Aggretsuko | My Beef With Haida 

As a Hyena, he’s genetically inclined to go with an aggressive female.

I love how the show is an adult animation, but doesn't focus on sex, drugs or being irresponsible or a bad and funny person.

Haida is incredibly realistic. He doesn’t make the “logical” choice because he’s leading with his heart. He simply likes Retsuko because…..he just does. Inui makes sense and does like him but he wouldn’t ever be truly happy with her and it’s definitely not fair to Inui to be in this situation.

Listen, Inui deserves to be someone’s everything, not an option. I think Haida knew that she deserved someone who wanted her 100%, and he wasn’t that man. The classic “right person, wrong time” tragedy. Whether Haida’s relentless pursuit of Retsuko is correct is still up in the air for me, but I firmly believe that him deciding not to waste Inui’s time anymore was the right and mature thing to do.

Inui was done wrong, but I am impressed by how she handled the situation. I've been in haida's situation, 5 years ago to be exact. Instead of being stubborn like him I moved on because the fact is when the person you're pursuing rejects and turns you down, it hurts, but thats your que to move on. I moved on and I found someone that I can have a real future with, been together for 5 years going strong. The voice actor for the stalker is the same voice as Louis the red deer from Beastars or it sounds alot like him................................

If there's one thing I've learned over the years, and Cowboy Bebop is a perfect example of this, people don't always move forward. They don't always grow. Sometimes they just can't escape the past. I'll be rooting for Haida to do so, but if he doesn't, well, sometimes that's life.

I think this inability of Haida's to move on is realistic. You don't move on from feelings of intense infatuation without some self resistance.

The only comfort is that the show has shown it doesn't throw away its characters after their debut season. I'm holding out hope that Inui will get the happiness she deserves in the next season, if we get one.

One thing I don’t understand is why Haida thought wearing a Freddy Kruger sweater was a good idea.

The main problem I had with Inui is that she said “I know your choice” WHEN SOMEONE HE CARED ABOUT ALMOST DIED! Like bitch no shit she’s more important right now. SHE WAS IN DANGER AND ALMOST DIED

While there's valid criticism about Haida's choice, I still think he made the right choice between Inui and Retsuko. While he did have a better chance with Inui, he still wasn't over Retsuko. Inui dealing with his left over feelings wouldn't be fair to her. He'd need time to get over his feelings for Retsuko at most 90% before getting with Inui. Same goes for Miraculous.

Haida had more chemistry with Tadano than he does with Retsuko lmao

Valid criticism, but imagine him being with someone while you're clearly not over someone? Relationships are all about timing and this would've been a terrible one. Not to mention you said yourself, she liked him MORE than he liked her, there's an inherent imbalance! Yes, him pursuing Retsuko isn't gonna pan out, but he shouldn't be with someone while trying to get over someone else. That ain't fair to best-girl Inui

I think there is a big possibility Haida was written to have BPD. The Japanese creators admitted that Haida is written to be relatable to a female audience. Often females are the only ones in the media to be shown to have BPD, even though men are just as likely to suffer from BPD. Aggretsoku pushes the boundaries of how far they will take things psychologically. This season especially showed that they could have written Haida to have those personality traits. As a man with BPD I find Haida to be more relatable to me than someone like Rebecca from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. That scene were Haida admits why he fell for Retsuko is exactly how someone BPD can develop a favourite person. Btw I mean borderline personality disorder not bipolar disorder.

Haida simply does not really like Inui. Just because we like her with him doesn’t mean he does or ever truly will. She’s a great character and deserves better than Haida. I do like Haida and Retsuko together BUT they both need a slow natural progression and a lot of growth on their ends

I haven't seen the entire show, but the "Sounds chicken to me!" sounds harsh; basically the last thing a traumatized individual should hear.

Shows some men are just as guilty as women for preferring drama in their relationships.

I felt the same way about this situation. Controversial statement coming: One thing I liked about Regular Show that Shippers hate is the hard truth that not every relationship we may desire is going to work out. Mordecai delt with two different relationships in the series, one being what he wanted and another being unexpected but also doable. In the end though he ends up with neither and marries a bat character at the end. What I liked about this is because it valued input from Mordecai's love interests. In most simple shows the relationship is set and everything works out. But life isn't like that. You may feel deep down you are meant to be with someone but that person might not even feel the same way as you do. Everyone has their own individuality and that makes any relationship complicated. Things aren't always going to be smooth and sometimes the best thing to do is to work on one's self so that if another opportunity does arise you will be in a better place and more mature to accept life's changes.

Aggretsuko's biggest theme is private vs public identity. Retsuko is small, cute, timid, and responsible to the point of being crippling. At work. In private, she's a heavy metal thrasher. Season 1 had a great moment where you find out that Haida, the dependable coworker and loser at love, you see in the last episode he's punk. In private. Private vs public. The real person, versus the perforamnce they play in public. I could give a bunch more, but you get the idea. (Hippo lady being arrested for espionage charges, is my personal favorite.) Haida never knew about Retusko's private persona. He thought he did when he saw the Idle show, and that's when he ultimately decided to go with Inui. The connective tissue that actually makes his choice of Retsuko work, for me, is the fact that the Inui presented to Haida was a performance. We never got to really see the real version of her, except for hints that she's a bit on the cold and calculating side. Not to a villainous degree, but just enough to drive home the theme. Then it's the fault of Haida for not trying to dig and discover who Inui really is, right? Thing is, I don't think he's capable of doing so. /That/ is why I think it makes sense he went back to Retsuko. The phone app was tweaked with by Donkey Elon Musk just to say what everyone already knows. The thing he learned at the end of Season 2: That the person who can meaningfully connect to Retsuko, is Haida. That's how I see it. I think Shady is looking at Aggretsuko as a real and critical view on office life, and modern living. In which case, yes you go for Inui what the hell is wrong with you? I've always viewed it in the terms of its theme I listed above. Could they have bridged the gap between the two concepts better? Sure. It just didn't bother me, is all.

The last 2-3 episodes with Haida were frustrating. I didn't hate it [minus the stupid true love app point] but I wasn't a huge Inui fan, so while I feel bad for her, Haida not ending up with Inui didn't upset me that much either. I'm hoping the next season proves Haida wrong. Like he discovers Retsuko makes a better friend than girlfriend, then they break up, and while he's out, he sees Inui on a date with someone and learns she's engaged or something and it's a lesson on reality versus fantasy. Like, when you think about dating your crush, there's no arguing where to eat, or not wanting to watch the same thing. They love everything you love and there's zero conflict. I think the story arch with Tadano was a valuable lesson, so the writers [being hopeful here] wanted to show how it's not always a happy ending if you get your crush. I love Agggretsuko, but in all my rewatches, the only time Retsuko seemed the least bit affectionate towards Haida was when she was trying out the tips Tsunoda taught her to try and sweet talk Ton.

As a guy who's been in Haida's position of being coworker zoned I kinda get that attachment to the idea of somebody who's cute/nice you interact with daily becoming a romantic interest. It's nice to daydream about being in a relationship with someone like that but he honestly did go kinda far in the last few episodes. If I had an Inui in my situation I personally probably would have dropped the initial pursuit and gone after the one who showed interest but hey that's just me.

Personally, I liked that the show took this path. I think it's more realistic. Haida has been pining over Retsuko for years. He can't magically make his feelings disappear. Life isn't always fair and people aren't always going to pick the person who treats them the best. While I love Inui, she definitely deserves better than some dude who isn't over another woman.

I think it's important to mention that the show is not yet over, It's entirely possible that the next season will "punish" Haida for the decisions he's made. My guess is that Haida and Retsukos relationship doesn't work out in the end, then he will realize he was never meant to be with Retsuko in the first place and that he made the wrong decision choosing her over Inui

This guy basically pulled a Mordecai

Inui was a red herring and a plot device. Her finding Retsuko's doiley was contrived and it annoyed me how she just LEAVES without confronting Haida. She just assumed the worst and left. WE know it was Retsuko's...But Inui just assumes Haida was two-timing her. Which he wasn't. Yes he has feelings for Retsuko but he only taught her how to play Bass. Inui is too perfect for Haida. You said so yourself that she's perfect. He said so himself that it was learning Retsuko wasn't perfect that made him feel he had a shot.

Eh Haida just needs to realize Fenneko is the better choice. All in all I think Haida does push things a bit too far, but then again having a friend that'll grab your arm and drag your ass outside when you're at your lowest? It's a double edged sword but I'd rather have that friend that attends to me, rather than leaves me alone because of some unspoken personal space that I never asked for.

The english version has different dialogue from the japanese it seems. In the japanese Haida says that he would've picked Inui over Retsuko, but after seeing her stare he realizes she can't believe that and apologizes for it but it was pretty much him still "Acting like a kid" (the translation is not that precise, the word used in context means more like an immature guy) again so that is why Enui ends up pissed and doesn't give him another chance Edit: Yup, seeing the song part it is a whole different show. That is good, time for me to watch the english dub

I agree with your argument, but I like so many others will let it slide for this show. It's a mature theme to move on, yes. However, the show has presented the possibility of Haida and Retsuko getting together since season 1. Even Retsuko in the Japanese dub during the coffee scene in season 3 agrees that Inui is a better choice for Haida. The thing is, they both have a lot more in common then one would think. Much more. To put it simple, Inui is a great girl for Haida but Haida is not the best match for Inui. Even if he did choose her, he likes her but it is apparent he does not love her. And that in itself is also an important lesson, even if someone is the right match for you, even if so many around you say you two are great together, sometimes you just don't click that way.

"I never forget anything except the stuff I can't remember" is a whole-ass mood

You know what I find, in retrospect, very interesting? Haida is basicaly a shoujo heroine torn between the nice guy and the bad boy, except it's gender reversed. And he falls for the usual "I can fix him/her" mentality And yes, Inui is a good girl who did nothing wrong, she would have won if not for the bad timing.

I think that part of what I like about that arc is that Haida wasn't in love with Inui, he wasn't over Retsuko and it wasn't fair to Inui for him to pretend or try to force a relationship he didn't actually see going anywhere. I think Haida needs to actually get over Retsuko but I don't think he actually did with Inui.

Can't wait for season 4 in December

They BETTER redeem him this upcoming season and bring him to his senses. Retsuko has good qualities, sure, but she's always so wishy washy and never commits to anything. So that's already a huge red flag when it comes to a relationship.

12:00 I disagree here, too. As someone who's been crippled by depression and PTSD, I wish I had a friend who cared enough to yank me out of the house and force me to go outside.

Honestly, I like that Haida made the decision to continue to go after Retsuko, rather than pursue Inui. The reason I like it is because like you said, Inui would have been the RIGHT choice. I like that this show genuinely frames Heida as a flawed, sometimes problematic character. Too many shows would simply take the safe route. Aggretsuko didn't, and I respect that.

Season 4 dropped recently and it's basically a "will they, won't they" between Haida and Retsuko. I haven't finished it yet because I get exhausted because I get so annoyed with them. Haida and Retsuko is a bad pair and I'm tired of the show both pushing towards it and pushing against it at the same time.

I saw a interview with the actor who plays him that talks more about the stuff he talks about in this video

It seems my years of frustration has manifested into an actual video

You don't like who you don't like and is cruel to try if the other person is invested in you, Haida didn't like her, he wanted to like her because all were there to be easy, he was uncomfortable when she tried to be intimate, because he doesn't felt really attracted, also in the other side of things you don't have to like anyone just because that person is super into you, you don't own them that, is even a very bad message to give if trama was written to be educational and not about character conflicts. It is the same with Retsuko, she doesn't have to like Haida either, she may after him breaking the just work friends relationship jumping into her problems, and becoming a real friend, but she may not, and thats ok to. Is a thing we have to see. Also Inui personality was "I kind girl, I like that music disk you like to" it was obvious she was made to be a plot dog, literally, the writers clearly knew where they were going from the start with her, is not even a lot to get that invested with her character :/. I don't get why the public cared so much for her, she is still more a device for the story to happen than a character. Maybe next season they will give her more development, that would be cool. Also I been that friend confronting my troubled friend, but I get you have to see when is helping and when not, fun fact, the English voice actor for Haida felt the same about he jumping into Retsukko room and pushing her out to confront her, he didn't like it, how well he did the acting proves how good he is as an actor. I like what Haida did, by the way. xD

“The coworker zone” had me bursting out laughing lmao

"In fact I'll be in the getaway car." Shady and Inui shipping art when?

This video still has aged very well

I'm so excited to see your take on season 4.

The part with Inui really hurt me low-key. I tend to empathize a lot and I just thought of how it felt to fall for someone who still is hung up on their past flame. I'm the type to show my heart and like, a good percentage of the times I do that, I get hurt. I hate that about myself Ok the part when he called her a chicken for being in fear from that attack at the airport pissed me off. As someone who's been in a situation similar to that, it would piss me off if someone told me to "man up" or something of the sort. Trauma doesn't get resolved in a week. Not even a year. It's been a year since I was S.A in my home by someone I thought I trusted and knew. Sorry to vent but yeah. I tend to empathize with people a lot

Fenneko the savage 😅😂

Inui was set up for shippers to hate her even though she was the most mature in the show. I hated this season!

As much as I like Retsuko, Fenneko personally will always make her the best. 👌

Welp, this all aged well after S4.

And I wished Retsuko had stayed a musician since she seemed more happy. And the girls were amazing. I wished it had been the bunny girl saving her and the one pulling her away from closing inside her home. It would’ve been better and more fitting for the themes on season 3 about change. For her to act like an adult or better said act for her own self benefit and not just be emotionally dependable on others.

Okay but...wasn't it stated that the dating app was only in beta testing? There's not exactly that large of a selection of potential soulmates for the app to choose The earlier developments with Inui did always feel a tad rushed to me but yeahh Haida shouldve given her more of a chance

My family thanksgiving: Aunt: “Is he stupid or something?” Mom: *stares at me explaining how Dogecoins are like internet POP! Figures* “He is the king of stupid…”

Oh, my dude, you're gonna hate season 4.

I love how you think Haida and Inui's relationship dramas are actually over, in a show that's proved that it loves wallowing in complications. That ending we saw---by now everyone should know there's more wacky hijinks and curveballs to come. Haida is an idiot, yes...but he's far from the only one, and there's no guarantee that there's any reward in his future.

There's a podcast TeamFourStar has up on their main channel where they talk about the 3 seasons with Ben Diskin (Haida's eng VA) as a guest. There, Ben expresses that while recording, he was confused and even upset with how Haida was written. Talkcast Podshow Ep. 35 if you're interested in giving it a listen.

As someone who relates to Retsuko an insane amount and has personally known people like Haida before, this whole subplot bothered me so insanely much. I despise a character they could have genuinely gotten me to root for all because of season 3.

I feel like This show is about learning to be complacent and shooting down opportunities. Because if you look at some of the situations starting with the main character, her goal originally was to leave her crappy job for a better life. She met the purple kangaroo dude who was legit rich. And she turned him down only because he told her to quit her job and they couldn’t get married. And the fact they discussed marriage so early in the relationship, I would of turned her down too when she said that. I’m sure if they really worked out he would of made her happy and married her after seeing how much it meant to her. Also she was upset she had to quit her job too which was weird. Then the rockstar thing happened and I thought it was perfect because she likes to sing, and it was making her money and her other singers, and she seemed to enjoy them more than her coe workers. Then she let it go to return to work. I feel like if Haida took no for an answer she would of went back to singing after she found new determination to not let the stalker win. I feel like in the end she’s going to end up marrying Haida and become a manager at her job.

Some rebuttals. you answered your own question of why he can't be with inui. it takes time to grow feelings for someone. while it also takes time to get over heartbreak over someone. if he had chosen inui, it wouldn't have been right or fair to her. the entire time he'd be in a relationship with her, she'd have to fight retsuko for his heart. my husband was in a relationship like that, being the one in inui's shoes, and he broke up with that girl because he knew he was second fiddle. Using someone else to get over heart break isn't right or fair to the person you are using. also, I'd argue sometimes you do have to pull a person out of a funk like haeda did for retsuko. When my husband and I first started dating and learning about each other again, I had to do that for him. I would let him open up himself, 98% of the time, but sometimes, for his sake, I had to put my foot down and steer him in the right direction. I pushed him to go to therapy when he refused. I pushed him to tap into his feeling for me, and he was finally able to face his fear of commitment and admit he was in love with me. I pushed him to get medical attention when he didn't want to but was in desperate need. He didn't want me taking care of him when he was sick but I showed up at his door, made my way in his apartment, and cooked for him and took care of him. while I prefer he let me in, there are times where he desperately needed help tearing those walls down and I had to do it. and all of this happened when we just started dating, not even 6 months into our relationship. Sometimes a person like haeda is what someone like retsuko needs. haeda has been gently asking and been ignored the entire series. Now retsuko desperately needs help, and he's putting his foot down and giving her a wake up call and steering her in the right direction. don't get me wrong, overwhelming majority of the time no one should do this in the relationships. but as someone who had to do it myself, with the man who is now my husband, sometimes, *sometimes* these things need to be done. and I think this was one of those times. either way, I look forward to the next season, that's coming in December

After season 4, this is both tragic and cathartic to watch.

I’m already excited for your review on season 4!!!!

Great video shady!!! I really like your editing this time! The points are good as well.

Bruh the entire point that Haida is chasing someone not interested in him is literally mirrored in you trying to push him towards another person he's not interested in fully, someone he had a passing attraction to based mostly on the fact she pursued him. You're doing exactly what he's doing but for Inui.

As someone who has been in Retsuko’s spot before, sometimes you need somebody to physically drag you out of your room in order to snap you out of the cycle

Mannnnnn I’m so happy I found your channel from the King of the Hill videos, I love hearing your thoughts on things.

Thanks for making me relive this, Shady. Damnit.

My problem with haida (and retsuko herself for that matter) is that they're both spineless in their own endeavors and it ends up going from endearing to just becoming painful to watch after a while.

Fun fact! The woman who voiced Inui sang the smash bros ultimate song.

Oh boy, if you thought Haida was bad already, wait till season 4.

I avoid the Aggretsuko fandom because so many of them think Retsuko is bad for not wanting to go out with this man. Or they're like "she doesn't know what she wants so that justifies Haida forcing her into a relationship."

Thank you!!!! I had the exact issue!!!! I was so happy to see Haida have some character growth! It was refreshing! Then they took it all away!

I've never understood why this has become such a common trope in any media involving romance. The situation where Guy likes Girl A who doesn't share the same feelings while Girl B likes Guy all the while Guy still goes for Girl A despite the unshared feelings but the ship ultimately sails because plot. WTF?

If this was Bojack than the decisions made in this season would’ve made way more sense. It would’ve been cool to see Haida and Inui move on and progress outside of Retsko and her story

Haida: "I'm over it." Gretsko: "wanna hang out?" Fenneco: "you're turning her down!" Me: "boy if you know what's good for you..." Haida: "Sure!" Me: "...you're dead to me..."

While this review has absolutely stellar points, I think it misses the fact that it was implied that Tadano rigged the app to make Haida and Retsuko a perfect match, and his words to Haida afterwards suggest that he did it because Haida wouldn't have gotten up the courage to be more active in his pursuit otherwise (......even though he'd already been rejected. But that's another can of worms)

I love Inui so much she was so sweet and mature.

Great video! Really insightful… immediately subscribed 😊

Funny how stuff happens. I watched this series trough like a week ago and here Shady is presenting a video about it.

I love how aggretsuko is adult animation but doesn’t focus on sex, or drugs or heavy heavy drinking, and maybe even “racist” or insulting humor, it’s nice because if you search adult animation on Hulu or something the first thing that comes up is Family Guy, then The Cleveland show, then American dad and so on. The “problem” with those is that they’re “nasty” and highly “inappropriate”, UNLIKE aggretsuko. anyways. TCS,AD:what the hell could be the difference between aggretsuko and me? the difference is, aggretsuko isn’t mid.

i hope you watch season 4 and rage against haida again, i need to know I'm not alone in hating his arc, his lack of backbone, and the writers need to try an make me sympathize with him despite being 100% in the wrong yet again for another entire season

Damn. Haida turned into Mordecai who got what he wanted...

@8:58 I think an interesting thing to point out here is at this moment in the original Japanese, he actually says he would pick Inui, but Inui could tell that he wouldn't really ever love her so she keeps walking.

Apparently a fourth season is coming this December, 👍

I feel like I'm the only one angry at Haida over something completely different While yes, all the criticism about his actions towards Inui and Retsuko are completely valid What DESTROYED his character for me was the way he mocked Retsuko for having completely VALID PTSD after almost being freaking MURDERED "Sounds chicken to me" Including making clucking noises There's "tough love" and than there's completely disregarding someone's feelings Which btw He did this directly after Retsuko called him out for not actually knowing her and making a situation where SHE almost died about his feelings

I hated what u stated at the beginning of the video but i decided to keep watching to hear what u gotta say and god damn i needed to hear it. I’m guilty of wanting my ship to end up together and work through all their problems and face the hurdles together. But itd be so toxic and impossible to work out in a REAL life relationship. Gotta remind myself that there is writers behind it and sometimes they do spread these negative and unrealistic expectations.

Completely off-topic, but were you planning to do anything to participate in #TeamSeas? If so, can I suggest you talk about the S10 E01 of King of the Hill, "Hank's On Board"? It's sea themed and points out the boys' dynamic really well. Edit: I know reaction videos aren't your channel's thing but there was really no time for you to prep for this so maybe we could consider it a venture off course from your usually very polished, scripted content for the cause lol For real, I'm not trying to pressure you into doing content you don't do just trying to think practicality for the time frame the fundraiser is going for if, again, you wanted to participate.

After watching Season 4 I can see what you mean (and watching changed my opinion of Haida). Shame it was such a nice character.

And season 4 only solidifies how much of a bad couple they are.

100% agree. And it's not like a dumb love struck idiots like Haida can't actually exist, it's just that his character arc like you said, was much more interesting if he stuck with Inui; his persistent pursue of Retsuko feels very fan-servicy, and don't even get me started on the new season trailer!! I wonder if we're gonna get some Retsuko in this series called "Aggretsuko" lmao. Gotta love when the dude becomes the protagonist of the female lead story

We all know that the right choice should've been... Tadano

I love Haida and still do, but good lord this season made me so mad. I'd very much prefer an ending where Haida and Retsuko don't end up with each other and are happy with other people. Inui definitely deserves better she was done wrong and I wanna see her get into the happy relationship she deserves later in the series.

What Haida did at the end of season 3 was to purposely provoke Retsuko to "fight back" You're right about a lot. Haida follows his heart, but it creates more stress.

Man, this is soooo needed. I have more than one friend that are just like Haida, only in real life when you do this over the top things to conquer a girl who does not care about you anymore it almost always results in more harm than good.

I'm glad you made this video. I haven't heard ANYONE give Haida shit about what he did after Retsuko's traumatizing incident and it makes me so fucking mad! I really, really hope they don't end up together in the next season.

Can I just say that I love your analyses, despite disagreeing with a fair amount of points. You come across as sensible and incredibly entertaining. Plus, I'm super happy to have found a youtuber that doesn't curse or use God's name in vain. Keep up the work my dude, you're a gem.

Honestly? This all seems pretty realistic, at least to me. I haven’t watched the show in a bit, but this take down reminded me of an event that happened in my life recently. One of my friends had been rejecting our other friend for MONTHS, but he kept pursuing him despite being told MULTIPLE times. I had to basically write an essays worth of shit calling him out, and I still don’t know if he’ll stay true to his word when he says he’ll stop. While this situation is a little different than Haida’s, he too is infatuated with someone who’s already rejected him once before. And let’s not forget, Retsuko messaged him RIGHT after he started his journey of trying to move on from her. Who among us (😳) have made tough choices that we were able to stick with, unfaltering, RIGHT after a revelation or epiphany? Probably not too many, and while it is possible to accomplish, its much easier to fall back on our way of living/thinking than go down the hard path, even if it’s often the right one. What I’m trying to get at is that while Haida’s decision was stupid, it was a fairly realistic one, especially considering for how long and how hard he had been infatuated his Retsuko. Haida had been in love with her well before the series even started, and we’ve spent **two whole seasons** watching him fall head over heels for her practically every time he’s around her. If anything, sticking to his guns and choosing Inui over Retsuko would have been the less realistic option. Now, am I trying to defend Haida? No. If he were a real person I’d tell him he’s demonstrously idiotic, and he needs to get his act together. However, his portrayal seems fairly realistic in my opinion, based on my own experiences. Also, it’s easier to create drama over stuff like this lmao Like, it was a writing choice to have Retsuko message him at the exact moment he decided to get over her. It was a decision for that to happen WHILE he was dating someone else. The writers clearly want there to be SOMETHING to happen between these two, and they’re going to write their way through hell and back if that’s what it takes to get themselves there. It would have been nice to see him get with Inui. Hell, if we’re talking in terms of what would have been the best for him at that moment, then Inui should have been the ONLY romantic interest in his life. But if we’re giving Haida that treatment, then we should be doing the same with Tadona, or that other red panda that Retsuko dated who I can’t be bothered to learn the name of at the moment. They both made stupid decisions that costed them a perfectly good relationship with a person who would have treated them great, but they didn’t. The only reason we don’t get more upset over these guys is because we haven’t known them as long as we’ve known Haida. We haven’t seen how their minds work as well, and we haven’t been following them since the beginning. The story doesn’t want Retsuko or Haida to be with someone else. The story wants to show the struggles and hardships that Haida and Retsuko face in their journey of being together, and if that involves stupid shit like Haida breaking an innocent girls heart because he was too much of a coward of being confident with his choices, then so be it Point is, Haida is a dumb dumb stupid idiot man, but a fairly realistic one. The story want Retsuko x Haida to have some ground to stand on, and it’s trying to figure out how to get them there in a way that makes sense. The story clearly knows when to call Haida out, and we haven’t seen how him and Retsuko are going to interact moving forward. If I had to guess, the pair will likely spend more time together, and Haida will have to learn to actually make decisions on his own, because so far, it’s mostly been the plot making choices for him. Whether you like this arc or is entirely your own thoughts and opinions, but that is make take and my personal defense of it. I am a communist. Goodnight

Thank you for summing it up ever so nicely. I just finished season 3 last night and I loved every moment of it... except those last three episodes. Haida, my good sir, let her go. I had a similar situation where I fell for this one girl at college. We were good friends for a few years, then I asked her if she'd be willing to go out and she politely refused. She simply wasn't attracted to me in that way. It hurt a lot, but that was her choice and I let her go. We're still friends today, and while still sometimes hurts when we talk on the phone, I'm happy things didn't work out. Writers, please show Haida how this choice was wrong.

I love the part when a vegetable ask a question , because he know some one would have told that question

Oh boy, this rant came out a week early, the season 4 trailer just dropped and lets just say, Season 4 is well aware things aren't supposed to work out like that in season 3.

man, if you didn't like season 3 Haida, you're not gonna like season 4-

He closed the door with Inui no going back. He turned down a chance with someone that he liked and was developing something with for someone he knew would go nowhere. I'd have to agree with the beef he got caught up in the same rose colored glasses retsuko was but worse. It left the out in the cold and in the hospital, drunken and distraught. He mess up big time trying to do something only in his head rather than do something that was becoming real. Inui got done cold and now he'll be stuck with not only with what he'll never have but the regrets of what could have been. Believe me I've been there it hurts even more driving home something you always knew but ignored even more so when you've ignored someone who could have made you happy. The ol hindsight is 30/20.

Been there done that, Inui is really relatable to me, since as of now I am in a one sided relationship. And I felt so bad for her, as you said she did everything she could to get some time with him so he gets to know her better, and for what? Nothing. She deserves so much better.