Control, block and delete. Islam is a beautiful religion that establishes good mental health strategies for dealing with toxic people. Alhamdulilah for the deen that protects ones mind, soul and heart ❤
allah says ignore people who add negativity in your life if they hinder and affect you feeling and positive environemt that you yourself are and wish to be and are being you can easily have a billion positivities inshallah
I've a toxic cousin, toxic to the point that she contributed to me having panic attacks & now an anxiety disorder. She is so negative, her vibes, energy everything is negative. She's always ready to start an argument. I tried my best to remain as polite as possible, swallowed my pride but since it started affecting my mental health I've stopped talking to her her. Its been months since we last talked & I realise that "not speaking to your brother is a sin" but idk what to do. If I talk to her again after all this she's gonna ruin my mental health again but I also don't want to upset ALLAH. Idk what to do. Please help
Aswk sister its your life and life is best gift from Allah. Dont allow someone to ruined it. Now you are not intend to cut relationships with her righr. If she call you talk to her but do not talk with her unnecessary as it will destroy your mental health. Caring your self and mental health is totally fine. Your life and its time is important use it in a positive and constructive way. Allah knows the best
@@sshaikh8104 she doesn't contact me either because she thinks she is superior than everyone, which for me is a blessing in disguise. I want to heal from my disorder because it has affected my life very bad & not talking to her keeps me at peace.
Salam sister, I think the "in the moment with mamoon" podcast might be helpful in your healing. It has helped me keep my head on straight through so many tough times
apologize to them. if they cant compromise, then move on. move on here mean is, not holding grudge, just avoid them for the sake of your mental health. allah knows perfectly how we feel, pray a lot, he always listen.
I had a toxic close one! He gave panic attacks, trauma and all the negative things in my life. So I left him! I just don't want in my life. He is so unsupportive. Yes I am now generating strength to just cut him off.
Thank you brother what a beautiful and important topic! I certainly will replay this video and apply the points to my corporate life. May Allah give you jannah Al Ferdouse!! Ameen
جزاكم الله خيرا For teaching us. May ا للَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى Giv u strength to keep teaching and help us to act on the knowledge u pass on . اللهم آمين My dad passed and he knew so much but I didn’t take enough opportunity to learn at the time. Thank u sheikh . Grateful to keep learning الحمد ِلله
What I’m I supposed to do if that toxic person is a parent? Also siblings? I see no actual value in having them around! all they do is judge ridicule and bully me there constant negative comments has caused anxiety and depression in my life I suffer with health problems as it is, no future no spouse no way out from there degrading language trying to speak to them doesn’t make life better No respect appreciation or gratitude I received for all the sacrifices I’ve made for them Without them I have nobody with them in depression and sad Please pray for me im truly lost
As salaamu alaikum... May Allah set right all your affairs, protect you from the trails of the wrong doing people ..n give you peace....plz read the dua of taif, very powerful dua ..stay strong, you matter... Allah loves you..".if the world knocks you down a100 times.. Allah will pick you up a billion times"...
What if its ur own family members, ur own sisters? And its ur daily struggle.. then?? What to do? How to remove rhem? How to stay away and move on from them?
In a similar situation, with my mother's sister and the rest of the family, siding with her betrayal. In a conundrum bcuz then we have to abide by silat ar-rahim to Maintain good relations with our kin. It's very difficult. May Allah bring ease to those suffering in silence, ameen
Assalamu Alaikum. Please seek confidential help from an Imaam or other professional, to help fix the situation. Do not give up quickly. May Allaah. always bless and guide us to what is good for us
What of that one negative person is your spouse you have a child with? Who turned your life and Deen upside down by constant criticism, judgement and discouragement
@@ismihanadjerlek6871 Assalamu Alaikum. Please try to talk to him, talk to an Imaam or professional to see if the problems can be fixed, before giving up. May Allaah bless and guide us.
Try to seek counseling and see how it goes. Now if it's truly as bad he is more likely to refuse that option. I would say communication is key. Signal that you need him to make an active attempt of transforming his habits for the sake of your relationship. And if he's not willing to do that either by seeking counseling or therapy or whatever solution you were thinking about than realize he is not going to do anything to make this relationship a healthy one. Then try to see the options that you have it might be ending the marriage but again you know better your situation and what is better for you. These are sensitive matters so take advice from professionals I mean they're trained for that we're not. May Allah make it easy for you
In case you are in India you can try to connect with Khushaal Zindagi.. they try to fix marriages going through rough weathers. May Allah make it easy for you
Is productivity define the scope of relationships 🤔😮 What will do the guy who is poor and not professionally qualified when come to the criteria you respected brother mentioned to remove from list of ones connections 🤷🏼♂️ It will be absolutely unjustifiable 🤷🏼♂️
Respect is mutual in a relationship. Tell him that. Allah has asked men to be kind to their wife. The prophet saws was the best among men and he was very kind to his wives. Your husband was probably not raised well
@@Gamergirll0.5 JazakAllah khair sister,, but he will never understand,,I tried,, yes you're right he was not raised well,, but I'm suffering,, now with all this other issue he spends all of his time on phone talking to his dozens if friends and this is his everyday routine,, dosen't spend time with family or dosen't like to talk to wife but on phone talking with friends he's happy. Please pray Allah give me sabr Aameen
@@saqeel5687 where do you live sister ? Maybe you should take a break from him and live with your parents for sometime. Don't call him, don't text, keep no contact. Let him come to you and when he does talk to him, tell him he's a grown man and he needs to be responsible as a husband and father. May Allah give you sabr
@@Gamergirll0.5 that can't be ,, my mother lives in Pakistan, my father passed away last year, I can't go anywhere,, I don't have any back support from family just Allah and He is sufficient,, pray Allah give me sabr
Assalamu alaikum my sister, I didn't watch the video. So I don't know what he said. But I had been asked your question to myself... And even in east they say get out the toxic people! But I Said HOW! What if it was one of my family members!! It's haram!! So?! Then I found this, please read and think about it sister, and I really hope it helps you as its helped me, here it is the Ayah, "And We have made some of you [people] as trial for others - will you have patience? And ever is your Lord, Seeing. - Saheeh International So now, I know what I am being patient for, or at least trying my best to be patient, because it is a test, and we as muslims know that we are here for a test.. I hope it could answer your question.. Wassalamu alaikum...
Of course we will find the balance, we are not gonna ignore ourselves like we are nothing! No. We have to find the balance. InshaAllah with dua everything gets easier.
@@revan9633 Wa alaikum assalaam warahmatullaahi wabarakatuh. Agreed. This life is a test and we can't expect Jannah here and now. That wouldn't make sense. However we should seek aafiyah, right? At the end of the day, I don't want to place myself in a situation where I put my deen, my eemaan at risk. I want to strive to find paths that make me return to Allah, to praise him more and more. Of course I can't escape my trials and honestly I think for some of us, Allah has made people our kith and kin those people whom we would never choose for ourselves. And you're right there is no other way except sabr and salah. However I do wonder at how much I can 'protect' myself from them without incurring Allah's wrath by crossing the line where I would be cutting ties. I want to keep relations but first and foremost I want to protect my own mental well being. Heartfelt thanks for your concern and sincere Advice. Allah make the quran a balm for us and increase us in it. Ameen. I'd like to share something that helped me with this difficulty too. quranreflect.com/posts/4586
@@sebbaraja9019 I absolutely got your point my sister. Our mental health and without incurring Allah's wrath... What I do is I talk with my relatives, but at some point we just have to learn how to balance and draw the boundry if they harm us... But with our parents, you know it's totally another thing. May Allah guide all of us to the right :) Thannnk you for your sharing sister, i've read half of it. I'm gonna read it inshaAllah... Ameen ya Rab al Alameen...
