the airport story from matt’s perspective got me bamboozled af. It requires a high level of privilege to be this out of touch to not see it as a classist scenario.
Ive never commented before, but………. Regarding the “Am I An Asshole” airport story, if we were looking at the scenario as how it was told, then yes I think the situation was not right and quite classist but I have to say I have a bullshit radar to and I don’t think that a lot of the stuff that she said was true, but at the same time we don’t know so we can’t go off of that. I most definitely do not think that matts perspective was out of touch. If anything all I got from that conversation was Erin screaming over everybody trying to get her point across when it was just a simple debate. Her eye rolling was rediculous. I’m not trying to be a bully whatsoever but I thought Erin was quite rude in that situation especially when she was like “I can literally hear you being upset about this”. Idk like who is she to say that, especially to her friend.
@@calicook1041my bullshit detector is going off. The fact that you felt the need to point out and dramatize erins behavior to fit your narrative…. Alarm bells going off.
Mike was the only sane one during the 23 year old step mom story, because HUH ??? A 17 year old girl is not the AH for being upset about the fucked up dynamic she’s being thrown into. It’s weird and confusing and honestly fucking GROSS. Her “step-mom” is 23 years old, and younger than 2 of the siblings. Dad is the AH in this situation and honestly so is the mom for enabling this in the first place. I feel bad for OP and also step-mom and the new baby. So fucking weird🤢
The parents have the right to open up their marriage if that's what they'd like... but forcing their children (15, 17) to also be included in this dynamic is completely unfair. Wait 3 years when they are adults and out of the house, IMO.
Yeah i was baffled they had these opinions but to each their own. IMO, whether the parents ended on good terms or not, the husband wouldn’t have even had a second to think he could bring someone around and let them live there like that. female OR male!!!!
I’m sorry but as a teacher to 17 year olds, people don’t realize that they are literally children. They act like children, their hormones are crazy, and they have so much pressure on them. To call her an asshole and say “don’t take it out on the baby, take it out on the adults” is extremely unfair to the literal child that is still being raised by those adults. Imo, she has every right to feel uncomfortable and set boundaries w her family. And I guarantee she won’t feel this way towards the baby once she is born and she herself ages and matures. Fully w mike on this one
Exactly! Almost seems like his character/personality on online is fake. It would relate to his friend group personalities and like an entitled rich man.
He is dismissive of the girls feelings, but from an earlier episode he talked about his compulsive lying roommate. So it sounds like he might just be sceptic to any story that he believes might have bs in it. On the other hand Erin told him they just take the story for being truthful so he should have pointed out which version of the stories he believed in clearer.
Matt not realizing he is completely dismissing the victim in the abusive situation is a little too loud lmao literally making up ways she ~could~ be lying rather than just taking her at her word
RIGHT like he doesn’t even know this person and is immediately doubting her. Tell me you don’t believe victims without telling me you don’t believe victims 🙄
Made me think this is how he truly is. Lost any respect, not that he had any. I can’t believe he doesn’t believe there are ppl like there are and they are bitches.
LOVE this podcast!!! Can we talk about how rational Mike is as well? As someone who hasn't seen much of his content, I love hearing his take/opinions on hard-hitting topics!
She was lowkey irritating me 🤣 like I get the point of AITA but she kept mocking him and I’m like OKAYYYYYY when Carly said stop bc I don’t want to trigger him I was like finally someone says something like damn
am I the a-hole for being a little annoyed w matt for creating his own story lines to the original submissions??? or was matt maybe not fully aware of how it works? idk what do others think?
I think there is maybe an aspect with Matt and the airline story that people are ignoring, and that’s how much he dismissed the poverty element. I don’t know the guy but it’s no secret that he comes from a wealthy background. He only really does sponsorships and podcasts and has never done anything super concrete. I don’t know if he had a scholarship, but he went to a pretty big college, and he even dated Spielberg’s daughter for Christ sake. So I’m not saying that Matt is some egotistical trust fund baby but I think it might just be something he is not able to understand
I think it’s cuz he’s so overly sensitive about things that are touchy subjects for him, but it’s like bro if the touchy subject is whether or not you’re an asshole, you have some self reflection to do lmao
I think that Matt doesn't want to believe that there are horrible people out there, but my guy, there are and people will treat you differently just because you don't have money. He obviously hasn't encountered a situation like this, which is great for him, but it doesn't mean others haven't or that they are automatically lying. Its okay Matt Also, I could definitely see Carly's side about the wedding photos I feel like they glossed over her point of view to quickly.
They did, and Carly kind of just got shut down unless she throws a fit like Matt. After they shut her down she kind of just seemed sad or something can’t explain and it just didn’t sit right with me. I even thought Mike would have been like I understand her pov but don’t agree with it.
the airport story drove me crazy! seeing matt call this poor girl "difficult" and essentially saying she was overreacting when he immediately acted like a victim with the rest of the group were against him, ugh! it just annoyed me so much.
OH NO!! You disagreed with a popular influencer🫤y’all act like these people have to have your ideas… he’s welcome to his own opinion even if it’s a bad one. Y’all are too much 😂😂
anyone who’s been through traumatic family experiences probably have an easier time understanding how that 17 year old feels. i think it’s harder for someone who hasn’t been through that to understand, especially if they’re privileged
I think he grew up with trust issues therefore being skeptical about every situation. He also definitely grew up privileged so he doesn’t understand very out of touch
you’ve never met him, don’t generalize about someone off of one hour video. I could do the same with anyone i’m sure even you and myself. Anyone can be dismissive, also this is his beliefs
@@22Angelbby this is so true lol. I feel like Carly is the most in touch w reality by a long shot. Mike too but you can tell he rlly thinks things through logically. Carly just knows lol
This is such a good topic you guys should make this a regular thing like once every few months or something! I mean you could just about just have AITA be a podcast all on its own, glad C&E brought it over from their pod!
Yeah I’d love for them to do more! Also, if you’re into this there’s a whole podcast dedicated to AITA. It’s called Two Hot Takes, one of my faves along with this one :)
Would be cool if y’all brought on your significant others as a guest or guest co-host if someone is out. Would love to hear from Patricia, TJ, Nolan. 😊
Matt it’s not about first class, her boyfriends family literally abandoned her and treated her poorly and when she was upset she probably went to her bf but he wasn’t even there for her and took his family’s side so I understand how overwhelming that could be, especially knowing that at the AIRPORT she’s being treated like shit and has to deal with it the whole vacation. Everyone’s different and has their own opinions but I totally see where she’s coming from
And he refused to acknowledge it. Like why would the boyfriend not step down to coach to be with someone he supposedly loved??! Such a shit family dynamic.
Usually love Matt’s take on different issues but I think he can have a little more empathy for people and their experiences…listening to his airport take was tough.
I was at a Taylor Swift concert with my best friend - we had FLOOR SEATS and were so excited. there was a middle aged couple behind us who kept telling us to sit down… AT A TAYLOR SWIFT CONCERT! IT WAS THE 1989 TOUR TOO! They called security to tell us to sit down and security literally laughed and told them “no…it was a concert”.
Matt was just missing the point that she wasn’t mad about not getting a First Class ticket, she was mad about being singled out and then being talked down to by her bf’s mom bc she’s a lower class than they are. I don’t know why he was so focused on the whole First Class aspect of it. I love ya, Matt, but that was frustrating to listen to. I could not believe that you said the girl was “playing the victim.” Maybe she was stretching the story but you don’t know that with am I the asshole stories; you just have to work with what you got. From what we got, that girl was clearly being discriminated against, and the mom was a bitch.
TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY JANUARY 31st and this episode is the 31st episode and its am i the a**hole which is my favorite part of carly and erins podcast LIKE WOW EVERYTHING IS PERFECT I LOVE YOU GUYS
Erin is so right about being able to hear matt being upset about not getting first class on a family trip. I would love to see him in that situation, just by the way he acts i know he would be furious. MATT IS THE ASSHOLE
Usually it’s Mike being out of touch in a situation or story but my god was Matt showing his privilege during that airport story. Like Erin was saying, I could hear Matt being upset about that airport situation. What a weird hill to die on lol
Just started binging this channel because you guys are literally such a good group. Please do more of these AITA EPISODES!! I love hearing all of the differing opinions.
Matt was such an asshole. He has a habit of creating scenarios to make up a way an upset woman could be seen in the wrong, going on and on about how they should have reacted to disrespect. It was refreshing to see Mike not buy into that. Matt can be insufferable sometimes lol he seems like the type to only be able to conceptualize women he knows personally as human beings
Theres a really good podcast called Two Hot Takes that goes into depth with Am I the Asshole and a couple other reddit forums. It for sure one of my favorite podcasts along with this one!
This was a great topic. I appreciate that you guys have topics to discuss, unlike so many other youtubers turned podcasters that do nothing but just chit chat. I know everyone transitioned to podcasts due to Covid, but podcasts are supposed to be about something, not just a group of friends shooting the shit. Thanks guys
I understand having a bullshit detector because I believe in intuitions and gut-feel. But at the same time, to form an opinion based on it as if its a hard fact is what's kinda iffy to me. Still love you tho. This has to be one of the most polarizing podcasts so far. Enjoy the engagements! :)
Honestly stan Carly. I love how she stood her ground and presented her opinions. Matt on the other hand.... super frustrating. It's not just that I don't agree with his opinions because I'm all for hearing other people out, but putting these twists on the scenarios just to fit your beliefs is not it.
Matt has mentioned his "BS detector" before but every time he brings it up it seems like situations that he's just so out of touch he thinks people are lying. The privilege is showing, and I'm a matt stan! but this episode was weird for him
For the braces story - personally if I was the bride, I would ask the groom if he’s comfortable with having his braces in the photos because he is a ashamed of them. I think it’s clear in his reaction he’s projecting his shame. I don’t think the bride felt ashamed of her husband or that he was ugly for having braces. I think that was a bit misconstrued because she clearly found him attractive with non perfect teeth so why would she care about braces now? Of course marriage is the most important part of the wedding but you will also have those photos as memories forever and he won’t have braces forever. It will change his appearance in the photos or is that caring too much about looks? I would still leave it completely up to him and say I loved him regardless
Yesss I had a friend like this it was so tiring.. he even said on the guilty pleasures pod that he is always on the look out to disprove someone’s story/ catch them in a lie
This was very interesting and one of my favs so far. The back and forth between everyone was super entertaining! Love that this group of friends is close enough to keep it real and check each other but also keep it light hearted then continue onto the next story. Also giving an honorable mention to mike! Smart, diverse, and witty? What a treat :)
matt i love you i swear. but i could HEAR YOU ranting about how everyone got first class tickets except you, and you saying its not about the first class, its about getting left out. lol
Matt on the trip to Japan, Zane and heath get everyone else first class seats except for u, bc they say ur not important enough on the show to sit with them? Ur not upset and acting the same way?
Don’t know how it works in America but where im from, when children start going to kindergarten it’s expected that the child is potty trained. The teacher still wipes their but if they don’t know how to do it themselves at the same time they also teach them how to do it. Like Erin said children develop differently, I remember that a 5 year old still wore diapers and I had to change it in the morning and after lunchtime.
I just wanted to leave my opinion of the babysitting story. As a current kindergarten teacher with numerous kids barely turning 5 when they started school. I believe that they brother was in the right mindset. She clearly was able to wipe all day until then as well as she will have to have this done within less than a year (if she is not already in high school). The brother, though is a relative, also handled it well, personally, because technically is an "employee" and as an "employee" around kids, there is just some things you cannot do. For instance, I was doing observation hours in college at a daycare and since I am not employee, even though I worked with young kids and cleared numerous background checks, I could not change their diaper and all the kids in that classroom were expected to wipe themselves as the employees couldn't even do that for them (the classroom was toddler-aged, so 18 months to 2.5 years). Also, looking back when I was 18 and babysitting, I wouldn't have thought to check a kids underwear to make sure they wiped properly, even as a girl. Though I understand all of their opinions, from a teacher's standpoint you should not be wiping someone's butt if they are not your own child, period. This doesn't allow them to gain any independence and potentially cause them to struggle in school. Students are expected to be able to do their "everyday task" like zipping up coats, putting papers in their folders, etc. once they enter kindergarten and wiping after using the bathroom is one. Another thing is that most preschools require students to be fully potty-trained, including wiping, before being excepted. Wiping a child's butt is just creating a dependence on you and any adult they will encounter in their life.
MATT IF YOURE READING THIS: you aren’t an asshole for having a diff opinion lol!!! Matt was just trying to say how the situation would be different- totally normal when doing AITA segment 🥲 on Only Friends the girls NORMALLY do that where they’re like “it would be different if the situation was-“ I think it was just hard for Matt to get his point across with them kinda attacking lol
the difference is he immediately assumes the OP is lying and dismisses the situation and only focuses on the “if then” scenario that he is narrating, it’s okay to give his opinion on that but he needs to focus on the story as it is written and take it as being the true story
Matt has really been giving me the ick more and more recently. He’s so dismissive and refuses to see things from any other perspective but his own. Between this and unfiltered he’s constantly dismissing people’s ideas and interrupting their stories to “call them out” because he refuses to believe that someone other than him can be interesting. He’s always pushing this white picket fence/nuclear family ideology and it’s so annoying
I never comment mean things BUT there’s a first time for everything lol… the way that Someone was twisting these stories really makes sense with the people he’s still friends with…. Like you’re making up scenarios to fit what makes You comfortable. It’s just so embarrassing like how do you not realize you’re being annoying and not respecting your friends/the truth?
I Need More Of These Am I The Asshole Episodes !! I Loveeee Seeing Everyones Different Point Of View But Matt Was Just Overthinking It For No Reason Lolll
As someone who grew up in and around wealthy families, that airport story truly could have happened. Rich people are proper ruthless and can be incredibly rude. I don’t disagree with Matt in full but I also don’t agree because I know firsthand how awful rich people can be. That story sounds like some rich people bullshit. 😂😂
This was a fun discussion. Carly....you look fantastic with your hair pulled back. It's very attractive. Everyone was a little hard on Matt, but he had a hard time with just going with the events as they were presented in the posts.....still fun though.
Ok so with the story about the guy who ordered an Uber to the siblings wedding, I do see the point of 'today was not the day to prove a point about your parents always being late'. On the other hand this is the parents of the bride!!! I am not a parent, but if I was I cannot imagine any scenario in which I wouldn't be prepared for this day. It's not like it's Sunday lunch, and I find it completely disrespectful of the parents to be late to a significant day/milestone in their CHILDS life.
about the baby sitter one...I am a ski coach and my four year olds can go to the bathroom all by themselves. If your kid is nearly 6 you need to make sure they can do that alone, and even wash their hands. Teachers are not responsible for this so what does she do at school...
I think matt was right during the fake pregnancy test one with the crazy mother in law! Craziness aside, if the mother in law and husband truly were looking forward to having a baby, you dont use pregnancy as pranks/jokes or as bait. She could have used like an eviction notice or maybe some financial drama to bait the mother in law instead of pregnancy
Lol Erin paints it’s a way and seems like everyone’s okay with that but then Matt starts painting it the way he looks at it and then she’s like but they don’t say that
I love this podcast but I don’t appreciate how Erin will always belittle an opposing position. Her facial expressions are so dismissive and off putting. You can tell people back off easily on their opinions because of how aggressive she is. I like how Carly and Mike are the peacekeepers❤
@@jenna215 YES! Carly is precious and I feel bad because she has to be Erin’s yes man, poor girl ! The tension between Erin and Matt is uncomfy sometimes…. 👀
absolutely love hearing your takes on this and think you guys should do more of these AITS episodes! mikes takes were great here. i love matt and he’s the reason i started listening, but his take on the airport situation/17yo girl situation was really hard to listen to. it was incredibly tone deaf almost ? both of these are abusive/traumatising situations and his “that never happened!” and complete dismissal of how that would of made them feel was super disappointing. i disliked that when they try to open his eyes to the other side of it (or that it wasn’t about flying coach) he gets insecure/throws a tantrum that he’s going to be attacked in the comments… because he would be extremely upset if it had happened to him and someone dismissed his whole story for trying to be the “victim”. it all came across a little bratty. generally liked the episode overall though! 😁
I agree with Matt about the #1 AITA: how you’re having an extravagant wedding that you chose, and charging people to attend?? If there was a financial issue, why go extravagant?
I was born when my dad was 49 and my mom was 27. I have half sisters on my dads side that were in their 20s when I was born. I always think about how weird it must have been for them to have a step mom their age and I have no idea how they felt at the time but I am thankful they were accepting of me, but honestly we’ve never been close. Luckily in my situation my dad was no longer with their mom lol that part is extra weird 😅
I have half younger siblings that are 21&23 years younger than me. My stepmom is young but still older than me. It’s only weird because we aren’t close. Mostly because of distance but I do love them. They are still my sisters! I don’t call any of my siblings half siblings. They are just my sisters and brother.
i never comment on videos but this one was really upsetting to see. after this episode idk if i'll be able to continue watching this podcast after seeing matt's opinions on some of these. i take his views more personal than i probably should, but it's clear that he has privileged/classist blinders on, as well as having no issue victim blaming others.
I’ve been seeing more of Matt’s entitlement and ignorance on unfiltered and after watching this esp the airport one I can say for sure I don’t like him. Also as a nurse I can buy my own first class ticket 💁🏼♀️
she opens the sardines in the bathroom to drain them so she can eat them. she drains it then washes the sink then takes it to her room to eat. then after the complaint about the smell from the trash, she washed the can before throwing it away. i feel like the other person is just being annoying when she has accommodated as much as she can while continuing her getting a cheap meal for herself. also she said only TWICE a week, the roommate is definitely being rude
