My grandfather used to be proud of what he bought for my grandma. Diamonds/Furs etc. Back in the Day in society what you could Provide was a source of pride.
Modern men today literally call other men simps for happily providing for their wives. They’re sick in the head, they have it all the way backwards but can’t figure out why women are refusing to date them
Goddess SheRa is on point; however in today’s climate,,,…I NEVER recommend dating any dusty at ANY age. Dusty is EVIL, POOR, JEALOUS & THEY HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE BY KILLING YALL!!!! All Baby Goddesses RUN!!!!
Realized a man tries to get you emotionally connected so that we stop asking or feel bad for asking for anything. Once I stopped caring I realized he was a dusty and didn’t want to provide.
oh damn 😭 I think he tried to do this to me! He invested in me somewhat so I thought it's going to get better in time, but something was a little off like he wasn't very enthustiastic about it. And now he's saying things like, "the most important thing is that were together" ummm no not necessarily
She’s right! Once I got my body right in the gym started wearing subtle makeup and classy outfits, dusties stop coming at me. They knew I was out of their league. Before I had a belly acne no makeup all I attracted were dusties. Level up ladies!
Well done Vicky! Yes, if you make a nice appearance, dusties (except the really good looking ones) stay away because they know that you’re able to get a higher caliber of man so you won’t give them the time of day. If you’re not looking your best, dusties will come for you because they think like gold-diggers. They know that a conventionally unattractive woman who wants a man will pay for him in order to say that she has a man.
soooo true! i changed everything about myself. made more money, cleared my skin, tried new hairstyles, lost 30lbs, got a new wardrobe EVERYTHING. i get way more positive attention now and muchhhhh better treatment!!!
“Anything a man has to WORK for he is going to VALUE” Wow Shera you are have wisdom beyond your years!! This is so true. Dustys are the way they are because they have no work ethic
My ex treated me like gold at first. He bought me clothes, took me out, and did everything for me, and we weren't even living together...But as soon as I got cancer he started treating me like crap, and when my hair fell out and I gained weight from my treatments, he would criticize me and he NEVER took me out for 3 years, and I even gave him $3500 for a down payment on his truck because he was caring for my ferrets, and he then treated me even worse..Now my hair is back and I'm loosing weight (even on chemo), and it pissed him off even more when he saw a picture of me all done up with my hair, makeup, and nails done, he broke up with me and took the dust out along with him🤷. Lol
@@TIAOFNEBULA As a nurse I usually don’t see Black men at all.. I see white, Mexican and Asian men at appts and damn near stalking their wives usually black women have their kids and black men usually have me.. their nurse💯
That’s how my sons father trapped me. He met me when I was at my worst but he knew how successful I was before and trapped me with a baby. He knows if I wasn’t on hard times he wouldn’t have gotten any of my time or attention.
Yep! This is a FACT!! Most XYs only have the “power” to ruin your lives, especially if you’re a young (& naive) BW trying to navigate early adulthood. They use their 🍆as LITERAL weapon to RUIN YOUR LIFE and try to create a permanent link to you. NEVER BE AFRAID TO WALK AWAY (Run if you need to ladies!) Stay safe, happy, successful and most of all, LOVED! ❤🎉
@AliSand 29 is never too late to get a rich man, just stay away from the dusties, level up and by December you could be spending Christmas with a good rich man, sprinkle✨️ sprinkle✨️ baby✨️
This is my current situation with my marriage and I decided to separate couple months now and set up some standards and he says he will not comply, so now working on my divorce.....sprinkle sprinkle
Shera got my outlook and self love elevated to divinity. I love myself so much now & the only way I’m genuinely happy and ok dating is if he pays for everything. If not I’m excited to stop talking to them asap so I can go back to giving myself my undivided attention.
I have seen a lot of ladies who deep down feel a bit hopeless cz they think they are old for the game or have kids.I personally come from a very conservative men dominated society.Almost all men here want virgins submissive women who cook and clean for them.but i have found a strange pattern in wealthy men here.The wealthier they are, the more they dont expect you to be younger virgin or a maid.shera said this in one of her live videos that the wealthier people dont have these specific demands from you.All you need is to be confident,look good and get infront of them.basically you need that mindset.I know a woman who married a very old millionaire.she lives in a villa ,she doesnt cook or clean,she aint even the age women are preferred.she is enjoying the luxury everyday.when i see her it gives me hope to marry a millionaire.believe me the man just have to like you.A woman isnt needy.she is worth to be cherished.
Excellent comment, Queen Hathor - you make valid points, - a prestigious man needs a woman who presents as like, not as naive, submissive and stupid as youth can be. I'm forty two and ten months into relationship with traditional type fifty six years old, earns 300k with much larger potential starting to happen. We are planning to be married in December, bought me a 50k car a few weeks ago, second engagement ring last week on a whim 😂 , I had begun to love wearing dresses from the fifties, this is an aspect which he says attracted him initially.
You are 10,000% correct. A true provider, especially a wealthy one, wants a woman that will make him look good. It’s not just the looks - if you want to be wifed up, you have to be able to carry intelligent conversations so he’s not embarrassed by you at parties. They don’t want you to have a shady past that’ll hurt their reputation, but they’re not hung up on whether you’re a virgin. Also, age doesn’t matter. If you make a nice appearance, you still get attention. Amal Clooney, Lauren Sanchez, and Claudia Hubner (girlfriend of Wolfgang Porsche) are great examples of older women who were able to get a rich man when they were older.
Ladies, this is a lecture from Professor Shera where you need to pay full attention and take notes. There is some really good information on how to get a provider. Her advice for the high-earning woman is spot on. Too many high earning women make the mistake of leading with their purse, which is what attracts the male gold-diggers and build-a-bears. You have to come off as if you’re looking for someone who’s a higher earner than you.
I dated a man that’s a CPA at a major financial company and complained about getting A NEW TIRE! And kept buying used tires on his Mercedes & never got the issue fixed! That’s when I knew he was a DUSTY! Then he got mad at me cuz my daddy was paying cash for my brand new car and told me I needed to do it myself 🤭😂🤣
All women everywhere are coming together under this Queens Vision and AGREEING on IT ALL. These men think they are the prize and my male friends think this is foolish talk. I laugh so hard, because most of them LOVED KEVIN SAMUELS and ANDREW TATE antics. I just cleared dust from my life Shera. Thank you sweetheart. I have been a wife for 20 years and my husband passed last year. I am the prize and a Wife. So im not taking wooden nickels from nobody. The standards are so high from my late husbands treatment for me and my values from myself. I love this channel. Ladies knock the dust off your shoulders. And keep working on yourself until you see PRIZE in the mirror. I'm rooting for us all. Addendum : A lot of these males that stay in my inbox love to say that there are not a lot of millionaires and that women need to be happy that a man is thinking of them and wants them . I told all of them to level up . Get their money up and stop Trying to date women who are not even thinking of you . And are not in your league. If men would focus more on creating new streams of income and less on staying on their DMS . Shera you are sent from heaven baby . I’m sharing your page with every woman I know . We are done with the dust . And I’ve been using a lot of your suggestions and Baby everything is working towards me , the prize .
But men are the prize, women are mad because men are starting to understand that now. Take away 🐈 and what do y'all offer? Headaches, pre-owned coochie, bills to pay, possibly kids? Men are waking up thanks to podcasts like Fresh and Fit, Kevin Samuels, etc....
Yes! Love to hear this! And Ladies on a date, some kind of way, name drop... Red pill, Kevin Samuels or Andrew Tate. If your date admits he watches any of these fools.... You better RUN !
@@tripleb1960 bc every woman deserves to be happy and have a family of her own since birth right. She has to choose wisely to get with a rich provider who will fully support her throughout her pregnancy, instead of working like a slave. A woman works 10x harder pregnant, than non pregnant. Not worth it if she can be taken care of by a rich provider who cares for her and kids.
I used to be friends with my brothers high school girlfriend. She was a CNA for 20 years(since high school) and had a 40 year old dusty living with her. Her only requirement was that he cooked dinner and had a beer ready when she got home. He didn’t even have an ID. During the relationship he created a son with someone else. As soon as the son was born he broke up with her went and got an ID and a job and left her. She built him up for his baby mama.
My bf is 37, lives in his mom's basement, doesn't have a job, plays videogames all day, only eats junk food, won't even look at a vegetable, doesn't drive, didn't call me on my bday or get me a gift, doesn't cook or clean or do his own laundry, and expects me to go 50/50 on everything. I'm 33, have a full time job AND my own small art business, I live alone, I'm vegan, I go to the gym, I've had my driver's license since I was 18, I'm about to finish paying off my car which I bought brand new a few years ago, I cook like beast, my apartment is always clean, I run my own errands, I pay all my bills, I have a ton of hobbies, and I'm adamantly childfree. My bf expects us to live together sometime next summer lmao I see my life flashing before my eyes, I know what my potential future looks like and I want no part in it. The only reason I'm still with him is because I'm saving up to buy a washing machine and his mom lets me do my laundry for free at her place.
Dusty couldn’t pay the rent this month I had to pay half 😢 he said he would pay back and take me out next week , found out today he was gonna take me out using the money he promised to pay me back ! I hate it here so bad ! Planning a get away 🏃♀️
My husband did the same to me lol.. he was supposed to pay the rent but unfortunately my card was on file, and now he won’t pay me back. I feel so trapped and thinking if I leave him, I’ll regret.
@belltowndaisy we don’t have any kids yet and I’m saying regret divorcing. Yes he could pay me back but he’s saying no, he won’t pay me back and also I’ have been the breadwinner in the relationship since we got married. He has 5k in his bank account and since I have 21k he won’t pay me bakc
I don’t know what bible y’all reading but In the Bible the man is supposed to provided , protect and lead the household. God did not intend for us to be with Dusties and feminine men 😂😂😂!
I just turned 23 yesterday! You have to make sure your gaining something because your time is the one thing you’ll never get back. I would rather be by myself then to linger around in a place I’m not valued.
When the lady asked what will u do if your man cheats? My answer, If he's a dusty, I'm out, but what I have going on now, I have too much to lose by letting the marriage go. Land, money, house, cars, black card member, multiple businesses provider, etc... please
Thank you for this video - it helped me to realize that I keep dealing with Dusties!🤬 I no longer want to deal with them in any shape or form! Thank you so much for this video, I’m watching it from the beginning to the end.❤❤❤👍👍👍👍👍
I have never seen anyone as strong as Shera. I admire you a lot I really wish I could be as confident as you. People use to tell me that I am weird whenever I use to tell them that I need a provider guy, not dusty or the 50/50 men. Women from my country are completely okay with dating & marrying dusties and men in my country understood that women will accept them no matter what,infact most of the men from my country prefer being house husbands.Just because most of the women from my country accept dusties ,all the men in my country are becoming either dusties or 50/50 men as they find it very convenient & comfortable living off a woman.Coming across your channel & watching your content has given me a lot of hope & I feel like I will definitely get what I desire. Thank u so much Shera, love u lots💖
@@Monika444Moni I'm surprised you don't find that kind of man in india, there are plenty of traditional men there but the misogyny is strong too. Tell you father to buy you a well to do man lol, they're literally for sale to the highest dowry bidder there. Best wishes ❤
Men make my stomach turn just a lil bit I was with one for 10years I'm 30 now and definitely not dating for love but I'm here for getting my bills paid and trip on a man dime all that other stuff I'm good on
51:32 self confidence 1:00:08 coffee dates 1:01:20 how meet men with $$$ 1:11:15 dam cant believe 1:16:29 men work for that number 1:32:15 don't travel in packs
Shera I’m not sure if you’ll see this but I want to thank you so much. Your wisdom could not have come at a better time. I just got ghosted by a dusty and instead of going back begging to fix things, I just let it go and started listening to your videos instead. So many times he’s asked me for money and as much as I wanted to help him, I’m so glad I didn’t. I kept this thought in the back of my mind that if he really loved me - he would never accept my money. Well he did me a favor by leaving my life and finding another sucker . At my big age of 31, I need to find a provider man not providing for a man!
not old … Kim K is 41 single & looking .. you have time & options , continue to level up you’ll b provided rich men date bt 26-34 anyway for stability with the woman .. & if you look 27 @ 31 ur , 28 lol .. get ur bagg babe 😌
Shera I’ve been watching you for almost 4 years.. I found you right after my dad passed - he wanted to make sure I had my head on straight. I’ve watched your channel grow especially the last few weeks; I’m so proud of & happy for you 🥹🩷
Again, you're on point! 100% correct. Sprinkle Sprinkle 😉 Teach them up in the way that they should go and once they're older they won't depart from it, Shera😄
There’s no such thing as a “high valued man”. That whole concept is a facade that followers and non critical thinkers like to label themselves nowadays to give fake meaning to their lives. It’s just another intangible stamp of honor.
Thank you for your video♥️ just my personal experience for plastic surgery, it made me so much more confident and helped me in so many aspects of life! Sometimes it can be a good option in my opinion… if it makes you love and cherish yourself more♥️ sprinkle sprinkle✨
The car thing really triggered me. My ex's car broke down and he couldn't afford a new one. we were taking the bus together everywhere. i was so pickmeisha... understanding his situation. when we broke up he had to borrow his father's car to pick up his stuff.omg😢😮 triggered. I'll stay single AF😊
I've been there, done that, and worse girl!! Stay single!! YES you'll have lonely times, but girl let me tell you, you'll be so happy you're not dealing with the dusty stress!
My cousin is a dusty.His ex girlfriend is a pickmeisha.She is desperate of the dust.She is too masculine,brags about her accomplishment in school that she is first honor,she let my cousin know that her family has occupy a position in government office of fire protection here in my country. Let me tell you what I learned on her mistake: *She pays on dates *She brags and invite him to her family too early as a result when she gave her coochie,some of her family laugh at her because after she gave her gave her coochie,my cousin wait for opportunity to cheat and leave her. *She controls his phone asking his messenger and whatever apps he uses(as a result he still finds ways to cheat) *He makes her thinks she controls him(l learned this lesson!😂😂 *She let him go to her family's house,live with him,she and her family feeds him,give him clothes and he is free to live rent-free😛😛 *She gives higher gifts more than he gifted her(or more or less he didn't give her any gift(as a result she resents him more and willing to die for him when they broke up) What else?? Umm...let me tell you! She already know that my cousin doesn't have a job but she still goes with him,makes her life revolve around him,and she doesn't let him invest on her. Also,when this ex-girlfriend feels like she feels like she doesn't have monthly period because he gets her coochie,he told her to drink cold water(implying that he doesn't want her to get pregnant and that he doesn't want responsibility. Now,my cousin and him broked up.He is now has a new girlfriend who is older than him and he makes her his girlfriend and pursue her because she graduated in college,has a job of real estate broker and live in a condo 😂😂.He upgrades his new lifestyle!! I'm telling you!He is using this women!And he does it with confidence and no shame! My mother laugh at my aunt for having a dusty son!None of her children did that ridiculous audacity😂! Recently,her ex-girlfriend has a motor accident and this dusty son doesn't even visit her.She goes to the hospital depressed and heartbroken. My dusty cousin doesn't care anything!He now has a new girlfriend,(eyeing on her job,new condo and all the benefits) and they already broke up with his ex- girlfriend?So why do he care whatever happens to his ex girlfriend who helps him when he also has a motor accident and nearly cost his life? My dear!Let's all learn from this and be ruthless just like these men!Let's protect ourselves or we will find ourselves heartbroken,with their disgusting semen in our vagina,or being a single mother. Let's eye for the money,don't get pregnant and don't get attach to these men.Be willing to put yourself first over anything and if you see a dusty,runaway!!! Moreover,don't be desperate!!!
Shera I am sorry but I disagree in one point. There are people (not only women) that need surgery to look presentable. Moreover, if you're trying to be the type of wealthy men you must have some features in face and body depending on the cultural circle that is more accesible to you. For example, if your target are wealthy black men, they usually like the hourglass slim/think shapes. In my case, I wanted to stop attracting black and Spanish men and wanted to attract wealthy white European men so I did what it takes to attract that target. On my second level up process in my lifetime, I lost 56 pounds, got a breast lifting, liposuction in my arms and back and many aesthetic facial procedures that allowed me to have a better shaped and younger face. So ladies, if you see like there's something that doesn't look good at all try to fix it and camouflage it until you get it done because looks really matter. Just don't get those stupidly exaggerated BBLs or huge breasts that only attract drug dealers and don't ruin your faces with overly done noses and enormous lips that make y'all loom like porn stars. Always make sure any procedure, nails, lashes, clothes, etc looks classy. Also, do not rely just on makeup because at some point that provider man will take you to a spa or on a vacation so what will you do of your skin is invaded with acne or you have blemishes. You have to visit the dermatologist and the dentist as well. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Queen Shera out here saving lives. Thanks for your services. Are you gonna do a tour? I am a gay woman, but will definitely come out to see you to get the tea for my straight sisters. We love you! 🫶🏾🫶🏾
Shera how do I cut off close girl friends who are pickmeshas always talking about their problems with dusties? I don’t even know how to respond to them anymore bc I don’t have anything nice to say
I had my divine feminine awakening in 2020. I came across Shera in 2021 and I learned to set boundaries and create distance with my friends who are pickmeshas. It was too depressing.
I just set my Pickme friends straight when they tell me dusty tales of woe. Surprisingly enough, I still have friends.😂 I just always tell these women that they deserve better and that the guy is a worthless loser. Even if they get mad at me at the time, they always come back, because I’m right about the dude.
If they’re close friends, you should be giving them the game or at the bare minimum comfortable enough to call them out. Sounds like these aren’t “friends” 😅
