Yes. But… the mentally submission to your boyfriend can also be misused. I experienced this in my own relationship. There was later no love feelings anymore from him, only to satisfy his dominance feelings and to hurt me in my soul.
9:45 - 10:30 YOU NAILED IT! I moved to the gay community five years ago with the best intentions of living openly and authentically, making new friends, and perhaps meeting someone special. The reality is that it can be unfriendly, dismissive, and beyond cliquey. I stopped going out after a while and can honestly say that straight men treat me with more dignity. At 54, I crave friendship and connection the most. Does this mean I'll move? NO. I love the openness and diversity. I love that LGBTQ+ people can walk anywhere here and hold hands and kiss. Add the stunning natural beauty of my town on top of that and I'm still sold. As for these challenges, I'm hoping to work around them with time and keep the door open. Thank you so much, Travis, for the great content!
I have always loved Travis from the very beginning he is so loving and lovable and kind and always exciting to watch him and Jeff have a great time together and enjoy the bromance with Jeff ❤
So I’m a gay man and my two best friends are straight…both married and they were part of my wedding to my husband and I was part of their weddings to their wives. I just want to say that of all the videos out there that try to deal with subjects this is the best. I found it respectful and honest and it meant so much to see the closeness you share.
Travis, I like the way you explained your blend of masculinity and femininity. I’ve only met one person who has that perfect blend. It truly is beautiful seeing it in person. #stayin true to self
TRAVIS - you have such a great insight and a very confident/educated/informative way of presenting yourself -- and answering these questions - BRAVO and Kudos to you .
This was very educational for all straight and gay men to watch! It's great when we can have an open dialogue to better understand each other. Thanks for sharing !!!
As a gay man who has been out since before Stonewall, I have really enjoyed this because what you feel free to talk about and how you talk about it tells me that our culture is still growing and moving.
Sometimes I feel really embarrassed being gay!! Like you mentioned our community can be very judgmental, condescending, and rude!! As someone else mentioned, it is sad!! This video was well done, Travis!! ❤
Travis, I've listened to a lot of your wisdom for a long time. You are one smart cookie 🍪! You make me want to be a gay , young, handsome, versatile man. Being rich would be nice too.
In black america that was called code-switching. The different modes (a lot of) black folks would employ depending who they're talking to. The fact that almost never comes up in films/shows is one way you know they don't have black writers. lol
This is top tier content. Real answers and real queerbaiting. 😂 In a way I actually don't mind! It's adorable seeing what close friends they are that they can be silly and mess around yet so authentic for us with real questions we really appreciate the answers to!
Just saying that there are a few of us who don’t have numerous intimate encounters. Me personally I’ve only had 2 and I’m 24. The stereotypes never have applied to me. But I agree with you on what’s commonly known. And some of us are more feminine while also confident in the fact that we are men. I personally don’t desire to change that fact
I have been judged as being a different gay. Like I’m not the type that screams gay. I’m not overly masculine but not feminine either. So I hardly get approached by other gays. Even back when I wanted to be approached. The gay community can be some complexed at time lol.
@sifilore - There are some with Travis and Reno, both on here and elsewhere.😉 Look back a year or more ago on Mario Adrion’s YT channel for a vid called “Real Talk with Reno Gold and Travis Bryant... “. As for “elsewhere”, that one of Reno with Travis is on Travis’s page.
I just happened upon this. It addresses some interesting topics. Its absolutely true that the gay subculture has a very long way to go, if it expects to be taken seriously about not bullying, being inclusive and being empathetic towards people's differences. Try being gay, and not conforming to the preferred body images, lauded and celebrated by gay subculture. You can be shallow, or petty, or mean, or controling or clicquish, but you dare not be overweight!
6:43 hit so hard! I can relate to it all. I am more “masculine” vs when I was younger. 9:51 straights and Bi’s are more accepting of me, while the gay guys aren’t. One guy I was talking to said I wasn’t gay enough. It had me going “what in the actual 🤬uck!” 😂🤣😭 but I get it I guess/I think 🤷♂️
I loved the way you answered everything, and you seem like a very outstanding friend and person. Your response to the question at 9:18-10:45, especially stood out for me. "The culture is so much about 'Love,' and 'Acceptance,' and 'Be Who You Are,' but when you're actually /in/ the culture...." I started snapping right there. That discrimination you speak about, amongst gays, is a very real thing. I can cite moments I was on the receiving end. but I also admittedly have caught myself in moments that I was having at least thoughts that were toxic in a judgmental manner, decided who I would talk to/engage with based on those thoughts, or played on the various labels, identifiers, or qualifiers that gay guys tag on one another in order to categorize and decide who is more "important," more "beautiful," or more qualifying to be someone we are willing to date, or be friends with... But this is all harmful as fuck. And gays need to stop harming other gays. I agree, it can very much be a toxic culture- I'd even venture to say it's rampant, with the online dating communities and our ever-growing capability to dismiss or "next" every person that falls beneath our abstract lines of "acceptable..." We effectively narrow down our social circles to people who all look similar. We un-diversify gays all the time, when what we originally wanted to celebrate was that in itself, "different" is beautiful. And that's how I want to change to be, is someone who is not so angry or dismissive of those who have different perspectives, or different opinions... It's almost like we've stopped wanting others to have thoughts of their own. Just so wrong, so opposite of the progress we've worked towards- toxic, like you said. I suppose I couldn't know what it's like to be a content creator on RU-vid, nor to work with you, so I can't say with certainty how it would go... But but I am invested in being the change I want to see in the world- I hope to always cleanse myself of bitterness, resentment, toxiciity, and I imagine we'd be great friends and work very well together, and I would certainly support your endeavors in creating content and spreading your wisdom. You have valuable things to say!! Thank you for representing, I appreciate you!
I think for a lot of men (if they haven't been pressured to be otherwise or have managed to disconnect from that pressure) they may simply be expressing what comes naturally for them, or natural in a certain dynamic, and that gets labelled masculine or feminine because of society always pushing that interpretation on us.
I feel so much for Travis about his transition to masculinity. I used to cross dress as a kid.. thanks to bullying i decided to act str8. Now my family thinks am straight and are forcing me to get married. 😢
Okay I had to smoke a cig at the 3:30 mark cause I got off.Just kidding.I quit smoking two February's ago.Lol Ok here's the big one.The gays being feminine.I do agree with you it's easier to be feminine if you talk like it.However...I also believe we were pushed into a closet so much that acting feminine is a way to 1).Fight back against the breeders but also 2).It might be to ridicule the straights."You tried to push me into a closet but I'm here.Im queer.Get over it." And porn guys say they douche before a scene so they don't have a poopie dookie. And finally I agree with you about another thing.We do talk to a fellow gay differently than a straight.I had gay freinds that worked at a crossdressing cabaret and almost all lived in the same apt complex.One always used the word biscuit to say/describe he made a mistake."Oh.Muh God!I feel like such a biscuit".You might have a freind that uses a similar term. Anyway,I'm introducing him to my dad and he uses that term.He turned to my dad and said "Oh damn.I feel like such a biscuit." My dad to his credit calmly said "you don't have to feel that way.You didn't know" I was mortified at first but my dad was a trooper. Sorry going on so long.
I enjoyed this interesting, informative vid.❤ I know some guys on the bisexual spectrum (they’re between 20 and 70% gay) and they’ve relayed to me that some fully gay guys hate women and some gays also have an issue with bisexual men. It’s really pretty sad that bi men are getting reviled by BOTH straights and gays. There’s no shortage of intolerant, bigoted people on both sides. That said, my own interactions directly with gay men and bi men over the years has thankfully been positive thus far (I’m a het female).
One thing I don’t get at all. Why do "anal sex" have to be a "gay question"? Like straight people never do that?? There are a lots of straight people who actually like anal sex more, also a lot of straight guys like pegging too.
I agree with all the answers to the posed questions except…..bottoming hurts like a MFer! I don’t care how much you relax or breathe or think of ‘what will I have for lunch, tomorrow?’… it hurts - and that’s why I became a top.
4:01 as a gay teenager with 0 experience i really want to say thank you, the info that i find is different and i cant find really natural/real corn that would show it how it is. But now I'm relieved, cuz im totally ok with that, i just needed to know
I have had gay male friends all my adult life (I am a woman) , close friends, but never felt comfortable asking some of these questions. Thanks for the education ❤🌈
It's so weird for me hearing how all gay men have tons of sex, while lil me here is still a virgin at 23 and I'm not even ugly lolol edit: I just realized I may have offended people who aren't so fortunate on the look wise, and I'm sorry for that I'm just rambling... damn our community is indeed toxic
I am experiencing the exact same thing but I feel like I'm not ready yet though to date at 23 yrs, and as a love lover I seem to admire more other people relationship.
@@gbx1570 I agree, it's just kinda hard to not feel a lil bit left out though, even though at the moment I'm not ready for a relationship either, I have tons of shit I need to get done first, including leaving this third world country lol
With you on the idea many confuse sex with their actual desire for intimacy. As for femininity, I've come to believe it's, at least in part, an over correction from the toxic aspects of masculinity. Too many lean into femininity for they're clinging to stereotypical definitions of masculinity rather than redefining it into a more emotionally intelligent version. Emotions always have been universally human yet were mistakenly gendered which lead to the toxicity and manhood's multiple issues.
