ready for school. Been in my head all these years even at 33. 😌
the worst part of having an almost lover is getting so close to dating and getting a taste of what it would've been like to be in that relationship then it just ending.
SLH yes it is such an unknowing and always wondering broken heart n when life jus intervenes n neither lost feelings life just intervened r paths. It leaves for a bewildered feeling ,going thru it RN
There is this colleague of mine whom i have feelings for,but i can't tell her cause she's 15yrs younger to me but the both of us get on really well,i hate this situation i am in.
I met him about 2 years ago. We fell for each other pretty quick. Spent every other day, if not everyday, together. Told each other we were exactly what the other was looking for. About two months in, he just fades out. Disappears, and ignores me completely. He had personal drama in his life, but I hoped he might sort it out and come back to me... For months I waited. I came across this song and it killed me. "I never want to see you unhappy, I thought you'd want the same for me". "The sweetest sadness in your eyes.... clever trick". Made me realize that maybe he just wasn't that amazing. Maybe he treats women like this. Tells his sad story. Plays the victim. Up and leaves. Without notice. Treats you like you never mattered in the first place.... Someone leaving you hurts, but realizing that they simply aren't even concerned about you in any way is what is truly heart breaking. You don't only lose an "almost lover"... You lose a friend. Someone you grew to wish the best for. To really care for. Just to realize they don't care about you. They don't even call you to give you a warning. They don't even check up on you months later to see how everything is in life. And if you have an encounter they try to play it off like nothing ever happened... And you're left with these memories. You think about how much value they brought to you initially and are left wondering, "Did I make it that easy to walk in and out of my life?" Because they sure as hell didn't make it easy for you to let them go.... BTW, am I the only one who wants to cry even more just seeing the singer sad? lol
+Christina Stoudt been with my boyfriend for 4 years, even quit college in Vienna and come back home for him.. yet he tells me on NYE that he doesn t feel the same way about me.. we ve broken up ever since, i blocked him on every way i could and he keeps coming back.. i m happy now, but it s so hard having to reject him every time.. i m afraid i might fail sometimes..
Gina Kameron I know. It's like being punched in the gut and getting your heart ripped out because you know they are to good for you and you are too ugly. I always fall for people waaaaaaaay out of league.
AN NA I understand what you mean, I fell in love with a woman who was ten years older than me, we were just friends but we had relations sometimes, and it was lovely, but I fell in love with her, and I fell deeply in love with someone who couldn’t love me back. To this day 8 years later I still don’t understand what went wrong or how it happened or why she truly broke up with me. She said it was her and not me, but I know it was definitely me, but I didn’t know why, I woke up next to her one day and she said that we needed to break up, I was confused at what was happening, was it a joke, was it real, was I dreaming? Then my heart ached so hard, it was beating out of my chest and I then knew what true love felt like, I was head over heels in love with her and she let me go, we spent the day together one last time and then 7pm came and it was no more, I went home, the next day I nearly killed myself because I imagined a life without her, I took two boxes of paracetomol, and I ended up being sick and falling to the floor and thought I was going to die, I was by myself but I managed to get up and be sick and I looked after myself that day. But then the next week was the same, I couldn’t heal and I was a mess, and I then started cutting myself. The rest is history but to this day I still can’t understand what happened. Love is powerful, love is special, love should never be a secret. You do crazy things for love, to everyone out there hurting and struggling, you are beautiful and brilliant in every way, look after yourself and time is a healer, look after number one and you’ll pull through
*A melancholic, passionate, emotional song.* The message of the song ‘Almost Lover’ by A Fine Frenzy is about the sadness and pain left behind by a love that almost came about but ultimately remains unfulfilled. 💖
Your fingertips across my skin The palm trees swaying in the wind Images You sang me Spanish lullabies The sweetest sadness in your eyes Clever trick Well, I never want to see you unhappy I thought you'd want the same for me [Chorus] Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be? So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you Should've known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do We walked along a crowded street You took my hand and danced with me Images And when you left, you kissed my lips You told me you would never, never forget These images No Well, I'd never want to see you unhappy I thought you'd want the same for me [Chorus] Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be? So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you Should've known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do I cannot go to the ocean I cannot drive the streets at night I cannot wake up in the morning Without you on my mind So you're gone and I'm haunted And I bet you are just fine Did I make it that Easy to walk right in and out Of my life? [Chorus] Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be? So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you Should have known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do
everyone's like "someone broke my heart", while I am the one that broke someone's heart and it was the biggest mistake of my life and i regret it every single day.
+binna XCX i actually know how you're feeling... broke up with my girlfriend who has been with me for over four years.. and there has not been a single day that i didn't regret doing so.. at least she doesn't have to be with someone who could not appreciate her.
I've sadly done both. neither ever really get any easier. you just eventually learn to live with your scars & stop trying to heal or conceal them. best of luck loveys.
It's amazing how you can hear a song hundreds of times over the years and appreciate it, but not really feel it until life teaches you some hard lessons. Here's to all the almost lovers, here's to what comes after, and here's to finding peace in whatever form it may come. Love y'all.
I used to be dismissive of how many songs there are about heartbreak, even into my 30s. It's just so cliche to write a sad song after a breakup, I thought. So melodramatic. This year I experienced my first real, absolutely crushing heartbreak. All of a sudden, every song makes sense. I finally understand that it wasn't being melodramatic or cliche... It's just that the songwriters are trying to make sense of impossible emotions. Of truly inescapable feeling, soul bleeding emotions that you have no control over. It's impossible. It's beautiful. It's scary and painful and so human. I finally get it.
I was married to my "almost lover" about 13 years ago. We had a very intense, passionate and short relationship. Together for 4 years and even had a child together. He was (is) the master of illusion, and a man of many faces. I fell for one person, but another would come out to play, after I had our child. It was the hardest thing I had to endure and soldier through, even after a pretty intense upbringing. I thank him for giving me the ability to love better, after him. Without that kind of sadness and pain, I probably would never have found, my now husband., and truly appreciate what REAL love is. Not everyone you meet, are meant to join you, on your path through life.
i met a guy who became my best friend (seemingly overnight) and i fell for him harder and more deeply than i ever imagined would be possible. never in my life have i loved anyone with that kind of raw and limitless passion and never will i again. how amazing it is to love someone so fiercely that all else in this world disappears, but when everything else has disappeared what is left when this person also is no longer there? nothing more than a void, of course. a sharp, painful piercing in the center of your heart that acts as a vacuum, systematically consuming every ounce of your being, right down to the very fabric of your soul. here i am years later, still haunted by his face in my most sublime dreams and only in sleep does my heart find solace. i must hide this pain on a daily basis and when it becomes too much to bear i release my tears in the shower under the comfort of the water's disguise. and when thoughts of him creep in and deteriorate my feeble attempts at sleep, i use the mask of nighttime darkness to conceal the tears as they flow relentlessly upon my pillowcase. this heartbreaking life has become my existence and i can no longer remember what it was to feel anything other than this, or to laugh, smile, enjoy life for what it was before i met him. and yet despite the pain, i cannot bear to wish i never met him for during that brief time in which i looked into his eyes, felt his touch, enjoyed his presence- i felt something so undeniably beautiful that it managed to both awaken and destroy me, in an instant. i want so badly to tell him how i feel and this song does a pretty good job- as do numerous others, but i cannot bear to put myself out there and risk a painful rejection. i guess i'd rather live in my dreams where i am able to confess my adoration without hesitation or fear- for it is there that without fail he always embraces me and tells me how much he has missed me, how dearly he loves me, how painful it has been without me. it is there that he is not my 'almost lover', he is not an untouchable piece of the past, he is not my painful and lonely present existence... it is there, in my dreams, that my heart takes a break from the misery of his absence and instead basks in the pure happiness derived from loving the one person who i cared for so much that he actually had the power to break my heart into a zillion pieces. without the complications of life and it's commitments it is just him and i and an undeniable love and it is in these most spectacular of dreams that i am able to feel what it is to live rather than to simply exist. SGDCII, i may never have a chance to say this to you in person, so instead i will exclaim to strangers what i cannot bear to hold inside another moment and what i only wish i could actually say to you- which is that without fail, without doubt, without hesitation, without judgment, and without waiver: i love you. more than can be comprehended by the human mind- I completely, fully, purely, limitlessly, unconditionally, truly love you. i am yours; always have been and always will be. my heart has belonged to you since the -day we met- beginning of time.... should you ever decide you want it, just say the word. ~HB~
Thank you so much AJL179 ! It was very therapeutic to get it all out. I wish he would see it and tell me he feels the same, but I know the likelihood of that happening is slim to none. Either way it was worthwhile to just get it all out in the open, instead of bottling it up as I have done for the past 5+ years. As my mom used to tell me- "whatever will be, will be"! In the meantime, I am waiting patiently. :)
I totally understand that feeling and the need to express it anyway... trust me... Those words you wrote, those exact same words could have been written by me! I can find myself in every word, every dream and every fear you expressed. I wish you best of luck cause I know the hell of a pain you must be in... And like your mom, I have a similar philosophy... "Everything happens for a reason..."
AJL179 I am so sorry to hear that you know this kind of suffering firsthand. Not to be so dramatic, but as you know it is a true pain not unlike a physical injury (actually worse). I would not wish this feeling on anyone, but I am so thankful that you shared your thoughts with me because I do find solace in knowing I am not the only one. I hope you take comfort, as well- in knowing that you are not alone. It is a really sad way to live though! Thanks again for your kind words and letting me know you can relate to this type of sadness. I don't think anyone can understand unless they've experienced it firsthand. And I agree- everything does happen for a reason and things will turn out the way they are meant to be. ...If only we had a crystal ball so we could know exactly how it tuns out without having to wait and wonder. lol :)
*So sad, so much pain and so emotional.* Almost Lover’ describes the melancholy and painful feelings that result from a love affair that almost came about but remains unfulfilled.
I listened to this as a broken- hearted teen..over and over again... Im now happily married, but still love this song ( married to my college sweetheart not that high school douche bag)
Still just as great and masochistic 12 years later. Hate to love it and love to hate it. "I cannot drive the streets at night...I cannot go to the ocean." Breaks my heart more than just romantically during this quarantine. ❤
Last summer I was listening to this song while crying over wine and 5 months later I have a wonderful man who is crazy about me and would never hurt me this way. Keep faith ❤ the good ones are out there ❤️
Many years ago I found an iPod on the bus. The music on it was terrible, but I still went through all of the songs, trying to peak into the mind of whoever had lost it. Then, at some point, I come across this song. I didn't know it, but instantly fell in love with it. To think I might have never heard it otherwise.
whoa...hooo..hoa.. Arthur.!!!.. and to THINK... A bit FURTHER... WHAT IF... that ipod belonged to the LOVE OF A THOUSAND OF YOUR LIFETIMES....and... and.. what if.. she has been CONVINCED THAT SHE WOULD FIND THE LOVE OF HER LIFE ONE DAY... ever since she lost it... WHEN .... Y.O.U..... came up one cloudy day..... holding out your hand to give her... that.... iPod.....?????!!!!
Found this after not listneing to it in a decade or so and found out my wife used to listened/found it back in college when it first came out! Now we can re-enjoy this master piece of almost being.
I listened to this dozens of times on repeat when I was broken hearted. I cried until I was almost sick. I got through it & now I am finally with the love of my life. Married almost 9 years now.
Back in 2009 I had my first love and first big heart break. I played this song on repeat for almost a month after that. 10 years later I am married to an amazing man. But on a whim I listened to this and I cant help smile, not because my first love ended but because it happened. Corny yes but true.
My ex always used to sing this Song in the early days of our relationship, but I never actually heard it, until now. Needless to say it has a lot more significance today...
These songs make more sense to me when my 12 year old daughter contemporary dances to them, it's so sad but alot of these artist don't get they're recognition for such a beautiful gift.
It took me YEARS to find this song and I would search descriptions of this music video and NOTHING! Finally today after idk how many years I found it 🥰
*Yes, a melancholic, passionate, emotional song.* The song reflects the sadness and pain left behind by a love that almost came about but ultimately remains unfulfilled.
I thought I wasn't ever going to be one of these people with a sad love story that ends in grief and heartache but I was wrong. I went out with a girl for 2 and a half years and dedicated my life to her she was my beautiful angel, I said goodnight to her and good morning to her every day and night. I always said I love you and was there for her but I found out she was cheating on me. 3 years later I still have a literal pain in my chest that does not go away ever and every girl I try to find a connection with, there's just nothing just heartache and distrust in girls and love. I used to believe In true love and the whole prince and princess thing but now I guess I'm just a hopeless romantic lost in a cold hearted world.
We walked all over this town. We made memories on every sidewalk, every street, every back way and all the gas stations. I can't go anywhere without suddenly realizing I'll never walk any of these paths with you ever again. That's the sad thing about memories. Sometimes you remember, sometimes you don't. When you do remember, it's a truly bittersweet situation. You want those days back. The holding hands, cuddling, kissing, laughing, watching movies, the love. You want it all back. But you're stuck with just remembering, knowing they have forgotten, or that they are trying to forget. I don't know if I should hold on to these memories, or if I, too, should forget them. I don't think I could forget if I tried. Good for you, my almost lover. Good for you.
@@Vaelosa I really hope that you left the past behind and that now you're with someone who does deserve your love and who does love you back. Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards. That's why one shouldn't re-live the past over and over again, passing by new chances on the way until all of them are gone.
I listened to this song when my wife died…. it was really hard to recover and when i finally thought i could love again i found out i was just being used... now i'm here again😞😞😞😞
This was my favorite song - even inspired me to write a song myself... I watched fantastic beasts for the first time yesterday and looked up the cast bc that's something I do... When I saw her description, I freaked out and have been listening to this song on repeat for the first time in years!
Can't believe she's in fantastic beasts and where to find them! Looks so different didn't recognise her!! Amazing! Such lovely songs, check out my own music on my channel if you have a spare minute x
To add. I recall hearing this piece on Soundcloud whilst living in Berlin. Circa 2015. A few thousand listens, max. And I think I sent a message saying the tune was huge. It all fits and the coy heartfelt style. And here you are now north of 13m views. YAS! Style is style and bravo ❤
RU-vid reccomend this to me, not knowing that I was already here 17 years ago. My age was double since that time. I'm glad finally I have a chance to meet this old friend again, after all these years.
he left me a month ago, yet I still can't forget all those memories and things that he said to me and how special he made me believe I was... now we're back to where we were again, strangers...and by God does it fucking hurt....
Some of the best songs do that. Two songs from my time that do that to me are "How Much I Feel" by Ambrosia and the song "I Go Crazy" by Paul Davis.....
I've listened to this song for a few years and didn't knew the meaning or even watched this video and now that I speak english search it. its so sad and touching.
Was just looming up her music today. And realized she’s Queenie in Fantastic Beasts. Blows my mind. This song stuck with me as a young adult. And then to think of it randomly today...and just learn this. Mind blown.
I've just realized and this makes me so happy out of nowhere like I didn't know I needed to know that alison sang this song which I still remember from my childhood!!! I completely fell in love with her as queenie six years ago
I think we need the reminder that not every lover will make it through life with you some just aren't meant to be and thats ok. Not everyone deserves your love. Stay strong
It's sad when you've finally found your soulmate, your other half, the one you truly loved but she doesn't care about you as much as you ever did. You know no matter how much you love her, you can never make her love you. Never can.
then that isn't really your soulmate. I think you label her as your soulmate too soon. I feel like soulmate is a term that you can say when reflecting back on life but not forward.
Lyrics: Your fingertips across my skin The palm trees swaying in the wind Images You sang me Spanish lullabies The sweetest sadness in your eyes Clever trick Well, I'd never want to see you unhappy I thought you'd want the same for me Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you Shoulda known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do We walked along a crowded street You took my hand and danced with me Images And when you left you kissed my lips You told me you would never, never forget These images Well, I'd never want to see you unhappy I thought you'd want the same for me Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you Shoulda known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do I cannot go to the ocean I cannot drive the streets at night I cannot wake up in the morning Without you on my mind So you're gone and I'm haunted And I'll bet you are just fine Did I make it that easy to walk Right in and out of my life Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you Shoulda known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do
I remember listening to this song at 22 after my first real breakup. Hits just as hard at 38 😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔 The pain of some songs truly shakes you to your core your entire life. That's the mark of a truly amazing song.
Goodbye, my almost lover Goodbye, my hopeless dream I'm trying not to think about you Can't you just let me be? So long, my luckless romance My back is turned on you I should've known you'd bring me heartache Almost lovers always do...
This song will always reminds me of my late husband... we would always listen to this and sing it to each other. He was 27 when he passed & I was 25 (with 4 kids ) Kyle you truly were my almost lover.. we promised forever now your gone. You will forever have a special place in your heart.
The flash backs of the times i cried to this song. Hope everyone who did is in a better place now. Also, so proud of Alison Sudol ❤ she came so far. Love her in fantastic beasts
I have to play this song at least once a year to remind myself of how I felt at rock bottom and how long it took for me to hold my head up again, to remind myself to take care of the important things so I never have to go back to that place again.
He is my almost lover when he suddenly ignored and leave me without saying any words. It feels like your feeling are hanging up there , and got no way down here. He makes me feel so special for a day, then makes me feel that I'm nobody at all. This song is so much reminding me about him and at the same time, it is also made me feel so strong to let him go. :)
