An Autistic Man who will Always Need Support and his Loving Parents 

You have a beautiful family and you are clearly wonderful parents. I can feel the love just from this video ❤

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I had so much fun with your family!

You have a beautiful family! Everyone put a huge smile on my face! ❤

Thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us. Nothing makes me happier than to see children well loved (even grown children!)

Dang it must be so hard for them to think about when they are gone

GOD always knows what HE is doing, even if we don't understand it!!

@@neuronomadsgroupcruisingnow what does that have to do with anything

my dad become a vegan and quit drinking to care for brother up until he passed. a parents love 🤍

AMEN❤

Thank you❤

@@Irisa_Dariusyoure a wonderful parent

LMAO!!!! SOOOOOO TRUE!!!!

LOVE THIS COMMENT

Yup

Lmfao

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Omg! You're right about the harmonica and humming being complimentary a completing a chord. That's soo intriguing. He's definitely got a great musicality. As soon as he hears Chris humming his note he just picks it up immediately... And that slow vibrato he does. The first thing I thought when I heard him hum a just a few times was that he can sing... That he definitely was blessed with a voice. I nanny a 6yo who is soooo similar to Darius and sometimes hums as a form of stimming. Hers is such a groan and not nearly as melodic compared to his. Hers really comes on most often when she is irritated. I wonder, as someone with a child dev/psychology/education background and also musical w/ an incredibly gifted musician for a husband... I'd be willing to bet that if there was a way to really figure it out, that his humming is a happy, positive, excited stim because of his natural ability.. Like when he hums he can hear how he connects to someone or into the world like a puzzle peice and it makes sense to him. Even if he doesn't "understand" persay... Sounds that are pleasing make people happy. When she is upset she grinds her teeth in the absolute harshest, squeakiest way ever. Is that grating sound a reflection of the anxiety. Sorry this became a response that is more just me thinking out loud than anything else. Mainly, I am intrigued by what you pointed out but it triggered some thoughts on autism and stimming

You just took me back to theory my friend. I thought I had forgotten all of that. ❤ thank u!

When he hums it’s likened to the OM chant.

​@@creamfiend84I feel he is stimulating his vagus nerve to calm his nervous system. I intuitively started doing the mmmmm part of OM when I had a migraine(I get cluster migraines) I then came across information re stimulating the vagus nerve for pain relief. I do this all the time when I get a migraine now or experience pain (it works during fevers as well) There is much information about heavy metals linked to autism, heavy metals cause inflammation and stimulating the vagus nerve reduces inflammation. I have found detoxing with zeolite to be very helpful and has reduced my systemic inflammation, chemical and light sensitivity. My cousins 3 yo who could only speak one word sentences, with his own rolling sounds language wrapped around single words. Within 2 weeks of using TRS (which is based on zeolite) he was speaking full sentences. She got onto TRS through a friend that had a similar experience with her child. So many people have had massive improvements using TRS or zeolite to detox from heavy metals.

Bruh.... cmon.

She seems so genuinely happy and loving when playing with Darius. She understands him, regardless of his nonverbal traits. She and her husband-- these kinds of people are the salt of the earth. 💕

She was my professor for algebra. She was genuinely such an amazing professor.

This woman is amazing!! ❤ Thank you God for never doing mistake. Thank you Mamy for being you.

She's absolutely beautiful

@@anja7994 I just wanted to say I'm going through something very difficult, and when I see you praise God for never making a mistake, it makes me realize that everything I'm going through is for a reason. Thank you!!!

Darius’ parents seem like wonderful people. I bet family get togethers are really fun.

Same! I say we all move into their home and have a mega lovefest.

She’s the goat!

@@globalwarmhugs7741 Yeaahh! Let's do it! 👍🏻

😂

That’s so true that autistic and disabled able people are still quite innocent and untainted by the world that definitely is so beautiful

@@asiamwithraenetteleepodcastim autistic and decidedly not innocent..

@@lurji good for you

I’m ASD and disabled as well and I’m tainted by the World and not innocent, Hun. Darius, bless His heart is LFA which is why he is so innocent, untainted and loving.

Same

Ikr 💚 it was beautiful

She's beautiful❤❤❤

Thats a parents love. There is nothing more beautiful

No matter how the kid is their parents always love them

😊😊

True!

Same he makes me so happy 😊

And the way he kinda starts squinting his eye whenever it’s out of tune.

SO TRUE! i was thinking exactly the same

I thought the same - his stimming is just making music.

Truly. It is a fascinating disorder

I dont think its okay to treat it as a boon my ma's friend had a very autistic child who had to get sent to a facility because he wouldn't stop beating her when he got mad

@@djrelentle2027 Even the low functioning ones still understand some things. They're still people.

@@djrelentle2027 Even so, that doesn't mean you should treat them like they're not people.

@@djrelentle2027 Be quiet please.

His laughter makes me feel warm and can't stop smiling. 🥰 I hope you had a great day!

Moms are the best thing in the world. I feel so sorry for everyone who doesnt have a loving mom close by

Me too! I'm so grateful for this video! My daughter is 6 and non-speaking, so this video gives me a little glimpse into ways that my daughter may act when she's older. 😃 His smiles and energy remind me of hers! His mom and his dad are amazing and lovely people.

Absolutely agree!

I have a 16 yr old non-verbal autistic son 💚

I agree 😊

I think the word you’re searching is contagious 😅

I know. I love it.

YES YES YES ❤❤❤❤ You’re so right 😊

that could be applied to literally anyone but for sure.

​@@not-the-bodyno, it can't. The world is set up for you, a neurotypical. You'll never understand us. That's ok but it's very true.

THISSS

Darius is amazing! Thanks for sharing ❤

Amen they both ❤️❤️

Absolutely. I love how he accepts Darius as he is.

Amen, agreed, they’re both amazing

Love to you and yours and Darius, too. Sensory processing issues are extremely common among all humans, not just those with disabilities. We all need certain kinds of stimulation to help us regulate ourselves in the world and establish appropriate social behavior. Whatever that is? I loved when his mom said Darius likes to grab and get more. I love you, Darius, and your family. I, too, want to grab and get more. I love you and your family and the heart you share.

She’s actually a professor witch definitely makes sense

she’s got enough on her plate

I know it's a compliment but she's busy already

I had a son who was greatly disabled ...it wasn't autism. But any parent who has a child who will always need assistance in life, worries about who will take care of them if & when they're not here. Just a fact.

I agree 👍🏻

Not to mention that it's a heavily compassionate thing to do. I find caring for oneself is a huge effort, and to do such a thing for someone else requires great compassion. :)

@@leslieh761 i knew a few personally who took things day by day. In a bad scanario I don’t know what would happen plus they didn’t save any money. Also, It’s surprising how few sbsk videos even mention post parental care plans.

I don't have autism but I do have ADHD and have taken up stimming as a way to manage my day to day anxiety and stress. It's helped immensely. As a child I masked my symptoms too much to allow myself to stim, but making autistic friends and learning more about the autism spectrum has helped me in big ways to manage my own disability.

I hadnt heard about stimming before and looked it up at wiki. As a chronic nailbiter it was interesting to read about

I don’t stim much but when I do it feels like a build up of energy and I feel kinda breathless until I like make a noise or shake it out - it’s really strange lol

I never knew what it was before but have found it helpful in relieving asthma attacks.

Never quite considered it a stim but I am a habitual nail picker ... and sometimes a finger-twiddler where I'd think of a phrase and tap it out from thumb to pinky until it ended on the pinky ...' yeah that's pretty specific and odd, LOL, and something similar with my shoulders I quickly got out of the habbit because it was too noticeable. Not autistic, not ADHD (that I know of), but it's funny what little body movements and things people might do

Omg! I have tried to figure out what this documentary is for so long! I couldn’t remember what was said, but just recalled it was beautiful. If you know or remember the name of it please please let me know.

I believe it was called the teachings of John :)

@@chaneykane3828 thank you kindly for responding! ;)

Yes indeed 🙏🏾

It was DEEP🙏💕.. GOD IS GREAT...

YES!! THIS!!! I am focusing on my health this year because my Autisitc son is EXTREMELY active and as his mom, I know he will always have speed over me [as he likes to elope...not as much] so I need to be fit [not for IG but for him]. I loved his hmming; my son loves music, humming and singing etc.

We don't want to leave them behind. Who will love them like we do. His father is a wonderful example.

Yeah he seemed kind of annoyed by Darius at some points

I can relate, i am 44 and my son is 5, non verbal and the sweetest personality. He will likely need a lot of support his whole life and it terrifies me to think about who will take care of him when I and his mother are gone.

Yes, it is nice to watch them enjoying each other. I also liked when the mom asked the dad to go check on Darius in the bathroom, such natural good communication. I don't know why it impressed me so much. I guess I have just seen so much bad communication or lack of communication that it is surprising now to see anyone do it right.

My reality .. I pray to God everyday abt this

I cant tell you how much I love this ❤💕

It’s not something I see often, but it’s really sweet and seems to help the connection

I'd love to hang out with him too! I love when he laughs. Made me laugh too.

Bro was laughing at his face 😭

Dude this is such a beautiful comment it made me cry.

It actually makes my tears tingle

This hit deep. It is like his life song. They should record it and jam to it. I know I was...

Yes, I agree!❤

That’s pretty freakin awesome dude. Rock on. ☮️💟

@@dolan6906 Pretty sure it's a girl though, judging by the name "Charlotte" on their profile. So that would mean she's a lesbian. Which that still is adorable

@@marley606 I use dude as gender neutral, so honestly it swings either way. 👍👍

@@dolan6906 Yeah ik that dude typically is neutral . Though I still find "bro" or "dude" sounds weird when talking about a woman. It's just im so used to hearing it be referred with guys lol.

It sounds like Darius is meditating. I'm Autistic and I don't think I stim so maybe I'm wrong but I feel like Darius is on a different plane, so to speak, when he's doing that stim. Does stimming feel meditative? Do you realize what you're doing when you stim? Is it self-soothing?

Yes!! He's SUPER delightful and mischievous! I laughed every time he did!

My Lord my son works with people like him ❤❤❤❤

They also have a RU-vid channel their name is on the pinned comment. I know I just subscribed to them.

He brightens my day every day on tik tok. My daughter got me a cameo of him and his mom telling me happy bday. Best bday present ever!

Yeah the mom seemed like she was trying to make it seem like it is all okay but I know deep down she’s stressed but I know she loves her son and is doing a good job with coping

@parkerwoodall9125 Rice tomorrow

@@cindyl760well of course she’s stressed. She’s doing what she has to do to get by. It isn’t easy.

@@cindyl760what u want her to be depressed

She's realistic too, just the way she is. She just seems high energy.

Weirdly a relief to know I'm not alone, my twin brother also has the same type of autism as Darius. :) You dont hear a lot about twins in this situation, sending you guys my love!

@@mouseboy420I’d question why I’m here everyday if I had a twin who was blessed with good health and a normal life and I wasn’t.

@@1stunna91 Thank you for the depressing thought

@@mouseboy420the person needs to be educated in the matter.

@@1stunna91 that’s the gift that children with Autism have, they don’t know any different. They try to make the best of everything, as much as they can. They do need a lot of help but it shows the world that we should have more compassion

My family has been following this beautiful journey for years. A few of these strong families have lost their angels, and we always send out love. I'm a caregiver to people with extra support requirements, and I love that Chris and his dedicated team are spreading understanding and helpful information.

Me too, Angie. I am sending you big hugs xo

Love to you and your daughter. My only advice to you is to plan now. Talk to adult service providers and find out what skills she will need to have for the most decent programs, and get on it. This is not your fault or doing. It's not your daughter's fault or doing. You can't die or be unwell until you take care of her future. Plan now. Her transitions must be seamless. They will be horrific enough without her mom and best friend. Kove you.

hits me home too, i have a 14 y/o cousin thats autistic, so me, my brothers, and my other cousins are starting to talk about his future since we all know our parents wont stay on this earth forever

Hugs 💕

wish you the best angie

He seems to have quite good pitch! When he stims he continuously matches the same pitch over and over

Reminds me of Kodi Lee from the tv show AGT so he may do well singing or even playing an instrument ( like his harmonica if he took lessons). When they do something musically, they seem to be the happy.

I was wondering the same thing. I bet he has a great voice.

someone made a beat out of his stims and it went viral on tiktok… it slaps tbh ❤

I noticed that, and he plays the harmonica pretty well. He might even have perfect pitch.

Too much korean lawyers on tv... makes People forget the level hard asd

Fr. Lotta people just associate autism with the kids and forget that autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults who might not be able to live like a normal adult and might need extra help. That’s not always the case though.

Autistic adults get erased way way too often unless we are fictional supergeniuses or billionaires.

This is so cute I love it 🥰

This is literally my sister 😂😂😂RICE RICE RICE😂😂😂

cute! god bless

My heart is melting reading this thats beautiful

That’s truly a connection that people with non autistic kids wish they had u can be a proud of urself as a parent

Me too. I have two kids with non-verbal autism. It terrifies me. Too many bad people in this world.. gives me a panic attack. Just take care of yourself. Walk a lot out in nature, eat lots of plant based food, drink only water and tea, limit stress, no smoking/drinking. You want to make sure you live as long as possible for your little boy. God Bless the both of you and I pray he is capable of becoming independent one day. Look into prebiotics, probiotics, juiced cilantro, wheatgrass, mushroom powder, charcoal, etc. Find ways to detox. It's hard when they are picky (like mine). Good luck.

Lots of strength to you ladies. Everything will be fine

everything is working out how it should ❤️

If it makes you feel better my mom worried about how my life/future would be because I was non verbal when I was little. I’m 24 years old working full time and talk nonstop 😅

Me too, my son is 10 and non verbal and he owns my heart. I'm terrified what will happen to him when my husband and me pass away.

I'm so sorry for your loss, may God bless him ❤ and God bless you too💕

Thank you beautiful. I know that he is in heaven with our parents talking up a storm. God bless

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I'm sorry for your loss. This comment hit me differently. At times, it can feel like a burden. But the truth is we couldn't be without the ones we love, and caring for someone with autism somehow becomes our calling and our blessing. We feel glued to the process, and we want the best for the ones we love.

Fr

Me toooo

I'm in this situation too with two children w special needs

My 18 year old daughter was diagnosed with Autism this past summer,she also has a learning disability,she is very bright and will be attending college in the fall as she wants to be a history teacher,she can tell you everything about History and is also a science nerd,she holds a job and lives life to the best of her ability😊

This. My fiance as well ❤️❤️ keep being awesome.

I believe 100%what you just said. Much love special someone ❤

Exactly, most autistic people excel in geek careers like tech and creative sector

Wonderful amazing parents ! Love and support you have for your son. Is a plus. I wish y’all the bed. Blessing !

ikr her good energy radiates from her

Agreed. She makes me happy.

Darius's mother is incredible! She is a fantastic mother.

As an autistic person who does acid, its not similar at all lol. You feel a little tingly all over, thoughts are mostly coherent but forming sentences is hard (which I guess is the only parallel but it doesn't feel the same), and you see different colours overlayed on everything, as well as the outlines of objects and things like text and images moving. Sometimes people's imagination runs away with them which is when you get intense trips where they invent worlds and scenarios, but I've never had that, maybe bc of my autism as I don't have much imagination at all In fact I've done quite a few drugs and all of them tend to make my traits easier to deal with. Sometimes the traits are actually slightly lessened, but like 95% of the time it's a lot more like it's easier for me to cope with stuff than the thing not being difficult to begin with Anyway so yeah it doesn't exacerbate my traits and I've never heard of someone tripping and finding things too loud or being unable to be social (in fact, if I'm with a few specific friends, acid tends to make me ramble on about like anything and everything, makes me super chatty but all my speech is slurred haha. And it's not like I'm thinking about the words at that point they just kinda happen). It's when I'm with anyone else that I end up just talking to them in my head cos the thoughts are there but the words just can't come out properly, if I try in that scenario I just end up making incoherent sounds

My 3yr old gets ELATED when I’m able to match a stim he favors/is doing at a regulated time. ❤

Same and I’m 20 going to be 21 next year I’m not intellectually impaired however

Yes his voice is very full as well, easy to listen to

Yes, I agree!

thats the mom

​@@BabyDollNaiiyes!

Irisa is the best. She spends 100% of her time advocating for not only Darius, but other children and adults just like him. He is so blessed to have parents like his. ❤️

Baby too

Amazing. I was thinking what a symphony he must have in his head!

Yeah he’s a genius.

@@blicced7017 No, this person is simply describing the physics of the sounds that Darius makes. There's nothing to "reach" for, this is how the science of sound waves works.

​@@tentativebababoey1796 It does not mean that you're neurodivergent that you are a genius .

@@Odd-Vegan-Singing-TFOL Darius is a genius. It is an objective truth

I see you and I relate very much, thanks for your comment ❤

Stimming is beautiful ❤❤

Hang in there sister things will get better. ❤From one ASD momma to another.

🙏🏾🙏🏾❤ my little one began aba therapy this week and I understand you want the best for them and to set them up for success. Hang in there

@@kimberlystephens3798 thank you 💜 I appreciate it.

@@kcourtney6826 thank you and yes I do very much 💜

i’m autistic and my mom would never talk about me like that. being a mother is hard, not having an autistic kid

I'm sure they don't mean to be patronizing. It's normal, as a parent, to attempt to understand what your child is thinking. But it's also fine to admit you don't know.

This!!!

yea i have autism and that was always what my mom would do great to see a mother who can handle that better

Yes! He’s very musically inclined and seemed to have an ability to match pitch. And him on the harmonica sounded so good!

That's exactly what I was thinking

I love this comment. We forget how much we mask in everyday life to ‘fit in’ socially (I have ADHD and anxiety and mask a lot I think). Thank you for this, it’s really made me think ❤

yup, all people stim. ofc it’s a little different for nd folks but stimming should be embraced and normalized

Yes I feel like hymns have a stimming effect. Vagus nerve stimulation perhaps

My baby has just turned 4 and we are in the process of getting his diagnosis. I feel so blessed even though it’s really difficult at times xx

@@kelseyfraser9654 absolutely. You said it perfectly !

He is very good with music

He has a keyboard and plays around with a few beat making apps. He is music in action!

@@sadethomas6822 music in action gives a totally different meaning to m.i.a.❤❤❤

@@sadethomas6822 May sound silly but if he hasn't seen videos of native African tribes people singing together he needs to. I think he sings like they do. Love your families smiles.

For real a lot of people don’t know how therapeutic music can be.