Same situation. After marrying him, I noticed he had the EXACT toxic behaviors of my narc father. It was too bizarre. I do not want my daughter to marry one or my son to become one. Divorce is almost through.
@@freewoman Yup. Having chosen a husband who appeared to be the total opposite of my Father, once the ring was on the finger ot was like ‘Oh, hello Dad!’ Awful. Bizarre, as you say. Glad I had a son and got away while he is young.
One of the most depressing and terrifying things about this - on top of the abuse - is feeling like you are alone and the one losing your mind in this nightmare….. thanking God for you and for sharing this lifeline video 🙂↔️♥️🙏🏻
@unomeecj: I hear you. David means business and no bull. I hope you get the frigg out! I know you feel the damage. I just separated from the passive aggressive covert narcissistic husband. Psychological , emotional and mental abuse daily. Then financial abuse was added. These ones can't not abuse. became financialabuse etc etc etc any kind of abuse he could use! Abuse was daily
I tell you that if you find yourself being double minded and unstable in all your ways.. Then it takes longer for God to heal you😢😢😢 I escape a few of these relationships and got healed and gained knowledge only to be writing you with a landlord that just said he hates himself and wants to off himself. I'm in the mountains on private property with him and I'm with a 4 yr old son that I'm now praying and asking where can I go.. I'm going, but where and how😢 This property brings me peace as I work 12 hrs a day with my toddler at my ankle and I have to find really hard jobs because alot don't have a safe space for my child to be while I serve my job.. This property is a hide away for me to decompress with the hrs I have until I have to hit the ground running.. I trust God.. it will be hard but I need to see this, hear u and others and keep my focus on my exit.. Please pray for us as I pray for you❤❤❤
@@ND-or5so Same thing tonight was afraid for my life.. I'm not only him but my daughter as well. She started slicing her arm. Looking at me like Harley Quinn, saying this is for you. Beautiful, and then he blames me. It's just because I didn't want her cussing me in my own home.She's twenty six years old, I heard she could go to a hotel
@unomeecj These narcissists start all kinds of trouble. They are poison to the whole family. It sucks how they are such babies they can't ever take accountability. They love to torture us. They get off on giving us pain and watching us suffer and always more problems. Did he ever talk about his childhood? About being mistreated, being abused sexually, mentally, or physically, not wanted, etc.
Exactly what happened to me. Got a protection order but wasn't strong enough and ready enough. Lost all my support and he was worse than ever! Now out of the worst relationship of my life and survived a covert, still here and we are almost 3 years post. Hallelujah God for the sevenfold
Yes, I would love to see more of your talks together. One thing I can say from having been victimized by both my husband and his ex wife, I had no idea what I was dealing with. I now can look on them with compassion and thank God that I listened.
You are the best, I've learnt so much from you. You actually know the DNA of narc. You really helped me to make my decision to leave him. Now have filed for domestic violence and divorce. One of the best decision I've ever made to leave him. And yes he's making the whole process so difficult. Apparently I left me house with my 6yr daughter without informing him. And he put all kinds of charges against me, missing complaint, theft charges, kidnapping child charges. By God's Grace I'm out of all these charges, now my cases are on. Thank you for your help and support
I was ready to forgive , for being homeless and losing my children for 5 years - and still - after caring for my elderly parents, he sent a shark attorney from Stamford Connecticut- to steal mom’s inheritance and render me homeless once more .
👉❤️When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥️ He is coming to avenge! 👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥️🥳 As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations. Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤️😊 Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤️You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥️ 😍 Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later! 🙌❤️🥹
Oh no how did the law steal your elderly parents money?? How is that even legal?? My estranged son-in-law was kicked out of the home I've been providing for my daughter & her 5 little ones (his & her together biological 5) because he refused to provide. He always says he's going to bankrupt me or sue me. Sooo now I'm wondering how your husband was able to legally take money that was actually your parents money? 💔
I’m trying to leave & found that he & NarcMother (he’s an only child) somehow put the deed to his & mine house of 3 years into his mothers name 4 days before our wedding!!
I couldn’t remain serious the moment he said “right this marriage is trash” lol 😂 he is so honest that it’s funny sometimes. Thankyou for bringing a smile to my face despite this serious topic. @12:21 It gets funnier to, “The church people say Marriage means everything; too bad if you’re destroyed”😂
A few months after I divorced the narc, he had a girlfriend who had a 1 year old daughter...she was 23, he was 50 at the time. My teenage son called me from his dad's house (1 mile down the road...) telling me his dad looked through her cellphone and they got into an argument, his dad left to take her home. I asked him if he wanted me to come get him, he did. Total drama scene when I got there b/c they came back to work it out or something. I took my son home. The girlfriend broke up with him a few days later. Smart move! Couple years later my now 16 year old son decided he didn't want to stay at his dad's at all after an especially upsetting evening there, he'd had enough. I talked with him more about his dad, the truth without hatred, but the truth is so important. He started seeing a counselor at school. Lord I pray that man decides to move out of state. Maybe he'll meet a Bambi while traveling for work..❤
How do you make a narcissist suffer forever? You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have. Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it. All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get the me the information and evidence that I need to gain my freedom from the abusive relationship. If you are in a similar situation you can contact him on instagram @dynamoexpert
Wow! I’m just realizing that my husband did this to his ex and now I see it with his kids!! And his ex had it put in the custody battle that I (stepmom) CANNOT be with the kids without him around.
I remained penniless for 5 years and now he is going after mom’s estate . Because he lied under oath with “ separate property “ line - in a 50 - 50 California state - after we were married 14 years legally, and I wasted 7 years of my life beforehand ( technically common law marriage) - with a Roman Catholic priest
After over a half century, I've left. Long story, but there's no money. Nothing. I told him I started with nothing and after all these years am leaving with nothing of monetary value, but that for my wonderful, fabulous children I would endure it all over again if it meant the only way to end up with them. He said, he wouldn't. He could have children with anyone. What a dirt ball. As it is now, God opened a way for me to leave and I'm on my own, happy and peaceful. Broke or not, it's worth just getting away from the miserable narc. Loving your videos and have passed a couple on to a friend.
I do an awful lot of service for my church community and have for years. They have never seen my narcissist Hubby with me even once. we had a full church wedding and after that day, he never went back. I’ve stayed way too long and I am definitely in a DV narcissistic relationship. I had just finished up with confession with a priest I rather like as a human being and he asked me if everything was all right and I said no I’m actually at the beginning of getting a divorce. And I said my got a very very bad marriage and he goes well. Does he beat you? I said no and he screamed in my face. The devil hates you. That’s why he wants to separate you and your husband. You’ve got a pray about this. I’ve been married for 31 years. I think I’ve said more than enough prayers and nothing has changed. It’s only gotten worse and worse. Now I know what religious abusive is..
If breaking up with a Narcissist,its best to merge into little contact, eventually, no contacts.Get a bad ass narc attorney expert to be your mouth peice UNTIL AFTER your case is closed.
I divorced mine he changed for while then we got back together and married again now hes acting the same. They are horrible people. 17 years on and off its draining
Oh my goodness i have been told so many times im crazy i thought it was my name and they cant even talk about weather and yes that is tossed in my face whenever there was an issue you call yourself a christian
Dr. Clark, how do I share a very beneficial tool with you that you may want to share with your audience to help? I’m currently going through it with my husband and you have really helped me get to this point. I’m so grateful for y’all.
What about if you can’t work much due to illnesses. I have applied for SADI with a lawyer 2 years ago . He cut me off from marital income a few years ago and stopped paying on the bills in my name that didn’t affect his credit or services so now my credit is in the toilet . I have no money for an attorney or legal advice. And need insurance to live . In 9 years he went from in the hole and me living on my own and worked with him to restore his credit and add to his income . Now he makes excellent money with all the benefits . Now I am 54 with diabetes for 45 years amongst other illness that keeps me from being able to work a job that will sustain me and all my medications and doctors. What a fool I was !! I need help !
@@gmb6050 Lord Jesus you always send helpers please Lord send my friend help in finding the best lawyer that knows all the loop holes 🕳 in the military 🙏
I was married to a female communal narcissist. Don't think that a narcissist personality is only men. And yes, they are extremely difficult, to put it mildly.
Gradually change your routine to being out for part of each day and then increase it. A walk, thinking/ making notes in a coffee shop etc. If necessary make up an excuse. I found I used to go out in my car for long drives; listening to music just to get away and chill. I didn’t even know at that point that actually I was planning to leave.
If you can get out with your 50, do it. The longer you stay the more broken you will become until there is nothing left in you. I was 49 years married to a pastor. You won’t win. The longer you stay the harder it will be. Start building your new life and be happy. Stick with Dr. Clark.
@donnayoung4289 That certainly simplifies things considerably. You can eventually go no contact if there are no business/ family ties. But be careful nonetheless. Secure your money, get what info you can about his earnings/ pension/ investments. Get legal advice, especially about who has the right to stay in the home. Ie prepare for divorce without him knowing. Think what he could do if he really wanted to mess you up and protect yourself against it, eg emptying the joint bank account etc. Be careful of anything joint payments/ debt. Try to earn some money (not too much as you will be sharing it!) Take your time. Even a year or few years will be worth it if it ensures a clean break. When you have prepared the best you can, file. Good luck.
It appears that a narcissist is someone who has accepted and believes all three offers of satan when he tempted Jesus! A highly selfish and prideful person.
What about if you can’t work much due to illnesses. I have applied for SADI with a lawyer 2 years ago . He cut me off from marital income a few years ago and stopped paying on the bills in my name that didn’t affect his credit or services so now my credit is in the toilet . I have no money for an attorney or legal advice. And need insurance to live . In 9 years he went from in the hole and me living on my own and worked with him to restore his credit and add to his income . Now he makes excellent money with all the benefits . Now I am 54 with diabetes for 45 years amongst other illness that keeps me from being able to work a job that will sustain me and all my medications and doctors. What a fool I was !! I need help !
@@shalynn365 Gosh, so sorry to hear this. They are so cruel to earn money and have no pity. There is a lot of free advice and support if you look online. It’s not like having your own attorney, but they can at least tell you your rights and if there is further help. If he has a ton of money and you are struggling, it is so clearly an injustice that perhaps you could even face him without legal representation. I hope you have some friends or family who could stand by you. Best wishes.
