Diane talks about how loneliness and heartache can affect your life and that you can survive it. Bojack Horseman series belongs to it's respective owners
Oh my God I laughed so hard, haha I don't know why or what that was exactly, but I'm just glad they kept it in hahaha. Maybe I'm just in a weird emotional state but good God that got me.
The biggest person you know is yourself. You know every wrecked part of your soul and body, you know all your fears and thoughts. You just can't know someone better than yourself. And therefore, if you are frank with yourself you hate yourself every bleached moment of your crippled life
@@youknowwhoiam2771 I just feel nothing... when you feel EVERYTHING from your life aside from misery and selfloathing *You just have nothing left to feel* you've been through it all, except joy
Just realized "running away from your problems" was a recurring thing in Bojack Horseman... Bojack going to his old grandparent's house Diane going to Vietnam This show is depressing yet amazing.
That's more along the lines of trying to find happiness by restoring a nostalgic imagination-driven past you never actually experienced. Running away is more like Secretariat, "It gets easier," and the ending of Season 3 where the pack of running horses.
I wouldn’t say Bojack going to the Sugarman place was running away from his problems. The way I saw it was him going against the advice Secretariat gave him to try and figure things out. Instead of constantly running forward, he turned around and went back to a place from a long time ago since the former was not working for him.
This scene was so important to me. I was the one who ended my last relationship after 2 years because we were just as incompatible. Somehow my friends and family all thought that after 2 weeks I would be over it, since I was the one who wanted „that“ all along. It was the right decision, but even months later there are moments where you think about the past, what they would have done in that situation... how you also had great moments with them and you know you will never experience it again and it makes you sad, but no one understands it. Because you are the bad guy. And just like Diane says... you are disoriented and need to relearn being alone. I love this show. Thanks for this.
That happened to me also. I was in a 3.5 year old relationship. I felt like my boyfriend wasn't interested in me enough and decided to break by telling he the truth: I had cheated on him many times. At the beginning, I feel fine, like it wasn't a big deal. But soon, I started missing him a lot. We even got to had sex again and it wasn't the same. Then I got depressed and in the need to go back with him for 9 months. Eventually I realized it is fine to be alone and don't need to look for a new relationship. Just to enjoy your single new stage!
I feel this way right now unfortunately. I broke up with my ex because we weren't compatible and the ex made some good reasons why we shouldn't be together anymore
As someone who’s been in a relationship where you felt like you were on top of the world and having it come crashing down out of nowhere to where you are brought to your knees in tears, I get this. Mr. Peanutbutter is a special type of idiot who will never change, but he was still hers for a very pleasant brief time. It’ll fade eventually and you will realize it was not a relationship worth pursuing, but the pain will remain for a while.
Well, Mr. Peanutbutter is changing. Just watch the series on Halloween party. He actually found Pickles who definitely is Mr. Peanutbutter 25 years ago and in a women body (and pug). And the Peanutbutter's scene on this party is similar to Diane's scene 10 years ago. He changed. But I hope he will find his happiness in the marriage with Pickles (but hell no, the creators just want this show to screw everyone, so I bet he and Diane will be together in upcoming season)
@@troubletaker6614 MPB is a 40-something serial monogamist who keeps dating and marrying women in their 20s, but can never seem to keep a marriage together despite playing it by the book. He seems to have it all together, but three ex-wives says the dude has issues.
1:14 is the one part of this show that made me break down, and i actually had to pause this. No matter the situation, when you think of the little things you'll never get again from that person, it's so heart-wrenching. You don't even realise how much it means until its gone. I don't think I've ever related to a character more in my life and it makes me sob.
This comment made me cry. I know it’s over but i miss the way she looked at me. The way she grabbed my hand in the car, the way she kicked at my shoes when we were talking to people to let me know she was thinking about me. The inside jokes. The orders memorized from all of our favorite Restaurants. Bringing each other food and drinks at random just for an excuse to see each other. The constant need to be FaceTiming or in person with each other at all times. Our old dreams of moving to Europe in college and studying abroad. Our ideas of a small cottage with a daughter and a golden retriever. I miss the way she smelled, and the way that she looked at me after I said something sweet. I miss whenever she went into my car she’d smile and say, “Yes! It smells like you,”. I miss the late night talks and the early morning texts. I miss her love and I miss giving her love. I miss the way she was never afraid to express what she thought about something, and was never afraid to stand up for what she believed in. I miss her.
@@craigj.7035 Hey, just reading this now as someone who feels your pain. I was just broken up with. We weren't all that great together, but I still miss her so much. Just all the little things. It hurts so much. Just wanted you to know you're not alone.
I know how you feel. I used to be in a relationship with a guy where I felt like he was my everything, and when we broke up I still went to see a play he was apart of. And his then girlfriend played his love interest in the play, and when I saw them kiss each other, it reminded me how he used to kiss me. And that he was never going to do that with me again
@@noriakikakyoin898 I'm here a year later to say 5 months ago, me and my ex broke up a second time. This time, I saw a picture of her on a trip with some guy not 5 days after texting me 'I miss you". It does get better. It didn't work out. If it was meant to be, it probably would be. But it didn't. So we go forward. Nowhere specific, just forward.
I love how they broke up. You could feel how disfunctional and unhappy they were, but even though we know this relationship wasn't good for either of them, we still feel how sad they are when it ends. Watching them try to interact post divorce is sad and uncomfortable, even though it's the best thing for both of them.
The real reason you go to Vietnam is because you accidentally see your soon-to-be ex-husband kiss someone else. At first you think, "Oh, it's a fling. Whatever, they're drunk, it's a party. But he puts his hand on the small of her back exactly the way he used to do to you. Mmm. It means "I've got you," - and when he did it to you, it made you feel safe. And you realize he will never do that to you again. And it breaks your heart, again after your heart was so broken that you thought it could never get any more broken. You thought it was safe, but it still, somehow, finds a new way to break. Because, even though, you're the one who asked for this, now that you've got it, you are completely adrift with no compass, or map, or sense of where to go, or what to do. So you go to Vietnam. You think you might find community, a connection to something bigger, but you don't. In fact, you feel even more alone than you were before you left. But you survive. You learn that you can survive being alone.
oh man, this and the episode where PC imagine she had a greatx3 grand-daughter talked about how she gonna get over things and as the end she admitted that was just her imagination because "how else she could get over it", god, that's episode was depressingly sad.
I’m aromantic, so I don’t get into relationships, nor feel that romance. Whenever my friends get into breakups, lose a partner.. I always have to admit to them I’m not good at understanding what they’re going through, and that I can only listen. The only thing I can connect their loss to, is when I’ve broken it off with a friend. And even then, I don’t form many friendships, and when I leave them it’s for the most part been on my own terms and for the better. But this clip alone really helped me understand it a bit more, it put it into words I can understand rather than trying to make me empathise with something I’ve never experienced to be able to understand. This is a great damn show.
damn, i'm a vietnamese and i'm impressed, not only by the talented voice actor monologing, but also the scenes when Diana is in Vietnam, the cultural appreciation are on top notch, the minor details like the turtle man in Hoan Kiem lake, which linked to Vietnamese mythology is brilliant. I love this show
You know, this kind of heartache is really profound. It cuts deeper than anything out there and tears you apart. And what’s worse is when time makes that distance and you wake up and randomly remember the days when you were happy. When every moment with them is priceless. And now you ask yourself what is left? A lot. It’s not worth it sometimes. Life doesn’t owe us anything. We are lonely beings. And learning to accept it can be the most liberating thing.
"You learn that you can survive being alone". This is my current situation and its as hard as anything Ive ever done, then I see this clip and all the feels hit me. God damnit
I love Diane because I see myself in her and I get some hope. Breaking up with my recent ex was what felt like one of my lowest points but seeing this gives me some hope that maybe one day I’ll be okay with being alone.
Thats the thing, no one can be just happy, theres always something that worries you or makes you feel bad and Bojack Horseman knows how to portray that perfectly
The single moment that can showcase the amazing writers and the show that is Bojack Horseman. Such amazing story telling, for those who appreciate it and can see past what is put in front if you
good lord I relate to Diane so much in this one. I'm going thru the exact same thing with a guy, and recently, I just saw him with another girl doing all the stuff we used to do. And even tho I know we're over, seeing that broke me again. And like Diane, She wanted someone to be there for her in this time of grieving, and she went to Vietnam because she might find someone to share her pain. Her friends in LA couldn't do it, hell, PC was trying to, but she has a life of her own. This chapter in Diane's life made her realize that sometimes, all the support she needs is from herself. That she can do it alone. Holy shit.
@Afqwa You are technically correct, the best kind of correct. What I meant however is, that it certainly feels like dying. But that's just my perspective.
there's a difference between surviving and thriving. Surviving is close to the bare minimum or jusy the bare minimum. By surviving it's living but barely living
lets hope she gets to thrive eventually, divorces suck but your life shouldn't end because your previous love life did even if it hurts, down the line it can free you to heal .
Diane is female bojack, and it shows you how destructive people can be in those situations. In the end they both "redeemed" themselves, but still had that pull to eachother from their past lives
I think Diane and BJ differ a lot even though they are both self destructive. Bojack thought that he was doomed and he was incapable of taking care of himself and it was others responsibility to help him get his shit together whilst Diane knew she was responsible for her happiness. Of course there were times she contradicted with herself but mostly she was trying to get better. She wasn’t coming up with excuses such as her horrible family unlike BJ.
I think Diane is more like a teen who never grown because of her family thraumas and being bullied at school. She wants to be happy but she can’t, because her past is like haunting her and reminding her she’s wrong inside
Diana hated her self that’s the only thing she shared with bojack. She wasn’t selfish when she needed to be and bojack was even when he didn’t need to be.
Sometimes it hurts to know that the one you love has had connections with others because it makes you feel less important to them, but then I also know that right now I make them happy, and I can keep doing that and I will because I love them, and deep down I know those thoughts are just an unjustifiably paranoid mind. But it doesn’t stop them lingering in my mind, you know? But I think that’s okay. Because I know that what I think in the little paranoid space in my brain isn’t the only thing in their, and the memories we’ve made, the look in their eyes, the laughs and kisses and non-child friendly content and love letters are more valuable than my worries will ever be. Just venting because it feels good. That’s my advice to anyone. Vent to anyone or no one. Get it out, clear your head. Xx
Yo... this is some real stuff! I think we all have those thoughts from time to time, but like you said, it’s so important to remember that those thoughts aren’t the only things in our heads. This really hit home for me, thank you for commenting this!
I'd rather write this here because since this season and specially on season 6 episode 10 (which I can't find clips on RU-vid, sadly) I realized how much I really relate to Diane I thought I was more like other characters because I didn't like her much, but now I realize part of why I didn't like her, is because I am like her and I see my flaws there way more than I'd like This show has been too much for me It has been there on many right and wrong decisions And I'm glad we got to know Diane through it Right now, I realized how serious my problem with alcohol is I am joining a rehab group I think part of the reason comes from this show, sure not so much with Diane but... Yeah I have gone many times through the worse roads because I only felt like I had alcohol I might sometimes really have no one But I still have this show And this show can be more real than people at times More comforting in every time it breaks me than everytime real life makes me lie or listen to lies I don't think anyone on the team that worked on bojack will read my comment, but if you ever do Thank you, everyone of those friends you created for me, kinda managed to somewhat fix themselves Now it's my turn, and I have many stories to help me on the way thanks to the people behind this... Thank you a lot
@@martinsmartini44 thanks for asking/wishing well, and to answer that... Not exactly good, but way better Last month was hell, almost ran away from home, planned it throughout all the month for reasons I'd rather not discuss, and it's not ideal on a pandemic, without a job, nor previous work experience, still in college unsure of what would happen with debt/next semesters, and not sure of a place to go or if I'd get hired, I stopped doing a lot of things I liked on October due to planning, it was scary and I cried and hit my head against the walls a lot That group didn't work for me honestly, and I still have a problem with it, but it's by far not as severe College is weird, bc I feel I just find a new way to fuck up each semester I have not been able to properly talk for the most part with my college's psychologist since the pandemic started, at some point we didn't speak for over 2 months But other than that... I found out the main problem with me, and unlike the many times before were I thought I did, I am sure this time, it was the thing connecting all my previous guesses And on that note, I think that like, I have kinda found my philosophy, something that works for me to like, not want to stay asleep all day everyday, something that while not perfect, is enough of an answer to that problem I have gotten an important close friend(real important, real close), gotten a few other good ones, reconnected with a few, and gotten closer to many I have found hobbies, and things I like I didn't think I'd be doing In some hours I'll check with a new psychologist, with which I'll have weekly sessions While things might get rough, I think I have actually at least achieved the right like, pathway to feeling okay more or less It's like a jigsaw puzzle, kind of, now that I know I have all the right pieces, I'm just working on making them fit
@@alx0tl wanted to say you are deffinitely not alone. Even though I know when ur down a mental struggle hearing that really doesnt make much of a difference, atleast for me. Been depressed for a while now. Instead of alcohol in my situation I use weed to cope. Not fun living through life miserable and alot of people dont understand how it feels to be in the mind of someone thats in our situation. Deff a journey to getting better and I hope we both reach where we want to.
“But then he puts his hand on the small of her back exactly the way he used to do to you. It means I’ve got you. And when he did it to you it made you feel safe. And you realise he will never do that to you again. And it breaks your heart again” “Because even though you were the one who asked for this, you are now completely adrift.” Ow fuck you bojack team no need to aim straight for the heart JESUS
i still rewatch this episode over and over because it's so relatable and heartbreaking. diane is such complex and great character i hate how so many people hate on her so much
I can never thank or repay the creators of this show enough. My way of thinking, my perspective on life, and the way I view myself has all been affected. It’s so dumb to think “Oh wow this animated show about an anthropomorphic horse and his life changed MY life!!” but…it did. Bojack Horseman is something so unique and special I doubt it’s magic can ever be recreated. And when I’m going through some shit, I think back on some of the things said in this show. I keep coming back to Diane’s monologue and the scene when the jogger says “It gets easier”, having just went through a really hard breakup things like this help me cope. They help me realize I don’t have to be a ‘Bojack’, I can get through this without harming myself and others. I can hurt and then heal.
This is something i relate to a lot, and something i think could apply to any type of relationship. I've ended a lot of friendships and yet, despite thinking to myself that this is for the best and this is what I want, it's really hard to move on and truly accept the choices I made. I've ended a lot of friendships thinking it would be better in the long run, thinking it's "for the best" and that I'll move on within a few days and then two years later that person still lingers in the back of my mind every now and then.
@@Orangemo It's hated because unlike Bojack, it treats mature topics in an immature and shallow way. It's not a good show, and the way it tackles it's mature themes is irresponsible and potentially harmful.
This was me when I found out he made that playlist for her, in which he included almost every song that was in our shared playlist. Just two weeks before that, I thought that he thought of me when he listened to those songs. But life is not always so simple, you see?
I relate so hard to the particular line "because even though you're the one that asked for this..." cause sometimes it's just hard to accept the new reality even when you explicitly asked for it, knowing it's for your own good.
This reminds me of when I was lost in the city going to my dream college school. I was always late and lost getting there. I was alone and scared but I soon got used to being lost and alone. It was still scary and very traumatic, but I did learn that I am alone because I chose to be alone. I'm alone because I'm scared of being hurt by other people and that ingrained irrational fear that I won't be good enough or be a good friend and that they'll get bored and leave me and how much I just want at least one to stay by my side. ... I'm sick of always being the one left waiting for them and no one is there beside me. I want people, I want friends, but I also have things to do. I really need to work with myself. And thats kind of where I am now. I'm working things out by myself and I feel satisfied with the small changes and cherish them like small victories. I like being alone, it's quiet and calm and peaceful and I want that. But it can get lonely. Still it gets better. After getting lost, I found myself, after shattering I picked myself up and started to rebuild me after failing, well- I'm starting to not care too much about what other people say about me and started to be consciously aware of what I am doing, started taking the steps to getting what I want. Being conscious of what I am, what I am doing instead of being lost and just being swayed by everyone I love or know around me, I'm working with myself in my loneliness and I have decided to start trusting more of myself. Because I am responsible for me. That's what loneliness teaches me.
i ended a 4 year relationship and even though we are trying to be better people without eachother, i still think about him months later and my heart breaks all over again. i think, i have no right to be upset. so why am I so hurt? i literally wanted this and i broke the only person who truly cared about me in the process because i thought it would make me feel better... then i realized it wasn’t the relationship that made me unhappy. it was me. i am why im not happy. i got what i wanted and now im miserable.
I came back to this because this is how I feel so hard rn. I ended a relationship and I felt like everything was going great until I saw her with other people, thriving. It’s really hard, confusing and it hurts. I feel really alone but all I need to do is find love in myself again
I don’t know if anyones going to read this or not, but this clip has unfortunately become relatable to me. I’m used to being alone, I was fine with being alone. Then I found a partner. He just got out of a bad relationship. I was wearing those rose colored glasses and ignored that we were rushing things. We got together and even though it’s not even been a month, I opened myself up for him. I became vulnerable and showed parts that I never open up to with others. Then we both admitted that we don’t know each other that well. He’s not ready. He needs time to heal. And now.. I need time to heal to. My heart hurts so much. I feel like the feelings weren’t real or mutual. He was doubting himself, but wanted to keep me happy. I feel so stupid for letting my heart get broken. I asked for this. I should’ve listened to myself and realized it was all going by too fast. He wants to stay friends, but I need to survive being alone again. I need to be alright with being alone again. I’m so lost right now, but I know that I’ll be fine. All of those songs about heartbreak and other media are finally… relatable to me and it hurts.
This show is fantastic, it makes the unseen feel seen. 2 years out of my 8 year relationship. He was a dick by the end, and I was the one to realise I wanted out. The bad memories rarely come back, but the good ones do frequently.
A few hours ago, my ex, now best friend, who I still secretly love, told me he's going to marry in a year. It crushed me because I remembered this scene and I told him the exact same thing... Except for the peanut butter part 😂
@@beaniepq I tried being best friends with my ex,I tried hard,but it didn´t work.I had to make believe she already died,in order to move on with my life.And I discovered new opportunieties,socially,sexually and professionally.I left the old me behind,this is the new me,get used to it.
As someone who has never been in a romantic relationship, I can honestly say I don't really understand what she's going through. I'm usually very empathetic, but really deep relationship stuff eludes me because I have zero point of reference. I can try to sympathize, but I just don't know what that level of closeness feels like. I don't think I ever will, either. 😞
dude this scene gave me a familiar feeling based on how Diane talked about this, and I realized it was because I remember I used to watch Anna Akana a lot before I started dating with someone again. And it’s been so long since I’ve heard her. Kinda hit me ngl.
