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I couldn’t agree more about the ”I’ve never had a boyfriend” part! I always felt a pressure to find a boyfriend and have sex while I was in secondary school, because everyone else was doing it and I felt left out... no need to say that this resulted in a LOT of bad decisions and a massive amount of time that I wasted worrying about boys that I’ve could have used so much better. And let me tell you, now I have a boyfriend, it’s not like I’m a different person or I’m better or anything. I’m just the same person. There are other relationships that can be just as fantastic as a boyfriend, focus on your friends and family and have a good time!
Im a 20 y.o girl studying medicine & a virgin , never had an actual BF & I can say there is nothing wrong with it , if u still haven't found the RIGHT person ,don't put so much pressure on yourself just improve yourself BC when u work on your skills etc u'll shine more & u'll attract the best boys in the future .plz just enjoy your life ...
I'm a 20 year old boy who happens to be a virgin. I haven't been asked out by a girl since I was 11 in Year 6. Sure I get lonely occasionally, but generally I've never felt so secure. Plus most people aren't having as much sex as you think. YOU DO YOU GUYS AND GALS!
This was so refreshing to watch, Eve - a lot of people on RU-vid talk about these things but are so vague and still leave things up for interpretation in teenagers’ heads. you went into actual detail and I wanted to shout like ten times during this video - PREAAAACH!
To the person who asked about visiting the doctors after not having a period for a while - yes, go to the doctors. I had the same problem (as did my older sister) and I'm so glad I did. I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome which 1 in 10 women experience. You may not have pcos just because you miss periods a lot, but this is a big 'symptom'. Get it checked out, but don't worry yourself! X
@@lavenderreads8915 that was the one that brought pcos to my attention. I also had severe pain around the Ovary area, sleep apnea, both hair loss and hair growth, acne, sudden weight gain, headaches, struggled with my mental health and my periods were ridiculously heavy. On top of this, my brother has type 1 diabetes, another endocrine disorder, and my sister had previously been diagnosed with pcos. Even without any other symptoms you should still get it checked out. Best case scenario, you're absolutely fine but just have irregular periods. In that case they would probably suggest you go onto the pill. The pill dramatically helped me, though there is no cure for pcos.
Thank you for talking about the pressure about going to uni as a Virgin and single 🙌 I never knew it would consume me this much, was excited to enjoy uni but this seems to.be the priority and not education
In Germany plastic applicator tampons actually don't even exist in shops! We all grow up using tampons without applicators here, and it's absolutely fine. I was completely lost when I accidentally bought some with applicators in England😅
Don't! You shouldn't waste time if someone doesn't like you and there are plenty more fish in the sea. GET REVISING!!! Your A-levels will likely be more important in the long run. 🌟🌟🌟
Virginity honestly doesn't have to be a big deal in general. Virgin or not, you can decide when and who you want to "lose it" to. You can view it as something special, or not (like me). I don't understand why both men and women think of it with such stigma!
It's a big deal, whatever u eat, science says, u behave like that eat pork & u will become a shameless person similarly having illegal relation(s) will make your desire to perform sex uncontrollable.
@@raheelkhalid8676 You are missing the point. If you are religious (or not) and believe that casual sex is a bad thing, then you can do what you want and remain a virgin till marriage. My point is that people should believe and do whatever they want, and not worry about what others think.
@@xxymgxx it's not the right opinion, virgin is someone who has never ever performed sex neither willingly nor forced by someone else. Virgin girl means one whose hymen is intact. It's not about what you or other people think, believe & describe virginity differently. Broken hymen means girl isn't virgin. You should not propagate such ideas ' perform sex as many times as u want but feel & believe that u r still virgin. When getting married nonvirgins should tell their spouses truth. Some people do prefer virgins and lie won't allow relationship last longer.
@@raheelkhalid8676 You are correct, that is the definition of virginity. However, many girls do not have a hymen due to activities such as horse-riding, even if they remain a virgin. My post is not arguing what you believe virginity to be (the definition), but rather whether you think that preserving virginity is something SPECIAL or not (i.e. for religious reasons or purely because you may believe that you want to "save it for marriage" or "have sex with someone you love").
To the person who asked the question about the missing period: someone who is biologically female and of reproductive age not having a period is medically concerning and should always be taken seriously. As someone else commented, it could point to PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), which many women suffer from; however, it could also be a sign of chronic malnutrition, overexertion, or chronic stress (whether mental or physical). It's also important to remember that you can be in malnutrition without being underweight on the BMI chart, as it doesn't take genetic weight set point, muscle mass, or metabolism into account (metabolism can drastically slow if your body is in starvation mode to prevent further weight loss, which could lead to a malnourished person being in a "normal" weight range). I for example lost my period right at the beginning of my eating disorder, having lost weight but still in the normal BMI range. Even though I was already severely malnourished at that weight, doctors sadly only took notice of my missing period once my weight fell into the criteria for anorexia. Interestingly enough, it only came back once I reached the weight I had naturally been at previously, not as soon as I hit the "healthy" BMI range! Not having a period means your body doesn't think it's healthy enough to carry a baby, so make sure to go to the doctor's and don't let them brush you off as "nothing to worry about". Make them check your hormone levels, and definitely don't let them put you on the pill to "fix" it, as hormonal contraception only simulates ovulation instead of giving you a real period! All the best x
Love it! And as much as I did used to love lil lets, I made the switch to menstrual cups and would never go back. Even better for the environment, I do recommend giving them a go 🙌🏼
I totally relate to the body image issues, I'm a twelve on bottom and a 10 on top but I'm finally at a place where I'm happy with my body for the most part, but it has taken years. Great video Eve
Absolutely LOVED this video eve, really gave me a confidence boost and reminded me us gals are all in the same boat ❤️ please do more videos like this in the future!
Thank you so much for creating this video, it was so reassuring to hear someone’s point of view similar to mine! Having started uni in September, the pressure to have sex and seeing boys is something that shocked me. To be reminded that it doesn’t matter is nice to hear!
If cups scare you 100% recommend period underwear. Super comfortable so good if you know you’re not gonna be able to change your cup/tampon for a while or sleeping. I imagine they’d be fab if you were still at school xxx
Omg this video just made me feel so much better about myself! I am 19 and I have never had a boyfriend or first kiss and I felt SO self conscious about it when I went to uni in September. I felt like I was weird or was doing something wrong because all my friends had had boyfriends and their first kiss. Thank you so much for making me feel like this is not uncommon and highlighting the importance of self care before focusing on relationships ❤️
love the non-applicator ad!! I'm from Germany and I don't think I've ever seen applicator tampons in any stores across continental Europe, but in the UK they're usually the only ones I can find. so it's really great that you're promoting the non-applicator ones!!
I'm just putting it out there - this is one of the most honest and down to earth video about these topics, as no one should worry about being a virgin etc, and I'd love to see a part two of this!! Xx
I love this video!!! As usual you are being so honest! I agree with everything in this video. I think that this society has such a pressure to do stuff by a certain age or do stuff like shaving ‘down there’, Society gives this impression of so many expectations in life
it's really cruel how sizes work. Some brands will most likely make a size either bigger or smaller to make you feel happy and potentially buy the product. But what matters is what you think is right for you x
In my experience, we have very different experiences of university. I go to Derby and I've found that so many people are pretty open about being a virgin, especially guys, which surprised me but what I've learned is virginity is personal to everyone some people lose it pretty early, some lose it 'late', some people prefer casual sex and others are waiting for a relationship or marriage and whatever you choose it's fine as long as it's safe, legal and consensual.
Hey Eve! Take this from someone who was in your exact position at 19/20 and now on the other side; the waiting and the constant worrying is worth it when you find someone who is right for you. You know when you are ready and you’ll thank yourself for doing it on your terms and against the norm. Trust everything happens for a reason and love yourself before you love anyone else 🥰🥰 X
Omg congratulations!! It's so hard to get accepted into UNIQ (from their decisions email it said that there were like 8,000 applications... that's crazy!! I got rejected, lol) and I genuinely hope that you have a wonderful time! x
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏girl I feel u so much on the I've never had a boyfriend part, I'm really glad you spoke up because I feel like many of us feel weird or like we're the only one feeling this way but it's actually many of us
Reusable period products are the future! Love the promotion for avoiding plastic with tampons but no mention of washable pads and diva/mooncups! 😔😅 love you eve!
on the part when you talk about switching from applicator to non-applicator tampons: would just like to advertise menstrual cups as well. they’re zero-waste, they last years and there’s no risk of TSS. obviously not for everybody, but worth mentioning! :)
Ngl this boy I saw as a classmate or friend at most made me uncomfortable because he kept wanting to meet up, calling me cute, asked me if I was a virgin and putting kisses at the end of our messages I even said you're like my brother (which now I look back he was very offended his facial expression and what he said was like whattt)... I feel so gross and disgusting thinking about it tbh , it still affects me to this day... I didn't want to hook up with someone for no reason like yourself and we're the same age so yeah thanks for making me feel better about myself... I also haven't found the right guy tbh I have never felt emotionally ready (like yourself)...
This is so relatable! Almost 20 and never had a boyfriend. There’s so much pressure around everywhere and so much thoughts that ooh I’m unloveable but this puts everything into perspective!!
Crush question: Eve: ''You just feel like putting yourself in the bin, don't you!' 'Just admit they're nice to look at and move on!' 😂😂😂 Oh Eve you do make me laugh!! Also part 2 would be great! X
Thanks so much for this video, Eve, I always love your stuff!! I just wanted to ask whether you were aware that this video is very heteronormative? I know you did acknowledge that not everyone is straight but I just noticed that you assumed the girl’s crush was on a boy etc. But thank you for being so honest, it’s really brave of you to be this open about virginity and it’s SO important!! P.S. I would really recommend the podcast “Food Psych” to anyone struggling with disordered eating and body image issues.
This video was so needed! Your chat on having a boyfriend/virginity was literally so accurate...it isn’t a mark on your character! I ended up having sex with a guy I was seeing when I was 19 ONCE (then he moved to another country and I’ve basically never seen him since) and I’ve never had sex since...and I’m now 24! Not because guys haven’t shown me attention, but because I haven’t met someone who I liked enough to want to do that with. My point being like even once you have “lost your virginity” there will still be areas for you to worry about. Before my worries were always “oh I haven’t done it, what will it be like, will I be shit blah blah” and now I’m like “is this even weirder that I haven’t done it with anyone else since, will I ever find someone I like enough, will boys think I’m weird blah blah”. My point being it’s all in your mindset, and everyone can have doubts but just do whatever is right for YOU.
