Ask Ganjiswag #39 | Junaid Akram 

For the medical student in 5th year, u are just in the end of ur education. Try ur best to complete it. U were such a bright student and u can do it. Become a general practitioner ( easy life, easy job and good income) And make friends in life ❤️

First question Location independence is the highest privilege you can get. 25 to 35 years of age is when every country wants to have skilled people. After this age, your worth declines Your friends now will be lost in their lives in a couple years, and those baithaks are not going to remain forever. And as junaid bhai said, as your friends get rich, their company will change The opportunity you have can get you so far. Just find a purpose. Set some long term goals. It can be something like philanthropy, bringing social change, or it can be a self serving goal like being a billionaire. Set some ambitious goals and it'll get you going

For the last girl I can relate to you on some level. Believe that what has happened to you is not your fault. It never was. Everything happened by the will of Allah. You can still change your life. Don't loose hope in His mercy. Believe me that this life never remain dark always. Good days come specially when you try to change yourself. So show gratitude. Don't put your hopes anywhere else except on Allah. He is the only one who can change your life. Uska hona kaafi hai. You mentioned that you never scored below 89%... It means that you are very capable of achieving big things. Have a mission in life. Help people around you. Do it for the sake of Allah and expect reward from Him only. He's your friend, your protector. So never ever think that He has forsaken you. Don't drink that cockroach killer again. Never do this again. Also remember that Allah tests those whom He loves the most. So stop living for people and start living to please the God Almighty who can change things in the blink of an eye. Obey Him and see your life change. He'll show you the way forward. Do your best and leave the rest to Him. Life is too short. Be strong. You can complete your degree and then do what you are inclined towards. You are free to fly.

Kudos to Junaid Akram for providing his best effort even while fasting!

The amount of consistency 🥵

to the girl who hates her father, I can totally relate to you on many levels. I hope things get better for all of us. :)

To the girl @33:22​-55:24. Being a doctor myself, you have my sympathies. You're going through a rough phase in life but try to deal with your problems one at a time. If I were you I would address my mental health FIRST and I am sure if you're a medical student they wouldn't charge you for it or probably minimally charge you at your hospital (not sure how it is in Pakistani med schools). I suggest you have your daily schedule written down, and ensure that you've given enough time for your hobbies every day. And make sure your hobbies are mostly outdoor. (This has helped me in my bad times) And while you're getting help for your mental health, just be done with your final year, I know it's hard to say than done. But, fortunately, or unfortunately you have to deal with your problems by yourself. And once you're done with your final year, you have a year to plan for yourself during your internship, if you still aren't interested in options like USMLE, Plab, then there are numerous other options available throughout the world like MPH, MHA, Research, MBA, etc. Try to find a positive atmosphere and also surround yourself with positive people, refrain from negative people even if they're your close ones. Lastly, remember that you've hit the rock bottom, and from here the only way out is to rise. And you only live once, you wouldn't want to let this life go easily.

Every passing day, this podcast is becoming relationship advisor

Many prayers for that Dr. Girl. May Allah bless you and give u happiness.

For the girl who hates her father: Dear I am so sorry that you have to go through all this, if you are a muslim I want to advice that please listen surah rehman 3 times a day, talk to your family about Mbbs and start studying the subject of your interest, make dua for yourself everyday. Watch motivational videos daily, before sleeping watch comedy shows so that when you wake up you are fresh. Focus on your career. Appreciate yourself . Best of luck for your future 🙂

Last email: I am no professional therapist, but if you really want someone to talk to and open up whole heartedly, do reply me. I've helped many of my friends in their depressing phase, without any judgement whatsoever.

Mostly I don’t give advices To the girl who wrote last email 📧 1. Don’t be jealous of others leave (social media) 2. Think how your live would be after mbbs 3. Think about things you are greatfull 4.make new friends or hobbies 5. DON’T OVER THINK control yourself 6. Love respect yourself 8. Don’t share your secret 9. Control social anxiety 10. Increase your respect

To the girl who is doing MBBS, lots of prayers for you Allah paak aapki har mushkil aasan karein, aap bilkul kharab nahi hamari society mai hi kuch aese ganday log hain jinki naa nazrein paak hain naa kirdaar, aap ek paak khoobsurat larki hain. Complete your degree for now and then start off with something, earn and save so that later you can move out from the toxicity of your family. Spend on yourself, strengthen your bond with Allah Almighty, spend time with friends, focus on the positive aspects of your life and most importantly don't ever compare yourself with anyone aapko Allah ne mukammal banaya hai aur aap bohat khoobsurat hain. Let things go in a flow. Lots of prayers and pyar for you ❤❤

The first question's reply is so necessary for all young people to hear. Thank you so much for being brutally honest. Needed this

For the last email. Girl complete your degree and start teaching kuch arse ke liye agr medicine ko continue nahi krna . Apko to bht ache colleges me job mil skti hai. Yaha lahore me doctors hi mcat ki tayari krwate Kips wagera me. ya colleges me biology wagera prha kr thora financially stable hon.

33:22 feel really sad for the lady and praying for her. She need to start being happy alone, stop expecting anything from anyone and create her happiness herself.

yar sharam atti ha sun kr jab 25 saal k larkay ma baap ki kamaie pr paal rahay hotay. mai 17 k tha jab kam karna shuru kiya tha or aaj 25 k ho america mai apna ghar ha ghari ha barah engineer ho Mashallah and i takecare of my parents they don't work. so if i can do this so can you. shuru mai barih problems hoti but insan ha hum we manage bs mehnat kartay jao phal khudi milay ga. best of luck to all who are working hard. chordo ishq mashiqya meray dosto jab tumhari jaib mai paisa hoga sub khudi milay ga ;) dekho agar kisi ko lagay k i am showing off tu bhai haq ha mera apni mehnat sey sub banaya :P

I'm high on this series, please keep dropping more and more episodes . #lovefrom 🇵🇰

Agree with Junaid on the last answer. You become mature when you realize that life is very random and unstructured, like a lump of stone, and that you carve your own meaning out of it. Or you can choose to take comfort in the structure that religion, culture or society has pre-fabricated for you. Either way, never compare yourself to others.

Very well said about the girl with depression. I guess it’s clinical depression and she definitely needs medication and therapy with a psychiatrist or psychologist. Know someone with similar circumstances undergoing the treatment and she’s much better. Only after proper treatment you’ll be in a position to strong enough mentally to take charge of your life.

To the girl in the last email Stay strong You are not alone Not many people survive what you are surviving That means you are strong and becoming stronger than ever 13 Reasons why series se aik quote kahoonga “When you're going through a storm Keep going” Eventually, the storm will wither

I can listen to you for hours and hours ..

Appreciate the depth of response, I can see how it has taken an emotional toll on you especially in the last question. But stay motivated you are changing lives out here!

I did not finish the last one. Here's the new one. Consistency at its peak. Still need to watch are we alone 2 podcasts. Got free from the Raza Samo podcast yesterday.

Last line " don't go with the Flow only dead Fishes go with the Flow, take charge of ur life " Goosebumps

About the father: Pretty much 70% of fathers in our country are like him. Forced marriages and toxicity.

To the last email 💔 I can't imagine how much you are going through in your life but suicide is never an option ❌❌❌. Trust me LIFE HAS MANY DOORS. You should try to make some new friends who can pull you out from your depression. Allah bohat tarekon say imtahan layta hay, you just have to bare a little bit more and a door to your destiny will open. And please for the love of God, suicide is NEVER an option ❌. Lots of prayers for you Dr. DON'T QUIT. Abhi to bohat zindagi baki hay.

for the girl who hates their father, its called maladaptive daydreaming when you talk to yourself and let me tell you, It is a SUPERPOWER

Ur podcasts are treat for me🥺❤️❤️❤️

That Birmingham/peshawar relationship is over. Time to recognise and move on, as hard as it may be

My daily dose is this session ☺️ thank you for being consistent

Zabardast podcast and great effort for raising awareness. Proud to be your fellow Karachiite!

"app 25 saal k ho you should have been working along time ago" what a pathatic statement by junaid akram.

For last question (the girl who hate his father/life) " Jis Dor me jeena Mushkil ho Us Dor me jeena lazim hai " So don't lose hope, We're with you! More Power to you!! "

Junaid bhai, love your podcast. I have a humble suggestion for you. Please read the selected emails before the podcast starts. And just summarize for the viewers/listeners during . This way more emails can be catered. Love you from Finland.

totally relatable to the girl who have parents issue , the last question..

For the fellow doctor that wrote the last email: Try contacting the Psych Department of the teaching hospital that is affiliated with your university. Most hospitals provide free or subsidized therapy to their students. Also, it takes comparatively longer for doctors to establish a career. Measuring your success against someone who is in an entirely different line of work is futile. Persevere for medicine and leave the rest to Allah.

best therapist of pakistan hats Off👍🏻

I suggest you record after the iftar, after drinking tea when you're charged up. Because you really looked tired. Love your podcasts though.

The notification of your new video soothes me

For dhaaba guy: why do u not want to use father referral for job? But want to use his funds for your education in Canada? Your father is giving you an opportunity to earn a livelihood. Doesnt make sense to use his funds for studies but not his referral for a job....

To the last question, if you don't want to practice medicine, you can study public health management, and still become independent

Salam Junaid bhai, I listen to your podcast and big fan of yours.You are source of inspiration for many people. I am not judging but I want you to review about a comment you mention about a brother who wanted to stay in Pakistan and hesitant to go to Canada you said "Ek to har cheez he haram kar lee hay hum musalmaoon May Haram kar lee hai" I live in Australia and on every occasion we meet our family and friends and enjoy "in limits". Thanks Yasir

Uploads back to back, you're coming in my dreams now.

For the last question try listening to success stories or Ted stories it can be helpful and therapeutic. Don’t loose hope because these difficulties in life are the best teachers, I have gone through but now MashAllah it’s over I’m happy and grateful to Allah.

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33:22 Really sorry to hear what happened to you It break's my heart As im a doctor myself And i know how hard it is to keep up But my advice is to you reach out for help And plz continue your studies 🙏 You can make something out of it im very sure Allah is with you and those who've done wrong to you they will suffer..

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To the girl who hates her father yaar yah pata nhi kya masla hai my father is well educated but jisay kehtay hai na pare likhay jahlil woh hai i lost my education cuz of my fathers confused mindset and am now struggling daily living in the same house he says to me tum mere kuch nhi lagtay bas kuch oaise kya agai yah samaj tay hai hame jaise paida naa kia hoo khareed lia hoo tension naa lo do small jobs and leave your house i plan to do the same

For the Dr girl in the last question. My advise please somehow complete your last year and alot of other opportunities will open up for you.you can easily move abroad. I'm a Dr in UK.im happy to help if you want to get in touch. Best of luck

Great episode 👍 Just one suggestion - please shoot Ask Ganjiswag episodes only after iftar. Couldn’t feel your energy as compared to previous episodes.

Referring to the Beijing girl It’s very hard to survive in a western country studying , working and dealing with all the pressure and responsibilities. Boys have more to think when it comes to this because they are expected to be the provider in our society. Try to understand him and give him all the time he needs . We guys get need a closure about the status of the relationship and are you guys gonna be together in the future or not . That’s it .

Much respect to Junaid sir, the way you deliver your opinion is commendable.

Great outstanding junaid bhai keep it up

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For medical student. Please aik bar yeh b try karain k sub ko dill say maff ker dain tah k ap ki cord cut jaye (Mother, Father, Brother, bad person, ya jis say b nafrat). Yeh sub emotions ap k soul say attached hain khas ker solar plexus say. Ap ko aysay chain nahe aye ga, ap ko yeh connection torna paray ga. Insha Allah fark paray ga. Allah bless you.

To the last Girl I hope things get better for you. May Allah Almighty relieve your pain. Insha'Allah things will get better just keep going. =Start a diary and write it all down it will help with the pain and feelings=. And its okay if you don't like your degree it's no end of the world each day is a new chance you can do something else after completing it too don't judge your self so harshly you are smart and Insha'Allah you will grow out of this tough time too. I know its always easier to give people advice but Insha'Allah I am hopeful you will be good.

For the last question, My opinion or advice to my sister is Please start side hustle like Freelancing as many MBBS students do content writing so start content writing and start a blog on your favourite subject or hobby and start to give time to it and then start a side degree from virtual university and leave MBBS when you start making money and focus on your goals start travelling I know I'm introverted too and Travelling and reading books helps you a lot to get rid off from your trauma Try to communicate as little as you can with the toxic people however, is it your brother or mom in your case so that's it For content writing the best RU-vid channel is Khallillulah khan on youtube you can search and yeah that's it and try to make your own living ma'am Hope for the best :)

I have had my fair share of rough experiences in my childhood, mostly due to my own behavior but aise masail har ghar me hi hote hon ge. Lekin jab log is tarah ke halat batate hain apne ghar ke that mother is not even talking to you for 2 months aur bhai aur maa apni hi bachi ke samne uske secrets par hanste hain, i really find it hard to believe ke aisi families bhi exist karti hain. i remember my parents used to apologize to me every time ku ke ghuse me a kar zyada mar dia. The thing that really worries me is everytime i open a new ask ganjiswag video, first thing i do is open description and read the timestamps and almosy everytime k see questions like these😥

For Mbbs Girl, If you please give her a favor to meet with her personally. Ap ne video ke through unko guide kiya bohut achi bat hey lakin ap ager unse personally mil kr hosla afzaayi ya phir guide waghera kr de ge to shayid unki zindagi change ho jaye.. I don't know it would be practically possible I am just thinking this way.

Last q broke me into pieces 😭

The last question girl, please read, ‘The Power of Now’ by Eckhart Tolle. I think the audiobook is also available on RU-vid.

For Last Girl's Email : Logon ka jo zarf hota wo wohi kartay hain! Please take control of your life, obviously it is easier said than done but you can try and hope for the best. As there is no culture of odd jobs in Pakistan you can try working as a freelancer that would giving you escape from all these thoughts to some extent, or try learning something new, something of your interest. Your mom is a typically desi and receiving validation being a girl is like asking a cow to eat meat, you cannot change others but yourself. ( no disrespect to your mom ) Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift and that's why we call it present. Please try focusing on the present cause thinking about the past will only give you sadness cause there is nothing you can do to alter it that's why it will be no good to you and thinking about just future without any action will give you only anxiety.

The last Case : 1. Read Quran Daily with Focus. Pray to ALLAH SWT and Always believe in ALLAH SWT blessings on you and you will get best out of your struggles soon. Believe It. 2. I Suggest her to see other options to do after having MBBS according to her interests on Internet of relevant persons.

Suicidal thoughts: Therapy is highly recommended and please do not ignore the changeover of luck and situation. Life shifts very quickly its just another day to survive and who knows next day could be far more promising.

9:55 ki baat sunay kay liey mai iss video ku 2 din say dhoond raha tha

mbbs wali lrki.. i feel so sorry about you. suicide is never an option. i wish i could help you and share your feelings. i will pray for you.. stay strong.

Dr girl , try giving a little time everyday to things you enjoy, gardening walking or any other activity. This will help you come out of your depression because of constantly focusing on failing your exams

For the 1st guy: Is zulm o sitam ko,lutf o karam Is dard ko dawa kya likhna In simple words:ap apney sath zulm kar rahey ho by looking down upon these oppurtunities dont let ur self get in ur comfort zone.

I was just thinking about watching your all videos

Well said Ganjay Bhai

About the depressive girl : You are a brave girl but overthinking is ruining your mental health. Be brave and positive. Move on and block negative thoughts. InshaAllah you will win this battle coz everybody is praying for you. Whoever did wrong to you will rot in hell. You are innocent so don’t be so harsh on yourself. Change your thinking pattern and InshaAllah you will see the positive results im few weeks. Everybody is fighting their battles. Nobody’s life is perfect. Each and every person has different story. May Allah bless you with best of both worlds (Ameen suma ameen) Cheer up , chin up and fight like a warrior. Good days are waiting for you InshaAllah you will forget all your worries once you decide to stand up for you and get rid of this negative energy. Respect and prayers 🌟

Love these videos. 👍

Thank you Junaid bhai. Kam chezy achi lag rahi hain table py.

We should stay happy in our life and make friends Every Girl needs a good male friend he can be her brother or father or BF 33:23 Aab is bhai or baba say sawal hai kaya yeh apni beti ko boyfriend banany dain ge, keh wo apni zindagi ki choti choti khusiyan us se share Kar sakay. Plzzz give love to your family plzzzz These types of parents should never have children

Junaid Akram is a legend

Consistency 10000 kya baat 🥵 Epic

The last with MBBS I can relate to you wrote a similar email to Junaid sir but got my answer through yours Junaid sir sirf larkioon k nhi larkon ka bh problem same I have encountered the same situation and got to the point of hanging my myself but the advantage I got was I had friend who didn't judged me and also gave me hope. I would suggest aap notes banao or usmay roz ek new chapter add kro from your life it will definately help mujhay bh kia tha .

I hate my father and i really want to die: I am really sorry to hear about you and i pray that things gets better with you. Yar start journalling and meditation. It will really help in viewing a clear picture of yourself. Please speak up for yourself. All the miseries will go away when you talk about it. Talk to your parents and make them understand what they're doing. Its never too late to start a new life with a new you.. May Allah bless you.♥️

Great episode

I am watching this on 2nd roza of 2022

For birgimham main bf wali: Birmingham bhara para hai pakistanis say. Upar say aap ka bf hai doctor, highly sought after by expat families and ladies alike. Long distance relationship bht tricky hoti hain agar nikah ya shaadi na hoi ho. Sirf eik 10 months kay chat relationship par koi stand nahi laina chayeh. Agar boy ghosting kar raha hai tau yeh bhi chance hai us ko koi aur larki samjh main aa gayi ho.

Greatest news on RU-vid junaid akram will upload ask ganjiswag more frequently🤩🤩❤

34:00 apni study pori kro hr haal main and jb apni earning start ho jae tw apni life ko khud start kro. Iaese logoon ki zaroort hi nai hae jo life main negativity create kreen. And friends bnao koi. Mje samajh nai ata loog friends kaese nai bna sakte. Jb tk perfect dost nai milta jo pori zindagi saath rahe tb tk new se new friend bnate raho

Junaid bhai, I think you needed a Chai and Sutta towards the end of the video :D Love your videos.

Aisa hee hai bhai wala dialogue mera favorite hai

For the last person:dont focus on ur past ik its not easy to forget lekin past ko yad krney sey kya mil jayega? Nothing Focus on the present and suicide is not the option Its just an easy way out Thats the thing that differentiates theist from a atheist its the purpose that believing in god gives Work on what u like and when u reach ur goal these problems will disappear you will see

Din bana diya❤️👍

Thanks ♥️

33:46 yeh sunte hi mujhe hasi aa gayi

For the guy who got the Canada student visa option first story-- Sorry but Junaid bhai is giving you bullshit advise to go to Canada. I know students in Canada who are looking for opportunities. They want to get into business. If your parents are making money in Pakistan then start your own business in Pakistan and make money. People go to school so they can get a job then end up realizing real money is in business. Save your tuition and start a business in Pakistan. Covid has already slowed everything down. Canada tuition is expensive. Not worth it either. What you will learn from your parents is 10 times worth that university.

Much inspired by ur travelog

Really sad for the girl in the last story...

Sir do a podcast with mooroo again pzzzz

To the I hate my father...this girl is major depressed and is suffering from PTSD...she needs medication and counselling...fast. This suicidal ideation and attempts are nearly the endgame. As a young person they are very impulsive and may not live to regret if they attempt at ending their life. Going to friends is not a solution she needs to confide and get help.

8:51 important tareen baat

Junaid bhai, loving the watch! What is it?

to the canada guy: flexing gone wrong

For last email just remember girl there must be something good you have, in all bad things, Life has so much to offer and a lot of surprises just hope and wait for the best , work hard and make yourself proud just remember this is not the end of life where you are lot of people only wish to reach there and a lot commit suicide and some only dreaming. Just hope for the best future.

junaid bhai the great