Generally, they're not cut out for that. Also, they have a lower sense of responsibility; this reflects in their always putting their own interests first.
If this wise man had followed your advice, he wouldn't be as happy and liberated as he is. He saw and recognised his wife's God-given gifts and talents and let her use them. But he also focused on his God-given gifts and talents and took charge of those. While you sound like you live in a marriage full of strife and conflict because material things define you.
I was touched when he said he has never slept with anyone for the past 39yrs of their marriage. What kind of temptation is this? May the Lord continue to grant you the Grace Advice to Women: Any man you cannot submit to please don't marry him but if you agree to marry him, let his vision be your mission and that is submission. Íf your desire is anything more than your husband, you are functioning outside the perfect will of God. I understand with Dr CA. If you have a calling and a purpose to fulfill don't allow any distractions to stop you. God will help both of them.
Reading the comments on this video, I discovered that many did not understand Dr Apoki’s video. Please watch this video again. He practically prioritized his happiness, sound mind and freedom over material things. This is a healthy man in and out.
Both well said. There's an apparent lack of comprehension of this video by many in the comment section. It requires a lot of maturity to understand what Dr Apoki expressed . I could relate and laughed throughout the video because he was describing some situations that occur between my dearest husband and me😅❤. #22 years in marriage, and we are changing and finding great ways to accommodate each other. He goes shopping whenni go crazy 🤪 😅😊😂😂❤. I love ❤️ him ever so dearly. My children just ignore both of us when we are at it . Later to use as comedy relief at their children's meetings😅😅😅😅. Am happy and grateful to have a partner who tries to accommodate, understand and support me at every stage of my change while we both strive to maintain a healthy physical and mental environment for our 3 children( all adults now too
Thank you sir for opening up and telling your story, people never tell you this part of marriage that it is very challenging not everyone who stays married are happy just do it mainly for religious and cultural reasons. Marriage is beautiful when their is genuine love and both being on the same page. I really hope you both reconcile and this is not the final chapter sometimes a temporary break is needed on both parties to heal and clear your mind from certain situations.
I was lost. I thought he was saying that he and his wife are no longer together..that he has given all their assets to her and is now living his life apart from her.
You certainly look happy Dr. Apoki. That is always admirable. The thing is men sometimes "allow women" to run things because they want to keep the peace or for other reasons. But later on she will become the ruler of that marriage. This is no fun for any man. So men stand your ground early and keep it that way and don't compromise on things that will later on become unfavorable
It depends the kind of version. Not all men are Godly, if you follow their path , you're doomed with poverty and destruction. They are women who mean build their husbands Sir
True talk Dr. Apoki. You said it all. Is like we're in the same shoe. You'll invest %90 in all you own together but most women will want to have all for themselves alone. I used to believe in uniting forces with the wife, but experience has taught me better. Thank you for speaking out b/c many men are going through the same issues.
There is no perfect marriage or a perfect relationship, but you can visit your family for a while but don't separate, be quiet when he or she is angry, and discuss issues only when your minds are relaxed.
Great video. As men get older we sometimes have to rediscover ourselves separate from the marriage. You're blessed if you have a place of your own to retreat to. Several of my friends have opted for this and to be honest it's as though you've served your purpose and it's your time now. Enjoy!
DR I am in my early twenties , But I can relate to this information ; I have found that my girlfriend has started to treat me with more respect and she is taking me seriously......after I have startd doing things I am passionate about on my own terms. and the relationship has become more health .......for both of us,
This video showed up and very relevant. This even pertains to if you have a business together with a family business and a sibling is involved. At a certain age you must just sell off and split your portions fairly. Dont argue , 50/50. This way you are free to live your life and do what is your choosing , as are they.
Dr. Apoki, I respect you a lot & I appreciate all your efforts helping others. However, I am begging you NOT to share your personal information on the internet. It’s okay to share with family & intimate friends. Pls protect your wife & your kids, our words are very powerful & they project images in the mind of our audience. Internet people are not really friends (may become friends one day). Just my personal opinion.
I think he needs someone to be able to share everything with... & while he finds that someone, if sharing on the Internet gives him peace and a mental outlet and doesn't impact his family too much, it's OK.
What I don't understan, you praise a woman to the hill, she is good, she gave me a good office, she did so much for me, yet he decides to separate, and she is still preparing his meals, how can you leaf a good woman? That's my problem. Make me understand this logic
Dr Apoki said he was able to write more books. He thinks clearer while he is alone. At least he & his wife are still good friends. His book of life is not yet over, there will be many chapters to come. I see this also helping a lot of men. He did not resort to beating his wife. He did not leave his family broke. He is protecting his mental health. And he is not scared that his wife will now poison his food because he left her.
@@londonshappiestbusdriver462exactly my thoughts. Only some men will understand. What is a testimony? It's when you give an account of your personal experiences in order to teach others. That's exactly what he is doing and I agree with him 💯
@@pastryshack551 You're reading too much into his head 😔. It's called personal freedom and growth 📈. Some people will call it self actualization. Doctor Apoki is doing exactly 💯 that. Some people will resort to violence when they can't express their individual freedoms. This guy is teaching you something that will cost you a lot of money 💰 otherwise. You cannot afford to get "enslaved" in the cultural and traditional norms or religious teachings which may be alien to understand.
Thanks you Dr Apoki, you are surly inspirational, a man who can laugh over his daily challenges this way is truly the strong one. I like Greek philosophers too. Keep it up.
I just stumbled across your channel today. You’re amazing, I love your teachings, young people should visit your blog and listen and will gain insight on life generally. Thank you very much sir.
From what I heard from him......can't perceived any hate from him. And she genuinely cares for him too. Oftentimes we individually want space to reminisce and ponder about issues or fresh ideas, that doesn't mean we don't love those who are most dear in our lives.
They are still married she is still bringing him food; he only created a space to help him activated his potentials and fulfil them. Even the wife understands.
Mingwo sir! This is one thing that also affects the male child. Most mothers tend to play this on their sons which they realise late or may not even realise at all. Also common to Sons who grew up with all women in the house/only sons. I am not saying the male child should be disrespectful. But it's important to know when to take a stand and exercise your authority as a Man. And lastly, this is common to men in old age. The children most like will take sides with the mothers. Then the man is sometimes all alone.
Top man, The shallow style of the western feminist matrix, a well fitted scold collar based around consumerism and control has infected the entirety of mankind, Stay strong KPP,
They take their mom sides because they saw how poorly the man treated her. My dad is mot alone n we love him to death cos he was a fabulous dad n husband seeing him as we grew up
You're extremely well spoken sir. I love your videos, I believe this is temporary as you said it's marital distancing, You guys will be back together! in the same roof !! thank you so much Sir.
I find your wisdom breathtaking. You have influenced my life in ways you can''t imagine. Keep making videos and sharing your wisdom to the world. Have you written books?
Dr apoki, I am currently in this same boat with you sir, I recently moved out of the house, due to other reasons, but the seperation right now is healing me from all the toxicity
This is the kind of message this evil, deceitful, and arrogant woman of this present generation who have decided to make the life of every man miserable and have deviated from the law of God that stated that women be submissive and man love ur wife, Men be Wise women hate this kind of eyes opening message
Marriage keep's a man in bondage..!! It's an earthly Ministry not an eternal one. Never give your sweat to a woman even your wife she will trample on you its her nature. Go out and multiply, never be forced into a situation but embrace it as part of real life, don't settle for that sweet tongue... its the same one that convinced you to eat that fruit from the tree
Well said. But most people will dismiss this thought and call you all sort of names just to preserve the status quo. Independent thinkers are never applauded in this world.
Even Mr Apoki isn't safe from the feminine spirit.... handing everything he earns to his wife.... if he cant find peace in his own house with h is "wife" what was the purpose of his marriage 🤔
@@wasswamuwonge4257 When I heard him say he left everything to his wife, I rejected that idea. How can I work hard and leave everything to my wife when I am alive? Can she do that if she were in his shoes?
I see the same toxic life with my wife, i am in my early 40s what i did was just give her space and since then i have my peace and i can think straight
You made her very powerful and I feel it is not going down well with you and you seem bitter. I would have love you to treat this matter privately out of regards for your family.
No, he doesn't seem bitter. There's friction, which occurs in every marriage, but he's NOT BITTER. He strikes me as an emotionally intelligent man. Plus, he didn't demean his wife in anyway, instead, he extolled her virtues, so the suggestion that he should have kept it private is unnecessary l think
He is not bitter,I suspect you are one of those feminists who think men are intimidated by women,some of you just come on social media and write senselessly,you lack comprehension,he didn’t divorce his wife,he is only teaching us a lesson about marriage.
Waw, God bless you sir. I learnt so much. I always look forward to your videos every day. Sometimes, women can make one's life miserable. I need such grace. As a man, the reality is we will end up being alone. It's only female children that may care for the man at old age. That's the sad reality.
This man has discovered the beauty of peace over materialism. Materialism is ruling the world. Has been for millennia. He who discovers disengagement from materialism is wise. The thing is we need to build, but we need a balance as well. We are all looking for that balance. what balance means to me is not the same to you. Perhaps she’s very innocent. Indeed he’s not purely negative about her. The demand for managing our accumulated wealth maybe energy depleting so that the very material you so worked hard for become your prison. He’s free. He’s out of jail. Kudos to you sir.
😂😂 He said he and his wife are "Practicing martial social distancing, to a oid spreading martial viruses", so funny but makes sense! This man is a trip!
Separation should be the last resort after all efforts to make it work fail given the far reaching long term implications. I can't stand violence in marriage or infidelity, everything else can be worked out but if 2 cannot and unable to live happily together, there's absolutely no point managing it. It's only the living that talks of marriage. Sir, I can't advise you otherwise as you wear the shoes and know where it pinches you. But I have watched quite a number of yoir videos and you seem a good man. The last clip I watched, you even walked out of the huge investment of the school you built.....material things don't matter to you and you will live long. Take care of yourself sir. Shalom
Alot of men don't get it. What women want in life is different from what men want. The moment that I understood that my happiness is my responsibility, I started looking at my marriage differently. No matter what my wife does, she can't take away my happiness. I've already even mentally settled for any case scenario. Most men will suffer in their old age if they don't start putting themselves first..
You are 100% correct. A book called; “Men are from Mars and women are from Venus” really opened my eyes to this concept. Once you understand it, no marital issues can destabilize you.
Took you so many years to accept this truth. I’m just 4 years in marriage and ive told myself to give relevance to other things apart from marriage.. Carrier 💪🏼
When next I am home I will definitely come and visit you. I like that you love your wife and she loves you and you all will be fine last last. Please share some of your books for us to buy and learn. 🎉
Sir, I know this to be true as well, like I said before, I'm 42 years old and I've been married for 13 years and I started to feel trapped, and I started to feel like I was losing my identity and it was like my every move or thought was dictated by my wife and it was always friction in the house... But when I moved out into our other house I became better and gained a piece of mind and were able to create new ideas and start to find myself again. But she recently convinced me to move back home and now I'm back suffering and not feeling my best as a creative person.. I'm definitely going to be moving back out and live the rest of my life a free man, I love her and we will still be together but I will be a free man to think and move how I please.
Lol, you thought the bible was playing when it said "he who is not married should NOT attempt to find a wife else you will see problems in this life" 😂😂😂. 1 corinthians 7:27-28
Doc, am in tears! It is only because am a woman. Doc, my mind is crashing ooo. Am not been understood. I feel like running away. Am tired Doc!!! This is my situation.
Very relevant video. Even with a business you have together with a family member , at a certain age you sell off and each take your 50% share. This way you are both free to choose the direction of your life. Sometimes one member thinks they have done everything , even though you may have done most of the work. Even better yet , as pertaining to family members, never have business together.
