A Reason to Stop Worrying What Others Think 

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” ― Lao Tzu

I saw this post on Twitter: "It's only embarrassing if you're embarrassed." Then I felt confident

People are living their own life, you should live yours

I can't believe how much time and hurt I let myself feel worrying about what people thought about me. It's liberating not caring about what people think.

“Life is short. It’s ending one minute at a time. Why waste it on fulfilling other people’s expectations.” - Tyler Durden

don't know why but sometimes it just feels weird to be alive

Funny I used to think exactly this during high school presentations. I would think “everyone is bored and not listening, you didn’t care about theirs. They don’t care about yours.” And it would help me a ton.

"You could be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, but there will always be someone who doesn't like peaches"

Love these topics!

“People talk about you because if they talk about themselves, no one will listen” -some guy on Instagram

"Even on the highest throne in the world, we are still sitting on our ass" I loved this!!!

This is the main focal point of why my life is in the state that it's in now. My biggest failures have derived from being self-conscious of what other people think of me. Fear of rejection and ridicule from strangers, friends and family. I've always taken the "safe" option, stayed in the background, try not to get noticed, avoid attention as much as possible, do the "proper" thing that I'm expected to do. My one and only passion in life is music, it's the reason I'm still alive at this point. It's my dream to write my own music and perform my own songs but I am TERRIFIED of how other people will judge me and my music. I worry about people crushing my hopes of maybe one day I will be able to be on stage doing what I love. I can't even play guitar in front of my own family. I can barely even bring myself to finish a song, let alone start recording one because I think to myself, it's not good enough, no one else will like it. I'm trying to work through it, but this is fundamentally the biggest crux of the suffering I've experienced in my life. It's hypocritical of me to say "don't worry about what other people think", but I can at least say you aren't alone. Reply to me if you want to talk about it, it's hellish enough dealing with this on your own. EDIT: Thanks for the video, I needed this.

“Definitions belong to the definers, not the defined.” ― Toni Morrison

The thing about the spotlight effect is that everyone experiences it, meaning that everyone thinks that everyone is focused on them.

Can we please just appreciate the amount of effort this guy puts into every single one of his videos? He simply uses philosophy and rationality to beat anxiety. That combined with godlike editing skills makes one of the best content creators out there. Thank you!

That's real happiness is being you & not worrying about what others think. Optimistic nihilism.

“do you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?” - charles bukowski

I feel like on some days I just intuitively care less about what others think and these are always good days. Because most of our misery comes from thinking about or comparing yourself to others I think.

“You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

I really could have used this during early high school. I spent so much of my effort, time, my entire being worrying about what others thought about me, and did everything in my power to make sure that I was being socially acceptable. It dominated my entire existence.

Anxiety causes us to think that everyone is watching and judging us when the truth is that no one is watching or judging you and then comes depression where no one cares about you and you don’t know which is true.

This channel needs to be known to every living person who wants to change for the better!

This is what I needed, innumerable times I have ruined my own opportunities or failed to speak up due to fear of what others will think of me. If I could actually turn off that part of me, I will be 80% more happier.

I got over the fear of what people think of me by wearing a onesie everyday in public for an entire winter !! But everyone ended up liking me because of it!!!😆

If I were a wealthy man, Such things I'd give to thee: All gauges and guises Of umpteen surprises, And wealthy I'll someday be. If I were a clever man, Such things I'd build for thee: All manner of modes Of humble abodes, And clever I'll someday be. If I were a travelling man, Such things I'd bring to thee: All features and faces Of faraway places, And travelled I'll someday be. If I were a braver man, Such things I'd promise thee: All valour in verses Of tethering curses Will someday be set free.

As someone who failed to meet his parents' expectations multiple times I Thank you for this video.

This video brought a tear to my eye. It's so painful to have such a vivid understanding of how this thought process works, and yet still be a slave to it every single day.

One day... one day I will own up to my kids and tell them that dad’s golden nuggets (the boring little chats we have about life) are all thanks to this channel and dad regurgitating the awesome wisdom here...

We live in a selfish society. But if we seek first to understand than to be understood, we will stop worrying about ourselves.

"Hell is other people" *~Reddit*

Take it from an old gal, we tie ourselves in knots trying to people please and leave ourselves burnt out and isolating from the pain and the people whom have no idea what our thoughts have led to. We can not know what others are thinking as they can not know that which we are churning over and over inside our minds. Projecting and rumination is debilitating, let go. My love to each and every one of You. ❤️

Everytime I do something embarrassing, i think "if I were someone else, would I notice what I [the one who did the embarrassing thing] did? It helps me to realise, if I wouldn't notice someone else doing the same thing, others will probably think the same.

"Just like an irrational fear of a harmless spider." I had never thought about my social anxiety and general anxiety towards the world in this way before. I am generally a logical person and am described in your aforementioned archetype. But this knowledge does not help you stray from your default mode. We are all afraid of what might be. Good or bad. That's the thing, it doesn't have to be good for you to worry. Change. Change and straying from the normal is what makes us worry. (Much like you mentioned). You need to inspire a deep seated belief in yourself (not God, not some entity or foreign power), yourself and no one else. This is the only true way to a non-dogmatic way of spiritual being. Think for yourself. Live for yourself. Most importantly, love yourself.

I recently read a quote that said "people are mostly thinking about themselves. People dont have time to worry what your doing or how well your doing it, because they're all caught up in their own dramas." And as I thought about it I realised how right that was. Think about yourself. About who do you think? Yes! About YOUR insecuritys, YOUR mistakes, how YOU look what could be possibly wrong with YOU. And I think everyone thinks like this. We are all some selfish selfcentered human beeings and thats why we dont notice how litteraly no one cares. Maby the attention of others will be drawn to you for an incredibly short moment but they will forget about it as soon as they start to worry about themselves again. I realised this and it helped me so much to not care! Also even if they would think about you, which they most probably dont, but IF, what can their thoughts do to you? They cant physically harm you and if people dont speak them out loud, which no one really does because were also not brave enough, they cant even hurt you mentaly. So give less f*cks and keep thinking about your self and not about others potential thoughts! ;)

This is my first week in class, and the first time I transferred since grade school. First day in, I felt like crying because all of my classmates already made their own circle of friends while I was the only one alone. I was crying when I saw this video. When I read the title, I immediately knew the message of this video is for me. To be honest, it's such a big comfort for me. Thank you for this video!!! 💖💖💖

I have been battling with my self worth, I honestly couldn’t tell you if this video helped because I’m in a stable state of mine right now. But I do know I will come back to this video to remind myself. Thank you

As someone who tries to do this on a daily basis, people will like you by the way- it's just the people who do are themselves a fantastic fit to your true self. You can become almost a beacon, bringing similar-minded individuals toward yourself, and repelling those who aren't. You will always have some level of social anxiety, but if you can continue to push through it anyway, you can eventually make your way to being anything you want, with little to no fear. Just make sure to take it slow. Start with fashion! Start wearing whatever you want, no matter what it looks like. (Me and my freind used to wear flower crowns to this end!) It's really easy to slowly rachet up the oddity of it

A Pursuit of Wonder video today? Going to be a great day

"I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am." -Charles Cooley Epic quote 🙃

“Care about people’s approval and you will always be their prisoner.” -- Lao Tzu Edit: As a small channel that no one cares about, really appreciate the love 😂 Visual Venture. ❤️

It’s actually crazy how this channel uploads exactly what I need to hear exactly when I need to hear it. This channel is amazing. Much love

"You will stop worrying what others think about you if you realize how seldom they do so" ~idk

I understand the porpoise behind this but if someone thinks you are weak, you could get bullied. Someone thinks you're a criminal/ thug, you could be kicked out of stores just from walking in. Someone thinks you're creepy but you just need directions and next thing you know you're in handcuffs. These statements reflect reality. What people think determine your life choices, that's why influencers exist.

“I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am.” some deep sh!t man

Uh, I just think “I will get judged regardless of what I do”, so I just do things that I want

Needed to hear this. Been worrying for years what others think of me and particularly now because I'm being such a people-pleaser.

I honestly think this is the only channel that blows my mind every. single. time. I watch a video. That quote at the end couldn't be better, definitely something I will remember for some time!

Your channel saved me, it’s almost like you know exactly what I need to hear and when. Thank you for all your hard work putting these together you’re amazing and an awesome individual

I needed that right now this second. Thanks you!

"Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu

You are my fav youtube content creator. When i first discovered your channel, i binged watched your videos for days. It made me realised a lot of things i didnt before & it changed my perceptions in life. “The amara effect” was the first one I watched & it was so meaningful to me. Slowly i began to let go of my fears, my anxiety & all the labels I limited myself to. Thank you so much for the efforts you put into the videos.

I'd say that among those smart-talking-dude channels yours is probably best executed. The narration seems flawless, the video sequence is always neat. Good job man.

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner" -Sun Tzu, the art of happiness lol

Dude i just love you ... really love your content ... out of words... even though its momentarily... but your work brings in the real peace of mind and a little funny happiness to know the truth... which we all somewhat know already... but as it is stated in the video... mind even with knowing everything will do the same reacts.... its all some times an endless loop... but your videos... i just fukin love them ... wish i had a brother like u 💜 bro

I have known this channel for about 1 year and it seems like this explores any philosophical idea to its core and the best part is originality of thoughts which is rare in these type of content creators

No matter what you do or who you are, someone will hate you for seemingly no reason. Many people will. Trying to appease those people doesn't matter. It's how well you can take it that matters.

If I'm home alone, I find myself thinking about what other people think about me a lot and it's very annoying. That's why I prefer to just be outside to clear my mind/head. Humans were born to be in nature, not on social media which I have completely quit btw. In any case, my advice would be to keep yourself occupied with work, working out, setting new goals, work on projects, go out in the city, date, hang out with friends/family, play games. Most importantly, just take care of your needs in the very moment whatever it might be. Maybe you're hungry and need to eat, maybe you're horny and need to have sex, maybe you're lonely and need to socialize. Whatever it might be, whenever you start feeling that something is missing and you start to overthink, just find out what it is and deal with it promptly. Also, it's ok to feel sick and tired and not wanting to do anything at all. That is often the best solution because just doing something doesn't necessarily make things any better. Sometimes you just have to wait and let life play itself out to get you back on track.

Every video out is an exciting new piece of a puzzle, that collectively will become a new book for me to buy, audiobook to hear, and an idea to reflect on and share. Thanks Robert

I was just starting to question myself a little and this popped up right when I opened youtube thank you for opening my eyes to this and the lemon army supports you.

This is how deeply I’ve thought about things, I’m glad to know there are others who can actually put these thoughts into words and visuals

“…I am who I think YOU think I am.” Holy Jeebus, didn’t I need to hear *this* one today!!

7:24 please don't do this ever again, I nearly shat myself

This actually helps my anxiety a lot. It’s like a constant battlefield on my mind, myself against myself. This really helps ground things and helps take me outside of my own mind and see things for how they really are on the outside.

I think this is one of the best videos this channel has made. Despite your apparent drop in viewership recently, I think I've only been more and more pleased with this channel's content. Thank you for continuing to put such a high degree of effort into these videos. We feel it, and we appreciate it.

One of the ways to feel positive energy is to take your attention away from the negative and focus on everything that transmits positivity to you. Have a beautiful day! 💜💜💜

“A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinion of a sheep”- Tywin Lannister.

Thank you for you're videos. I am taking a big step in my life, and this helps me cope with some of the worries that come along with moving.

Best channel on RU-vid. Every single video has been phenomenal

2:27 Reminded me of that scene from fight club. "You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world."

“I am who I think you think I am” Apart from excellent citations, the illustrations are far better than your earlier videos. Specially, the illustration at 04:45 is the best illustartion of abstract art I have seen anywhere in RU-vid. Great going man! You are no “Other”!

Thank you for putting it into words! Some of the thinking you were talkin about is what got me thru my speech class I reminded myself how often do I judge or care when another is nervous or makes a mistake? I don’t do I’m sure nobody is worried about me. As you said this can almost feel bad but in my situation it was absolutely liberating and it got me thru to finish my degree. Your writing and thoughts are amazing keep it up! Truly enjoyable

"Stop" is a strong word in this regard, a word that should be used cautiously. You can't just "stop" worrying even if you practice your whole life. Worrying happens whether we want it or not and judging ourselves for it even if it's excessive, is counterintuitive. Instead of trying to "stop" rather *descale* back on worrying. Rate your worrying from 1-10 and see if you can bring it down by number. If you're at a 7, focus on a 6.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. - Eleanor Roosevelt. Edit: As a small channel that no one cares about, really appreciate the love 😂 Visual Venture. ❤️

Basically what Shinji should've thought whenever he has an existential crisis in piloting the EVA, but what do I know?

Deepest videos on RU-vid! Helps with self reflection and bumping my perspective onto a different path that's unfortunately far less traveled

I loved the animation. The graphics style is so different and components were so well thought out.

Yeah when I was an early teenager i used to care a lot about what others thought and made a different persona of me to show to my friends and those friends didn't feel genuine at all after middle school I went to a different high school and lost touch with all of them. At high school i had a realisation of sort and some self awareness so I tried not caring what others think at all it was very hard at first but somehow I managed to get to that point where I didn't care about any body's opinion in general, but I realised that I was just dehumanising myself because caring about what others think of you is a very essential foundation to being a human amd forming strong relationships. So in the end you just have to find a balance of what you should care about and what you shouldn't by thinking about if you gain something from it or lose something from it. Don't worry too much about what others think to the point where it's deciding how you live and affecting you negatively and don't not care to the point where you're just not caring for the sake of it if that makes any sense

"There are no master" -accident oogway

I needed this so badly right now in my life. Thank you so much man.

thank you for your videos! this combination out of inspiring words and fascinating, but well fitting visualizations is making your videos so special. I had to watch this twice, because I got lost in these sketches...

The sooner you realize nobody gives a rat's behind about you, the sooner you can move along living this relatively short life in a manner that gives you some sense of fulfillment. What other people think is absolutely irrelevant.

There's one more thing ... whether present yourself as much as you can as the real you and not an ideal portrait of who you think you are people still perceive you in their own way each one of them. the problem apears when they treat you in a bad way or at least in a way you find it to be wrong. if you act like who you think you are and people around yourself will treat you in a mean way you will think that the problem is you. you will think that you are not how you should be, you will feel alone and misunderstood. as a result, some chemical reactions of the brain creates pain and the social interactions that should had to be harmless.. begin to harm you. But you are not the problem, you are just in the wrong place with the wrong people who cant apreciate you for your unique, complex self but you must be sure that your behavior doesnt harm the others as well. work enough in order to move anywhere you can, try to know new people and stay true to yourself whatever that means for you and maybe you will find yourself at some point in life surounded by people who will give you the feeling of belonging or learn to embrace the beautiful side of being alone and socialize enough to not go insane xD (sorry if I had any grammar mistakes, english its not my first language)

Pursuit of Wonder knows exactly what I need and when I need it!

I needed this video. Thank you so much for making this.

One is stuck playing the impassioned protagonist in one’s Subjective Narrative of Self🎈

"We judge others by their actions while we judge ourselves by our actions." - stephen covey

Thank you. I really needed this. I should elaborate but, that's literally the point of the video. So again, thank you.

Great video. Thank you for putting this together.

Checks comments to see what others think*

I have a request please make video on the topic "right choices " we are now living in a world where we have so many choices even if something is good for us within it also there are so many choices so how to handle them?!

dont think about how others will think of you, think of how you will think of yourself, becoming someone you can be proud of being will help you out a lot in life (a message for all)

This video is priceless 💯💯💯💯♥️🙏🏾, am going to share it with my siblings and my adults daughters ..

What other people think of you is none of your business. - I forget who said it 🤭 And if it cheers you up, just remember: You re the literal center of the universe(the observable universe at least).

just look around you.. everyone including their opinion is going to die, and that idea alone can make you care less :)

Great video, I love what you’re doing here, it’s very helpful and the narrator is fabulous, thank you so much for sharing and for your hard work 😻✌️

so glad you added the part after the first conclusion many people often just stop there

You cannot have a positive life, with a negative mind 🚀🌙 ❤️ from *High Living - animated videos*

Damn sounds like Satre inspired Evangellion. Like this is shinji's monaloge word for word.

Your story's are so well put together n versatile. Yu most definitely helped me grow my curiosity in my younger years while still continuing to do so

I have OCD. The people in my apartment complex have noticed, but nobody will ask me why it is I’m always checking around my car and doing kind of strange things. They see I’m benign and I walk my dog a lot, I don’t look scary or anything at all, yet Everyone at my apt complex has taken to openly mocking me. They either laugh and make it very obvious they’re staring at and talking about me, outright scorn me with scowls and terrible looks, CONSTANTLY watch me to see what I’m doing (which triggers my OCD so that’s a bad cycle), or they run in the other direction with their dog when I come by. I mean I’m odd, but I’m certainly not that odd!!! Not close. I take care of my appearance. I’m a philosophy and cinema and tv arts double major who writes scripts and works as a paralegal. I love my dog with all my heart. I am a good friend. They could at least ask me about it so that they know what’s wrong, or they could just mind their business, but nobody has asked and it seems they are extremely preoccupied with me. It has turned into a big group bullying situation, which shocks me as I want to go unnoticed and I’m in my damn 30s, and the watching me (as a woman in her early 30s alone) constantly is getting me very agitated. I am trying so hard to ignore it but it’s breaking my spirit a little. I want to listen to all this advice, but I feel so lonely.