Amen to that. He could just come in the package she didn't like... and this lesson applies in both genders. That your eyes can lie to you about a person.
People have preferemces. It is a part of being human. I won't date a girl over 35. Too old. So why would I be offended if someone doesn't want to date me for not being 6 feet tall.
I am 6' 3". I start chatting with someone and they start throwing height requirements and I bounce. If you are worried about height as a woman than you are just trying to breed out the short.
You know people don’t realize that personality is a major factor in physical appearance in regard to controllable factors. Even weight cause someone who is fit shows discipline and dedication. Attire and presentation reflects self esteem and modesty.
That “you’re gonna be single for a while” hurt her so much more than she let on you could tell that from the silence before she said “wow rude” he hit a raw nerve and validated something she was already insecure about. Hopefully that was a wake up call
@subzfit 😊modern women prefer to date women instead of face reality 😂😂😂 Only another self centered superficial humans being could like someone like her.
My sister (115 lb., green eyes, blond hair) had impossible standards for any guy she dated. There's not a man on earth who could have lived up to her expectations. She's now in her 50s. Never engaged, never married, no kids and NOW she's saying maybe she shouldn't have been so critical and demanding. We TOLD her that she was going to end up alone!
@@lauragriffin6512 she's gonna be alright. i bet there are age-appropriate men available who are interested, but she's probably still too picky in that pool - looking back on missed opportunities with men when they were younger
Absolutely, the. They finally get the right idea when the smooth skin starts to sag and the titties start to sag and they start realizing they don’t have the power to be superficial anymore , then they want to act like they have some since.
@@bababamooo906 height you can't change, weight you can.......what you can control shows what kind of person you are.....so fat people are usually more out of control with their eating habits, which devalues them
Just like so many men gave insecurities to women on their looks going for hotter women and then they feel forced to undergo cosmetic surgeries. So women will do the same thing with guys. It's a karmic cycle affecting both lol
@@manasac3102its not a karmic circle, social media just made people focus on attractiveness and women get too much compliments online, boasting their ego enough to the point of growing old alone.
32, male, told I’m average attractiveness, never dated. Just work and enjoy my off time. All my friends and family who get into relationships, none of it lasted with exception to my aunts and uncles who are just a different gen, different breed. Watching vids like this validates my life choices…
I love the chemistry between these fellas so much. Praise God we have some realistic men with good morals leading a generation on YT. Make their paths straight.
It's called projection. The average guy is happy with the average woman. The average woman is unhappy with the average man. One of the two is not the same as the other ...
I am 5’5” female and in my family that’s really short. My dad & brothers are all close to 6’ or over, and I honestly DIDN’T want someone that tall when I started looking for a romantic relationship. lol, It wasn’t comfortable to have to stand on tiptoe to kiss my dad’s cheek. Why would I choose that in someone I planned to kiss all the time?? But, I have to admit, when dating I still prefer men who are at least AT my height, so maybe I’m still that shallow female stereotype after all. *sigh* It’s definitely a preference though, not a “Value”. And speaking of preferences... Even more than height, there’s something to be said for a man who can pick you up and carry you around... 😈
Rejoice! For you are a human! Humans have the unique ability to override natural programming through sheer willpower. All you have to do is take the beautiful plunge into misanthtopy, like me! With Misanthrope, you too can see into even the most gorgeous person's flaws and the merits of even the most ugly. Why is this so effective you might ask? Well the answer is simple! You become so easily disgusted by personal traits that are EXCEEDINGLY common, that even the suspicion that the person you're speaking to is actually a good person makes them attractive!
I don't think there's anything wrong with women preferring taller men as long as its reasonable. 6' is not the norm. Likewise women should not be incredulous when men prefer women that aren't overweight. Both are valid preferences.
@@iBloodxHunter im sorry, but we really don't have the ability to override natural programming. We *subconsciously* judge everyone we meet based on how they smell, look, and how their voice sounds. Humans are naturally very superficial. The only way to treat everyone the same regardless of looks is to cover our eyes, ears and noses, and only communicate usign braille.
@@kairon5249 Sure, it's naive to say humans aren't inextricably propensed to judge based on such traits, and we may have ingrained superficiality, but it would also be incorrect to imply everyone judges by looks to the same exact extent (or for that matter, any trait outside a person's control noticed by our senses) or a scenario too close to that. There's a disparity in the extent to which it's done among people. Some people are significantly shallower and less experienced than others so as to emotionally give in to the first impression that crosses their mind (bound more by their amygdala/limbic system than by their prefrontal cortex, the brain structure responsible for critical thinking), and others are maturer, more knowledgeable and thoughtful of the flaws in their natural tendencies so as to not impetuously draw unsubstatianted conclusions about a person. Even though the latter kind is (obviously) way less common than the former, it's not too much of a stretch to claim it's achievable (or better yet, increasable). I believe this was a subtle implication of Hunter's point (although some parts are admittedly idealistic), that we, *humans* (which they emphasized), are one of the very few if not the only species *not* solely living on instinct, *and* with sufficient intelligence and conditioning can "tone down" the shallowness with meaningful efficacy.
Dang I actually appreciated this video, I've been afraid to go on blind dates because I felt I would be missing out on a person I already knew but hadn't asked out yet. This helped me to gain a little more confidence to go out with people I don't know and how to keep my standards while opening what I thought I liked in a girl. Appreciate the video, you guys always do good videos! 👍
@@frontalbackstab thats stupid plenty of men only date short girls...girls with big boobs and ass everyone has a type but as soon as woman say tall men all you small guys get triggered
No matter how many times I watch this video, it’s still so interesting. She has the “I am the table” type of attitude, he has the attitude of “this is awkward, and I know that if I lean on the awkwardness and spice things up with a bit of humor I WILL come out on top in some way.” She had the attitude that people should cater to her, whereas he had the attitude to cater to the situation.
When she said "I'm gonna die alone", she was fishing for a comfort statement from 1 of the guys to alleviate the awkwardness of every1 getting up and leaving. When she instead got reaffirmation of the circumstance instead of a pat on the back, & an "awwww, noooo, you'll find some1" thats when she got offended. Alls I gotta say is truth hurts baby.
@@Cissbitz So true. They aren't real women. I think they are diseased by Uni or City living. In my circle, a man that will chop wood early in the morning and respects people as much as they respect him is all we look for. No lie.
Yeah the first person I dated was a year younger when I was a teen which was a big deal back then and I didn’t think of my younger brother, to be honest so many older guys remind me of my older brother, like I dunno if it’s something in the water but they be talking the same and it’s so funny
渦 if you translate it further it reads : I can’t see myself with someone younger because I want to be provided for. I want the status of adulthood but to act/feel like a child. Younger brother = responsibility. She doesn’t want that. Further investigation would reveal that she needs emotional validation on a daily basis with that need growing exponentially.
@@MissKitae Newborn 😂 we are talking about guy who are just 2 or 3 years younger than you . Or Maybe you are 40 or 50 years old women because then your statement make sense 😂😂
"Aren't Mexicans spicy Asians?" - Preach bahahahaha yo I'm fucking dying. As a part Latino part Asian man i found that hilarious and almost too accurate. I almost spit my O.J into my Pozole man
I find it hilarious how girls always do the surprised Pikachu face when a guy insults them. Like they're acting like they weren't expecting it but they know it's true.
Like that outside the studio too. Someone needs to tell these chicks that 6 foot isn't the average height of a man. If you're gonna be picky enough to discard 80% of the population then I think we can call you shallow as fuck. Mr 5'9" over there would have been your perfect partner but you told him to fuck off because he isn't 7.5cm taller. Fuck outta here...
@@munky342 Simple biological scanning. Height is an important factor evolutionary and so it goes. How women shoot 10 cm or 4 inches above the medium male height on the BASIS is incredibly funny. But such is life.
@@mordredvonumbra154 oh I get it, but cutting out such a large portion of the population in this day and age isn't necessary. We don't really live by survival of the fittest anymore.
I also love your views on these matters! However: it's when I learned a bit better about the things I don't like - e.g. no response from the girl you apparently like/love during a day while kinda dating - that I was able to find my wife and check all I needed against the criterias I had. Guess what: she was the same about many things, yet different from me in even more things. In the end we're married for around 3 years and we are happy, though we also have quarrels at times etc. Thank you for your videos!
Not wanting kids for the next 7yrs, she's 26, wants someone older, that's at least 5'11 and likes partying, but she wants true, deep love! Damn, she nearly killed me
The moment she mentioned height, asking for people taller than 6, I would've gotten up and left. I actually don't understand why a single guy stayed there. Like, really bro? Is that who you want to spend even a second with? edit : I'm over 6 ft, which I should've mentioned to make my point clear. It's alright to have superficial preferences. I'd like to have someone closer to my height but it's not a deal breaker. I'm not going to dismiss someone's interest in me just because they're short? Fucking ridiculous way to live tbh. Things like these shouldn't be deal breakers.
@@wren4077 I kinda agree, but I like my men at least 5'6 (I'm 5'2) so it would be weird having a guy the same height as me since I'm so short 😂 I can kinda see where she's coming from since she's a pretty tall girl but goddamn 6'0 that's overkill haha
@@fiestyfox2207 having a preference is fine. People prefer to date the same ethnicity as them, doesn't make them racist. People often do it because of their traditional values and has nothing to do with appearances. But to dismiss someone for their height is extremely superficial and hypocritical. I'm not the only guy who's gone through this conversation w some woman on tinder. My tinder profile, for the longest time said I was 5'6 even though I'm 6'4. Kind of like a joke, but also like a filter you know. You would think that would help me filter out the superficial people looking for a tall boyfriend. But no there werw still chicks that would lead with "how tall are you really?" To which my usual response was "how much do you weigh, really" And they would act like I was being rude or offensive. I mean, I was. But lets not be hypocrites ladies. At least I have control over my weight. What frustrates me more is how oblivious they are to this hypocrisy, and not the hypocrisy itself. Edit : I'm sorry you have that in your head that it would be weird to date a human that's the same height as you. Idk if that is an expectation you acquired out of society's standards or what but I hope you realise how insane that sounds Your comment literally reads "haha im short but I can't be with a guy that's short" Please change Another edit : my first relationship was with someone almost a foot shorter than me. While rn you can't even entertain the possibility of dating someone JUST SLIGHTLY taller than you. I hope you see this for what it is.
@@wren4077 I think 5'6 is pretty average and reasonable. I doubt you'd be weirded out dating a 7' girl, you're probably a hypocrite yourself haha. I weight 130, I have no problem sharing my weight and I take my health seriously. Don't care if you wanna know my weight 🤷🏻♀️
@@wren4077 Girls want to feel protected, feminine, cute. We don't want to be looking straight at our boyfriend's or looking down at them. It doesn't feel right. I've dated guys my height though and slightly taller and I liked them even though it's kind of uncomfortable. I looked past that, but I love my lil 5'6 Salvadorean/Filipino king. Getting to put my head on his chest when we hug is a bonus. 😂
Im 19, in college and never had a girlfriend in person, kissed or did the deed. Basically the whole thing that i want is a long term relationship that focuses more on the emotional, mental, physical and psycological aspects and doesnt always go for the money or finances then guilt trip me/expect me to do stuff like giving gifts or money right away or later on. Age range is 18 - 35 (depends on the maturity of the person). And im looking for loyalty and having my back personally and in a team setting; like living together or out and about. The only physical aspect is if you are putting in effort to have a healthy and fit body (the badonkadonks and booty i dont really care much about), cause i am very adaptive on the other persons active range so if you dont work out or move around much then id replicate that but i want to be active so i can have someone i can be active for/with. Damn... i think i just wrote my bio for dating lol. I just need to clean it up a bit to make it less detailed and brief
As someone that agreed and then immediately stopped reading, let me give you a piece of advice: Treat the women you like, as if you hate them, for some reason that turns them on and being turned on is like 50% of their value system. Don't treat them as if you like them because then they'll start fabricating weird excuses as to why they're somehow safer when you hate them. Does it make sense? No.
@iBloodxHunter you'll be fine man. I didn't sleep with a women until after high school then I basically didn't havr a problem until my 30s where I am settling down but it's to hard to find a womrn with no kids
Word of advice as a woman DONT do what Bloodxhunter said lmaooo. Treat a woman with respect. Show her you appreciate her but don’t be overbearing. For example buy her a small gift but dont shower her with them because (1) it creates unrealistic expectations of what a relationship would be like between you and (2) it can make you think you’re obsessed with her which is VERY unsafe for women which is why it’s seen as a red flag. Ultimately though you can joke around with her to see if she’s into your sense of humor or not. Don’t compromise it for a girl who doesn’t appreciate it. It doesn’t make her a bad person to not like it just as much as your not a bad person for having it, however sense of humor is important so it’s definitely not something you wanna fake
People like this young woman - have been conditioned to the mindset that their reality IS WITHIN the walls of the delusion. They WILL NOT hear others' opinions, critiques, and will not deal with reality. Their reality IS the delusion and nothing will reconnect the wires to reality. And when someone points this out - you better stand back! Notice her instant, key word "instant" response to a general opinion of her and BASED FROM HER OWN criteria!!! The defensive mechanism/posture is sooooo present in these types - it is not only 'on the ready', it anticipates those who dare poke at the walls of their delusional fantasy world. Narcissism knows no bounds. It lies and schemes and builds unimaginable story lines on the fly that are incomprehensible to normal people. If you hear a woman say "I deserve..." verbally or figuratively, you need to run...like right now. It's a short story. The End.
She aint tho. She will find someone easy. The nice thing about that tho is that the guy she finds is very populair with all women. And will sleep around every weekend :D
Notice how shorty's priorities were based only on the physical? If dude did the same thing, every single one of those girls would bounce after question one
Pretty good point- even the self righteous ones or "body positive" would feel like thats all they're being valued for and leave. THIS IS WHY WE NEED MENS RIGHTS ACTIVISTS. I'm 6'4" and ID SUPPORT WALKING OUT OF THAT CIRCLE AS SOON AS A HEIGHT QUESTION IS ASKED. right next to the 4'11" guy
@I like Pancakes lmao ikr all these chicks who scroll on Instagram see all these models who seem to have beautiful partners and perfect lives expect the same to happen to them
I don't know where you are trying to find a partner, but maybe try something like interest-based communities, like for hobbies. It seems the dating apps are really not so great for finding a worthwhile match. I haven't heard any positive outcomes for app dates from either male or female friends. All the happy couples I know met either at work/university or over hobbies.
The dating scene is terrible for any generation. You're generation is just lazy and expects instant results. Fix yourself first, then get out there and figure it out. Not trying to be rude, just saying its hard for anyone.
@@soyboybettaproductions4484 Way ahead of you. I haven't cared about relationships for years. I've been working on myself and that's all I'm going to do. Relationships aren't worth the hassle.
Man you internet famous. Don't try that I don't get no coochie act. But still it was refreshing to see how calculated your moves were. Big ups to you man.
20:14 - This right here - don't complain about the consequences of your choices. I do it sometimes - but then I realise I chose badly and I have to take responsibility. So, I take it, I live with my regrets and that's it. I don't blame it ON OTHER PEOPLE!!
Ayak Sors in my opinion, I think she actually had easier standards to begin with and when she experienced failed relationships, instead of maintaining or lowering her standards, she raised them because of her delusion that the men are 100% the problem. I could be wrong.
@@joecool2721 The sad part is that men drop their standards all the time but women rarely do. If a 9 guy hits on or sleeps with a 7 girl. The girl will think she's a 9 and won't settle for less.
When it comes to the physical traits of a person, I have some preferences when it comes to hair color, height, body shape, etc. The specifics aren't that big of a deal. As long as the overall package I find to be attractive... doesn't need to be hyper attractive... but enough that I find the potential partner to be visibly appealing... that's all I need as far as physical features. The rest is all in how well we get along, how mature the other person is, how loving they are, etc, etc. I'm not going to lie and say that a very attractive person can't turn my head or make me act stupid, but a long lasting relationship is going to be based on love, communication, mutual interests, and mutual values.
10/10 Amazing video 1:25-Woman perspective (Officially) 9:25 Man’s perspective Learned a lot about the dating game from both mans perspective and a woman perspective Different approaches to finding someone Best way to communicate your preferences and values Choosing your filters to dating people The restrictive approach and the open approach
Shes only just figuring out how to make a healthy pick when dating, honestly if they follow up with her in a year I'm sure she wouldve made some real self progress. What she needs is to ditch the need to have someone there. Based on her dating history she isnt to used to just being alone and being okay with it
@kenyana wtf are you talking about? My wife doesn’t have unrealistic expectations like these everyday (females). This woman over here talking about trivial shit and expect to land Prince Charming. #missmewiththat
@@matthewmcknight6600 i don't disagree at all. In fact thats exactly the demographic that i believe would be on there, alas those still are not the people that can sustain an LTR, rather they're the people putting in the work to be able to, I'm not shaming anyone just making a logical hypothesis. Notice i use words like "probably", that's not set in stone.
It sort of depends. A person can be in a Long Term Relationship, learn a lot about themselves and what they want in a partner while it's falling apart, and then have little idea how to date again afterwards. Often, the first place people like this end up is on dating apps because of the lack of desire to put themselves out there again. They look for something a bit less personal and with less strings attached. At least, until they're over the break up. I mean, statistically speaking, most marriages end in divorce. What are marriages except long term relationships? When a person sets "long term relationship experience" as a criteria, what they're looking for is someone who has the behavior and social skills to make something work long term. Someone with the ability to compromise. Someone who has realistic expectations of a partner. Someone not in a relationship purely for sex, money, or possessions. Someone who is effective at communication. Someone who hasn't scared off many potential long-term relationships by having a ton of red flags. If you meet someone who has never been in a long term relationship, but has very likely dated a ton of people, that's a huge warning sign right there. Or, even if they haven't dated a ton of people, it's a possible red flag as you wonder, "why have they never been in a long term relationship before? What's wrong with them?"
Woman: "Im hoping to break the cycle of dating really bad men" Also woman: Has the same standards and are unwilling to budge. Vaas: "Did I ever tell you what the definition of insanity is?"
@@caleighhraee yeah, for sure. I'm not the most outgoing guy out there and all my best relationships were with women that were way more outgoing then me.. it just works, she takes pressure off me while getting me out of my shell a bit and I'm not robbing the spotlight from her lol
before the deal breaker when she was talking about children and whatnot, she said a man has got to be mentally (and financially) stable before having kids with her😆😆 and then she comes up with “if you’re 1 month younger than I am, I see you literally as my brother” talk about mental stability
Men's dating criteria: "just be fun to be around, and don't stress me out" Women's dating criteria: "has to be 6 foot tall, make six figures, has to love God, but also be a party animal, has to be a Libra because I'm a Capricorn, must love my dog, be emotionally available but also cold and distant, must want kids in at least 8 years because that's when I'll be ready, and has to be able to entertain me when I'm bored." Who do you think will get more options?
My criteria: A girl best friend material, I mean really someone who can be as enjoyable to have around as my guy friends, and I would like them to still be someone I find attractive, that doesn't mean you can't find fat people attractive, I just don't, and its something you can actually control by working out, where as height is something you can do nothing about, its out of your power, just like the race your born with
I’ve been married for 18 years (got married when I was 20) and have had the same friends since elementary school. I’m not surprised that some of them are still single and will be for a long time. Their idea of the perfect man for them doesn’t exist. It especially pisses me off when one of them says stupid shit and brings my husband into it. Like a few weeks ago I suggest the new guy at my job to a friend and she said “he’s under six feet, maybe you’re okay with that but that’s a deal breaker for me”. Uhm, my husband is 5’11 and one extra inch in his height isn’t what loves, supports or keeps me warm at night.
I’m at ten years with my husband. We’re expecting our second child in February. Recently, my husband had to get wrist surgery for a broken lunate bone. He was so disappointed about his scar when he saw the aftermath. I just kept telling him that he is still the same man, and it’s true. Things like physical differences are incredibly trivial when you look forward to forever with someone you really love. Plus, I’ll be honest, scars are kinda ruggedly sexy on guys. I made sure that he knew I felt that way, too. 😆
Oh god I’d have a hard time respecting a friend who said shit like “maybe YOURE okay with that” - like damn, you’re NOT okay with dating someone just because they’re 5’11??? That’s some superficial shit Also my ex is 5’8 (maybe 5’9?) had no idea so many people so hateful toward dude who aren’t 6’ until I started online dating. I dated a few guys who were 6’+ and honestly it made no difference to me at all (as far as attraction).
The "choking" referred to is restricting blood flow to the brain while not restricting the airway. This when done causes a range of symptoms from mild sedation, tiredness, adrenaline response. It's important to limit the time restricting the blood flow as to not cause any damage especially if done frequently as even minor damages can build and possibly be a more long lasting issue. For the most part if they arent going unconscious you are probably ok, but make sure to have a non verbal understanding of thier level of conciousness
@13:44 I would like to mention that I am a 22 y/o cis woman and I haven't ever been in a relationship before and so many of my classmates haven't been in one either. My peers and I are pursuing Law and Business school and we sincerely don't get any time out of our academics apart from eating and or exercising. Although quite a few of us have had sex, it's still not as frequently done as it is portrayed in the media, most of the women who dated anyone due to it not being encouraged in asian societies in general but I can see why so many of them haven't been in a long term relationship even in their early 20s.
my xará (xará in portuguese means we have the same first name lol) if you into radio and brutal honesty just type "patrice o'neal and luis c.k blacks vs mexicans" is 20 minutes of racial honesty and comedy gold.
@@nickvalentine3815 lots of Mexicans are mixed with natives, and central/south American natives are really close genetically to modern south east, east asians. So if you look at for example "hot Brazilian native (or India gostosa)" you will just find a brown thick girl with a philipino/Korean face. Thus "spicy Asian " (reference to Mexican pepper cuisine).
Insisting that a guy is 5'11" minimum and absolutely must be not even a single month younger than you... those aren't standards or values; they're neuroses.
Discovered your channel today. Was suss at first cause there were some interesting titles choices but you guys have totally won me over. You guys have great perspective and are funny as hell. So nice to hear rational ppl on YT.
"I like to party" "I like to drink a lot" "I like a bit of choking" "A guy needs to be at least 5,11" "I don't want to settle down and have kids within 7 years" "I wanna travel" "Every single man younger than me reminds me of my brother." "Why do I only meet bad men?" Oeh, oeh, I know why, I know why!
@@peaperxni5807 nothing wrong with it but you gotta make sure your being financially responsible. Can’t always be going on vacations and shit you gotta work
@@peaperxni5807 When a single woman says she likes to travel, it should also be a red flag because: 1. It’s another form of escapism for cheap thrills and for filling an empty void with passing novelty 2. It’s expensive, so most likely causing her to go into irresponsible debt or she’s a sugar baby who have a Rolodex of simps funding her luxurious lifestyle 3. “Girls trips” are the perfect example of how “single women keep women single.” 4. A young woman in her prime prioritizing traveling *more than* cultivating the qualities and values she brings to the table that would make her a quality wife and mother for a man shows immature selfishness and lack of long-term mindset.
less people are dating, as people have become more insular and peoples "standards" have gone through the roof. Just another form of inflation in incredibly inflationary times.
So . Why does it have to be things that you can change. Then what make someone special if everyone can be each other with some work. And besides the point that's the dumbest most bullshit opinion I've ever heard.
@@FuckTard-dd1ee My dude, she wants to "not continue this pattern of very bad men" but has filters and requirements that have nothing to do with a person's morality, views, and character(excluding the children part). It's one thing to have a preference, but to outright eliminate someone based on attributes a person has little to no control over, shows that you would rather prioritize LOOKING like a great couple over BEING a great couple.
