Bi the way, we exist | Viet Vu | TEDxTerryTalks 

"I have the ability to appreciate everyone's butts" I literally screamed "woah".

As a homosexual man, I have to admit that the amount of bi-phobic people amongst gay and lesbian people is quite baffling !

Shout out to my bisexual brothers and sisters !!!! 😜😂👏🏽

When I was coming out, I initially thought I was bisexual, before realizing that I am a lesbian. But guess what? I still fucking understand that bisexuality is real, valid, and for the vast majority, not a phase.

I am bi. My boyfriend had made a gay friend and when he hates me because he thinks I am just to much of a coward to be gay. Nope. I just appreciate everyone's butts.

I'm bi, I live in Russia (yup, that one huge red "illegal" patch on the map) and I'm extremely lucky to have the needed information about sexuality at a young age. I came out only to my mom, and I prepared her for that beforehand, showing a documentary about homophobia (which doesn't exactly fit my situation, but it helped me anyway). It was hard, and she was completely intolerant, however trying to hide it by "I don't care about lgbt as long as their lives doesn't impact mine or my family in any way". Well, now she's much more tolerant, even if she still feels uncomfortable with the fact that her daughter is bi, she finally understands that it's normal and natural and I can't change it even if I wanted to. Sadly, a majority of people in Russia have a really strong negative opinion about the subject because of either religion or/and ignorance. Government isn't helping either - there even was a law prohibiting "gay agenda" (gay a g e n d a, as if people can be turned gay by someone else, oh my god). I'm not sure if it still exists, I really hope it's not. Most of lgbt people there are hiding themselves and their sexuality, and that creates an illusion that there are "no gays in Russia" (the sequel of "there was no sex in Soviet Union") which is both funny and horrifying. I hope we'll be okay in a few years. The whole situation is pretty sad. /sorry for any grammar mistakes btw/

Great stuff for us bi people that need more role models in the community.

Thanks for helping educate ppl. My husband was bi and hid his entire life. He past away with no one but me knowing the real man that he was. My niece who is 14 told me she is bi recently and I hope and pray she has an easier time growing up in this generation. I will share your video on all my social media. If it helps just one person to live their life to the fullest it is worth it. SO THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING!

Honestly I struggle being Bisexual. It's so hard. I know I like men and I know I like women, but it really plays my emotions in my mind. I always find myself in a group of people where every interacts in a "dating" type way, & me being the only bisexual in the group, I feel as if I don't exist. I start to like women but i'm considered too "gay" for them, and for certain gay men, I'm not considered genuine with my sexuality. I honestly feel so lost.

Actually teared up when you said "I'm here. I'm alive. I exist." Everything you said is so extremely true and it's so nice being able to relate to someone in so many ways. This was a very moving video and it made me feel less alone. Thank you for this, it was beautiful

This kind of visibility is important!

Thanks for this. I think that I might be bisexual, but I don't know. There's no rush though.

I think the worst part or the hardest part of being Bi or gay or anything like that, is coming out to your parents. I've come out to all my friends that i'm bi but i'm so scared to come out to my parents. Anyone else with this struggle?

I'm bi but I'm still not out and it kills me on the inside. I've already attempted to take my life because of it.

I'm bi but the only one who really knows about it is my husband. In the end I am happy to be married to an individual not a gender :)

*sees bi pun* YAS *clicks*

I am 60+, India born, now a Canadian immigrant/citizen. I too am Bi, and my Indian family is anti. One would have thought they would not be interested in my love life due to age and distance.

I was watching this on my computer (i almost started clapping at the end) then realized that it was just me in the room, GREAT SPEECH, tho!

Thank you for sharing your story. You're so strong. I came out to most of the people I care about last year and I received only good reactions, even from my dad. I'm sorry you had a different outcome. You are brave and strong to overcome it and share your story with the world. It's people like you who I look up to. Thank you for everything you do for our community.

I'm bi and sort of out, not to my parents though, I'm in a straight relationship and then just what's the point... however my experience is that especially people who identify as homosexuall tend to be very unpleasant to bi people, they shame us and deny we exist. so I stopped caring. if they wan't to think it was a phase because I'm with a guy now then so be it. I love who I love and I am who I am, it doesn't change with their opinions.

IS NOBODY GOING TO-- "And I appreciate butts" AHAAHHAAH

There are 9 very sad people who pressed dislike to this great video

This was a great speech (good sense of humour!) Its so sad to hear about parents abandoning their children because of their sexuality, I don't understand how they can do that. Luckily I have parents who would never do that. I'm not out to them but I know they would support me. The stats of suicide for bisexual people is heartbreaking.

"We have the ability to appreciate everyones butts." This guy is amazing xD

Kudos to you man!. What a great video, and a great message as well.Hat's off to you :)

Such an inspirational speech. What your friend told you, "If you ever need someone to talk to, I'll be there for you", this is something I've always said to my friends when they tell me something personal or need my help. I think it's really the best response for someone coming out to you.

This is beautiful, thank you for sharing your story. I'm now going through the whole coming out stage in my life and your story is extremly inspiring. If anyone else who is reading this is thinking about coming out just remember that you should not do it if you are at any risk while doing it. For example if you're still living at home and you have homophobic/biphobic/transphobic parents, DON'T DO IT. Please be safe.

Just want to say that I'm really grateful for your speech. It was so hopeful and bright and I feel proud after watching it. I'm a bisexual person and I know that even if I say it, I'm still insecure and doubtful about who I am. Luckily, now I have a special person in my life, a girl who I really love. We came out to some of our friend and they accepted us. In contrast to our parents what we can't face up to. In our surroundings there are a lot of people who still hate and discard LGBTQ people and we just can't stand their hate speech. Please - everybody, live and let live others. It's a very simple way to stay happy. This was really great stuff and I admire your power to tell directly about yourself. I hope I'll have this power in the future. P.S. This sentence about butts will by my motto, hah :)

Viet Vu, thank you for sharing this with us. It seems to me that the human mind often has difficulty processing cognitive abstractions. When I shared with my wife that I had a mild physical attraction to aspects of the male form, she immediately assumed that I would leave her for a gay relationship. After explaining to her that I loved her and still found her attractive, I believe I at least assuaged some of her fears. I've been trying to learn to accept that bisexuality will largely always remain an abstract identity to many people. However, people like you raising awareness about bisexuality is an important step forward for those that identify as such. Thank you. :)

I really enjoyed watching this video, he seems so cute and I want to give him a hug >.

Sept 23 is bi day 😊 this video is so inspiring to come out honestly. Thank you so much.

A 9yr old boy died this week after 4 days of coming out to his class. He was bullied to death.

As another Vietnamese person in the LGBTQ+ community, hearing Viet’s story is so inspiring and relatable ♡

I commend him for actually taking action and helping change the world starting at its foundation, our laws and policies.

It's sad but I'm finding it difficult to be bi even in 2021. I'm invalidated by people with in the LGBTIA+ community and with in the cis/het community.

Thank you. That needed to be said.

I'm Bisexual and I come out to a few of my mates but the first mate I come out to was my best mate

This is the only sex extreme that's not shown in the media.

Cam on, arigato, thank you! Your composure while relating such a devastating story is admirable. You are a strong, resilient, beautiful person. Well done!

This whole speech just made me want to stand up and clap throughout! Amazing :)

I’m bi and I felt this so much. Everyone is valid and loved, your amazing all of you, ima cry!

Both my best friend and I identify as bisexual, this video helped me understand that my best friend and I are not alone

Comments on this video are honestly fantastic, you all are just a blessing, keep it up!!

I'm here, I'm alive, and I exist! So powerful, so me

this is an awesome and powerful video ever since I am bisexual myself who has issues to come out to my family and especially to my parents also my friends are supporting me which makes strong and feel proud about myself this video really gave me more hope in my current situation

It’s SO GOOD! Million THANKS!

You know what pisses me off about being bi? I can only marry a girl or a guy.

This talk really is a freeing one. I am glad I listened and learnt more from this brave man. Bisexuality is real and I can attest to this personally.

3 years later and this helped me thank you viet

Really powerful stuff. Thank you for this.

a powerful speech. wonderful

That was so beautiful, thank you for sharing your story.

I am bi I am 12 I've known nearly as long as I can remember

im planning to come out this year as bi. and you made me feel a whole lot better. thankyou for being vulnerable with me

wow, you are my inspiration and we are so proud of you Viet Nam

Wonderful speech, I teared up I admit. What a great activist for equality you must be. :)

Thank you for sharing your story. I am in the process of coming out as Bi, and this video really helps. Also I too like economics and the ability to appreciate everybody's butts. My story is somewhat similar to the speaker, to be exact; In August of 2019 I took an amazing trip to Guatemala and on that trip I met two Bi guys, one of whom flirted with me even though I told him I that I was straight, I guess he caught on, and I think he's cute. The other would be a very close friend of mine who I was always able to joke around with and who was very proud of his Bisexuality. I still have no idea how to come out to my parents and I plan to gradually complete the process.

Ayyyy thanks for the shoutout -a bi woman

Great video, thanks for it. Really, thanks!

Thank you!

great talk!

thank you

Until about a year and a half ago, I thought I was straight. Only dated one guy, never really thought about anything else. Until I realized I stared at womens boobs as much as guys did. I thought about it more, and realized I was bi and just subconsciously suppressing it. So far, only mom knows anything, and all she knows is that I am bicurious. I am new to the community, and I always feel rejected because I am "too straight" and "just need to go back where I came from". I am not eccentric, I don't fit any stereotypes at all and never truly feel accepted in my community. I have found one place, and that is the GSA in my school, but I still feel somewhat out of place. I know this video is old, but does anyone have any advice?

This is beautiful

Subcultures are often a great refuge. That has been in Australia at least, rave music, trance, glitch, festivals - home.

I can marry who i want!!!

I came out to all my online friends who i talk to everyday (they're american and australian and i'm in Mexico) and i have only told my older brother, my little brother should guess it by now but i have no idea how my mexican parents are gonna react, they're very close minded.

This makes me happy :)

Love your Ted talk ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Liking for the pun

...thank you for this =)

TEDx, I would really like to add portuguese subtitles to this! It's such an important topic and I would like to help it get to more people. Could enable community subtitles so that I can help? Please!

Im bi and I dont tell any one.. I dont think theres any reason for you to come out.. I just let them find out on their own... i dont see the purpose of coming out.

Stay strong, friend! :)

I'm hoping to use this video as a reference in an essay I'm writing, anyone know which study he refers to when he mentions the suicide statistics by Steel and Branun (is that right?). Can't seem to find any such study online - PLEASE HELP!

Feel the feel!

Would someone be able to point me to a transcript or any type of closed captioning for this? If it hasn't been done yet, that would really suck. _I have a great need_ is all :p

I'm Bi too. ❤

Update?

the whole world needs to be bi xd

I've been openly bi since I was 14 but nobody takes it seriously because I've dated primarily guys in my life. In reality it's just easier to find straight guys than gay/bi women within my culture (anishinaabe). And if I'm lucky enough to find a gay woman, she doesn't take me seriously because I'm bi lol

Even Bisexuals get to choose to be monogamous or promiscuous Often people assume Bi means wildly promiscuous

I am in the red countries and I only came out to only few people

OMFG HE IS SO CUTE!!

Not that I actively hide it but this made me think I should explicitly come out to my parents maybe probably but I'm nervous

UBC yaaaaaas 🙌🙌

I don't really believe in absolutes. Same goes with sexuality. I believe humans are quite versatile in their sexuality. So when a person claims that he or she is straight/gay/bi/whatever else for a term there is, it really is just a case of self-naturalisation for that particular moment.

ure the best

no wonder everyone has trust issues and baggage when the two supposedly most important people in your life might not even accept you for who you are and find out may only love you conditionally as opposed to the former belief it was unconditional. When your own parents cannot accept you I don't blame some people who go through life feeling worthless and that they think they don't matter to anyone. What a horrible feeling.

12:00 He had support

amen.

I only feel comfortable coming out as a mixed race Mexican bi around wild animals in isolation.

まだ日本語が出来るかなって思っています！可愛い男ですね！(๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)

I have ADHD too. 🙂

Someone asking you a question is not discrimination. Even if the question makes you feel uncomfortable.

💖💛💙

Nooo, why Ireland why? Why you no green?

I also feel like I want to be like those male pop stars, but I'm attracted to them as well.

You start blending in with the system, and then become 10x times better then heterosexuals and flip the system upside down. Or just be yourself and trust people. Trust women. The fact of the matter is that woman are so smart and they know what is right and wrong. They also want a new, better kind of people.

... any Biromantics here?