What an eloquent young woman. Every time I think you’ve talked about everything, you find another thing to elaborate on. Always so specific, and that’s what I love. And you make a perfect summary of thoughts, the lenght of the videos is perfect, verbalizing stuff we’re all somewhat aware of but still need to hear it out loud is also just wow. Excellent! I wish more people knew about your podcast, because they really are missing out. These videos are truly helpful. I see a lot of videos with life coaching advices but they always seem so bland, so repetetive, as if the person who’s giving the advice is staying in this unclear, foggy area. You are so genuine in your attempts to truly REACH the audience, that desire to REACH and EXPLAIN something is really showing and it’s really visible. Just keep going, you’re doing amazing.I’m super grateful for your work Kat!❤
Wow thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so glad to hear that the topics I cover are impactful! I try to be as specific and go as in-depth as I can with them, so this comment has been such great encouragement for me! :)
So funny. I saw someone and got so attracted to him that I messaged him on Facebook so he could be my model. They responded and it all happened. Then I fell into a limerence. But I know beforehand that I was falling into another limerent episode (as I just got out of another limerence with a girl before I saw this guy). All along, I just really needed some emotional support and appreciation from the people around me (my family). And that's what I did to this guy. I made him model of my fashion business, and took him out to a lot of coffee dates. And even told him a lot of the pain I was going through. I just needed a friend but this guy is just not reciprocating it to me. So I had to let him go. It lasted more than a year, the pain of the heartbreak. Now I'm a stronger person. I know that only I remain, only I will ever love myself. So I take myself out of dates now and buy myself things now.
2024-2026 Yes, I won't romanticize the next two years. This will be my hell. I intend to come out two years later as a phoenix 🐦🔥. But first I'd endure the two year hell.
Really appreciate this conversation and how you flowed with it effectively. I really like the key points you made, Awareness of Attachment Style Instilling Change And If Not Willing to Change, It Will Continue. I think you explained attachment style well, I picked up on attachment style from my parent and now in my mid 20s I am currently working on breaking out of it. Examples that have been given for me are present in my workplace. Very difficult conversation to come up with however you delivered eloquently. Thank you for sharing this space.
Attachment style can definitely manifest in all areas of our lives, so I think it's helpful to recognize it within ourselves in order to then navigate all kinds of relationships in a way that feels good for us.
@@kat.eleftheriou Absolutely! One of the big changes highly needed to make is to create and maintain boundaries. I personally am a very big giver and enjoy gifting, I’ve picked up along the way that not everyone receives gracefully. Some will take,take, take; Thus creating a negative space for us. However, rediscovering that in order to instill change, the giver should be aware of their boundary limit. Only giving what is necessary and not overly. If you’re comfortable speaking upon a subject of that matter I will be interested to hear your thoughts! Mindful chats are a fav.
I feel like i avoid people because they leave me no alternative. I will start out trying to logically argue a situation, then i try reasoning, i try bargaining, i try setting boundaries, i try explaining using gigantic paragraphs in detail what it is they are doing that is upsetting me, repeat myself 15 times, give warning after warning, increasingly stern warnings, last warnings, THEN it escalates to ok i have exhausted every alternative and you wont stop.....you are cut from my life. Get out of my sight and dont come back. This causes the person to throw a tantrum like a 5 year old. And then they declare war on me and smash every button i have, press on every wound, while i am trying frantically to get them out of my life, cutting every tie, burning the bridge, and setting the ground on fire aeound me to keep them out and they just wont leave. And i am like ok i gave you a million warnings, i set the boundaries, your not capable of respecting them, we talked about it 5 times, i laid out the consequences, you didnt listen, your gone. Get out of my house NOW. And then they wont leave and keep fighting with me.
I feel like if you are expressing your viewpoint, putting up boundaries, and explaining... then you are not avoidant and these people are just not respectful to YOU. You abandon them because they do not respect you. That's good, that's the final "boundary" you can put on someone- no energy from you unless they change. A true avoidant cannot express these feelings as it is painful/disappointing/act of shame. Hope this helps you.
Honestly, I think one or two warnings is enough for someone to get it. If they don't get it, they don't get it, and all you need to do is make sure you're protecting yourself, even if that means removing them from your life.
People stomp on my wounds as hard as they can as soon as they figure out what they are which triggers my avoidant and i banish them from. My life because they refuse to stop picking my scabs and rubbing dirt in them.
I'm so glad i stumbled upon your channel. All of these videos have been so helpful to me & my circumstances - where I've found myself & getting unstuck. Thank you so much. Lots of love & good vibes sent your way. ❤
I literally had a friendship I was really unhappy in and thought "but abandoning them would feel like abandoning myself" 😳 Every now and again I need a reminder like this, thank you.
I listened to you while driving and the amount of times I was like "yes, that's me, damn" while hitting the wheel is insane. I have to think about it now for the rest of the day 🌚
when it comes to relationships, what would be some things we would avoid about ourselves? I think having some examples would help me reflect better cause I cant' get to the answer on my own.
Maybe it's your own emotional unavailability that you're trying to avoid. Maybe it's your fear of vulnerability. Maybe it's that you don't feel ready or worthy to accept a relationship.
...so who's supposed to give you permission to pursue your creative fiction writing? I hereby give you permission 🙃. But maybe you idealized the fiction writing as a substitute for an emotional deficit and it's not what you really want.
I think I've had to let myself do it without any sort of expectation of what it HAS to look like. I always get hung up on expectations and appearances which tends to hold me back from just doing the things I enjoy doing.
Or it’s an iterative cycle?! A journey that you’ve never seen before (exactly) but you have really (repeated behaviours). Outcome? Goal? Target? I suspect it’s a balance between what you want and where you e been. I mean, we can’t even prove we have free will. Should we not just ride the wave? Figure out on the fly, every bump in the wave using experience we gain on the way. My end goal has shifted so many times but the stepping stones of hindsight are regularly an ah-ha moment. I agree with trust the process. It’s a balancing act, depressed is the need for deep rest as an example. Do you wonder if the focus on the goal creates the fear and the pain and the struggle? I wonder if letting go of trying to control the process of path creation relieves you of the pain?
Letting go is vital in being able to enjoy the moment, but it's also the most terrifying thing to do. You have to risk the potential of things going badly in order to truly indulge in all the good.
@@kat.eleftheriou here’s hoping for the bad to happen. Life is suffering after all. We create our own suffering anyway, just ask the celebrities that ‘have it all’ but still suffer. I have a thought experiment that wonders what AI will do once it becomes sentient. My guess is that it chooses to experience pain and discomfort. The Yin Yang of living. Without one you can’t have the other, our bodies and brains literally create the physical changes that balance us out. Cold shower first and you’ll have a rush of endorphins after, eat a load of chocolate icecream and you’ll feel good at first then terrible later. Thoughts?
Ma'am have we been living the same life?? I relate to literally every topic you talk about! Thank you for creating this content and sharing your experiences, it's super helpful and appreciated🌹
