Are Asian Men Starting To DENY Asian Women? 

I am Asian American in my 30s living in California. Throughout my whole life, Asian American women have openly made fun of Asian men. Saying they are unattractive and updateable.

Being asian, I thought growing up that I would end up marrying an asian woman. However, none of the asian girls I met or dated were interested. I didn't fall in love with my wife because she was white. I fell in love with her because of she a truly awesome person. Side note: she had about 20 guys following her around thinking they had a chance with her.

Asian man here. I stopped dating Asian girls due to snobbishness and over valuing themselves. Gone Latina and Eastern European girls for years. They love me much more.

Thing is, when Asian women put down Asian men, sooner or later, Asian men won't think Asian women would give them fair play. So when you feel your ethnic peers won't give you anything but grief, you go to folks who will at least give you a chance. Earlier, the Brothers ran a clip where Asian women put down Asian guys. Now the guys are going "With that attitude, ladies, WE don't like YOU either." Granted not ALL Asian women are like that, but once hurt badly, they go "Won't be hurt again."

I know 5 Asian brothers .... the oldest only dates white girls/ the 3 in the middle only date Latinas, and the youngest only dates black girls.

This phenomenon is interesting because it’s mostly been one sided Asian women are infamous for saying things like this

Asian men used to rank low in interracial dating…Asian boys moved up in the past years so it’s more about what else they can tap into now that their value is up.

It's all about who treats you with love and respect versus who treats you with hate and rejection.

As a Latino/Hispanic Im happy to see Asian men open their dating options on who date. It's bad to put any race of women on a pedestal.There are attractive and unattractive people in any race. People should who date based on the person's actual looks, character, and personality.

Finally I'm seeing the Asian brothers putting these broads in check publicly. The disrespect been at a all time high and the fellas been real respectfully silent. Eff that lovevthe fact you dudes are using your voices. I'm a blaque dude seeing my Asian friends going through this,been hooking them up with a lot of latinas.

This day couldn't have come soon enough. Power to all my Asian brothers!

I'm a SE Asian man in my 50s. My ex-wife was a very attractive natural red head (arguably the biggest mistake of my life btw). My current wife is a Colombiana and was an absolute smoke show in her prime. In between my ex and current wives, I was always pulling attractive women... I can honestly say that I've turned down better women than most men have ever had. Back then I was always getting hit on and being asked out by white girls, black girls and Latinas due to the fact that I was good looking... the fact that I had solid social status didn't hurt either. That being said, even when I was in my prime, I was never asked out by an Asian girl. It's a shame really because I've always found my own kind attractive. Too bad the attraction wasn't reciprocated.

I’ve (Asian) dated women of all races except Asian women and Im currently in a relationship with a white-latina. It’s never been a struggle to attract women of any race for me and Im open to dating any women. Personally many AFs are not my type which is why I haven’t dated one

You guys are years behind >:) Been dissing these High Maintenance Asian Gals since the Laserdisc Karaoke Years! Greetings from Westminster in the OC!

14:55 I agree, no need to be disrespectful and bash Asian women even if some of them bash us, but I will always have respect for my fellow Asian brothers dating outside their race and breaking racist stereotypes about us, and this is coming from an Asian guy who mostly hooks up with Asian women cause they find me attractive.

Here in Massachusetts, I see Asian guys with White girls in shockingly large numbers. I'm also talking about the engineer and geek types too. Most of the Asian guys in MA are high-income earners with bachelor's (or master's) from prestigious universities like Harvard or MIT. I don't think these White girls are going out of their way to find Asian guys, but they are gravitating toward someone financially successful and intelligent with a good head on their shoulders, which there are plenty among Asian guys compared to other races.

Haha, good, the tables have turned. It's funny to see how Asian woman feel now. And the Latin girl's comment is spot on.

I’m a mixed guy, half Asian, half white and I’ve only ever dated white women. The main reason for this is because I’ve never been able to emotionally connect with Asian women due to all of the ones I’ve met being very cold, snobby, and materialistic.

I don't Asian women (2nd gen+) out of self love. Don't need to deal with their self hating, status chasing, "you remind me of my brother/father" bs. I'm still open to native or 1st gen Asian women but I'm not fluent in the language.

Having preference is fine but don't go to war on each other. We're better than that.

I'm happy Asian men are expanding their options, hope to see more ambw couples. 😉 ❤️

No other Asian girl has liked me since middle school so my heart goes out to the home girls that are outside my race ever since then. 💯

Well yeah, why would Asian men want to share their resources and wealth (that’s on the up and up) with certain types of underserving women? We all know who they are.

I briefly had a blond gf in high school, but regardless of race, I’ve always been more attracted to women w/ brown or black hair. I was 1 of those Asian’s that mostly liked white girls in high school, but race isn’t a factor now that I’m older. I’ve been involved w/ a Filipina, Native American, 1/2 Japanese/white & I’ve been getting to know someone that seems to be Latina.

k-pop and K-dramas put Korean guys on the map, and by proxy, all Asian men. Asia girls are now noticing Asian men because non Asian girls are checking for therm. Asian men do you and date whoever you want. I as a non Asian Brother support you and Salute you in the fight!

I am an Asian girl and I get the same amount of attention from both non-Asian men( this includes white, latino, middle-eastern, south asian and black) and Asian men, but would prefer to date my Asian counterpart. I NEVER feel attracted to white or black men. So really, it is a personal preference. I do have to say that Asian men who are not westernized -meaning the ones still are dominantly influenced by traditional cultures can be very difficult to get along with simply because the way we think differently. At the end of the day, people can and should date anyone they feel connection with regardless of their race or cultural backgrounds. There is no point to diss each other

As an asian guy, I was never attracted to asian women

America is late to the game.. years ago, there are already tons of Korean men dissing Korean women in the Spanish social media in the Latin world (all done in Spanish). The Latinos get a good laugh out of it. Asian women haven't felt this yet, because the wave hasn't gotten into America till just now

Those Asian girls publicly putting down Asian guys without remorse, those clips are being used by Asian Guys as "State's Exhibit A" as to why they decided "Guilty of prejudice against their own people."

If your an asian guy who's prime dating years were pre bts/kpop wave and you got any girl back then. You deserve a metal for that

Nah, no thanks. As a 6 foot, rich, handsome Asian guy with lots of options, it’s still Asian women for me, 100%. Smooth skin, don’t age so quickly, smarter and less entitled. Also don’t smell.

Glad more Asian men are expanding their options! It baffles me that Asian women can choose to date White guys but gets triggered when Asian men turn them down. 8:31 hard disagree to the comment. It cuts/works BOTH ways.

I want to see more Asian men and Latinas together😊

I think it's the personality that comes to our head when we see how they look. I grew up in America all my life and when i see an Asian girl that looks super cute I automatically think I'll have very little in common with her and if I see a girl boss asian girl i just see my tiger mom.

Man! All I can say it’s ABOUT TIME! 🎉

in toronto and vancouver, its a stereotype that mid asian girls go for mid/above average white guys bc they think theyre too hot for average asian guys while high quality asian guys (handsome, tall, fit, money, treat them well etc) wont give them the time of day. especially in the clubbing/raving scene, the hottest asian girls go for high quality asian guys

Im british born chinese and my wife is english. All my previous girlfriends have been white bar one and she was half white, but it was never a conscious decision to just choose white girls. Im a boob man so i just gravitated towards girls with a curvier body type and those girls happened to not be asian.

The pendulum would eventually swing against AW honestly I'm shocked it hasn't happened sooner. Good on them.

Don't worry about being Asian or getting with an Asian non-Asian. Just be you. The best you that you can be. Your culture is part of you but it doesn't define you entirely. Your culture is like roots, but your individuality is the tree. Personality and attitude is what attracts, but character and maturity is what keeps. Have both - good marketing and quality product management. Don't trip over people who don't perceive your value, someone eventually will. Don't settle either, you have to be excited about them as they are about you.

You go, Asian men! Good for you 😁 I wonder how those Lu(s) are feeling 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 your men deserve better 👍🏽

I do think asian guys should be open to more races. This is because historically asian guys struggled with their own women and couldnt do anything about it. And there is still a bunch out there especially in america. So this is kind of the only option until the lus dwindle.

In the many topics of discussion here, the conflict is REALLY between self-hating, white-worshiping, mentally-colonized Asians vs. Asians who aren't. The conflict is NOT between Asian men vs. Asian women. The benefits of framing the conversation in the former instead of devolving it to AM vs. AW. Instead of framing the conversation as Asian men versus Asian women, we should focus on self-hating/white-worshiping Asians versus Asians who aren't. This approach avoids simplifying the discussion and acknowledges the complexity of the issue. I thought about it some more and, amidst the recent videos here focused on Asian women, I believe this is the best take on how to approach the conversation because the AM vs. AW dialogue clearly isn't working, even unhealthy at times. Here are three benefits in framing the conversation as "self-hating/white-worshiping Asians vs. Asians who aren't" instead of "AM vs. AW": 1. Instead of framing the conversation as Asian men versus Asian women, we should focus on self-hating/white-worshiping Asians versus Asians who aren't. This approach avoids simplifying the discussion and acknowledges the complexity of the issue. 2. By explicitly addressing the conflict in this way, we reduce the chances of misinterpreting the message and prevent misdirection from those who try to avoid confronting their biases rooted in the belief in white men's superiority. 3. Shifting the conversation to self-hating Asians versus those who aren't allows more people to join in and understand our frustrations without attacking Asian women. This prevents us from being portrayed as illogical or hateful, and helps others empathize with marginalized groups who understand the concepts of self-hate, white-worship, and mental colonization. TL;DR: There is no BEEF between Asian men and Asian women. The BEEF here is between self-hating, white-worshiping Asians vs. Asians who aren't.

If non asian guys makes 50k its okay but asian guy they need 250k, this is sooo messed up

i can see why, lots of asian girls raised in US be looking down on any asian guy. ive seen it a lot. like dont even think coming to me and try to have convo lol

I’m glad Asian men are getting more attention because side I think a lot of nonasians used to look down on them more including Asian women so I like to see the come up for Asian males in the dating world. I really don’t have much preference but my husband is Latino and so sweet to me so I feel like Latin women can be really sweet to Asian men.

Absolutely, I know so many mid Asian guys opting out of mid Asian women and going for the hot white girls and actually succeeding. At the same time, I also know a ton of Asian girls that would prefer to date only Asian guys. So let's be civil to one another and support our own race rather than being so toxic and self hating.

The proverbial shoe is on the other foot. Asian men been dealing with Asian women doing this to them for decades. Everyone is a product of their environment. What did you honestly expect?

Welcome back gentlemen! 💜👏🏼🤸🏻‍♂️

It's a free and open society, Asian Men can date whoever they want and Asian Women can date whoever they want.

This is so sad to see, but insightful nevertheless. From my experience living in a western-european country, most Asians only date other fellow Asians here. Even if some people don't, we at least appreciate the people from our country. That Kor-Am man in the first video seems to be hide his own insecurity with this arrogant attitude (probably due to his inner self-hatred of his own culture). I know because I've been there. He probably can't even speak one word of Korean except 안녕하세요. Praying for you brother.

I'm an Asian guy and have never dated an Asian women because I simply don't find them very attractive.

I'm a black man and this really have nothing to do with me, But I have a lot of Asian friends and I saw the following. Asian women have been doing the same thing to them for decades. Alot of my Asian brothers been getting kicked to the side for white men alot by Asain women. They think that while they are out having fun with white men, that the asain men are just going stand there and waith for them to get done having fun with white men. then want the asian men to have the white man's leftovers? Sorry but the tides are turning and just like the black women they are getting mad and upset about it. But there is nothing that they can do about it, they made their beds and they have to slee in them. For every actions there is an equal oppsite reaction. Just like these women say, it is 2023 and we can date and marry whoever we want.

Very interesting topic. I’m extremely mixed and racial ambiguous. Mom if full Filipina. My dad is Mexican and white. Like you guys said, it’s more about the culture than the race. I’m really into women who are into a holistic lifestyle. So yoga, healthy eating, nature stuff, active, adventurous, emotional intelligence and awareness, etc. I noticed that most of these women are either white or a type of Latina who is into this stuff and they don’t come off as the thicc Latina baddie. Really interesting how that manifests externally. But I noticed that the Asian girls that DO stand out…guess what, they typically don’t hang out with other Asians and aren’t into the same things other Asians are into. But I feel the vibe immediately! Pretty crazy. For me, the average Asian woman seems to have completely separated from me lol. Can’t even get a single match on the apps! It’s usually white, black, or Latina. Black women are attracted to me but we usually have the least in common which is the problem. I’ve met very few black women who are also into that holistic life stuff. I like the Latina baddie but I feel like I have to always bring out a heightened version of myself and I just can’t do that long term. All in all, white women with booty and a little sauce!!! 🤤 that’s my type lol I do have to catch myself and not disrespect Asian women. I do it out of spite because it’s like I’ve tried for so long and just never felt like I belonged or was accepted into those circles. I still have so many Asian friends so I gotta keep it chill. Thanks for that reminder.

Man if these girls are only grading Asian men based on shallow standards regarding their looks, skin color, and height then our modern society about dating is already doomed. Masculinity goes beyond looks, height, size, or skin color. Good thing for me though because I do not really care about women judging me about things that I cannot control and change like my ethnicity, skin color, height, or facial features. What I am focused though are the things that I can bring to the table and how I can be a better person to my future partner whether she's Asian like me or not. Though men all over the world love women from different races, but at the end of the day, you can only look and go for any woman who actually cares, love, and respect you for being you as well as your cultural background.

I’m dating a wf and I’m an AM I actually prefer an AF specially Chinese Chinese girls have very high standards for Chinese guys Money car job status etc …

As us younger Asian men are coming up. We’re becoming fitter in addition to some of us having the benefit of looks and/or height. We’re just now exercising our options.

Very interesting to see this is happening to a lot of groups of men nowadays. Think it has a lot to do with the internet like Instagram DMs, Tinder, Hinge. The ability to get more access is prob why this is so rampant amongst a lot f ethnic groups in the U.S.

great stuff guys

Checkmate! How the tables have turned!! 😎 *rubs hands like birdman

I'm an adopted Korean that dated Asian and white men (and others). It was rough to watch my Asian male friends feel like they didn't have options. I can't help but agree now that there is more opportunity that men should not get hate for their preferences any more than women, and that the real crime would be hate talking on demographics.

I’m nowhere near being a tall guy, but in public, I’ve always gotten way more attention from white girls than East Asian. On the apps, it’s a complete 180° though. 😂

Loving the passion from Andrew here @14:40-15:05! 🔥🔥

I'm a half Asian guy and wrote off Asian girls for white girls in my early years. Now getting back in touch with my Asian roots as a passport bro in my motherland seeing various Asian women and couldn't be happier.

I think the trend has been goin to Asian men and Latinas or is that just me

IDK why there is anything wrong with this if the reverse has been ok

It's satisfying seeing the uproar from certain Asian women about this. Only thing is the Asian dude in the vid didn't diss/step on the Asian girl though. Let's see a retake where he disses Asian women. Let the drama commence!!! *eats popcorn*

I'm Jamaican and I used to date a lot Asian guys since high school and I almost married a Japanese guy. I hope to find myself a Asian man and marry him ASAP. ❤❤❤ WE SHOULD PROMOTE MORE ASIAN MAN BLACK WOMAN RELATIONSHIPS ON SOICAL MEDIA ❤❤❤a

About time

I'm Asian, a lot of girls liked me. I want my wife to be Asian though. I do have a crush on an Asian girl. I pass white models for her because she's good looking and peaceful.

As a Dominican man I'm here too let you know that our women love asian men no 🧢 i fully support my Asian brothers exploring there fields I'm telling you latin women is where its at!

Yes I do that and I never regret that decision. To all my Asian brothers date outside your races!

yup been doing that since high school, and im fit and good looking, not because i dont have choices. Lots of black girls ive seen are not dating black guys too, there are consequences when younger generations seen the girls not respect the men.

I was shocked because I thought she would rate him a 1 or 2. I guess it changed now but when I was grow up, all women thought asian guys were ugly

You see this kind of thing only among 2nd or 3rd gen Asian Americans. For Asian Asian men or even for 1st or 1.5 gen Asian American men I believe Asian women would still be their top choice.

The clip in question is fake😭We go to uni together and girl and guy are good friends. The guy who made the tik tok didn’t tell them he would edit it to make it look non-satirical.

I always thought "snow bunnies" meant cute girls that like to ski/snowboard

They want normal Af and not bananarangs.

THEYRE FRIENDS!

As an Asian American guy with the Asian guys denying Asian women topic. All Asian guys should see contents of characters on the inside for Asian girls without being racist.

"If I catch my kids saying this shit, I would drop them immediately." Reminds me of Anthony Jesenik's "Dropping Babies" 🤣

I see many Asian woman white guy couples that would look at me when I walk pass them like I was going to judge them. I don't even give them (Asian girls) the respect to look into their eyes. My mind: "girl, there's so many of you. You're just a number"

I like Margot Robbie sometimes but dude is crazy to think that first girl was somehow a 1 or 2, even if she's not your type

I've preferred Asian and Latino guys forever. Gals do not know what they are missing by excluding dating them. Just like who you like and be happy. Lots of great Asian guys out there who will make great partners, I've never understood why there's this stigma they are not desirable.

I’m an Asian guy who’s married to a white girl. I don’t have anything against Asian women but I just never been attracted to them honestly. Everyone has a preference and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I’m 5’2” Asian guy, in athletic shape, successful in my career, charismatic personality…I dated different women and ended up marrying a hot white women in 2015, Pre-K Pop boom and Crazy Rich Asians. Height isn’t everything if you have the looks, success, and everything else. Someone out there will be interested.

The comment correcting snowbunnies in regards to AAVE... Speaking as a black Millennial from MD... Yes Snow Bunny is an AAVE term, but At least where im from in the DMV, it never referred to specifically white women who like black guys, Snow Bunny was/is any white woman. If you're looking for something that references white women who specifically like black men... check out Spades Tattoos, though the spades tattoo isnt from AAVE or black culture, its a thing from white people who fetishize black men. Any black guy, with self respect, that sees white women with a spades tattoo, (especially on their ankle or wrist) should just avoid them. They're probably into raceplay too, and it's a fair chance they're not safe to engage with.

Interesting...the African American community has dealt with this theme for years...Just check back when they age to 40 and the skin looks 65+. Please stop with these fetishes

True love is a really rare thing. To limit yourself based on ethnicity or skin color is setting yourself up for a lot of pain in the future.

The categories in this discussion are hilarious

The majority of my Asian buddies have married white or Latina women. I’m the only one from the group that married an Asian woman.

Asian women who were vocal about only dating white guys & bashing Asian guys had a lot of visibility. As time went on, Asian guys got tired of it. I’m a 50 year old Filipino guy and growing up, Asian girls would not give me the time of day… some called me ugly to my face! When a white girl said I was “hot”, I couldn’t believe it! So I think Asian guys are more and more dating white girls because we’re tired of being berated by the loud, racist Asian girls. Not all Asian women are like this, but the ones who are drown out the Asian girls who aren’t as vocal.

Them self hating girls don't speak for all asian women. Don't let it discourage you, and make you sour bruh. Always shoot your shot reguardless, never know who likes eggroll until you try. Rejection is a thing, the world isnt going to end. What is worst than rejection is regret. Be smooth, dont let them trigger you, the world is huge, god have a plan for everyone of us. Just sayin' tho.

cool hair, David.

Don't think we can make such a generalization off a few TikToks 😬

Oh the Hell I will get from this comment, but this is something my boyfriend who is Asian has said before. Ive been with him for 15 years and as he put it " Asian women have a fuck ton of plastic surgery to get features you only find on somebody in the west, they wear fake blue or green contacts, and they dye their hair blonde and Red they also like to look as pale white as possible. He said they can say what they want but those are traits and features you only see on a white girl why have an imitation when I can get the real thing. So fellas, dont settle get the real thing".

"A larger portion of white women are not like Margot Robbie, while a larger portion of latinas are thick latinas and a larger portion of Asian women are petite Asian women." Agree 100%. White guy here, didn't know how much thin/petite was my type until I went to China. Just finding a thin white woman with nice proportions in the US is like a needle in a haystack. Meanwhile in China it's like another Tuesday.

I’m 1/2 Asian and 1/2 white (look Latino). For many years it was only short Asian girls that would date me. That’s not really a bad thing, even though I’m also attracted to other races. I have Asian guy friends that only want to date white women. I think that it’s like a status symbol for some Asian guys to have a white wife/girlfriend. I know white guys that will only date Asian women. The most important thing is to find a nice, reasonable, and sane partner. Everything else doesn’t matter.

Im asian and have no preference race wise. As long as they are attractive in my eyes. I

Ngl I was about to call cap on your video (regarding Asian men being able to date outside their race) until I reevaluated my dating history this year. Realized I never got a second date with an Asian girl but got second dates with non-Asian women. And most of my dates have been with non-Asian women, not that I purposefully made it that way.

I wannna see a Sophie Turner with a Kylie Jenner's bodyguard, a Young Mazino with a Jennifer Laurence..😂 But are Asian men denying Asian women?? Not at all..🫶🏻