Amanda Rae's Story - Part 2 - Leaving Her Polygamous Group

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Part 2 of Amanda Rae's Story of leaving the Kingston Polygamous Group.
Part 1 HERE: • Being raised in "The O...
Subscribe to Amanda Rae: / amandalovesrachel
FAQ:
Poof Video: • A Polygamous UN-Makeov...
Tour of my Hometown: • Tour of My Polygamous ...
Sleeping Arrangements: • Sleeping Arrangements ...
What it's like for polygamous girls: • What It's Like For Pol...
What is it like for polygamous Mothers?: • What It's Like for Pol...
How do such big families survive financially?: • How Polygamous Familie...
What are FLDS views on race?: • FLDS Views on Race
My spiritual journey since leaving the FLDS: • My Spiritual Journey S...
Why and How I left Polygamy: • Leaving Polygamy: My H...
What it was like to grow up with 4 Mothers: • Growing Up In Polygamy...
What it was like to grow up wtih 34 siblings: • Growing Up In Polygamy...
Who in my family still believes: • Leaving Polygamy: Who ...
Is there arranged marriage?: • Growing Up in Polygamy...
Biggest culture shocks: • Leaving Polygamy: Cult...
What my education experience was: • Leaving Polygamy: From...
How Warren Jeffs became a prophet: • Leaving Polygamy: How ...
FLDS and the law: • FLDS vs. The Law
Why we didn't believe Warren Jeff's confession: • Warren Jeff's Confessi...
How we met: • How We Met...And Re-met
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@TheFrancoPhiler 2 года назад

Can we just take a moment to appreciate how brave you have to be to leave an insular community and to speak on it?

@unpopularopinions9076 2 года назад

“Have your own testimony and question until you find it.” That’s spectacular advice for all humans!!! I’m adding that quote to my repertoire!!!

@Lolzadoodle8484 2 года назад

Love these collaboration videos with all three of you! My family was polyandrist many generations ago - all of the brothers in a family would marry one wife, and it wouldn't matter whose kid anyone was. Every child had a mom and multiple dads. It wasn't a religious or cult thing necessarily - many behaviors become tied to religion over time to increase the likelihood that they remain, but it was for population control. Up in the Himalayas, people can't really have a lot of kids/big families and sustain them. It was kind of weird for me to realize how opposite the cultural environment for polygyny here in the West is. With multiple working dads and a working mom, the kids never worried about food, shelter etc because there were always enough resources. Polygamy in the west really puts kids in tough situations. I don't think I could handle either since I was socialized in a monogamous society, but it's so interesting to learn about, especially with my family's history!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

That is so interesting! Thank you so much for sharing! =)

@Jenniferalvarez19818 2 года назад

Good morning Sam, Melissa and Amanda. Keep these collaborations coming please. I clicked on this video so fast when I saw it pop up. Thank you guys for everything you do and everything you share with us. Have a great weekend guys. Take care ☺️

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you soo much Jennifer! We wouldn't be where we are without you!

@Jenniferalvarez19818 2 года назад

@@GrowingUpinPolygamy thanks that’s sweet. You guys have a lot of people that love your channel as much as I do. Have a great week and take care.

@theroxygirl731 Год назад

I'm Catholic. It is customary for us to fast several days a year such as Good Friday, Ash Wednesday and no meat on Fridays. This was anyone 14 and up unless you had a medical condition.

@alishajoice8950 2 года назад

Love hearing the different perspectives.

@kateogden6907 2 года назад

Thank you! This was a great episode!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you for watching! =)

@idonttiptoe1519 2 года назад

I have been loving these collab videos! Thanks for putting them together.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Our pleasure!

@saraxhoney 2 года назад

Yayyy!! I have been watching for this video since Part 1. Each of your stories are so intriguing!! It's amazing that you can go through these things, and still turn out to be such a beautiful person!! ♡

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Aww thank you so much!

@mads597 2 года назад

I appreciate all three of you guys!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and stories.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thanks for watching!

@catalaya3530 2 года назад

I love these, I'll keep watching both of your channels no matter what, but I really like seeing the three of you together. So much insight and information to hear!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Aww thank you!

@monicasgh68 2 года назад

Great video. The 3 of you have great chemistry. I hope to see more collaborations with you guys in the future. I'm loving your hair Melissa!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you so much! =)

@Somebodysnoone553 2 года назад

I just love this collaboration! First off I hope you all have an amazing New Year! So proud of you all for being so brave! You are very inspiring! Sending love from Oklahoma!

@lisajustlisa2923 2 года назад

Absolutely love the three of you discussing similarities and differences between you! Another fantastic collab!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you so much!

@brooker3645 2 года назад

always love to see u three working together on a video!!!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Aww thanks!

@geekygardener1730 2 года назад

Thank y'all so much for the video!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you for watching!

@AlexandraG_ 2 года назад

Adore Amanda, great collaboration!! So fascinating, im so so happy for ya'll that you are out and happily living your lives. Thank you for being so open and sharing your stories!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you so much!

@blb2020 2 года назад

Loved this! Can’t wait for more great videos🤗

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you!

@dominiquecatanzariti3631 2 года назад

Enjoy seeing you guys together your videos are awesome look forward to seeing more videos Thankyou for sharing 💕

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thanks for watching!

@michellez13 2 года назад

Another awesome collab! Loving both of your channels.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you so much!

@brooketrout2014 2 года назад

I could go on and on forever about how much I love hearing about all three of y'alls experiences! Thank you so much for sharing all that you have, I know that it's not always easy to do so. On a lighter note, I do want to chime in and say that I grew up in the LDS church (have been out for almost 7 years now) in a small town in New Mexico (the town has some deep LDS pioneer history) and remember vividly that at our ward xmas parties all the kids would get oranges and peanuts! I'm sure that probably has more to do with wider generational Christmas traditions rather than any specific religious ones, but when I heard Amanda say that, I laughed out loud!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

That is so cool that you had that tradition as well! Thanks for sharing and for all the love and support! =)

@emmawood1232 2 года назад

Lovely to see the 3 of you together keep it up Hooe your all ok

@ElizaEbbyOlsen1313 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing Amanda's story :) I started following y'all on instagram!!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Awesome! Thank you!

@lilblessings4dhd952 2 года назад

I love this! All 3 of you should talk with Rachael Jeffs. It would be an interesting perspective on the Jeffs group

@brookhemping 2 года назад

So interesting. Thank you.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thanks for watching!

@carolw569 2 года назад

I enjoy listening. I like learning about other people's way of life. Thanks.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Our pleasure!

@Melinda_WA_US 2 года назад

Some gardeners use comfrey as a fertilizer for their garden. The pick a bunch of it and put it in a bucket, weigh it down, and fill the bucket with water. They let it sit for weeks then strain it and fertilize their plants. Also, some holistics make a salve with it. I don't know what types of ailments it is to "heal".

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

So interesting! Thanks for sharing!

@jendubay3782 2 года назад

That actually works with any plant, not just comfrey.

@brendahaire8824 2 года назад

Love you guys. Thank you for sharing

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thanks for watching!

@jillgott6567 2 года назад

WOW thank you for sharing

@kaylahall1219 2 года назад

Question everything until it makes sense. I love it!

@katlizski 2 года назад

Love these videos.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you!

@janesmith9024 2 года назад

Very interesting. Here in the UK I know comfrey for its ancient uses on the skin although my mother never used it. Wiki says " In 2001, the United States Food and Drug Administration issued a ban of comfrey products marketed for internal use, and a warning label for those intended for external use.[10][11] Comfrey is particularly contraindicated during pregnancy and lactation, in infants, and in people with liver, kidney, or vascular diseases". The most interesting question about the Order for me is about the marrying of cousins (which in one town in the UK 5% from that community - indian first cousin marriage - has caused 25% of the disabled children there) and uncles etc within the Order which seems very unwise if you want lots of healthy children.

@CarmelMc-ym6pr 2 года назад

Would love to see a reaction video from you all about the sister wives shows.

@gs-xx8uv Год назад

I can not imagine how much strength it would take for a young person, especially a woman. to leave one of those "cults". Those who have done so have all my respect.

@HughMadBro 2 года назад

This is the best audio I’ve heard from yalls channel thus far, can you maybe ask her which mic she uses???

@candicewiggins166 2 года назад

egg shells are full of minerals so it's not that crazy, if you clean them up and dry them out and feed them back to the chickens it helps strengthen the eggs and makes them even more nutritious.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

So interesting!

@jendubay3782 2 года назад

And it’s not bad for you at all, but you must make sure to grind them well

@NancyCronk 2 года назад

Thank you for the work you do in the world. As Amanda said in an earlier video, so many of the characteristics among religious fundamentalists from all faiths are similar, whether it is evangelical Christianity, FLDS, Islam, Judaism, etc. Extreme patriarchy is harmful, traumatic and very damaging for women and children... as well as the men who are not considered "worthy" by those in charge. Your viewers are a community of people who are interested in these topics because so many of us have experienced different amounts of some of these characteristics in our own lives and own faiths, or observed it in our families. My suggestion for future videos -- could you please address whether or not you are emotionally "triggered" when there is big news from other patriarchal fundamentalist cults? Even though I was not raised in a fundamentalist religious cult, my parents had a ton of religious guilt and some of my 8 sibs chose fundamentalist religions where I see these forms of oppression perpetuated. Yesterday, the Duggar story reactivated my built-up anger to the point where I wished we had a live on-line community to deal with collective healing together when these types of stories break. To all who visit here, I wish you peace and healing and love.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you so much for your kind words and insight. It means so much to us that our viewers know that they are not alone. I have put your suggestion on the list of videos we want to do, and I think it is a great topic to discuss. It can be hard to see the ones we love go through the same things we have already gone through ourselves. Thank you for spreading such positivity on our channel!

@themedicdroidx10 2 года назад

Wonderful job. Can't wait to see you do more together ❤️

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you!

@susanmoran692 2 года назад

Yes I grew up Catholic and fasting was done quite a bit. Ash Wednesday Good Friday also no meat on Fridays during lent

@roxannesykes415 2 года назад

The story of period starting n not being given information strikes a cord with me. Im 60 raised outside of religious sect i stil was given that information as also thought as young Amanda did.

@somethingsmatter 2 года назад

We live in Austria and the Tradition here too is that children get a bag with an orange and peanuts on St. Nikolaus Day ( December 6). I wonder if the founders of the order had German heritage?

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

We will have to ask Amanda! That is so interesting!

@amberyoung7219 2 года назад

That's interesting! I think its bc these fruits are harvested and readily available this time of year. I'm Methodist and grew up getting oranges and pecans here in the South. My mother was Nazarene and got the same things here in Alabama. We don't grow oranges but Florida does and we grow pecans. Utah is close to California and they've been citrus producers for a long time too. This is neat to have in common across continents and nations!

@amberyoung7219 2 года назад

Oh and I know we have German heritage mostly and just by looking at these three, they look very German esp Amanda. She is very beautiful as is Melissa!

@mrjones2721 2 года назад

Only three minutes in, and you've blown my mind twice: 1. Members of a family-centric, deeply conservative, the-father-rules-the-family group don't tell their own children who their fathers are and put their children on record as unacknowledged as well as (legally) illegitimate. 2. The kids of one mother don't always know about other mothers and their kids? Ah. THAT'S how they manage to marry half-siblings. The half-siblings don't count as closely related because they weren't raised as siblings. (Ick. Ick ick ick. Ick ick ick ick ick.)

@marquitaarmstrong399 2 года назад

Never knew that went on in LDS!

@candygram4435 2 года назад

So interesting in a totally messed up way

@lizzywoods757 2 года назад

The orange gift at Christmas was a throwback to pagan times where the orange represented the sun at winter solstice to signal the start of the light returning. Apples represented the moon. Peanuts erm…

@LifeofSparklyPopsicle Год назад

Love Amanda!

@panda5122 2 года назад

It sounds like personal revelation forces people to really think about whether the gf/bf is THE ONE. Sometimes someone is great on paper but when you step back you realize they're not the one for you. Many people go into marriage because the person appears to check the right boxes and they ignore their inner voice telling them not to.

@susanmagalas3074 2 года назад

I think one of the saddest things about cult religions is the pairing up of people who have no idea of who they are and are often waaaay too young to even understand what a relationship entails. Before they know it they have babies and then are stuck in an unhappy situation of someone else's making. Which of course is exactly what the cult wants. People who are trapped into staying for fear of losing their children or other family members. It is and always has been about fear and control - and, like the Kingston clan - predominantly about money!

@zon3665 2 года назад

There's a great book by an LDS author that shows that there's perfect harmony between the prophetic statements concerning the garden of Eden being in Missouri and the Old Testament account concerning the garden of Eden. It's called Canaan, Babylon, and Egypt A Comparative Theological Analysis on Creation sold by Eborn Books.

@ANNEWHETSTONE 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing!! Conservative Mennonites also do not talk about sex and reproduction. I heard of a young couple that didn't know how she could be pregnant. I had no idea until i had to take a sex education in college. I was 28 years old. Living in a Mennonite town the parents controlled what was taught even in the public school

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Soo interesting!

@michellesunshinestar 2 года назад

I was never shown the family budget. So, I didn't know we were spending too much on groceries. We probably would have qualified for food pantry/food stamps? I qualify for food stamps and pantry visits. It was weird, I was forced off food stamps for like 7 years? Because of the pandemic I was able to go back on food stamps, I save my card, and was able to reactivate it. They are putting more money into the program.

@peacefulguitar38 2 года назад

I love you three together!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Thank you!

@Mekaleeto_Worldwide 2 года назад

@9:40, so tell us about the weird stuff....lol

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Hahaha =)

@michellesunshinestar 2 года назад

Okay so I have this story. This couple was coming back from the DC temple, and was in a car crash together. They ended up getting married. *And then this couple that were so close to each other, the girl was forced to serve a mission, and the guy ended up marrying somebody else.

@Prairie_Gypsy 2 года назад

Oranges, peanuts and chocolates are pretty common in every church, every community.

@mcmoto5424 2 года назад

So I know my experience doesn't compare to the extremities of all of yours for starters. But I grew up Catholic and although I haven't been religious in probably 15 years I still struggle with the religious teachings of my youth. But I really respect all of your perspectives and wish I could talk one on one with any one of you especially because we're all about the same age. You'll probably never read this, but if so, I'd really appreciate the opportunity to have a chat.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Hey McMoto! We'd love to chat. Please email us at growingupinpolygamy@gmail.com We'll respond as soon as possible. We look forward to hearing from you.

@melissacoviello2886 2 года назад

So Amanda’s half siblings are also her cousins because the first wife is her aunt (moms sister) and the third wife is her aunt (dads sister).

@Autumn1988 Год назад

Technically wife 1s children are her 1/2 siblings and full cousins; wife 3s are her 1/2 siblings and 1/2 cousins (I think)

@maryrowery80 Год назад

Do you have a video about intimate/sex life in polygamous marriages?

@mapletango 2 года назад

Your church had peanuts and oranges at Christmas too?! Ours did but it was a German thing, they called them toot bags.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

That is so cool!

@miss1of2 2 года назад

Studies have shown that the body assimilates well calcium for egg shells, so yes it was very good for your teeth and bones.

@mrjones2721 2 года назад

I have a question that you've probably answered before, but I haven't found it, so please excuse me if this is a repeat... How did they explain the math behind every worthy man having three-plus wives? Every extra wife a man marries leaves another man with no wife at all, but there doesn't seem to be a place in this society for men who don't plan to ever marry. Where were the extra women supposed to come from? Or was there an expectation that a lot of men would be found unworthy and run out? I know that in practice, young men leave the order at higher rates than women, either voluntarily or because they're forced out. It doesn't seem to me that people would be upfront about that, though. What was the Order's explanation?

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

I'll put this on the list of questions to ask Amanda next time!

@mrjones2721 2 года назад

@@GrowingUpinPolygamy Thank you!

@TheFrancoPhiler 2 года назад

Something festers in the heart of Utah……..

@vickyrun8796 2 года назад

I notice in other videos that Amanda refers to her group as a cult and you-Sam refer to the Flds as a religion. Why? Do you not believe it is a cult?

@jaymielee1110 2 года назад

Im guessing its to be respectful. Calling your own family and friends as a cult is not too kind. But everyone sees things differently. Noticed also on youtube people pick on Christians and always say there in cults. They never pick on other religions though. Funny.

@jendubay3782 2 года назад

@@jaymielee1110 “picks on” riiiight

@lenabruto2860 2 месяца назад

I still belive I done somethings wrong, spec now with my third cancer. I am afraid of dying cuz of burning in hell isnt fun..I got out of church when I was 13 , mow I am 72.. I wish I could be a Christian again

@lisatakeitorleaveit 2 года назад

Have you guys seen the documentary keep sweet?

@jaymielee1110 2 года назад

Is it good

@lisatakeitorleaveit 2 года назад

@@jaymielee1110 it’s an kind interesting point of view - I would watch it. It really shows the perspective of not only the people who left but the people who remain which I think is very respectful. It also shows the difference of what the community was like before Warren Jeffs and after Warren Jeffs.

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

We haven't, but we want to!

@leahanne7288 2 года назад

Ironically, the 144k in the bible (Revelation 14) says that they will be men, and VIRGINS. So the whole "3 wives to get into the kingdom" thing is kinda comical. I don't believe that 144k is the number for believers who will be "saved". Also it would mean that having s*x AT ALL ruins your chances of salvation, where the bible also says "be fruitful and multiply" with your spouse... Context is everything lol!

@GrowingUpinPolygamy 2 года назад

Great points!

@anime-dr4kf 2 года назад

I think it also said that those men would be Jewish as well.

@schrecksekunde2118 Год назад

eating eggshells doesn't do anything positive for your body as you can't just digest calcium and transform that into better teeth. BUT they are pretty sharp and can cause horrible damage to your intestines if one bit punctured them. effect would be internal bleeding with no way to stop it or find it in time - you don't see blood on x-rays and the intestines are very long so looking for a small cut that leaks intestines fluid (!!!) isn't an option. i don't want to imagine the pain, think of digesting your own organs 😬

@schrecksekunde2118 Год назад

I'd like to add that it's really a game of chance. it you're sick or getting older the chance skyrockets and I'd really recommend to stop doing it if someone has picked that as a hobby. get some chips or nuts or seeds. just don't eat stuff that can be used to cut meat.

@Volleyball_Chess_and_Geoguessr 2 года назад

An elderly Amish woman recently told me that she had a dream about her future husband and that's why they got together.

@marquitaarmstrong399 2 года назад

Oh boy!

@marquitaarmstrong399 2 года назад

Were the Alreds in this group or is that another?

@marquitaarmstrong399 2 года назад

The stork brings them.

@Agenda21Truth1 Год назад

Comfrey is good for the skin, soap-makers put it in soap.

@elizabethbeus 2 года назад

A Bishop is ordained, therefore he is still a "Bishop" even though he is not a steward over a ward. A stake President is "set apart", therefore he is temporary.

@TonyG101 11 месяцев назад

We eat egg shells lol.

@kathy2929 2 года назад

How sad about not knowing how yo get pregnant.

@mp7140 9 месяцев назад

One thing is for shore. The numbered guys after what thay do will not and up in heaven 😂

@NeonIn3D 2 года назад

Is that Telltale?

@abird1539 2 года назад

Those numbers... the 144,000 who "will go to heaven": Once I learned that belief of theirs, both mormon sect and jehova witness, I'd stop the 'missionary' and ask: "So are YOU positive that you are one of them? You're SURE you're going to heaven?" And they ALL stammer at this, ""Well ...all I have to do is...( and begin listing all they have yet to do' to be considered) to hopefully go. I look them in the eyes and ask, "So then you want to take me to hell with?" They start backing up, "No no no not that..." and get away as fast as they can.

@user-ui7mi1lj6f 2 года назад

Comfrey is aka bone knit. It's an amazing herb topically but shouldn't be taken internally as it can cause liver failure.

@chuckeelhart1746 8 месяцев назад

Just curious. Are you all atheists now or did you move to a different branch of christianity?

@yawn8962 2 года назад

I’m LDS. Not FLDS. You keep saying LDS then FLDS. I don’t believe you are explaining LDS correctly. I can do whatever and marry whoever. Nobody has a say 🤷‍♀️. Strange to think we all come from the first guideline of the church.

@marquitaarmstrong399 2 года назад

No sense whatsoever.

@marquitaarmstrong399 2 года назад

But wasn't the 144,000 the Jews who converted to Christianity? I mean read The Bible!!!!