5 Aspergers Symptoms You NEED To Know (Asperger Syndrome) 

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My husband doesn’t do eye contact, closes his eyes when he thinks of his response of a request. He is warm all the time, he has weird OCD habits, same tv shows and same food, lives by routine. His communication skills are getting better through therapy, he doesn’t understand or know how to socialize. He can go on and on on a topic that is his on obsession (TV show or topic) and knows everything, and will go on and on without realizing the listener is unaware of the topic and isn’t interested. I’m his wingman; and help him navigate the social situations by changing or finding a link in the topic those he’s speaking to can relate to. And at times he is oblivious to the shift in conversation. His IQ is very high, and understands he is on the spectrum and his sensory processing is co-occurring with his communication skills. Together we are learning to communicate and co-exist in a harmonious way by open communication. (He’s not allowed to plug his ears anymore if I keep talking…he has to communicate by a sign or word to let me know he’s tapped out).

I received a late diagnosis only because of my wife’s training from her job. Upon learning this I sought out a professional diagnosis to make things official. I learned to deal with things in my own way and adjusted to these experiences. Some of these things have gotten harder as I’ve aged. Having downtime, lights off, and watching documentaries or learning some type of new knowledge are my routines. My job has absolutely been a nightmare but has helped to raise my personal threshold to deal with things much easier. Even though it’s too late for me to help myself out. Going forward it’s a massive benefit to have this knowledge about myself.

It's more the other way around for me about eye contact. It's not that I feel that I'm looking into someone's soul, it's more that they are looking into me and reading all my thoughts.

i have not been diagnosed but i found you searching for the same characteristics i have and i have all of these qualities, i always run hot i sleep without a blanket, i dont like vegetables the taste get to me i hate spicy foods and alcohol. i dont like social interactions i have 0 friends i go home from work and play video games i dont like people. i follow the same routines every day and i hate deviating from my routines.

I overheat on a daily basis. One work colleague named me the glazed donut! I’ve a bald head! 😊 Yeah, can’t stand hot weather and bright sun either. I’ve always bought tinted lens glasses as a result. My happy temp is around 10 degrees Celsius… Can’t abide noisy restaurants and supermarkets. Always go at unsociable times to avoid people and noise. I’ve definitely gotten worse as I’ve aged.

I don’t know if this is true for any of you, but I can rewatch everything over and over again because I legit don’t recall most of it. or at least not well enough to ruin the fun of watching it again. My husband can recall everything he watched and I have no idea how!

I say the wrong thing so often I find communication quite traumatic

3:31 Before I was diagnosed, my wife asked me how I could watch the entire series of the same show over and over again. The only answer I had was, "I don't know."

The worst thing that was done was to to consider autism to be a negative thing. With that comes stereotypes that it is difficult to get rid off.

All of it. Dang I am 56 years old and I am just now figuring out why I have always been "weird' 🙄 I appreciate this so much because I don't feel like I am the only person who has to deal with these things. I always had to smoke weed to be able to go to work and deal with people. I worked in land surveying my whole life and I thrived. Just one or two coworkers and in the woods most of the day doing math. I was blessed to have had a job that I loved and felt like I fit in.

I forgot to mention that when talking I often say the wrong words and pause a lot. It's hard to think and talk at the same time. Sometimes I'll inadvertently try to say two words that mean the same thing and end mixing both of them up and saying a word that doesn't even exist!

Aspergers Syndrome describes a set of traits and abilities very perfectly. I know because I have it.

I had always thought my "running hot" was something genetic because it's almost constant, but this makes a lot of sense

My grandson and granddaughter are on the spectrum. My grandson has asperburger. He is high functioning ADHD his perspective is very different. He is fun to be around and we are learning about autism together. My granddaughter is level 2 ADHD OCD. She is a joy to be around. She and her brother help each other out. Their abilities meshed together could make one person because of their inabilities to function in certain areas. I enjoy your videos. They help me understand my grandkids better. Keep up the good work.

Thank you for this. I don’t have autism but I do know people that are, and videos like these allow me to have better communication with them. This brings so much perspective. I wish that corporations showed videos like these at work because you would reach so many people

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 37, I'm now 54. It's an everyday struggle to 'keep it together ' and not go crazy. I also deal with depression, hypoglycemia, 24/7 ear ringing, etc. I have trouble with everything you talked about.

I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at the age of 19 and I experience the five symptoms mentioned in the videos and I’ve been suffering from it for over 30 years along with schizophrenia which I was born with and developed post traumatic stress disorder and dissociative identity disorder as a result of trauma and torture I’ve been through growing up

My body temp is 97.5 and I get hot and sweat if I sweep the floor !

Both me and my daughter have heat sensory issues. We run much hotter than anyone else in our family, and even often throughout winter, she and I both wear tank tops and shorts, especially if I have to be out in the yard working on something. My daughter often confuses hot and cold, as well, especially when she was young. Rather, I say "confuses" but I think that might be part of her brain wiring that tells her that cold is actually hot and vice-versa.

Over sensory delay is so challenging, the reason i am feeling social anxious and needing my time to mentally prepare to leave the house. For example, one day, i will meet up with a friend , and going to the training and / or do groceries needs at least 1 or 2 days of recovering my quiet. I get mentally very exhausted if i have to do social tasks for more than one day, which i can feel physically drained and in need of more sleep. I have, on top of that, a tinnitus on both sides it made it even harder to me to socialise in big groups. If to many people talking at once, I'll leave and seek quiet. At the communication side, i don't want even to start because it will take a day or two to digest and requite the proper words. I always make this mistake because i know people expect to receive an immediate answer or thoughts and to 99% it is a 50:50 chance to cause trouble. So i got used to just listening and responding later via WhatsApp. If adhd meets spectrum a: if it colides i have periods of absolute dysfunction. B if it conspires i don't want to miss the good times of inspiration, it can takes months of good progress in what ever is interesting, then im in ghost mode.

You have saved my marriage my husband a very nice guy has this disorder I put up for 38 years now we are both 70 I found out that he is not responsible for the way he is now I realize my 35 yr old daughter has it and do not want to get married but the knowledge I have I am able to cope

I keep saying my personal temperature gauge is wonky. I’m either way too hot, or, like today, at 109 F I was under a blanket.

I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m all but SURE i have Asperger’s. All the signs are there to me, when I think about my life and behavior and how I am.

Very Late Diagnosis Asperger's Syndrome... the diagnosis - it's both a blessing and a new challenge. Great to know why all my life I've behaved "inappropriately" in so many situations... self-loathing is a demon that's extremely hard to exorcize, when the memories come in a constant cycle to remind you what I prick you've been to so many people... all your freaking life. I've learned a certain level of masking, and behave in most situations, but as you'll know it leaves me drained, as if I'd worked a double shift, against the wind, uphill... on a starvation diet.

I'm 37 and was just diagnosed 2 months ago I've watched your channel for a while now and found it very helpful to understand myself

You CAN learn to look people in the eyes. It takes time but it still feels intense and a bit strange. A lot of the behaviour you can learn to work around. The sounds problem is definitely something I've never was able to deal with. It's still bothersome.

Team sweaty here!

hi! wanted to say I got diagnosed autistic 2 days ago, and your videos were a huge help during the anxious process of waiting for the diagnosis. So thanks for that!

I always describe the communication thing like I have a filing system in my brain, and I constantly have to search for the appropriate response, pull it out, and then say it out loud. It takes time and makes other people uncomfortable... so I just stay within my small circle or friends that understand and accept me ❤

Then some of us just look way too much at peoples eyes , trying to read , follow and comprehend what that person is saying or more so , who they are as a persron ... some people with ASD can even behave almost like "people" are a special interest . (That still comes with a LOT of feeling worn out from it . and then need ya to have "no people time" like many other ASD folks need)

I pretty much learned to speak by reading. It sounds weird because there were no audio books when I was a kid. But I would read books so often that I memorized them, and for words I didn't know, my brain would like click the words together (kind of like on that show Word World) when someone said the word I didn't now. And because I learned that, I had idea the meaning of many words until I heard it used in context. Shortly after I started reading, too, I started hoarding my classroom dictionary so I could look up words I didn't know from my books. One teacher just accepted that I hoarded her dictionary because I wanted to learn, so if she ever needed it, she just went to my desk and borrowed it. This was like 1989 or 1990. I still collect books to this day, including always keeping a couple dictionaries and thesauruses on hand. My daughter, on the other hand, didn't speak until she was almost 3, and she learned to speak socially by watching Peppa Pig, and though we live in California and have never left the US, she had a British accent for awhile. To this day, she also still has her own dialect ("should I" instead of "can I" and for a long time she used "prank" instead of "lie"). I had to translate for her in public when she was younger. Her very first form of communication came at almost 3 yrs old when I was desperately trying to get her to tell me if she was hungry or thirsty (she couldn't), so I put on an older sign language video (I'm trying to find the name of it, at the moment, I'll edit this comment when I do) and after watching it a couple times she finally realized that things had names and she was able to ask for stuff.

9:01 OMG, me too!! And I HATE sweating, especially on my face!

Dx asd Jan 2023. So frustrating as dealing w so much physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and financially. So relate to all you shared. Thanks so much Dan. God Bless 💙🙏🏻🙏🏻💞💙👊

I have family who get so mad at me because i *need* to know plans beforehand. Not knowing what to expect is anxiety inducing. And heaven help me if plans change... At nearly yhe age of 50, i was recently diagnosed as high functioning autistic.

100% on the multiple conversation issues. Cannot at all focus. So far, everything describes me actually.

I got diagnosed at 14 so it was like a weird opening for me, and at first i thought i was dying cuz i thought it was like cancer and i was so scared, but my sister's who's a nurse helped me understood much much better

Although I've never actually been diagnosed, I've had a couple friends and family members point out that I may have some of the "tism's". Most beings diagnosed with such themselves. The first time I thought it possible was when I was talking to a friend teen son, about a common interest. He pointed out to her some of my mannerisms similar to his, and asked if I was too. I dress the same every day blue tee shirt and jeans. Im always hot. Strong perfumes shut me down. Loud noises in a crowd shuts me down. Bright sunlight shuts me down. Issues with social awkwardness, although I've learned to overcome a lot of it out of need. But I've always been the "hes a little strange but cool" guy.

The lighting hit home for me, like if a light bulb is shining in my eyes at a restaurant... it's game over, the whole experience is wrecked. Also, I have a huge space bubble, I can't stand people too close to me.... especially in lines.😮 I'll literally feel rage, and anxiety. It takes all my will not to say... back off a bit!

Surely sensory processing disorder is co morbid with CPTSD? Love your vids

Yes! I used to live with my windows open during my year abroad IN SWEDEN. The temperature in my room was between 10° and 15° C, and I was in heaven.

I am hot all the time and I don't sweat until my body is nearing shut down. Oh, and hungry. My hunger does not turn off, so I have to keep track of what and whether I have eaten.

I understand everything, for I go through all of these all at once. With eye contact, I always will look sideways, or at the ceiling, or at the floor. When it comes to watching the same TV shows and movies, I do that alot, especially when it comes to my favorite movies. You can never go wrong watching the same thing over and over again. When it comes to TV shows, I can watch the same episode and seasons over three times. Everytime I hear that a new season just came out, I have to rewatch all the same seasons again before I can watch the new one. I do have social issues too. I was able to fight off some of it at college, but there are times when it still gets in the way.

Aspie here Fantastic list! However I wanna commet that point 3, 4, 5 can be mitigated through training in my experience Is it uncomfortable being social? Socialise more. Spend more time with people Do you struggle with sensory issues? Spend time challenging this sensory issues Do you struggle communicating? Spend time doing research on it and have people tell you gently if you messed up That said This is the kind of training that takes years of gradual and dedicated effort. You can't do it too rapidly, as you get burnout/meltdown/shutdown and you need to go five steps back. So it is really slow and one little step at the time

You are really just like ”reading from the manual”. I went under the radar until 37. And the Asperger diagnosis just explained my childhood. And eye contact!? I have had the opposite problem, if it even is a problem to be able to keep eye contact forever if I wanted. If you have met one person with ASD or Asperger’s, that is it. You have met one person.

Speaking of sensory issues with sounds, I used to wish I could turn off my hearing at will. It was that bad.

When I watch videos like this, it describes me almost perfectly.

Yes, no filters, in or out. Sound conversations etc. People's presence overwhelming. The more the worse. Same for eye contact. Routines not so much. Clothes tags, too tight. No small talk.Too old for usefulness of diagnosis (68).

Thank you for your definition and explanation of the disorder. I would like to learn more. God bless and keep you!

I’ve been playing the same video game for the past six years. I find it very calming.

I am glad you mentioned the heat issue. I have had this my whole life and I was told it was a peri-menopausal symptoms. I was diagnosed with Asperger's very recently. I am sixty years old.

I overly stare at people or invest in others conversations, usually when I am ear wigging when i shouldn't be. I never thought it was strange until my daughters told me! One of whom is definitely Aspergers. My husband is Aspergers too!

Some thoughts on turning down social invitations: for me there is definitely an element of preferring to do my own thing, but mainly it's because it involves a switch of task - or, as I prefer to call it: a switch of mode. Neurotypical people might say they aren't 'in the mood' for something. This is close, but I have different func tional - rather than emotional - states. For example I might need to go shopping, but also need to study. If my brain is in study mode, I have to work through that, and wait for the shopping mode to come, there's no point in forcing it because there's immediate overwhelm and burnout if I try. Thinking in terms of functional modes has really helped me, because I think it greatly reduces cognitive load and I can relax more without the 'shoulds'. Different modes seem to naturally cycle when you obey them without guilt. Just my thoughts on the matter. Again, this is called 'task switching difficulty ' in the literature, but maybe this deeper perspective is relatable to someone.

You called me out on so many things, but the heat thing was totally new to me and i'm glad i'm not the only one! Because i move around a lot and feel exactly how you described, i'm at home basically 24/7 only in panties + tshirt (fixes heat problem and sensory issues) (and walking on my tiptoes! but not the point of my comment😂) But when im not moving im always snuggled in my comfy blanket, also in summer, so heat perse isn't really the issue. I was finally able to open up to my doctor and starting therapy soon. Gonna be the first one actually diagnosed in my (very neurodivergent) family, as many other fellows in the comments too :) So keep up the great work! Helps us soo much

Always struggled with mental illness since the age of about 14 it was very chronic and I do have a few diagnoses but have been wondering for a couple years now from reading about autism. This video was explained so well. Not only to understand others who have it but I definitely experience many of these things. The way you explained the temperature part, vocabulary, and daily routine felt like you were pulling feelings out of my brain and articulating them perfectly. I’m not gonna self diagnose nobody should do that. But it’s certainly got me wondering and thinking. I’m sure there’s some sort of layover between mental illness and neurological disorders of course but I’m no expert and this was a very informative video so that you much even though you’re just doing your thing :)

I relate with the feel of communication with other people being sometimes too fast. I wish I had a pause button to pause the world around me to give me time to digest what other people have said and to come up with my response. Sometimes just 10 seconds would be enough, sometimes 10 minutes if my response needs to be elaborate. That's why I strive communicating via email or writing comments/opinions/replies online. I have all the time I need before hitting the "send" button.

I struggle with eye contact, have my routines which explains why I watch movies and shows I’m familiar with a lot and don’t always go the parties as they are very unfamiliar. I have also always struggled with socializing for all the same reasons. Sensory issues have been an issue so I like to see use noise canceling ear buds. I also hate the tags on shirts. Communication has always been a struggle for me.

I was in 11th grade was people started telling me to make eye contact, and smile.

7:50. You caught me out. A couple of friends have been telling me the last couple of years. I just figured I like my own company. I can go out, but I'm always happy to be home.

In America they no longer use this classification at all 🤷‍♀️

You're so good at pinpointing the nuances of the autism experience. I would love it if you could do an ASD explainer video specifically geared towards family and friends. My family find it difficult to understand because I don't act like rain man. I would like to have something to show them, so I can unmask sometimes. I feel like I'm living a lie.

Yea. Number 5. I always can't understand what people are saying. I have difficulty following movie plots because I don't understand what they are saying, unless it has subtitles which help a lot. Then I'll be staring at the subtitles instead of focusing on the motion pictures, which is as good as reading a book. Or worse, because you're not allowed to go at your own pace. That's why I think story apps are brilliant, they allow me to go at my own pace as well as taking my time to enjoy the pictures.

You got me constantly, but most with the body heat ...

👋Dan, and Everyone. I'm in Washington State, USA

After realizing the majority of people around me are idiots, And lots of research On my odd behaviors and idiosyncrasies. I diagnosed myself and then had it confirmed. It used to be a really hard struggle. That caused me a lot of issues, but once I had a name for it and knew what was going on, I'm comfortable with it now. It doesn't bother me Anymore. I just feel like i'm more evolved than other people around me. I'm pretty intense and aggressive. Everything for me is fast. I get hot like you had talked about and nothing goes fast Enough for me especially conversations. I can listen to the conversation and come up with my reply.All at the same time. Having a conversation with another person on the spectrum is pretty awesome. Because we just tend to feed off of each other, which is pretty cool and other people can't keep up. Bright lights and sound are my kryptonite.

Routine is so great for me. ❤. It comforts me and makes life easier for me because it gives me a security, in that I know what to expect with it, no matter what it is. I don’t wear the same clothes or eat the same food every day, but routine for me takes the form of everything being the same at work every day, for instance. When that is changed up, which it often is, it really pisses me off. It’s a bit of a curse, because I’m always fearing someday that each routine in my life will change up and I won’t have it anymore. Since the nature of life is change. :(

I cant stand noisy places. Supermarkets for instance with all the people telling at top volume, beeping tills, announcements over the PA, screaming babies and all the other noises, its overwhelming. I don't know how other people cope with it. There's a much quieter shop nearby that's never all that busy and has just about all the stuff I usually buy so I usually get my stuff from there. Spicy foods on the other hand, I could live on the stuff, the hotter the better. Speaking of heat, I cant stand high temperatures, anything over 25c and and I feel like I'm in a sauna! I'm much more comfortable at around 21-22c. Mum says my room is so cold, and I'm like "no it isn't, the rest of the house is too HOT". I don't know how she is comfortable in 30c or can sleep even without a fan on when its that hot. I hate sunny days too, they make me fell anxious, the brightness is obnoxious, and it doesn't coordinate my mood or coordinate with doing things indoors. Rainy or just overcast days are so much more soothing and comfortable, especially if there's a thunderstorm or too.

I CAN NOT hear or listen to more than ONE individual.... If several people are talking to me, it is just noise.

My daughter is 10yrs old & has ADHD & ODD & SPD & is being tested for autism in a wk & I’ve said for yrs she’s on the spectrum so I’m anxiously awaiting testing!

Hi I am very new to this channel and I have only watched a couple of vids. But oh my goodness, what you do is amazing. I have a 26yr old brother with severe autism, i am trying to learn more about his condition to help him with stuttering. It seems like his stuttering is worse when trying to think of something to say to make a conversation. I really want to help him overcome his stuttering as you can tell it affects him negatively and its horrible to sit through. If anyone can give me some good tips or vids that woukd be amazing, so far i am just going through these vids to try and find something to help him. Keep up the amazing work! And God bless you ♥️

Yes, the heat! Mowing the lawn, washing the car, even cleaning various things in the bathroom has me pouring buckets. Trying to sleep in the middle of the night? HAHAHAHAHA! Sweat like you're in the depths of Tartarus! Oh, you put the temperature down to meat locker depths? Too cold, try again! Only to repeat the cycle all night, every night. Thankfully, I've found that nice balance with keeping my bedroom like a morgue and moderate the two extremes, but there's still flaws I'm working out. Thanks for the video! 🙂

When I get overstimulated by many noises at once it's like I go blind. Usually at the store. Self checkouts. Store music blaring...everyone tlking .

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I’ve always felt that way with eye contact!!! And that is exactly and I mean EXACTLY how I’ve been explaining it to ppl when they ask me “why aren’t you looking at me when you’re talking??” And I can’t look into camera lol all for same reasons. Ppl Peering into my soul! Having to be social and talk to ppl when you’re very socially, awkward and have social anxiety, the whole social interaction, well It’s a soul sucking hellish feeling of just uncomfortably and ultimately left feeling seen, judged, vulnerable!

Heat is a big issue for me. On "cold" days, I open windows wide and do stuff I have been putting off.

I most likely have asbergers, but I've noticed lately that I react to stress / cortisol. I get tunnel vision and feel a wave come over me under stress. I react too quick or panic in what I say. I tend to respond too quickly, probably from my hyperactivity as well.

I am a huge fan of the big bold CCs, thank you 🙏

According to an neuro psychiatric investigation i have ADD. I'm still in denial and feel that they made a mistake. Im angry, asocial and a hermit and that is a big difference.

My husband used to be very sensitive to smells. Over time though, he lost his sense of smell so it's not an issue anymore. Still has trouble with glare - always wears shades outside.

Really well summed up 👍I was diagnosed later in life also..

I am a woman and I have all of these and always suspected that I am on the spectrum but all doctors told me that I am "too functional" for autism or Aspeger although I dkn't feel so. I feel like socializing is so hard for me that I need literal recovery alone from any longer interaction. I have misophonia that can be quite severe. And for some reason I hate wearing socks even when it's cold.

I don't have a formal diagnosis - I do want to try to get that. When I first started to think about whether or not I may be autistic I thought, "Oh, I don't have visual sensory issues." And, for the most part, I can handle bright lights and even big, bright displays. (The noise from some fluorescent lighting is a different question but that's a sound issue and I've got a lot of them.) Then there was a day when I had to get up before sunrise (something I avoid if at all possible) and I followed my usual routine of lighting a candle instead of turning on electric lighting. Considering the issue further I realised that I keep my eyes shut virtually the whole time I'm in the shower. It's not just about keeping water out of my eyes, I stand so that I do that anyway, it's just showering and eyes open don't go together for me. (If I have a bath that's done with eyes open, so this is not some odd manifestation of modesty.) And then there was the time I had an oral test. As soon as I started to answer a question I closed my eyes. This was to block out visual sensory input so that I could "look" at my notes in my mind.

So funny I used to clean my house naked. My husband loved it. I also peel all of my clothes off and put on a smooth nightgown the moment I get home.😂

I love your accent! 😊 I am not diagnosed, but I feel like having Aspergers and ADD. I also get hot so easily and always have the minimum clothing and people are wondering, why I have so light clothing! 😅

eye contact is distracting for me and I can't pay attention to what someone is saying while making eye contact. I need to look to the side and concentrate on listening which upsets others. Sometimes think I have an audio processing disorder. It's especially bad in noise environments.

I am constantly burning up. My body runs extremely hot. I also have the heat n light sensitivity as well. I have the opposite situation with eye contact where I look so deeply into people’s eyes that it makes them uncomfortable. It’s not intentional. I thought to comment on this as it can be a feature of Asperger’s, it’s not always avoiding eye contact. If you are like me, your stare burns right into people’s inner selves.

Yeah I relate to a lot of this. Though can you do a video on women having autism spectrum disorder and adhd? I swear I am a combination too somehow.

I also have sensory issue with heat and sweat, especially after having a heat stroke years back.

One of my sensory issues is bare skin on grass. I hate it! Been like that since I was a baby. Mom could put a blanket on the grass, plunk me down and know that I WOULDN’T move away from the blanket. I also have the heat issue when I am doing something, especially when I am having problems. Also, one time I was not talking much and my boyfriend asked me what was wrong and i stated that I felt like a little slug. I didn’t know how else to explain it.

OMG! I am so warm when I work too. I am rarely comfortable with temperature.

I live in an area where it is impossible to find anyone who can give a diagnosis to adults. The focus is on children. I have been seeking and searching but cannot find anyone who works with adults. So, for now I can only learn from online such as yours. I have always been “different” from my peers all through childhood and adulthood. Having a hearing loss, I do look at the persons face in order to understand what is being said: I look at the mouth. Sometimes the mouth is gross, depending on the person. Then I look away, but cannot understand very well. When I was little, I’d look at the forehead. I remember looking at the wrinkles between the eyes when my mother was upset with me for something. I’d be drawn to how the wrinkled up! Rather than to what she was saying. I was known to be a “picky” eater. Certain foods smelled too strong, looked icky, tasted too strong, or felt icky. Tags, seams and itchy clothing was uncomfortable. Social situations lost me. I later learned to “mask” or “fawn” at time in order to try and “fit in”, but even that was awkward. I’d resort to silly small talk and leave, or want to leave “it is enough!”. I hate and still hate long conversations, useless chit chat, stupid questions I can’t answer and end up with saying awkward words that cause an unpleasant response. Counseling, spiritual direction all ends up in a blank and trying to find ways to talk that are impossible for me to express. I express better in writing as I can take my time processing, but it too often leaves a negative response by those who might read it or read into something I didn’t write, or interpret it to be something different. So, communication is a tough process for me: “you don’t communicate”! They say to me. I do, but not in the way they can understand. “Oh you’re so sensitive”, or “you’re overreacting” are common responses. I like adventures, without conversations, but I also like to be home, by myself, no one to question me why I do this or that that way, roll their eyes, etc.

Thanks Dan! Have you ever struggled with a bad habit or addiction because of loving routines? If so, have you got any tips? For myself I’ve had bulimia for a long time and it’s really destroying my health and life in general, but it’s hard for me to let it go, or even imagine stopping 😅

Eye contact feels a bit like an electric shock. I might be able to hold past that, but the bad part is that I completely lose track of what I'm saying and of everything else.

Up until about 3 years ago I was the same way with heat. Middle of winter and I was running around in shorts and a t shirt because I got too hot. I would actually get nauseous. I don’t know what changed but my body temperature doesn’t get above 97.5 but I have to watch it as it can get below 95.0 so now like this summer it’s 90 degrees out and I’m under a blanket. It might just be age as I’m 65 now and my mother was the same way. Hot until she reached her 60’s and then cold.

All of that resonates with me big time. The part about going out socializing is interesting. Personally I will go out but have to have a couple drinks. Groups are difficult. One or two people is fine. In terms of emotional intelligence. Well, basically people have two forms of judgement; thinking and feeling. Thinking is true/false feeling is good/bad. Some are fairly balanced. But everyone using one process more than the other. Therefore, identifying with that process. Ask me how I feel about something. I'll go blank and clueless. Ask me what I think and I'll go into a rant about it.

I was told not to use the term Asbergers syndrome by a psychologist in teacher training (again) this summer... just as parents have become more comfortable with the term than autism. I'm on the spectrum and so is my son, but neither of us avoid eye contact. I am not aware if I am masking when I do but I suspect my son is, because he avoided eye contact when he was little.

I usually get bored with stuff, and can not maintain it. Not small things, but what I do in life. Like job, education and that stuff. I also have a serious learning disability. If I read one page, I can not remember the first half of the page, and I would sit and find my self asking what I were reading. Hence, why I can not read books like novell's and stuff. And so I used the thing of switching occupation out, as a means of survival, when I had used all my options. Stuff like too many sick days or failing grades. 1/2 a year to 2 years and then something new. Yes it was super uncomfortable to do something fully unknown, yet it were still less stressfull than to stick around in the old. It was my survival tactic, jumping around from hub's to hub's and just grasping for straws. But that was how my life were, untill I got diagnosed with non-typical Aspergers syndrome in mild degree. It is neighter "classic" aspergers, nor neurotypical, nor high functioning Autism. More like the ND version of Aspergers. Like if aspergers were not ND enough allready. It is like ADD, but not really. It is like Aspergers, but not quite. It is like a neurodiverse-neurotypical. It is, but then not quite, and though it is, it is not really. Like special interrests. Yes I can sit and do them on hours at end, but I can never start on my own. I need to have someone start me on it. But then I go on for hours and hours. Eye contact I have those issues with. But it is more the feeling of goosebumps up the spine, as if you were watching a horror movie.

I feel called out by this whole video.

I have Asperger's. You defined Alexithymia before mentioning emotions and that had me confused. The part of communicating where you described processing information coming at a person on the spectrum fits me exactly but that has nothing to do with emotions. The second part is not me (I think) because I always know the word for how I feel although I may have the last part where people misinterpret my emotions probably by weird non verbal communication or tone of voice perhaps. So I guess: how do you define Alexithymia? As a side note, I like the way you explain things about Asperger's. Your accent is really cool, it's unique to you. :)

I am married to a man that I believe is on the spectrum. Been married for 39 years & I'm completely worn out.. He's had a terrible time finding a decent therapist for an actual diagnosis & treatment. His issues have gotten way worse with age & I'm not sure how much more I can take. 1 counselor said I was the problem, another said he has a sober gets with schizophrenia, yet a other says he's a level headed guy! I don't think he's doing full disclosure in session. Don't know if you've ever heard of it but I'm certain that I have Cassandra Syndrome because of him.