A baby named Naomi who was dropped off at an Orange County fire station is still touching the hearts of the firefighters who saved her. Michele Gile reports.
So much empathy for the birth mom. When i adopted my son, his birth mom handed him to me. A while later, it was time to leave. Watching her burst into tears as I left the room with her son will forever be burned into my memory. Fortunately, we’re still in touch.
I appreciate that she was not referred to as abandoned. Safe Surrender is such an important program. If you cannot care for your child safely handing them off is a perfectly acceptable, and loving, alternative.
Irony is people only help when the child is surrendered ...child could be with mother society could have helped a little to raise the child ..that could've been the best thing
Maybe whilst the mother still had the baby, then she should ask for help. Our society could have such a carefully structured appeal commitee or similar? If that fails, only then consider Safe Surrender?!
Courageous mothers weather the storms that come with life and take care of their responsibilities. The birth mother is a deadbeat, no different as men are called that do the same thing.
@@gandr.e.5136 you can’t say that tho. You don’t know for sure what the reason was. Maybe she was raped and got the baby out of a bad situation. You guys are so judgmental it’s crazy but would want compassion from others if something were to happen to you 🥴
@@gandr.e.5136 she knew she couldnt take care of her baby, and gave her to people who would take care of the child. She even wanted a few more moments with the baby before handing her off to the proper authorities. She is by no means a deadbeat mom, and to say that is disgustingly disrespectful.
@@dolliedearestt Ok, now put a man in the same place that can't or don't want to take care of a child. Can you tell us what he is known as? It's definitely not courageous and you will be disgustingly disrespectful to him if he wants to drop off a child. GTFO
pfft no she aint. Thats why we have crack babies. People think having a child makes you a good person. If she was a good person she wouldnt have had the kid in the first place unless she knew she could provide for the kid.
The mom saved her, she knew she was in a bad place to raise a baby and she made a responsible and extremely tough decision. The firefighters did their jobs which is what is expected.
@@antilarge7860 maybe from being abused by her own parents? Life is complicated. I have gone through a very difficult time and I've never abandoned and I will never abandon my children. Having said that, I can put myself in this girl's parents'situation. He or she must be in a very dark place to do this (most likely with no support around), but I believe it's to protect the girl from harm. It's devastating, but at least the girl is still alive. It's hard to imagine right? Well in the real world, most of the time, unless you experience it yourself you will never know what it feels like. Each situation is unique.
@@GadisBaliLivesAbroad Her "dark place" was keeping her legs open hoeing around town and didn't want to deal with the child. With a simple DNA test we can find out the mothers name and put a warning out
Somebody's judging the mama? How sad when she did a beautiful thing through her pain. She placed her baby in the arms of a Fireman instead of placing her in a box and tossing her into the trash. I know her pain and it isn't an easy thing to do. She loved her baby so much she took her to a Safe Place❤
"she did a beautiful thing" LAWL. Im glad for the kid but dont, for one second, act like the mom is a good person. Dont hold her in such high regards when this all could have been avoided if she thought about consequences.
@@mls617983 This isnt a "people make mistakes: argument. This is a human life we're talking about and writing it off so easily like you just did is whats wrong with single parents today. Yes her life could have been much worse, it could have been a lot better too. The whole point of my argument is the fact she had a baby with no promise of a future for her.
It ripped my heart out hearing that she hesitated. I'm not a mother, but I can't even imagine having to make such a heartbreaking and also selfless decision that was best for the baby girl.
She could have told the baby father he has a child but she didn't. The father will die not knowing he has a child. The baby will grow up thinking that her father doesn't want her. Its not fair for both. This mother isn't brave. She's a selfish little biatch
Her mom actually cared😊. She didn't place her in a bag or kill her..nor did she keep her to only hurt her. She gave her away to be cared for..in the arms of these Angels and to her forever home..Love comes in many forms..God Bless All involved.
Oh wow she did the bare minimum! Shall we throw her a party she is the one who had the baby after all??? Baby didn’t ask to be born she laid on her back to make that baby
@@morganboggis03 exactly. it's better to bring their children to a fire station or to a hospital where they'd be safe,,if they can't take care of them..it's better then harming them. Nobody should ever harm a innocent baby. They should always bring them to a safe place, fire station, etc..
The poor bio mom. I feel sorry for her. It’s clear she didn’t want to give her up. I hope her circumstances have changed and that she’s doing better now.
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made More than likely she's a drug addict now. Mothers of adoption loss are 4 times more likely to become drug addicts after losing their child to adoption even if they never did drugs before
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan are you against safe surrender? Or adoption altogether? I had emotionally abusive parents. We had nothing. I wish & wonder a lot why we weren't given up. I wish we were. Living in poverty is bad enough. But being yelled at & put down all the time makes it that much worse. My mother was bitterly against these types of arrangements too. 🤔but If you actually hate your own child. Instead of abusing them. Place them in a loving home & let someone else give the love & that the donors can't.
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan This is not child abandonment this is handing a child over to a system more qualified to handle said child. This woman knew she couldn't take care of a baby so rather than killing her she gave her to someone more qualified. What would you prefer? She keep the baby and the baby starve to death? If the mother was homeless what could she have done besides give the baby to someone who could take care of her?
Can’t ignore the fact that the birth mother still did her best to give the baby a chance at better life. It wouldn’t have been easy. I hope she survives what she is going through
How do you know she did her best? What if a family member like her own mother would have taken the baby in? Or if the father and his family would have? what if she just didn't want anyone to know so robbed the baby of knowing her family?
Laura... nice story, just a bunch of assumptions and predictions. Move your insecurities to the side and try to be more open minded and compassionate. So negative and paranoid lol
@@Cynnas I see you made a few comments like this. Well, I am glad that in your world things are so positive that "Knowing your family" is always a good thing. The reality is we have no idea what was happening in the Mother's life. A little less judgment and a little more compassion can go a long way.
@@Cynnas there’s evidence that the area the woman is in is rife with sex trafficking and there’s a high chance she was a victim who was brought into the country illegally against her will. Traffickers don’t care if your pregnant, they’ll just sell your baby and keep going. She may have saved that girls life. But go off you sheltered child
If her biological mum is watching this, just know that it's ok, you did what's best given the circumstances we are not aware of, and I hope you find peace and I pray that you can oneday meet her again🙏
I’d bet money on it that her parents are like traditional strict Asian parents who would disown her if they knew she had a baby out of wedlock, probably a college student. In our community, Asian community, it’s REALLY common in places like japan/China/Korea. Like one even fuckin tried to shove the baby down a public restroom pipe bc she was too afraid to tell her parents.
@@kx_xx your comment just proves how people can be so ignorant and judgemental. How do you know the mother is asian? The baby could be mixed race and have a white mother. Also the mother could have been raped and decided to keep the pregnancy.
Knowing you cannot care for a child has to be a huge heart breaker but her dropping the child off and everyone giving kind words to the birth mom is such a nice thing to hear
@@poglant you don’t know the situation so not the time to be insensitive at least she didn’t throw her away like garbage which some do she gave her up to good hands ….. shows that the person isn’t so bad after all
@@orangefield2308 This isn't about "not paying child support". This is about surrounding the child to a safe place because you are in some sort of critical situation and know that the child is in serious risk with you.
exactly. a good example is Meet the Robinsons. Lewis' mother gave him up, she did care about him and did what was best for him, and same goes for the birth mother. giving up a baby haunts a mother for the rest of her life. my mother gave my half brother up for adoption, because she couldn't take care of him. i didnt find out till i was 14. she was still heartbroken, but knew in her heart it was the right thing to do.
@@orangefield2308 i’m sure you’re the same person who’s “pro life” lmao. don’t want people to get abortions? cool, so don’t judge mothers who give up their baby because they are not ready lol. cant have it both ways
I feel bad for her birth mom. She made a very difficult decision and the fact that she hesitated to give her up shows she cares and loves her baby. Who knows what she’s going through.
It breaks my heart. Must have been a decision she will wonder about for the rest of her life but she did the right thing given her unfortunate situation. Even though I grew up in a foster home, I don't know if I could do this if in her place...
Her mom is a deadbeat!! My ex did that to my son and it took me 5 months to find him because legally I was never given a chance to have custody. I got my son back from the family that orginally adopted him and had my ex thrown in jail for kidnapping and child endangerment. She got 5 years and I have her lame ass on child support for what she did!! I hate when women like you give her passes and allow her destructive behavior. "Moms" like her is the reason why many kids today in the world are fucked up and why many women are not held accountable for their actions.
@@miguelbermudez5426 I'm adopted you little twit it was the best thing mine could hand done for me, don't blame me because you were stupid enough to sleep with someone like that that was your choice.
@@WiseMfear3 you're either a feminist or an ass kissing beta male simp. Either way fuck you. Grow a pair and have some morals. You clearly think that women can do no wrong.
Hard decision, yes. Selfless? not really, she did it to save herself from what? The embrassment of telling her family or adoption agency or the father? From not ever having any contact with her child? it's a very selfish thing to out your wants above the child's
@@Cynnas easy to judge! You would be surprised how many girls are raped by their fathers, step fathers, grandathers, repeatedly over the years, and how many unwanted pregnancies are a result of such circumstances. These girls have no safe place to go, nowhere to turn, after being groomed and abused their entire lives. Look up the statistics...
Kudos to the birth mom. Having the courage to give up your baby in hopes of a better life is something most people don't have in them to do. If she ever sees this, much love to her and her baby!
Yes, I hate how people think abandoning a child is the worst thing you can do. No, it’s not that simple. If you don’t have the means to take care of the baby you have to put them first. It’s courageous and requires a lot of sacrifice. You hope your child will be in the care of a family equipped to raise a child. The worst thing you can do is raise a child in terrible environments without the opportunities that could be afforded to them in other conditions.
She would rather do drugs then take care of her own child. I'm a mother and I choose my kids over everything. Unlike that drug ass of a mother. A mother isn't the one that gave birth a mother is the one that actually took the time taking care of the child not treating it like its nothing. I'm grateful that she now has a loving caring family.
I absolutely love the way they portrait the birth mother. There was no shame, no disgrace. They recognized how hard it was for her to do what she did, but were so proud of her for doing such a brave and courageous thing. I hope the baby, the biological mom, the parents and the firefighters are all doing well. If anyone has an update on any of them please let me know ❤
What I liked is that the mom will teach her baby that her birth mom loved her so much that didn’t abort her and chose a better future for her. May the precious baby grow up with so much love and great self esteem.
I'd rather see this little girl go to a family that loves and will care for her, than to see her end up being abused or neglected--Kudos to the birth mom!
Dustin Chen she didn’t abandon the child. she left the child into the hands of people the mother knew would help her baby. you don’t know her circumstances.
@@debbiefox6846 how will the child find their birth mom in future, if nobody knows who she is? In normal adoption, the adoption agency knows the mothers name.
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
I’m SO GLAD her adoptive parents are going to make her birth mom the hero of the story ❤ she was a young woman who made a heartbreaking decision for her baby, that should be commended!! We need more safe surrender sites like this.
Every state has a safe haven law. There are only 134 safe haven boxes around the country. The law may vary from state to state. Typically, a hospital, fire or police stations are the safe places.
@@Magazinelady safe haven boxes allow mothers like this one to make the difficult choice to surrender without feeling guilt, shame, or fear of persecution. 134 is not enough!
@@BunnyQueen97 The people at the Police, Fire, and hospitals are professional. At least there are places to go if there is no box. I really think the law needs to be promoted. I don't think enough people know about it. Do a fund raiser for more boxes.
It’s so important to the child to make sure they know their mother gave them up because she LOVED them. Don’t ever let a child question their worth because of an adult
@@BunnyQueen97espescially now when all women who are pregnant are forced to go through with their pregnancies and give birth. Ready or not. So yes, more than 134, absolutely, since the rates will go higher..
Thank God for this woman telling this young Child how courageous her mother was. It’s a courageous thing to give up a child when you know you can’t take care of it. It’s the biggest kind of love you can have.
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan You should relax and refocus, Megan. Let's be real, the mother made the individual choice to keep the child because she decided that on her own at the end of the day. Yes that should be the case especially with something like rape, although, I've seen none of that suggested here. What's wrong with you that you have to frown upon a positive and healthy situation that eventually came to fruition for the betterment of the child?
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan what’s problematic is parents keeping kids when they don’t want to/can’t. People literally dump their babies in the trash. So yea, giving her up to where she can be adopted and love is a lot better that what other people do. How many stories of people killing their kids do you need to hear. So yea, in this case, it is courageous. The child is alive and in good hands. If she couldn’t care for the child what do you suggest would be better? Abortion? Killing both of them? Abusing the child? Keeping the child knowing she couldn’t provide?
@@rebekaha.3621 yes adoption life does suck but so could be living with your actual parent. However if there is a program for adoption why isn’t there a program supporting parents who can’t afford to have kids that way they can keep them if they want
The mother did the right things she gave life to that child, and made sure she was in a safe place. May God give her the peace of mind, and bless her for doing the right thing. ❤️
I'm a mother too but she shouldve chosen abortion when she was just a buncha cells if she cant take care of her baby. To me, shes really selfish. I know a lot of asian friends growing up in a non asian /adopted parents household very confused of their own identity. Some gets depressed to why their parents didnt want them and self harm. Tragic.
@@tohmaseguchi8505 totally agree. As a woman I dare not give birth to a child i cannot care for, its very selfish to give birth because "pro-life" then not care what might happen to the baby! The baby in the video got really lucky that she went to a loving home. Not all are this lucky
@@JenniMeerAnd that's great because my mother is a responsible woman unlike this woman in the video. Simple as that. Also, the woman in the video choose "life for a child who will always wondered why her biological mom didnt want her". Good job "pro-life" people.
@@chelsieberio947 that is possible, and it's good to have that kind of discussion about how many parents don't have access to resources to stay connected to their kids. It is true this could be avoided, but at the same time, it's also good to just take this moment to appreciate adoptive parents and the fact that the mom made a good decision for her kid. You can appreciate this mom making a good decision for her kid with the resources she did have, without contradicting the fact that ideally she'd have other resources to not have to give up the kid at all.
@@puch9830 Another person wanting a child grow up in an abusive toxic household? I have that experience, that kid is off to a better start than I am. I'd rather be given up and be placed in a better household than this shitty 18 years with my monster of a father. My "family" disintegrated, doubt you can understand that.
Fifty-nine years ago I was given up for adoption, many years later I was lucky enough to say thank you to my birth parent. I applaud this child’s mother, she did a very brave thing, may God bless her for it.
Me and my twin brother was given up for adoption 62 years ago, I tried so hard years later to find her but to no avail, I also have 3 half siblings that I don't know- I wish I did! 😢
My niece also did this act of bravery and unselfishness by allowing her son to be adopted. She chose the parents in an "open-adoption" style thru social services and his enormously grateful parents have raised him in a loving home where he's had advantages he would never have had w/my niece who was 15 and had no resources to raise him. I will forever admire the heck out of my niece for doing this. She cared enough to let him go to a better place and better life with folks who gave him their best. This decision is tough, but when you put baby first, it is the selfless thing to do, putting a child's future first.
@@MsTinkerbelle87 lol my 70 yr old aunt uses that for a crying emoji as well. After a few months it finally got annoying and I finally broke the news to her. 🤣
I can relate. My birth mom took me to a Church when I was a baby because she couldn't take care of me.The pastor family raised me until I was adopted. now I follow Jesus. The mother did the best she could.
I hope her biological mother’s life trends in a positive way and hopefully she can reunite with her daughter when they’re in a better situation. I love her for turning over her child safely and giving her a chance at a better life.
She may not WANT to be reunited with her. It's entirely possible that the girl was the product of a rape. Recovering from that is traumatizing enough, without your rapist's bastard offspring showing up uninvited on your doorstep years later, saying "Love me!"; and looking like the spitting image of your attacker.
@@WadeAlma its called a safe surrender and its not completely random, its designated spots where you can safely drop off your baby a few days after its born if you dont wish to raise it yourself, she knew she couldnt provide for the child and so they had to let someone else give them a better childhood than they could ever provide
So sweet glad the mother had enough sense she had to drop her baby off I hope she watches this and see that her baby is loved by the entire world and not to feel bad about her choice you did the right thing for you're baby girl :)
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
@Astmmm97 Many people experience pain leaving the child, they don't all want to do it but know they don't have the resources/maturity to give them a good life. It's sefless
I'm so happy that birth mom is rightfully getting empathy and praise. It takes so much courage to do what she did. No matter the circumstances that necessitated her giving her daughter up, she made the choice with a mother's love.
Every forfeiture of responsibility comes with its share of heartaches and missed opportunities. I hope people praise me next time I fail to meet my responsibilities.
What is so courageous about that? Running away from your responsibility is courageous? She probably didn't even tell the father he has a baby. Yet she's giving this child up for adoption. Cases like this happens all the time. The father doesn't even know he has a child. That is so messed up.
I can’t stop crying. You know Mom is out there seeing this! And I don’t know you, but from one mom to another...thank you for making sure she was off into safe hands!!
I hope the birth mom sees this and has peace knowing her baby girl is safe and sooo loved!! I think it’s great they showed this and the firemen she gave her to so that if she sees this she will know. I hope they keep doing updates so the mom knows she is safe. The not knowing would be killer
K D You don’t know her situation.?? You don’t know her personally do you? No? Didn’t think so. Stop judging. The baby is safe and happy. She coulda had the baby tore in a dozen pieces right? But you don’t know why she did what she did!!
stacyeandrew2 right?? Seriously people have no clue the possible circumstances. No empathy at all. She chose life over death. Geez you can’t win, can you?
We don't know her birth mothers story as to why she did this. At least she took her to a safe place and just didn't abandon her in the woods or the garbage. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision.
I hope her birth mother is ok, and is getting help too. It must be absolutely heartbreaking to realize you can't care for your child and make the choice to give her up.
This little girl’s birth mom is a hero. She was simply the vessel that brought her into the world, wasn’t her job to raise her. She recognized this and released her in the safest way possible. That had to be difficult. Pray the birth mom is ok as well🙏🏽💞
@Nikosis They are praising her because she did the right thing by leaving the baby at a fire station which is a safe place. I’m sick of hearing stories of parents killing or abusing babies they don’t want or can’t properly care for. This baby will be a blessing for a couple that couldn’t have a child of their own.
@Nikosis we don't know the story behind. Most likely the child was the result of being raped and that too by one her family member. I just pray and hope that she's doing well wherever she is. I hope she isn't in an abusive home
Thank goodness the birth mother had enough sense to know she couldn't care for the child properly and surrender the child to the appropriate place before anything could have possibly happened to the child. Hopefully the mother is ok wherever she is and let's hope the baby grows up and becomes an outstanding model citizen of society.
@Adam Brady maybe the father might think abt having a vasectomy in the future. U like how i said it? No? Then you see why ppl get pissed off when u make such insensitive stupid comment.
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan she could've also kept and abused her. There's a lot of cases of parents who don't want kids and end up abusing them. Cps doesn't get involved and the children die. She did the right thing to give her to someone who would be able to take care of her. A mother who deals with something like rape isn't in the right place mentally to raise a child that was conceived that way. I know personally. My girlfriend was 14 when she had a child because her mom let it keep happening. She lives on welfare and food stamps and goes hungry to feed him. She's severely suicidal and hates being reminded of him. The child has speech delays from a result of family relations. She's 16. She wants to give up the child and would've if her mom didn't force her to keep him. How would you like to be constantly reminded of someone hurting you? People don't choose to be raped. They give these children up because it's not a safe environment.
I'm proud of both of her moms. Her birth mom, for making the right choice for herself and her baby; and her adoptive mom, for keeping Naomi in touch with the good people who received her.
This little girl is so blessed to have two amazing moms - one who will bring her up with so much love, and one who loved her so much that she sacrificed her own happiness for her daughter’s sake
Satans Lair same for abortion, doesn’t mean they don’t want the baby or that it’s an easy decision. Some people know that it’s the best decision for them and the baby. Though birth is common place in the modern world it is still very dangerous and traumatic with irreversible damage done to a woman’s body. Nobody should have to give birth that isn’t ready or doesn’t want to. Not all babies are adopted.
Super_squishy_awesomeness _ giving birth is selfish. Why not just adopt? Already plenty of kids without homes, food, shelter, and clothing so why create more kids when there are millions around the world that are already born?
@@dustinchen so you would rather the mom struggle raising a baby and risk the baby’s life than the baby having a safe and healthy life while the mom deals with her struggles. Also, its the father’s duty to take care of his child too. I don’t see you asking him to take responsibility. At least the mother put her child somewhere safe while the father probably neglected her.
I hope the birth mother could see this clip and know she’s ok. I like to think she did. What a hard and horrible thing to have to make that decision. I’ve had 3 children and can’t imagine giving my newborn up. Things must have been so hard. Prayers for her. 😔
Thank you to that mom for taking her baby to the safety of the fire house & not just abandoning her somewhere. Fireman said it was very hard for you to do, but you did what's best for your little girl. Hope you both reunite happily one day.
This baby was doubly loved and wanted. The birth mother who was heartbroken and wished she didn’t have to give her up. And then the adoptive parents who embrace her and loves her.
What a positive, heartwarming story. Much honor to the young mother who gave the child up, out of love; the firefighters who had such compassion for the mother and love for the child; and for the family who adopted this precious little girl!
She risks putting her kids in an orphanage until she's 18. Even if u can't take care of her. Make sure u find her a foster parent. Don't just abandon her at a fire station. That is irresponsible and stop rewarding these types of behaviors.
^But its a safer surrender. Its literally in the name, a place to safely surrender your baby so that they have a chance of having a good life with good parents. Its not a random place.
@@secrets.295 Old people shouldn't be allowed to make comments on RU-vid Videos, that or you're a really salty troll Either way, pathetic comments all around for you Secrets.
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan This mother DID have courage, imagine giving up your own CHILD, to give them a chance in a better life a, most people would be to scared. She left her outside of the fire department, with a door saying it is a safe place to "surrender" a child. Yes, could of gone better, but it went better then people thought it would have. But, again, we will have to ackleknowgedle the fact that she wanted to give her a better life, by giving her up, which takes a lot of guts to do. Especially for a loving, and caring mother! Sorry for the lack of grammar.
@@samanthacreasey5821 23 years, 23 years of expertise I have in this and the problems it causes. It is not courage or love or anything the multibillion dollar adoption industry lies to you about to do this. The adoption industry is racist, it's corrupt, your child has a much higher chance of being raised by abusers than if she or he were raised in their biological family. Even if you or me were to adopt a child and love that child so much we would still be financially supporting an extremely corrupt industry that has murdered hundreds of children a year and allows yes allows tens of thousands of children of color to be resold on the internet sometimes to paedophiles when adopters tire of them. I spent 23 years advocating for change and trying to support adoptees and especially these kids. I worked closely with NYS politicians and helped to pass a law in 2020 that exposed multibillion dollar agencies -collectively pooling the money- for impeding some cold case homicides. I just quit this year because I couldn't take it anymore. They have the power to make every adoption safe, they refuse to do so because lobbyists would lose $12 billion year, and I apologize if I seem angry to you or others on here. I get it's not your faults because your whole lives you've been taught this is loving but in fact it takes away from so much that could actually help the mom and biological family
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan so do you feel this way about all birth mothers? As an adopted person I find your attitude ignorant and highly offensive. Safe havens like this exist for a reason, and you have no idea what the person’s circumstances were that led them there and have no right to judge.
I'm so grateful to have these safe surrender sites. Such a great concept. Btw I think the baby remembered the badge. You can see the recognition on her face.
I agree. I just don't get why her mother even thought about keeping the baby she should have just given it up for adoption. But I'm glad the baby is safe
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan Megan you are a terrible person.. you dont know anything about the mom's background or past and you're shaming her? woman to woman, you are literally a terrible human being. would u rather her be raised in a poor or abusive household?
@Mothers Arms Readiness Coaching I thought the same thing but I just scrolled a little further just to see, and yes, I saw one. Don’t want to try to find more.
I love that Naomi was uncertain about the fireman at 1:45, but he quickly got her attention and trust by showing her his badge and letting her play with it !! This guy is a wonderful firefighter and a wonderful Dad I'm certain !!
How the dad was holding her makes it so clear how much she is wanted. I hope the BM sees this and knows she's safe and happy. My little sister is adopted and I wish I could tell her mother how much better my life is because of her sacrifice. Adoption is a better life for us big sisters that wouldn't have been otherwise. ❤️
This is not courageous. I will not applaud this abandoning birth mom. This is legalized child abandonment and if this child is conceived in rape this is protecting rapists from being caught and held responsible. This is a family judging a mom for being pregnant instead of supporting her and her child. And please don't respond with "well she could've left her in a dumpster" while this is better than a dumpster of course this is still very problematic and changes need to be made
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan megan stop pasting the same argument-starting message to several comments, it's annoying, especially when then you're like "i'm not paid to answer this". People cannot always control when they create life (fund sex ed and free access to contraceptives), but they can make a choice about how that life will turn out. The birth mother clearly couldn't take care of her and chose to give her a better life, which she now has.
@@lollybowser do not tell me ever what to do and not do. This is my field of expertise and I do not need an ignorant child, which would be you, informing me of something you know nothing about. There is no guarantee of a better life in adoption, in fact with suicide rates being four time six times higher and child abuse rates being higher among adopted kids than biological kids I would say it's a whole lot worse. Learn to control your anger, your ego, and your tongue when speaking to an adoptee. This is not your lived experience and this is not something you clearly know anything about. I just love it when I see non adopted people trying to explain adoption to adopted people
@@relaxandgrowwithMegan you're so incredibly angry it's kinda sad Megan. That's why I said you should stop copy pasting this. Governments need to fund sex ed, free access to contraceptives, abortions and quality foster systems, but while that's happening, you should not criminalise someone who uses a system like safe surrender. I do not undermine your personal experience or knowledge, but your way of speaking your mind is absolutely unbearable and full of anger and absolutely no one will want to hear your thoughts if that's how you present them.
The birth mom was so brave and unselfish to do this heartbreaking situation of letting her child go ! so her daughter could have a bright future ! Moses’s mother in the Bible let him go to save her baby’s life ! She so unselfish I appreciate this mother’s love for her daughter
How brave of the mother to do thid... I can onlu imagine the pain she went through. People jump to conclusions about things soooo often and I hope they can see the act of kindness this mother has done. We can never judge until we've been im their shoes
Manny Akintunde They never said anything about the father. You don't know the situation that the mother was in. She could have been raped, she could have had a suitable environment for the baby and something changed, she didn't want an abortion, there's MANY different situations the mother could have been in. What matters is that the baby is safe. Just be glad the mother didn't do something horrible to the baby like some mothers would do in her situation.
Papi, the mother is a deadbeat peace of garbage just like the father. Enough with this social coddling of women. It's time women bear the social cost of their bad decisions.
Manny Akintude. You are a bad person - judgmental and cruel. Is that how you justify yourself, by trawling youtube for somebody to trash talk? Fix yourself before you criticize others.
This is nice to see that there's actually women who think on giving up their kids in a safe place, instead of leaving them in a dumpster or trash bag or anywhere else where they can die, instead of giving them the opportunity live a better life when they know they can't for what ever reason they have. Hope the mother knows this was the best and her baby is with someone who loves her.
I think it’s because there’s so much lack of knowledge about Safe-Haven Laws which exist in all 50 states. Does sex ed teach about Safe-Haven Laws? Are our teenagers educated that they have the option to legally abandon their babies at certain civic locations, no questions asked?
@@mechadoggy exactly. And not every city has a safe haven law. But you're right, an awful lot of people don't even know this is an option. And thank God for whoever decided to create the law. Imagine how many thousands of babies lives have been saved because of it.
I'll never understand why any parent would "get rid of" their child when the safe drop places are available... this beautiful little girl has a chance at a good life now ❤
Possibly bc foster care is totally overwhelmed/underfunded and not all of these kids find great homes and get adopted. A lot of the time they end up having a horrible childhood full of abuse and neglect.
@@cassidyrose9281 That still doesn’t excuse dumping them off somewhere that you know isn’t safe instead of taking a chance. There are many good people who can’t have kids; at least give them an opportunity to take care of your child.
Bless this adoptive parents and firefighters. And the mother who gave her up for a better life. I am heartbroken when they dump the infant. At least she brought the infant somewhere to be safe .
The mom that gave up that precious child is a hero. She carried her to term and instead of throwing her away like trash she did the hardest thing she could do, she gave the child to someone else to protect her. I hope mother and child both have good lives.
Ahhhw that’s awesome that the adoptive mother gave the birth mother credit for doing what she did! It’s better than dumping her somewhere else! This mom made a smart decision cause something was going on in her life to where she knew she couldn’t give sweet Naomi the life she deserved! Selfless act and she loved her baby that much to do what she did! 💓
I feel so sad for the biological mom who felt she had to give up her baby who she obviously loved. I'm so glad she had a place where she felt she could safely surrender her child. We need to make sure we're doing everything as a society to help mothers feel they can support themselves and their babies.
Only thing is we don’t know the reasons. Sounds like she didn’t want to give up her baby. More needs to be done for pregnant mothers to get them to a situation where they don’t have to give away their babies.
Ikr. The mothers sounds like she loved her daughter. She just failed to meet her responsibilities as a mother. Sad (although she doesn't deserve praise, that should go to the adoptive parents).
@@xfan420bush9 She deserves praise for choosing to let her daughter be born despite difficult circumstances and acknowledging that her daughter had more of a chance at a better life with someone else, that's still love albeit expressed a different way than the adoptive parents can. What's sad was that she wasn't able to keep her daughter, which she seemed to want to. Unfortunately, society can't truly move towards fixing whatever problems that mothers like her face, until it stops covering them up with abortion. This mother was doubly brave.
@@rickmanalwayss Yeah true... it's just people are acting like she deserves praise for not killing or abusing or neglecting her daughter instead. As if not doing those things is some kind of achievement.
This is a good thing to have for an overwhelmed mother who can’t see it any other way in taking care of her own baby. I’m so glad that adorable baby girl was adopted by a couple who can love her as their very own. ❤
But I wish the mother got the help she needed so that she didn’t need to feel overwhelmed and desperate, like this was her only option…we need to do better at preserving families, not being so willing to pass one baby to a new family because that’s easier and more heart warming.