They probably did that to spite someone they thought could afford more. Get them to, out of a sense of indignation, demand the high tier wedding that's 7 figures. Whether you have more or not there's always a salesmen around the corner trying to take everything you have.
Right my parents got married in the 60s my mom spend 300 on her dress my granny lost her 💩 when she heard how much she paid for her dress they got married at my mom's church and had cake that my great uncle who was a baker made so probably was free made and punch at the reception they had no honeymoon but went to the house my dad bought for them
@@bodaciousmos That's just how it is. If you are going to go to that type of venue it is gonna cost you. It's like going to a theme park and paying 5 dollars for a bottle of water.
The cost of my wedding will make you cry. Dress - $75.00 Shoes - $15.00 Marriage license - $20.00 Blood test in 1982 - $20.00 Rings - QZ, $15.00 for the set. (Hubby repurposed his prom suit, cowboy boots and cowboy hat.) My great uncle, who was an elder of his church, was the one that married us in his home. We didn't get any pictures of our wedding because everybody forgot their camera, including us. But, we were married for 35 years. He left this world 5 years ago.
I sincerely have to know What thought process leads one to become a marriage counselor. Like. How did you decide this is your life calling. I need to know
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 I set out to be a sex therapist (which I also do, and the why is that it's FASCINATING and so central to who humans are, even though we never talk about it) and the marriage just kind of came out of that.
@@FebbieG nah that’s fucked up. People can fuck up your shit at literally any event but a WEDDING?? That’s sure to go right 9/10 and even if it doesn’t the damage wouldn’t be obscene. You sound money hungry and greedy. Capitalism really has you guys not thinking critically
Calling it “mid level” is a well known tactic: they know that no one talks about wedding costs, so by calling “average” premium services they ensure that a) you feel bad about saying that you’d want a below-average wedding and accept those crazy fees and b) overtime the “average wedding” becomes more and more of a financial burden
And she's an incredibly wealthy American woman. she needs to do some self reflection and see why people wanna charge her over half a million for a wedding lol
My parents got married in a local church with not much pageantry. They saved every year to take a trip somewhere in the world around their anniversary date and never took us kids. 😂 All of us kids did the same with our respective spouses. The wedding isn’t the goal…the marriage and a life full of love and memories is the goal! ❤
My man and I are currently planning a trip to Vegas where we’ll get married lol only us two are invited and my parents decided to gift us the trip for Christmas and offered to watch our four month old
my parents only got a formal photo taken and sent it to my grandparents after they got married(did the paperwork) in another country. while their marriage didn’t last, it’s tempting for me to do the same
Yes to this, should be able to have something nice for $5k or under. People who are engaged for like 10 years while they "save up for a big wedding" should adjust their expectations, just get married already and use the savings for something more important.
That's why we just eloped to our usual vacation spot. It was super special, low stress and a memory we'll cherish for the rest of our lives. I highly recommend eloping. If your families want a wedding, THEY can throw a party afterwards.
Hmmm yeah, no. My husband and I spent our hard earned money and went to Hawaii by ourselves, married in Hawaii and vacationed for almost a month. Came home and had a beautiful backyard wedding in our own home to share with our families. After 12 yrs, I still have very fond memories every time I think of how we decided to do for our wedding and did not put our finances at risk. Never once regretted it!!
@@paulanthonyhoeflich8988, it was amazing! It also showed us who was really with us. Some of the guests didn’t even bother show up to our backyard wedding, the ones who were pushing us to have this extravagant wedding. They missed out on the best home wedding and on being present to share this special day with us. We had a Hawaiian themed wedding, everyone was allowed to dress comfortable with Hawaiian attire, tiki bar, a life sized fresh oyster boat. Catered food, including servers, full sized bottles of liquor on each table, wedding cake, dessert, a dj and dance floor. The ambiance was wonderful with hundreds of handmade flowers hung from our dozens of trees in the backyard with string lights everywhere. We partied till 2am!
The problem isn't that "weddings are scams", the problem is the shallow, materialistic ego that demands an unnecessarily extravagant production when the only thing that truly matters is the sincere desire of two people that want to live their lives together. My personal anecdotal experience has been that the people who go all out monetarily for their weddings tend to have the shortest and/or most miserable marriages. 🤷♀️
Facts! It's just like, imo, the people who are the most loud on social media about their partner and how perfect their relationship is - are the most unhappy in it. It's almost like the worse it is the more you want to prove to everyone else how great it is. Not always, but still a lot of the time.
Me and my partner plan to elope months before, have a small ceremony for our families more than anything, then just hire a room and have a party with our friends. I dont care about whats "meant to" happen at a wedding, i just need a room a bar and a speaker with my phone so i can celebrate with my friends hahaha
Or wedding planners and vendors taking every opportunity to overcharge and scam every single nickel from desperate couples who just want a nice wedding experience.
@@LenaEliana14 Truly "desperate couples" who "just" want a nice wedding experience don't *need* planners, they just need to make a few phone calls their damn selves. As for vendors, they charge based on your choices. If you choose extravagant, you pay extravagant prices. If you choose modest, you pay more reasonable prices. Once again, put in the effort if it's important to you and make a few phone calls to shop around. So I'll reiterate that it's the shallow, materialistic ego that demands an unnecessarily extravagant production that turns an affordable, simple wedding into an overcharging scam.
Tip: Never EVER say anything is for a wedding. People like flowers sellers, cupcake/cake people, etc will jack up the prices really high. You do have to know what you want when going into the stores though.
I got married in a simple white sun dress, picked my own daisies, used the “ free beach” for my venue… We we planning on spending the the money we set aside on taking everyone out to dinner ( we had a small wedding) to a swanky beach restaurant. A dear friend picked up our whole tab as our wedding present…. Buy a house instead of wasting all that money in one day… We still kiss in our house everyday grateful we never started our marriage in debt… Spoiler we are still happily married 27 years later!!! I had a perfect wedding! Love is priceless!
That sounds like a dream! I've never been keen on marriage, much less a wedding, but if it's like yours then I wouldn't mind it! A nice get together of close friends and families witnessing a special moment in your life is really all I can hope for!
@@Onurtime if they see it is actually for a wedding then they will bill you the difference afterward. A lot of staff and managers stay around for big events like that so you have to make it look like a party for something other than a wedding at all times so no father daughter/mother son dances, first dances , cake cutting, wedding presents, etc. I had a friend do this where we had the wedding at the church and the reception somewhere else and made it look like a reunion, it can work as long as everyone at the party knows what's up and dosent blow your cover >.
i remember someone said once if you wanna make money go into funerals or weddings because in both, peoples mind is somewhere else, either from sadness or excitement , but its where people spend the most.
Me and my husband spent $1, 800 on our wedding. I wore my husbands grandmothers dress from the 50’s. Been married 5 years and together for 10:) no fucking way would I ever spend that much and I have stage fright anyways. I almost passed out at my wedding just from 40 friends and family I knew staring at me all at once 😅
okay, the flowers are really the farmer + the wholesaler + the seller + the florist but add in the cost of preservation and transportation so that’s why they’re so expensive 😭
@@alwayschange1100 do you know how much it costs to grow these things?? it’s literally efforts of multiple people. if you want cheaper flowers, grow them yourself.
Depends on type of flower and the time of year. If you’re going seasonal they’re not that expensive to grow. It’s the growing them in a greenhouse across the world and getting them shipped that’s expensive. Plus every person along the way getting a cut. I Was just in Seattle and they had huge dahlia bouquets for $20. That would cost $80-120 from a florist anywhere else. But it’s local growers selling them at a market. And it’s fall.
@@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 if that shocks you, you’ll be surprised to hear the average spent on a wedding is about $25-40K in the US for about 100 people. Most is spent on venue and catering.
It’s not the wedding planners fault that weddings in lake como Italy are expensive. It’s not a rip off just because it’s out of her budget. That villa is literally the one of the most expensive venues out there... of course it was gonna be expensive.... plus that spreadsheet included fireworks, which is unnecessary
So many vendors go "oh it's for a wedding??? Add $$$$$$$ to the price, it's a special day". I read a reddit story where the OP was a makeup artist and the bride had booked her to do makeup but didn't tell her that it was for a wedding. When the makeup artist OP overheard someone simply *mention* it was for a wedding and OP upcharged the bride w/o even telling her. The literal only difference was some stupid setting spray.
Yes! Weddings are so expensive and planners add a lot more on top. Married 8 years ago now. In UK had a village hall, local church and Hog roast, very laid back. Got my dress off the sale rack and hired suits, got a friend to help with the car. Paid just over £1500 all in. Absolutely everything in that and it was the best day ever. Your marrying the love of your life. Don’t get into debt for it. The only thing that matters is the love you two have and the life you will spend together.
My destination wedding including dress, flowers, photos, web streaming, and a 10 day stay at this amazing bed and breakfast was 4200 dollars. His parents have us 3000 dollars for the wedding. My parents covered travel. We were responsible for about 1000 dollars of it. It was great.
Told the designer I wanted a dress as "bridesmaid" for a wedding and gave the "brides" specifications....paid 1/3 of the price for the same dress vs if I declared it as a wedding gown.
Exactly. If it's not necessary - don't mention it's a wedding - say it's a party, family event, whatever, and you will get lower prices 9/10 times. A lot of things you need for this beautiful wedding/reception are not limited to weddings only so nobody will give a fuck. And even if they do find out and get mad at you for not letting them scam you - they won't do shit - if they tried to raise a price all of a sudden it would be a physical evidence they're overpricing for no actual reason.
It’s sick that they up charge because they know women really care about there special day and will pay more. Why not just charge what the service is actually worth. Sheesh
So, instead of labeling your celebration “Wedding” call it a “family reunion” which technically it is a gathering of long distant family and friends to celebrate the “union” of the Guests of Honor. As soon as you say Wedding to any venue or vender prices are ten times more than any other gathering.
My mom and step dad got married in our somewhat small backyard- we had around 20 or so people come- all the chairs were mis matched, the photographer was my moms friend who did it on an iPhone, my mom wore a dress that was the furthest thing away from a “real” wedding dress, my step dad wore a polo and a pair of shorts, I don’t think there was a cake, the food and drinks were what we had at home, and I was told a few years later the decor was from our local store which they spent less then 20 bucks on, and they were married by my step dads best friend. There was little to no expense- the expense was the rings (a beautiful big diamond for my mom, and a small one for me) (he proposed to me before my mom, making sure I was okay with him being part of my life) and the other expense was a beautiful blue dress that 7 year old me wore and felt so beautiful in- they are a happy couple almost 10 years later and my stepdad is one of the biggest parts of my life ❤
I'm planning my wedding now. It's all about your expectations and size of guest list. My guest list is 50 people. I'm getting local, in season flowers and the price is just over $500. Cake will be between $200 to $300. Invitations were a couple hundred from etsy, etc.
I had a perfect wedding for under 7 grand. Just takes creativity and the main thing is finding a location that is affordable and a dress (custom dresses can look better than 20,000 dresses). Keep the wedding small. Get creative. Biggest cost should be photography flowers rentals and if you have a videographer. You can find location, decor, dresses, tuxedos, all at amazing costs. But good photogs and flowers and the decor that you need to rent like chiavari chairs and lounge furniture add up. You would have thought me wedding was ATleast 30 grand.
My parents got married in Cyprus for £7000 in 2009 as a gift from my grampa. My dad definitely took advantage of the stock market crash went all out for surprisingly cheap. They are now divorced lol what a scam marriage is for the guy.
@@DwarfDt yeah like spend all our money for a wedding then provide and meet their needs then struggle with ourselves mentally till they leave us and then we become more depressed and broken 🤣
I had a beautiful backyard wedding with lots of friends and family potluck dinner total cost of our wedding was $500. I could’ve spent thousands of dollars but I enjoyed my wedding and didn’t desire for anything more.
My wedding was only about $3,000 and our honeymoon was about $2,000. We had a full venue and photographer, and our honeymoon was at a nice resort on the water.
Used to be a caterer and yeah, just saying something is a wedding is an increased cost. My perfect wedding is me and SO on a beach with an officiant and photographer that's it... I'll use hotel staff or random strangers for witnesses lol and spend all my hard earned money on an awesome honeymoon
We got married at city hall and then had a small reception at Mandarin with 40 of our closest friends and family. I always like my life to stay humble, because I feel it’s the key to having a better marriage.
Advice given to me from couples married over 50 years...."marry in Vegas" "marry at the courthouse" "never marry a woman willing to put you in years of debt for a 1 day party"
@@TonyEbukaSG this video shows the technique that girls use that are willing to put you in debt for years...show him your dream princess wedding which he can't afford (which he'll feel guilty about) then you come in with your dream wedding price (without the princess over the top crap) which he will suck up cause your "settling" and he wants to make you "happy". Women are shamless when it comes to their wedding and the divorce that will come later when she rakes you over the coals with the kids. Really sad but true
Single person, but I was told by my older sister that it's best if you don't say you're getting married when buying supplies. Then they don't try to wring a bunch of money out of you.
Lol the “mid tier” tactic worked too well on her, it works on every rich gold digger housewife. They always have to have the best and when u price the mid high already that just puts them in the position to want to outdo the “average” person.
I think having a wedding and in another country where theres villas definitely a luxury. Like you dont necessarily need it but it’s a very nice moment to have. Its like a regular home or a home on the beach. Totally different vibe and ambiance
As someone who was married a year ago I picked somewhere everyone had to travel but wasn't 'instagram' popular so it wasn't hiked up and but still meant a lot to us. I also found a coupon for invites, save the dates and thank yous. I also made sure I found a sale for my dress and my husband's outfit. I overall paid just over $25,000 for an eighty person wedding and I pinched, DIYed and stressed for eight hours of fun.
you spent 25k for just a one night experience? wouldnt it been better to spend those 25k on a trip that you enjoy with you new husband . is an experience that would always be remembered! you can get married in court for 200 bucks
@@ezequielmartinez3582 I mean I could but an experience is unique to each person. And for my husband and I celebrating our marriage with our family was what we wanted. We can always travel later but we loved our wedding and our honeymoon after and will definitely remember this
@@LatiWins for some. But my family is scattered across the states so everyone would have to travel to a destination anyway. Might as well make it a beautiful mountain area that we can all go hiking and swimming in.
They could have a grand playground reopening at the same time. Then they can call the fire department to free people after most of the adults get stuck in the playground. It might even make the funny news segment.
Mine wedding was around $5800. We booked a 2 day Airbnb at Niagara Falls, Canada. The hosts were amazing enough to provide chairs for the ceremony, long tables for the reception, and a simple wedding arch to get married under. My dress was under $300 online, and his suite was around $200 brand new and tailored. The Airbnb was $1700 for 2 nights and we bought our rings on amazon haha. Overall, the costs didn’t damage me brutally and I have no regrets!
The amount of money some people spend on a wedding could easily fund a more memorable vacation rather than a 1-day spectacle that you won’t really get to experience because of all of the stress.
Fun little other side story. My mom is a wedding planner. Has had her own business for 18 years but has been planning wayyyyyy longer. i cannot stress this enough WEDDING PLANNERS ARE NOT SCAMMING YOU. Day of is hours of work up and out the door by 6:45am often not home until 4:00am, set up tear down, facilitating a wedding is no joke! It is a ton of work making sure everything runs smoothly and that things get done on time. That’s just day of. Often it’s a year OR MORE of planning. That means calling vendors, placing orders, scheduling tastings, all so you just have to send some email confirmations. On top of that there are bridezillas and their equally awful mothers, claiming “they aren’t getting enough attention” when the planner can have as many as 50 or more clients all needing things done and you took seven weeks to respond to an email. It is ridiculous. And then planners only see a QUARTER of that money the rest goes to venues, paying for flowers (and yes they really are that expensive when you have 12 bud vases, 13 bouquets, 7 corsages, and then flower arrangements for each table, alter/aisle arrangements), caterers, wedding cakes, band, photographers, videographers, rentals, etc. these things don’t just HAPPEN so next time you want to rant about how your event planner is over priced, remember all they have to deal with FOR YOU.
Married 19 years. Eloped. No guests invited. No photos. We loved it!🥰. We do not give gifts for xmas, bdays, anniversaries or valentines. Our marriage IS the prize to us🤩
I have said this after participating in 2 expensive weddings. My husband and I went to Reno, NV and eloped with or close family. I wanted to spend our money on us and our bachelor/bachelorette party and our honeymoon. I absolutely refused to enter marriage in debt due to a ceremony. 10yrs later my husband still gives me butterflies and I am more and more proud of our decision not to but into the capitalism that is the wedding buisness
i spent $3,000 total on our wedding. We had a backyard wedding and it was the best decision we could have made. Our families all pitched in for decor, food and it made it so everyone felt a part of our wedding. We had a beautiful wedding in my aunts backyard with 45-50 people.We kept it simple and truly knew that our wedding was an important day more importantly, we also knew our marriage lasts a lifetime.
It sounds like you're expecting a giant wedding with a lot of actually expensive things,, and not wanting to pay the price for it....? I have never seen an actual wedding cost that much..... all of my families weddings were gorgeous and were nowhere near 100k
I found $5000 for 20 ppl in Positano at a hotel without a wedding planner, which is not bad. I usually plan everything so this is doable for me. I used to be a makeup artist so I’ll do my own makeup and hair. I like keep things minimal. My budget on a dress is $100. I don’t fancy expensive lavish dress. It’s all about location and food for me.
I read that the cost of the wedding is directly proportionate to the happiness of the couple- the more it costs, the less happy they start out. My wedding was $1000, including the cost of my dress and my husband’s suit. We got married at a friend’s house and have been blissfully wedded for almost 14 years now. Don’t make the mistake of pinning all your dreams on one day. You have a lifetime of beautiful memories to make with your future husband! Let it be special, but don’t let it ruin you financially, psychologically, or emotionally.
They're scamming you. I work at a "high end accommodation" The price given to you is way too high. The highest would be around £300,000.00 (not counting the celebrity weddings)
My wedding cost about $45k. It was at a beautiful, historic mansion. Because it was on the brick patio, next to the pool, we didn't have many flowers. The venue had huge pots with Japanese Maples, hydrangeas, etc. Biggest Costs (other than venue): - Dress $5k (designer, silk taffeta, handmade in Italy) - Cake $1k (6 tier, each a different flavor, over 3 ft tall) - Catering $8k I saved a lot of money by making champagne truffles for favors. My cousin makes gorgeous, custom invitations, so she gave me the family discount.
As a florist I spent 2 years on our wedding. We got married on a Friday... Instead of 4,500.00 rental for venue... 850.00. We kept our invites to 50. I made all the invitations and the programs myself. We spent 9,000.00 on the entire wedding and his parents paid for the dinner. Save your money and spend it on a future home/family. If your day costs more than a down payment on a house... you are not going to be happy.
My wedding last month costed around $600. 12 people invited/attended, hosted at my parents backyard. $400 for food. $80 for flowers. Beautiful dress and tuxedo bought used for about $150.
I got married 9 years ago. Spent only $7,000. I regret two things: (1) I wish I spent more on a better photographer. (2) I wish I spent more time picking my dress. That’s it. I don’t care about any of the rest. If you want to blow 20 or 30 grand on a wedding, okay you do you, or you could use it for (1) a down payment on a house, or (2) pay off your cars, or (3) stay in an amazing 5 star suite for your honeymoon. Seriously, unless you’re planning to run for a political race and therefore need to impress everyone with your awesomeness, don’t dump a lot of money in your wedding.
Hey little tip from someone who was nearly married (long story) for as much of it as you can say your planning for an event, say wedding and everything gets marked up
As a wedding vendor, my pricing doesn't change unless the destination changes. My base service prices are the same, the mileage, travel fees and lodging is the only thing I charge extra for.
So many people I know have started saying they are planning a family reunion (with a theme) so they get an actually reasonable price for the same things they would have in their wedding.
My sister’s wedding: Dress - 400 after alterations (and that was adding a whole layer to it) Food and flowers - 500 (catered and provided by H‑E‑B) Venue - 2000 (we rented out a Small building)
