7 Signs That Someone Dislikes You and is Hiding it | STOIC PHILOSOPHY 

@@dontme4132 I salute your self esteem.

@@NormanDubowitz thanks!

I think it’s worth asking if you truly believe them to be a friend. I have done that and learned a lot about myself, including how to be a better friend. If they beat around the bush & are not honest it’s time to let that friendship go or reframe it as a different type of friendship (maybe just someone to hang with when you’re bored - that doesn’t make you a user if they’re the ones who made that choice). On the other hand, a real friend will give you some reason. Sometimes it’s that you have been so busy & turned down so many invitations that they gave up, at least for short notice events. Sometimes it’s that they simply had the wrong number for you. I had specifically stated that I was done with men at one point then when I asked why my single girlfriends didn’t invite me out dancing, their response made me realize that their motivation for going dancing was mainly to meet men & if I wasn’t doing the same thing & expected them to stay with me all night, that would have defeated the purpose. I actually would have been fine either sitting alone people watching while they danced or striking up a conversation with a stranger but I had to explain that so they knew I wouldn’t be hurt when they went onto to dance floor or off to a quiet room with a man.

I do the same, I disappear. You have to be comfortable with yourself and love your own company, I rather read alone than being with fake people.

You are blessed for it. Be your wonderful self.

Wow! I think l will tattoo your statement to my forehead...😵‍💫😐

@@Susannah472 IKR? 😵‍💫👀

Screw fake friends..

I'm starting to realize a similar one( maybe mean) don't worry about other people's health if they don't care about yours. JMO

@@Belevaqua Amen and Amen 🕊 ✝️🕊👍🏻

Get thee Satan behind me ...

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Get thee behind me satan

❤ very good 👍 I am, too. And I'm happy to do that 😅

I love this❤

I totally agree with you! However, if it is a daughter you love dearly it's. a different matter and it hurts like hell.

⁠@@maureenrhysjones4643 l feel your pain, Maureen

Wow, I felt every word of this video! The way you described back-handed compliments and social exclusion hit home. It's so true that we often overlook these signs to avoid discomfort 😔 How do you handle these situations now???

Ha! I like that. That's the way to go. Minding your own damn business. Am equally 62 and doing the same. Living my own life and loving it.

​. Yes. I acquired a Severe Concussion. In 2012. My emotions were very wimpy I cried alot. I started to think about. Some friends that WERE NOT THERE FOR ME... A LITTLE CALL NOW AND AGAIN. BUT I BEGAN TO REALIZE I HAD GONE 100X FARTHER FOR A FEW FRIENDS. I FOUND MY *EMOTIONAL BANK ACCT WAS BANKRUPT* I DID NOT RECEIVE MUCH ATTENTION IN MY TIME IF NEED. AND I FELT BETRAYED THAT I WAS NOT USEFUL TO THEM SO I DIDNT COUNT ANY LONGER. I WAS USED BY THESE FRIENDS FOR YRS SO I DECIDED I WAS GOING TO CLEAN UP MY FRIENDS LIST!! I WAS READY TO ACCEPT THAT I WAS NOT ANY VALUE TO THESE FRIENDS. SO I JUST DISAPPEARED. I WAS SAD ABOUT LOOSING CONTACT WITH MY GOD CHILDREN. BUT THEY R ADULTS NOW AND HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES. I AM HAPPY THAT I WAS A VERY GOOD GODMOTHER TO THOSE KIDS FROM BABIES TO GRADUATION AND ONE TO AGE 21. I HAD TO CUT OFF A 10 UR FRIENDSHIP. WHILE ON VACATION IN MIDDLE EAST. BECAUSE MY FRIEND DISRESPECTED ME SO BADLY. 2 OTHER FRIENDS JOINED THIS GROUP ALSO. I STILL CANT BELIEVE THESE 3 WERE SO TERRIBLE FOR 20DAYS OF TRIP AND THEN TRIED TO MAKE UP TO ME. BUT. I WAS NOT READY TO FORGIVE THEM FOR A VERY LONG TIME. I AM AT PEACE WITH ALL MY DECISIONS OF LETTING FRIENDS GO. FROM 2011....2015 == 6 PPL. I LEARNED THAT I SHOULD HAVE HAD HIGHER EXPECTATIONS CONCERNING RESPECT, LYING AND TAKING ADVANTAGE OF ME. BUT I LIKED CERTAIN EVENTS WITH THESE PPL SO I ACCEPTED THEM AND THEIR FRIENDSHIP WITH ME IN A LIVING KINDNESS WAY. IVE GROWN TO EVALUATE PPL ALOT MORE CAREFULLY. AND JUST NOT GET TOO CLOSE!!

I left quietly recently but this video is saying to confront them and now I realize that's what I should have done. Because I left quietly, my situation feels like it needs closure.

@@eb9520. Good point. I did the same but after continuing research about the toxic family dynamics I found out my family was described as an AMBIENT COVERT type. Everything was IMPLICIT not explicit. This type is the worst & diabolical so nothing works with these covert malignant narcissist types. I had to just let it all go. It is frustrating though so I understand where ur coming from. Bless us all in these times with such evil people. One of my brothers raged against me one time and said I ruined our family by exposing a secret in the family which I had an obligation to do. He insulted and raged so hard that I thought he wanted me murdered. It triggered & traumatized me at the time but for some reason I stayed low keyed and calm but knew he was a danger to me and it convinced me that there is serious mental illness in my family of origin. I just had to take care of myself and continued on with my own recovery process. With continued prayer to God my spiritual Father I’ve been able to do what I’ve been doing. God bless you EB.

That’s the advice my mom gave me many moons ago, and it’s the way I have always handled things. If they’re not smart enough to figure out what they did, they won’t get it if I try to explain.

Amen 💙🙏💙

@@eb9520 The video is objectively wrong for one reason alone: The perspective has nothing to do with stoicism, stoicism is about altering your perspective and knowing that you changing it will lead you forwards, not some "deeper wisdom" in "letting others know that you will fight for their attention" I unsubscribed the moment I heard that, be careful of what you consider "stoic"

These people are narcissists and toxic. It's better to stay away from them.

Pets are great company❤❤

Yeah right! Stop trying to scam people!

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I’m on my way

Most ppl suck what..? , what do you mean

You're right. most people suck.

Amen. lol

I say that all the time!

I prefer my pets. I hate people. Don’t ask me to explain it😊

Why? Where you are physically standing shouldn’t make any difference. If you actually are stoic you wouldn’t care. You’d stay wherever you are because that’s where you wanted to be or needed to be to begin with. Their proximity would be irrelevant.

Yeah because ghosting someone is the proper way to handle it.....

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bingo! they begrudge something you have..and they do not.

From whence _come_ wars and fightings among you? _come they_ not hence, _even_ of your lust that war in your members? -James 1:1

hi. true i know. me its to introduce them to top professionals, that i know...and to use me, for my money...

What if they really want to be your true friend ?

Especially when you've gone no contact with them for an extended period.

Especially when you helped them, and they told everyone you didn't.

@@stephanies6770this hit home

@@stephanies6770 You are right on target The narcists are evel 👿

That is the worst when they do that behind your back. That is why I do not pay attention to what someone says about another person. Hate gossip.

@QuotesOfTheDay_Officials thank you. I am at an age that honesty is basically mandatory.😃

@@Susannah472 Thank you. I consider myself fortunate to be able to remember the lessons along the way. Too bad elderly folks become invisible to the young. We could save them a lot of heartbreak! Bless you

Sending hugs to a perfectly likeable person. 🎉💛

@@LillisOldStyleLollis Thank you. What a nice thing to say!

@@Susannah472 What a lovely thing to say. Thank you!

It was possibly how they were raised. We can recognize the behavior and break the chain. Good wishes from one who's been there too..

Honestly your own parents can hate you

Learn from it. Don't repeat it. Don't hang on to it. It's really not yours. Free yourself ❤

Ya right

That’s hard all around.

The problem is the people that say that don't believe that statement

What another thinks of me isn't a problem unless they speak their negative thoughts to others. Then it's slander and it becomes my business.

Power back in prayer. Tell-A-Vision. The keys. When the Bible was being edited by the Pharisee and Sanhedrin, (who later took the titles Pope and the council of Cardinals) They deliberately broke the Lord's prayer when they instituted the translation in the Latin. They did, infact, turn our Father Creator into a fetch-/-vending machine. Thereby, leaving every part of it up to him. Hallow your own name, do your own will, restore your kingdom yourself. (Think about it.) What of this includes you? None of it includes you. Other than you being a sit on the couch recipient of his deeds, of course. Originally, Jesus had said it in the Greek. And here it is. Our Father who art in heaven. Thy name must be being Hallowed. (That means, you Hallow it.) They Will must be being done on earth as it is in heaven. (Guess who's on earth? You are. It's up to you to do his Will here.) Thy kingdom must be being restored. (Yeah, that's you again. And for the individual, it doesn't mean unto the whole world, it is generational. Lovingly, slowly, repetitively, patiently tell your children. Ten years, that's how long it takes to put it in their hearts. Remember, do not turn it into a weapon. Your neck, the mill stone and the sea.) Give us today, our tomorrow's bread. (The wisdom of Jesus, as though we stood beside him in the present tense.) Forgive us our failings as we forgive those who have hurt us. (Now, what I am writing here will make a lot more sense once you have read, keys to the Kingdom. If you have truly reconciled them unto your heart and forgiven them to the full measure, is this not the first time that this has come out of your mouth in all it's intended honesty? I'm betting it is.) Lead us away from evil, delivering us from its temptation as these are not that which you intended. (This may differ as I could not find the translation for accuracy.) Bottom line here is that you are a required part of the power pack. He goes before us and prepares the way. Is Simply this. You want or need a better position and pay. So, you pray unto the Father and he, because the Father is a mind, he is mentality, (the kybalion will explain this perfectly.) He reaches forth in thought, whispering to the hearts and minds of those who will assist you, to give you that which you have asked for. (In belief. Ask, believe and receive.)This requires you to do your part, go to work. Recognize that the Father wants a personal relationship with you, and he desires that you want one with him. That means, you have your part in this. Do your part. Now, remembering that our Father is a mind, he, when communicating with the prophets did this in visions. So, when you pray to the Father remember, the words are for you to build a vision with. In essence, Tell-A-Vision to the Father. Let him see it in your mind. Be clear, get precise, aim for accuracy. Now, in order for prayer to work, the the Father said, if you have anything against your brother go make peace, really. And you know as well as anyone, in this day and anger age, it's often unwise to do so, in person, that is. Follow the instructions below. The Keys to the Kingdom When one understands reconciliation to its fullest meaning, one understands forgiveness. Without reconciliation, forgiveness cannot stand. Reconciliation kills, on impact, all negative emotion. All of it, from your first breath, unto your last. The only emotion that reconciliation cannot defend itself against, is that of love. Love is energy, your soul is energy. So, if the adage, you are what you eat, is true, then the only thing feeding your soul is love and your soul will mature properly and become love in of itself, as we have been commanded, to become like our Father. Who, in of himself, is love. Vengeance is mine, said the Lord, because when you give him vengeance, he turns it into correction and saves his other child, if they will let him. Imagine how you are going to feel towards your enemy in heaven. If you can really imagine the truest form of that feeling, congratulations, those feelings have just transcended time and space. In essence, you asked, asked to see, that's prayer, you believed what you saw, you received it, you felt it. Again, congratulations, you just asked, believed and received. The Father creator loved us, reconciled us unto himself and forgave us. The steps matter. Unless reconciliation is first, forgiveness falls flat on it's face and dies. Forsake the parade. Go unto the Father yourself and take the walk of life with your hand in his. And consider this, with our Father, I truly believe it's, come as you are and I will change you as I need you. Start your commitment to him with these words if they suit you. Finish the statements. Here I am. I am willing. What is the truth? And you had better be sincere or it's going to fail. (Anger. Let us deal with this for a moment. If you are angry about something that happened three weeks ago, it's because, you have a muscle in your stomach, you know the one, that is a chemical junkie. This muscle was present when that particular memory was created and stored. And it calls out that chemical signature, and forces you to re-live that moment, so it can feed, you have not been angry in a long time, you been duped. And now that you know, what are you going to do, fake angry? As soon as you begin to feel angry about anything from the past, stop it. Just take a look around you, and know nothing happened to you today, unless it actually did. And if it did, that's the only thing you can be truly angry about.) (Do not invite the back stabber to your table, here. What they did matters, they, given the opportunity, will do it again. You have a date in heaven, see them there. Old people bring old habits.) (Live in reconciliation. Do not leave that state of being.) (Live in believe, of ask, believe and receive. This would have been better stated as, ask believe and be given. Recieving means to be given, therefore, it's not up to you to move beyond, believe. That's the Father's right and it also allows for recognition of his works and compassion. Also, Throw away the timer.) (Regarding Faith. Faith is simply loyalty. Loyalty to the fact that you asked, loyalty to the fact that you believed. Stay loyal, stay faithful. Or one might choose to see Faith from the vantage point of, staying true.) (As for the judgement room that we have all heard of, well, it may surprise you to learn that that room is in your head, and it's running constantly. We all have a piece of the Christ Consciousness in our minds. All of us. This is how silent prayer is heard. And anytime you do anything good or bad, your heart has an intention and emotional reaction. That intention and emotional reaction is what's being judged. And your judgement is handed down second to last breath. Because up until then you can change your mind about your intention to our Father. You can come to understand this better if you read the letters on the internet from nurses who have been presant for the death of those patients they have been charged to take care of. Worst death bed passings, you'll find them. And you will find good one's as well. This is why your sincerity in your commitment to the Father and to honesty with him are so very important.) (Do not end your prayers with, Amen. To you, this has always meant the prayer has ended. And in that, your right. It's over. End your prayers with, So Be It. This way the energy moves into the future. And it's the translation of, Amen, but in words that, as you understand, have a whole different meaning.) (Do not judge lest you be judged with the same measure. Meaning, when we judge we will be put in the same situation, doing the same thing that we were judging others for. Break all judgements through sincere intention. After all, people and situations change. So, let it be to you as this, "They are still alive." No further, for the Father has got this.) (Anxiety/Stagnation is common place with our Father. He gives us time for what he is teaching us to take it's place in our lives and become a living part of who we are before adding more of his wisdom to our mindset. If it were not so with man, what we learned would become buried under the new knowledge and become worthless.)

@RaymondBastien-li6co wow thank you for teaching me! how did I find this message in such a random place? you wrote about things I’ve wanted to find lately, but wasn’t looking for. I believe in Jesus as my king and friend and I’m rly interested in prayer and how spirits operate in combination with the goings on of earth. there’s something I’ve been wondering about, can I ask you? I don’t understand healing, but I trust God. it seems to me that he heals some and not others be his will is done. but why then are we allowed to use his power to heal? when I see someone put their hands on another and say to be healed in the name of Jesus, I know it’s supposed to work because we have authority. but when it doesn’t work, I don’t know why. I tried to heal my rabbit the other day and she didn’t get healed. so I figure I’m missing something here, I’m doing something wrong or it wasn’t God’s will for her to be healed. I don’t know why. I cannot judge God. I just want to know so many things

@@manda00613 to better understand the principles of the power that you are trying to access I recommend the gospel of Thomas and the kybalion. I also recommend trying healing with a statement like, I just love it when you're well. Or I just love it when you're healthy. The emotion of love must be something that you feel in your heart and it must be happy while you are saying it.

Story of my life

A true stoic wouldn’t care.

Pets are great company❤❤

They're latched leeches when we MOVE on. Blockage. Moveable.

Why would it bother you? Aren’t you a stoic?

@@Ripprock1 perfect

Wow that is very insightful. Thank you I have felt this before but did not how to articulate it. But my instincts were telling me something was wrong with this picture

Wow this says a lot more then it appears (Deep) very true very clever indeed thank you for sharing ❤❤

Indeed!!!

Cluster B personality disordered individuals (Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths) Their entire existance revolves around hurting people!

Fabolous - "Young O.G". Intro

Thanks!

Yeah, that's my ex-friends and ex-family members.

Thank you

Also signs they don't like themselves.

This describes my mother my whole life.

You can say that again

Since we have social media now, humanity is worst.

Stoics don’t care. They can’t feel “sad”.

It’s no mystery. People are flawed

You just may be hanging with the WRONG people.

@@jennyseredych4607 this helps me sooo mych

Yep + No good deed goes unpunished

Truth

Apologies will be used against you to argue you were in the wrong "Why would you apologize if you weren't in the wrong?"

Narcissists Miranda Rights

And people wonder why I don't share much about myself anymore. Nothing can be spread if nothing is shared.

Very sad but a learning experience

My brother stole my inheritance by forging my mother's name on a quit claim deed. This is after the $20,000 l gave him to start his own business.

Right now I wouldn’t put anything past my brother. Disrespect is high when love is thin.

@@stephanies6770 Time to move on and disassociate with such individuals who are greedy and did not have your wellbeing at heart! Their true agenda is greed mix with selfishness. Let them go out of your life, let the hurt go and create a good future for yourself without them!!! Achieve, live in peace and happiness! Live as if they don’t exist!!!! You’ll be fine!🎉

Jesus in the bible: a mans enemies will be those of his own household

So did I. Turns out, I didn't have any.

@@MaryGwenDungan If you are a chronic "caregiver" collecting the walking wounded as "friends," when you go down they will not come to pick you up. They are not able. Stop being a "caregiver" and begin to chose friends who are as strong, or as independent, or sovereign as you are. These ones will come if you falter. Good relationships are only possible between equals!

@@jmac3482 Very good insights, jmac. I've been a chronic caregiver as a way to make friends. I guess what I made were patients instead.

Ovarian cancer survivor same here people couldn’t understand chemo waylays you

@@alexiswaller3065 I never told my (formerly) closest friend, or at least the person I knew the longest that I had cancer until it was all but over. She said something like, sick people are so needy. End of a 40 year+ "friendship."

Passive aggressive ....

This is why I shy away from compliments my whole life.

@ time to say that's funny that is exactly what your mother said last night

@@tommerphy1286 Is that really your personal experience, or did you just validate my point?

@ insult: when someone insults my intelligence... I am of the ilk that will insult you with no ambiguity. So now the talking part is over. Are you a man or not

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@@Jonathanjackobson Don't fall for this Jonathan. There will be lots of money leaving your pocket and this spiritual counselor will be no help to you at all. Save your money.

That is sad. I am older than you. Yes some people are selfish, Narcissistic, not friend material. Not all people are like that. To have a friend, be a friend to them as well. Took health difficulties, cancer for me to learn to be empathetic to others. I have true friends, very few. I have always been a loner with my own interests. Now I can be a friend.

@@karyannfontaine8757 Thank you for your comments. I know a lot of people and open to friendships. I’m just more careful now about whom I CHOOSE to call a friend. Not many people really know what it means to be a friend. Sorry to hear of your circumstances. I hope you’re on the mend now and in a better place.

Love you. A way is opening up for you....

My best friend is 84 and we share so much whilst am on my 40’s! She is the best thing that happened to my life! We share books ideas recipe and I get so much of wisdom that no young friends would give me. Am so blessed and am worried for myself the day she will be gone ! I thank God for her and hope/pray she can receive Christ as her Saviour. She is agnostic and am Christian but we love each other !

@@veracity8968 You are so blessed to have her in your life and share so much with her. Just enjoy each other. God will take care of the rest!

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How do you address the elderly when they can say mean things or worse racist

Compassion is emotion. Stoic is no emotion. Just existing.

Yeah!!!

@@judiththeis4476 It’s on them and their spirits, not on you; unless you let it. Maintain distance from those who drain your good energy.

Need to get over your egos and take the hint of that those excluding you, quite obviously don't' want to be around you.

@@BAsed_AFro yep. whomever is/are shunning you. Take the hint, and end it. If whomever comes back to you, call them out on it and tell em to F off.

This is very informative

That is true and this video is great for picking up on that... However, and I say this loud and clear for all to hear putting myself in the line of fire: Is it REALLY a stoic approach to confront them and "not go down without a fight?" because to me that actually sounds pathetic and not stoic, and I do not see any "deeper wisdom" in the line "To show them you will go down without a fight" a stoic's place is to alter his perception of said outcome, not whine about not being appreciated focused on showing people how "awesome" you are (Which indeed sounds like someone that people would "forget" to invite all the time on it's own) Am I wrong? And if I am, then I admit without guilt nor shame for my actions that I am here to learn, that said I cannot help but cringe at a stoic "fighting for his inclusion from people that clearly don't want him there" deeper wisdom? PAH!

@@EternalNero It's not "fighting" for inclusion. Stoicism calls them out on their two-faced behavior. Then you can end it.

I can't find people that like me, why,?

Yes why, cos of looking at the fast crowd... Always dominating lol. ​@@angiepie4436

@@angiepie4436same

@@angiepie4436 Me, either🙁

@@angiepie4436because you are a rare and wonderful thing that these abusers hide from

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A true stoic will go to his/her own place quietly, knowing that his actions will have his children cry and shout out for the right to see him again This? This doesn't seem very stoic to me, perhaps more grounded to reality, but I cannot simply get over the "Confront people that won't invite you to their party, deeper wisdom is to show them you won't go down without a fight" To me there's nothing stoic about that, stoicism is primarily (and most importantly) about accepting you cannot change your world, only your perception, what "deeper wisdom" is there in "fighting for it" against people that just made it clear they don't want to include you?

When our children are very young, they need to be taught to think of others and their feelings!!

Parental alienation by a spouse or ex spouse is evil. Being the scapegoat in my family of origin my parents alienated me from my younger siblings. That hurt even more than my understood alienation from my parents. I wanted to be alienated from my parents but I didn’t know they would make sure I was ostracized by my siblings also. Even a couple of extended family members “cousins “ no longer would speak to me either.

It truly hurts when children are used as bait to try and control you. Stand strong. The pain is enormous yet we don't have to internalize it. Never let it define you. You're much better than that and they know it.

Amen! So true

A stoic wouldn’t even notice or care about acceptance or lack of it either way. Stoicism is not feeling anything.

@@chelseacraft4669 A TRUE stoic wouldn't need to watch stoic videos and virtue signal about being a TRUE stoic in multiple comment threads. 🤣

@@lateralus1972 exactly!!! Oh wait… did you read words that weren’t there & think I am a stoic? 😳🤣

​@@chelseacraft4669 you seem to be craving some sort of attention & not getting it. You're constantly begging for it in these threads 🎉

No one can make you feel anything 😂

Not true at all

No, that is not correct.

False. Emotional responses are involuntary. This is the kind of cliche which seems profound but neglects the actual psychology behind human interaction.

​@@richardscathouseif I kicked you in the teeth could you decide not to feel it? If your child dies, can you decide not to mourn?

That’s was the perfect comeback !! That was on point 👌

Yes 👆 Gospel Truth. These passages of scripture describe the current widespread Narcissists Era. Line up Cluster B Personality Disorder symptoms with these passages and it’s a match.

...That's almost everyone?😅

Not god! 😊

Yeah even if it’s your family ❤

Avoid every human true facts

Pets are great company

Pets are great company

True!!! No energy drain on my person and direct communication with my Lord and Savior

Maybe the human drive to not be alone paired with a lack of social skills. Lack of social skills can leave one unable to be picky about friends.

Very true, it's a case of better just grin and bare it, rather than be not connected with people. Sometimes feeling like a square peg in a round hole.

Because narcissist feed off of our energy

??? your comment makes not sense, listen to what they do not SAY?

Yes. As in, if they do not congratulate you on your successes/achievements, do not compliment you at all, do not say kind things to you, etc. Hope that helps!

@@BAsed_AFroi agree actions speak louder than words. Many abuser say they love you. But there is no love in abuse or neglect. With no words about hate or distain the controlling behavior tells you how they really feel. ALSO Body language speaks volumes. Glares, not making eye contact, closed fist, sitting legs crossed and arms folded and one leg is constantly kicking in your direction doesn’t mean i love you and im happy with you. Not showing up always showing up late are wordless ways of saying i don’t really care about you and I don’t respect your time or feelings. In fact most people tell you how they feel and think about you with nonverbal behaviors more than they do with words. I was always taught to be careful and mindful of what folks are not saying to you.

@@dwandascott3947 Too bad folks can't just be honest, you know? If someone was acting like that with me, but doesn't speak their true mind as to how they really feel... then I would just leave that on them to figure out a way to communicate how they feel verbally instead of trying to figure out what's up based on trying to guess what they're body language is saying. I don't play the "guess how I feel/what I think of you?" game myself, and nor do I accept it when another person does. A person is only as good as their word is, imo. Abuse on the other hand, is a different story and won't be tolerated.

I once had a friend who seemed distant despite our regular interactions. I couldn't figure out why she was cold and unresponsive, always masking her true feelings with forced politeness. It took me a while to realize that her subtle avoidance and lack of enthusiasm were signs she was hiding her dislike.

Agreed. Once we completely accept this fact, life becomes very enjoyable.

Narcissists *

@@mariloevanniekerk9348 100%.

Thats how I feel towards two assholes

"No contact." Not everything is as it appears. For me it's a way of going soft-no-contact as opposed to going full-no-contact from some persons.

So… they are stoic. It’s funny that others’ stoicism would bother you. 😂

Except when they want to sleep with you. FWB usually.

I tried to explain that _"too busy"_ excuse means *disinterested* to a friend in their 70s. I was surprised that he never considered that before. In my opinion, if it takes more than a few days to schedule a 2nd date, then they are not interested, or not interested *_enough._*

Pets are great company

@@ritalawson7020 you bet! Both my dogs left for heaven now. The next dog will have to find me.❤️

So true!!!! All the people who are no longer in my life have made my life better and better , happier and happier and FREE!!!!

Amen

Dogs are no life, u need a life. Let the dogs go,get a family

I used to be a people person, but people ruined it. Dogs love unconditionally.👍😉

I hate humans and dogs ❤

I have a T shirt with that written on it😊

@Mscompuncawitz no their are good people.

Stoic means having no emotions. What does all of that emotional stuff have to do with stoicism?

Better yet, be feared.

No such book out there. What is "borlest"?

@@richardsparks4207 Borlest, is the author 'Whispers of Manifestation'

As surprised it hadn't been banned by the GOP!

​@richardsparks4207 Borlest is the author of a book called Whispers of Manifestation

I love that” the world is big”……Thanks for sharing!

Pets are great company

I'm the same im happybto be on my own I don't want be invited to every birthday down the pub or party there are lots of people wh😢i used to be close to but haven't spoken to in years it doesn't bother me big we'd really been that closed we would never had lost touch i don't alwaysvexpect people to be there when I have problems life is difficult forv😅every living thing your friends have their their own problems that could be greater than yours but just don't want to lumber others with their problems.not every one believes that a problem shared is a problem halved.if I'm worried about something and share it with someone else now there worried about it the problem is doubled not halved. We are responsible for our own lives not anyone else's and nobody else is responsible for ours it's called growing up

You’re not alone we had the same experience and it sucks!

Relatable

I'm also in my 60s and have chosen to stay single for the past 15 years. I stay busy with all the same activities that you listed. I'm no longer dependent on anyone for my happiness and grateful to have acquired such a comfortable state of being. I just wish I could've gained this wisdom earlier in life. I'm still open to joining with like-minded individuals and would love to develop a thriving community.

@@aprilkitten Well said. Yes, I wish I could have had such wisdom earlier in life and not spent the years from 18 to 50 searching for the mythical knight in shining armour.

Know your worth and never put up with people bread crumbing you. You will find your people, I promise!

They don't deserve your company

Can I suggest something? If you don't already, help out at a charity. You're more likely to find kind hearts amongst those who will work for no pay, or gain of any kind. And even if you don't find anyone nice among the other volunteers (I promise you will), simply doing things for others less fortunate will put a smile on your face, and a song in your heart! If you're a Christian, pray & ask God to bring a true friend into your life. Bless you sweetie.💖

Make your own family or "tribe" they accept you without those other baggage . It true freedom

I feel ya! Hang in there. One day at a time.

It is always good to know who your enemies are. So that you can keep them far, far away, unblock them from information about you.But as far as they themselves, I just Delete them from my life because they mean nothing to me

Those who are important to me and who are loving, caring, precious ones, Will always be there and I will always be there, And I will always be there for them! .... But basically it is better to depend on yourself, like I do... .. And if someone is always there for you, they are precious gems.. .. And if those you valued,... disappear.. Or act differently one day, and then another way, another day and are unreliable, then you don't need people like that. ... I think it is best to rely on yourself. ... Consult experts if you really want some outside advice. ..

Going through this now with my daughter. I thought she would always be there. I have a big hole my world without her! I am dealing with it ok.

Coming from a daughter who treated her mother the same way …. Maybe try an approach that I wish my mom had tried with me …. Call your daughter and genuinely apologize for anything you have ever done or said that was hurtful to her, tell her you love her and you want her in your life, and tell her you’d like to hear how she feels so that you can learn never to repeat the same mistakes. If my mom had reached out to me and admitted she could have done things better, a good relationship may have been possible. I wish you the best, and I hope you and your daughter can repair things ❤

Same...😢

Pets are great company they will love you always

Well done! That nausea and bad feeling you got as you approached her house was a warning to keep away from toxic substances!!

Good for you! You can do fine without a friend like that!

@@Burzurk1987 Thank you! It was surprisingly easy to get her out of our lives. And so refreshing. When abuse comes a little at a time, you don't realize how heavy the situation eventually becomes. ✌️🫶

Amen to that,, JESUS will light your path 🙏😁

Amen❤

God comes before all else 🙏❤️

I've had to learn to speak up and not be a doormat

Ha! Human weakness is probably such that (maybe subconsciously) they give their loyalty out of fear of being on that other side of the toxic person.

Do you really need these people in your life ,pets love you always

Keeping their enemy close?

Prayer 🆙 for you

Pets are great company they will love you always

How's that working out?

Envy comes from those who take easiest life paths, try at nothing, blame everyone else, then they meet you and hate on you to anyone who will listen. Everything shoulda been handed to them in their minds and everything you have? was handed to you ! it wasnt worked hard for (in their minds) Envious people are the worst and most dangerous because they will keep you in YEARS long triangles of misery. Even when you havent talked tothem in years they are still babbling about you and making enemies for you behind the scenes . They wont let go. They're parasites. They have the same mentality of a stalker. Obsessive self loathing directed at you. As oon as you notice someone acts helpless and especially when you help them they always have a new issue... this is one of those people. and what i wrote above is your "reward" for ever helping them.

Pets are great company they will love you always

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Celisachoo -- Why bring yourself down to their level? Wanting revenge isn't something to be proud of. Strive to be better than that nasty person.

Why would you attract takers? Don't believe everything you think.

Pets are great company. They will love you always

This is really not Stoic philosophy, it is really human nature. Some or all of these 7 signs happen in all relationships at some point or the other because no two people agree on everything all the time. Disagreements will happen in all relationships, it's how we handle it that will either make the relationship or break the relationship. Elements of these signs happen even when personalities do not mesh. Stoicism is bs imho.

Most people slow down in their old age... thinking and movements. Youth is rushing around, competing with everyone, trying to find their place and make a mark. There is little respect or appreciation for an experienced, more peaceful individual.

Pets are great company

True an working with them travel is a great test

Agree with you about being kind as much as possible to everyone. AND ~ Superficial Hurts are in a different category than Deep Wounds. Insult v Betrayal. Small Cut v Hemorrhage. SO~ Sometimes there’s some people when kindness isn’t the solution.

@@ShirleyAnnPetrillo-oj7sc True. Best to get away from people that have deeply wounded you.

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Dreadful when it’s a child

I can't even imagine the hurt

One of my daughters has lied about me. Fortunately, the truth eventually came out, and I was vindicated. It still hurt, though.

Pets are great company,they will love you always

Great point

Pets are great company ,they will love you always

So much for "Love thy neighbor ". Nothing worse than a religious hypocrite. So sorry! 😢

Churches are full of wolves in sheep's clothing, carrying a Bible.

Ignore them. I know it's easier said than done but act like they are not in your world. Who cares about them! It's not worth your time

Put on music loud - to get her out of your head🌸 (she might also stop - if you always do it ). Good luck !

That’s not a true Christian if they’re treating you like that. There is such a thing as Christian in name only. You shall know them by their fruit

Good for you, sometimes you don't recognise these thing's, that's ok, once you recognise it you can change it. Become the person you now see you can be. Go forward and do unto other's as you would like them to do unto you. May God bless you, and enjoy every day of your life, by being kind to yourself and other's 💗

With friends like you, who needs enemas? lol . . . j/k

Very BIG of you to own your shortcomings. Be blessed.

@@___HH___ You are doing exactly what the video said not to do, taking a jab at him and playing it off as a joke.

Everyone does, just find the right group.😊

@@kermitdfrogzHow many are in a group Kermit ? Two is maximum for me . Two at a time !

@@NormanDubowitz That's enough for me!

God bless! 🙏❤️

Thank you, and God bless you 🙏

@@rebeccabrear4456 Thank yoou

Sorry to disappoint you - I tend to tease people I genuinely like. If you met me you might think I disliked you if you followed this advice without using your gut feeling.

@@edelgyn2699 you missed the point, it's a combination of 3 or more of the above that's making it obvious. Not just one in isolation

Pets are great company ,they will love you always

Because women think all single women are on the prowl

​@@alexiswaller3065that's the only thing I can put it down to.