ANSWERING QUESTIONS - EP 2 | Love | Mental Health | Why I left the church-storytime | CHURCH TRAUMA 

Spiritual bypassing is the word! It’s painful that I was part of the people who taught others to spiritually bypass very real problems. It is so important for us to address mental health issues because they are real and there should be no shame or stigma associated with them.

It has been such a wonderful journey. One of the greatest blessing has been living fearlessly. Living life without fear and having to love abantu without being bound has been freeing.

It is a scary path for sure

He loooved us overrr! He truly was shame. I miss him so much

I was worried about the articulation aspect. Thank you so much for these comments ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for engaging my friend. Your words of affirmation truly make an impact to me. I regret nothing from the experience. I would also never judge people who are going through that and perhaps don’t want to leave because I too have been there. Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

God is definitely so much bigger! Being in a high control group is traumatising especially when your whole life was based on it. Healing takes time as well. The triggers are still there but there is so much progress and I have so much more love. Thank you so much for watching and engaging.❤️❤️❤️

That psychiatric nurse really was not it hey. The more we talk about it, we are able to remove the shame from it

Awww man ❤️❤️❤️

Yes!!! Also God is not angry at us.

I need to check this verse❤️

Oh mntase. You are one of the people who listened to me. I felt bad because I didn’t want to be bitter. We used to discuss after service and I would be so upset. Thank you for being one of the people who allowed me to vent

Yho sana. I am so glad he was able to get out. It is so difficult when you are older sana

God truly did an amazing thing by taking you out 🙏🏾

It truly is one of the things that has been under diagnosed in girls shame. I hope we get to assist those who struggle and suffer in silence. Thank you so much for engaging ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

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Welcome to the family! Thank you so much for subscribing and commenting! ❤️❤️

Thank you so much for subscribing! Welcome to the fam❤️. Love you even more 🥰😘

I was born in the church and only left officially in 2021( I remember you and I told you who I was you'd remember me😂). You are so brave and you are going to accomplished so much in your life. I remember how sweet you always were, glad to see you are on youtube . All the best sis❤

That’s exactly where I am at. I know I will find my way but I’m not there yet sana. I am not ready to be fighting shame. But God has our back sana

Thank you so much for your feedback. Please inbox me on Facebook and remind me please 🙏🏾. I appreciate you ❤️. Please have grace on yourself

Yho Phushy! That’s the only way. But I never blame anyone because the bible can be used to deceive. You never notice the religious abuse until you leave.

@@wingingitwithyonella3663 When I left my previous church I didn't understand it then but now am glad I left shame..

@@phumzambodlana5209 that’s so true. You never know how good it is until you leave. You no longer live with the guilt and the fear. You become better (as an overall person) over time. Thank you so much for tuning in ❤️❤️❤️

Oh chom yam🥹🥹🥹. You don’t know how much that means to me. I so insecure about my articulation, because sometimes I go around in circles and not make the point I had intended. This is a much needed validation ❤️❤️❤️

I hope iyeyavakala f. There quite a number of recourses on RU-vid and TikTok that assist in understanding the condition from people who live with it. Thank you so much for your question ❤️

Eyyyyy!!! Sisuka ezintweni. I mean it would be great to expand on it but it is quite scary and you don’t wanna step on feet.

@@wingingitwithyonella3663 some day we'll get into it. I'm sure it'll be one hell of a topic. One key point I will highlight is that you should always prioritize your stability, it takes actual mental strength to overcome cult habits, I'll say that much!

@@sandiletukani Definitely. It really is not easy. That is why I do my best to have grace upon myself and other people who may be experiencing what I experienced. It definitely is not easy. I think one thing I did well was leaving before I left because that makes the transition easier. I always question myself. If I want to disagree, I always will question where it comes from and even ask if it is harmful. That makes me be more accepting. I think one thing I also did inside was not judging others and not just go along with the judgement part of stuff (although I went along with everything else). The habits do take a toll on your mental wellbeing. Also very important to choose your battles.

It’s painful how negligent they can get towards people. If you are not popular or liked then it’s curtains for you when you lose a loved one. It’s extremely painful.

Eyyyy😅❤️❤️❤️

Umyenam ondithandayo 😍😍🤭🤭🤣🤣🤣 Yhuuuu!!! I don’t know how I managed to stay. I guess I began daydreaming. It is super traumatic. The shame and guilt we faced. The fear we have when talking about it. Akumnandanga uthetha because you know the consequences. You’ll be labelled and shamed but I love the fact that no one can shame you for your experiences. There are people who have said we must “heal” but njani guys because we have spent so much time in there. If we do not talk we will never heal. Ibuhlungu but that’s how it is and I will continue to hold space for those who criticise us because of the cognitive dissonance which I have experienced. It’s hard to reconcile that people you love and trust can be the people who have been, unknowingly, harming you. I also appreciate your comments because they make me strong.

Yayivhaaa!!! I saw the future 🤣🤣🤣

Yhuuu my friend!!! Ulambele abantu who’d never. Oh hayi uThixo wasikhupha ezintweni. We can only thank Him.

I’m soooo sorry!!!! I will definitely do more English!!! Thank you so much for pointing that out ❤️😍

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣We will definitely do a video on this!!! Stay tuned