This is a vulnerable post. We’ve been dealing with sickness again this week (we’re all fine, just tired - it’s going through their whole school, and it always makes me feel better knowing it’s not JUST them) I was diagnosed with anxiety in my early 20s. I was on meds for a bit but decided I wanted to manage it on my own, and overall I do a decent job with that. But when the girls get sick.. my anxiety kicks into overdrive. I have a very hard time controlling intrusive thoughts. I have a hard time dragging myself off google. Between taking care of them / my brain in overdrive I barely sleep. My body / chest feels tight and I lose my appetite. My ears ring a bit. I get heart palpitations. I then start thinking there’s something wrong with ME. It’s something I’m working on. I have 2 close friends that I talk to and basically just update them on the girl’s symptoms - for some reason it feels good to talk it out with someone. They know I need this and are very patient with me, haha. I hope this doesn’t come across as whining. I know many people have it much much worse, and I do try to keep it very positive over here. But thought I would write this just in case anyone else is in the same boat, I know many people struggle with anxiety and it’s nice to not feel alone. That’s all for now 🫶🏻
Heyy🥰. You are definitely not whining, but even if you did who are we to judge? I’m a 24 year old girl with no kids from Greece, who enjoys watching your videos. I get the anxiety part,even though I don’t have kids, i deal with other issues in my 20’s that stress me out. The girls are lucky to have you❤. You are doing great🫶
You don't have to be perfect. Don't worry about what other people think. You won't disappoint anybody. The people that matter love you unconditionally. You are good just the way you are. Love from Amsterdam ❤
Every day until they went to college or graduated. My mind was spinning faster than my body. I am fine was something I would tell myself and husband every stupid day! We just let the kids tell us what they wanted and we did everything to make it happen. Plus working full time without any family around. We would count down the years of when they would be 18 and on their own. Well, we still had to see them through college. Then home again. But, I swear there were so many days I thought I was going to just melt away on the couch. Can’t believe I actually made it through! But, she will. Every day you just do what you have to just to make it through the day, week, month and year. Family and friends, we didn’t have any. Just us. Can’t believe they are adults with children. I always thought I wouldn’t make it but, somehow I did. Some people need help from a doctor. Some don’t. Only that person can know. Pretty soon the kids will do something that tells you that you and the kids are doing just fine. Then the process starts again! Do what you know you need to do. Only you know. ❤
That's so true..I remember having these thoughts also...my kids are 24 and 21 now but yea...constantly worrying..I still do its just about different things now..
You are fine. My toddler youngest son would say, “Be Lax Mommy, just Be Lax”. So I would just go all limp which always got a big laugh from the other family members. He meant “Relax”. He grew to become a Chemical Engineer whom uses his intellectual prowess for good. So, “Be Lax Mommy”. Your worries tell the whole story. ❤
My SIL said to me when my son was sick for the first time “nothing is right in the world when your kid is sick” Truer words were never spoken and I NEEDED that validation. Just love on ‘em mama! Nothing else matters. My baby is going off to college soon.
You are doing a great job as their mother. Those two little munchkins are kind, curious and smart kid women and they couldn't have been that way without you 😊
@@Tracylyn42 those moment are amazing. the other day I bumped into a baby Franki short where she squeals pure joy when she sees Nana+Papa coming up the walk
I can't think of ANY LOVING mom who doesn't get anxiety when their kids are sick. I remember praying to God to let me be sick for them when they were little. It just was so much harder watching my babies suffer and I think that's really true of most moms. I finally convinced myself that when I sensed something was REALLY serious, I'd know it and take action. Trust your instincts, you're a great mom!!!
I understand your anxiety. My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer four months ago. I spend a lot more time these days in prayer. It helps me keep my sanity amid all the hospital visits, doctor appointments, and chemo treatments, and seeing my husband's pain and suffering through it all. It hurts when a loved one is sick...
@@laurad.kelley8902 Thank you, but the biggest thing is to not live in fear. He is in God's hands and there is no better place for him to be. Regardless of the outcome, it does not shake my faith, nor his. But I've definitely been down that rabbit hole of fear, which is helpful to no one. My worrying does not alter the outcome one iota, so it's better for my peace of mind to switch my mindset from fear and anxiety to calm acceptance. Thank you for your well wishes. I appreciate you!
As strange as it sounds, your anxiety can be seen as a positive as it shows that you care about your girls’ wellbeing and love them beyond words (as is clear from how you raise and interact with them). You are not “whining” in any sense of the word- you’re simply showing a maternal struggle that many mothers often don’t have the capacity to voice to those around them. ♥️ Sending lots of love and hugs to you all from over the pond. 💕
I mean I was annoyed the other day when my 20 year old coworker called out again for the five millionth reason related to kids, family, her own health, you name it. The worst was when she came in an hour late 'due to family emergency' but was showing off her shopping bags all happy? then the next day i had to close cuz her niece is sick but she leaves me to close a LOT and I never do that to her. If it makes me 'insane' so be it.
@@tdbhmusicBabe...this isn't about you LOL chances are, you're not even the target audience. 😂 not you comparing a sus 20 yr old coworker to a genuinely concerned anxiety riddled mom. Come on now. 🤡
Mom brain to the max. What looks like sitting down and resting never really is. Our minds are always going, thinking, planning, worrying...hugs momma ❤
Oh... I'm tearing up!... You are an AWESOME mom, Kare! Falling sick more often during childhood than adulthood is super common, we eventually grow out of it. There's nothing to do with you, it happens to all of us. You're an amazing human being! I'm sending you much love and wishing you healing!
@@tdbhmusic Oh, I was thinking of colds and flus. Respiratory issues are actually different, but I don't know if that's what they have. They are really highly intelligent emotionally and very empathetic, but they don't seem to be hypersensitive, not that I've noticed. And, although those traits often go together, they don't always do. It doesn't seem to me that sensitivity is the cause of it. But I don't know, right, those are all assumptions, we only see so much from outside.
Crying. So relatable. You’re doing such a good job! You are the best mother anyone could ask for. ❤I’m learning to be a mom by watching ur videos. Thanks for sharing these!🫶
You've been an awesome mom your kids are so good and polite and respectful I've watched you raised your two girls up the last 3 years and I think it's been above and beyond.
I think this is very normal to be so anxious when kids are sick. I was terrible when my kids were wee. You're a brill mum, hubby a great dad. I hope everyone is well soon xx
Friend! You are NOT ALONE! I am much older than you, but I also developed Generalized Anxiety Disorder when I was in my 20s, and sickness is my big trigger. Anytime I thought someone was sick, thought I had been exposed, my kids got sick or if I even HEARD about someone being sick - it would set me off. Thankfully I found good medication that has helped me for years. Im sorry that you are going through this. Kids get sick - A LOT, and especially when they are little and just starting school. I hope and pray that at some point your brain will calm and know that this is all important in building a healthy immune system.❤
🌿You are sucha talented woman‼️Your husband both your girls are exceptional as well. Have watched you folks for years now. It NEVER gets old. Thanks for the joy Pior fam. 💌🪷
I applaud you for your honesty and for sharing your anxiety. I think most moms deal with this as well. You’re a wonderful mother and wife to your amazing husband. Your daughters are polite and funny and incredible people. You’re doing great!! 👏👏👏
Thank you for being open to sharing this information. As I was watching the video I was reminded of my years of teaching elementary school. It doesn't take long to spread sickness through a school. The younger kids have endless things in their classrooms that they all touch, sneeze, cough and the last Kleenex was used. They wipe their nose on their sleeve and they're home the next day. Once you have kids in school it seems like they just got over the cold and a couple weeks later they have the flu. You are a terrific mom and this is how it goes once your kids are in school. There's always going to be the kids that are not kept home when they're sick. There's always that one kid that never gets sick. Just keep doing what you are doing for your girls. Keep them home when they're not well. Keep giving them cuddles and love. Don't stress over screen time. When they're feeling up to it you can make brownies. ❤
It’s very hard to not have anxiety when your children are sick. You are a great mom and doing exactly what you need to do. I feel our children are our main priority. So what if the floors are dirty and the laundry is piling up! Be with your girls love on them, dote on them, indulge them. They grow up so fast you will have time to rest after they are grown. They will always remember how much you love and care for them. That is our job being a mom. I have had anxiety my whole life. Sometimes I can control it and sometimes I fall apart and I am 80 years old. Just try to relax a little at a time. You have got this mom. You are awesome!! ❤️
Apply the empathic thinking and feeling you teach your children to yourself. You are a beautiful mother as evidenced by the joy we see in your children. Be proud of yourself. 🎉
You do an amazing job with the girls. I think today almost everyone has a little self doubt and anxiety at times. Take a deep breath, and don't underestimate yourself. You are a wonderful person in all the roles you have.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your thoughts. You are definitely not alone- so many of us experience anxiety. I don't have children, but I have made quite a few trips to the emergency vet with my cats for non-emergencies over the years. ❤
You are an incredible mother . Worrying and feeling conflicted is part of motherhood. Being able to say it out loud and process the situation is part of your superpower!!! The first few years of school are bound to be filled with sickness . Their sweet little bodies are being toughened up and their immune systems will grow stronger( thus Stevie is a little more hit by the virus that Frankie is fighting off a bit better) You’ve got this, mama. You are a total Rockstar!!!❤
The fact that you care so much and still grounded in reality it is awesome. It’s good for your children. You are blessed with wonderful children. And you are a wonderful parent.
You are so normal it's wonderful! When my munchkins got sick, I went to anxiety crazy land. Telling myself I was a terrible mother. They shouldn't ever get sick. It's all my fault...well, they have munchkins of their own, and I get to calm my adult munchkins down. The cycle keeps going, and we are fabulous mothers and grandmothers. You will get there it's in the bag! ❤❤❤❤❤
Aww hang in there momma! You guys are such great parents. Eversince Covid, my kids seem to get sick every Winter and Spring, nonstop and it hurts and annoys. Sending good and healing vibes!
You’re doing great! And you are most definitely NOT alone. ❤ We all have these type of thoughts. I read a quote somewhere that was along the lines of “when I’m on my deathbed remembering my life, I won’t wish I done the dishes immediately, constantly done the laundry, or cleaned the house more often”. Here’s to more cuddles, comfort, and love. 🤗
❤ hundred percent all those thoughts go racing through all of our minds as mothers when the children are sick and things are stockpiling you’re the best mommy in the world
Very relatable especially with children but this seems good advice. Worry when there is something to worry about. No fevers or rashes, then you just have to let it run it's course and enjoy being with. Prays to the Lord, you all get deep needed rest and sleep and healthy again, quickly! 🙏
Every mom goes through this. As one that has children that are now in their 20s and 30s its all going to be awesome.❤ if it won't matter In a week or a month or 5 years from now then it's nothing to worry about now. No one on their death bed has ever said I wish I didn't take so much time to rest with my sick kids. What other people think does not matter. ❤ your kids are school age they are sick so often because they are at the age where they catch everything. About grade 4, 5 or 6 they stop being sick as often because their immune systems have been built up a ton in the first 10 years of life. Let your house work wait. ❤ mom guilt is real but not at all helpful. If it won't matter In a week then it doesn't matter now. Best advice that I received as a young mom❤ hang in there it goes by fast 😊 you are doing great!
You are an amazing woman. You are an outstanding mother. You are beautiful. You are considerate. You are kind. You are thoughtful. Just a reminder in case it might help. Love to all of the Pior family.
Just last night, i told my mummy that i cannot imagine how much she must have my brother and i on her mind 24/7. It's gotten to a point where her intuition goes crazy and she's almost always in sync with us. The funny part is my brother and i are grown adults. Love and strength to all the mums out there
Hey , you’re a great mom . I feel this I had 4 before my 29th bday . , You and your husband are my favorites on here . Don’t worry !!! My mother always told me , don’t worry about the laundry or house it will be there tomorrow. Your family and kids are amazing humans . God Bless you all ❣️❣️❣️❣️
Grrrrl, is there a mother alive that’s not constantly filled with anxiety?? We know the struggle. You’re not alone, and no one is judging you. This mother shit is HARD, if you’re doing it right.
Anxiety is powerful and is no joke. Talking about it may not make it go away, but it is so helpful to release it out loud to other people so we are not exclusively ruminating on the same thoughts and letting its power grow. This post just reveals that you are human.. a great human😊 (and momma).
Thank you so much for sharing this. As a mom, it's great to know that I'm not the only one. You're doing a wonderful job, and we all know that Frankie and Stevie will be feeling better soon. I hope you get the rest you need too 😴
Thank you for sharing this post! It's like you're reading my thoughts out loud. I've had anxiety for most of my adult life, I was on meds for the longest time, and I decided to get off of them, the best thing I ever did. You're such an amazing Mom with 2 very amazing kids!! They have such great sense of humors. Us mother's put so much stress on ourselves to try and be perfect, at times we forget it's ok not to be perfect.
Hugs momma, I hate those momma thoughts. Mine are almost 27 and 25 and I still get like this on occasion. The house will stand, and the work can wait a few more days. ❤
I have had anxiety and panic attacks my whole life. When my daughter was little my thoughts sounded just like yours! You are a good mom and remember that doing your best is always good enough--no matter what your "best" is on any given day.
This is my head as my children were young and as they grew. I will say that I’m thankful that I finally got help and some anxiety meds. It made a difference to my own peace and helped to untie me from those intrusive - body freezing thoughts- you’re a wonderful momma sweetie.
From one Mother to another Mother… You are an AMAZING Mother!! Whenever you start to worry about you, your Husband, and your Children, WATCH your Family Videos!!! Whenever you start to doubt your abilities as a Wife and as a Mother… Watch your Family Videos!!!! YOU ARE LOVED!!! I notice the way they look at you, for the few mins I watch your Family, and their SMILES say it ALL!!! Their Eyes LITERALLY LIGHT UP around you and their Daddy! IMO… 95% of Parenting is about “WINGING IT!!” The other 5% is…Well Shit… It’s about “WINGING” TOO!! You’re a BEAUTIFUL, STRONG WOMAN!! You got this!!
BLESS YOUR PRECIOUS HEART!!! And through all your anxiety you manage to keep your fans involved! We all adore you and your family and pray everything is all better now !!!
you're doing great, hunny mom and dad! the girls will watch this when they grow up and be thankful for all these little thoughts you silently have ❤ and get well soon to the girls💖
Thank you so much for this post!!! These are my exact thoughts right now with my two boys!! Your willingness to be vulnerable has brought me (and so many others) a bit of peace during a hard time. Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
As I watched this I saw myself 25 years ago. I felt an overwhelming urge to do all the other things for you like cleaning & laundry so all you have to do is be with your precious little girls! You are such an amazing mom.
you’re one of the best parents i’ve seen on the internet your children are a direct result not to mention the understanding and empathy your kids show it’s pretty amazing so emotionally mature for there age
Thanks Mom. Im going through the same. If my girls are sick..I'm sick until they get better. The guilt of being unable to make it go away takes me out. 😢 We are doing our best.❤
Hang in there little Mama, you are doing a fantastic job loving and caring for your wee ones. Sometimes the most important thing you can do for them is to just love and cuddle them. Everything else will wait.
So glad to know I’m not the only one with such thoughts and such a bad year of sickness of kids! Sending you positive vibes, Stevie and Frankie will grow stronger out of this 🫶🏻
You are an amazing mom, while I understand that these worries will probably never go away (as I have observed from other parents) I hope you find a way for them not to be so draining for you. You have a wonderful family and I wish you all the best ❤
I can completely relate. Mine are older now, so it isn't as bad now, but I still worry like crazy when they're not feeling well, or when they leave the house (this world is a scary place these days!)...but worrying is a sign that you are a wonderful parent! Stevie & Franki are so loved and taken care of!❤
I am so sorry you are having such anxiety. I raised 3 kids and I know how that can be. Some things that I would like to share with you, that I learned from raising my kids 1. Don’t doubt yourself. You are such good parents and sometimes we can set unrealistically high expectations of ourselves. Dishes can always wait; snuggles are most important. Have paper plates on hand, and cups. Plastic forks etc for these times. 2. When they are young, they get sick a LOT. They will be building up their immunity to these illnesses, but, in the beginning, it seems like it will be never ending. This is normal. 3. Give yourself permission to not be Superman and do it all - work, the house are second and third to your kids. It is fluid, when they are well. When they are sick, they come first 99% of the time. 4. Your getting sleep is very important. You are the lighthouse for your family. It is important to show your kids how to care for them and take care of yourself. I wish I could help you. You will survive this. We all are here for you all. I hope everyone feels better soon
Sending you a big hug 🫂 🤗. You are a wonderful mom dear. Know the feelings I was working in a hospital every small issues with my boys got me in the same state.
This made me cry. My preteen is starting to feel sick and was tired all day. It’s almost 6 am here and she’s asleep next to me. You’re a great mom and kind person for sharing this moment with the rest of us who love our babies and wonder if we’re “over reacting” when our kids get sick. ❤❤❤❤
This is the most relatable post I've been from anyone in a long time. Thank you for being so vulnerable. It's good to see that it's not just my mind that doesn't stop especially when it co.mes to my son.
You are a mommy and these feelings are normal. You will always worry about your babies and the world is a scary place sometimes girl. You are not whining or over reacting being concerned about your family is normal and you are an amazing woman and mommy ❤🙏
Although I don't have children, I have been a hands on Auntie .My sister's children never had another babysitter aside from me . From the time my sister's oldest (15) yrs old was 2, I came and stayed from 2 days to 4 days when the other 2 came along .all this to say I have heard much of these thoughts from my sister. She decided to see a therapist but never took any meds . Of course, those worries have lessened . There are always new ones to take their place . I think she, at the very least, has some new tools to deal with it . You are not alone . BTW THEY ARE AWAY ON A TRIP AND I WORRY ABOUT THE PLANE AND PRETATORS . I'm being paranoid. I have to be more chill . Again, you are not alone .
30 years and counting with my son. Severe autism, mental retardation, PANDAS (strep in the brain), immune disease, non-verbal…. I’m his 24/7 caregiver and advocate and mom. I believe this type of stress caused my cancer in my late 30’s. I’m 60 now - it never ends. Thank you for posting. This is so true.
You are not alone …. My kids are older but I have had anxiety since my early 20s as well I have been managing my health anxiety on my own but I’m probably going on meds soon to help . Anxiety is no joke . The physical symptoms are real …. Glad we can support each other ❤
You are such an amazing mother. Literally in the top percentage in the world. It will get better I promise ❤ My mom always said me and my sister and her for that matter were never so sick as we were when me and my sister were in elementary school and the same age as Franki and Stevie. Kids carry so many germs and are sick so much & it gets passed around their classes as you know.
Ok now I’m bawling I have 3 kids that are 7,4 and 3 and I’m 26 weeks pregnant. I can relate to this on such a deep level bring a mom is definitely the hardest and most fulfilling role I have and will ever play. Keep going momma they need you!
