Avoidants do NOT handle stress and crisis well 

Exactly what I went through. I tried to talk to him about important things about our relationship. He got a panic attack, and ran away…

Fuck he’s good and he knows what exactly what he is talking about to the fullest extent

My ex had a lot of stress in his life (high-powered career, being a single dad, coercively controlling/judgemental parents, severe financial hardship) and I was by his side throughout. Then (I'm guessing) his e(strange)d wife threatened to take his pension if he divorced her - and the day I came home from MY FATHER'S FUNERAL my ex abandoned me without a word. In one fell swoop he destroyed my trust in men, my faith in relationships and my belief in love. I pray to God no other woman has to go through that.

Nail on the head 🔨 One week I was THE BEST and she was SO HAPPY....We were planning holidays... THEN..... Her oldest friend died and she ended our relationship with a text that said, " I've lost the romantic vibe I had".... and " I need to be single". This was February. Haven't seen or spoke to her since. BUT....I've learnt heaps.

My severe DA couldn’t handle any confrontation and I believe what preceded the confrontation by me was a sabotage by him. He would in some form reject me and then I would confront him about it. I believe he would in some way start it. Then he would not like my reaction and fault find me as being someone that would disturb his peace.

Thank you for addressing this topic, Ryan. You're putting all the pieces together for me. I was so confused.

All your videos help me. I am thankful to have found your channel.

These are irresponsible selfish flakes. Just forget about them. There's nothing more to it.

Exactly what happened to my partner, when she had a family crisis.

Oh wow. My then boyfriend had a health scare not long before he discarded me. His doctor was testing him for MS. His 4 belligerent and seriously troubled teenage/young adult children were causing him all sorts of grief. We had just celebrated our 1 year anniversary. Every video you release convinces me more and more that he has a fearful avoidant attachment style. It’s been over a year and even though my heart is still hurting, at least my brain understands what happened now. Thanks for all your videos. If he ever comes back to me (and I hope he does) I’ll definitely be booking a 1:1 with you.

This is the best explanation of this I've ever heard! Incredibly helpful!

Thank you so much. Once again your timing is impeccable. 😢❤

My ex had post natal depression that’s where it all started from there the more I tried to help and then set boundaries the worse it got. Then she kicked me out asked me back monkey branched and moved on so so fast lied manipulated gaslighted. Then failed a uni subject and has to re do. It’s been so hard in our son. I’m so lucky I can do the work and have started to heal properly. Funny she started to cry about her childhood right before she did what she did. Hopefully she gets the help needed I offered to pay for proper help for her. Thanks for the videos helps my healing journey

Yes he knew he was expected to be there for me, because I was there for him. He didn’t want to call me everyday and check in with me. That was too much for him I had been in two extremely long term relationships and they were when people called and they called every day. I didn’t know some people are so disconnected and don’t want to do that. He tried to be there for me during my stressful times but he really couldn’t be there for me. I really had no idea people were like this. I have a lot of pity for him. He will never be happy. He doesn’t know how to be happy. He goes to a therapist and is in twelve step groups but I don’t think he has ever tried to address his severe D A disorder. I didn’t find Coach Ryan until after the second abrupt discard. I had no idea these people were out there. It’s very sad

Thanks for this video coach and CONGRATS ON REACHING 10K SUBs!

very understanding being on the receiving end of it

Nailed!!!

Yes!

Yep.

I'm dealing with this right now. I'm dating an avoidant woman I've really fallen in love with, but she is working two jobs and trying to get into school and she isn't taking the stress of it well at all. She's always exhausted and stressed out/depressed. She hasn't been reaching out to me at all and if she even responds to my texts, it's always very short. She even told me she thought I should start seeing other people a few weeks ago. When I asked her if she wanted to end things, she said that it wasn't that she wanted to end things, but felt I deserved better. I told her I would rather spend less time with her than more time with someone else and she said "Ok." I'm at a loss. What can I do in this situation? Right now I'm trying to give her space and waiting for her to reach out, but I don't know what else I can do beyond that.