I feel like you should start a podcast, you’re sooo good at sit down talks and it sure helps a lot viewing the things from someone elses perspective, cuz really we all go through almost the same phases in life. So thank you for opening up and can’t wait for the next one 💕
Many of Freesia's comments in the video are so relatable; it truly goes to show we are all more alike than different. Sometimes being on dating apps like Hinge can make you feel like you are the only one feeling certain ways, but after all, we all experience similar insecurity, doubts, questions, etc.
Loved your answers, Freesia! With your last answer, how do you change who you attract? I find myself always attracting people I'm not interested in, and the people I'm in interested in are not interested in me back. I want to change this somehow but I don't know how.
I don’t think that holy grail answer exists in the world or we’d all take that love potion and find our mate already. However, I do think how we project ourselves externally, our mindset internally, and having faith in the process and giving it our best shot makes a difference. I’m still single but I’ve been surprised at the kind of men I attract and almost always they say it’s my personality, my vibe, my demeanor. I don’t always attract the men I want, or we’ll go on a first date and I like them but they’re not feeling it. So, in that regards, it’s likely a numbers game. Keep trying and we’ll find that match. Everyone up to this point just weren’t it. It’s vague but I definitely believe our energy has a lot to do with our outcomes and our happy place is the crossroads between “making things happen” and “having faith in our destinies”. In short, keep trying, keep making those opportunities for yourself to meet or date the kind of men you want, don’t be afraid to initiate contact, but also be open to fate and chance and giving room for things to fall into your lap. And, most importantly, stay positive and confident you will find your person! The only people with zero chance are the ones who have a negative attitude, don’t try, and aren’t open to the opportunities available to them. The rest of us have a shot. But hopefully my partner comes to me this year! Lol.
PS. I should caveat that I did attract men I liked who liked me back, but due to their own ambitions (I like ambitious men), they were too busy to sustain a dating relationship so we naturally just drifted apart. Goddamnit, so close! I’m still on speaking terms with one of them but I’m not expecting anything from it because unless he quits his job, he’s married to his work. So, no bueno.
your videos never fail to entertain AND educate me 🤍also we appreciate the uploads this week 👀👀consistent freesia consistent freesia,, I can watch u for hours but I can’t imagine how hard it is to post longer videos but whatever it is we appreciate very muchhh goodnight freesiaaaa
You been one of my favorite youtubers recently! I really enjoy the angle you approach/look at things. Literal breath of fresh air! More vids when your not busy plsss :)
Would love a video on how to focus on yourself! I need to do self work and not think about dating :( also what are some of the habits you’re trying to avoid but surface?
Freesia - girl why haven’t I found you sooner this vid is so relatable and I feel like we’re friends in real life LOL currently binge watching your vids 😂😂💕
Interesting answers and wish you great luck finding that other person, which is always scary. I think you'll find that person and they'll be the lucky one.
In my experience, friends with benefits only works if you don’t have any expectations of a relationship resulting from it. And, ideally, not someone you’ll grow in fondness or attachment towards. It’s really best for someone you are just friendly with, who you trust and respect and find attractive, but with whom you can easily part ways with. And it’s best for a short period of time as it can distract you from finding a long term partner. That’s just me. In my experience, half of these FWB arrangements just sort of end and dissipate on good terms but we don’t stay in touch. The other half we end on good terms, we do develop an actual friendship (not close friends but definitely friends), and stay loosely in touch. I learned from my first experience because my heart was gutted. I was also young and naive and didn’t know what I was getting into. It wasn’t on equal footing and it wasn’t fair to me.
As someone who tried the whole "friends with benefits" with my ex, I was hoping that we would end up together. And although we did end up getting back together if I could go back and change it - I would not do FWB at all. It just led to a lot of hurt and heartache all over again. And I don't recommend it at all. Thank you Freesia for these videos!!! You a real one 🔥🔥🔥🔥
FWB only works if two people want to engage in casual sex but who are mutually attracted to one another, respect one another, and the relationship is on equal footing. Otherwise, yeah, as you said, it’s a whole lotta headache and heartache. No bueno.
The issue of "baggage" bothers me a lot in the profile of men too. Like, the guy writes "if you have a tattoo, press x" What is this for? If you see the girl's picture and she has a tattoo, press x! No need to make a list of things you don't like about a girl
Great video! i just learned that I'm the anxious attachment style.. I remember in one of your past video you mentioned how self sabotaging is more like ego protecting.. and i relate to that so much... I scare myself out of relationships.. But I also feel that if someone is truly compatible and a good match, then I won't feel the need to ego protect as much.. bc I feel more "secure" and "safe" in the relationship. Would you agree? Can you do a video about being vulnerable?
Thank you for this!💕 I agree with the dating for experience but for me, it's hard to invest in a relationship if I don't see some kind of future with them, that's why a lot of my 1st dates don't go anywhere 🥺
appreciate and respect ur stuff! found you thru david so/genius brain, which I've been following for a long time. but as much as i love the wisdom you share but sometimes, as i guy, i wish there were younger asian american guys in this space too that do similar things as you in terms of just talking, sharing, reflection, etc...do you have any recommendations?
Great advices, especially cutting off exes completely. Have you ever had an ex who tried to break up your next relationship probably because 1. He sees that you're happy without him. 2. He regrets treating you like 💩 when you dated him. #ByeFelipe! No, not happening.
I could see why you would interpret it that way! Avoidant styles don't have the desire to be affectionate to begin with, but based on the way she framed her question, the girl who asked seems like she really wants to show affection - she's just too afraid to which is a major indicator for anxious attachment. I can SO relate. 🥴
@@freesiapark Ahh! Thanks for clarifying and replying to my comment! : ) As a fellow anxiously attached person i also (unfortunately) can relate hahaha
Honestly a lot of the girls I've matched with on Hinge seems to only want to have fun and not be committed to a guy when he's still in his building phase. Funny you bring it up because I think girls may be pickier on who they date, but guys are definitely pickier on who they'd marry. Love is something you build together, not an opportunity to move in on when the guy's finished building.
It’s rare to find a girl who’s going to want to be pursued with minimal effort. If you’re really building or working on yourself, then how are you going to give enough time to yourself, your work, your passions and her? You might as well just focus on yourself and when you’re satisfied you’ll have enough time to devote more of your attention to pursuing the girl you like.
