Being Dehydrated at the end of life is GOOD

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It's true! Being dehydrated at the end of life is not a bad thing. It's part of the very normal process that our bodies go through at the end of life.
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@jeffpawlinski3210 3 месяца назад

Julie, as I've mentioned previously, I am a Hospice Liaison here in Milwaukee. I meet with families every day and I counsel them on the hospice benefit including what to expect when on care with my agency. I recommend your RU-vid channel to countless familes monthly because empathy is paramount with me and you are the most empathetic educator I know. I so appreciate you! Thank You (from Milwaukee) for all you do Julie! -Jeff

@hospicenursejulie 3 месяца назад

Wow Jeff!!!!! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!

@judyvance314 3 месяца назад

Mom is in her last couple of days as I type. I'm here with her and will be for the duration. I am so thankful to have found your posts so that I have more understanding of her process. It has been very helpful. ❤

@jenniferhardin5470 3 месяца назад

Sending prayers

@stacinaturenuts9060 3 месяца назад

🫂 sending love & peace to you both.

@robynw6307 3 месяца назад

Bless you.

@Crafty.Goth.Creations 3 месяца назад

Peace and comfort to you and your family. Blessed be.

@KitCat71819 3 месяца назад

Hugs and prayers 🙏💓🙏💓🙏

@willieboy3011 3 месяца назад

My good friend was at the VA. He had the same type of brain cancer as John McCain. I asked the nurse where his IV was. How does he eat? Doesn't even a dying person need water? They blew me away with their explanation, which you just gave. Thanks for this. This goes against our normal routine to help the person until they pass by giving them fluids.

@wendydlugos5729 3 месяца назад

Exactly what happened with my best friend. Glioblastoma stage 4. The natural process happened, it was because our hospice followed what Julie explained. Very peaceful. ❤️‍🩹🙏🏼

@tranquility9325 3 месяца назад

We need water and nutrition bec we will use those in the form of energy. A dying person doesn't need energy.

@justinh2694 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this! My mom passed away at age 50 from Glioblastoma Multiforme (brain cancer for those not familiar I )and towards her end of life she was in hospice care. My mother’s urine bag was full of blackish fluid and I was so mad that they weren’t giving her fluids. I felt they were purposely trying to accelerate her death. To this day I was critical of her care in hospice because of what I witnessed. I must say I profusely apologize. I was uneducated. I had no idea. I just wanted to keep my mom alive as long as I could even though I knew death was near. You never want to lose a parent especially at what many consider a young age for a parents death. I wish I would have asked questions. I think I’m not alone when I say when you’re grieving and not ready to lose a loved one, you don’t want to ask those questions nor will you accept the answers. You hope and pray for that miracle. I’m forever grateful of her treatment by all her medical personnel. Because of her care, my sister became a nurse and she works at a cancer institute. She’s providing great care just like my mother received. Thank you for explaining and all you do to help families and patients cope ❤

@randyking9489 3 месяца назад

Thanks Julie and thanks Justin. My mother has a day or so left according to hospice and I want to give her fluid to keep her from thirsting to death. You are definitely not alone Justin. I felt the same as you until I listened to this video. God Bless

@Simsane 3 месяца назад

I didn't insist on hydration when my husband was actively dying as something told me it would be a bad thing for him but it was REALLY hard to just keep quiet and not insist they hydrate him. Thank you for explaining this as it was hard enough having to sign the DNR (he had been on a ventilator and completely unresponsive so I was the one that had to make the decision) and it took two days after the ventilator and all the various tubes had been removed before he passed in his sleep. I was torn the entire time about not insisting they hydrate him.

@brynny68 3 месяца назад

As a Death Doula, I give this educational content with almost every client that I take on. Thank you for this channel !❤😊

@tonyr.3435 3 месяца назад

May I ask what a Death Doula is?

@b.v.437 3 месяца назад

@@tonyr.3435 what is death doula?

@carolynperry7060 День назад

As a CNA working in hospice, I have recommended your videos to families to watch on their time when their ready. You have such a matter-of-fact way in your delivery, it is incredibly comforting. Thank you for everything you do here.

@audreymackie6204 3 месяца назад

My mother died peacefully on February 22. Your videos were very helpful in helping guide my brothers and I through the process.

@helmadestiandari 3 месяца назад

So sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in eternal peace❤

@premiereventsmn9100 3 месяца назад

My sister-in-law is a hospice nurse, snd she had shared that information when her uncle was dying. When my father was dying, I remembered this and had this placed in his health directive. Upon his being transferred from the ER to his room (he was in a coma by this time) there was an IV wiring for him in the room. I asked the nurse why it was there and he said the hospitalist ordered it. I stated my dad had a health directive that had been placed in his chart months before. He passed peacefully, as I was able to stop the IV

@nyxcin1 3 месяца назад

After watching some of your very helpful, very informative videos, I realize how completely uninformed and unprepared I was when my mom died March 2023. None of this was explained to me. Thanks for posting this information that can help others.

@jmiller3579 3 месяца назад

My husband also just died

@nsgirl5657 3 месяца назад

Dear Julie, I lost my Mom last Sunday. When the nursing home explained that they would give her IV meds for pain and comfort, I didn't understand why they wouldn't give her fluids. Now I understand. Thank you so much. Love from Nova Scotia, Canada.

@Crafty.Goth.Creations 3 месяца назад

Condolences to you and your family. Blessed be.

@robynw6307 3 месяца назад

Working in aged care, I see so many people actively dying, but nothing is ever explained to us about the process. Thank you Julie, for your honest and insightful videos. You have taught me much more than I learn at work.

@tandrahill302 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this one! I didn't understand why the hospital stopped my aunt's fluid after her stroke. At the end she had a very small amount of urine. The more I learn from you the better I feel about her transition.

@lauriewhite5589 3 месяца назад

I was with my Dad as he was actively dying. He had an indwelling catheter and his output was nearly nil. My Dad asked for a Popsicle but his hospice nurse said no because he was in and out of consciousness. His neighbor, who heard the nurse say this had the audacity to go into our freezer and bring one to him. Sure enough after about a minute he began to "choke". I was pissed! The nurse also gave me a small bottle of low dose Morphine and Ativan as he had a brain tumor and was prone to absence seizures. He had been taking Kepra, but couldn't swallow them. That same neighbor ran out of our house, went to our nextdoor neighbor and started yelling now they're giving him morphine so he can't talk. I am a nurse and knew the reasoning for it. I tried to explain this to her, but she refused to listen.

@vintagebeliever5023 3 месяца назад

Yes.. my dad was at the point that any liquid made him choke. Broke my heart as it seemed like he was asking for liquids because he raised his hand to his mouth. 😪

@Thecrazyraven. 3 месяца назад

That neighbor if they were so worried should have asked questions privately if they didn’t understand the “why” things were being done or minded their own business . The last thing the family needs is someone stirring the pot and causing more stress. ❤

@cavgrey8 3 месяца назад

Unfortunately that’s when you become the gatekeeper and no longer allow the individual access to the patient.

@phaedruscj3330 3 месяца назад

Your neighbor has no business being around your dying relative.

@vintagebeliever5023 3 месяца назад

@@phaedruscj3330 my thoughts exactly unless they were really close and the patient wanted them around.

@lotharsoran3604 3 месяца назад

I think it is down to families not wanting to give up, or "let them down." Same for the patients, quite likely. It seems natural to want to give someone what you've known all your life are good and essential things for survival... Water and food. People want to help, because they love them, and they're hard wired to do so, so especially in their distress and grief, they want to keep fighting. To keep helping the way they normally would. Fascinating. This whole video has sparked off a new way of looking at things for me. It's very important work you do with these. It makes total sense to me that someone who's body is shutting down, just does not need what a healthy person would. I wouldn't have really thought of it otherwise. Of course the vascular system would be degrading... It sounds so simple and logical when it is presented like this. It must be difficult to attempt to have families understand that point. They have to shift their mindset from "fighting to help get better" to "Ok. We're heading towards the end of the line. This is real and really happening." I bet they fight it like mad, doesn't help that everyone is probably distressed and already pre-grieving. Logical thinking is understandably probably not the first direction people's minds go in that situation.

@colourrs 2 месяца назад

I wish I knew this in 2022 when my dad passed. The doctor stopped all his fluids and I was so upset, cause it was more of a definite that it was the end & there was no more trying to be had. She didn’t explain to me that it was helping him & that would’ve made all of it less traumatic. I don’t know why but doctors don’t say any of these things to families when it’s literally what they study a million years for this information to help people. Thanks for doing this on RU-vid, knowledge is power & brings peace from understanding.

@BR-kk9qu 3 месяца назад

You are great at explaining these issues! Thank you!

@Kumachanchan 3 месяца назад

Julie, thank you so much for your blessed work. I just lost my mom and you showed us exactly what was going on during her hospice care. I am so lucky to have found you. This is your calling. God bless you ❤

@ayumisiinn 3 месяца назад

I'm glad that I found this channel. Today is march 2nd, and my beautiful grandma is starting to actively die from dementia. Now I can see the signs and be prepared to navigate this difficult time and be able to provide the care she needs until the end with my family. From the bottom of my heart, thank you very much! ❤

@Crafty.Goth.Creations 3 месяца назад

Peace and comfort to you and your family. Blessed be.

@Outsider4JC 3 месяца назад

Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior. My father just passed, and wasnt able to pass this on to him in time. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. So no one is good enough to get to heaven due to the law of the 10 commandments. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, and putting your faith in Jesus. Bible says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven, that is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if we call upon him, and accept Him into our Heart, we can have eternal life. We must be Born Again to enter the kingdom of God. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort when your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. you can then have that eternal peace and assurance before you die. All you you need to do is simply, humble your heart and pray with faith, I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Father to forgive me of all my sins, and ask You to fill me with the Holy Spirit, and take control of my life. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, and research for yourself. Once its over, there is no turning back. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. So many people think that being a good person gets you there, and its simply not true, so please don't ignore. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. Be blessed.

@lindableau8333 4 дня назад

Thank you for your posts. I found your channel after my mother-in-law passed and subscribed immediately. Your knowledge and experience should be available to anyone facing death, or a family member of a loved one facing death. Your honesty is welcoming and your continued support is greatly appreciated. YOU are greatly appreciated.

@lorengraymoments4293 3 месяца назад

My mom died yesterday i too was so worried because she was dehydrated and lips were so dry but she seemed oeaceful

@joannaburn9514 3 месяца назад

Pink is a lovely colour on you Julie. Brightened my day in snowy south west England.

@gailrodgers3079 3 месяца назад

My mother has been in hospice care since October. Because I have health problems myself I can't visit her,but I keep hearing how she will go days without eating, sleep sevrral days in a row, and maybe havin one alert day out of 3-4. My stepdad can't uderstand how she is hanging on with so little going into her. I was an RN buy never worked hospice care and this gives me something to talk to him about.

@meghancronin9156 3 месяца назад

This is a great explanation ❤ thanks Julie ❤

@antonia8231 3 месяца назад

My beautiful amazing mum is at end of life, she has necrotising fasciitis. It’s a cruel, protracted way to die, but she strong. I’m struggling to keep her mouth and lips comfortable. Thank you for making these videos. I’m in the uk so some things are slightly different but I’m so glad I found you xx

@margaretjohnson6259 3 месяца назад

ah. thank you. i did wonder why my mother and husband didn't have IVs, but i trusted the medical staff to know what was right.

@claudiahill2138 3 месяца назад

Thank you for explaining this. It has bothered me for so long this happened in hospice to my grandmother and I thought it was cruel, now I understand it was a mercy.

@clarencejacksonjr. 3 месяца назад

Our bodies are amazing!

@desertrose3663 3 месяца назад

Aren't they though!

@lalaland2107 3 месяца назад

Thanks for the interesting information!!! Your hair looks so beautiful, by the way! ❤😊

@angelabordack 3 месяца назад

Thank you Julie. I’m so at peace with death after watching (I only found you about 2 weeks ago, cram info sessions) all of your videos ❤

@Outsider4JC 3 месяца назад

@vanessas.2.075 3 месяца назад

My beautiful mother passed away 102 days ago. I wish I found your channel when I was going through the process with her. When we finally had her move to hospice care, she arrived only to live another 34 minutes. I was told she would travel with all her connections but I found out that they removed everything. I mention this because 3 medical professionals assured me that she would have everything intact when traveling. My heart knew she would expire the moment everything was pulled out. Thank God I made the decision to not pick up my Dad and meet her at the hospice care hospital. I was there to watch her leave her body. In my minds eye I saw her ascend and smile at me. Today of all days, I have been mourning her so deeply. I just hope she doesn't forget me in spirit. I miss you so much, mom.

@americaurbano9794 3 месяца назад

When I came across this channel I understood so many things about the night my grandpa died. Had these videos existed 10 years ago, I wouldn't have got as many shivers, and probably would have comforted my relatives and accept that he was just... dying a normal death.

@tranquility9325 3 месяца назад

Tell em Julie! If ppls families refuse to listen, they need to be sure that their wishes are documented with the staff so that their wishes are not violated when they need to be honored. Some ppl are bull headed, so they need to be handled the legal route.

@nikitee7876 3 месяца назад

Thanks so much for reiterating this. My aunt was a nurse and as my grandfather got rushed to palliative care (when he'd expressed he was in so much pain and ready for "the needle" - so obviously ready to go) she kept insisting on IV fluids and I had to sign my enduring guardian papers to stop her!!!! She's a nurse!! She should know better.. or maybe she wanted him to suffer.. who know

@dianamariecentro4664 Месяц назад

You have helped me a couple weeks ago when my beautiful brother was dying and now my mother is dying and about to approach the active stage. Thank you so much ❤

@Condesamontes 3 месяца назад

My wonderful father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s after multiple strokes. Six weeks ago, his kidneys began to shut down. He’s spent the past four weeks in a hospital bed and on hospice care. I started watching your videos two weeks ago when he began experiencing what I thought were end of life symptoms, I thank you so much! He passed this morning at 10:11am and went to his heavenly home. God bless you for normalizing death and reassuring families everywhere. 🩷

@Crafty.Goth.Creations 3 месяца назад

Condolences to you and your family. Blessed be.

@rosesartz8008 3 месяца назад

I enjoy watching your channel which helps me learn about hospice and dying process. As a home health professional, I’m feel more confident about referring palliative and hospice care bc education on this channel.

@RLP7786 Месяц назад

Dehydration can be intensely painful. Cramps and shooting pains, anxiety and air hunger. Can also cause potentially fatal arrythmias. Hospice starts Benzos and Opiates at onset of pain. The medications get concentrated in dehydrated patients due to hypovolemia. This usually sedates them and they slip away in their sleep.

@julianne_lee_create 3 месяца назад

My grandma’s time to pass is coming closer and closer and I’m so grateful I came across your content. I’ve been my grandmas primary caretaker and these last few months have been beyond emotional. Your videos provide me clarity and great comfort and I appreciate every bit. Thank you so very much 💗🙏🏼

@primevalseeker3952 3 месяца назад

My mother was put on no water at the end of her illness but she lived for another 7 days which was not what was predicted. it was awful.

@user-js8kq9zh5r 3 месяца назад

More excellent and important information to share with patients and families. Thank you so much.

@edrabogucki401 3 месяца назад

I never knew any of this; my sister was on hospice care for several months, resisting things from time to time such as baths; insisted on monitoring her medications herself and might decide that since she hadn’t taken x two days ago she would take it now as well as the current dose. I was able to talk her out of it once, don’t know if she remembered at other times. Didn’t want anyone to stay with her, began eating & drinking less; I’d ask if she wanted anything but I didn’t argue with her. She died at home alone, having gotten up to go to the bathroom and was found on the bathroom floor already in full rigor. I had the information available to me for months, just never really connected it to her situation. Thank you for what you do!

@rayclark474 2 месяца назад

When my step dad was in his final days his kids accused my mom of starving him to death. It took the hospice nurse telling them that was not the case. Of course, they were never around to help my mom.

@jackieburlingame9847 3 месяца назад

My dad passed away two weeks ago, and was on hospice only five days after three head injuries and brain bleeds. He had an IV for morphine, and when I questioned the nurse about keeping him dehydrated, she said they had to give saline with the morphine, but insisted it was the slowest drip ever. We didn’t see any swelling at all, but I was worried about an IV at all. Thoughts? Thank you so much for educating us, Julie! ❤️

@Crafty.Goth.Creations 3 месяца назад

Condolences to you and your family. Blessed be.

@orscrub3161 3 месяца назад

You are spot on. ❤

@sfincher9737 3 месяца назад

I wish to God someone like you would have been there for my dad. We needed someone who could help his last days not be the torture they were. He was in the hospital and it was just me there for him, and I had no clue what to do and was exhausted, being there 24x7 with little to no sleep. The hospital was useless; horrible. It felt like I was watching him slowly drown, and he was. Medical “care” today is so uncaring.

@karendavidson6272 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for this important information. ❤

@WingedFerret 3 месяца назад

Thank you so much for all this information.🙏🏽

@nagyboti 3 месяца назад

thank you for all your work

@susanne4028 3 месяца назад

Excellent channel. Thank you so much for all your work. ❤

@kimberlylamitie2869 3 месяца назад

Good advice. Thank you for sharing.

@tawandataylor7271 3 месяца назад

I am learning a lot,, Thank You

@gregjo5141 3 месяца назад

This is very good information. Thank you

@jenniferhardin5470 3 месяца назад

Just ordered your book

@stevejarrettnc 3 месяца назад

I love you for what you do, Julie. People often post on the Quora app about things that happened while their family member was dying in hospice. Both the writer and the people answering can be so alarmingly idiotic with some of their comments, like they use Morphine to make them stop breathing to, they cut off their IV bags so they will pass sooner. I will frequently post an appropriate video that you’ve done - and that certainly seems to help. Keep doing what you’re doing. ❤

@zafiradaima 3 месяца назад

Thanks for explaining this, I really wondered if IV fluids would have made my Dad more comfortable. The 3 times he went to the ER, before he went on hospice care, IV fluids really turned him around. But the last few days of life he had no interest in drinking anything, especially after he was administered morphine for pain.

@debfox 3 месяца назад

I wish I had known. 😭 I begged them to give my grandma an IV.

@robertacarroll8481 Месяц назад

I love love love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@e.walker3142 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this vid. Quick question, is third spacing similar to what happens when someone has congestive heart failure that isn't controlled?

@auntv7727 3 месяца назад

Following

@nicks8721 Месяц назад

My dads last words were "dying of thirst". Doctors repeatedly refused requests for food and water. Brushed it off and laughed like he was making a joke when he asked for something to drink. Felt like a human slaughter house.

@alysonknop8395 3 месяца назад

I wish so much I had had your videos when my mom was dying, in hospice, of pancreatic cancer. Her hospice team was wonderful, but because of our rural location and how things were set up, her care day to day was largely me (no medical training) and a small town nursing home staff. We would see how dry her lips were and her mouth was and she would sometimes want a sip to drink but I think I and definitely the staff tried to get her to drink more than she needed. I felt like the dehydration and starvation that I've been going on over several weeks because she had absolutely no appetite must have been the cruelest form of suffering, and I don't know about the starvation part, but it sounds like maybe it would have been better for us not to encourage fluid intake.

@tonyr.3435 3 месяца назад

3/2/24. I turned 62 y/o last November, maybe this isnt the right place but i want to say it anyway. It started last summer when i realized i could actually retire with last years Birthday though i had no plans to, but i think it was that reality that has put me where i am today. Realizing that i am old now and into a fairly deep depression. I've kind of collapsed in on myself

@7Zsta 3 месяца назад

Don't give up. Take care. God bless you!

@ttown55 3 месяца назад

Hi Julie. My dad is 90 and gets dehydrated often. I started having a service give him a bag of saline approximately every 3 to 4 months. His recovery is amazing. I recently heard about ORS. I read that ORS is a better alternative to Gatorade and cheaper. Can ORS also replace the every 3 months saline injections as well? Can you explain ORS and benefits and/or dangers?

@karenzilverberg4699 Месяц назад

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@kathycuster1714 3 месяца назад

I believe dehydration cause the nerves to "dry up" and therefore cannot feel pain as much. Just my thought. I told my daughter no fluids or anything else. My mother says the same thing!

@alisonbrowning9620 3 месяца назад

the best you can do for a person who is dying is to wet their mouth and keep the mouth clean with swabs, that is how we cared for my dad and mum's mum, mum's sister.

@lyndamclean6786 3 месяца назад

I don’t comment love this helpful

@GageRandoms 3 месяца назад

Does this only happen when in the “actively dying” stage?

@leaveittothediva 3 месяца назад

Can elderly people get visioning a long time before they die?.

@phaedruscj3330 3 месяца назад

Since when does Hospice do IVs for anything?

@rosiebrown4898 3 месяца назад

It’s totally ridiculous to say this. I have seen people gasping and dehydrated because they were at end of life and were suffering because they had no fluids and no oral hydration, this is my opinion.