Best 3 Tips on Worry, Anxiety and Turning Down the Stress Response - Anxiety Workshop w Nick Wignall

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Let's talk about anxiety- Nick Wignall, psychologist and writer, super great cognitive therapist and friend shares his top three tips on how to decrease anxiety, and - no surprise here - it has to do with how we worry, setting boundaries on your worrying, and accepting worry thoughts.
I share my favorite tips on how to use the mind-body connection to decrease stress, accept your feelings, and process through them.
0:00 introduction
1:39 Learn the difference between stress, anxiety and worry the mind body aspect of anxiety
9:36 Learn the difference between a worry and worrying
13:54 Stop resisting or avoiding anxiety
18:01 Understanding how small forms of avoidance contribute to anxiety
20:09 Schedule your worry, set boundaries on it
24:46 Take physical action to create safety, set boundaries, take action
30:26 Do mindfulness the right way, as a training exercise not a coping skill for anxiety
36:04 "I have the worst anxiety in the mornings. Is there a clue there that could help me feel better?"
38:08 "How do we manage the physical side of anxiety, especially if we experience it more strongly than the mental aspects."
41:31 in the age of self-care, how much acceptance do we need for a condition and where can we expect effort from the affected person?
44:24 I wake up feeling anxious. , would it be best to do scheduled worry time when I'm calm later in the day or in the morning when worries are popping into my head?
45:30 would the bottom-up approaches of physical relaxation techniques qualify as coping techniques for anxiety?
47:33 is there something else that's better to do in the moment to address the anxiety burst outside of the longer term techniques discussed today?
51:53 The connection between chronic pain and anxiety and worry about coping
55:14 if excitement and anxiety look the same, why does anxiety cause health related issues
55:59 I have anxiety whenever I try to talk to my past, whenever I try to talk about my past trauma with my psychologist
1:01:47 what if I feel too anxious to actually address the issue? Like, I'm too overwhelmed and I'm unable to make decisions
01:03:19 where can I find a resource for willingness?
01:05:48 does the EMDR work with just a single event or does it work well with long sustained, painful events?
01:07:30 blushing when speaking in public
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@thinasam1038 4 месяца назад

When I'm at peace, my mind would ask me,why are you relaxed? You are supposed to worry about something, then it starts creating scenarios of what might be wrong or go wrong.. that's pain!! i pray 🛐 for healing to everyone

@AlexrYoung 2 месяца назад

This is so true, is there an episode that talks about this concept? I get the same feeling, it'd be nice to learn how to address this feeling. If I'm not worrying I feel like I'm neglecting my safety, but I know that's absurd

@joejose2022 2 месяца назад

You should be able to use the methods they are talking about (which I believe they are talking about Meta Cognitive Therapy). You can not control that original thought, but you can control if you get entangled in a spiraling thought process. The reason you are so concerned about starting to worry about something is because until now, whenever that happens, it drags you into a worrying session. I would recommend looking into MCT to see if it helps.

@shaynagonzales7692 Месяц назад

I don’t mean to be dramatic, your videos saved my life. I have never been suicidal and I’ve been through a lot of things. An abusive marriage, 4 years in prison, etc, and through all that I’ve never been suicidal. In my most recent relationship I’ve somehow got to the point of contemplating self harm at least 3 times. I was there, I was about ready to take action, I came across your videos and you brought me back to reality. I cannot thank you deeply enough. You saved my life.

@TacTar 11 месяцев назад

My way of reducing anxiety is to look around me. Make eye contact with what I'm anxious or fearful about. When I avoid or look down, i dont give my brain the data it needs to realize that no one is as fearful or judgmental as the thoughts make it out to be. When I look around, I actually see that other people don't even care or aren't even looking at me. When I look around, the scary monster isn't so scary for me

@foxc8646 10 месяцев назад

That’s pretty good

@Universdiscovry 9 месяцев назад

@jimboiy454 4 месяца назад

This is by far the most effective that I use. Well said.

@zuzannakonieczna9872 3 месяца назад

This is great advice! Thanks. 🧡 I mat try to look more into my therapists eyes now. 😅

@Valiant_Honey 4 дня назад

I called in for a sick day to my boss and informed him I was experiencing a severe panic attack (severe shaking that can spiral into a seizure, hyperventilating, speech issues, temporary impairment to drive) (I am diagnosed with CPTSD) and he proceeded to yell at me, fired me and literally called my "unreliable". THAT is a reality scenario MOST people are worried about experiencing. I have learned now how to disrupt panic attacks. Videos like this have made more of a positive, truly effective, impact on my life than wasting money at any therapist or messing up my body with any psych meds. Those people just care about money rather than helping people. I feel safer watching helpful videos like this rather than risking my life from a "licensed therapist" that has the legal power to kidnap you against your will and make more money off you through insurance claims by forcing you for long periods in a mental health facility/psych ward and forcing meds on you that may or may not work, or do permanent damage to your brain and nervous system. The true test of anxiety is letting go of the fear of death.

@TheMariza75 11 месяцев назад

This video has literally decreased the anxiety. I’m going to rewatch it to let it sink in some more ❤😊 thanks 🙏🏽

@alyross2850 10 месяцев назад

I am an anxiety avoider. Almost every real problem I have ever had has been caused by my avoidance. Can’t open a certain piece of mail, even though I KNOW it’s time sensitive and for sure, whatever consequence will be worsened by my delay. Or maybe it won’t actually be worsened, but I will convince myself of that in a few days so I can become even more fearful. So not only do I continue to worry about it, but I worsen the actual problem itself, sometimes. It’s a terrible place to be where you know you are hurting yourself but you still keep doing it. I’ll say “it’s Friday. I don’t want to ruin my weekend by looking at that paper. I’ll wait until Monday”. Then Monday comes and I think, well the house will be empty tomorrow so if I get really upset, nobody will be home, so tomorrow is better. Tomorrow comes and I think well, why shouldn’t I enjoy my day off? I absolutely hate that I willingly do this to myself. It’s self inflicted abuse, really.

@imlistening2 10 месяцев назад

@alyross2850 I feel such compassion for what you're experiencing as well as many others here are. I think my brother suffers from similar issues as you've described. Recently I heard Mel Robbins talk about her anxiety in a training and she talked about a "5-second rule" that kind of came to her in a desperate attempt to move forward in a very extra-depressing time in her life. She said that little rule changed her life and she moved out of her depression and eventually stopped having panic attacks and became incredibly productive in her life in a way she had never been able to be before. I have found her simple rule can launch me forward as well, and it kind of builds this momentum so I can keep moving forward productively when I'm faithful about using it (which I admit that I lapse and realize I need to start up again). I have no idea if that would help you or others, but she's got lots of videos here on RU-vid where she talks about the rule and about her life before/after. I realized that I burn so much energy with the mental/emotional avoidance and guilt of putting things off and off and off, that it was sort of liberating to try this silly little rule. It helps quickly bypass all those excuses why you can't do something before they start filling your head. I use it to launch out of bed every morning (which was how she first used it). The rule is basically this: you have a thought that you need to do something-like open your mail-and you immediately count off like a rocket launch sequence "5-4-3-2-1. Go!" You just do the thing you don't want to do. No excuses. I heard one guy say he counts 5-4-3 because those extra two seconds start his brain with excuses if he allows 5 seconds. You might try it! Sounds ridiculous, but it really was super helpful.

@margo5919 8 месяцев назад

@@imlistening2Love Mel and almost forgot her 5 second rule, going to keep it handy in the toolbox, thanks for sharing!

@jacquelyncranston9069 7 месяцев назад

You described exactly one of the things that I do. And mental breakdowns almost every day. Started about a year ago. The health care provider I’ve been seeing is no help. Put me on medicine told me if I thought it was making me worse to quit medicine 😳Left me with no idea what to do. And my procrastination with these breakdowns together I can’t make decisions. It’s like my brain stops working ☹️

@susheelindulkar 8 месяцев назад

What I have been understanding more and more about my anxiety (social anxiety in particular) is that becoming more and more self-aware in general and particularly so while being in the grip of anxiety and understanding the whole thing more and more deeply and clearly is what makes the real difference. Call it mindfulness, acceptance, or whatever. The basis is - not fighting it, not avoiding it but simply relaxing in it, going through it, accepting it, and understanding it. And add to it the understanding that it is there for the only reason of making us more self-aware. That helps change the perception towards it. Life is all about understanding ourselves. And anxiety is nothing but a part of us. So understanding anxiety is part of understanding ourselves.

@melissaholly347 11 месяцев назад

WHY IS THIS NOT GOING VIRALLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOUUUUUUUUU

@ssanssan1 5 месяцев назад

Scheduled worry made an immediate impact and reduced the anxiety significantly! I noticed the difference with 1 week! Thank you so much!

@alicedowntherabbithole4226 11 месяцев назад

Emma, I found you a year ago when my anxiety stoped me from eating any food that causes anxiety... Like one day I woke up and poof eating disorder! Ever time I eat I feal like I can't breath... The doctors say it's mental... My therapist says it's physical I get no answer and feal like I'm going crazy. You are a tiny light in my darkness to help handle what's going on thank you so much!!!

@cherb3145 10 месяцев назад

Or try magnesium citrate if you have acid reflux. It really helped me when I had anxiety from eating because of acid reflux (it was hard for me to breathe and I felt like my throat was closing up on me because of the reflux) You could also try some magnesium glycinate to help with the breathing and relaxing. Also watch what you are eating. You might be having sensitivity to certain foods. Mine was yogurt, cheese, artificial flavors and colorings. So I stuck to natural foods I cooked and avoided canned and boxed foods.

@KW-fb3pd 10 месяцев назад

@alicedowntherabbithole I just wanted to say you're not alone - I'm going through the same and it's so hard! I have to believe we will get through it in time, it's just our brains misinterpreting food as danger when we're on high alert. Hope you're doing OK. X

@alicedowntherabbithole4226 10 месяцев назад

@@KW-fb3pd I'm doing ok slowly recovering but sometimes it's like I never even started... Three step forward one back. How do you handle the hard times?

@snowredsnow666 10 месяцев назад

I'd love a video on chronic anxiety after a massive nervous breakdown and ways to recover. Had a massive and my first panic attack + nervous breakdown. I was frozen for a full week could barely talk, only conciois breathing all day everyday and just sit in my garden. Now 1,5 month further and have so much anxiety (i never had before) going to inside spaces (the mall, supermarket, gym, or having to talk to people). I cant work, also suffer from CPTSD, depression and now also anxiety. Cant do anything anymore or feel joy when doing hobbys. I am doing exposure (daily) but for some reason the anxiety goes up and down and still havent managed to feel truly safe (in supermarket, gym etc)

@ktcee803 9 месяцев назад

What you've described happened to me about 3 years ago. It was horrific. I had a breakdown. Alot of things happened to me at once over a period of time and my body had had enough. Resulting in a pinnacle type event - a panic attack. I thought I was dying and was taken to ER by ambulance. All I remember was not wanting to die! Loads of tests. I was ok. But then had to recover from the breakdown. Drs tried me in antidepressants. They didn't help me. I had a lovely helpful doctor who told me that our brain is like another organ, if when hurt, requires healing. Time to heal. And it's important to give ourselves time. How long that'll be, no one can say. For me it's been 3 years and 3 months. I feel I'm making headway and I do alot of research. Heaps. Learning about how the body works. It takes the unknown away, which sort of helps anxiety to dissipate. It hasn't gone away completely but it's alot better and I'm so thankful for Therapy in a nutshell and Dr Claire Weekes (RIP) two beautiful calm people who totally get it. Just know you are not an anxious person. That's a label which only perpetuates anxiety. Rather, you have anxious times. Research brain neuroplasticity. It's very interesting and the above vid is what it's all about. The Vegus Nerve, things we can do to sooth our body. Emma is so calming and helpful. She had so many vids which are helpful. Just know, it's a journey. Healing takes time. You are not broken. You are hurt and need time to heal. You can heal.

@Elestucheperdido Месяц назад

I had this happen to me in 2021, I had a full blown anxiety panic attack in Mexico City, even went to the hospital and when I came back I had panic and anxiety every day for 3 weeks. I couldn’t go to the gym, restaurants and or drive. I was scared of my own breathing and even falling asleep. The only thing that HELPED Me was meditation. When I would get anxiety I had to sit down and listen to it, mentally go into the part of my body where I feel the anxiety coming from physically. Stop thinking because I couldn’t cure anxiety with words. I was already thinking a milling things and adding more words wouldn’t work for me. Neither was the breathing thing. I needed to sit and dive into my anxiety and it would slowly go away. I would close my eyes, and visualize going inside my anxiety and thinking oh wow this is okay. I’m okay, and it would go away.

@Elestucheperdido Месяц назад

Try yin yoga. It’s meditative and helps keep you calm and still.

@ann-uc2zx 8 дней назад

Thank you for your video. I did the exercise regarding writing everything down that I am anxious about. I finally called the Dr. for my knee that I was so worried about. I am so afraid they are going to tell me I will need a new knee and I will never have that much money to get one. I tried to get workman's comp to help but they were useless. I did not go soon enough because I was not in pain right away. So now I am having to figure this out on my own. It has caused me so much worry and anxiety. Thank you Emma.

@straykittsco.950 26 дней назад

I have GAD and OCD so my intrusive thinking is so extreme sometimes I have intrusive thoughts that interrupt intrusive thoughts already going on in my head and I'll say a lot of your strategies work for me. It takes practice and it can take years to actually manage your anxiety, worry, and stress this way but it works. You just have to trust the process and definitely write it down. Writing things down makes a world of a difference. This won't work without writing it down because thoughts and feelings are always just in passing and fading so you won't be able to implement these healthy managing skills if you don't write it down.

@dm-ko6988 11 месяцев назад

God bless you, Emma. Your videos are highly educational and very helpful. We are so lucky to live in a time where we can get invaluable advice from professionals!

@wendydiaz8988 5 месяцев назад

This was so good! It’s necessary to teach on this granular level so we can UNDERSTAND anxiety. We damask the boogie monster.

@bossiness17 5 месяцев назад

This video makes me cry like a baby... it "set free" my morning anxiety TOTALLY just focus on the anxiety-advice in this video. SImply mind blowing for me.

@maryaumar 2 месяца назад

A talk that is held within and through a calm nervous system from both safe space holders. I truly appreciate the energy, knowledge, insights and flow of attunement that is outpoured here. So much healing in one talk. Thank you from my heart!

@jewelie1981 11 месяцев назад

I really like these ideas and plan to implement a couple. But I did want to add my two cents to one thing I disagree with vehemently. The idea that anxiety and excitement feel the same and have similar responses in the body is absolutely not true for me. When I’m excited I get “bouncy” and my whole system is up for fun. When I feel anxiety I’m completely tense and tight and my gut goes into full-on fight or flight and I get sick. Depending on the level of anxiety determines how long I’m sick for but my stomach goes into flight mode and it’s so horrible to be sick like that. I’ve had months where it’s every single day, and I’ve had times where it’s only when the anxiety goes way up, but either way my body doesn’t do that AT ALL when I’m excited. And since the top trigger for IBS attacks is stress, that’s a ginormous way that the feelings and body reactions are stark opposites from anxiety to excitement. Just needed to point that out.

@idt1 11 месяцев назад

I'm sorry you have to go through that. You're strong, I wish for the pain to lessen but I'm sure you can overcome whatever's on your path and become the person you want to be ❤ I thought of when I was little, and trips would make me a little nervous and a little excited. They both felt very similar: I had butterflies in my stomach, higher heart rate and just wouldn't breathe slowly. And I think if there's little excitement and little nervousness the comparison kind of works. But when it becomes a severe or chronic state, it just puts strain on the body and isn't fun anymore. I think it works both for excitement and nervousness; I think if I was excited for hours, days, months straight I'd feel sick too, wouldn't be able to eat and sleep and think properly. So, I agree, it wasn't specified well, you're right. And I'm also pleasantly happy to see how you did your research and, thus, shared some proper knowledge.. cheers for that!

@maddievic2 10 месяцев назад

This is truly the absolute best video I’ve ever seen on anxiety - on a mental AND physiological level. Includes all the tips I’ve heard on the internet and even from my therapists. Thank you for sharing this with me and others ❤

@lisabrenner3702 11 месяцев назад

I’ve been using the “designated worry time” technique for the past few days based on the recommendations in your video, and so far, so good! At the end of my ten minutes, I’ve been adding three things I’m grateful for…

@lifefindsaway7875 10 месяцев назад

The gratitude practice is brilliant! I know that it’s beneficial already, but adding it to the end of your worry time probably helps you transition out of worry mode.

@michaelocallaghan3385 9 месяцев назад

I find conversations like this very insightful. It's amazing the kind of information available now that even 10 years ago would have been inaccessible. Thank you for the content

@makaylahart1129 7 месяцев назад

How do I work through constant severe anxiety without using these coping skills and function throughout my day? My anxiety literally shuts me down: don’t eat, emotional, couch potato, calling off work, etc.

@rachelansell2707 11 месяцев назад

This was incredible to watch, thank you so much!!! Emma your videos have helped me more than almost any other mental health professional (and I've seen quite a few at this point) with my panic & anxiety disorders, and even when I'm sliding backwards you put out this STELLAR content that makes me feel like I can keep going and will get through this. Thank you thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart!

@MusicLover-ui9sm 11 месяцев назад

I didn’t have anxiety until My estrogen started declining I have went to many doctors They either don’t prescribe, or even have knowledge of how to treat women going through menopause I have suffered for over 10 years and they say the window is closed on me getting estrogen to help with sleep and severe anxiety and all the other symptoms I’m going through The anxiety has gotten really really bad as each year passes, and my Estrogen is down to almost nothing now

@jillwklausen 11 месяцев назад

I just want to acknowledge you with compassion. I'm years post menopausal and opted against estrogen supplementation due to a history of breast cancer in my family, and my anxiety is caused by my thyroid. It's been getting worse lately as well, so I feel you in my heart. Wishing you all the best.

@ItsMe-gw4kb 11 месяцев назад

If any people do read my post but decide it's too long to finish reading ~ summary is this. My recommendations do not override licensed professionals advice. Alternatives exist to medical solutions. Doctors are not able to fix everything. Possible alternatives include decaf calming tea and decaf sleepy time tea. Contain chamomile and mint, plus other plant extracts. Bookend: Consult licensed professionals before adopting any of my suggestions. My suggestions cannot override a licensed professional's advice. Nor are they intended to. I may be able to offer a suggestion, not a medical solution. There are natural remedies for improving sleeping and reducing anxiety. However, I can't emphasize this enough. I'm not a primary care physician, assistant, or nurse. My recommendation will not override the advice of the above personnel for anyone who reads this and has those personnel available. In fact it doesn't qualify as a solution, unless recommended by someone's individual care provider. It is this: Decaf Calming tea with chamomile, honey, and some other plant which aids in relaxing. I add extra honey...that is a matter of personal choice. There is also a Decaf Sleepytime tea with mint, and a couple other natural plant extracts for improving sleep. There may even be a tea or vitamin-based remedy for the estrogen issue. Still needs to be discussed with a licensed caregiver...which may include a member of a medical team. Or it may not. There are alternatives to only medical solutions. Research and advice from a licensed individual is the key. Doctors still are not capable of fixing every issue.

@ktcee803 9 месяцев назад

I have the same. And I've just found my hrt patches haven't been giving me estrogen! My levels have tanked. I have huge anxiety. And my hormone dr had left the office, so I feel like I've got to start again. But, it's worth the fight to get hrt. I encourage you to seek out a hormone dr who is an integrative dr. It's important to get estrogen at any age. For protecting your bones, heart and brain. Don't give up. It's vitally important for YOU. Don't worry about anyone else, just you.

@rodrigolucas3378 6 месяцев назад

This video is pure gold for someone like me who suffers from constant panic attacks

@sugardaddy9992001 Месяц назад

You are not alone as I suffer from severe anxiousness. Its just age talking back at us. I encourage you to keep on going but make a small change per month to keep your brain strong so to speak.

@FlowertheSpaceAlien 2 месяца назад

Scheduled worrying feels like it saved me. I was really struggling with a particular disappointment... one I had zero power to fix... and it was intruding on every second of my time. I couldn't get solid, restorative sleep. It was a problem. Then I heard one of Emma's videos where she said to schedule time for the worry and give yourself permission to feel the fear, disappointment and hurt just in those moments. It WAS transformative!! Now I've got to add the writing part and I'm gonna rock this so awesome. Thanks for this presentation. It's crazy helpful🎉😊

@jessicaf798 11 месяцев назад

I’m currently experiencing postpartum anxiety and wake up extremely anxious and lots of intrusive thoughts. It’s hard to face when it deals with fears on your child but I am going to try and accept it and not just cope. Thank you for this. I am going to try and apply more long term solutions.

@ktcee803 9 месяцев назад

Postpartum anxiety is generally hormone related. It's important to address this.i went through it. I needed to get the hormones corrected. You might be different. But get it checked. It's been a couple of months since your comment and I'm hoping you are doing ok.

@candaceheidenrich6278 3 месяца назад

Making one good decision was my manta and helped relieve acute anxiety years ago…. build a life rather than ruminate about it…. and remember decisions don’t have to be perfect. Anxiety can be very immobilizing but decisions get you moving…(ties in with points about sustainability…..). Changing your external reality can change your internal world.

@nccrchurchunusual7990 9 месяцев назад

Thank you both. The most read, most wise book says: Come to Me all who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. (words of Jesus Christ Matt11:28

@pinoniks 2 месяца назад

OMG this is true, I worry about 1 thing for months🤯😵‍💫

@BrettLeMans 5 месяцев назад

To everyone: Me too, I hear you. Sometimes all we can do is reach out to family and friends and talk about it. Sometimes it helps me to share my fears, pain and anxiety with them. They help me look at it through their eyes...it helps a bit. Only positive actions will help. Compound on the positive. Again and again and again. Good luck.

@IanMcEwan-in3yx 4 месяца назад

I Used to have Stress No I am not scared now but I love your videos please put more

@sarahfinch3045 7 месяцев назад

Thank you Emma, I've been pulling out the hair on my scalp since I was 11. It's 100% a way to feel relief when feeling tense. As well 100% feels like a form of grooming. It's caused me emense shame in myself, and thr shame has caused me to hold myself back in so many ways. I appreciate you bringing awareness to healing and therapy ❤️

@Rayowag Месяц назад

I do think exposure to anxiety and accepting it's there is the right way, BUT(!) a ton of people with anxiety have underlying issues like trauma or a health issue that should be checked out first and worked on for the exposure to help. I personally still get anxious when highly stressed, but no amount of exposure got fully rid of my more permanent anxiety back in the day until I did a session of hypnotherapy that went back to the root cause of a lot of my worries. Since then my very occasional panic attacks have been way more survivable because my logic side stays mostly on while they happen. And I keep finding it sad how it's pointed out how most mental issues come from high stress while never talking about how that is a side effect of the system we live in. That can't be ignored.

@hannahrogers3540 5 месяцев назад

This is so extremely helpful. Thank you for this. I have been struggling lately and even though I have learned most of these steps before, it is soooo beneficial to be reminded and to have this video on hand to watch anytime ❤❤ you guys brought up so many good points and things that blew my mind

@margo5919 Месяц назад

This is definitely a save worthy episode, thank you both so much!!

@carolgeorge6409 5 месяцев назад

I love that about the worry and worrying!!

@IrishMexican 7 месяцев назад

32:59 LCSW Alan Gordon talks about applying the technique without an expectation of change. I call it having a transactional mindset. Meaning you do something with the intention and expectation of it reducing or going away. It can have a paradoxical effect where it actually increases. Mindfulness is noticing without expectation. Mindfulness doesn’t teach noticing with the expectation of something changing. We’re striving for a curious mindset, not a mindset of judgement.

@hilarycole878 Месяц назад

Thank you both . So usefull . Atm going through chemo , Bells Palsy . Hearing loss and tinnitus . Watching and learning from yoh and others had helped me alot ,

@raquelharper3765 10 дней назад

This was awesome! I’ve taken plenty of notes. Thanks.

@ernie548 9 месяцев назад

Lived it a lot. Lot of history. It's the fear of something that has not occurred yet, not knowing if it will or if it will not.

@amenhotep7704 11 месяцев назад

Mrs Mcadam thank you for all your hard work.

@TherapyinaNutshell 11 месяцев назад

Thanks for watching!

@amenhotep7704 11 месяцев назад

🙏❤️Thinking about you on a daily basis

@yuliya862 4 месяца назад

Thanks❤

@user-jj2nq3hy4c 10 месяцев назад

As a mental health provider, you are both doing an excellent job of providing concise incredibly well curated information…your content is helpful for professionals too…. Well done!

@binary132 2 месяца назад

The “new puppy” analogy made me LOL. Very relatable.

@carmenahlborn6017 5 месяцев назад

Excellent idea about taking the time to worry and write down all of them. Thank you.

@user-zu4cg9gc4s 5 месяцев назад

I did the “ schedule worry” to my son when he told me being worry about an upcoming exam . Advised him to send away mentally the worry and ask it to come back after the exam . He came back telling me the exam was. Great and the worry “ didn t come back” after 😂 . Kids !

@delllaptop6958 9 месяцев назад

Emma, I just want to thank you for helping me learn a bunch about my mental health, as well as giving me the comfort to seek out actual therapy as well. Your videos have been a great resource for me in understanding how anxiety and stress were (and still are to a lesser extent) affecting my body. Thank you.

@shaynagonzales7692 Месяц назад

Dude. Literally thank you

@Angela-zp2gy 3 месяца назад

Im suffering. I am trying so hard to deal with my panic and anxiety. Someone suggested i use THC and i did. It helped initially but eventually it started to create more anxiety. I stopped using it 3 weeks ago when i got the flu. I was hospitalized due to dehydration and vomitting. Now i feel anxious all the time and worry i'll get sick again.

@Cosmic-lover293 10 месяцев назад

This live stream made so much sense. I was just re visiting the panic attack come down video, and this popped up. I’m really gonna try these approaches out. Having a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, they’re not fun. HRT I think is a big factor as is the menopause. Thank you for a brilliant, helpful, proactive, and positive live stream guys ❤

@brando3023 3 месяца назад

This video helped me so much. I only break the constant stress by scheduling stress time and learning to accept how I feel. Thank you so much for this. I look forward to stress time at 10am every morning. Honestly, learning to accept and practising mindfullness is the hardest thing ive done in my life but it works. Im getting beter at it and i can feel my anxiety getting better.

@nancylinxwiler5724 10 месяцев назад

The anxiety I experience at the dentist raises my blood pressure to dangerous levels. That anxiety isn't the same thing as excitement, as suggested as sameness in this video.

@user-gi6bp1xn5g 10 дней назад

Here is what I tell myself about anxiety. I imagine a jar of jelly is sitting on the shelf in the grocery store, and I see it there as I head up the aisle. This jar is like a worry that comes into my mind. I do not want to own the jelly, so I walk on by.

@happynjoyousnfree 10 месяцев назад

There are so many valuable insights in this video! I work as a therapist specializing in addiction and have really noticed how clients (and I think people generally nowadays) are looking for a mental health drug to make their uncomfortable feelings go away. I was just saying in a group yesterday how this reinforces the addictive mentality of I have to fix this feeling. We unfortunately have pathologized human emotions to the point that rather than seeing them as a signal that there's a situation that needs to be dealt with, we see them in themselves as the problem that we need to make go away.

@VictoriaMarch13 10 месяцев назад

I am a recovering addict who desperately needs to see a therapist. Your comment jumped out at me because I literally just spoke with my doctor last month about needing something for my anxiety. I've dealt with my depression but the anxiety has been debilitating. He offered benzos but I know my personality is highly addictive so I asked for buspar and he agreed. Yesterday I told my sister that I have changed my mind and was going to ask for a benzo next month. Deep down I know I don't need to go that route because I have the potential to abuse them. After watching several of Emma's videos I have realized my anxiety stems from avoiding and distracting myself constantly. I have let little situations build and build without addressing the anxiety they brought until the weight of them all has become crushing. I think I'm going to try the steps and suggestions I've learned from her videos first instead of masking my feelings with a pill. Thank you for your comment because it flipped a switch in my brain that needed to be flipped. ❤️

@happynjoyousnfree 10 месяцев назад

@@VictoriaMarch13 awww thank you so much for saying that ❤ I wish you the best of luck! The Therapy In a Nutshell channel has excellent ideas on this as well.

@punkinkai 4 месяца назад

I worry about dying every day, I worry about my children and family dying. I thought my dad died the day he actually died which made my anxiety 10 times worse. I am seeing a therapist soon. I wish I could change the way my brain works 😢

@jamestomlinson2247 11 месяцев назад

Thanks you two, long time viewer, always good to just see helpers!

@AfricanLiberation 3 месяца назад

I found this video to be very helpful. I’ll have to listen a few time to remember more of it. Thanks 🙏🏽 😊

@rachaellh 6 месяцев назад

Wow that is so interesting about not doing coping exercises during anxiety. I was taught the opposite but makes so Much sense.

@gilbertpaiz8096 4 месяца назад

Wow I'm sorta shocked too ..

@STONEYWHITE 9 месяцев назад

needed this.

@gingerallman798 10 месяцев назад

This is so helpful! Thank you!

@joannakusz4543 11 месяцев назад

Thank you❤

@Christieinthejourney 11 месяцев назад

Thank you! This is so helpful!

@michelek4085 11 месяцев назад

Great video. Thank you!

@eglantinelicorne9535 11 месяцев назад

So excited to try all those tips ❤❤❤❤❤❤

@lillecuriosity7420 11 месяцев назад

Very valuable thanks

@martine8099 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for this conversation! My partner deals with long term chronic anxiety, and this has helped me to better understand how to translate all the information out there into practical action.

@heathercarter7987 10 месяцев назад

Loved this info

@JelloSalad9556 7 месяцев назад

This was so helpful! Thank you!

@scheyrupt 11 месяцев назад

Thank you 🙏🏻 for all the tips

@WhatABanana 11 месяцев назад

Very informative! Thanks for sharing

@tahitihawaiiblue 11 месяцев назад

Very important topic.

@evahometx100 11 месяцев назад

Wow. What a great video. I learned a lot!!

@azu_rikka 11 месяцев назад

This video is fantastic!! I love all those tipps

@eglantinelicorne9535 11 месяцев назад

Tip 1 : INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!

@theologytherapist 11 месяцев назад

Absolutely love this and thank you for this insightful video!

@dzihanahajdarpasicmisirlic5347 4 месяца назад

so great...thanx a lot Emma

@m.sommer5501 3 месяца назад

This was reeeeeally good, love bought of you🙏

@carolinebielby5924 11 месяцев назад

I am so doing this course this guy is great 👍

@lauraschmuck5565 11 месяцев назад

This was soooo helpful. Thank you both!

@debbieburns5014 5 месяцев назад

I appreciate your videos, very helpful.

@moniquea2497 11 месяцев назад

Emma's vids and Nick's newsletters are truly lifesavers! Thank you both.

@glitcheddivinity 6 месяцев назад

This was amazing.

@dutchhustler 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for this great video

@ABLovescrafting 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for this! Absolutely fantastic talk, so much info shared, and so much value shared. Thank you so so much!!

@kathleenkayk 6 месяцев назад

Emma, these techniques are so helpful. I will practice these. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

@margo5919 8 месяцев назад

Thank you both, so informative!!

@lesleymcmillan1893 10 месяцев назад

❤🙏 thank you this is excellent! Will be trying all of these tools!

@user-bu8ff2pb6g 8 месяцев назад

You guys are my 'Life saver' Thank you very much!

@CJ-hh3gx 11 месяцев назад

This was so insightful! Thank you both so much for speaking on this. I will be sharing this with friends and talking with my therapist about it.

@ashleystarreveld3450 5 месяцев назад

This is the most helpful video I've found on RU-vid for what I struggle with. Everything from distinguishing what a "worry" and what "worrying" is, the threat detection system true/false threats to the puppy pooping on the Matt analogy. The problem with me is I can't seem to be able to assign 10mins of the day to let all my worries out, because my mind is always anxious.... at home, at work, during sleep 😢 and the most frustrating part is I don't know what I'm worrying or anxious about... it's like it's all in my subconscious locked up🔒and I can't access it. The unknown worrying/anxiousness affects my conscious mind also on normal day to day activities... 🤷🏻‍♂️

@LD-yg6bw 6 месяцев назад

Very helpful. Thank you. The idea of not letting your focus be to get rid of the anxiety is a game changer.

@humpreynjuguna2346 10 месяцев назад

Thanks!

@marywidener1409 11 месяцев назад

Super helpful! Thankful for all you do❣️ 🙏

@dee5356 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for this very helpful information! Thank you Emma for all that you do! Your hard work is very much appreciated!

@valerieviramonte7887 6 месяцев назад

This woman is brilliant! I’m getting more from this channel than from my in person therapist.

@TherapyinaNutshell 6 месяцев назад

Aw shucks, thanks...There is a difference between education and therapy, and sometimes we need a little of both. some therapists are also very much about just listening, and others are more about education. You could ask if your therapist is able to be more directive/educational and it may help...but I'm grateful this is helpful for you :)

@eglantinelicorne9535 11 месяцев назад

THis is a life changing video