Almost spat out my ben n jerrys when the guy said only if you peg me. My parents kept their own surnames (when it was a lot less normal to do so) and I've got my mum's last name. I'd just want whichever last name sounds better :P
Couldn't think of anything I care less about in life than a surname. I'll keep mine and you keep yours. Family is about flesh and blood, not a fkin name.
@@marshmallowsmars I frankly can't understand why anyone would care about taking/giving surnames enough to type out all this into a youtube comment that no one will read in its entirity...
@@marshmallowsmars people place importance on all sorts of ideas that aren't worth the time of day. Tradition for tradition's sake is tantamount to stagnation - that's why no one is walking around today worshiping the pagan gods. We don't retain every tradition that ever existed, because a lot of traditions are no longer meaningful.
Really? Who cares what a couple decide to do between themselves? I'm sure most people are "sure, if you want to?" Some people are gagging to change their name and it's an excuse.
When my wife and I were planning our marriage I wasn't bothered either way - she could keep her name, take mine or we could double barrel both together - there's more important things to think about anyway, like the relationship, the joint future, careers, children, pets, etc At the time, I was proud enough of my family I wanted to keep mine - now I've seen some of the skeletons in the closet, I want to change it and if I'd known 20+ years ago, I'd probably have taken hers.
Traditions usually happen when something that's really sensible, happens repeatedly over many hundreds of years. Most men want to feel respected, more than anything else. Most women want to feel an emotional connection - a sense of belonging and values the social side of marriage more than a man. So that's what's happened - an orderly system's fallen into place where everyone's happy. Until now. Traditions are being challenged in the name of fairness and everyone's confused. At the end of the day, it doesn't really matter whether the wife takes on the man's name or not. What's important is the surname the kids choose to keep. So what are the options? - default to the dad's - default to the mum's? - a mixture of both? Not a long term solution - the parent with the best name? - the dominant parent, as in the parent who insists the kids have their name?
more men taking wife’s last name should also become a norm. To become one family under name , sweet gesture towards your wife , and respect . The same meaning as to why a society wants a woman to a man’s name . The same exact reasons. Thus , we should see the other way around more often . It is not weird . If it comes to who is the dominant one , female led relationships are enjoyable too. Gender roles shouldn’t be fixed . Every individual and family dynamic should be different and have thier own preference. There are women who are dominate naturally. There are men who are submissive and like a dom women. So yes dom partner should take that place of giving thier name but what is that is to say that it’s always the man. It can be the woman in the relationship that’s dominant. Wife led marriages can also be beautiful. That is also another dynamic to enjoy.
I wouldn't take a woman's surname, but neither would I care if she doesn't want to take mine. Ideally the children would take the father's surname, but even then it's not the end of the world if they don't.
Why , for what reason it should be the father’s and not the mothers . This is the sexist thing ever that’s wildly accepted by large. Why wouldn’t you take a woman’s surname ? It’s a sweet thing you can do to your lady! More men taking wife’s last name should also become a norm. It can mean for the same reasons as to why, to become one family under name , and also as a sweet gesture towards your wife. It’s the same meaning as to why a society wants a woman to a man’s name . Thus , we should see the other way around more often happening as well. It is not weird . If it comes to who is the dominant one , female led relationships are enjoyable too. Gender roles shouldn’t be fixed . Every individual and family dynamic should be different and have thier own preference. There are women who are dominate naturally. There are men who are submissive and like a dom women. So yes dom partner should take that place of giving thier name but what is that is to say that it’s always the man. It can be the woman in the relationship that’s dominant. Wife led marriages can also be beautiful. That is also another dynamic to enjoy.
You want to feel dominate in a relationship? So as the dominant woman. Society promoting only that of one dynamic male led and to debunk the other female led is not correct. Female led is also a dynamic and something that is enjoyable. It’s only if we can stop promoting or indoctrinating children into patriarchal behavior or gender roles we can live in a different society. A society where female led marriages are also a norm. A place where men and women are free to choose their family dynamics rather then brainwashed to socially confirm to one.
@@marshmallowsmars plot twist - I don't have my father's surname, I have my mother's maiden name. You made a lot assumptions from my comment. I get it, you're a feminist. I don't want to feel dominant I just like my surname, which is also my mother's surname. I bet you weren't expecting that 😂
