Autism Self Diagnosis| Purple Ella 

Amy exactly my thoughts :)

It was after watching my now 10years old son's diagnosis that I had the university I was studying assess me. And I had my youngest son get a diagnosis through school Nurse. We are all on the spectrum.

Agree. Logical brains should understand that all people are susceptible to error. Therefore, an official diagnosis is not a guarantee either. So, a professional diagnosis isn't the end all be all. Truly, I have a friend who is a clinical social worker. She disclosed to me that she attempted to cut off her fiance's manhood with a knife and then diagnosed him as a narcissist because he dumped her before the wedding even though everyone knew he didn't want to marry her, even before the knife incident. So, yes, a person can go to school, take some hard exams, and perhaps a residency or two in order to be granted the official ability to assess things, but cognitive biases and blind spots are still there... Theory of mind is a challenge for neurotypicals too, so it's more about being able to analyze and accurately identify what's happening in the mind of the patient. Asperger's doesn't officially exist in the US anymore, but it still exists to me. Diagnosis of someone with a high IQ isn't as simple as ticking off a list of criteria, it is more like an investigation where nuanced and seemingly imperceptible variations in cognition must be recognized. So, really, who is better to equipped to diagnose? A logical, objective individual on the spectrum with a first person preservative of their experiences or my friend with credentials? Yes, I'm being slightly facetious, but really, who would you want to help you figure out what's going on in your mind?

Only a certified person can make a diagnosis, this includes doctors, psychologist and psychiatrist.

@Murder Junkie yes, some do but not as many as there should be.

I've seen a councilor who said I most likely have autism as well but said i probably shouldn't pursue a diagnosis for this exact reason. (Though I'm in college to be a teacher, but it would be nice to be able to be part of the community)

Feel the exact same. As of now I'm yet to hear back on my diagnostic results but I think it would really impact my job prospects if I mentioned being autistic to employers. Having done a fair bit of onstage acting (performing is a fair bit different than navigating through small talk) and training to be a digital marketer (less client facing than you'd think) a look at my CV makes people assume I'm fine socially. I can function, but it's very taxing.

Maybe. But we'd also have a lot of fakes out there. Should we believe everyone who insists they were abducted by aliens as well? Doesn't make much sense. There's a reason self diagnosis is considered ill advised. Personal confirmation biases, study methods, sources, all can alter how someone ends up seeing themself, necessitating a formal diagnosis from a professional to clear it up because like it or not, that's what they're trained to do.

@@faded1to3black Self diagnosis can be valid, but it requires a degree of care. It's easy to Google the most benign symptoms and convince yourself you have weeks to live, which is why you go to a doctor for a diagnosis to find out if it's a) nothing to worry about or b) needs further investigation. However, when it comes to autism, there are several diagnostic tests that have been put together by qualified professionals in the field and, while they come with the disclaimer that they are intended to be used in a clinical setting, I doubt that my responses to the AQ and RAADS-R questionnaires would be substantially different, whether I went through them with a psychologist present, or on my own. While I'm well aware of how confirmation bias works and I recognise that none of us are immune to it, I believe that it's also important to understand that the tools that are available online for self-diagnosis of autism are more than just Facebook quizzes to find out what your superhero name would be. It's also not as easy to get a professional diagnosis of autism as it is for more clearly-defined conditions. Aside from the fact that, in my country (UK) at least, obtaining a clinical diagnosis involves either paying to go private or languishing for years on a waiting list, autism is not a single, clearly-defined condition. It's a spectrum and there are many traits commonly associated with it. An autistic person may exhibit only a few of these traits, or many of them. Further, it's a lot harder for a third party to diagnose something that they can't actually see. With a physical illness, there are visible, or at least biologically detectable, symptoms. With autism, the clinician is largely reliant upon the patient's description of their subjective experiences. Unfortunately, this often leads to the patient not being believed, or their experiences being dismissed or misunderstood. This is especially true in adults, for example, where we have had to learn to mask ourselves in order to appear "normal" in social situations. More than once I have seen an autistic person complaining that their therapist or psychologist ignored their experiences and decided that they weren't autistic because they can function in a social context, or because they've forced themselves to control their tics when out in public. Not only does this leave people who are on the spectrum being overlooked when they are clearly in need of support, it demotivates them to seek further help and can lead to them becoming increasingly depressed and even suicidal because they are not being believed or listened to. I believe that, in the case of a condition that is largely (or entirely) defined by one's own subjective, internal experience, self-diagnosis can, in many ways, be more valid, more reliable and more useful than a "professional" opinion.

@@faded1to3black if self diagnosis were valid then everyone would be on disability and avoiding military service. ie mellingering. thats why professional help is better. if the question is am or am i not autistic then why would you worry about it. i never thought i was schizophrenic until someone else made me go to the er. i never cared about schizophrenia or mental illness. . why do self diagnosers care so much about being diagnosed and telling everyone they are sick?

@@defective1331 You need to calm yourself down. Forcing people into military 'service' so they seek a false disability to protect themselves is an issue with the state and not the person. Stop glorifying the military and any government for that matter. Who are they telling they are sick? Autism isn't a sickness. Schizophrenia is. Your ableist standpoint is precisely so many people need a diagnosis and their own diagnosis are valid. In order to have acessibility from services and charities that would support them going forward; a diagnosis is vital. Support in this world is conditional based on specifications set by people like you! The quality of life of each person is important unlike you and your deme-ted need to push everyone through the military carousel. What are you doing for verterans who are of no use to anyone and dealing with PTSD? Scoffing at them as well? Go and serve yourself since everyone one else clearly does not want to.

Ok, I self-diagnose as a rich person. Believe me about who I am and what I need, and then send me a million dollars. You wouldn't want to be PREJUDICED, would you?? I self-diagnose as a Native American. Believe me about who I am and what I need. Send me government benefits, casino earning percentages, guaranteed land ownership, tax exemptions, etc. I self-diagnose as a police brutality victim. I got pulled over for speeding and started mouthing off to the cop, then pushed the cop and resisted arrest. Believe me about who I am and what I need. I also self-diagnose as black, so now I get to be a police victim by default, and my own actions that caused the arrest are now irrelevant. Fire the cop who pulled me over and give me a civil settlement. I can play this dumbass game all day long. Slippery slopes are fun, right? 🤡

That is why, instead of going to "present my case", I started a list of issues I have (along with a list of assets, just to give myself some positive counter-weight). Should I ever seek support, I will present that list, and see what the professionals make of it.

@@schwarzeseis4031 I did this too, I have also googled all of the symptoms and written down to what extent i experience them (accompanied with examples from memory) I did that to find out whether it will be worth it to seek a diagnosis once i have access to a diagnostic assessment. it turns out that I have pretty much all of the traits in varying degrees. I am glad I did this, because now I know it is most likely me.

@@debbiegarden6306 you cant drive or travel 45 minutes? my hospital is 45 minutes away from me.

@@debbiegarden6306 you mean psychiatrist. theres a difference. i am diagnosed with a major mental disorder since 2009. ive been around the country. psychiatrists work in clinics. not their house. this is not bill cosby/huxtable. have you ever tried to meet a doctor? give me a state and city.

@@debbiegarden6306 just because you go in to get diagnosed does not mean you have it. ive been diagnosed as a child as not having it. later i was diagnosed with something else. now i have people that do things for me. asd is rated in how much help you need. my son has asd bad. but i dont think i have it.

I'm sure your children don't need to be on medication. What if the same professional told you your children needed hormone blockers and a sex change? I hope you're not that type of parent. Open your eyes

@@e7thstar he never said anything about his children being medicated. Not all children with a diagnosis take medication. My daughter is Autistic and doesn't take any medication. I'm an adult with ADHD. I'm on medication, but every time that I have decided I don't think I need my medication, it isn't very long before I start running into issues at home with getting stuff like vehicle inspections done, paying bills, and stuff like that. Then at work, I start running into issues from impulsively talking over people, and not staying on topic to the point where someone will make a joke about me having ADHD, and a few other people will stop laughing and ask me seriously about it. Usually, that is embarrassing enough that I'll end up realizing that I function a lot better at work and get along with people a lot better when I'm medicated. I can sort of work out a lot of tasks with a bunch of reminders and stuff unmedicated, but the social part hurts a lot.

@@kraziecatclady being opinionated and talking over boring people isn't a medical condition. So you like to slack off, all humans do. Difference is we all learn to cope with it our own way. Again, most of these diagnosis don't exist in other countries.

@@kraziecatclady you should care less if you get along with your coworkers and more about doing efficient work. Just my two cents.

@@e7thstar no one has ever called me lazy besides myself. If anything they usually have to stop me and get me to refocus because I will try to do everything at once and I have no ability to prioritize. If you come to me while I am working on something and give me a task, I will stop what I am doing and go do that task instead even if you meant for me to do it another day or later on. On medication, I seem to have an easier time telling people to let me finish my current task before moving on. They aren't being boring, I have trouble not talking over people because of impulse control where I get really nervous that if I don't talk over them, I might forget what I was thinking about, that they will move away from the topic and I will be off topic by the time there is a gap, and/or I feel like they think I don't know the thing they are talking about. The last one, I have managed to get a little bit better about controlling myself and stopping myself from doing, because I'll try to remind myself that probably is not the case. As for people not liking me, maybe I'm wording things wrong. I don't really give a shit about if people like me or not, but the issue is causing tension at work. It's really really bad to talk over your boss, especially if he/she already has you in their office to discuss an issue or to give you a task to complete, yet I struggle to not talk over them even though it will make the situation worse. The same issue occurs from talking over coworkers. They become frustrated with you and avoid you or ignore your advice even if it is solid advice.

I will never get diagnosed. People don't understand it in India at all.

Its nice to know I'm not the only one thank you, now I need to find someone like you to be my friend and understand me.

Stephanie Wright well I can be ur friend 👍

@@anweshakar146 its still difficult here in India there is no concept like mental health at all...

@@anweshakar146 yeah. I'm Indian and feel the same way too. I have a strong feeling that I might be autistic but the way mental health is treated in our country is so archaic...

This is my fear! I have learned to mask for so long that whenever I'm around people I subconsciously start masking. It's how I've learned to cope and I've learned my social skills from mimicking other people around me that I was close too and mimick certain behaviors so when I'm around others I will mask. I know I'm on the spectrum but I'm afraid of spending all that money for them to misdiagnose me because of my masking not to mention I'm almost 30 now so it's not exactly easy. I've done a lot of research and I have a gut feeling that I'm autistic but I don't want to get a misdiagnoses.

@Firebird Don ikr, I don't even get why 😂

I'm 14 right now, and I suspect that I am autistic. I have no clue how to ask my parents to take me to the doctor. 😅 I prefer not to be touched, and I have some sensory issues. There are many other things, but your comment has given me some confidence.🙂

It’s been a year, how are you doing?

@@cloud-ji7vm heyy, I'm now seventeen buy because of COVID and things, I still haven't been able to get a diagnosis :(😂

@@alexmeiai774 I know that you wouldn't probably need this but... Good luck! I am same age as yours and told my parents about it which they responded as "The effect of pandemic", they didn't even bothered to ask me or do something. I really wish you the best and hopefully you get your diagnosis : )

Same!

I'm the same. I just told my mum that I think I may have autism and I explained to her the traits that I show but I wouldn't say I am autistic until I get told by a professional no matter how confident I am. I babysit my cousins sometimes and the other day I was almost in meltdown territory and nearly just walked out to drive home. Obviously I didn't, but I think I'll need to tell the older kids (9 and 12) that I can't handle the kind of behaviour they were showing to prevent anything in the future

This all sounds great in theory, but not everyone is able to access a professional who is well trained in diagnosing autism in adult females, or even younger females. I'm not able to handle the costs and the travel, which would be involved for me. I tried years ago, but wasn't able to find someone with experience, I would have had to fly across the country, which I couldn't afford, so ended up with another misdiagnosis and more useless pills. It's too late for me now.

Same

I feel like I may be autistic but I don’t want to bring it up with my parents incase I’m wrong

This happened with my teacher when I needed a form filled out in order to get an assessment. She put down a bunch of lies about me and I didn’t score high enough on it to require an assessment because she put what she thought I should be able to do.

Oh also I wish you luck in getting a diagnosis 💕 sending love

I'm so sorry! :(

@Chig Bungus this is the most relatable thing I’m feeling about this right now.

It's all you have when you live in US and getting help is arduous as fuck

@@Dylan-yh3yk the US is amazing as long as you make less than 40k single and 80k married. My healthcare is free, my income taxes are negative, my tax on investments are 0%. its all about location. Where I live in the US, $24k provides a decent life . Three bedroom house, two paid for cars, fridge that's always stocked, twenty minutes away from a lake to take my jetskis out. That level of expense lets me save about 45% of my income (I work at a gas station, I'm not some fancy software engineer).

It’s too expensive it’s 3000+$ and I don’t have it. I feel like I want to get it but it’s just not realistic

I am 50 years old went to the doctor's just before lockdown the doctor was not very helpful I had no success to be put on the list for an assessment I myself have decided to live my life and carry on coping the way I have done so far

I Have Autism I Was Diagnosed With Autism At Age 14 I'm 27 Years Old Now Iv'e Been Living Interdependently On My Own For 2 Years & 12 Months So Far

I’m transgender too and I didn’t know about this... Thankyou for making me aware. What is it that prevents medical stuff? I have an general idea from guessing but this is the first I’ve heard about this..

@@rulerzreachf4n200 having an autism diagnosis can make the assessment period for hormones or surgery much longer and in some countries they are allowed to deny you hormones or surgery altogether because they think that being autistic can effect your ability to consent properly, understand the outcomes of transitioning or give you a “wrong” view of your gender

I'm transgender and autistic too. I have a formal diagnosis. I never knew it could make some of the processes longer. I also am partially blind and have joint pain (not sure yet what's causing it) I'm just hoping my transitioning wont be significantly delayed due to my disabilities :/

@@BBDOT Omg fuck that so much! I am so sorry! :( I know issues of consent are important but damn, that is so messed-up.

They already rejected me for autism because of some childhood trauma. Too scared to get diagnosed for gender dysphoria (despite being trans as well) because you can get rejected for that as well if you have some childhood trauma. So I've decided to just rot and swallow the dysphoria until I 'manage' to get a job. Then I am still rotting but helping parent pay bills and such. I don't see a future for me but watching these videos make me feel less lonely/invisible.

I'd love to have the chance to get diagnosed after waiting only a year. I live in the US, so it's $3k to have them diagnose you. I've looked at the DSM-5, and I've seen I meet all the criteria, and in the US the only support you'd get is disability, which I wouldn't qualify for because I am capable of holding a job. Realistically, I doubt I'd ever be able to spend that much money on something like that.

How did you get on??

@@georgiarous1019 It went very well I think, considering. The assessment lasted 2.5 hours, I was asked many questions, I was observed by the specialist as I did some game tests with various toys and puzzles, I had to tell a story based on toys and a story based on an illustrated book without a text, and the specialist also reviewed my answers to the previous assessment. I cried several times - something I only do when asked about what I truly feel about something since I either don't know what I feel or feel too much and have a meltdown - and we laughed a lot at some of my actions or answers. It was relaxed, I had my partner with me to help me when I was feeling overwhelmed, and I could feel that the specialist had my best interest in mind. By the end of the assessment she very kindly told me that there was no doubt that I am autistic, she said she was shocked that I hadn't been diagnosed as a child with relevant support, and gave lots of leaflets and info about support groups - I cannot find a job because of my disabilities so that was really needed. And that's it. I received the official letter 1 month after I believe. I am autistic. I knew it but it's something to receive proof of it and having a reason for all the struggles I have faced. I hope you'll be all right if you are waiting for your own diagnosis. ❤

@@alexpoulpe979 I wonder now, January 2022, how you are doing?

@@lindaclairesartori Oh thanks for asking, I had forgotten about this post. It's weird to read all that, which I wrote directly at the time it happened! Well, one year later, I can tell that took me some time to come to terms with the "loss" of the life I could have had if I had been given relevant support from childhood. But I'm much better now, because I know what hurts me and what helps, my social circle knows and protects me, and I receive some well needed support at work too (I'm a librarian and got that job after the diagnosis!). All in all, it's great! Though I have been struggling with fear of abandonment during the whole c-19 situation as I'm lousy with communication and haven't seen my friends (who live very far away) in many months. But they tell me they miss me too and know well how my brain works, so I should instead focus on taking care of myself and making plans for when I see them again. I'm sure I'm not the only neurodivergent person who's been experiencing those feelings lately... Good luck to all of you in the same situation that I was before this official diagnosis, and lots if virtual hugs (the one I prefer 🤗).

Take your kids for having Autism? What if your kids are also diagnosed autistic?

Very possible especially in the United States. Sad but true. Very possible.

@@kraziecatclady yep child care protective services can take away your child for having autism if they see you are fit or capable of handling them.

@@Faethehippie15_ I doubt an autism diagnosis by itself would result in the government taking your children. Now if the person is proven to be unfit by other means, for example, not providing for their child (neglect) or being abusive, that's a reason in itself to remove the child and place it in a safer environment, but if you are diagnosed autistic, that should be a sole reason for children to be taken away. I have ADHD and OCD. Neither of my diagnosis have ever resulted in anyone trying to take my kids away.

Natural Vegan Mom If your husband is NT he probably don't get what to the autism problem with you really is. He like she had a disability who struggle are because he can really help you with that. It's amazing you really do get know you. Just from reading your comments. Your a open book and that what is mainly a strong case for diagnoses. I was so open and honest at 15. I'm not now I see my thinking as grey and living a grey world. Moving on to your assessment. don't mask. It O.K You can lose concentration and say random things that can be your naturally aspergers/autism self. A lot of women say that with all this masking. They pretended to be normal (NT) they forget what their autism personalty is even to autism diagnoses assessor. Can't see though the mask. If you told them your behaviour in childhood that would help. What childhood behaviour did have which would have been classed as autistic?

Mind reading proof, no one can mind read. That the Simon Bahon Cahon autism and theory of mind test. Reading the eyes test. That studies show that people with autism how deficit in theory of mind. Compared to normal (NT) people. There the strange story task in your fail with that task as well you'll get a diagnoses. I know that Bahon Cohen is sexist. And the whole diagnoses process is still design for boys not even men. Young children. Do you think you UK needs a women autism assessment with a part on masking and social burnout.?

Gary Francis I want an official diagnosis, not so much of asd, but simply to know what it is I have, if I have anything. I encounter tremendous difficulties in my daily life, but the help I've received in the past has only made me worse; it was not geared towards asd. If I do have asd, then having a diagnosis means that I would have access to appropriate services. Whereas right now no one can really help me, since I don't even fully know what I have.

Gary Francis the whole asd diagnostic criteria should be revised. It is a spectrum. No two people are alike. Things such as masking, social burnout, etc. Should definitely be included and looked for while assessing someone.

Natural Vegan Mom I forgot this Purple Ella channel. I Have female mates with aspergers/autism who are married and have children and they have to stay at home looking after the children. Because have problems working with energy accounting. So Ella give me more understanding my female friends on the spectrum. Also Ella was the first masking video I ever watched. I could put a link up of that video.

bruh

I believe u

I'm only in high school, and I already suspect that I am neurodivergent. I also struggled with the audio. I'm so sorry that you had such a difficult time with getting a diagnosis and doctors. I am afraid to ask my parents to go to a doctor. Hope things have gotten better for you.🥰

I hope that things are better for you too

You just described what life's like for the average human.

Thanks Yana, you're right and as I watched the video back I actually thought the same thing. There are no absolutes. Can I ask you to elaborate on what you mean bu the subtitle of my autism playlist?

​@@PurpleEllaif I click on your channel I see the playlist "Autism" and next to it the "play all" button. Below that is what I called the "subtitle" which says "I'm an autistic Mum with two autistic children, a boy and a girl, videos all about autism" . Based on how you addressed super kid I thought you might have wanted to change it but missed it. Also I wanted to say, watching your videos, especially the ones you and your super children did together, has been really helpful for my mother. It helped her to understand my autism diagnosis looking back on my childhood, and the videos you did with Ros helped her to see how it is now. Thank you so much for what you are doing!

@@PurpleElla probably how it references your older child.

Good luck with your assessment! It took years for me and I know how scary it is when the day finally comes around. Be yourself, try not to mask, stim if you want to etc, I was helped to feel very comfortable during mine, so I hope you have a good experience too!

@@Ash-up9gl Thanks!

advancedwatcher Update? :)

@@Jess-db3vt It was interesting. I have had the report on the first stage - I'm through to the second stage now. After that, they'll meet with me to tell me if I'm autistic or not. Without wishing to sound totally arrogant, what they'll be telling me is whether they are effective or not! The report says I don't do reciprocal conversation. I had to find google that to find out what it was...

@@advancedwatcher update 2.0?

Thank you, I'm really pleased to have reached this milestone.

DOCTORWHO ISGR8 There is a grey area with mental health and autism. Like Schizoaffective disorder have a few similarities to aspergers/autism. Problem non verbal communication. Random thinking and can say random things. Anxiety and paranoia. Schizoaffective is a bit of worry it it's a mental health diagnoses because mental health is look at from a NT view point. But the worry thing is it's rare but you can have autism and schizoaffective disorder, Autism a persuasive developmental disability. Schizoaffective a mental health problem. You should take the AQ (autism quota) test online. And think to childhood not just now when answering the question. If it come back your not on the spectrum. Then good.

Gary francis, your comment not hhere

No,, its schizoaffective, was diagnosed, thanks

I feel the same way. I usually feel like I can't really say I'm autistic, but at the same time I do meet all the criteria, and a diagnosis is $3k. Also, one thing I've learned over the years is doctors are human, too. They've gotten a lot of years of schooling, yes, but they've also had to focus on many different things, far beyond just learning to recognize autism in various people, and how it differs in women vs men. It's like what I've read a lot with keeping pet rats. You take them to the vet in your area that will see rats. But that vet has probably focused their career learning how to treat dogs and cats, and if they treat other species of animals than dogs or cats, they have to study pretty much any species that could be brought in. They cannot focus all their time on your specific animal, so rat owners tend to study rats and learn all they can about treating their medical conditions so they can assist the vet by informing them of things like the best ways to treat mycoplasma. It's not that they know more than the vet, it's that they, as a rat owner, only needs to concern themselves with one animal. It's the same with self diagnosis. While it might be useful to know what might present in a manner similar to autism, and the psychologist will have that, they also need to study every possible mental issue, and for some reason, despite the fact that autism lasts a lifetime, our medical field only focuses in diagnosing it in children, and also focus more on diagnosing it in males than females. Which, since high functioning autism has only been recently acknowledged as a thing that exists, many adults with autism wouldn't have been diagnosed as children, especially if they're female. Also a diagnosis costs $3k, which is not something most people have lying around, especially if your autism poses enough of a problem for you to interfere with your career prospects.

I still have mixed feelings myself. In my mind I say I have autism but if I'm ever talking to someone else about it I still say "I'm pretty sure I have autism" and things like that. I really, super want to be good with a self diagnosis. But a formal one might still be nice :(

I disagree and don't believe you need to experience dysphoria to be trans. I'd be careful making statements about dysphoria please. That's a complicated topic and dysphoria is different for everyone, especially people who don't align with a binary form of gender. It's hard for us, while I personally do experience dysphoria it changes as I'm gender fluid. Moreover, I currently can't access autistic diagnosis. I've been bumped around and I'm back on another waiting list. Realizing I'm *probably* autistic has helped me understand why I am the way I am. I really feel what Ella is adding at the end here. I finally don't feel like anything is wrong with me and I can better manage my self care. So with much respect to you, I'm asking to please remember it's complicated than having diagnosis or not.

@@maiynnai If you can be trans but not dysphoric, then what makes you want to transition? What is it that makes you trans? Just feelings? Also gender-fluid does not make scientific sense, how does your brain magically switch from male to female all of the time? I could understand being in between male and female, as there are people who are born physically intersex, so it would make sense that a very small section of the population would be neurologically intersex as well. Saying you can be trans without dysphoria is like saying you can be bipolar without experiencing any kind of mania or hypomania, or autistic without ever having problems with social skills. Transsexualism is a medical condition that is treated by medically transitioning. It's funny that for no other medical condition people claim that you can have it without having the required symptoms, but for some reason being trans is seen differently. As for autism, I think you are doing the right thing in saying that you are probably autistic, but not definitely as you haven't had a proper diagnosis yet. And I totally understand that it takes time, it took me about 6 months to get diagnosed. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about the people who claim they have 10 different mental illnesses, all self-diagnosed, and are clearly doing it for attention. Unfortunately it's easier to do that with being trans because people claim you don't have to fit any requirements other than calling yourself trans to be trans The reason I'm so passionate about this is because before I was on HRT or top surgery, I spent every day of my life presenting myself as male. It took effort. And obviously, it took effort to physically transition and it will require much more effort to go forward with bottom surgery. (I understand that not everyone who is trans goes through with HRT or surgery for medical or cost reasons, but they still have dysphoria and present themselves as the sex they are transitioning to, barring any problems like not being in a supportive family.) I still suffer with dysphoria and likely will for the rest of my life, because I can never have a cisgender male body.To see young cisgender girls online slap on the label of "trans" when they clearly present as women and have done nothing to transition is an insult to all I've been through to live as a male, and I've had a relatively smooth transition so far. I know other transsexuals who have had it way harder, due to discrimination or inability to pass despite their best efforts. If you want to put a label on yourself, fine, but don't pretend to be something you're not for oppression points. I wouldn't even have that big of a problem with "non-binary" if people didn't keep grouping it with transsexuals. And speaking of autism and gender, there is apparently now a gender called autigender, where I guess being on the spectrum is a separate gender now. It's one of many ridiculous genders that don't make sense. But where do you draw the line? Are all of the ridiculous genders on Tumblr all real genders? And if not, then how do we tell the difference between a silly, made-up gender and a real one? Is it all just about how people feel and not about a serious medical condition? Because if so, gender means nothing, and that's harmful to transgender people, because transphobes see that anyone can claim to be trans and then think trans people are just faking it for attention. Also, it detracts from the fact that trans people need to transition in order to be happy, and that gender dysphoria is a real medical condition. Sorry for the long rant, but I just had to get that out. If this was any other medical condition people would see the problem in people slapping it on, but for some reason trans is seen as an issue of identity and choice rather than a medical condition that you are born with.

Firebird Don There is aspergers like people who personalty os like Aspergers but isn't. If autism is just combination of human traits. Every human does this behaviour then everyone on the planet could self diagnosed themselves with autism. It's this traits which took over their life epsecially in childhood before the person knew their condition and made coping strategies. Then that's aspergers/autism.