become cool & interesting using social intelligence hacks 

I just finished the vid , im a very introverted person / diagnosed " autistic " it was so hard for me to be myself in the past also i was so insecure about my look and care about pple opinions, once i loved myself and noticed what im unique at it build sm confident and i wanted to show pple my interests and how unique i am

+Be yourself it attractive not wannabe +Find ur hobbies and intersts don't gatekeep it talking serving about it extracts a positive energy +try new things in all areas so u can talk to anyone about anything +Be a good listener ask questions use there names in the convo +Be unique don't be needy or desperate its attractive Learn how to talk how to keep ur tell ur stories in a interesting way

Im watching a girl who’s less than a year older than me on RU-vid. She’s soooooooo enthusiastic and EVERYBODY loves her. She calls everyone everyday and does new stuff everytime she gets a chance. I was wondering how to be like her because she isn’t the type of “rude selfish smoking popular girl” but the one EVERYONE wants to be friends with. She’s never sad (at least in public) and she also has a modelling career. And the more I watch this video, the more I understand how she’s like that. Thank you ❤

Im diagnosed with autism and social anxiety, when I’m in social situations I tend to become very insecure and I will try to join conversations and try to fit in when I really don’t have a clue what’s going on. Or when I’m comfortable with someone I just keep infodumping which tends to bore people easily. I love this video because it helps me with how I should act in more professional situations like meeting other artists and creators

you are criminally underrated and i see the potential in your channel! i really enjoy your content and can see you getting big someday!

I’m literally just a people pleaser 😭 I do all this subconsciously

Thank you so much for saying social skills is a skill, regardless if you're autistic or not. It applies to everything else too. I grew up in a worker class context where everyone thought intelligence is just something you are, and if you are intelligent you must be successful. This is called having a **monolithic view of intelligence.** The reality is that you can break things down and learn the individual parts, and over time you will build a repertoire of skills that comes off as intelligence to others. Many intelligent people from my childhood got screwed over by life because they didn't learn the right skills and everyone told them they're going to be successful even if they just coast along for life.

Everything aside, girl, your voice is SO freaking pretty, like deep, calm and soothing, that's what should be called cool ❤

I'm glad you brought up social cues and then talked about autistic people. I happen to be autistic myself, and I've become a lot better at eye contact, but my social cues can always be better. Good for reminding us about that. That's one of the things I've got to work on as I plan to be more social this year.

Also body language is important because it helps you to show others that you're eager to be talking to people, and it also helps you focus on what you're explaining. If you keep your arms to yourself as if you're hugging yourself, it might seem like you're trying to avoid other people. So my advice that i learned from my brother is to go sit near people, just among them, not literally next to some stranger. Just feel the atmosphere and relax. Others will see that you're not avoiding anyone, and when they see your smile, they will feel more comfortable to approach you. But also, don't wait for anyone to come to you, because that will just make you feel bad. You can do what they also do, for example if they're playing something, join them! Or if they're just chilling on their phones, you can do that, but remember to be among them. In class you can help others. If somebody forgets a pencil, you can offer one for them. Or even offer some gum if you have. Showing that you're aware of your surroundings and not too focused and reserved, shows that you're open to everything.

you make me feel so calm, your voice, the way you look, your smile you're such a sweet talker and someone who seems nice to hang out with

similarly to the last comment, as someone who was also not only diagnosed as having HFA(high-functioning autism), but also accompanying disorders along w/ it, I truly do find this to be quite helpful, even if I already do some of the stuff that you recommend

I’m unlikeable because I’m quiet. Hope this helps!

Just be yourself and the right people will find you

"Find something you're passionate about and learn more about it" me with my obsession with birds "DO YOU LIKE BIRDS" Infact, this worked as a friend of mine i recently got back into contact with after 6 years has taken a great interest in birds because of me HAHAH

I actually used to be extroverted and I js realised that I was doing these things unconsciously but now idk how I lost confidence and became more shy I forgot bout these things.

I must admit that I am quite a perfectionist and I have been my whole life. Hearing this part (6:30) made me kind of relate to it. I tend to mirror my friends', parents' and brothers' speech, mannerisms, and all sorts of things, because I like them and everybody likes them, so I thought that if I adopted those things, people would like me too, but hearing that made me think a bit. I am aware of all these things I do, copying others and trying to be someone I'm not just for people to like me and for me to hopefully like myself, but to be honest I don't know how to be myself. I don't know how to adopt my own speaking patterns, my own mannerisms, my own opinion and decisions without basing it off another person. Did someone have a similar experience, and if so, how did you fix it? I'd appreciate it a lot if I could get some reassurance on this, and I'd love to read your replies

I have been complimented on having emotional intelligence, but despite this skill I still am not the best in social situations just because I haven't practiced things like small talk enough so that's where I really struggle. Understanding others is one step but being able to actually say the right things is another if that makes sense.

i fucking love u you're helpin me so much into growing in my person and be actually myself,im really glad i found your channel. dont ever stop you're toooooo good!!!!

love your channel sm❤ As someone who thought being introverted was better for me and being selfish overtime it taught me it’s so much better to have people skills

I learned all this while starting a twitch Account. Streaming is helping me so much being my own person and NOT copying others!

I stumbled on ur channel and just watching videos left and right... to be honest this video is like a reflection of many things i did to transform myself into being comfortable with myself. Not tryna flex or anything, still got challenges here and there, but a lot of the tips you provide in this video really work. Im an extroverted autisic & adhder with some strange habits that initally make people wonder, but by 1. Acting kindly & complimenting people genuinely and 2. Dressing in colorful clothes that make me feel good, i really saw a difference in how open people were to me in return. Your content is so well out together thanks so much❤❤

4:06 NOT THE EYE CONTACT 😭

10:18 that's what I'm talking about Mae, i been doing my best to talking with my friends, and i met a girl as your type, and i known her since September and i forgot her name.

6:25 thank you Mae❤️ thank you for letting me know about it🙏🏾❤️

that video made my day, I just have the motivation, the urge to explore more. Loved it!

that was very helpful and fun to watch, i love ur videos they’re so underrated 👏🏻

Your bangs are PERFECT i need a tutorial for them

I love the cat sitting there the whole time lol. cool video!

But my toxic friend who does all the unlikable things is the most popular girl in school

I'm going to attend a new school this summer and am trying to improve my social skills. This video really helped! Tysm :)

You are amazing !! The first video of you and I already followed you - keep it up 🥳💕💕

Amazing video and a great message! Thank you Mae!

I know this is an old video but i do i have a lot of traits like what you said in the video but i just struggle to approach people and start talking to them in general at first and like go up to someone and that usually leads to me being left out (when my friends aren’t with me)

the way this opened my mind so much thankyou for this:)

love your videos and content!

finally someone giving useful tips, thank you sm

thank you so much for making this video ♡

you help me so much🙏❤ tysm!!!

thanks for tips , i see that i have mthing to change , and i will try changing it

You are a genius

seriously needed this i have a serious case of rbf

this helped me socailze more thank you xx

This is so hard because I come off as I'm "trying too hard" I'm just passionate 😭 but also maybe I'm just talking a lot about myself. I have a new semester coming up and I always end up being unlikeable send prayers that I make friends this year 🙏🏼✨️

"You cannot be afraid to be alone,because when you die you are alone". I have no idea what kinda reasoning this is 🤣

You're calling me out😔😔 im trying to change, i promise😍😚😚 Thank youu!

this video reminds me of simonesquared yall have the same energy

I'm an extrovert ish?? I really like talking to people and making friends but I get overwhelmed like a month or less after and I can't keep friends

8:59 aespas new release shade!?

but i whenever i try to talk to anyone who I know has the same interests as me i think im gonna get judged and idk how to start a conversation because everyone is already in their own friend groups

watching this cuz i wanna be friends with some new students at my school😭

I feel like I’ve always been naturally nice and humble and a lot of people hate me for it 😭 I try to ignore them but I always attract jealous people

I rlly wanna be myself but i feel shy to show it my personality is very extrovert and fun but i feel shy abt showing it to ALOT of ppl mostly my age and older

This is ac so clever and I know these already but didn’t think about these I think xdd

I like you girly! Hit the nail on the head, can tell you know what you’re doin!!!

can i be one of your cats lol. I love your advices and your voice

3:40 what if i'm even more of a listener than a speaker but people still just brush me off with those 'oh really' sentences when i speak

these are very helpful!! ♡

Its hard for me cuz im introverted person with social axenity and i have no hobbies

im neurodivergent and it has been very hard for me to have stable relationships since i am a person of color in a very socially exclusive country. i just really can’t look at the person when i am aware that anything could happen in the conversation

it was 10:30 that sold it to me ngl

Js wow! Im grateful that you pop up on my feed🌷☁ i learned so much thanku🤍

so offtopic but im obessed with your room!!

Has anyone got tips for actually starting the conversation? Especially if it's somebody new, like I might be overthinking it and maybe you just start with hello but that's the whole reason people think I'm shy (I'm extraverted but have anxiety and autism) because I never start conversations

You ever read "how to make friends and influence people" by dale carnegie?

Do u have a podcast ur so nice to listen to

I would love to do biking as a hobby, but where i live is not that safe and my dad doesn't even let me walk around thr block, basically i have no freedom ☠️

Hii mae, i’ve recently started to watch your videos and its so GOOD. Please keep going! You inspire me so much :)))

I want to like this vid 100 times

I loved the video, thank you ❤️

Thank you!

Jesus your voice is sooooooo good to hear

Great video!

I cant travel😭

I think I’m likable 🙂

Thanks!

I already do these things

can you please help me, i have some anger issues, not too bad, i dont get violent, but i get irritated so easily, i dont know what i can do to work on it

The problem is when you’re autistic, then this is way more difficult

Thank you for this video hopefully I could make friends now cause im a lonely loser:)

my autistic ass watching videos about basic social interaction. thanks for the video been binge watching your videos while drawing love you youre great :D

I think you should think of becoming a voice actor

thing is- i was really cringy and a pick me before i actually developed a personality so i wanna change that so bad

some need hacks, some have aura

Hey, please give me tips how to get interesed in others people's life. Like, I don't want to know about your life, and i don't want you to know my life

i relly like you

ive recently been keeping this mindset but this video really solidified it in me and i think I'll be better because of you :)

I'm very surprised how much you described me 😭

You really look like beabadoobee!

if my bsf makes jokes that me me feel bad about myself what do i do

girl i can see in you that you're very attractive..

i am awkward

❤❤

I would definitely love for you to raise my kid ❤

If that’s what people are worried about they are simply completely self obsessed and need something better to focus on. Indeed just vapid and ultimately boring

how to be cool and interesting = be a cute asian baddie

What if people don’t like you bcs of something u can’t control e.g being gay

FIRST

wat did I j watch. Majority of these "tips" r basic af & evybdy does dem lolz

This video is very well thought out and put together! My fave from you at this point IMO 🫶