She tells that her life isn’t entertaining but watching simple things she does through the day somehow reminds me of the fact that our life shouldn’t be extremely fulfilled with crazy things to be GREAT. Simple things make our life great 🌙🌙
re: losing your personality when with others in situations like the one you described at brunch - yes! that happens to me too. I think it's a blessing and a curse of having a personality prone to 'chameleoning' - being who those around us need us to be, in place of always being our unapologetically authentic selves. I've noticed that it's easier for me to overcome 1-on-1, but how to preserve strength in self and silence within a group dynamic is definitely still a lesson I continue to learn. don't be too hard on yourself for not knowing what to say. your presence alone, in silence or when spoken, is dazzling. ride your wave. xx
Being yourself with people you don’t know very well is so difficult. I feel like the only person I am fully myself with is my partner and when I’m by myself. It’s a little rough
@@loudevanneaux661 being unapologetically you when you're in the presence of yourself is a skill many take their entire lives to develop. celebrate that and know that you are worthy of being seen by others too, exactly as you are :)
When you were talking about how you feel like you lose your personality when you’re shy it made me feel so validated because that happens to me quite often in social situations 😭 I know I can be a great conversationalist and I love my personality but sometimes I just feel like a shell of a human when I don’t feel comfortable and I’m trying to meet myself with grace when that happens and not beat myself up for it. ❤️
“I don’t do yoga to get better at yoga. I do yoga to get better at life.” Wow, I needed to hear that today 🙏 I find myself trying to perfect yoga asanas sometimes. The reasoning and intention behind yoga is to apply it in my life 💓
the lack of "entertainment" in your vlogs is what makes me feel a connection with you. I'm an introvert who likes slow living and having my own little rituals (and who also struggles with anxiety around social situations!), so i really enjoy and identify with what you post :)
Don’t need to apologiZe for “not having an interesting life” all contrast is a point of interest Good vibes thanks for the positive and affirming content
You're such an incredible valuable help in me trying to everyday remember myself again. Sometimes we are so slippery, our thoughts so slippery, it's hard to grip and stop us from rolling into patterns that are known but so unhealthy for us... Unlearning, with you. Thank you 💜🪴🙏 from Berlin
hitomi you helped save me from a spiral a few weeks ago, ever since then things have been beautiful & now i’m ready to really dig even deeper. thank you, thank you, thank you. you beautiful soul
omg i can relate to "i sometimes feek like i lose my personality when i'm shy" sooo much! for a long time i actually thought i had no personality and was just a boring, "empty" person. untill i realised that it was just around people i didn't feel comfortable around or didn't know very well. and with releasing the expectation to have good conversations with every single person i meet, i am able to go into connections way more relaxed and actually "dare" to show my personality
I totally get you when you say that it feels surreal to hear people say your name. I'm always aware that other people are the main character in their movies, and it feels so strange to realise that I am in their movie too. I exist. My boyfriend always calls me sweet nicknames, but on the rare occassion he says my actual name, I feel so validated and loved.
I couldn’t stop smiling throughout this whole video!! She looks so small when she does yoga, I don’t know what it is but it reminds me of the feeling I get when I’m in a forest or near the ocean or under the stars, and am just reminded of how teeny tiny I am. I was also so happy when she said she whacked a cockroach. It was very relatable. Cant stop smiling
Yes!! Hitomi, that happens too me!! Feeling like I need to talk when everybody else is talking. It makes me want to hide and escape the situation!! I'm still negotiating those experiences and feelings and appreciate you sharing this!! I'm currently in a rough wave on my self journey and resonating with you and seeing that I am not alone or weird or too sensitive is comforting!
i have met a group of good friends yesterday after a really rough week, and i was so overwhelmed by their personalities and their voices that i just wanted to retreat, so i got out my book and hid in a little quieter place of the house until one of my friends found me and told me that i am being really rude....i felt so guilty and forced myself back into the group for several more hours and got so sick of it and was so ashamed of my feelings at the same time...hearing you speaking about this right in this video was a bliss for my soul. thank you!
Even when your life is uneventful I love to watch and feel the peaceful energy your videos always evoke for me. You inspire me to treat myself more gently and take each day moment by moment.
wow i relate so so much to that feeling of losing your personality when you're anxious or not being present. describing your friend when she was eating and not feeling obligated to join in on the conversation.. i often have those thoughts too. its so nice that you can be reflective in those moments and not beat yourself up for just being you. thanks so much for being here and putting me at ease for my own self!
I love this energy of boundary setting in social groups. I am totally the one who will sit back and enjoy listening and not feel a need to participate at all. I think everyone should set that boundary and feel safe doing that without shame or anxiety. Not only should everyone be able to embrace themselves fully in that way, but others should help to normalize that and hold space for it by not forcing them into the conversation. :)
Okay lady your energy just gets to me. 💕 You're so HONEST, BEAUTIFUL, and REAL. And I think we can all agree that we are glad you started making videos. 😜💗
When you were talking about losing your personnality , I was like "yes me too !" , sometimes I feel very overwhelmed around people and I feel guilty when I don't talk at all...but I prefer to listen to people and if I want to talk I will but I don't have to force myself ❤️ We should remind ourself we are enough and we don't have to put so much pressure on ourself ❤️
I feel completely the same when it comes to feeling the subtle energies and being overwhelmed by the silence. I’m definitely still learning to not let that negatively affect me. I’ve recently started my spiritual journey and prioritizing my mental health which has already helped me a lot.
Just cruising not forcing anything to fit into your life is great advice. We spend so much energy trying to force things or even years regretting the what ifs. I totally love this advice of not forcing anything.
Seeing and hearing the way you handle yourself when you feel overwhelmed or anxious truly encourages me to practice yoga and meditation daily. It's crazy how sprinkling little sweet things into your daily routine can change how you feel and act overall! You are a true inspiration and I hope your journey only brings more happiness and love into your life, you deserve it
i am Moving abroad and living alone in two weeks and I recently been having a wave of emotions. From anxiousness, excited, happy, sad, tired. Through meditation and trying to do breathing practices i am learning how to trust myself. Once again, thank you for creating this space on youtube where your videos help me reflect more on my own spiritual practices.
I too feel like I "loose my personality " when I feel forced to talk but I don't feel like it. I struggle with being silent when I'm around other people and feeling rude or that I'm making them uncomfortable. That's why I enjoy being with groups of people that I know, because I feel others can carry the weight of the conversation while I can stay in the background if I want to.
the things you said about social anxiety, feeling timid, not talking, making physical contact or forcing friendships if you don't want to... it has deeply resonated with my heart ❤️
When you mentioned the bug situation, I felt that, I would not be able to sleep 😂 On another note, God Bless all of you beautiful people!!! Hitomi thank you always for your positive vibes, your videos always bring me peace! Have a wonderful day everyone! ✨♥️✝️🙏🏼🍀🌞
Thank you for making me realise that positive attitudes towards life and others attract joy, gratitude and love. Your way of communicating, the way you act, and what you talk about in all your videos makes me instantly so much more grateful, loving and just puts me in a much better mood. Thank you, may the universe bless you with unconditional love from those around you & infinite gratitude ❤️
thank you for constantly reminding me and everyone else that we have the power to be our most at peace selves. you constantly inspire me to not give up on building healthy habits and that there can be joy in every moment. keep shining your light on the world! ✨
Thank you so much for the little “liberating myself socially” chat, I genuinely needed it, I’ve always felt like no one ever spoke about the anxiety that can occur not only conversing with one person but in social groups, masking or losing your personality are all of the things I also deal with that feel so silly to come out and talk about. For example i’ve always felt so horrible for not having reactions that people expected or I felt they probably desired, forcing myself to put on a reaction or in my case overreact for them, it’s like playing the human character for me. It might be autism, might be anxiety but it’s wonderful to simply hear the words “owning my silence.” and it’s so insane to me to hear the story of Katie not feeling obligated to speak…
Omg I relate to what you feel as a shy person so so so so much. I completely understand the feeling of "loosing" personality when around people who are very extroverted and the feeling of duty to speak and say something funny or useful and make others think "heyy I'm here, I exist, I have an amazing personality too". You really turned my feelings and impressions into words. Ly Hitomii💕
The post brunch chat was my favorite part. It resonated a lot. Especially the anxiety to be _____ when there's company or like a social event. Thanks I feel really seen. 💕
*waking up twenty minutes before I start my yoga practice* *deciding to watch youtube* *sees video* *looks up to the rainy sky and smiles* I think I get it now.
It has been really inspiring for me to see how you navigate life. The energy you exude is so radiant and calming, thank you for sharing your journey with us Hitomi
I loooveeeeee your energy! I’ve also been struggling with so many unrealistic social obligations that only leave me exhausted and drained at the end of the day, and everyday I work towards letting go of these needs to please people around me, and it’s so comforting to know that the place beyond letting go is so fulfilling and nourishing! Thank you Hitomi, God bless you 💖💖🌸🌺💐
I love these videos full of just normal life so, so much. When I watch youtubers whose lives are constantly happening at 100, I find it difficult not to compare my normal life to their lives and feel lesser about my own beautiful life. I've slowly stopped watching those types of youtubers, but the habit of comparison is harder to break. But when I watch videos like these, I don't feel a need to compare--I feel allowed to cherish both your normal life and mine, together, at once, with no competition and only contentment.
I’m so glad that you were talking about social liberation and feeling like you lose your personality when your shy I love that and am definitely going to keep that with me
I absolutely love this gorgeous soul. This human being of inspiration. I started my new RU-vid channel because of you. I respect you, I value your knowledge. I am grateful to receiving the gifts you offer us in your content. Much love 🐎❤❤🐎🐎🐎
Hitomi I love that you document the simplicities of life. your videos are always the highlight of my week - I don't watch much RU-vid but I always smile when you upload again. I love that your wisdom and life experiences shine through your creations. Your gentle existence and mellow personality is inspiring, you have helped me in many ways and for this I am so thankful 🤍
Paused this video to just say: Ive been feeling very lost & unhappy these days for many reasons, but one of which is me being so hard on myself for not being as social as I was before. Trying to pinpoint why (social distancing causing more shyness/losing my personality like you mentioned?) and how I can challenge myself to fix it. But this video just reminded me that we are always evolving and it’s so important to honor whatever you are at the moment. Whether that means being comfortable w eating in silence while others talk or leaving an event early to nap! I resonated with everything you said, truly. And it’s been the one thing that has given me hope. Thank you
I’m such a shy person in social situations I freeze up so hard and forget who I am or how to express myself. Literally cried bc I feel like I’m the only one sometimes. I love you so much, I’m so thankful for you and your videos. You’re truly such a big part of my life. I fr feel so calm and like I can take on life after watching you. Don’t ever apologize for having a “boring” life, it’s such an ideal life for me u remind me life can slow down and should not always be crazy. Just thank you so much for being you I love that you exist and post videos I learn something from every time. Much love to you Hitomi. ❤️❤️❤️
Oh I feel you so much Hitomi with what you said about losing myself in such situations when I feel like I have to be present in a way actually no one assumes me to be but myself. Yes, people who are totally fine with being in their space even in social situations like a brunch are so inspiring and show us how easy it actually is to be authentic especially in company and that real good friends are totally fine with that and appreciate when you take your moment and be yourself especially because the recognize when you are actually NOT YOU and anxious. So we can learn again to JUST BE. We have the right to be here, just as we are ☯️
i honestly think you were put on this earth by a higher being/power/force/essence. you have impacted so many people positively, and have so much to offer. a true role model. you seem so in tune with the energies around you... it's incredible. thank you hitomi
I love watching these types of videos from you! When I see other RU-vid’s going out all the time, putting on makeup, etc (nothing wrong with that btw) I just feel like am I supposed to have the energy to do all that?! But then i come here and resonate with your life so much.. it’s refreshing!
I feel the same! It‘s so reassuring to see someone living a life similar to mine, especially among RU-vidrs who are often really social and as an introvert I can‘t relate haha
You are amazing girl And soooo many yes's to the feeling of losing my personality when I'm feeling shy..I seriously thought I was the only one. I feel like it happens when I'm in bigger group settings with people I don't know on a deeper level. So much love to you!
Loosing personality in such situations happens to me too…especially when I’m in a larger group of people that I don’t know that well (like more than 3 including myself). I recently got a new job in Hamburg and I experience this literally every single day when I’m on a lunch break with my coworkers. The fact that I’m not comfortable with my German makes it even more difficult and prevents me from expressing my thoughts. I usually just stay silent unless someone directly asks me a question. I also feel like I don’t have anything to say that’s valuable or interesting enough for the whole group. Funny enough, when I speak to only one coworker at the time, I don’t experience any problems… Love watching your vlogs! Moving to a new city where I don’t have any friends or family has been tough but you’re vlogs inspire me and motivate me to move on. Thank you🥰
Thanks hitomi! I really appreciate and admire how vulnerable you are with not just us, but yourself. Thank you for being for being a participator and mirror in all of our lives
How do you find living with others as an introvert? Do you easily get quiet, alone time? Is it ever too much - people, talk, together time, noise? Did you have to describe your needs to the others in the home & ask? What are the difficulties, what are the benefits?
Thank you for being so authentic in this video! I love you so much. Hitomi, you inspire me have the strength to be little bit closer to who i am everyday. The other day my girlfriend was talking about a very controlling relationship in her life and how she wants revenge. Instead of shyly telling her what she wants to hear, which is the behavior i normally revert, i was truly myself and comforted her but also told her of the power of positivity and how having more love for everything can only make a situation better. I felt so happy that i was able to give her my real, more productive advice and we ended up having a bonding conversation about these negative relationships in our life as opposed to just feeding her angry energy. Thank you Hitomi for helping me be myself that day!!
Thank you lovely soul for sharing. 🙋🏻♀️This introvert fully appreciates! Your life is never boring to witness. It is beautiful and full. I absolutely loved when you spoke of your roommates…you said “Thank you for letting me be a character in your movie.” That was so thoughtful and sincere. I loved that. 🙏🏻💕☀️
could you possibly do a video explaining how you meditate ? And what has worked for you ? I’ve been following guided meditations but I don’t feel super connected with them but they do help. I was just wondering if you might have any tips that could be helpful and how you learned to be consistent :))) thank you hitomi, sending you love and light ✨
love you message and all of you is so beautiful to your soul! Would you consider doing a video on how you create boundaries and keep them and deal with toxic people? strategies for empathetic people? Thank you loveee
Hitomi i can really relate to what you go through in a social space, being introverted myself. When I am in a group of more then 2/3 people, I often get silent. I'm working on being okay with who I am and not speaking when I don't feel the need to, that way I stay fully myself and present (I too struggle with thinking I need to speak but then I totally lose who I am when I do). I am also a listener first. I speak in subtle ways and in subtle moments. I'm sure our loved ones want us to be comfortably ourselves so if the love is real they wont mind us being who we are! I know its more about us being okay with who we are/the way we are. One day at a time : -)
i love how you exist, i know no one like you, and I really want a friend like you but since thats not happening i must become like you instead of search for someone like to to make friends with
The bug situation is definitely relatable. I instantly would change my sheets. Also sleeping is a really vulnerable moment that the roaches encroach on, so it’s totally understandable
the chat about liberating yourself socially really resonated with me!! I always loose my personality and turn on my people pleaser mode I swear to god I just go on autopilot
