I agree to your first sentence. For victims of abuse (any kind of) is the worst advice. Since therapist told me stop listenint/trusting your feelings my victim mentality is finally shifting.
Follow you’re feelings is the absolute worst advice you can give people. This is why we live in a country of adult children that never grew up. Life is a balance between reason and emotion, responsibility and relaxation, pleasure and pain. Stop following the moment and build something worthwhile.
What if the feeling you desire is to be loved and cared for by others? Should you not seek that out? Should you only seek out the feeling of being unloved? While you shouldn't let surface level feelings guide your every decision, there also isn't anything wrong with wanting a desired experience in this life. This isn't black and white and it doesn't always have to be hustle and grind. You're allowed to feel good. It's okay to feel okay. Yes, sometimes we have to do uncomfortable things in the moment to secure more comfort for ourselves in the future, but that's exactly what I'm talking about in this video. The initial expectation of what you wanted might not at all be what you need in order to experience the kind of life you want to live.
