Biblical Femininity and the Problem with College 

Hello! I have zero issues with deleting rude comments and blocking you for doing so. So I bless you to not waste your valuable energy in trying to write a "gotcha" post- I will not argue with contentious women in the comments section. I've heard it all, we've been making videos on this topic for years and your robotic replies of what you've heard from liberal culture only encourages me to share more on this. And thank you to all who share encouraging testimonies, I pray they are a blessing to all who come to this video.

Kelli, I am a Prek teacher and just last week I asked my students what they wanted to be when they grow up. I had several girls say they wanted to be a mom!!! My heart was full!

Pediatric OT, who has since started reducing my time in the workplace to be a SAHM (I now only work Mondays) I can’t agree with this more

GIRL. You are spitting straight FACTS 😭😭😭😭😭 and you did not take breath. Now I’m at the stage where I’m working a job I could’ve worked without a degree and paying off my debt. Pray for me when you see this 🥲🥲🥲 I need God’s guidance.

I think we are living in a time when a lot of people (men and women) are starting to question college and the value of a degree for a job that may not exist with a heaping helping of debt on the side. I have two bachelor's degrees, a master's degree, and a postgraduate degree. After years of misery and feeling like I could never be a good enough mom for my children because I had nothing left for them when I got home from work, my husband and I were convicted to make it work for me to stay home. I do have to work *very* part-time teaching private co-op classes here and there, but I am finally a SAHM who gets to homeschool my own children. God is good. Trust is not easy, but He is faithful just as you said.

So goooood!!!! I absolutely love your videos. I am a single young christian women age 22 who was not raised with biblical principles and having to unlearn and re-learn things from a biblical perspective. I actually grew up in a very broken home. Which impacted me a lot and makes my desire to be a homemaker stronger. I did end up going to college (because I didn't know or think there were any other way). I did not like college at all, but I know that the Lord is faithful and nothing is wasted. I did graduate debt-free and that is a blessing from the Lord. But I 100% agree with you sister. I desire marriage and desire to be a homemaker.

Wonderful video!! I have 4 daughters with another on the way and my oldest is in high school. The pressure to go to college is crazy. She has no desire for it and would rather learn life skills. I love what you quoted from your pastor. Thank you for these videos, Kelli. I would love any follow up videos on this topic. ❤️

Lovely video and so true. I did it all, college and career but I am so thankful the Lord has shown me the truth, and opened my eyes early on. I am giving my notice at work as I am done with the masculine, corporate and stressful work environment. I’ve been so spiritually empty and drained each day after work . Videos like these make a difference knowing we aren’t alone in wanting to follow a traditional biblical model that God has designed for us. I am so excited to serve at home. Also found out that I’m pregnant so that has definitely helped me make the decision to quit. But I agree , woman should feel comfortable becoming a homemaker even before they have children. The struggle is so real, we’ve been deceived by society to be boss babes and elevate career over family. There are obviously certain circumstances where women do need to work outside the home for various reasons. In general though there is so much joy and creativity in homemaking and I pray more woman have the conviction to go against the grain of modern culture and find great meaning in lives that embrace their femininity bring glory to God.

You are spot on!! That is exactly what happened to me. I became a mom, a homemaker and a helper to my husband all at the same time. It was totally overwhelming and I thought that I wasn’t cut out for that. At the same time I had always assumed that being a mom and homemaking would be easy and I was ashamed for being so exhausted! In reality, I just didn’t have the skills. I had the skills for the workplace, but I had not gained any home or mom skills yet.

Great video Kelli. It’s important to share these ideas and practices. Some will hear and appreciate while others won’t. The Lord will bring those that need to be encouraged and inspired in these ideas. God Bless you for always sharing your heart. 🤗

Quitting your job after marriage was the norm before the 1970’s. My grandmother taught for two years then married and quit her job.

My daughter is 21 and lives with us still and just finished her degree online from a Christian university. We saved for the tuition through the GET Program and she now has a degree and never lived on a campus!

I got a nursing degree right out of high school. I was pushed by my parents to get a bachelors degree. I got married during nursing school, and had my first child my senior year. I worked as a nurse for about 3 years until financially my husband and I worked it out that I got stay home with our then 2 children. I went from the main provider working full-time to staying home with a 1 year old and 2 year old. It was a really hard transition and on top of it we moved to a new state so I didn’t know anyone. At first I missed working, because it was what I was used to and I missed having adult friends. But it’s now been 10 year of marriage and I’m expecting my 5th child. I absolutely love being a homemaker. I will have 4 daughters (when this baby is born) and one son and I’m raising them with practical skills to be good wives or husband or if it’s God will a good priest or nun ( we are Catholic). I love that we homeschool so that I can teach especially my daughters how to run a home and cook. There is a huge learning curve in motherhood and homemaking and how I was raised made it even harder.

I look back on how much time was wasted on college for me… and for WHAT?! Nothing! LOL I could have spent all that time learning what I actually wanted to learn… sewing. I even withdrew from a summer class at one point to completely walk away and quit college to pursue what I wanted to pursue (sewing), but then I got an email that I received a scholarship for the rest of my BA degree, so I thought it was a sign that I should go back. I wish I just kept walking away! But I am thankful now to be home with my son and now expecting another sweet baby ❤. God is good and he has provided in so many ways ever since I came home. I was able to take my son to work with me till he was almost 2, and even then, I feel guilty for working and not being fully present for my son and for my home so that the burden of the home was not on my husband. We ate out aaalll the time because we didn’t have time to cook. The house was always a wreck because no one was home to clean it! The expectation on me, even if it was a silent expectation, was that I was to get a degree and be “successful” in a nice paying job. And of course my parents would have supported me in any decision, but that was the general expectation. The pressure to go to college just because you have the opportunity… so why wouldn’t you? That’s how I felt. Please girls! Just trust the Lord, get married, and have children!

I love to hear your boldness about touchy subjects. You, Go!😊

Kelli, this was such a good video! I’ve never heard it put in this way but you are SO RIGHT about the rose colored glasses analogy. That was sooo me! I thought I missed my career because I was struggling being a new mom, homemaker, full time cook, etc. all at once. I so wish that I would’ve considered that I could’ve been a stay at home wife before children to practice these things before I became a mom. I will for sure be teaching my daughters this info, too. Thanks for this video💞🙏🏻

I loved this video! While I grew up in a Christian household, my mother always worked. She was constantly stressed doing both the jobs of taking care of kids, the house, and working a full time job. She was unable to spend any time nurturing and guiding her children because her time was spread so thin. Children don't only need food and shelter. They need their mother's love and teaching. My parents raised me with the mindset that I MUST go to college and get a good degree in order to get a good job and not struggle as they had. However, I would have struggled (trying to work and care for small children at the same time). If I hadn't quit graduate school to get married to my husband and then start our family, I might still have not had kids yet. However, here I am at age 34 with a loving husband, three beautiful children, and one on the way! God has blessed me so abundantly for turning my focus to loving and serving my family rather than a job. If only I had spent as much effort preparing to be a mother and wife as I did studying to get the best grades in school. It just was never even entertained as an option that I could be "just" a mom.

Solid wisdom. Loving your content. 🙌🏼

Outstanding video - thank you. ✝

Thank you ❤ you bring me joy and hope 😊

I’ve done the exact same thing with rice. Put it on, went back out to the garden. Heard the smoke alarm (thank God for it!) and ran inside to a smoking rice pot. Just weeks ago it was a Friday night, I put popcorn on the stove (family in den watching tv) and I went to the back porch for bacon. No bacon there so I went to the barn freezer. Found bacon and re-organized fridge while out there. As I get to the back door I smell the popcorn burning. OH MY GOSH. It didn’t ruin my popcorn pot tho, thankfully. Family was still watching tv and wondered about the smell, hahahaaaa. I’ve been homemaking for 18 years, it happens to all of us. LOVE YOUR VIDEOS. I have three daughters, oldest is 15, I am encouraging her in all these things. I want homemakers to come from my home. But hubs still wants girls going to college. I’m working on him.

Yes, Yes Yes!! Absolutely love this and so agree. Even being a empty nester now, I absolutely love being home caring for things here. I recently started sewing & crocheting again too. I love seeing so many channels on RU-vid where women are choosing being home & getting back to the basics God naturally gave us a desire to take care of & tend to.

I got an associates degree only and it was a complete waste. I don’t even know where my degree is. Thankfully no debt! I didn’t finish to a four year or so on because I had our first child and I wanted to be a full time mom. I’ve never worked outside the home until the last few years and that’s with my hubby on our farm.

Back in the day, girls could go to college, meet a young man, and major in home economics. I am not sure if colleges even offer home economics degrees anymore...😢

Thank you so much for putting my thoughts into words 🙏 this video has blessed me today and you are blessed ❤

Thank you for this video!

Important message for young girls! I went to college and all I thought about during college was marriage and when to start my family. I just thought college was the only way to a happy life. I listened to an author discuss a book she had written about how there is never a perfect time to start a family and you just have to take a leap of faith. That really stuck with me and I think it is so true. Children are such a blessing. When you’re a parent you make it work with what you have and let God lead your decision making.

This was such a beautifully thought out and put together video, thank you so much for sharing it. I also appreciate your humility in sharing your past struggles with cooking, haha! In my late teens, I remember accidentally leaving the gas on while attempting to cook noodles (I was sunbathing in the garden when my stepmum noticed), blowing up a microwave while attempting to use it as a timer, and setting some kitchen towels on fire 😂 I got married shortly before turning 21, and the Lord put it on my heart to learn how to cook for my husband. I'm now 31, and cooking is one of my favourite things to do. I just love having my young children in the kitchen with me, teaching them ❤ I often feel very alone in my convictions regarding Biblical womanhood/motherhood, so it's encouraging to hear other women speak on this topic. Lately, I have been pondering how God often met with women in the Bible. It was usually in their homes, or while doing simple, nurturing tasks. The Lord is truly there by our side, and sees the value in this unseen work.

Another WONDERFUL video!🩷

Kelli, I have been saying this for years. This was excellent. The topics discussed were well done. This is so powerful!

Going to college often seems like the best available option to young people that have grown up in abusive families and dangerous cities. My choice after high school basically came down to college or homelessness. Easy choice. (I still ended up homeless for a few summer breaks, but luckily I had a friend that let me couch surf in exchange for a bit of money and a lot of cooking and cleaning. I didn’t use my degree (philosophy and religious studies) at all. I could have probably just moved into student housing and gotten a full time job instead of going to college. But I was trying to do what was expected of me. I had started college to be a teacher, but I had to leave the program because my hearing problems disqualified me.

This is so accurate it hurts 😅 I’m in Canada and it’s the same here. You’re pushed into college into a male dominated industry. Expected to dress act and talk like a man. Believing that I wouldn’t do well without conforming to “my masculine side”. But all the while being an absolute miserable human being until I found God. He showed me what it’s like to use my femininity at work and how much grace and love I can instil in the workplace through Christ. ❤ God changed everything for me and helped me see the truth about feminism and new age occult practices that are taking over our society.

This was an amazing encouragement and I now feel confident to answer my parents next time they ask if I plan on going back to work. Thank you!

Agreed. For several decades, there has been so much pressure and emphasis on young women to go to college and start a career. However, society still expects women to do the lion's share of the cooking, cleaning, and raising children. Girls are taught from the time they hit puberty that their career will be the most important thing in their life and to put their career before having children. But on the same token, once she has her career established, then it seems the world won't stop pestering her about when she's going to have kids. So which one is it? You can't have it both ways society. (And the same can be said for young men.)

I’m so thankful I never bought into the college trap. It never appealed to me. I wanted to work and start my life not continue in school which I hated. And I did work for 14 years until god finally blessed us with kids. Now my job is my family and it’s the hardest most fulfilling job I’ve ever had!

Absolutely fantastic video! Such valid points, and so well spoken!

I regret not knowing the value of being a wife and mother from a very young age. I grew up in the times of "Anything you can do, I can do better." (in reference to girls vs boys). My Christian parents, lovingly, and with the best intentions, wanted me to excel in every area a kid could excel in. My ability to excel being defined by the measures of the Public School...and then eventually the Private Christian University. I never doubted my parents desire for Christ to be #1 in my life, so to that I am grateful. But did I miss the teaching on the different roles between man and woman that God created in his perfect will and plan? How did Christians get to the point of ignoring or belittling women who desire to simply be a wife, mother, and homemaker, instead of revering them!? Why are we pushing girls to go to college? I figured it out after spending just less than a year in a reformed Baptist church where being a wife and mother were held in high regard! Thank you so much for your video! It will help me talk about this subject with others. Sincerely, a physical therapist of 7 years (operating under an artificial masculine side to be effective) who is a wife of 1.5 years (learning to love my God-given feminine side), and praying for children in His timing! My husband has graciously supported me leaving the workforce in favor of "home economy" as I love that you put it. (Not to mention he gets a more joyous, affectionate, feminine, and helpful wife out of it).

Bravo! ❤

As Christians, we have to be countercultural, especially in times like these.

100% agree! I went to college and was encouraged to do so. Not once did anyone ever mention that I should be a homemaker or mother. When I was pregnant with my first, I knew where my role was to be. God hard wires it into us women, that is why many women get so defensive when we say women should stay home. I to receive many rude comments about encouraging other women to stay home! Keep fighting the good fight of faith, sister. Your channel is a blessing ♥️

Excellent video! This needs to be spread like wildfire.

Amazing video. So true and you are so inspiring ❤ young women need to be taught God’s way.

9:11 Wow. I definitely also did the whole “I’ll be a missionary” thing! I’m so thankful I’ve been married for 12 years! Praying for children now. I have PCOS and it hasn’t happened yet, but, Lord willing, the time will come!

Hi Kelli, I really like your earrings. They are so unique. Thank you for sharing as well.

Amen to very single word in this video!! This should be spread everywhere! 🙌🏻 thanks for sharing this important wisdom for young girls and women generally ❤️

I just LOVE your testimony and continuing to learn more about you and your story, Kelli. You've come so far in your homemaking skills - and in a truly short period of time! It's hard to imagine how you described yourself early on! I fully agree the Holy Spirit and God were (are!) at work in you, but you certainly leaned into (and continue to!) educate yourself and gain new and continue to refine your skills. It's so encouraging and inspiring! And fuels my joy and honor to be my husband's helper full-time now too (mid-40s, no children). I just adore you and your willingness to share these (much-challenged) truths I also fully support. That's encouraging me to do so more as well (especially within my Baptist church that can so often still look so much like the rest of the world in many respects). May God continue to bless and keep you Scott, dear sister! ❤🙏

How fun would it be to have an interview with your mom!!

Amen amen amen! You are so spot on with this. In South Africa stay home moms are RARE and so growing up that was never an option even though my heart was to be a wife and mom. When I was done with high school I came to America and my eyes were opened to another world where women stayed home and it was more culturally acceptable. I started college in the US but left after a year to follow my true passion of being a wife and mom. My family and entire town back in SA were so shocked and upset that I was disowned. Disowned!!!!!! For wanting to be a wife and mom. I was told I was too young and didn’t know what I wanted. I was told my marriage wouldn’t last. So 11 years later when my husband just up and left me with 4 kids (4 children was also a shock to everyone who thought I was extremely irresponsible!) I got a lot of “I told you so” and “what are you going to do now” and “well “now you’ll have to be a working mom and give up your dream of being a stay at home mom”. So I looked at which career will still allow me to be home the most with my children and picked nursing. 3 days on 3 days off. At least I got some time at home. So I went to school, got my degree and still felt like I wasn’t completely abandoning my real passion. But God in His loving kindness has now given me a “work from home” job as an RN. Everyday I clock in I just smile because when you surrender your life to Jesus He just works it out in the most unusual and beautiful ways. So now I can provide for my family while being home with my children. Granted I would love to not have to work but perhaps God will work that one out for us later. Thank you so much for speaking out about this and planting beautiful seeds!!!!! I pray God waters them and beautiful fruit springs forth! ❤❤

Love listing to your videos an you always give me a sound mind/ peacefulness about this life style which I really appreciate, you are one of the first ppl I found on this topic an very inspiring an God is truly shaping an changing my mind an view in all of these things an using YOU in a big way for many I am sure! Thank you ❤

AMEN AMEN AMEN! LIKE LIKE LIKE! LOVE LOVE LOVE! I am so refreshed and encouraged by your courage and faithful testimony and guidance for women who FEAR GOD, not the future, not man, not the culture…. Your passion and consistent testimony is such a refreshing drink of deep waters! Thank you for your courage, your encouragement, and your ministry to women.

Amen! Thank you for speaking on this subject! I had my first baby at 18 and here we are 14 years later still married raising our babies.

Absolutely! Great video

Agreed about college. However, what do young women do if they cannot meet a man who is able to marry them? How do they become economically self sufficient? It seems as though many young men in the church are not mature enough to take care of a house, yet alone buy a house. Many of them do not care about what they eat or how they live. They work all day and come home to microwave their meals and sit in front of a TV. They do not want to change and live in a biblical homestead either. How do women find solid Christian men, who want their spouses to be homemakers?

Amen!! I have raised 3 daughters to be wives and mothers. The first married at 27. She was afraid she would never marry and the world's view and lies were creeping in and causing her doubt and fear. It turns out her husband has only become a Christian two years ago. He wasn't ready to marry and this whole time she was worrying God was growing and preparing him! My other two daughters are younger and still waiting. I keeping reminding them that it is God's revealed will for them to be wives and mothers and to trust in His timing! Thank you for this message!!

Just want to add I can attest that Christian University is no different. My Baptist University was very Feminist and Socialist

So much wisdom. My mother worked and went to night school when I was a child. I spent 8yrs in college (struggling) only to work in a field that didn't require a degree. Money Money Money in the 🚽. I'm a homemaker now but the encouragement to pursue a Godly path would have been helpful

Dear Kelli, I can resonate with that so much. I think your message is a game changer and I hope that many many women see it!

I think this video makes a lot of generalizations about unmarried, career women. I'm in my thirties, I went to college (where I met some of my closest Christian friends), have no debt, have a job that I love that supports me financially. Even though I'm single, I would absolutely consider myself a homemaker. Having a career has in no way impeded me in gaining practical life skills and creating a lovely home for myself. Opening my home to friends and family has been one of my greatest joys. Do I hope to one day have a spouse and children to share a home with? Absolutely! I think the role of wife and mother is such a beautiful calling. In the meantime though, I'm so grateful that I can support myself and have the life that I do.

Thank you for making this videos❤ I live in a country that is very focused on collegr education and very shaped by feminist ideas, and every thing is shaped after two income households. All prizes is set with expectation that every household is a two-income house hold. And women who prioritize being a homemaker and mom is called privileged for being able to afford it - and told they are not contributing to society when they dont earn an income and pay taxes. Even thou most people I know who lives like that, make it work by living very simple lives, sometimes below the poverty line according to our countries statistics. There is this idea, that you can only choose to live of one income if you are rich, selfish and privileged. But we live by the grace of God, on one income, and the amount we have learned to live on is considerede half of the amount you earn if you are below the poverty line. And we prioritise to learn to live on very little and need almost nothing, because we want the freedom and option to prioritise family, our kids and the local community. We are rich in freedom, and maybe its selfish to pay less taxes. But we contribute with our peace and abundance of freedom to serve. We are not to stressed and anxious to help others, in a society where stress and anxiety is skyrocketing. I often feel like I need to defend myself and our way of life , but the Holy spirit always shows up and give me the right words, which is a blessing. It comforts me to watch your videos and know we are not the only ones that have our eyes opened to the homemaker life. I also went to college, and was raised with the idea that the only way to be educated is to learn something that leads to working for someone who doesnt love you outside the home - and that education that leads to working for the family and local community that loves you, is worth nothing compared to earning money. And its not true. Everybody I know, including myself, that believed those ideas, deeply wish they had used there 20s another way. Prioritised family in their 20s, and then maybe in our 40s we could go to college 👍Not the other way around. Society is in an ideological war against homemaking, kids, marriage and Gods design. And society is losing, because we are designed to thrive in Gods ways, will and design. And many women I know is starting to realize this, even if they dont know Jesus yet - they agree with Gods design in their hearts and longing. And they are being called selfish and privileged, for learning to live a simple life on one income and create a nurturing home and healthy family. Thank you so much for making these videos, and making us feel less alone ❤❤❤

Wow! This is one of your best videos. Yes, I came home after my second child and I went through what you described. I have told others that it takes two years to settle in to being a full time homemaker.

What about those of us in our mid thirties who have no opportunities to meet a Christian man? Do we work expecting it to be temporary or do we accept our circumstances and the possibility we won’t find anyone at our age?

Thank you for being so brave to talk about this! I have been so blessed by this video! I can remember when I was newly married and the woman’s group at my church did a survey asking what we wanted to get out of the group. I wrote all the things of desiring a mentor to be a good wife & mom someday. Unfortunately it was not something that was thought to be of value. Now here I am almost 20 years later wife & mom of 5 precious children! So grateful for woman like you who share on being a wife & keeper of the home. Thank you so much for this affirmation & encouragement 😊

I graduated undergrad in 2013 from a very liberal UC school. I also went to a public high school in California and took all advanced classes where liberal politics and globalism were shoved down our throats. But I went to a great Christian school for elementary and jr high, had great parents, and listened to a lot of talk radio with my dad growing up. My high school friends and I were the conservative group amongst our very liberal AP and IB teachers. In college, I was definitely the most conservative person in my coastal UC school. However, I also had fairly decent knowledge of 19th and 20th century political history, and could debate academically with my peers and teachers. It wasn’t easy, but being the lone conservative in a sea of liberals definitely helped me hone my beliefs and opinions, which I still hold today. Knowing what I knew and being willing to speak about it also allowed me to find a man in college who thought and felt the same way, and now we’ve been married for 10 years and together for 14. He’s a physicist and engineer… skills he never would’ve achieved if he didn’t attend college. So while I’m now a SAHM, I’m very thankful for my college education, not only because it’s where I met my husband, but also because it really gave me that trial by fire experience where I became confident in talking about my faith in Jesus and my opinions on politics even if no one else in the room agrees with me. I very much think college is still good for people - men or women - who are solid in who they are before they leave the house. If they’re not, of course the world will sway them. Edit: I’m a millennial. My mother, grandmother and great-grandmother all attended 4-year universities as well. They’re all conservatives, and all became homemakers upon graduating and marrying their college sweethearts. I think because this was what was modeled for me, it was also easier for me to attain this as well, since this is what I expected from my college experience: to get an education but to also get my “MRS degree” with an intelligent man who would have excellent career prospects and skills to build our future on. Perhaps not so many millennials and Gen Z had the same expectations.

How do you cover healthcare ( insurance) needs? How would you consider this in the future ( when husband retires.)

You’re probably getting a lot of flack for this video but I just want to say that I LOVE this so much. It’s unbelievable how much I am still unlearning 6 years and 4 children into homemaking and biblical womanhood 💜 the deception & hurt we can save our girls from by training them up in a biblical worldview

Where did you find the picture of the woman with the kids going for a walk as your thumbnail photo?

I have a newly turned 18yo daughter. She is almost done with her homeschool education, and I believe she could easily run a home well! The question is…what next? She has nannied and did not like it, and now works 3-4 days a week at a coffee stand with a really great group of ladies. One option was to stay with that, and become a barista, or do a nine month paid medical assistant certification apprenticeship. You do have to commit to 2 years of working after completing the the program. It’s a skill/trade certification without the community college nonsense. We are praying about it, and trusting/knowing that the Lord will provide for her. Interesting topic !

Actually worldly studies (university), (because it is under a non-TRUTH-conform believe system), it forms your thinking and feeling in a way that is in many ways total contrary to how we as christians are to think and feel according to Gods WORD. For example: -it doesn't consideres God, that he is the ruler over everything, what his will is for the earth and for your life and what he is able to do if we let him and pray to him > instead they view God as irrelevant, bad, unable or every other than how he really is, because the world doesnt know God -it doesnt recognizes evil, sin, sinfulness as is -it tells you to trust in everything and everybody but in God (in methods, systems, seemingly smart people, your own abilities and accomplishments etc) -it wants you to adore/worship anything but God -they have other life goals and priorities than believing christians -etc etc >>Gods word, made real in Jesus, is the way, the truth and the life!

I’m a stay at home wife and felt SO much guilt. I felt I was letting down my husband and family by not making lots of money and having a nice job. I felt that my husband wouldn’t love me as much if I wasn’t contributing financially. People will try to scare you out of it but I’ve found that most men make different decisions when they are bearing the financial burden of the family. Living within one’s means is also a very important part of this conversation.

How do we encourage our daughters.? My 17 year old is graduating high school next year and she doesn’t know what she wants to after. I’m not pushing the university route I told her it’s valid to want to be home Maker. What are some options for the young ladies that don’t want to pursue college and want a family.

The Proverbs 31 wife is competent. Excellent video. Thanks for sharing cooking history mishaps. 😂

Hi! Thank you for the video. I get what you are sharing, however I know a lot of women in their 30s and 40s who long for a husband yet they are not pursued by anyone. How should we explain this? And most of those women actually work in kindergarten, because they love children. And my heart aches for people who are single and lots of churches don't provide anything for them (I am from Slovakia and what is my experience is the main focus is only on young families - so the opposite of what you shared in your story) and lots of those women ask what is their role because they are just not pursued. And from the other side I have guy friends who asked someone out multiple times and just got "no". Also would like to know how would you explain the passages where Paul wrote about "it's better for someone to be alone for they can serve God". And my last question is about same sex attracted people. You say that someone who is called to celibacy knows they are called to celibacy and don't seek out relationship, yet SSA people long for having a relationship but basically they have to choose celibacy. What is the good news for them? I see the Church as family - a place for everyone and where everyone is welcomed - families, young, old, singles, widowed, divorced,... What I experienced with God is that mostly if we don't feel up to something, we are called to that because God wants us to learn something from that (as you shared about your experiences with cooking and learning new things as you got married) - could that also mean that God wants someone to be single even though someone is falling in love with people?

Beautiful talk! Just a thought: You should acquire an electric rice pot. Sometimes, you can even find them at thrift shops. Not only will it switch to warm when cooking is finished, but you can also steam vegetables in it.

I think I agree and disagree. I don’t know if college is “bad” more than we have to educate our children on what’s important and then let them decide. I think the real issue is the household and parents instilling values into their children

You're going to be the new Joyce Meyers of the 21 century

Great topic, I am a single mom and in healthcare industry, I work 3 days a week so I can be present in the home and teach my child a biblical world view. I am the provider in our home but God is the ultimate provider and I am so grateful for the job I have which will allow me to do this, in a perfect world I would love to stay home full time ❤.

Collage should be bypassed unless the student is 99% committed to a degree program equivalent with their capability. Just go to work or take a training school program. Collage is feeding students with usless and damaging skills. The only goal of all collages is financial as well as attracting endowments. Parents... wake up and spend your money wisely and not just to impress your friends, you may be sending your child on the wrong educational path.

A family member of me is a preacher. He has 3 daughters, 27, 24, and 17. He keep on telling them to stay single, for they may end up in a bad marriage. They have to stay with their parents. No one of them go out on a date. It sounds so religious, but I don't think it is the right way to go.

Hi kelli this is my first video by you I am not a libral;I wanted to ask "can I not go to college and be a godly women as well" currently I am a 17 year old and I am trying to be a godly women; I still want to go to college and work,be a wifi and a mom can I not do that,is it agenist Gods word.Please I am not tryhing to attack or anyting by saying this I want your acvice that is all

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It is overwhelming to become all 3 at once. But worth it.

* this first - I don't think you should shy away from talking about the terrible social stuff at college with the thought that people are 'aware' because I don't think parents really ARE. even 20 years ago when I attended, I don't think my parents were FULLY aware of the dorm situations. & things have gotten so much worse. I mean we had dorm floors where the rooms were set up girl/boy/girl/boy all down the hall. You literally were living with men, walking to the showers in towels with men around, people sleeping around, etc.. no privacy. & I was raised by ultra conservative, strict parents. I cannot understand why in the world they LEFT me there !!!! * MY husband and I decided a long time ago that we will NOT fund college for our two daughters. We have actively discouraged them from wanting to go. Our older daughter did go to trade school to be a hair dresser, but she has desires to be a wife & mom & use that as a part time thing to fit around home life once she gets married. There is so much to comment to in this video, Kelli, that is 100% accurate, that my response would be an essay. But I will say that growing up in a traditional Irish Catholic family, I was NOT prepared for the college life at all. We never even heard so much as an off colored joke and never talked about sex. Everything was very, very private. & my parents really sent mixed messages about their goals for us concerning college. My mother was very forceful that we girls go to college, but by her comments it always seemed like it was a place she thought we would meet a 'rich husband'. That was always her line of questioning on breaks; if I had met any eligible, wealthy boy that would get me out of the boring, rural, poverty stricken life she thought SHE was stuck in. (I will mention that due to poor judgement, my mother got pregnant with me out of wedlock during her 1st semester of college and dropped out to marry a man that she didn't love & has taken that out on us ever since). She pushed so hard & I had no desire to go to college. I dressed up for pep rally 'career day' as a housewife. I tried several times (clandestinely) to get married to get out of going to college 🤣. College literally ruined my life for years after. It left me with $26K of debt that I could not pay back for almost 20 years.(this left me with a frozen bank account, unable to have my name on my husband's bank acct for YEARS, no name on a loan, car, house, nada... I didn't exist on paper. My husband could not even get our whole tax return Talk about plan B's - college stole all of my plan B's) It left me with a terrible reputation - I turned into a HORRIBLE & immoral person. It left me with debilitating anxiety & depression. And all the while, I didn't really pay attention to my studies, cuz I had no desire for a career and I just kept looking for a man that would just marry me to solve the whole issue. So therefore, I just kept picking any ol' guy & having my heart broken over & over. My 2 sisters followed the exact same trajectory. The only upside for me is, I hung in there & did graduate (& i also did end up with a good husband) Neither sister did and both ended up with horrible marriage situations. And on top of not really excelling at college & leaving a broken person, I knew nothing of running household. So sure, was my mother, that we would be career women (the goal she was 'cheated' out of) that she did not teach us anything of household skills. Her sole focus was for us to do well in school, so we had no chores, never learned to cook or clean. She would do it all & tell us, "I just want you to focus on your school work so you can get scholarships to college so you can make something of yourself". But then once I got there, she wanted me to find a rich husband LOL. Most of the women I know work because they 'want' to, not because they 'have' to. They spend way beyond their budget for things that they could do for themselves if they didn't have that paycheck. They are only exchanging money for time. I will not be duped by that. Anytime that my husband has felt desperate enough (early on in marriage) to ask me to do something for work, he always regretted it & I ended up back home. Babysitting, house cleaning, elder care...all of it has interfered with our home life & he quickly realized it.

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Actually even with Christian women I find submission is a big problem and they have a hard time accepting it.

I would not put ask my eggs in one basket. ANYTHING could happen to your husband and marriage God forbid . Moms can do both- work , then stay home, then work again and it can look different over the years. Love and peace ✌🏼

I've been hearing both sides for a while now and the one thing I've learned from feminism is that the genuine feminists want all women to have fulfilled and happy lives, whether they are mothers, wives, or single. While I agree that college is not a good path, all women need a backup plan. There are women right now who have been married 20+ years who are homeless, unemployed, left struggling to find even retail jobs while supporting themselves and their children because men have walked out on them or their husbands suddenly passed away. It's hard enough for young people to find work and it's much harder to find work when you're 40+ and have little to no work experience. Sadly you cannot rely on the church or others to help you either. All women need to have a backup plan and not put all their eggs into homemaking. If homemaking is what women want to do then they should go for it, but we shouldn't expect women to just be wives and mothers who are financially dependent on their partners.

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God gives us the desires of our heart and then He GIVES us the desire of our hearts.

This is a rich discussion. First of all, you need a rice cooker. 😂 I do agree with everything you said, however, I did send my daughter to college. Yep, she's a socialist now. Staying at home with your family and learning home skills until a young woman gets married is very difficult, because it, as you say, is just crazy and they would be dependent (we don't like dependence in our culture). As a Baby Boomer, the reason we women went to college is because men showed that they were not trustworthy in our parent's generation. Women would stay home and be moms, then the husband would divorce them for a younger woman and the woman would get the kids, but no house nor money. So it was a horrible situation for many women. That's the reason we were determined to get careers for ourselves and our kids. Nowadays, a Christian woman could even get a college education at home, online. They could even get great part time jobs pursuing some of their interests and passions that they could use at home; (such as having a RU-vid channel). I think Christians are going to be more and more counter culture as time goes on; we just believe so much different than non Christians.

I used to always turn the stove on full blast as well 😂

This advice is not good. There’s nothing wrong with having a career and being married. If you wanna stay at home fine, but stop writing this off as biblical advice. Don’t twist scripture to fit your agenda. To all the young women, yes go to college and get a career, if your husband ever got injured or there’s a period where he can’t work, you need to be able to step up. There’s nothing wrong with having a career/education. But only study something that’s worth the investment. Also, being a homemaker doesn’t mean you can’t work outside the home. If you can manage your home and work, then there’s freedom in Christ to choose. Also, this doesn’t mean your husband doesn’t help You around the home……

First, you need to really look at socialism and communism. I say this because Canada is a socialist country. They are required to work. Yes, women can be at home with children during their children's younger years. Watch the early videos by Christian Wilhelm at Wilhelm's Kitchen. She's based in Canada. Beverly at Our Half Acre Homestead is based in Canada. For real-life experience from someone who lived in the USSR watch Ushanka Show. Sergy grew up in Ukraine during the 1970s until the 1990s. Secondly, young women should have a skill they can utilize as the women during the Great Depression did. These moms used their skills such as baking, laundry, and barber skills to supplement their family income.

I'm so thankful when my husband lost his job at age 55 that i was able as a help mate to continue working as a nurse to pay our bills and provide health insurance. Who's going to care for you if you lose your husband??

You are very insulting and devaluing toward people when you reduce acquiring a college degree to getting a “certificate” or a “piece of paper.” A college degree involves hours of classroom instruction, reading, studying, internships, interacting with other students, professors, professionals. I am almost 82 years old, and spent 6 years getting 2 degrees. I was widowed at age 54 and have been able to support myself and retire comfortably due to my college education. You are SO WRONG about so many things!

I am in shocked over this video. What in the world are we doing encouraging women to not go to college. Do you really believe that women cannot gain a lot of “educational” experience from going to college. Knowledge is one of the things that no one can take away from you. You have a job….You are on youtube. You probably use your education in your youtube chanel . If you really believe that girls should only be encouraged to be homemakers, mothers. Then how do you justify your time that you are taking away from being with your children. From a 77 year old Christian Mother of 6 who had a career as a trauma nurse. You my dear are well meaning but very naive. Husbands die , Husbands leave . Tragedy’s happen. A well educated, college degreed woman is far more able to care for her family .

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