As someone who has one of those "clean" houses you described you see in the videos, it doesnt stay clean without habits. I'm also a person like you where if I walk into another room with things I get distracted so I've adopted the mentality of do it now, otherwise I'll forget. When I cook food, I clean my dishes before I even sit down for dinner, dishes take at max 5 minutes, that's the perfect time to wait for your food to cool for you to eat. Once I eat dinner I immediately clean my plate I don't sit it in the sink to watch TV and clean later because then I know it wont get done. When I buy something from the store I immediately put it in the cabinets, when I receive a package I immediately open it up or stack it in the corner unopened, I dont open the box and then leave it in other packages. When I get the mail I read it immediately or put it on my desk so when I get back to work I know to take care of this first, I shred what I dont need, and store what I need in a portable portable folio. When I do my laundry I immediately put it away, I dont do laborious tasks if I know I dont have the time to complete them because it will turn a simple 1-2 hr tasks into a 3-4 hr task later down the line. By adopting these habits my weekly cleaning routine is solely cleaning, I can put aside 1-2 hr for my whole place just to clean, I'm not decluttering or organizing things because they are already in place I'm just doing weekly cleaning of things that accumulate dust/dirt.
And this is exactly where I dream of being. I would love to be able to make those things a habit and I do truly try. ❤️ I have a cleaning schedule that I am attempting to stick to this year and adopting one habit at a time. This month my goal is to try to keep my hallway and dining room clean because those are the two things you see first when you walk into our home. Overall though, one of our biggest issue is we just have too much stuff. I do not have a place for everything to go which is why I am working on decluttering as I go. We definitely have adopted a more simple living mindset and are working to make our home match our mindset. ❤️
@@coffeecarbsclutter Thats a great goal and I think if you stick to the schedule you set up you'll get it done! For decluttering there are tons of great online resources like the 4 box method or 12-12-12 challenge where you basically try to find things around the house you can trash or donate and then work something you plan on keeping into that space. Excited to see how you're able to transform your space in the future!
As I sit here procrastinating decluttering, because I am overwhelmed and feeling hopeless that my spaces will ever stay decluttered 😔🤕😵💫I really do appreciate your honesty here. I agree that some of those “clean with me” also make me feel like there is something wrong with me. 🤕😢Thank you 💕This was very helpful.
I used to help people overwhelmed by clutter get things back under control. People work in many ways to achieve this, and there is no wrong way. I am always happy to watch someone who has a house like yours organize because it is real life. I don't watch the "made for the stage" channels that start with something most of us would consider done, either. They just aren't real.
I love your idea of putting things in the correct room but not necessarily putting them in the exact spot. I also get sidetracked when I do it that way. I think I’m going to try to do what you do. 🎉 Awesome motivation. New friend here🎉❤
I wish focusing for me was that simple. Having ADHD makes that part very hard for me so I try to rely on checklists. Sadly, if I miss a day or so on routine, it is quite difficult to get back. Not using it as an excuse, just explaining why focusing is difficult for me. 🤗
You just said it…..when it looks overwhelming then it is something you just don’t feel like doing…..totally normal feeling….but not for nothing …I live in a small apartment with 3 adults…and I’m moving this year…so letting go of stuff hurts my heart but the less things I have …makes me actually feel much freer ….
I'm not even 5min in and already had to press the like button! I love the "rule" of putting things in the room they belong instead of the exact place. I definately have the problem of getting carried away by the next mess. :D Thank you
I grew up in a house that looked like this one a good day. And there weren't many good days. I thought it was SO strange going to other people's houses and seeing how "empty" theirs looked like. It didn't even register as being clean. Just empty. I started working on teaching myself to keep my own home cleaner 7 years ago, but I'm just now ready to start doing the decluttering part. It was so hard to get rid of even 1 thing until recently. But I wanted our child to grow up able to recognize what a clean and organized home looks like and how to do it, so he's not figuring it out for the first time in his late 30s. 😅
I hear you! It can be really hard to let go for many people, including myself. We just have to take one baby step at a time and before we know it, big leaps will be made! ❤️❤️❤️
This is just the video I needed! My life and home are CHAOS and I’m never motivated to do anything. I’m hoping that I get a spark and try to do something to help my house. I know that it would make me feel happier if I did.❤️
This was such a motivating video! My whole family has been sick over and over for months since moving to a colder climate than we are used to. With the holidays and so much else going on I just have these stuck points in my home that feel overwhelming to tackle. Today was my most productive day in a long time and this realistic video helped a lot! A lof of our houses look this way from time to time! Thanks for posting!
I can’t believe how quickly you were able to tidy up and clean the space. It really showed how most of the stuff did have a home, it was just getting it all back together again. An example of just getting to it, and it doesn’t take that long. It’s what often happens with me. Way to go. 😅 😊 👍
I love to see how different people declutter/organize. You and I have a different overall style, but I also love the timer method and really love the advice you give on doing what works best for each individual!
And I really truly believe that people have to find what works best for them. I have tried most of the big name methods like FlyLady and Dana K. White but they just don’t work for me overall but I can take what does work from each person and make them into something workable for me. Like right now if you were to see my house, you would never know that it was a disaster a couple of weeks ago (other than my garage and homeless room, those are BAD!). I also know though that I am merely one crisis away from my house falling apart again. 😭It’s tough! 🤣
Hahaha definitely! I recognize the problem and am actively trying to remedy it. Granted it means breaking it down into smaller tasks and manageable time chunks but progress is progress no matter how small. Thank you for watching and for making me laugh a bit. 🤗
I have a lot of hoarding tendencies but never really felt like a true hoarder 🤔 I figured it must just be denial🙈🙉.....However I recently discovered the Institute for Chronic Disorganisation which outlines the differences between Hoarding and Chronic Disorganisation (C.D. is pretty much a given with ADHD!!!) Suddenly it all made sense and I could stop gaslighting myself about faux hoarder-denial!!!! 🤪😵💫 I challenge anyone who's feeling judgy to educate themselves on ADHD and especially Executive Functioning Skills. Those EF'n Skills are pretty important....!! Unfortunately they're also invisible so our crippling systemic struggle also remains unseen, misunderstood & judged. Every. Minute Of. Every. Day. Be Kind 💕
Thank you for your kind words. Most people don’t understand the intricacies of Executive Function Deficits. It really doesn’t help that ADHD has been so stereotyped about being hyper or just an excuse for bad kids, trust me, I’ve heard it all. It really is a struggle. You have brightened my day with this post and also really had a good laugh over EF’n. Seriously that could be read either way and still be true! 😂😂
Whenever you have a challenge like yours, people will offer advice in an attempt to help you even though you have explained why you are doing things a certain way. It's the human element. Good luck and take it one day at a time and you will succeed with all of your efforts.
Thank you for your kind words. This journey has been harder than anticipated but I am feeling really good about how far I’ve come. Still a lot to do and then of course I have to maintain but the more I do this, the more confident I get!
Thank you for being real. Thank you for not putting on foot long false eyelashes before setting up the camera. I like the initial sort idea to build momentum. Get a trash can and an empty box. Pick a starting area. Discard what you don't want. Put what does not belong to the area into the box. Make neater piles of what belongs. Next step is empty the box. Now is when you run around to the varous rooms in the house. Place whatever belongs in a particular room on a bed or counter then move to the next room until the box is empty. Return to the starting area until only what belongs there remains. Don't go into the closets or the cabinets. You're just going after the stray sheep at this stage. Give yourself a hug, then move to the next area until the entire home is sorted. Now your house is tidy, but not clean and there are skeletons in the closet. PIck whether you want to start scrubbing surfaces or digging out the skeletons hiding behind doors and inside drawers. Do not agonize over every item because that will bog you down. If you can't decide, keep the thing and dither about it later. With more practice, those decisions become easier. It is nice to donate things, but if you have not done it yet you probably won't. Be honest with yourself. Get rid of the unwanted. That is your priority.
I just found your channel! Love the intro, so had to subscribe! Bless your heart for sharing your cluttered house - lots of people are living with the same level of clutter, and I bet you'll inspire a bunch of them to get it under control. It's great you had strategies to go at this big job!
Great video! You have such a pleasant voice and your instruction and humility are so nice! I am an empty nester and still struggle with everyday clutter. I also struggle with all of my storage spaces. It does get easier though! Something I just learned, funky smelling clothing and linens can be soaked for several hours in a bucket of warm water with a cup of baking soda. I have even gotten that pillowcase funk smell out!
Ever since my mom passed away 2 years ago, I have been hugely overwhelmed by the simplest of tasks. My apartment has become super cluttered. I try to do in-depth/deep clean days, but I lose energy and motivation about a quarter of the way thru - add to that limited mobility (lipedema in my legs and bad knees), and it ends up taking almost a week to clean one room. The "low-hanging fruit" approach is a wise one and I love the idea of setting a timer as well. I like the idea of putting something in the room it belongs in but not necessarily the final place it belongs. I do the exact same thing! Thank you so much for your video. This was a great motivation to me and showed me that a little at a time, I can do this.
I cannot imagine how difficult it would be to lose a parent. My heart goes out to you. I would encourage you to take small steps and build from there. I know many people believe that a task must be finished quickly but I rather think we must complete a task as we are able. Many of us are dealing are dealing with physical, emotional, or mental health challenges and I want us all to practice grace and work towards our goals as we can. My door is always open if you need extra encouragement. ❤️🤗 I’m sending some emotional strength your way and positive thoughts.
I'll be 70 this year. I let things pile up, then stuff happened over and over, and ... Grandkids started coming. Then coming to live. Thien some going elsewhere, then back to live. We're old with health issues. I am so sorry I bought so much stuff without throwing out enough. I appreciated you being real. You are doing great!!!
You sound like me. I'm almost 70. My house is very small. I have those 3 tiny closets in 3 tiny bedrooms and that's it. My kitchen has few cabinets so most everything is on cheap bookshelves I assembled. My knees hurt so bad most days I don't do anything. I have a terrible habit of Rx, vitamins, mail and dirty dishes are right by my chair. And it's unreal how much I end up right there. I'm too ashamed to invite anyone in. Are you like this?
@@wendi2819 On clean sheet day by nightfall my bed is covered in stuff because that is where I spend most of my day. My knees are awful painful, and there are stairs to get to everywhere I need to go. It's a tiny house. Only two bedrooms have a very tiny closet. The third has attic stairs taking up a third of the space. No coat closet - no linen closet - no cabinets. Laundry is in the basement, and the one bathroom is on the second floor. I finally purchased a bedside potty chair, so at night I don't have to climb the stairs. Definitely more knee surgery in my near future.
I relate to you. I have severe respiratory & heart issues so I never get to the point most of these videos start with but I try to work towards my project each day as I have air to breathe.
It is really hard when health issues are present. My home will likely never be showcase ready but I really think over time I can get it to a manageable level. It is all about small steps and making progress. I am cheering you on! ❤️❤️🤗
Thanks for posting your video! It is fun to see how you tackle projects and how you are able to use natural light to motivate yourself. I love that idea and also the idea of striving for something manageable rather than perfection. Results are great! Also: regarding your minecraft theme: The Minecraft Store on amazon has a craft station and lamp that might fit your makeover for your son's room. Both the station and lamp are in stock as of late January 2023. Hope you find everything you're looking for to make it a lovely room redo!
Your videos get me motivated. Our house gets the same way when I can't get to it, for whatever reason. Setting a timer works great for me also. It was overwhelming until I started it. Helps a great deal!
It really does help to have the timer because I can almost gamify the process by seeing how much I can get done before the buzzer. My brain works best on competition, even it is just against myself, so anything I can do to make the task more game like is a win! 😂❤
i tackle one room at a time. its less overwhelming. in jan so far i have remodeled the bathroom, purged and reorganized the garage and finishing up painting the cat's room. by the weekend their room should be set up with new cat towers and toys. Feb will be my bedroom and the pantry. March will be the utility room and the hallway. Hoping in april i can remodel the kitchen and paint. pacing myself makes achieving these goals more doable. u have a lovely home, hope once its cleaned it stays that way. no one wants to do this on a regular basis. maybe on friday or saturdays the kids need to put their toys away and clean their rooms. 1 day a week so the weekend feels lighter and more enjoyable.
Thank you for sharing your space. I can so relate to this and it makes me feel like I am not alone. It's so overwhelming and I just keep picking at it. I know I am making progress, but sometimes it so hard to tell.
Good job! For some reason, I find minimalist channels really annoying, but it is relaxing to watch you working on your house, maybe because we both use similar methods. Anyway, I watch one of your videos then work on my own projects a bit, progress is being made. Thank you.
New friend here! I also get distracted if I try to put each item away as I go. The next thing I know is that I somehow have a bigger mess. I'm making progress with giving each room a "job" and only putting things related to that in that area. A bit slower than some methods, but at least things are closer to where they belong. It's easier for me to declutter when similar things are together. You're an inspiration to keep going. 🤗
Thank you for sharing your story as well as being transparent. I always feel like such a failure when I watch all of the organizational videos. I become so overwhelmed, I almost always give up. Your tips are helpful.
You got this! Definitely do not give up! Even if it’s for 10 minutes, just spend a few minutes when you can. One thing I have learned is to break things into chunks. So like if my kitchen is out of control, I will say to myself, “We are going to clean the counter by the fridge.” Then once that is done I may assign another chunk or I may walk away for a minute. Next might be just unloading the dishwasher. Oddly enough I learned this from my Kiddos Occupational Therapist. She explained that for brains like his and mine, saying I am going to clean the kitchen doesn’t work because that involves 57 steps. However I we break down those 57 steps into individual tasks, it makes it much more manageable. ❤️ And I am by no means an expert, clearly. Just relaying what works for me when I get so very overwhelmed, which is frequently.
@@coffeecarbsclutter brains like mine too🫣 My favorite line in your video was.. if I move something into the area where it belongs, I just need to leave it there and go back to the original area where I was working (or something similar). My, how I can relate! And after hours of work, not one project is finished! Thanks again!
Minecraft desk idea 💡 - simple white desk and then decorate with the Minecraft wall stickers that they sell. Or paint it green and then add the wall stickers.
Thank you for this, I feel like I'm on a timer, be3 I live in an apartment and my lease is up in June. My husband passed away in March 22nd 2022. I have been feeling overwhelmed and I live in a 1 bedroom with my daughter. Thank you for the tip of using the timer
Great job! Suggestion - shelf over the washer & dryer with small plastic laundry baskets across it. Baskets are labeled and people take their dirty laundry and towels DIRECTLY to the tubs. Laundry is already sorted this way and you have no laundry baskets or carts to deal with. In general, people need more side tables and shelving than they think.
Thank you so much! I really considered not posting this video at all because I did not think anyone would really want to watch me try to clean up my house but then I remembered that this kind of video is exactly the kind of video I want to see. I need to see that real life happens and houses are not always Pinterest worthy. Ok full disclosure, my house is NEVER Pinterest worthy. 😂
New Subscriber! Yes my house gets a huge mess too sometimes, life happens. I have been doing a home home rest lately of each room then I got sick for three weeks and I had to start all over. 🤪
LOL I completely understand! It is amazing at how quickly the mess builds up when we are down for the count. Thank you so much for commenting. I really love getting to talk to our community. ❤️
I have literally never been able to organize and clean my home. If there is stuff in it, it just piles on surfaces. It’s something pathological that I don’t care to spend time working on or fixing so I eliminated it and have next to nothing. I’m older and this has been the only way forward for me . Best to everyone on their own unique path to happy home spaces.
As a momma with adhd I HAVE TO just toss the item in it’s room. I cannot physically enter a different room or I’m stuck cleaning that room then next thing I know I have five half clean rooms
High five!!! 30 minutes is a long time. I feel less overwhelmed if I use a fun song play list (I mean silly songs to make you smile like the chicken dance!) and you can tell yourself 3 songs but you can keep going. It’s AMAZING how even 10 minutes in each space can do!!! Brava!!! 🎉
Sounds like you have had some busy and tiresome days. Those people that clean an already clean house have understood that that is the way to keep it clean. I haven’t got that habit yet. 😂 Nothing wrong with having stuff, but it is always easier to keep things tidy if you have a lot less. (Can you spot a minimalist 🙋♀️) You did a great job!
yes,yes...I'm a minimalist for 10 years now and a professional cleaner and organizer for 8 years, my mom say that I started cleaning since I was born😂....you cannot let things go, you have to clean before things get gross. People always amazed how I keep my house always clean and organized: I have less stuff,everything have it's place, at the end of the day a clean and organized everything. Clutter affects my mental health, I can't live with clutter.
Thank you for sharing your real home. You are such a lovely and gentle person. I love your 2023 goal, but have a suggestion. Don't wait until you "know what you need", because needs constantly change and you'll never get started. It's impossible to get it perfect so try not to set an unrealistic goal. My 2022 goal was to give everything a home and I got 90% of the way there, which is enough. I know there are things I probably don't need anymore but my focus was on getting the space clear and the process naturally changed me and how I tidy my house.
So glad I just discovered your channel! This video was really motivating as I've been really intimidated to tackle my storage closet which is out of control at the moment ( and I have to clean it out so I can put my christmas stuff away... it's almost february!). Looking forward to following along with the upcoming episodes!
I loved your video and you have a beautiful home. I just see a lot of homeless clutter or items that just aren’t in the places where they would normally go. My advice would be to just buy some hooks for the hall instead of tape on the wall unless you plan to build your hall tree within days it seems to be odd to see tape on the wall for any length of time, or how about rolling the laundry sorting baskets into the actual laundry room. I was so happy when I saw you move the mop head and car detail supply bin away. I really thought you were planning to leave it in the hallway. The two things that really helped me reclaim my spaces were decluttering but also making homes for everything. As well as saying to myself does such and such belong in a dining room or hall way. No this doesn’t help accomplish the feel I’m going for in this space, ok take it there now where it should go. For some time that “temporary there” was my bedroom which then killed the bedroom vibe etc so I really had to come up with functional but pretty storage quickly as I didn’t want my front entry or bedroom or basement to be a constant dumping ground until I could find a better home. This also showed me these items don’t have homes they probably won’t have homes and I need to let them go. Also another thing that took me a while when I didn’t have my storage solutions or dedicated homes in place that was impossible was the idea of “complete tasks”. I was for a long time the half way done girl. The easy thing to do is start things then stop. Like do wash it don’t put it away or do dishes but don’t empty the dishwasher, etc. but the truth is it really isn’t the easier way. It causes more stress oner all doing things this way so I recommend don’t set things down. Take the extra few seconds to put its way then and there or else I find clutter attracts more clutter. Complete the cycles even with adhd even if you have to set yourself a timer. Things don’t usually take as long as you think so if you know it’s only going to take two more min instead of the twenty you think it will this may help you push through. It seems like you have no storage solutions at all. I’d suggest shelfs or a rack for your laundry supplies to be kept in the laundry room where you use them. You mentioned some sort of utility closet which I am not sure about but I know I’d find it very difficult to do laundry if my laundry soap wasn’t in the actual laundry room. And finally I have several family members in the house with adhd and they all do extremely better in simplified non cluttered spaces. I think you will find you feel that way as well. I am sure you will get there. Keep on decluttering. Don’t give anything a chance to sit too long. Try to reset your kitchen every night before bed. That helps start the day off with less stress too. Try not to allow anything to be set down on the floor. I hope my suggestions help. I can’t wait to see more videos like this.
Thank you for being so kind. We do have a lot of homeless clutter that will be finding its way to a new home and out of mine. Normally I have shelving in my laundry room but when the washer broke, all of that got cleared out. Just this week I finished staining two new shelves that will go in there for my laundry stuff. Our utility closet is mostly used for brooms, vacuum, mops, etc. but we are going to add shelving in there as well to move the car detailing stuff and tools. I know eventually everything will come together. With my son and I both being Neurodivergent, my husband does what he can to help keep us on our routine but both my kiddo and I are also actively working to get things done. Unfortunately getting sick happened at the worst possible time with Christmas and the washer breaking down and I just simply got overwhelmed. The good news is, I am much better now and in a better headspace so progress is being made. Your suggestions are always welcome and I LOVE feedback. Anything I can do to help my home flow better is always appreciated. 🤗
OMG! I just stumbled across this video and was horrified at the amount of clutter. There is no way I could live like that for more than a day. It would drive me insane. I know this sounds like criticism, but it isn't. It motivated me to get off my butt and go vacuum, sweep and mop my floors, which I have needed to do for over a week. It just goes to show that if you procrastinate for too long about cleaning, it builds up really fast and can happen to anyone. It looks like you have a beautiful home underneath all the clutter and I'm so proud of you for tackling the mess and creating a cozy, welcoming space again for you and your family. Good job!
I like the whole declutter as you clean. I have a donation box that makes its way out every couple months. Organize at the end as detailing. I get lost in the sauce once detailing starts 😂
For the mine craft toy chest, what you could do is get a regular toy chest and add wallpaper on it, the wallpaper can be purchased from amazon or walmart, just an idea! awesome video and new sub!
Cool idea! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I have stumbled into the Best community on RU-vid. Y’all are so creative and kind. I have never worked with wallpaper but I would be for the challenge. ❤️
It is honestly great!! even the wall stickers work really well, you can use a little modge pod or a clear type glue so it wont come off easily, and if you get a wooden toy chest yo can paint it and just have fun! and it goes both ways, when you put out nice videos you attract nice people! I hope it helps you out, really appreciate you writing back! :)
You are so welcome! I want to clarify that I have nothing against other Channels, I love watching them too. I try to think of them as what I aspire to be when I grow up at some point. 😂 But I really wish there were more channels that showed what a lot of us struggle with, clutter, storage challenges, neurodivergence, etc.. Stay tuned for the episode in a few weeks that shows me tackling my office/Guestroom/Homeless Junk room. It is not quite finished at this point but man it is already inspiring me to do more! Thank you so much for watching and your kind words. I really appreciate you being here. ❤🌻
I feel for you with the laundry piling when a washer quits working. We’ve been through months of a washer going down, getting fixed, going down, fixed… company finally gave us a new one to replace the one that was only 2 1/2 years old and under warranty. It got so bad with the waiting to get fixed, we ended up getting a used older one just to keep us going. For about 2 weeks both were down and the laundry pile was incredibly large.
You are real and much like me! Thank you ever so much! I just subscribed, I can relate to you already and the process and chat already had me. Thank you again. You are right natural light makes for a more joyous environment. I live in the woods so we do not have curtains or blinds in the main part of the house. Just a thought…. Do you remember your mother ever having meltdown days? I am 65 and I don’t remember that event ever? Surely they had them too. However my mother always had a miraculous way of keeping the house . Always tidy and clean. Meals always on time and so on.. I did not get her gene of keeping things clean, clear and tidy.
I never forget the day when one of my teenage sons decided to do his own washing, it was while I was up a ladder painting the ceiling, he was about sixteen at the time . The relief that they were becoming self sufficient at least as far as washing clothes was concerned.
I didn't really start cleaning up till after my stroke. I had to be real careful not to fall. I'm looking around at my tiny condo full of my hobbies and things and I said OUT U GO.
This looks like a reasonably large house so surely it is possible to get things under control and keep them like that. Not trying to be snarky btw, just genuinely puzzled.
@@coffeecarbsclutter I made the big mistake of emptying a storage unit into my small duplex home… NOW I HAVE NOWHERE TO PUT IT I’m at a loss as what to do so I just went and got a small storage unit to put the things I really want to keep and am donating and trashing the rest. It’s such a daunting task working 6 days a week and 3D shift at that. Some days I am totally numbed and cannot even motivate. Tips? You’re very motivating tho. Thank you for letting us into your world!
I move things to the room they belong in and put them away when I get to that room unless it's just one thing that will take 2 seconds. The biggest thing that has helped me is decluttering the house without mercy and continuing that process periodically throughout the year. I always think I'll reach the point where I don't need to get rid of anything, but I haven't yet. The amount has gone down drastically though and that is encouraging. I used to be able to fill up 5 or 6 boxes for Goodwill - now it's one and it will take awhile for it to be full enough to drop off. You can do it!!!
