Behind the Bump: A Birth Mother's Story 

God be with you

Please stay in her life and make yourself the best you you can be...she will be better for having you in her life and so will you

Stephanie Taylor did you not consider termination not saying your wrong I think your brave just wondered.

I am so sorry you got tricked. I wish you had known about Saving Our Sisters. We would have provided you a place to live, help to finish school, and all of the baby items you need. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE--2QRkiv3aBQ.html

You didn't choose adoption. You were tricked into it. I'm so sorry.

Megan grow up! She wasn’t tricked.

@@relaxandgrowwithMegan why are you being so mean spirited? Is your desire to inflict pain? Please stop.

I also strongly feel the same. Little Zoe was lucky because her mum and grandparents were deeply religious people. Otherwise she would have been aborted. How sad that so many babies are murdered by their own mothers. Why kill your own child. If you think you can't bring up the child you can at least do what Melissa did. Give it to people who are desperate for a baby. I think some women are sick. They cant keep holes shut and when they become pregnant they kill the baby.

Thats good encouragement

Neither did mine as my bio family HATES my existence. Well close bio family.

electricgrace1 m sorry your adoption didn’t work out well this is all too common.

Megan That's their decision and I can see why as you spew hatred toward adoption.

I decided to spew hatred towards adoption AFTER their vile treatment towards me. So get it right you sorry dumbfuck.

Hey dumbass if you had the whole story you'd be aware even the POLICE are disgusted at them! You don't have the full story so shove it mate!

God bless you and your husband! I pray that God blesses you with a child soon. I'm sure you'll be wonderful parents! 💗

Thank you Brittany!

Adopt only a baby born on drugs or an abused child. Kids who need a loving home. God bless.

Megan you are crazy.

please only adopt a baby if there is no other way that child can have a home. make sure that you are ready and have all the resources you will need to do this. If you get and adoptable foster child who doesnt need to go home to his or her parents and this child chooses you. that would be a less damaging option then adopting some poor baby. i was adopted. the people who adopted me werent ready. they couldnt bear to have baby things around because of fallen through adoptions. because of this they pulled a drawer out halfway out of a chest of drawers and put me in it instead of a crib until they got one. they didnt get themselves checked out so later on he wound up having a medical operation that required surgery. once that sugery corrected things his fertility returened. they had their own children. especially the older one of the two was their perfect combination of physical and mental and emotional traits they needed in a child. i was an annoyance to them. i looked at things differently, my strengths and weaknesses were not acceptable. i was too different from them. Nothing i did ever pleased them. we dont even talk now that im an adult. it was a closed adoption so i never had a medical history of any kind until i was 38. i found my family on ancestery because i was lucky enough to find one of my first cousins who would talk to me on there. she gave my info to my brother and he talks to me now. unfortunately my mother died of a viralent reoccurring breast cancer so i will never meet her this side of heaven. fortunately i now know to get genetically tested so i can catch this before it can become a problem. I care about what happens to the Dennis family but only one of them his mother cares about me and i will not put her in a position of having to choose between me and them. I love my brother we belong together i never belonged to the Dennis family except legally. The man who thinks he is my father has admited that until now he wasnt sure but he wont tell me why hes so sure now but i still talk to him when he feels like it every couple of weeks. so i cant really say im a Seabury. I love my brother and my cousin but i dont really have a history with them yet so i cant really consider myself a Rodell. Nemo is laten for nobody so that is why i chose that. i ask that if you have any love in you not to do this to a baby. please and God bless you reguardless of what you choose.

Megan Sensenig Hello again. You and I she to be watching the same things. Such a beautiful story!

Open adoption is not legally enforceable. 75% of open adoptions close by the time the child is in kindergarten. My advice to you is do everything they tell you and agree with everything. Ex: If they like homeschooling, you like it. If they want to space out vaccines, you space out vaccines. If they want him in peewee football, you want him in peewee football.

Ddrama Llama Mmama I know this is 3 months ago, but I am crying my heart out for you.... I am so so sorry Mama...... did your parents accept you back and help you through the grieving process??

Hi girl it was years ago but I tend towards having an abortion instead . Adoption seems so hard

Especially for the baby

@LittleRedPixi No, they didn't. Not a first. it's a long story, but about 10 years later my mom apologized, and I still think about her (the baby now)

As a birth mother, in what ways did semi open adoption help you with the process of parting ways with your child?

Hi. I would like to talk to you is it possible ?

If it remains open.

Cecilia Liz thanks for your comment! I can’t stand to see so many adoption detractors!

Patricia Flanagan this couple have a little boy also that they adopted through open adoption and they are the same with the little boys birth mother still supporting her and being there and allowing her to be apart of his life growing up etc... just like they’re doing with the little girls birth mother in this video. So no it’s not a scam! Yes some parents who adopt a child through open adoption will just cut off contact with the birth mother but not always, most of the time they stay in contact with the birth mother unless she’s asked them not too! Melissa Link and her husband have another mini documentary on her called “The Texas 48Hours adoption.” Or something very close to that title showing the little boys adoption. X

How is open adoption the hardest option for new parents? There is also closed adoption and semi-open wouldn't open adoption be the better decision ?

She didn't make a decision. The adoption industry uses a ton of propaganda.

sandi colee yui

Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you for doing and keeping an open adoption! I applaud you so much. You mean a lot to me.

Barf.

I'm supposed to be grateful for losing 9 siblings, my family health history, my first mother, and my heritages?

Adoption is not the answer to abortion. The answer is family preservation.

birth mothers dont always get the thanks they deserve. i gave my baby up for adoption. not eveeyone thinks its an amazing decision. many other mothers look on birth mothers like we are horrible. it was the hardest but most rewarding decision i ever made. i used to feel guilty for not feeling guilty. i love seeing the other stories of birth mothers

Megan Adoption is a good thing. I’m sorry you don’t have the answers you want but family preservation isn’t always possible. Open adoption might have been a better option in your case unless your birth family was violent or abusive. I hope you find the answers you want but I’d much rather children be given life and adopted. Children are innocent. They deserve to be given the chance to live. If that’s with a family they’re not blood related to then as long as they’re loved and have a family to go home to what does it matter? You can get different test to see if you have medical issues but if you aren’t having medical issues why is it a problem? There are a load of medical issues in my family and to my knowledge I don’t have any of them. Yes it would be great to know for the future but it’s ok. Roll with it. No matter what happens your family are the people who love and take care of you. Blood does not define your family. The connections and relationships you choose define it. One day you can search for your history and maybe you’ll find it, even if you don’t, live in the present. You’re life is your own it doesn’t matter where you came from. Some questions never get answered but don’t let those questions rule your life. If you come across the answers then that’s good. If you don’t it’s ok. In the end it won’t matter, just the family that you love and that love you back will matter regardless of how it formed.

Adoption and surrogacy are not the same thing. With adoption you welcome life already created. You are saving life. With surrogacy a lot of lifes may be at stake as some of created embryos end up not being implanted or experimented upon. It is a selfish approach. If you went through with it, Please do not leave any created embryo without the opportunity of being born. They are human beings and deserve to be treated with dignity.

jacky o I took my grandchildren on I could not bear to let them be adopted not all grandparents are able too do that it is hard work but hopefully my grandchildren will grow up and appreciate me.

You don't place a baby. You give your baby away. Do not use subtle coercive languages practices of the multibillion dollar, loosely regulated, uncredetialed adoption industry.

What a vulture.

Instead of helping a mother keep her baby you want to spend tens of thousands of dollars on taking her baby from her.

You want to be a mother? There's plenty of abused children who need homes.

Me, too!

Me three 💚

It’s not guarantee she would reproduce though…that’s the thing about life their are no guarantees and to be so possessive over grandchildren is strange.

Oh so so so so many cases screw over the father. Check out www.exposingadoption.wordpress.com and in the search bar type in "the adoption industry strips fathers of their rights".

That's what I was waiting to finish the video to ask! Wow that's a little selfish IMO.

@@peggybaby0894 what do you consider selfish?

I have no doubt that he was a part of the decision, but as for how big of a role he played, I'm not sure. However, I think that in making this documentary, they wanted to fully respect the birth father's privacy (as they should) and just focus on the main purpose of telling this beautiful story, which was to show how much of a blessing adoption has been for this family! 😊 God bless! 💗

There's no such thing as birthparent privacy.

ShallWe?TV then you come from a very good family! 💛

Which!! Sorry, I'm OCD about spelling , beautiful family and Zoe is the cutest baby ever 💙❤️💜💛💚

A little bit of Paradis (here on RU-vid) has a lovely adoption story that involves the father who is still with the birth mother. They simply were not able to parent another child at that point in their life and placed their baby girl with his sister and her husband.

She never told the dad she was pregnant. Her fault

Kristin Gallo he obviously knew because everyone at her & his college knew... plus it was all over social media. He must of known

Yeah no.

Is it convenience or responsibility? Sometimes if you don’t have support it’s not ideal to raise a child in an environment that is chaotic and out of order. It took two people to make a baby. Babies don’t stay babies forever. They grow up and when they do that partnership and support system established from when they are a baby is vital.

do adoptive parents support the birth mother when going different stages of grief ?

For me, as a birthmom who did open adoption, it means that 15yrs ago I got to pick out amazing parents for my baby. After all these years, even though I don't see her in person (by choice and for various reasons) I know she is well cared for and happy. She knows where and how to find me, I know how she is in general. It's peace of mind. How many kids get handpicked parents? It's NOT easy, but it was the best decision for everyone. And I mean everyone. Birthfather knows too.

That's speculation. You don't know that at all. Respect her knowledge and experience and decisions.

Good parents want what's best for their kid, wouldn't you agree? Even if that means giving them up. Think of the story of King Solomon saying he'd cut the baby in half. The real mother preferred to give up the baby. Caring IS part of sanity. It's still love.

Isn't that her business?

Well, this is why women choose abortion. They get criticized no matter what they do. She did what she felt she could handle, feel free to make your own choices. Lucky for you no one is standing there judging yours.

@@mentak2593exactly. That’s why knowing yourself is so incredibly important. People criticize and fear what they don’t understand.