I wanted to say that being in a single season and focusing on yourself is so healing. I'm doing it now. At first I was lonely but my relationship with God has grown so much stronger! Figuring yourself out and RESTING is so much easier when no one is pressuring you ❤❤
That’s what my journey has been like too. I left an abusive husband at the age of 30 and focussed on parenting my daughter and recovering from the abuse…being able to rest has helped me regulate my nervous system and develop my relationship with my daughter. I talk to God constantly and have the space to listen to Him. I turn 40 next year and finally feel ready to be in a new relationship if that’s what God has in store for me.
I want to emphasize for anyone watching that a major contributor to your credit score is if you are only using 30% or less of your credit limit. Don’t use your whole credit limit every month. But like Michel said, only spend what you can pay back each month.
I love that you added to keep in mind your relationship with your parents when it comes to input on your relationships. When I first met my husband, I was still going through a lot of abuse at home, mental and physical, therefore my dad, in particular, was not a reliable source of input. I wouldn't really trust either of my parents for relationship advice, to be quite honest. Seek input from people you trust, such as close friends or other family members.
I'm 40 and have never been able to get past the first date in a relationship. And, it used to bother me a lot, but I learnt to value me and my journey not what I could be with another half. I am complete all by myself. Then I noticed that when I talked to guys they mirrored that confidence back at me. You have to work on you first. I may be single for the rest of my life or I may find someone, the outcome isn't something that defines my future, but investing time in nurturing my peace, confidence and my own self worth is everything.
Michel, we are so privileged to get all this great advice from you. Amazing advice, each question was answered so beautifully and accurately. You have grown so much. I just wish you would have gotten all this information and experience without having been through what you’ve been through ❤
Thank you Michel for your time you spent answering these questions! 🎉 Loved it! You have went through so much and are now able to help and motivate others! God bless you both❤❤
It's important to recognize that desiring a relationship like the one your friend has is admiration & recognizing your own relationship goals - but that's not envy, because envy is wanting to take away what the other has to have it for yourself. You can admire the friend's relationship and hope for a similar one for yourself, without wanting to take the friend's relationship away from him/her. Give yourself some grace, too. ✝️
For the person asking about what to do about someone not wanting to be your friend. Ask why and be willing to look at yourself. It might be a them problem but it could be you or both. I'm in a situation where I'm think about how to talk to someone about the fact that I don't consider them a friend. Every time I get together, I feel exhausted after, she is unwilling to take any accountabilities or situation. Normal trys to find a way at mentally attacking me. This is a repeat pattern of hers with multiple people that i know personally. Been told by people who were both our friends that she bullies me.
I love this video your the kindest and most compassionate soul ! Your words of wisdom about divorce and a selfish season very well put as someone whom has also walked along that road! Keep up the great work thank you for all you do !!! Appreciate you my friend ❤️
Your parents need to be recognized here in that they were the major influence in the person your became. They did an exemplary job in teaching you what was important in life as well as living as a responsible and accountable human being. God Bless all of you.
I loved this vlog. Really very wise answers. I have a MSc in Economics and there are things I can learn from you. Like this gathering points to be able to travel for free. And learning from therapy. Michel you are a very clever lady. I will turm 50 next Friday but I still learn from people that are not my age (not only older but also younger). And thrrr is a lifelong learning curve... I learn something new every day! And I feel we should be open to learn from different people and events in life. As well as find joy through different occasions. Not always easy but will enable a more fullfilling life. I am handcaped (yes I still walk myself but I am a 70% invalid). I have.two dogs and try to find happiness spending time with them. I have very few friends. Ih is hard because of my constant pain and difficulties. There are only two options: to live or not to live...I decided therefore to try no matter how hard it may be. I struggle every day but with a strong will to live. Your videos give me Inspiration and happiness. Thank you!❤
Your videos are always so warm and give you a feeling that everything is going to be okay. Thank you for creating an outlet like this. We all need a friend like you! ❤
Michel! I have been watching you for years (even though I have yet to comment before), and I have to say, I think this is my favorite video of yours. You are wise beyond your years, carry yourself with so much grace and compassion, and I am always impressed by your innate wisdom and love, but also greatly admire your personal growth and radiant happiness! Much love to you and Jordy!
I lost my best friend once in 2006 during her first day of college. Then, I went to the lunchroom, alone, and looking at the window to see a train passing by.😢
Ahh Michel!! I love this so much and I love all your videos! Thank you for being yourself and always being open to share with us. Your channel is so fun and I love the daily vlogs/ week in the lives. You are such an inspiration to me and so many other girls and I am so grateful for that. Ilysm and I hope you’re having an amazing day 💕
I'm a 27-year-old wife, homeowner, and mom... Do I feel I need "big-sis" advice from you? No. Will I still watch and like this video to support you? YES :)
My recent exhusband of 37yrs told so many lies about my adult kids n myself. After being in his family for that long NO one from his family reached out to me (being their daughter/sister in law)!!! But as hard & hurtful as that was, I AM free of their narcissism and manipulation also! It’s been so good for mine and my kids mentally that we don’t talk to them!
Even if you can’t pay off the cc every month but if you can double monthly payments and being diligent about it, a cc can be a positive attribute to your finances. Just always be aware of your finances 😊❤.
Love this, I may have missed this in previous posts but love that you’re a Christian as well. I am in Oregon but love to listen to Jack Hibbs in chino hills
@Michel Janse what is the brand of lip gloss/oil and color name you use in this video? It looks great on you! Great answers as well to very important questions 😊
I wanted to respond to the house inspection comment; with this market, a lot of times sellers go with a buyer who is willing to waive an inspection, as it seemed when we were house hunting. We took a handy construction husband of a friend, who could tell us his opinion on the house, and how much things might cost to fix. My husband and I are not handy, so this was important for us. We wanted a house that we could move in right away and make cosmetic updates over time. Inspections are definitely important, and we turned down another house due to issues we found.
Hard disagree on messaging an ex-friend every month or two after they've already said they dont want you in their lives. That's just blatantly disrespecting their boundaries
I have a comment to having children late in life. I am one of those children. My mom had me when she was 44 I know a lot of people are having children late in life, but I think for one we need to think of the children I for one have a lot of health issues and I truly believe it’s because I came from an older egg. I have two friends who are in the same situation as me 42 mom and the other one came from a 46 year old mom and both have just as many health issues as I do and they’re rare. They’re like one in 1 million chance of having this condition and we are the one! sooner you have children with young eggs, the less problems later in life they will have. I’m seriously thinking about starting a group on this because I think there’s a lot more women out there with 40 year-old eggs and older who have health issues that could’ve been prevented.
Very interesting. Autism numbers are through the roof - could some cases be caused by the mothers age? I think you should start a group, or a youtube channel. I had my children in my 20's divorced in my 40's. Ex-Hubby remarried and had 2 boys back to back and dropped dead of a heart attack at 49 yrs old ( sons were 2 yrs old and 3 mo old - so those boys will never know him ) These are all things women need to think about when having children.
Psa if a financial advisor is "free" and they're earning a commission off your money, you're either paying a lot of unnecessary fees in actively managed funds or giving someone else your valuable returns that can amount to a ton of money over time! It's best to take the time and learn the basics so you can be in control of your future!!
Totally unrelated to this video, but you mentioned wanting to visit Copenhagen a while back. If you end up going you have to visit H.U.G. bakery. It's completely gluten free and you can try all the Danish classics. I also recommend Hotel Kong Arthur. Great location and vibe and less expensive than a lot of the other hotels. They do an afternoon wine or hot chocolate time which is always so hyggelig. And, renting a Go Boat and going for a floating picnic is also a must!
I have tried therapy in past and it only made me feel worse. I’m presently feeling overwhelmed, stressed with my job because of the high expectations of the job. I’ve only been there 6 months. I would like to look elsewhere but feel stuck because I’m a year post graduation and only have current job and a 6 month temp job on my resume.
Please do not use a financial advisor that charges a percentage. Even 1% can cost you hundreds of thousands of dollars over decades. Fee only advisors will save you so much more money!
@@carlajoyswan :) I did listen, I just thought I’d let her know because I might possibly not be the only one out of 237K subscribers +, and if this is a new filming spot not all are just speaking videos.
