Adopted Son Commits Unthinkable Betrayal | Natalie Belmonte Case Analysis 

I'd say 90% of the time that's a super common sense, hard & fast rule- but... Especially since it's poor/ low income ppl that get arrested most often, & are those most likely to have to post bail when they do.. there's some possible exceptions. For instance, an abusive partner may need to the cops called on them if they're outta control, & it's better they stay in jail since they're dangerous- But sadly, Many women (& sometimes men too) are forced to stay physically abusive relationships to keep themselves from homelessness- especially if they're experiencing health issues/ disabled, battling addiction, or have kids w/ health issues, etc. Someone (again, most often women but men too) may need to call 911 in a scary moment to protect themselves, but also be unable to leave. Not everyone has family or good friends they can count on to help in such a situation- if they did , they probably wouldn't stay with an abuser to begin with. They may decide to end the relationship after that,&make a plan to leave, but most ppl in the U.S. have only a few hundred $$ to spare; realistically many need time to save, or contact a DV shelter for assistance. They'd likely plan not to leave right away, afraid their abuser will come for them when once theyre out of jail- maybe if they spnt bail their partner out, a friend or rheir parent will, then they're angry & blame their victim. The victim may know that when an abused partner tries to leave the relationship is when they're most likely to be killed by their abuser. It may be safer to wait for a bed to become available at a DV shelter- which could be weeks or months. Or to save $ to be able to get farther away when they do leave. Most abusers will call their victims to bail them out- & the victim knows what may happen if the abuser is left in jail, getting more angry... or they may not be able to make rent w/ out the partner's help, & so needs to make sure the abuser gets out to be able to stay employed- especially if she will be filing for child support/ alimony. Lots of factors that could make getting someone you had to call the police on to save your self from harm or even possible death, but 80% of women forced to live on the street when homeless get raped. Stats for co-ed shelters are almost as bad. Often ppl that are especially vulnerable- either economically, emotionally, mentally, physically, etc, like women. or men in marginalized groups, can have no good options & figure it's safer to deal- at least temporarily- or until they can escape safely- w/ the Devil they know. A

It's always horrible and disgusting when entitled men rape and kill women they have unrequited crushes on. The only thing that makes this case particularly heinous is the extra violation of trust. Natalie would have been cautious of a co-worker or neighbor who'd expressed such sentiments, and she definitely wouldn't have allowed them into her home, and then gone to sleep with them there. And she certainly wouldn't have dropped the criminal charges for theft for them.

@@astrinymris9953 Women kill men too lmao. He is a piece of garbage not an "entitled man" he is no man.

@@InLieuTube The perpetrator is the son of the victims brother, and so the victim was the sister of murderers (deceased)father. And hence the victim was NOT the perpetrator's cousin, she was his aunt on his fathers side (AND his adoptive mother).

Incest is so common that I believe it should be more completely addressed in public service announcement s (commercials), as well school starting no later than kindergarten. Twenty-five of some kindergarten classroom have children who have already been sexually assaulted

Twenty-five percent of children in some kindergarten classroom have already been sexually assaulted, usually by family, so some people think sex with a family member is not taboo.

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Very true.

Adopt a chimp and get all your skin torn off by an ape. (Travis the chimp story).

Except they won’t-they’ll actually bring you gifts if you’re kind to them. Perhaps they would eat you if you died and they were hungry. Although I get your point, crows are incredibly intelligent animals who can form bonds with humans who care for them. -just saying.

@@The_Red_Pill__ Thanks Dr Doolittle, it’s just a saying, relax

The road to hell is paved with good intentions...cat-orange-whistling

so true. Too many people take advantage of people with empathy

The road to hell is paved with good intentions...

This is why I'm NOT gonna do foster care. Im sure its an altruistic act, but it's NOT for me.

I created a better saying than what you started with... "Tis wise to do good deeds but be careful of who whom you do them for." And the perp was such an ungrateful pile of manure.

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@@josron6088 😁Yup! Thanks! Time to make this new saying a thing!

Well I guess he had to spin some sort of story what a horrible crime

In these situations, i think the lawyers use copy and paste stories that they know juries wont believe. I would hope its their way of still trying to get him convicted while also doing their job.

Every defendant has the right to plead 'not guilty' regardless of the evidence against them. In cases where the evidence is overwhelming but the defendant still refuses to accept responsibility, then their lawyers tend to just make up preposterous explanations, because there really isn't anything else they can do.

@@gordongekko2781 Yeah. They Got Nothing

His defense team, needed a mental health evaluation. How insulting to the court and the victim. Poor Natalie

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She didn’t care if she sent it to HIM… smh Denial. Must be awful for true Son. ❤ Jerry should have gotten Death Penalty!

He thought they were just empty words .people write empty words on cards and letter and text email all the time .

He thought it meant, I want you to rape and murder me.

"She must have very low standards"

You put that much better than Kanye did.

Yeah, we call them "frenemies", because some people will pose as, or act like friends, but would stab you in the back without any remorse. Psychopaths always take advantage of people's good nature. They see kindness as weakness and will take advantage of a good person and become parasites, or worse.

A hurricane has some good in it, doesn't mean I want to be around one and experience the good part.

Absolutely 100% xx

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That's a repeating pattern here too.

That's a repeating pattern here too.

Pathological altruism.

Psychopaths do not change

It can be done with drugs with pedophiles (less than 5% recidivism). However, probably not certain psychopaths.

Agreed! Kindness attracts predators.

@@TheWraith7 So long as you aren’t pathologically attracting people with personality disorders. I refer to Ross Rosenberg who is a well known Psychotherapist. He wrote the Human Magnet Syndrome, that explains the dynamics between the co-dependent vs narcissist. The therapy he recommends is based upon training the co-dependent, to self-focus their kindness as a way of disengaging from repetition compulsion, where there is a tendency to attract predatory personalities. Unfortunately narcopaths choose easy targets and victims being kind, is attractive to their predatory nature.

Criminals have a strong attraction to trusting individuals. They have a need to take from them what they themselves don't have, innocence

"Tis wise to do good deeds but be careful of who whom you do them for." That's what I say. It's still good to be kind and altruistic but just be careful. It's not either / or.

@@TheWraith7 Exactly. We should never let stuff like this harden us and make us selfish jerks. The world needs kindness, charity and altruism and most people are generally okay to really good. The rub is to BE CAREFUL!

Yes very disturbing

I don’t support the death penalty, not because I don’t believe certain people (like Jerry) deserve it, but because I don’t believe the state should have that much power. It’s that belief I cling to when I see cases like this.

@@BL-hw4mn so you should be happy to pay the taxes that support bad ppl like this ,MF.

@@mrazik131 Executions actually cost more than keeping them in jail for the rest of their natural lives

I often wonder why Christians who believe no matter the sin, that Christ will forgive the sinner if the sinner excepts Christ as their Savior. They also believe in the death penalty. Why would they want to send a murderer to Heaven sooner than absolutely necessary? I say let them rot in prison, and keep them healthy to think about what they have done. Life is the punishment, that's why babies always cry when born.

@@BL-hw4mn I’m with you there, too much power and also it’s not a secret that there have been many wrongful convictions as well, including death row and even ppl that have been executed. Not having the death penalty isn’t for Jerry in this case (while he is certain deserving…) but for those who I just mentioned especially

It’s a job, they aren’t doing it for their own entertainment. Would it be better to present no defence and screw over the client?

@@SwitchTF2 I know that but as I said it's the victim blaming I have a problem with.. I'd rather be a prosecutor any day or even better not do law altogether

@@Linda72. I see what you mean. There must be ways of doing your job as a defense attorney without beeing a scambag yourself. However, I didnt thought they were victim blaming by suggesting she had consensual sex with Jerry, its more a narrative battle imo. I've seen real victim blaming cases, I just don't think that was the case necessarily.

Many defense attorneys are personality disordered themselves.

@@Linda72. oh, believe me theres ethical issues with being a prosecutor. The uncomfortable truth is, the world would be a very scary place without DEFENSE ATTORNEYS. Prosecutors, cops, etc they dont actually do what they do for the reasons you think. And prosecutors dont exist in this moral shield like people want to believe. Défense lawyers are not actually trying to get guilty people off. They protect people, all people, from having their rights violated. Prosecutors and juries, courts, convict innocent people everyday, all the time on good/strong evidence AND on bad/weak evidence. Our legal system was created to protect the accused because the true tyranny is a legal system where an accused person cant actually defend themselves. Our system is not perfect but it is the fairest system when compared to every other legal system. It is the ONLY legal system that recognizes the importance of doing everything to protect innocent people from being convicted. When ben Franklin said "its better 12 guilty men go free then one innocent person be hanged ", that is literally the founding principle of the American legal system. Legal justice does not mean what people think it does. And the rules are as they are to ensure EVERYONE can defend and explain themselves. This system has these rules, and its unique. No other legal system is innocent until proven guilty, the burden is on the prosecution to prove guilt. Every other system à defendant must prove innocence without the power, money, resources as the government. Prosecutors dont actually pursue justice for victims and their families. Every crime is considered a crime against society as a whole. Theres so much more to this but I wont keep going. Ill end with that its supposed to be difficult to convict people criminally. But its not that difficult in this country because of feelings like yours. Actual guilt and legal guilt are NOT the same thing. And lawyers arz taught this in law school. Its why lawyers always get disillusioned with the law after law school or after a couple years of practice. Prosecutors play up the gaurdians and fighters for justice because it serves them. But both sides actually really do that. The reason most lawyers can defend anyone accused of the worst crimes? Because they arent trying to get them off. They make sure that a persons right are not violated, that prosecutors and cops (the government by the way) follows the rules and prosecute people the right way. That if a person is convicted its beyond a reasonable doubt. Its very serious on both sides, but never underestimate how much is acting and à show and lawyers trying to charm and persuade with their intellect and charisma. Juries are not lawyers or educated on the law and atent actually supposed to and are not expected to make decisions based on law (though défense lawyers are forbidden to remind juries about this. To ensure that juries atleast use more reason than emotion but juries are NOT supposed to remove all emotion, just balance it with reason, while judges arent supposed to consider emotion at all). Also, the last thing, people would benefit from putting themselves in the accused persons shoes, as well as the victims. Every individual has just as much à chance at being accused of a crime as they are being a victim of crime. And even if someone is guilty, humans are capable of having compassion for the actor of a bad act, without taking any compassion away from the individual hurt by the act. Its another uncomfortable truth that human nature and psychology are very complex things and limiting anyone as "all bad" or "all good" is a simple thing. And just as every human has amazing potential to do good things, reason dictates that it also has to go the other way, and humans are capable of the worst in humanity and a lot of factors and TIME go into what every one of us is capable of. You know, if you read books by holocaust survivors, you would find that all of them, discovered very dark things about themselves after events beyond their control set up the circumstances that allowed them to discover it. There is a dark side to human nature and it lives in every one of us (im not saying that that doesn't mean there shouldn't be consequences or punishment). Anyway, sorry for the novel. Thanks for hearing me out if you read this far. I'm a law student, thr daughter of a lawyer, and my best friend is a deputy district attorney.

I just had to reach out and hug you for that really sweet comment! I love nice people so much! Happy New Year, my friend ❤

"No good deed goes unpunished" is wrong. It should be "Tis wise to do good deeds but be careful of who whom you do them for."

And the myth that all adoptive parents are saints.

Here she was his aunt that adopted him. Even if she was a horrible parent she probably didn't deserve to be assaulted sexually and murdered.

It's the same exact way with having your own biological children. It's so many kids & adults killing their parents I can barely keep count. This woman definitely did not deserve what this POS did too her. But you're own flesh and blood & could be the one to take your life not just adopted kids.

@Army Wife It's not the same as raising your own biological children. Adoptees don't know who they are and it can cause a separation disorder.

@@sr2291 my point is that your biological children could murder you just as an adopted childhood. You can't dictate or monitor what is going on inside of their head. Evil is evil biological or not

They probably considered murdering him. So much trauma.

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@@meandyouthroughandthrough 😂 love it!

Has Mike given this a goo yet?

@@meandyouthroughandthrough I'm sorry, but felines should *never* drive; as soon as they see cat's eyes, they start hissing, flicking their tail, and lose control of the vehicle.

I agree. I relate.

Is your sister the oldest sibling by any chance?

Completely agree.. I had To go zero contact with my disgusting sister who is very unstable and vicious.

She sounds like she has a drug addiction and steals from whomever to support her habit.

@@brenda726 she is the youngest. All of us are close in age; I am the middle child (which is usually the black sheep) and she is 1 1/2 years younger than me.

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I can't believe she let him stay after he admitted that to her. She needed to make sure he was out the house that day. Clearly he was sick in the head to even want to date his Aunt.

@@bellaapple2166 they were first cousins

Natalie is both the aunt and adoptive mother to Gerald Lopes?

@@jcpenny3606 Yes, and she had two biological children, a daughter and a son.

@@jcpenny3606 Her brother died so she adopted his 10 yr old son. Its such a sad story.

My grandmother lived to be 94 and she always said “Honey if you can’t have children, don’t adopt”. I know that’s sad but I truly believe some have traits in their DNA to commit crimes.

@@bbe3034 Great advise and honestly it's true. Too many kids that are up for adoption are completely messed up ( not saying it's their fault most of the times) and some of them won't ever recover even if they receive therapy for life. Nikolas Cruz is one of those examples. He was a complete mess since he was born due to his mother's alcohol and drug's use during the pregnancy and he did receive therapy since he was a kid and even with all of the resources that were dedicated to help him with his mental health he still ended up being a piece of shit that did terrible things. So yeah, adoptions are very risky. I will never understand why people would go through something as awful as that voluntarily. If their parents/family didn't want to take care of those kids is most likely because of a good reason.

"Reactive Attachment Disorder" is just code for "bad parents".

Psychopathy.

Adoption can cause this. From Mayo Clinic Overview Reactive attachment disorder is a rare but serious condition in which an infant or young child doesn't establish healthy attachments with parents or caregivers. Reactive attachment disorder may develop if the child's basic needs for comfort, affection and nurturing aren't met and loving, caring, stable attachments with others are not established.

When you need to live with your aunt? Give me a break.

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@@charliechurch5004 Hello and Happy New Year

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I wonder what a 22 year-old loser was still doing in her home. I think she may have been stuck with him, not knowing how to get him to “launch” on his own, find a job, move out on his own and find a girl when all he wanted was to date her. She had no good options it seems to me. Terrible situation.

Was actually his first cousin 🤮

No, evil people are evil, not sick.

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Agreed. He ain't right.