Am I The A**hole? 3 - SimplyPodLogical #54 

When I got married, our pastor actually warned us not to joke around with the "objection" part of the wedding, because if anyone actually objected, he was legally obligated to stop the proceedings and ensure that the bride and groom receive proper private counselling to ensure that all parties are indeed in agreement that the wedding should proceed (even if the objector immediately claimed it was a prank)

The tall person wasted more time arguing and talking to them than what it would take for him to get the item for her...

The wedding thing: She said that she lost respect for her fiance. If I were her and knew my fiance was involved, I wouldn't want to celebrate anything.

Dude...the wedding one felt so disgusting to me like maybe they didn’t realize that objecting would stop the wedding but it’s still their fault for not realizing how big of a deal this is for her. Weddings are super expensive and the amount of emotional and physical labour she probably went through to plan the wedding all for it to be ruined for a little prank is aaaaa Tbh I would want to just cancel the wedding

I am 1000% with the bride, she totally had the right to be heart broken and leave by herself. What the “friend” did was inexcusable. I would be inclined to leave the fiancée.

My boyfriend is tall, and when we're at the store he regularly helps people reach stuff. Sometimes he just notices someone struggling and gently offers, other times people ask him and he gladly does it because it literally is only 30 seconds out of his day. That first guy really was the asshole.

He PAID for the seat. Like, it's his. What regular person does a $300+ favor to someone that's rude to them?

As someone who is engaged, if my partner and his friend decided to make a joke that would even potentially throw a wrench in the plans which I've invested hours of my time, emotional labor, and thousands of dollars, I would have 1000% reacted the same. Aside from the fact that we couldn't afford to take a financial blow like that, them knowing how much this day and event means to me and how hard I've worked toward everything that has gone into it, and then deciding that any sort of "prank" would be appropriate, would make me feel like my partner didn't value my efforts or respect the importance of this moment in our relationship.

Maybe the bride and groom have a relationship filled with pranks, but for me personally as I am planning my wedding currently, I would be more hurt that my partner isn't taking the day seriously that he would think a prank is a good idea at all, even if the wedding could go forward. For us, it's a day to promise our love to each other and commit ourselves to each other for the rest of our lives and I don't think pranks belong in the ceremony. Maybe the reception afterwards? but the ceremony is more serious and I think that is probably closer to why she got upset.

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no way do you marry the dude who thought an objection prank was a good idea. that wedding getting canceled was a blessing in disguise

If someone pranked me on any event I spent $16k on, I would be livid.

The fake stock portfolio situation is the adult equivalent of letting your little brother/sister ''play with you'' by giving them a disconnected controller.

On objections at weddings. In the UK at least yes this is a thing because it is a legally binding ceremony. Whether it's in a church or a registry office there are certain things that have to be said and responded to in a particular way or the marriage is not legally valid, that's why they do the 'repeat after me' bit. If someone objects then the wedding cannot go ahead until the objection is properly investigated. What they did was absolutely awful and she is 100% right to be furious. This is giving me palpitations just thinking about! All that money and time and energy down the drain and the wedding totally ruined! I would never speak to them again and definitely wouldn't marry them after that. In fact objecting as a joke in the UK carries a very hefty fine and potential jail time. The reception venue might not have had to be cancelled, it depends on if it was a separate venue than for the ceremony. But would you really feel up to celebrating your wedding that didn't actually go ahead with the people who ruined it? And now you're going to have to wait another notice period and get another marriage license which costs even more money and potentially not have any of your family there to see you legally married if they can't make it out again? Just awful.

One of the things not mentioned with the mother who took the plane seat: she never ASKED to take the seat, she just plopped down and expected the guy to be OK with it. I mean I woulda told her no regardless, but that kind of entitlement is a hell no.

I’m sorry that guy seems like he is either spoiled or has some growing up to do. To need your Dad to call you, several times, in the morning to wake you up for work shows a lack of maturity. I understand having issues waking up, but at some point you need to come up with your own solutions to this and not relying on Dad. I know he is only 20 or 21, but maybe it is time to think about this.

I used to be the only male that worked at a Sephora. I was the tallest person there and I loved it. I felt so important whenever somebody would call me over to grab something off the top shelves in the back room 😊

Yo the fiancé and the best man decided to jokingly object. I wouldn’t want to marry that man either.

I think the problem with the wedding was that she was so mad and disappointed that she didn't want to marry him anymore, so even if she sees weddings as party to celebrate love with family and friends, there is nothing to celebrate if he has hurt her.

The way Cristine and Ben commented on the wedding situation is really shocking. That situation was not about putting a good face for your guests. Her partner disrespected her. He knew it was a very special thing to her and he just didn't care. He made a joke out of her and hurt her feelings. Why would you ever want to be with someone like that? She doesn't own it to the guests to put on a show and continue with this mess. Her partner can be responsible for that.

I love the Super Simps label we’ve been given, especially because Cristine cringes so much when Ben says it hahaha

With the airplane one, in my opinion, he paid for the seat, its his. Unless that lady was going to pay him for the extra seat he purchased for himself, she had no right to get so angry about it.

the wedding one made me cry ngl, i don’t even care about weddings but she must have felt so hurt and sad for it being canceled and having to listen to people say you’re overreacting when you’re legitimately hurt sucks, i wouldn’t marry that men also 💖

I feel like the lady in the air plane could have just ask the person sitting next to her original seat if they wanted to switch with her daughter. They probably would have been happy to sit somewhere with a buffer seat and she would have been able to sit with her daughter.

I'm 6'1, and the "Law of the Tall" states that you can't just reach for the item for a short person, but if you are asked for help getting something you are obligated to get it.

In the uk, we have gotten rid or the objections at the wedding because of this. The city hall posts a notification of the wedding before for any objections. This is because any objections have to be investigated as it’s “any lawful reason why these two should not we’d”. So it is a legal matter that needs to be investigated. The investigation period can take up to 4 weeks, so by the time the wedding comes around the objection period has already passed so no one can object.

The bride one breaks my heart. For me the religious part of the ceremony is the most important part. It's a reason to bring family together, but if that's all I wanted I would have arranged a family reunion. Also a court house wedding doesn't supplement a marriage in a church. To work hard, use your own money, and to dream about that day only to have someone make a joke out of it? I wouldn't have wanted to continue on with the rest of the plans either, because they negated the reason for the day. I'm assuming that if their ceremony takes the objections seriously then it is on the more religious side. I think she is 100% justified in her feelings. The groom's actions show a disregard for his partner's feelings. I wouldn't want to marry someone who did that to me. Very sad.

Haha, I just had this happen to me at the store. Me a 5.5 ft tall young woman needing chocolate cream filled cupcakes. I spent like 5 minutes trying to track down a store worker. Then another three trying to figure out if it was wrong to stand on the freezer edge to reach said cupcakes. When a rather tall guy walked by. I think my exact words were, "Hi! You're tall! Could you please help me with this?" He was very sweet and did. Even reaching further back to grab some more to bring closer to the edge for others. I thanked him profusely and had a much better afternoon. Because good deeds and cupcakes.

The question about the airline and the mom asking to sit next to her daughter on a flight made me flashback to when I had to travel across the country when my mom unexpectedly died. This mom's son was sitting in the middle and I was in the aisle and she was sitting in the middle in the next set of seats. She wanted me to switch with her and when I said no she started yelling at me. I kept saying no because she didn't need to know I was traveling on bereavement and spent nearly a grand to travel across the country and didn't have long windows of time between flights. It then turned out they were in the wrong row and wrong side of the plane after they talked to a flight attendant about trying to make me move. The people on the other side of the aisle gave me such dirty looks and calling me selfish/a bitch until I started sobbing and said my mom had just died the day before and I had had no sleep, and was dealing with other issues due to her death. I didn't owe them ANY explanation for why I wouldn't give up my seat and people are assholes just because they can be. She had the audacity after hearing that to say that I should understand why then she wanted to sit next to her son, which she was anyway if she had just read her ticket.

First guy: She could have brought a stick with her. Or a step ladder. Imagine walking into the store with a ladder under your arm telling the employees it's just in case you have to reach something high up and all tall people around are being assholes today 😂 😂 😂

I think the neighbour might've been setting her up when asking if she'd met "Dorothy and Squeaks". Why did she say the dog's name first and leave it super open ended? Just a theory...

“He clearly wasn’t a catch” you’ve cracked the code Ben. The Bachelor franchise feeds their audience mediocre men every season and they eat it up

I’m guessing that wedding day one was in a Catholic Church or another religion where they take objections seriously. I think that would have ruined my day after working so much overtime and planning meticulously just to have it taken away by a prank😔

About the wedding one, I generally think it’s not the best practice to pull pranks during important legal ceremonies and also don’t pull pranks where the person who’s special day it is becomes the butt of the joke, especially when they aren’t aware. That’s just really inconsiderate of them to do to her, especially since I think she’s probably made it obvious this day was going to mean a lot to her.

There is a difference between "can you pass me this item off the shelf" and "can you assume liability for my expensive car and park it". You should NOT park other people's cars for them, lol.

As a semi-tall person (186 cm/6'1) i would say that though there may be many annoying things about being tall, helping people at the grocery store is definitely not one of them. I almost feel the opposite: like i'm a little bit of a hero when i'm able to reach stuff for people (especially old ladies) so i would say that this guy is, obviously, the asshole

Ben: people who snooze their alarms over and over again need help. Me : I feel personally attacked.

In the Netherlands if someone objects and the objection has legal merit (like the bride or groom is already married to someone else) the wedding stops and you can't get married. Also if the bride or groom says "no" for fun, the wedding stops. And I would definitly NOT go to the afterparty if my husband would have done something stupid like that!

Honestly on the fake stock account; if I were in her shoes I would be so relieved to find out I hadn’t actually just financially destroyed my family. I’d probably irritated too but mostly relieved

Damn, that wedding one. I would be so hurt. Not even that the day didn’t go as planned, but if I was in a relationship with someone I loved enough to marry, and they made a joke on what was supposed to be our wedding day of “Oops, now we can’t! Don’t you look stupid, how funny!” That’s just so insulting and so humiliating, and disrespectful to her family as well who’d had the limited time and all planned to be there.

My mom is wedding planner and this thing happened to her once. Priest refused to continue in wedding ceremony or do it again.

The first enty reminded me of that Tall girl movie where the protagonist makes everything about her and being tall.

I think it’s common courtesy to help someone when you are able and they are struggling. I am not very tall or incredibly strong but I always offer to help when I see someone who cannot reach something in the grocery store or when an elderly person is trying to pick up something heavy. My grandma used to always tell me “kindness costs nothing but means everything”. Be kind and courteous people, it goes a long way.

Wait. If that lady asked ben to park her car and knew he didn't work there, how did she expect to get the keys back? Was she just in the same spot waiting for him to return or something?

For the morning routine couple: these people should really consider getting a smartwatch. You can set it so that it vibrates on your wrist when you get a message or phone call, or when an alarm goes off. The phone can remain silent. The vibrations on your skin are definitely enough to wake you up, but they are not loud, so they don't wake anyone but the wearer. If the watch bothers you on your wrist (for example if you sleep with your hand under your head), you can put it on your ankle instead. This has the added bonus that to turn off the alarm you have to reach down to your feet, and the movement helps wake you up. I use a smartwatch as an alarm clock because I like to sleep with earplugs, especially when I need a very restful night.

person payed for their seat. they got anxiety and they prepped accordingly. Sorry mamma better luck next time🤷🏻‍♀️

I love how, in the story with the guy with the alarm, he says "she isn't a morning person" but she's the one waking up to the second text notification, while he is sleeping through texts, alarms, and his girlfriend seething.

On the tall guy thing, i am 4’11”. Very short. I was behind this old old woman in the grocery store. She was in one of those little motorized scooter things so she couldn’t turn all the way around to look at me, but she knew I was behind her. She asked me to pull something off the top shelf for her, I said sure, walked around to where the thing was (which was in front of the old lady), stepped on the bottom shelf and reached up to grab the thing. She looked at me super weird after I put it in her cart, thanked me, and drove away. I don’t think she was expecting me to be too short to reach it standing on the ground 😂

I wouldn’t get married at all if my fiancée pranked me at the wedding. I don’t approve of pranks like that and it seems like the bride didn’t either. I definitely wouldn’t have gone to celebrate and her fiancée doesn’t seem to be taking their commitment to each other seriously.

Holo I’m team bride, as I’m planning my wedding I would be more heartbroken because my future husband should now what I would take as a joke and thier should have been some discussion about things we won’t tolerate in the wedding day my fiancé and I, already had that talk and have an understanding on what we want to be taken very seriously

About the wedding one: i would have been SO PISSED. Even if I tried to salvage the night I would have been so bitter still

Ben did not need to call me and my ten alarms out like that. I can hit snooze in my sleep and wake up later on and never remember it happening

I bet if people mixed up Cristine's name with Menchie, she would actually be pleased. Practically calling her beautiful amiright?

For the question at 34mins, my partner and I have gone through the same thing. He gets up early for work, had multiple alarms, im a light sleeper, it would wake me up ect. Our solutions were we compromised on an alarm sound, and once it went off, he gathered his things and then continued to 'sleep in a bit' on the couch or futon in another room. Our furniture is super comfy so this isn't a problem. Now he barely wakes me, i get my sleep, and he gets his extra sleep in time without me hearing multiple alarms.

The stocks one. If she had insight she would not have even asked to take control but she's too proud to want to learn in a safe way. I don't think he's an asshole as he offered multiple times to teach her, could've just continued to say no though without giving a fake account.

Omg the wedding story if I was her I would be livid also! And for nobody to have her back and say she’s overreacting is even worse! That would absolutely devastate me! 😭 I agree definitely not the time for pranks. Maybe he could’ve planned a prank during the reception? But the actually ceremony in church.... 🥴

ben had the audacity to say “does anyone care about st.patricks day?” while my 5’1, ginger, irish ass is sat here getting ready for a pint in finglas

Honestly you paid for that seat. Either refund that person the money for the seat or leave it open.

A similar seat thing happened with me while travelling in Europe. I purposely paid to choose an aisle seat. I dislike the middle and I did not want the window seat. I have anxiety so aisle seats are easy access to get out if I need to stand or use the washroom...etc. Once I was sitting on the plane, a girl that was in the row in front of me asked to sit next to her parents (I was sitting next to them), there was a language barrier, but I speak a bit of Italian so I tried my best. I asked her if her seat was specifically the aisle seat by pointing to it and she said yes. So I said ok sure. After 5 minutes a couple comes and says I'm sitting in their seat and I ended up having to sit in at the window seat. I was LIVID...I literally PAID to be able to choose my seat and I ended up with something I didn't want. You best believe I will not be nice next time and will politely decline and if someone wants to call me an asshole because of it, they can kiss my ass lol Also, it's actually not right to be changing seats due to the manifest having your name for a specific seat in the event that the plane crashes.

My husband and I got married at a winery. We didn’t want to take any chances with a stranger walking by and objecting. We had our officiator remove the line about people objecting… because people are assholes.

On the airplane story I completely understand the anxiety, I really hate flying and try to get a window seat whenever I fly because I can cram myself against the window away from the people. If I had the means to pay for another seat I would probably consider it. I always have anxiety before flights because I'm afraid I will have to confront someone for my seat, especially when I've paid for that window seat, but thankfully I've been lucky.

"And Dorothy wants to go home" and Ben said nothing! I was almost offended when this marvellous joke wasn't established! XD

i am a tall gothic girl and i love when people ask me if they need help. my favorite part is when they think i am scary but i turn out to be a very happy person. I also offer to help any senior citizens when we are in the same aisle.

Fun story about the bachelorette: I know someone who was on the show and they actually made it to be the runner up but he did not win. Initially, he never applied for the show. He was landscaping in the summer and a woman approached him as a recruiter for reality shows. After some back and forth, he agreed to be on the show because the contestants do get paid. When he wasn’t chosen, he later actually met his now wife at a bachelor/bachelorette reunion event. They’re now happily married and even have their own show together 😊

The wedding objection thing is totally true at least in the UK. A few of our friends are pranksters and we had to actually give them a stern warning to not do it unless they wanted to then give us the money to do the wedding again haha!

"aita for letting my phone blare at like 4am and ignoring it, waking my girlfriend up every morning" yes. yes you are. thats so inconsiderate?

as a short person with anxiety, if I manage to ask someone to grab something for me and they just said no, I think I would probably have a panic attack. just getting the courage to ask for something takes so much, so I think that guy was definitely an asshole. also where the hell am I supposed to find a stick in Walmart??? go all the way to the cleaning section to grab a broom when there's someone right there? no

Dude that simulation story is CRAZY, I'd be so happy to find out it was test/sim after losing money! It would probably give me even more faith and trust in my husbands decision making skills.

So about the "when someone objects at a wedding you can in fact not continue the wedding" part - I saw a video of a British RU-vidr called Jill Bearup the other day, and she talked about this actual fact. The video is called "Don't Speak Now, Just Hold Your Peace". So to recap, it seems to be different rules in different countries nowadays ('cause in my country we don't even have that part at all), BUT: In several countries (such as all of the UK and therefor possibly still some parts in the US?) this is absolutely the case: If someone objects to the wedding at that part, no matter the circumstances, without any exception, you can in fact not continue with the wedding. So yeah. It's very much a thing :)

Oh god, I hate being shuffled around on planes due to other people's seating issues. One memorable time it happened three times on the same flight. No blame on the individuals involved who probably had legitimate needs, but also it still sucked. Flying is already stressful enough without having to change seats three times before takeoff.

"I'll listen to you pee in the bathroom" most unintentionally relatable quote about living with your partner 🤣

Why isn't there anyone mentioning the moment they said "alright everybody" at the same time at 56:47 ??????????? That's the cutest shit I've ever seen!!!

Oh Ben, what a wonderful scarf you have

I'm Northern Irish and we definitely use St Paddy's day as another excuse to drink! As if we need another excuse lol

I asked my dad (a pastor) about having someone object to a wedding, and he said he's never had to deal with that, but historically it was a thing so that if anyone in the crowd knew of something that would hinder the marriage (ex - the groom was actually married and leading the bride on), they were given that opportunity to speak out and inform the couple/those gathered before something bad occurred.

The name cycle thing is spot on here in Finland. My grandmother's generation used to have names like Eino, Veikko, Hilma, Kerttu and to me the are always "old people names". I recently started teaching and it's been so weird to tell 8 years old Eino and Veikko to be quiet and sit down. Those names are becoming more popular now when my generation has started to have kids. I was born in the mid 90's and my generation has a lot of pretty neutral names like Anna, Maria, Sami, Joona etc (my name is also from that category, a variation of Anna). In the 2000's came the international and rich people names like Stella, Tony, Daniel and Jessica. Now we have a bunch of 20+ year old Annas and Jessicas starting to name their kids after grandma Maija or grandpa Viljami.

As someone who’s Irish, normally St Patrick’s day is really just drinking,with a parade. It’s kind of seen as a celebration of our country. In primary school, they’d tell us the story of st Patrick (and currently in secondarily school, they’ll tell us it in religion class) but nobody I know takes it religiously. Generally people just wear green, kids wear face paint and shamrocks, you watch a parade and adults go out to drink.

The tall person is really trying to act like being nice for 0.2 seconds is an inconvenience. He seems like the type of guy that would see a blind person trying to cross the street and telling them to get out of their way because the blind person is in their way.

I’d tell the lady if she wants the seat she needs to pay me for it.

As a financially illiterate student, stocks are *not* the starting point, especially if it's to prove a point to others!

The guy with the food and girlfriend, I think he just wanted a break to eat at his own home and not have to drive far. People don't have to see each other every day

I think that older lady was trolling lmao. She probably really was Dorothy 😂

I have been in Girl Guides for five years and every camp you grab a sharpie and write your name on EVERYTHING!

The alarm story hit home for me. My sister could never wake up, even when her cellphone screamed at her, so I always woke up from her loud alarms, walked over, waked her up and walked back to bed. I could have easily slept 2 hours more and that always made me mad!

I think we need a full podcast on Cristine's camp stories. 😁😁

Dude the wedding one is so infuriating. All that money is now wasted, her wedding day is a bad memory, and her own friends gaslighted her into thinking she was overreacting wtaf. Her (now ex?) fiancé sounds like a jackass and his buddy too. Who would even dare joke about that?? Most people get a warning that if anyone objects, the wedding can’t go on. And what would be the point of celebrating when you can’t actually get married on that day? I feel so bad for the bride. If someone did that to me I would end up in jail for murder tbfh.

The reason Juan Pablo was chosen to be the Bachelor was because when he was on Desiree's season of the Bachelorette and got very little air time since he was sent home early on. With the little time he was on the show Bachelor nation fell in love with him since he genuinely seemed like a nice, single dad who also happened to be a hot, latin soccer player.

I'm a tall woman and I love getting things for people and even bring products forward when they aren't up front and would be impossible for someone shorter to reach because I worked retail and can't ignore that stuff. I've asked shorter people to grab me things that are lower because I have a hard time bending over/squat down to get something and people are totally helpful. The grocery store is truly one of my favorite places, I'll spend hours in there just slowly making my way up and down the aisles checking things out and without fail I will see someone trying to figure something out/decide on a product and I'll give an unsolicited recommendation if it's something in familiar with (most times it is) and never once has anyone been mean and it's actually created fun conversations. I also enjoy randomly complimenting people, I'll be in line next to someone and notice their shoes, bag, etc. and compliment them which also has never gone negative and actually had people get choked up because they were having a bad day. One time it led to a two conversation and me referring the person to some resources that they didn't know how to access all because I recommended a specific product they were looking at. Random acts of kindness are what the world needs more of and it's sad this guy has a chip on his shoulder about reaching for something. Btw I'm 34, not an old grandma and yes me doing these things embarrasses my husband, family, and some friends because they can't imagine just randomly speaking to someone but I enjoy it and the people I talk to seem to enjoy it and I'm well versed in reading body language and subtle clues so I would know if there was conflict. I highly encourage the daily random act of kindness, it makes others feel good which makes you feel good which makes life not suck as much 💜💜 Edit- I've had people ask me to do things because people thought I worked there so I just tell them "oh I don't work here but I'll find you someone who does", no sore feelings or ego on my end for being thought of as an employee, people need to check themselves and relax.

For the first one: my husband is 6’5”, and yes people do single him out for help getting things off high shelves often. People will walk past a perfectly capable 5’10”ish person to ask him for help. Usually this triggers a chain reaction and someone else will wait for him to get the thing down for the first person then ask him to walk 5-10 steps down the aisle to help them. It doesn’t happen every time we go to the store, but at least a few times a month. It does annoy him a bit but he never says no because he’s a kind guy.

At our wedding rehearsal my brother jokingly objected, and the priest had to explain to him that he must absolutely get all of that out of his system before the actual ceremony, because if he did that, even jokingly, the ceremony would have to be stopped and the objection would have to be fully investigated. As I think someone else mentioned, the objections have to be taken very seriously here (in the UK) though I'm not sure how it is in other places.

The past two weeks I’ve been binge listening to this podcast on Spotify, and I decided halfway through this podcast to play it fromRU-vid instead, and let me tell ya it’s so different and such a weird experience to what I have been picturing in my head this whole time! You guys are great :)

I'm a 5'8" woman, and I've had several occasions when shorter folks have asked me to get something from a top shelf, and I usually just do it cuz why not LOL. I have said the typical " I don't work here" but when I realize simply to reach for something I just laugh and hand it over. Kind gestures can bring you happiness!! Maybe it's a Canadian thing

I had a high school teacher who was absent for several weeks in the middle of a semester. When she returned, she was all excited, saying "I'm not supposed to say (NDA), but because you're my favorite class, I'll tell some secrets" and she proceeded to tell us EVERYTHING about this new reality show she was on that was similar to the Amazing Race (It was called Expedition Impossible). My teacher described the application process, and it was pretty wild! She said she lied about things like "I have 2 houses and multiple cars, and x, y, z things. Anything to make my application stand out." The whole process seems sketch, but it is totally possible to be picked.

I can totally relate to the toothbrush story. When I was little my mum cleaned the Floor and after the Toilet with it and put it back in my brushholder. Maybe because I was little I didnt pay attention to the toothbrush but it had.. fuzzys in it. But I used it anyway and had some of those fuzzys in my mouth and screamed for my mum. She realized what she had done and apologized multiple times. 15 years later and I still make jokes about it (and ofc my mum covers her face in shame when I tell the story) :)

"works hundreds of hours of overtine and plans out a whole day" Ben: "you should try to salvage what you can of the day"

As a tall person, I have fully accepted my role in helping people shorter than me reach things that they cannot get to, It is a burden to bear but I bear it gladly 😌

My husband is 6 foot 6 inches. He rarely is asked to reach things for others in stores. When he is asked, he happily grabs what the person needs. More energy is needed to fight about it.

I’m not even that fussed about the official part of weddings but I would definitely be pissed at a prank like that at an event that costs so much time, effort and money to plan. He probably didn’t know that the wedding would actually have to be cancelled, but I can very well imagine being absolutely not amused.

I'm 6 feet tall and I *love* being asked to help get stuff. It's so weird to me that someone wouldn't like that? Ben, yes people ask for help with this kind of stuff pretty much constantly, but it takes literally seconds and really makes them so grateful! Why would he not want to spread so much appreciation doing something SO EASY.

Honestly sounds like the dude wanted to get out of getting married