Its crazy how such valueable channels can be so underrated. Hats off Eduard for what you do because all of your videos are unique and your perspectives and insights are priceless :D
Hei, i have a question, it us normal to date a finnish man who is quite and shy. Can you pleased give me some advice how to talked to him, so that we cannot feel bored. Thank you i hope you reply my message
In the past and still kinda hitherto I had problem with approaching people because I used to overthink too much. Finally I managed to crush this fear by approaching some people and casually talking with them. With time I noticed that I still feel subtle tension around these people and that I am not able to sell myself to these people. Later when I started working as door2door salesman I was observing how my leader was working and I discovered that smiling positive body language, tone and approaching was not problem anymore but how courageous and comfort breaking we are in conversations with others. We are not teenagers and concealing our intentions for too long time is just wasting time and sooner or later we need to speak our mind to others clearly and tell them what we need to want to do in order to take this relation on next level. The marrow of this, is that we can literally approach 100 of people and talk with them and still feel insecure because we still don't express ourselves fully and we are just in mask around people. In order to be truly unshakeable in approaching and creating bond fast we need to open ourselves and accept that many times we will get rejected for being too honest but its faster selection for cool people than staying in point where we are playing different person. Also second thing that my job in sales taought me is that most people nowadays are NO in 90% for everything that is uncomfortable. Talking with others in uncomfortable so in most cases when you approach people on street they are not going to be truly amazed and willing to talk, but that does not mean that they don't like us or they don't perceive us as attractive, they have just 100s of problems and we need to at least hear at least several times no stop talking and go away and don't waste time. This last sentence was subjective but basically people after alcohol tend to create bonds with others faster because they open their heart and don't care if somebody will reject them because they are desensitized by alcohol. As Jordan Peterson said we are afraid most deeply of 2 things, death and social exclusion.
